7 Steps That Led Her To Discard You

Added: 2026-05-09

[00:00:02]Hi guys, my name is Christine and I'm a dating relationship and personal development coach and today I'm talking about seven steps that led her to discard you. So these steps that I've written out for you today are all about the initial attraction and then basically what happened over that time that led to the her to discard you, to not want you anymore, to ditch you, dump you, whatever it may be that's happened with you personally. It could as well It could be a woman that's dumped you or it could be a woman that was interested in you before and now she no longer is interested in you and you basically just want to know whatever Whoever's watching this, how what led to her discarding you, okay?

[00:00:46]And that's what we're going to go into today with these seven steps. So the first step that happened was they felt a strong attraction with you when things were easy and low pressure.

[00:01:01]So they felt attraction, she felt attraction for you at the beginning, okay? And this was at the time when, you know, you guys were not serious, okay?

[00:01:11]So that like I said, there was a lot of low pressure around that time period, okay? So things were easy at this time and there was low pressure and her attraction was very clear and at least it seemed clear to you at the time and you thought, great, things are going amazing. This is This is great. She's interested in me, I'm interested in her.

[00:01:31]Things are going really, really well, okay?

[00:01:35]So the next step then, this is where things probably start started to go backwards for you when she started to lose interest or perhaps she started to back away from you, she started to become less interested in the relationship. And basically what happens as the closeness between you grew she felt a subtle discomfort. She started to feel uncomfortable, which is why you may have noticed that she was giving you some space, okay? And you may have been confused by that space, but this is what was happening. Her As the closeness grew, she began to feel some discomfort.

[00:02:11]And now, the reason why she had that discomfort could be for many reasons. It could have been a her problem, or it could have been something that you were doing. Perhaps you were becoming, you know, over pursuing or something like that, or you were acting like a boyfriend too soon, and she just wasn't ready for that level of intimacy yet.

[00:02:27]And basically, her feelings just hadn't grown for you enough yet. Or it could have been a her problem, and she's just immature, emotionally immature, and when the closeness began to grow, she got scared. Person- it was nothing to do with you, and she just she just began to feel that discomfort. So, the the third step that happened then was she has pulled back to create emotional space.

[00:02:50]Cuz like I said, this this the the closeness made her feel uncomfortable, right? She started to feel uncomfortable. She started to feel discomfort. And then the third step led to she's now pulled back because she wanted to create emotional space. Because for whatever reason, your connection was just too much. Whether it was too much because she didn't really like feeling close to someone because let's say she's got one of these, you know, personality disorders or something like that, and it just made her uncomfortable.

[00:03:18]Um or maybe she's trying to create space so because you've perhaps pay maybe you over pursued and you acted like a boyfriend too soon. So, she's giving space to to cool things down. Um so, cuz she's basically not ready for that next level, right? And she may have felt like maybe perhaps you were falling in love too quick, and so she she created space, okay? Cuz it was making her feel uncomfortable, whether that is justified or not, okay? So, if as well, just the quickly, Um if you want to avoid acting like a boyfriend too soon and you want to give a woman the right amount of space when you're dating her, I recommend that you get my dating blueprint, which you can find in the description of this video.

[00:04:03]It only costs £3 or $3 if they're you're in the United States $4 if you're in the United States. Um something along those lines. I'm not 100% sure if that's completely correct. Um cuz obviously, you know, currencies change all the time and you know you know, the value of that you know, I don't I don't really understand it. But um but anyway, it's about the same amount as a cheap cup of coffee.

[00:04:26]Um but the great thing about the dating blueprint is that, you know, it's not like a coffee in the sense that you drink it and it's gone. It's it's yours forever basically and you can print it out you can put it on all your devices.

[00:04:35]It's when you once it's yours, it's yours. Okay? And you can keep it. So if you don't want to appear like a boyfriend too soon and you're worried about be be basically just over pursuing too much, then that's the best thing for you so you can avoid doing that. It gives the woman the right amount of space. So if you're if you've just had a date with a woman and you don't and you had a really great time, but you don't really know when to message her in order to, you know, give her the best chance of wanting to go on a second date with you and giving her enough space, then it says exactly what to do in the dating blueprint. So please go and get that if that's something that you've been wondering and struggling with and not sure what to do. Um and then you can just always refer back to it whenever you're dating a woman, okay? So yes, so she now she's pulled back to create emotional space.

[00:05:21]Okay.

[00:05:22]Um and during this time what she's she's doing is the fourth step, which is she's focusing on her doubts.

[00:05:30]Um and she's focusing on the the the relationship's flaws or your flaws to justify the reasons for her giving space to you.

[00:05:41]Okay? So if even if her giving space and you know, that is completely unjustified, She's trying to justify the fact that she's given you space. So, even if you did everything perfectly, let's say you followed the dating blueprint and all my all the the tips in my other book attracting the beautiful woman of your dreams, and which you can read completely for free on my website, by the way.

[00:06:03]Um then if you've been doing that, you've been doing everything right, and you've been following, you know, the the exact things that you that that would keep a woman attracted to you, then she's then having to justify it herself. She's trying to think of things that that could have been going on, and she's focusing on those doubts, and she's trying to focus on flaws, perhaps flaws that she's even created in her own head about you. Um if cuz if you've done everything right, then there's there's not really a lot you can do. She's still going to if she's if she if she's that kind of person, then she's still going to look she's still going to find things to to look for to justify her choice in creating emotional space. Cuz her friends might be asking her like, "Oh, I thought you really liked that guy. Why have you suddenly disappeared from him?

[00:06:46]Why are you not talking to him anymore?

[00:06:47]Why are you not going on dates anymore?"

[00:06:49]And she's saying, "Well, it's cuz of this, it's cuz of that." And some of these things may be completely fabricated because she's just trying to justify her choice in discarding you and creating space between you guys.

[00:07:01]So, that's what she's doing, okay?

[00:07:03]So, the fifth uh step that has led her to discard you is um she shuts down completely from you and detaches from her feelings. So, she she shuts down emotionally, and she detaches from the feelings that she may have been building for you or that may have occurred for you during that time. So, she's just shutting them down. She's just saying to herself, "We don't feel this way. We're not We don't want any of these feelings anymore." And she's just detaching from those feelings, okay?

[00:07:36]Um and the way that she does that is by focusing on the fourth step, which we just went into, which was focusing on those doubts and those flaws, okay? To justify the space. And now she's gone to a place where she is shutting down emotionally towards you and detaching from her feelings for you. Okay, so the sixth step is she then ends or completely just cuts off all contact from you. So she ends the relationship or she um stops dating you. She stops talking to you completely. She starts ghosting you.

[00:08:07]And And the reason why she does that is because she wants to relieve the pressure.

[00:08:12]Right, she did cuz she she's had these feelings build up for you.

[00:08:16]And now she's created that distance. So in order for to feel complete relief, and she has to discard you completely.

[00:08:23]So the pressure's all gone. Okay, cuz that was remember the reason why she started to feel uncomfortable because those the closeness started to to to grow. So in order to for her to feel comfortable again and for there to be for things to feel easy again for her and for things to feel like there's low pressure, she then has to cut off communication with you, okay?

[00:08:43]So the seventh step, the last step, is that when the space is now completely restored and let's say she dumped you or she's rejected you or she's just basically completely cut off all contact from you, she will she may feel relief immediately, but um those feelings may resurface later. So she may come back later. Now that things have cut off she's cut off communication with you, in a few weeks time or maybe in a few days time, she will she those feelings for you may resurface, okay? Because what she's done, if she still has feelings for you, like deep down, these things have only just um been a short-term fix for that uncomfortable feeling that she was feeling when you guys started to grow close. So now that space has been restored and she's discarded you, right?

[00:09:35]She may come back if she still has feelings for you, especially if you've stopped contact with her. You've stopped bombarding her with messages. You're not calling her up anymore. You've given her space, too. Right? So, if she does have feelings for you, right? What will happen is those feelings will resurface, and she may reach out to you again. So, if you've gone through If this feels very familiar to you, and you feel like you've gone through this situation that I highly recommend and you'd like help with me, you'd like coaching with me on what to do, then what I'd recommend is you get email coaching with me, and the link for that will be in the description. That's the cheapest option on my website. Basically, you just tell me your story, tell me everything that's happened, and then I can help you get from where you are now to where you want to be with this person, whether that is getting over them or whether that's trying to attract her back. Um and uh I'll get back to you within 7 days. So, once you've made payment, uh right, you use the email provided and send all the information to that email address, and I'll get back to you within 7 days. If you need a faster response from me, then I do have emergency email coaching on my website, too, but it is a little bit more expensive. Not by too much, but just it it is more expensive.

[00:10:39]Um and I'll get back to you within 48 hours as opposed to 7 days. So, thank you so much for watching, and I shall talk to you again very soon. Goodbye.