WHAT YOUR EX DID TO YOU STILL HURTS TODAY?

Added: 2026-05-22

[00:00:00]Now, we need to have our morning conversation.

[00:00:03]There's something something someone asked me to ask the ladies this morning.

[00:00:09]Cuz it seems to only happen with women.

[00:00:13]The ladies think about it. You're never going to see the guys doing this.

[00:00:18]Why ladies is it impossible for you when you are turned up with your man to be genuinely happy for him and you wish him well?

[00:00:34]You honestly, genuinely wish him well.

[00:00:37]Why is it so hard?

[00:00:50]No, you're doing well. You're doing well.

[00:00:53]>> [laughter] >> You have You have doing well. You're doing well.

[00:00:56]Why is it that when you hear he's hit a rough patch it brings some joy in you?

[00:01:03]>> Yeah, they're very happy.

[00:01:06]>> [laughter] >> Why ladies and it's only you guys who do it, by the way?

[00:01:12]There must be a reason. That's what I keep saying. I keep telling you people there must be a reason.

[00:01:17]Why aren't you happy when your ex, your man, is doing very well?

[00:01:29]Oh, yeah.

[00:01:32]You're not happy when you've separated and your man is doing very very well.

[00:01:41]You hate.

[00:01:42]>> [laughter] >> But when you hear You're very happy.

[00:01:57]>> [laughter] >> You are very happy.

[00:01:59]Yeah.

[00:02:01]>> [laughter] >> That is when she's [laughter] very happy.

[00:02:09]>> You are happy like you going to a roster.

[00:02:14]>> [laughter] >> You are very happy when he's doing badly. But when you hear he's doing very well.

[00:02:23]Oh my god. Ladies, why is it Wait, wait, does it happen like that?

[00:02:31]You're never going to find a woman who's saying my ex is now a senior director at KCB.

[00:02:41]I nearly missed the opportunity.

[00:02:44]You'll never hear a woman say that.

[00:02:48]Imagine Joseph.

[00:02:50]Joseph.

[00:02:55]director director and Gideon Moruki is down there.

[00:03:01]You don't want to talk about positive things.

[00:03:04]>> [laughter] >> Why are you happy when you are doing well? Okay, just answer Mwalimu's question, ladies. Why don't you give me a call? Why can't you be genuinely happy for an ex?

[00:03:19]Why aren't you happy? Na iliisha.

[00:03:21]>> And I've never met a woman who says my ex is a CEO of this bank. My ex I've never heard a woman bragging like that.

[00:03:29]Yes, you'll never hear. Why?

[00:03:31]Why?

[00:03:34]Why aren't you happy?

[00:03:35]0711046105 is my number. What is it that he did to you that still makes you so bitter?

[00:03:42]Si muliachana and he's doing very well.

[00:03:45]Without you.

[00:03:47]Why are you happy when he's suffering?

[00:03:50]Why don't you give me a [laughter] call?

[00:03:54]You hit me up on Twitter if you've got a story to tell. Uh Classic 105 Kenya or at It's Main Acquired. Don't forget the hashtag is Main Acquired.

[00:04:03]Let's hook up on my fan page on Facebook.

[00:04:07]Cuz you'll never hear it.

[00:04:10]Why?

[00:04:11]When you hear he's suffering unafurahisha na.

[00:04:19]When you hear me with a bag of money unafurahisha na.

[00:04:30]Governor Kabogo is saying women are very historical and never forget easily.

[00:04:33]Anything you do to them either good or bad, she never forgets.

[00:04:36]The reason why they sound so bitter with their ex's success is because they think they were the main problem to their progress and success themselves. Wow.

[00:04:48]>> [laughter] >> Oh my god. That's what you love hearing, eh?

[00:04:56]Soldier Munder is saying anyone who talks positive things about his or her ex, they are still together. Don't be fooled.

[00:05:05]Keno, good morning. Asanteni sana for tuning in.

[00:05:10]So, what is it?

[00:05:18]Musa Tore, good morning. Saying he may issue nikihama cuz my ex-wife will not leave me alone and she's the one who left me na akabeba everything in the house. Now I've moved on, she wants us to get back together. She's even threatening my new wife.

[00:05:31]Those are Luo ladies. Wow, you guys huwezi mwacha.

[00:05:35]Tutabambana hapo hapo. Unaenda wapi?

[00:05:39]Mwambie before yeye nilikuwa.

[00:05:42]So, why are you like this, ladies? A teddy.

[00:05:46]Hello, good Myna. Good morning to you.

[00:05:50]My name is Rose. Yes, Rose.

[00:05:52]Uh as per your discussion today this morning, I'm so happy for you.

[00:05:56]>> Uh-huh.

[00:05:57]Me today my ex Uh-huh.

[00:06:00]We We dated a long time ago. Uh-huh.

[00:06:04]When we I I was in high school, I was in college. He was He was in university and he went to work. Uh-huh.

[00:06:11]And uh we parted ways. Yeah.

[00:06:15]But he got married >> Uh-huh.

[00:06:17]>> [clears throat] >> to another chick.

[00:06:18]>> Uh-huh.

[00:06:19]Now today he's doing very well and I love him so much even today.

[00:06:24]You love him so much and and and up until today.

[00:06:27]Uh Have you told him that?

[00:06:32]He knows. He knows.

[00:06:35]And I do uh he has risen to higher ranks. Today now he he he is a CEO. So if he was to leave the woman he is with and come back to you, you'd be very happy.

[00:06:47]Yes.

[00:06:48]But you're also married.

[00:06:50]See Yeah, me I I got married to another person. I we separated. Uh-huh.

[00:06:56]And I wish he he was single today, I would get married to him right away.

[00:07:04]So you wish him well because you still love him.

[00:07:07]Yes. Okay. Thank you very much. Asante.

[00:07:10]Hello.

[00:07:11]Hello, good morning, Myna. Good morning.

[00:07:13]I'm fine, thank you. You well?

[00:07:15]>> I'm very well. How about you? I'm good.

[00:07:18]Can I hang with you? I'm here. I'm right here.

[00:07:22]Okay. Now, today's topic >> Yeah.

[00:07:25]Honestly and genuinely, I'm happy for him. You're happy for him. Yes, I am.

[00:07:33]Uh infidelities and emotional torture and uh just not minding the fact that I gave up I I gave birth to a baby. Yeah.

[00:07:45]>> was stressful. So, I was all alone in the house most of the time with a sickly baby. Yeah.

[00:07:53]Yeah. I was in jail. Yeah.

[00:07:56]Yeah. So, yes. He just reached at a point I was like, "Okay."

[00:08:03]Like, I would get out of the house. Yeah.

[00:08:09]And then Yeah.

[00:08:13]But, I would forget my way back home.

[00:08:16]What do you mean you'll forget your way back home? How is that possible?

[00:08:19]I don't know how it was possible, but it it was I was so depressed.

[00:08:26]I could not remember my way back home. I remember there's a time I I walked all the way to Let me not mention where I went, but by the time my senses is coming back Yeah.

[00:08:37]>> almost 20 km away from home.

[00:08:40]>> Yeah.

[00:08:47]Now, kind of 20 km.

[00:08:49]Yes.

[00:08:50]>> So, that is when you decided I might I cannot stay here. I don't know. There's something snapped in me.

[00:08:57]Yeah.

[00:08:58]Yeah. And therapy didn't work for us.

[00:09:02]Because I realized the therapy was not for us to work things out. It is to convince me I am feeling the way I'm feeling because I'm depressed, and that is what he kept on saying.

[00:09:17]You get?

[00:09:17]>> I guess.

[00:09:18]>> Like, I will I will I will tell him, "By the way, you have another woman out there." Yeah.

[00:09:25]And he would be like, "No, you're feeling like that because you are on depression Yeah.

[00:09:32]Yeah.

[00:09:35]So, you left him.

[00:09:37]>> [clears throat] >> Yeah, I I couldn't. It was either me or or or him.

[00:09:42]I felt honestly I felt if I keep on staying here I will die. I gave birth to a premature baby who is sickly.

[00:09:52]And I don't know like I figured to a point I was like okay if I'm going to take care of this baby then I need to be well first. However, on the other side I'm also bitter.

[00:10:06]He made me see another side of human being that I never knew it existed.

[00:10:13]Okay. You get? Yeah. And I will never go back to to to that pure soul again.

[00:10:22]Because I already saw something. I already saw let me call it animosity that I never experienced in my life. Now I've experienced it. So, for any man to be able to get me out of there Mhm.

[00:10:39]I don't know what I'll do but there's just a side of me that Just so Okay. I don't think that that that pure naive person I was it will ever come back. Yeah. So, right now or I'm not saying all men are bad. No, there are good ones.

[00:11:00]But Mhm. Honestly Well I don't think I'll ever get married ever again.

[00:11:08]I am done.

[00:11:09]You are done.

[00:11:10]>> Okay.

[00:11:11]Yeah.

[00:11:11]>> Thank you very much.

[00:11:14]Amazing. You know you should change each time we talk. Let me tell you mine.

[00:11:19]>> [laughter] >> Oh my god.

[00:11:24]Amazing. Let me tell you mine now.

[00:11:31]She's happy and bitter at the same time.

[00:11:33]I'M MAD AT THAT BITTER. HAPPY AND BITTER AT THE SAME TIME. I'M IMAGINING A BITTER I'm bitter.

[00:11:40]Huyu ni pressure.

[00:11:42]Why can't you part with your partner, ladies, and wish him well?

[00:11:49]Just wish him well.

[00:11:51]No hard feelings, just wish him well.

[00:11:59]Part two way in good morning. Saying, "Even in relationships, when she calls in, he is in the background you having fun with the boys without her."

[00:12:05]Inamkasirisha.

[00:12:07]It's in their DNA.

[00:12:10]They cannot stand to see their man happy without them. Kiangai.

[00:12:18]There's a tweet I'm looking for here.

[00:12:21]Helen May Ignatius, good morning, my darling. Saying, "You're all the same."

[00:12:26]You're replying to Fredrick Makau, Baba my girls. Good morning, Fredrick Makau.

[00:12:29]You're saying, "I repeat, the only man I can wish well is my father. Period."

[00:12:37]What is your story, Helen? Hello, Maina.

[00:12:39]Good morning.

[00:12:40]>> Good morning.

[00:12:41]Maina, me and [clears throat] you, huyo wangu nilimsamehe.

[00:12:44]Eh. I wish him well. I want him to grow.

[00:12:47]Aendelee kabisa. He's the father to my children. I can't change that.

[00:12:52]Okay. Muliwachana kwa nini?

[00:12:55]Si ni ile alioa. Alioa kama bado niko na yeye.

[00:12:58]What do you mean alioa kama bado uko na yeye?

[00:13:01]I was married to a Ugandan man and I was living in the village. He was living in town.

[00:13:06]Eh. So, before I knew it, he was already married with a child. He could not come home. Ile aliniacha kabisa. Hold on.

[00:13:14]Hold on. Hold on. You You were married to him. Yeah. You You were living in the village and he was living at home.

[00:13:22]And he was living in town.

[00:13:23]Yes, he was living in Kampala. He was a teacher. Ehe.

[00:13:27]And I'm a mother of Who call me right? I call a woman when you need me when I see her to do because I have to want to do you money because I am I love I have to go to you money and I love you and I want to do you money and I love you because I don't need you money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money because I yeah.

[00:13:47]I see me that I can see you because you can cook and you need me and you could live just down with the children.

[00:13:53]So, I did my research and I I don't know my number my money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money I yeah.

[00:14:02]Uh-huh. So, then you come on me and you get So, you need to need to mind your money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money because I don't need Hey, hey, hey.

[00:14:19]But I wish him well. He's still the father to my children. So, I don't need you money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money because Sometimes I call him. I tell him how the children are doing. He has never sent even a single cent, but he's doing fine.

[00:14:32]I need you money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money because The only time The only time I think about him is when I'm stuck. Like I need to pay school fees. I need to pay rent.

[00:14:43]Everything. Like I need I don't need you money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money because I see you and I need you money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money >> [laughter] >> I yeah. I don't need you money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money because I don't need you money I yeah.

[00:15:15]I yeah.

[00:15:19]Hey, okay. I sent you something for your story.

[00:15:24]>> [laughter] [laughter] >> Oh my god, did you hear that?

[00:15:34]>> [laughter] >> From 8:00 to 9:00 let me tell you my Oh my god.

[00:15:48]Can I tell me?

[00:15:50]Hey, you. What is that?

[00:16:00]>> [laughter] >> I have never heard anything like that in my entire life.

[00:16:08]Okay, ladies. We need a We need a day to discuss these men and what they do to you.

[00:16:15]I think from 9:00 to 10:00 I choose to deal with men.

[00:16:22]>> [laughter] >> Tell me.

[00:16:32]>> [laughter] >> Darling, tell me.

[00:16:37]>> [laughter] [gasps] [laughter] >> You You Did you hear that story, you?

[00:16:48]Oh my god. Okay, have the final word.

[00:16:52]>> [laughter] >> What is going on in this wonderful Kenya of ours?

[00:16:59]Amazing.

[00:17:00]Just amazing.

[00:17:05]Being happy for your man when you cross over.

[00:17:07]I end it like that and you're happy for him.

[00:17:15]Crazy.

[00:17:17]I want you to have the final word of Ali hello. Morning. Yes, hi. Okay, my name is Tracy. Yes, Tracy. How are you?

[00:17:26]I'm good. I like the topic.

[00:17:27]>> Thank you very much. Everything is bad about men.

[00:17:33]I got a relationship.

[00:17:35]with a man who have two kids.

[00:17:39]And then now the wife has just left earlier like a year.

[00:17:43]I mean I can give you a ship and I can make a lot of people.

[00:17:48]Like I have now 5 years. Yeah.

[00:17:55]Yeah.

[00:17:56]I have a daughter with a man. Yeah.

[00:17:59]But imagine after good 5 years the woman is back.

[00:18:05]She's back. She's back. Not not only back but not a key for her.

[00:18:13]Not a key for her and then you have to tell me what to pastor pastor I'm going to be a funny easy corner you going to be a funny easy one and then you have to tell me what to do and then you have to tell me what to do and then you have to tell me what to I'm not supposed to be there and even that one is not my husband.

[00:18:27]Yeah. Then I was like so I wasted my 3 years to go to a total So what So what is the status now? So what is the status now?

[00:18:37]So what is the status now? So what is the status now?

[00:18:40]So what is the status now?

[00:18:42]But now she she doesn't want to call me.

[00:18:45]She just want to talk with my husband and talking with my husband is not something that they are talking about parenting.

[00:18:51]I just got bad messages that even I can't say but the wife is there.

[00:18:57]The messages they the holiness she has for my husband.

[00:19:01]I mean I can give you a ship and I can make a lot of people. So what is the status now? So what is the status now?

[00:19:04]So what is the status now? So what is the status now? So what is the status now? So what is the status now? So what is the status now? So what is the status now? So what is the status >> [laughter] >> I had you know I'm not a Kikuyu.

[00:19:13]but just say I had that Kikuyu. I know you are a Kikuyu. Yeah. Kikuyu women are out there 10 years and then you come back. And then that one is allowed.

[00:19:22]You have been out there 10 years.

[00:19:28]And then now you are back because you are there you are there 40 40.

[00:19:31]Now you are coming to your family. God has said that go back to your family.

[00:19:35]The Bible say go to to your family and your your children. The pastor is saying that your hands will not show you that's your husband.

[00:19:43]Yeah. So, what are you going to do? Now now this is So, the trouble is the kid doesn't want the mother.

[00:19:56]The woman even has never told me thank you. Thank you. Even a single thank you for keeping Any energy, they are happy. Yeah.

[00:20:07]Amazing.

[00:20:09]Amazing. Amazing.

[00:20:16]Okay. Listen, I wish you all the best of luck, eh?

[00:20:19]Okay. Thank you.

[00:20:21]>> [laughter] >> Guy, how do we live in this Kenya?

[00:20:29]Yeah?