Toxic Love

Added: 2026-05-22

[00:00:04]Where's my jacket?

[00:00:05]Which jacket?

[00:00:07]The jacket I I asked you to take out to dry. Did you take it out? Oh, I forgot. I was I forgot I was doing something else.

[00:00:13]Why didn't you take it out?

[00:00:14]>> Because I forgot.

[00:00:16]Why don't you take it out now? Because I'm I mean I am taking it out right now.

[00:00:20]I just wish you would have taken it out when I asked you to.

[00:00:22]>> Okay, now you've taken it out. Yeah.

[00:00:24]But look though, it's all wrinkly. This is why I asked you to take it out.

[00:00:27]>> Let's iron it. We have even a steamer. I don't have time. I'm about to be late for work.

[00:00:31]>> Okay, you're acting like that's the very first jacket that you have.

[00:00:34]>> [sighs and clears throat] >> It's my favorite jacket.

[00:00:36]Why are you always trying to fight?

[00:00:38]I'm not trying to fight. I just wished when I asked you to do something, I wish you would just do it.

[00:00:43]You're always trying to fight with me.

[00:00:47]Oh.

[00:00:50]Did you find the letter?

[00:00:51]Which letter? The one for the tag renewal. Oh, no, I didn't find it. I couldn't find it.

[00:00:56]Why didn't you tell me? Because I figured you knew. How would I know if I asked you to do something you didn't do it and then tell me? Well, because you're the one looking for it, isn't it?

[00:01:05]What's wrong with you? Why are you doing this? I'm not doing anything. You're the one who's looking for the documents. I don't know where it is. So, I I I figured you'd know.

[00:01:12]No No worries about it. You're always trying to fight. For what? I'm not trying to fight. I just like if I asked you to do something, just do it. Like everything that I asked you to do, you never do.

[00:01:22]Fighting about all everything. Jackets, tags, Every day is something new. Every single day he finds something to pick at me about something new.

[00:01:39]Like today morning he's arguing with me about a shirt.

[00:01:42]A jacket. A jacket. He has about 25 jackets in that closet. And he wants to argue about this one.

[00:01:47]I had to because I didn't remove it. Can you imagine that?

[00:01:51]Me, I'm tired. I'm telling you nimechoka.

[00:01:53]I'm finished.

[00:01:55]Huh?

[00:01:57]And then some tags, some tags of the car he wanted me to look for. Where Where can he thinks that I know where these things are?

[00:02:03]Hey, this man. He thinks I'm a slave.

[00:02:04]I'm supposed to do everything for him.

[00:02:06]Huh?

[00:02:09]I don't even know what to do. What should I do now?

[00:02:16]>> [sighs and gasps] >> I'm so tired of this job, bro.

[00:02:21]I'm just about to quit, low-key.

[00:02:27]Hey, what's up, mate? What's You good? Nah, I'm just thinking, man.

[00:02:32]Thinking about what?

[00:02:34]Bro, me and my wife are fighting a lot right now. I mean, not like physical fighting, more like verbal fighting.

[00:02:40]Mhm. So, yeah, we're just fighting a lot and I'm thinking about it.

[00:02:43]Mhm.

[00:02:45]How long have y'all been married for?

[00:02:47]5 years.

[00:02:48]Okay. Yeah.

[00:02:49]But, the last two Mhm. It's been bad, huh?

[00:02:55]Yeah. Y'all ever thought about getting like like couples therapy?

[00:03:00]Like like a counselor that y'all both talk to?

[00:03:03]Like talk to somebody about your problems? Yeah.

[00:03:07]>> [snorts] >> Nah, we don't do that.

[00:03:09]Why y'all don't do it?

[00:03:10]Cuz we Africans.

[00:03:13]What that mean? African people don't talk to people? No, it's not that.

[00:03:15]African people just don't go and put their business out there like that.

[00:03:18]Like, I'm not about to go sit down with a stranger that I don't know and tell them my personal business. We don't do that.

[00:03:23]But, you sitting down with me telling me your personal business. No, I'm not telling you personal business and also it's not specific.

[00:03:32]Okay. All right.

[00:03:34]Well, you don't know You don't want to try therapy? Man, listen. Like I told you, Africans, we don't really do the whole sitting down, you know, putting our business out there. It's like even mental health. It's not like a thing that you know what I'm saying? Like I don't know if it's common. Like if I tell my grandma right now I have mental health, she'd be looking at me funny.

[00:03:54]I have good people who have mental health. I mean, we we do. I'm just saying, it's not like we're aware of it the way you think.

[00:04:01]You know, it's not a thing.

[00:04:03]Okay. Yeah.

[00:04:04]>> I feel you.

[00:04:06]Well, I'm sending you somebody, bro. You could you know, you could use it if you want to. I'm going to send you his number.

[00:04:10]It's not going to work, bro. My wife is not going to go talk to somebody. How you know? I know my wife.

[00:04:17]Okay. Well, you know her better than me.

[00:04:19]You right. Yeah, so she's not going to sit down and talk to nobody about her personal business.

[00:04:24]All right. Well, it might help out.

[00:04:25]Well, I'll send I'll send homeboy to I'll send you homeboy number. So, if you want to use it, if you don't, if you do, then use it, bro.

[00:04:34]Figure it out, buddy. I'm going to tap in with you, all right?

[00:04:37]All right, man. What's up?

[00:04:48]Hey.

[00:04:49]And what?

[00:04:50]>> [clears throat] >> I've been thinking. Um I think we should start seeing a therapist.

[00:04:57]A what? Therapist.

[00:04:59]What, do you think I'm crazy?

[00:05:00]No, I don't think you're crazy. This is for both of us. No, we're not going to see a therapist. Why not? Because, have you gone mad?

[00:05:07]I'm not gone mad. I'm just saying, I think we need somebody to help us save our marriage. Oh, no. No therapy. We can call our parents.

[00:05:16]I'm going to get your family involved?

[00:05:17]No, I'm not getting my family or your family involved.

[00:05:20]>> Why? They're the ones who know us.

[00:05:20]They're not therapists. They don't know us. These are issues that we need to fix, not get our families involved, cuz they're going to be picking sides. Yeah, but I'm an African. What do I look like going to therapy? What does that mean?

[00:05:29]Like, Africans don't need help? No. I mean, what do I look like telling my family back home that I'm going to therapy? Why are you so focused on people back home that not They're not even here with you. They don't know what you're going through. Because it's my culture. That's what we do. Okay. Well, guess what? We we're going to go see a therapist. No, we're not. Yes, we are.

[00:05:44]I'm going to sign us up. Oh, okay.

[00:05:45]You're by yourself.

[00:05:53]Hey babe, you see my bag? Oh, I put it there for you. Oh, thank you. You're welcome.

[00:05:58]All right, I'm about to go to work.

[00:05:59]Okay.

[00:06:03]Babe, you left the dishes in the sink.

[00:06:05]What do you mean I left the dishes in the sink? These dishes were here yesterday. They're still here. Yeah, because you were rushing me out the house to go to the movies, weren't you?

[00:06:12]I know, but like it's the next day. You still haven't done them. It's the morning. Can I please sit down and have my tea? I just showered. I understand, but I feel like you just leave mess all the time. I just leave mess all the time. Yeah, like even when you get in the car, like you leave your cups, you don't take your trash with you, and like the dishes when you finish you just leave them right there. Like why do you do that? What do you mean? I cooked all night for you. You ate, you got full, we went to the movies, and now you're complaining about the dishes. Uh okay, fine. You know, that's not I'm not complaining. I'm just saying I feel like you should do a little better of trying to, you know, stay clean. Like I feel like you're always leaving mess around.

[00:06:45]The dishes will get done. Do you hear me? Okay. All right, well I'm going to work.

[00:06:49]I'll see you later. Bye.

[00:06:55]He wants me to cook, but then he complains.

[00:07:10]The clothes are done. Let me do them quick.

[00:07:28]Oh, it's so cold here.

[00:07:53]>> What are you doing?

[00:07:55]I'm folding the clothes. Why? Because they just finished from the dryer. But we're supposed to be gone right now.

[00:08:00]Like we're late. Yeah, because I don't want you calling me messy, so let me finish doing this and then we can go.

[00:08:05]You said what? I don't want you calling me messy, so let me finish so that we can go. Babe, why are you tripping? You can't do this later? Why would I do this later? Last time I did it later you started complaining about me being messy.

[00:08:15]Babe, it's not the same. We're going to be late.

[00:08:17]>> [sighs] >> Can't you help me then? Help you? Finish so we can go.

[00:08:21]I don't want to be messy. You're always complaining. Messy, messy, messy, everything messy. Car messy, dishes messy.

[00:08:28]Let's finish up so we can go.

[00:08:34]I think the washer is even done. Let me turn it off.

[00:08:36]Change them.

[00:08:40]Okay, I'll I'll just go by myself. What do you mean you'll go by yourself?

[00:08:46]We'll see who you think Who's messy now?

[00:08:48]Who's messy now?

[00:08:50]Huh.

[00:08:51]You'll not call me messy ever again.

[00:08:54]Huh, that was a good movie.

[00:08:56]Yeah, that was. All right, let's go to sleep. It's getting late. Okay.

[00:09:05]Babe, what are you doing?

[00:09:07]I'm cleaning up. Cleaning up what?

[00:09:09]Cleaning up the chair.

[00:09:10]Yeah.

[00:09:11]What?

[00:09:13]Babe, let's go to sleep. It's getting late. No, because I don't want you complaining about me being messy, so let me clean up quickly. Complain about you being Are you taking what I said earlier literal? Uh, didn't you mean everything you said?

[00:09:24]Yeah, but like the way you're taking it is not how I was trying to say it. Well, I just want to make sure that I'm not going to be messy in this house.

[00:09:31]Really?

[00:09:32]Yes, can't you see I'm cleaning? Let me finish. Okay, all right. Anyway, um I'll going to be in the room whenever you're done. Okay.

[00:09:40]I'm going to be told I'm a messy person, messy person, and then you call your parents and start complaining about them me being messy with them.

[00:09:48]Okay.

[00:09:48]Not me.

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