Your defense mechanism is hijacking your words #mentalhealth #psychology #awareness

Added: 2026-05-19

[00:00:00]Have you ever opened your mouth to say something and heard something completely different come out?

[00:00:05]There's actually a way to stop that from happening and I'll explain right now.

[00:00:10]You see, your nervous system already assessed the situation and activated a protective response before your conscious mind even had a chance to intervene.

[00:00:20]You didn't decide to brace yourself, it just happened. And what came out of your mouth was a defensive version rather than the version that you wanted to connect to the other person with.

[00:00:31]And here's what a lot of people just don't realize, that other person that you're speaking to is also scanning for signals of safety. Their nervous system is reading yours before either of you has has said anything meaningful.

[00:00:44]And when you both arrive braced, the connection you were hoping for becomes unavailable before the conversation has even started.

[00:00:53]But when you're regulated, when your nervous system is regulated and you're present, something different happens.

[00:00:59]You provide the signals of safety for their nervous system, that what their nervous system is looking for, and the conversation goes the way you intended because you actually said the right thing in the right tone because you had access to it.

[00:01:14]Subscribe. That's what we work on here.