The Villain Mindset That Turns Fear Into a Weapon

Added: 2026-05-15

[00:00:03]Hey guys, another video for you guys out here. The villain mindset that turns fear into a weapon.

[00:00:14]Gentlemen, I get sometimes it could be a bar, it could be a club, it could be online, it could be something that happens when you see a woman for the first time and this thing hits you like a ton of bricks and you just feel like, man, I just don't know what to do.

[00:00:37]There is a level, guys, when it comes to the game. there is a level of mental discipline where the mind gets stronger and regardless of the situation that comes into your life uh it's going to shock you when you learn how to be a closed loop I didn't say calmer I said stronger clearer where you're going to see everything with a new set of eyes more precise exactly When you feel like everything around you is actually collapsing and everything, man, because when you be when you start to learn the game and you become one thought, one mind, one way gentleman, everything begins to change because this is where you want to be, where the stakes are at its highest. Maybe it's one woman at the club at the bar. Maybe it's a group of women just standing over there in the corner. The stakes are at its highest. And this is why for many of the many guys out here, the mind will go blank because at that point in time, the fear is going to catch up and sneak up on you. And what happens, gentlemen, is that the the these are the moments right here that require the most clarity in the game. And this when you don't lock into the game, this is where anxiety begins to actually take over the situation. When it comes to the game, it demands so much of you that most people do not understand. You must demand a lot of yourself in the game. I mean if you cannot demand that what happens is certain certain things happen to you and this is what nobody actually tells you about. It's it's not bad luck gentlemen at all. Okay? It's not a personal flaw.

[00:02:39]Okay? This is the direct result gentlemen of how your mind was trained gentlemen. Okay? See what most you guys don't understand when it comes to the game. A lot of you guys train your mind.

[00:02:51]Yes. You train your mind not in chaotic situations, but you do it from comfortable situations from your home. Okay? You you train your mind from c from quiet places. Maybe at the library while you're driving, maybe you're at home or something like that.

[00:03:12]But this is where the problem comes in that gentleman. You see, see when you are focusing on yourself in quiet places, there is nothing in those moments that are actually demanding your attention. Okay? And for many of you young men out here, you build these mental habits. Okay? And most guys expect, well, what I do from the comfort of my home, I should be able to take to a club or a bar or some situation. And guys, it just doesn't happen that way.

[00:03:47]And what happens when you meet that woman for the first time, it just doesn't hold. Because what a lot of guys don't understand is that the mind, okay, your mind has learned to perform in calm situations. And calm is not learned, okay, from chaos. All right? All right.

[00:04:09]Please understand what I'm saying right here. Calm is not where the performance is required when you need to talk to that woman for the first time. Okay?

[00:04:20]Because you're in a comfortable situation. And this is where a lot of you guys out here, a lot of you guys get nervous be and you're asking yourself and kicking yourself, man, I worked hard. I work hard. I work hard. And then you go out to the bar, the club, and then all of a sudden you feel a certain way. And you are here because something in you already knows that comfort is not building in you. It's not building you up. One thought, one mind, one way. Man, unfortunately, what's happening is your fear is actually managing you. It's managing you right now in this moment.

[00:04:59]It's managing you in the situation that you're in. And I guess yes, it can be frustrating, guys. But a managed man, gentlemen, will never be a free man.

[00:05:12]You'll never be able to be a freethinker. You see the mind that you're having right here, okay?

[00:05:24]That I want to talk to you about and I want to discuss with you.

[00:05:28]It doesn't manage fear.

[00:05:32]it uses it as gas or uses it to move forward in whatever it is you want to do. And that's what we're going to that's what we're going to talk about.

[00:05:42]And if you're here and you're being honest with yourself about who you actually are, you're you've probably been doing all the work, watching the videos, grinding. I'm proud of you.

[00:05:56]Y'all are doing a great job looking to grow. Okay. working on your discipline, what you think, but you're doing it in spaces and places that are not really challenging who you are. You're not challenging yourself.

[00:06:15]I get it. From home, it feels like growth, gentlemen. But somewhere deep, deep in the back of your mind, there's a question inside of you that has not gone away. Okay? And especially when it comes to women, why is it when I do all of this damn work and I bust my ass really hard, why is it when I go to that bar, when I go to that club or when I go somewhere and I see some a woman that I'm interested in, why is it when something is in front of me it it and it requires me to step into who I've been working on for days and days and days.

[00:07:02]Why does it not work? Why why does it fail me? And and and it actually doesn't fail you. Okay? It's just that what you don't understand. You designed your mind to move from a perspective of comfort.

[00:07:18]You built a version of yourself, gentlemen, that performs in quiet areas.

[00:07:26]Okay. And and the game, women, meeting, all that doesn't happen in quiet spaces.

[00:07:34]And I think a lot of guys, that's where a lot of guys go wrong. The fear that has been going on with you guys. You have been doing a great job of managing the fear from home. But the crazy thing is is that reading about fear, thinking about fear from home, preparing yourself from fear from home is not going to help you when you're out there face to face in front of a woman that you want to talk to. And the longer, gentlemen, that you stay inside of a safe space and you're trying to pres trying to create or produce different results, it's not going to happen, man. I I I'm being totally honest with you. And and I and I want you guys to understand that when I was a student of the game at 9 and 10 and 11, man, remember my mentor, man, he threw me in the deep side of the ocean.

[00:08:39]I wasn't allowed to when I was a freshman in college. I mean, I talk high school. When I was a freshman in high school, I couldn't talk to freshman girls. I had to talk to sophomores and seniors. I never understood why. Why do I have to go into the deep side of the pool? Why do I have to talk to something I feel like I have a shot at? I feel like I have a shot.

[00:09:05]And you know, I I've been studying and studying and studying until I started to realize that it really wasn't about the woman. It was the patterns in which I moved on when I was around the woman.

[00:09:22]And that was my eye opener to make me see that this is not about me talking to an older person. It's me focusing on the patterns which actually changed everything up. And I began to organize that and I started to realize the only way I can get better. You you know it kind of goes back to the the movie Revolver. You only get better by playing a better opponent. And the only way I could get better in the game is by challenge myself outside of who I thought I was. And that's what we're actually talking about. Because when I started to do that, gentlemen, something real happened. And the and and the situation that required what I've been studying came to its forefront. And I remember standing at that moment and waiting and like saying, "Oh, man. Here it's go time." Now, here's going to shock you. I didn't get that woman. No, I didn't. But what I did is I got a little bit more of myself. See, guys, there are no happy everything is not a happy ending, man. Yeah. I went over there and tried to talk to that woman and I tried to get her. And guys, let me tell you what happened. It's a funny story real quick. I tried to get her and everything and she turned me down. She asked, she turned your boy down. She said, "You're too young. I'm not interested in you. You know, you you're just young for me." And I was cool with it. And guys, I lost the battle, but I didn't win the war. Fast forward to 1989, I think it was. The first Batman came out, I think, with Michael Keaton and Jack Nicholson. Man, my old man gave me his Dodson Z 280 ZX. I was living in I was living in PG County, Maryland. And I, you know, I'm from I hung you know, I lived in Germantown in Gaithersburg, Maryland. And I don't know if it's still there, but y'all can look it up. I don't know if it's still there, but I went to Lake Forest Mall in Gathersburg, Maryland with my dad's car, the night that I was going to see Batman. And guess what? There is a McDonald's, I don't know if it's still there, that was in front of the mall where everybody hung out. It was like a hangout spot.

[00:11:39]And guess who I ran into? Remember the one I told you that turned me down where I had my I cut my little padawan little uh thing of my uh head down and I went at her as a grown goddamn man with game man. Yeah, that's when I got her. I didn't get her in the beginning, guys.

[00:11:58]This is not a fable of you do this and you get her. I failed. But it wasn't a fail. It was a learned experience, man.

[00:12:06]These are the moments that I'm talking about. And in that moment guys, I understood something that changed the way I looked at everything that I have been building. Okay? See, I had been studying fear and learning fear and trying to control fear, but my foolishness didn't realize that I've been looking at everything the wrong way. Okay? because I was looking at fear from the comfort of my own home until I got outside and did something about it.

[00:12:44]And that's when I found out that the distance existed between fear and who I actually was was the was was basically about what I did to myself and follow the patterns of actually believing in myself. And that was the beginning of actually gentlemen understanding what my mindset was, who I was to me at that time. not a concept but actually gentlemen who I was it was it was what you call an awakening moment it it was an eyeopening moment for myself and it was at that moment that most guys run from where everything they studying doesn't show up when they meet that woman and then they decide what they're not going to do which is run away from it versus face it And here's what the average guy does with fear. He feels it.

[00:13:44]I get it. He recognizes it from discomfort and he returns back to the space that he feels safe in. Maybe it's his home or maybe he'll go back to the old routines that he's doing because that's a safe place. And the problem is, gentlemen, when it comes to that is that you cannot work on yourself from a place of safety. The game requires more of you. And I know a lot of you guys become frustrated with a lot of this because a lot of you guys believe that the only way I can actually become more is by running back and studying more from comfort. But do you see what's going on?

[00:14:31]You run away from comfort to hide in comfort to go back to study in comfort.

[00:14:38]That guy may go back and read more books about confidence or watch more YouTube videos about discipline from the same room of comfort. Okay? He builds in isolation. And that version of yourself, gentlemen, was never been field tested around a woman. never put under any stress or any odd conditions, never ran up against any kind of resistance.

[00:15:09]But what happens is the mind will trick you and make you think that is growth, gentlemen. And this is an open loop in its deceptive form, gentlemen. Because an open loop will sometimes look like pro progress, but it produces feelings of progress. It it notes, it highlights, it sets frameworks up, but it does it in silence.

[00:15:38]And all of this is going to happen. It signals and feels like you're actually moving, but movement inside of a closed room is not travel.

[00:15:52]It's a person just p just inside of the box.

[00:15:57]Remember, the fish itself is always going to feel like it's free when it's in the fish tank, but it's still limited by the rules of the fish tank. And that's where a lot of guys are going wrong. You see, the open loop guy is always preparing to face his fears. But when you learn the game, one thought, one mind, one way, the closed loop individual is already walking into it.

[00:16:24]That's what that's what I'm teaching you guys that I'm teaching you something that books cannot teach you. And that's the game. I get it. All your life you've been studying book smarts. You've been studying how to read, to write, uh to do math, social studies, science, government, but the game is all about how you are moving in actual situations.

[00:16:48]And this is not data. This is just showing you what my edge is. And when it comes to my world as flat thinking, but when you are a closed loop, there is no edge because you are limitless, man. I'm telling you. And this is why where the man that you are ends and the new you actually begins at that point. that line that you look at and that wall that you feel that is uncomfortable, that is pressure, that is anxiety, it it it puts you in a place, man, that I have to say what I think I need to say or fears or anxieties and all that other stuff because see the mind trains conditions that you give the mind and this is not um how the mind actually operates is how you operate in the construct.

[00:17:43]of what you actually think about yourself. See guys, here's the thing real quick. When a lot of you guys out here practice something under a a specific set of conditions, okay, safety, okay? Even you're watching me right now, gentlemen, probably might be from a safe place, which is not bad. But what I'm saying to all you guys out here, these are the conditions that you're training yourself. So what happens is is when you walk up on a woman, when the conditions are not about comfort, that's where everything goes wrong because you're using an open loop in a closed loop situation. And that's where so many of you guys go wrong. See the when you prepare yourself and I and I'm proud of you. You guys are working hard, but the problem is you're working hard in the wrong situation. Okay. You see this is where the game is because see the the vers there's a version of you that exists in the open loop or the comfort in what you put yourself in. And then there is what I'm trying to teach you guys out here. It is what you need to do and that's where you break in. You see by by not removing discomfort gentlemen. Now listen to what I'm saying. Okay. The problem is you are setting yourself up for a downfall. And even when you want to go out and meet a woman, you're setting yourself up. Okay?

[00:19:18]Because most of y'all don't understand that fear itself, it never passes. Okay?

[00:19:24]Not the not the way that most you guys are thinking. See, the thing about the game is going to teach you. What challenges you is the meaning of you.

[00:19:36]Whatever you attach yourself to, whatever it is you're feeling, that's who you are. That's why we always tell you to attach yourself. One thought, one mind, one way. But what I'm saying is is that I'm trying to move you from um the warning or the thought process of information from the edge of what you are capable of doing to actually the entrance of your expansion you evolving. Okay. Always remember you cannot build inside of comfortable conditions. Okay. That version of you guys is only going to get forged from the other side of the thing that you are trying to manage right now from the distance. And that is the real you. He's there. He's right there. You just have to meet him halfway. And this is why when you learn the game and learn the mindset, it is it's not about being rude or cold. It's it's not about the ego and self-importance. It's not about the performances. It's not about the can routines or the lines. It's about the relationship. Gentlemen, write this down. It is about the relationship between the pressure you feel and the clarity and the trust you have for yourself guys. And when you train yourself from discomfort, guys, okay?

[00:21:12]Not from nervousness, but from discomfort. The young me trying to talk to an older chick was discomfort. But I trained myself to realize that discomfort is going to numb the pressure. Okay?

[00:21:30]And what you're going to develop is a mind that does not split under real conditions like it's happening to you right now. Okay? I'm I'm not trying to say there's something wrong with you.

[00:21:44]I'm just trying to say what every situation that you're in is going to produce an effect. It's always cause and effect. But when you are one thought, one mind, one way, you are not looking at the opponent. You're not looking at the pieces. You're looking at the board, your square. What do I have to do? And I know it sounds crazy because all we are trained to do is look at her beauty and look at her body and things like that.

[00:22:15]But what turns fear into a weapon is not actually suppressing it. It's actually integrating it. It's taking a it's taking uh active stances in what you want to do. It's heightened awareness.

[00:22:29]It is something that is going to change in you and it's a beautiful thing. You know how it was when you rode a bike for the first time and how nervous you are or when you got in a car the first time.

[00:22:40]But look at you now. You can drive a car, drank, sing, dance, drive a onehe, lean back. You can do all those things right now. What I am saying to all you guys out here, when you learn the game and close the loop, the the a closed loop man and a man that has an open loop is always going to face the same fears, guys. Okay, just remember that. He's going to face the same fears. The difference is guys, is where do you take that thought? The open loop guy is going to take the fear and run and go home. He's going to process everything from a comfortable safe space and he's going to manage it from a distance. And the fear is always going to stay exactly where it's at is never going to change, gentlemen. But always remember that the guy that has a closed loop takes the fear to the field. Not because he's afraid, but he decided that I'm going to integrate that in me.

[00:23:41]It's their effort. I'm going to move forward. And this is where you're going to train your mind thinking your reality is going to change every I can't tell you it's going to change automatically.

[00:23:54]You have to do the work. I can't I'm not going to lie and say you're automatically going to change like that.

[00:24:01]It just doesn't work that way. But what I would say for you guys out here, this is where you start at this point right here. Not tomorrow. Not when the conditions feel right. You start right now. you start today because you already know what the fear is. Okay? You already know what it is you're dealing with. You already know how fear operates. You already know the conditions, gentlemen.

[00:24:28]Okay? You've already been rehearsing from your room. Okay? You've always been researching. Okay? But the one thing is right now is that you have got to move on the person that believes in itself.

[00:24:42]Guys, I can tell you all day I believe in you. I can tell you all day to put your beard in. I can tell you all day to get your pathway. I can tell you a million things. But the one thing I cannot tell you is to look in the mirror and say, "I love you and actually mean it." We have to connect ourselves to ourselves. Okay? Until the next video, guys, we will continue this. If you enjoy this video, make sure you watch this video right here. Okay, until the next video, guys. We'll see you later, man.