Why Parasocial Relationships Are Scary

Added: 2026-05-26

[00:00:00]Today, I received a very interesting DM based on the video that I did, the podcast that I was on. I will leave a link to that in the description.

[00:00:12]I was speaking with another woman. Her name is Brownstone. That's her channel.

[00:00:17]And I had spoke about a procedure that I had. If you don't know, I got a vasectomy, right? And a lot of people have felt a type of way about what I decided to get to do to my body, right?

[00:00:29]And I received a very crazy DM, right?

[00:00:34]From a a fan.

[00:00:38]I wouldn't even deem this person to be a fan because this is like borderline a lot.

[00:00:44]And this is like one of the reasons why I I I had to kind of pull back and understand like, yo, these parasocial relation- relationships that are established on on on this platform and social media in general is scary. [clears throat] Ain't going to cap.

[00:01:04]>> [sighs] >> But yeah, I'm going to I'm going to read cuz I'm not trying to, you know what I'm saying, expose this person, but they're probably watching this video and I'm not afraid to say what I'm saying.

[00:01:15]Um but they're blocked because I don't understand what possessed this person to do this, right? But I'm going to read this and y'all let me know if I'm tripping, right? Because at the end of the day I don't understand why would I decide to do with my body people think it's it's like grounds for them to be like, "Hey, you are this. You are that. You shouldn't have done this.

[00:01:48]I'm very upset with you." I'm like, "Who the [ __ ] are you, gang? You know what I'm saying? Who are you? I don't even know you."

[00:01:57]And it is you know what I'm saying? But that's that's the that's the equal consequence you get as a result of being a transparent or or or sharing on the internet. So, I'm okay with that. But when it gets to this point, this is crazy. So, let me read, right?

[00:02:16]So, he says, "Bro, I want to apologize for what I said, but the vasectomy stuff hurt me."

[00:02:23]What the [ __ ] Yo, I was like, "What the fuck?" LIKE, "YOHO! WHAT?

[00:02:29]>> [screaming] >> How it hurt you, gang?"

[00:02:32]HOW? YOU DON'T KNOW ME. I don't know you. This is the first DM I have ever seen from this person.

[00:02:39]Now, if you were my parents, I could understand cuz you know you have the expectations that oh man, I wanted grandkids. I would have loved to seeing you how you would have been with as a father, and you know that vision has been stripped from me. I can understand that, right? But this rando?

[00:02:57]He said, "I apologize for what I said but the vasectomy hurt me." HOW YOU APOLOGIZE AND THEN DOUBLE DOWN ON WHAT YOU JUST SAID? What [laughter] the AND DOUBLE BACK. You take it back by saying that, right? Let me continue. The vasectomy hurt me.

[00:03:14]I won't lie to you as a man, God gave you that gift to use it. He died for your sins as long as you kill as you don't kill your good genuine genu It's the the grammar is crazy. If I showed you the text, this is exactly what it looks like.

[00:03:30]You don't kill your good uh uh uh I guess aura or or or karma. I'm sorry, bro. With the amount you're making and the benefit for the people that died and men that drowned the slave ships What did Where is he going with this?

[00:03:45]And sisters that were R-word, he used the R-word, and sisters that were R-word, and the white still did not get their karma. Bro, you can come to Africa with a thousand dollars, especially South Africa, and smash minimum 50 girls with that a hundred USD. What the Hold on. Now, I'm like, hold on. Like, nah, this dude is dangerous.

[00:04:07]You know what I'm saying? I'm like, hold on.

[00:04:10]First of all, I would never receive advice or take advice. I already was like, yeah, he He told me that's why I just blocked him cuz I'm like, woo, I would never listen to somebody that thinks like that.

[00:04:20]Just because I make decent money because of the analytic videos and I show y'all how to make YouTube reactions and stuff like that, right? I'm not going to talk about it in these videos cuz that's not the point. Right? I've exposed one of my earning sources.

[00:04:33]He's using it as grounds to say, yeah, just because you having difficulty or you've had difficulty dating in in in in in in in the US, hence my story times, come to Africa, spend a hundred a thousand dollars, and smash 50 girls in South Africa. You know how That's a crazy way to look at it, gang.

[00:04:53]You basically making shorties a Like, you making women a product. You're the problem, gang. He's not done though. Let me finish, right? And then the whole like slaves and all that, like, I don't know where the [ __ ] this come from. Total left field, right? But this is This is what goes to show, right? You never know who you talking to, bro.

[00:05:12]You never know who you talking to when you when you post these videos on on the internet, bro. There's some There's some strange beings out here, gang.

[00:05:18]Right? Strange.

[00:05:20]Right?

[00:05:22]Then, this is I'm just going to preface this by saying like, this is getting sensitive, right?

[00:05:28]And just prepare for the most outrageous [ __ ] you can probably hear. YouTube, please don't yellow mark me.

[00:05:34]He said you can get SCHOOL GIRLS.

[00:05:39]STRANGE.

[00:05:42]If you take good care of them, make sure they're good and happy if you want that tight insert I'mma just say punana.

[00:05:52]Bro, you never needed that vasectomy.

[00:05:54]Honestly, I bet with my life even now anytime bro, you should have not done that. As long as it's consensual, you understand each other.

[00:06:03]WHAT THE WHAT THE [ __ ] WHAT THE THIS IS GIVING PDF file gang.

[00:06:12]Word. And this is why I do not like to associate with the pills.

[00:06:18]They lost the plot.

[00:06:20]Lost the plot.

[00:06:22]Right?

[00:06:26]He he I don't understand what me having to get a vasectomy it doesn't refrain me from still inter- like having intercourse.

[00:06:38]Like I don't understand what this argument is. I'm not And I'm not even out here just slaying dragons. Y'all know my body not like that gang.

[00:06:46]Right? But believe what you want. Take everything I say with a grain of salt.

[00:06:50]Right?

[00:06:51]Here we go. We going to continue. This is this it gets worse.

[00:06:55]Bro, girls are delicious. I swear to God BRO, THIS IS WHAT I I RIGHT HERE ON THE SCREEN. I WISH I WAS MAKING THIS UP.

[00:07:02]HOLD ON, let me fix the screen so y'all can see this [ __ ] I'mma take a screenshot.

[00:07:07]I'mma take a screenshot.

[00:07:09]And then, you know, carve it out so I don't expose the name.

[00:07:13]Right?

[00:07:14]But look at this y'all. I took I took the Move this over. YOU SEE THE SCREENSHOT?

[00:07:20]RIGHT?

[00:07:23]I'MMA I'MMA GO BACK. SO THIS IS REAL. I JUST took the screenshot. Right? Let me go back.

[00:07:29]He said, "Bro, girls are delicious.

[00:07:32]We should smash them hard."

[00:07:35]>> [laughter] >> Yo, this [ __ ] is scary gang.

[00:07:38]This is the type of people that's running around. And remember he's the same person that's like, "God died for our sins." You got to be very careful, bro. Some of these folks will use text and and act like this. Use the word and act like this, bro. This is why I judge people by their character, not what they believe in, gang.

[00:08:00]Right?

[00:08:02]Let's continue.

[00:08:03]"Girls are delicious. We should smash them hard. Run through a lot of girls and girls should love and never give up open heart and never give your open heart to girls."

[00:08:15]"They got to get effed a lot and used a lot more if you want a girl with a good heart. Come to South Africa if you want that tight poon poon. Besides a hug, come to South Africa."

[00:08:28]"I won't lie to you. If you want to If you want to scrape a dootie a thot, come here, too. Everything you want is here. Be honest with yourself. An African man, a normal one, is polygamous. Excuse my English." Blah blah blah blah blah.

[00:08:43]Um "An African man needs to have more than one vajayjay."

[00:08:49]Right? So, he's he's opting for polygamy. I have nothing against that.

[00:08:52]Do you. That ain't my speed. You know what I'm saying? I don't have nothing against polygamy. I have friends who indulge in polygamous relationships. AND THAT'S FIRE. I RESPECT IT. Long as they got an agreement, I don't give A [ __ ] BUT, HIM SAYING that I need to act like this this this is the the imposing like the beliefs onto somebody, right?

[00:09:16]That I don't like.

[00:09:18]From the very first sentence. Let's continue. This This guy is insane, bro.

[00:09:24]You know what I'm saying?

[00:09:27]"You can have a main wife and uh another one." His English is bad, but his English is not his first language, so I appreciate that effort.

[00:09:37]Right?

[00:09:39]I'm just go to the next one cuz this whole sentence don't make sense. Um in South Africa, your wife is trained.

[00:09:48]In South in South oh, now now I See, this is why I understand this is why I I tell that I give my advice to women, not my advice, but this is why I speak why when I did make those dating videos, I was speaking on both sides. I was like, there's just shitty people meeting up with good people that's actually intentional about who like they're dating and are dating to marry, and then they're getting mixed up with people that are like this or just want to hunch, right? And they're not being very upfront about it, wasting people's time.

[00:10:21]You got folks like this RUNNING OUT HERE. I UNDERSTAND WHY THE SHORTIES IS AFRAID OF US, GANG, cuz of cuz of dudes like this, gang.

[00:10:29]WORD.

[00:10:32]THIS IS CRAZY.

[00:10:35]I DO NOT I don't want you to be a fan of me, gang.

[00:10:38]Please. I do I've never said any of this, gang.

[00:10:42]I don't vouch for this. This is wicked work. Let's continue. In South Africa, your wife is trained and programmed from birth that the man is the head of the house and they make the final decision. You can abuse the female poom poom.

[00:10:59]Once they cheat, you can get 70% of your cows. If you If you gave seven, you paid bride price, you get 80%. You you you What you paid for He's basically talking about like, I guess the the laws out there when it comes to like infidelity, right?

[00:11:15]You don't enjoy here. Otherwise, I'm sorry if this is scrambled. This is literally how it comes off.

[00:11:21]Right?

[00:11:22]>> [clears throat] >> Uh what I'm saying is men are above females in Africa. The way you look don't matter as long as you do the bare minimum, take care of the girl, make sure she's good. You can cheat and fix things. If she cheat If she cheats, then you ain't performing good somewhere.

[00:11:36]You're lacking and you should ask for refund on your bride price bride pri- bride price in cows.

[00:11:44]What the [ __ ] Right? Then he says, "Bro, I am not against you. I did not unsubscribe or dislike you, but the balls cut in How did it get to that point?"

[00:11:59]My decision to get a vasectomy had nothing to do with um what you might call it someone else's life. I simply do not want the responsibility of of bearing a child.

[00:12:15]That's it.

[00:12:17]I've known that since I was like 20 21.

[00:12:22]Right?

[00:12:24]And I am now 28.

[00:12:28]Right?

[00:12:29]It has nothing to do with how terrible dating is.

[00:12:34]It lit- I literally thought like this for a a very long time before my dating life became like what it is. You know what I'm saying? Before all the story times, I was thinking like this. I never wanted that for myself. That is just a goal for me. I don't want kids.

[00:12:52]Why can't people simply respect that? I DON'T UNDERSTAND THAT.

[00:12:58]RIGHT?

[00:12:59]I'M NOT against you I I did not unsubscribe or dislike you, but the balls cut in How did it get to that point? I need answers.

[00:13:07]I need He didn't SAY HE NEED ANSWERS.

[00:13:12]What the [ __ ] Why do you need answers? Who are you? I don't I've never talked to you in my life.

[00:13:21]Even if my mom asked me for answers gang, I FOR WHAT? Realistically speaking.

[00:13:28]What I decide to do with my body is my choice.

[00:13:34]People need to get that through their head.

[00:13:39]Right?

[00:13:43]It doesn't matter if it's my dad asked my mother, they going to have to live with that.

[00:13:48]Because they not living the same life that I live, they not going through the same things that I've gone through, they not live I'm having a totally different experience on Earth. We all are on Earth, but the person sitting right next to you or if there's somebody else watching this video with you, they're having a totally different experience, bro. And they're in the same spot as you.

[00:14:11]So, it's like who are you to ask say you need answers, gang?

[00:14:15]This is the problem with the parasocial [ __ ] It gets It gets weird.

[00:14:20]Right?

[00:14:22]I need answers. It don't matter who sees this, you are dad, you you're dad and your mom, your sis can't help you talk to your sis. I'm active, I like bums, I What?

[00:14:35]What? I need help, isn't there someone cousins, uncles that could sit you down and talk to you?

[00:14:41]There's no way you should have cut your balls.

[00:14:44]I can't forget I can't forgive you on that, bro. Why, bro? Why?

[00:14:53]I don't I I I think he literally thinks that I cut like the whole thing off. I think like now that I'm reading it more, I hope he doesn't think that.

[00:15:04]I hope he doesn't think that.

[00:15:07]You know what I'm saying? But even even besides that, just the way he talk about women is nasty, bro.

[00:15:15]I don't want to be associated with somebody like that, gang. That's wicked work.

[00:15:21]Wicked work. And then the what makes it worse is that he's a HE'S HE'S CHRISTIAN.

[00:15:27]RIGHT?

[00:15:29]HE MAKING Y'ALL LOOK BAD, GANG.

[00:15:32]You know what I'm saying? I'm not even trying to make this about religion, but I was having this conversation with somebody not too long ago.

[00:15:39]I was like, just because someone is a believer doesn't make them a good person.

[00:15:43]You got to judge people by their character, man.

[00:15:46]Cuz there's a lot of people who do believe in the word and they out here wilding.

[00:15:52]Wilding.

[00:15:53]Right?

[00:15:55]People express their their beliefs in many different ways. But anyways, back to the point, I don't want to talk about that too long cuz I already know how people get about that. Um yeah.

[00:16:07]Y'all let me know if this is crazy work right here.

[00:16:10]He tried to justify, "Hey, you know you make good money.

[00:16:15]You could easily come to South Africa and start wilding." Why would I That's that's I'm paying for for play. I don't do that, gang.

[00:16:24]I don't do that.

[00:16:25]I don't do that. If I have to pay to play or I have to pay to get a shorty to respect me, I keep telling y'all this, she don't like you, gang.

[00:16:36]If you got to pay and and do all this backflip back you can't go to the park and just hang, she don't like you, bro.

[00:16:45]I'm not about to come to South Africa for the sole purpose of of trying to mate with somebody. That don't make sense to me.

[00:16:51]It has to be more to it than that.

[00:16:54]My vasectomy, it's more to it than that.

[00:16:58]I could easily be one of these guys, right? That dates somebody long term knowing that they want kids and I don't want kids, but holds I'm just thinking about, "Oh yeah, I'm about to smash. I'M ABOUT TO SMASH."

[00:17:13]NO. The reason why I'm I'm running into these I'm having these experiences. I'm not even going to say problems. I'm having these experiences, right? At least the ones I've talked about publicly on here.

[00:17:26]Right?

[00:17:28]One.

[00:17:30]I had to make a decision and say, "Hey, I don't want to waste your time. I've addressed that I don't want kids. You don't You want kids.

[00:17:40]I'mma let you go and fly. Spread your wings. I don't want to hold you down." I passed up a lot of good women because of that. Right?

[00:17:48]Um and I've acknowledged that. That's just what comes with it. Right?

[00:17:52]But I'm not out here just Yeah, I I'm going to think about it. I already know for sure permanent.

[00:18:02]Right? I don't. I'm good. And then there's going to be somebody in the comments like, "You're so young. You're 28." My [ __ ] I'm telling you it's a wrap.

[00:18:12]That's it.

[00:18:14]It's it.

[00:18:16]You see what I'm saying? If you want to say, "Ah, I think you robbed yourself of of your your purpose here on Earth."

[00:18:23]Great. You can You're entitled to your opinion. I'm not saying you're wrong.

[00:18:26]I'm not saying you're right. But I know for myself and what I want to do for my life, it looks totally different from whatever people are trying to project onto me. Right? And that is the dangers This right here is a perfect example of the dangers of parasocial relationships.

[00:18:42]So, if you want to share, right? And and because there's there's value in sharing, this is one of the risk. Right? Um Will I stop sharing?

[00:18:55]No.

[00:18:57]>> [laughter] >> Cuz that's just simply who I am. I would have to try to not share.

[00:19:01]But will I continue to talk openly about dating stuff and story times? I'm a little bit more cautious on those things. And I'm sure you guys have realized that as well because of things like this. This is not the first time I've I've I've seen this.

[00:19:19]This is not the first time, but this is the worst one that I've seen for sure.

[00:19:24]This is crazy work. I am not JACKING THIS.

[00:19:28]WORK!

[00:19:31]WHAT ARE WE DOING, GANG? YOU HAVE so many other things to worry about, bro. I would I would stay very far away from somebody who thinks like this, man.

[00:19:38]Gang. And if you're watching this video, bro, I'm sorry to say I I I I'm sorry to say, bro, that was not right. What you said right here, I don't like it.

[00:19:52]Um I'm not liking it not one bit.

[00:19:54]There's not one grain of in here that I'm agreeing with.

[00:19:59]There's nothing in here that I agree with.

[00:20:02]Usually I can grab something from and be like, "Oh, that was perceptive."

[00:20:07]But this is straight projection and just the way that you think you need to you got some work to do, brother.

[00:20:15]Not going to lie, bro. If you worried about smashing chicks right now, you shouldn't.

[00:20:22]But hey, I ain't going to tell you what to do, brother. But this Yeah, you're trying to get a response out of me. You got it.

[00:20:30]It's not the one that you were hoping for, but you got it.

[00:20:33]You know what I'm saying? Um but yeah, y'all let me know y'all's thoughts regarding this.

[00:20:38]Make sure to go watch that uh podcast that not not podcast, but the collab that I did with Brownstone. I'mma leave it at the end of this video. Go like it, comment, you know what I'm saying? All of that. Go show us some love.

[00:20:51]But yeah, y'all, this this is crazy work. Work!