The Voice in Your Head Is Shaping Your Life!

Added: 2026-05-28

[00:00:00]Hello and welcome back to the podcast where you are invited for lightigh-hearted conversations about things that matter as you seek to live your most meaningful, beautiful, and joyful life. I'm your host, Dr. Edie Wodsworth, and I hope you enjoy your stay here at the House of Joy.

[00:00:17]>> Well, hi dear ones. Welcome back to the House of Joy.

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[00:00:22]>> We're so glad you're here and we're so happy to be here ourselves. We have been having such a fun recording sesh this time.

[00:00:30]>> It's been so good. Sometimes like with anything >> we struggle >> the days like we have days sometimes when we have like the episodes aren't necessarily clicking like they sometimes do and like >> there's always something going wrong.

[00:00:45]Like last time a whole episode >> we lost a whole episode >> due to audio troubles.

[00:00:51]>> And this time it's >> we just haven't had any troules.

[00:00:55]>> Like everything is clicking. I feel like we are just like full of things to say.

[00:01:00]>> I know. I'm so happy >> today. Um before this episode started, little adorable Emily May was admiring her little baby bump. And she's like, "It looks so cute when you're standing, but gosh, when you're sitting." And I'm like, "Well, >> it's also hard because like most pants, and this is my own fault, but I think it's just the belly." Like my own fault because I refuse to buy maternity clothes. I know.

[00:01:28]>> And so >> yeah, >> the clothes that I do choose to wear are just like kind of bigger than my normal size would be. And I just like there are some very grinchy angles. Okay. And >> grinchy >> in the chair. Like I feel like I look at myself in the here and it's like barely pregnant. Like >> where's the belly? And like I kind of hide it with my um like if I just was sitting like normal. There's just a lot of bunchy material >> gapage and I don't know.

[00:02:00]>> Well, we are going to be talking about the voice in your head today. I know.

[00:02:03]It's so perfect.

[00:02:04]>> It's so perfect. So today we're talking about the voice in your head. How it's hurting you.

[00:02:10]>> Bless you.

[00:02:12]>> And how it's hurting the people that you love the most. So we don't want this episode to be an episode where you heap on guilt or shame. We want this to really be helpful and we want to talk about it because that voice in your head, we think like, well, what does it really matter? It's the voice in my head. It's kind of private to me. But not true. And I do think that that voice in your head that can be critical and not very nice. Kind of a mean girl if we're honest sometimes is spilling over.

[00:02:43]and it's spilling over into the way you talk to your kids, the way you talk to your spouse, the way you interact in the world.

[00:02:50]>> Like we think of our thoughts. I think it's like easy to think of that as something and this is something you have taught for so long, but I still think it's such a new concept to a lot of people. You just feel like your thoughts are what they are. like >> you can't really control how you view yourself, how you think, how you >> talk to yourself in your head.

[00:03:13]>> And it feels like one of those things that >> yeah, it's just like inevitable and just it is how it is. And I think for a lot of us it's like a really harsh inner critic and that voice becomes so normal that like you don't even recognize it because you're >> it's just like you think that that is how life is and that's just how you view things and how your brain works.

[00:03:36]>> Yeah. And what if that >> constant criticism that harsh critic is actually exhausting you? I hope we convince you today it is.

[00:03:45]>> Yeah. And I think if you're not like motivated by helping yourself, like inevitably the way you talk to yourself, the way you think about yourself, and the way that you um go throughout the day in your head is going to affect the people around you whether you think shaping the way your own kids often learn to think and speak about >> themselves 100%. So it is important and if you don't feel motivated to just feel better yourself, like feel motivated that this can really change how other people experience you too.

[00:04:25]>> Yeah.

[00:04:25]>> And >> and even if you're not even so aware of the voice, a lot of us are aware of the way we feel in our bodies. And I think our emotional state, that emotional signature, we have kind of the state of our nervous system is often communicating something to the people around us, even if our actual words aren't as much. So, I think this is important whether or not you're conscious of that inner voice or if you notice it more as just a feeling of being stressed, rushed, an emotional state. One of the most like aha things that you say in your program is and just like through your teaching is like as humans we have 60,000 thoughts a day >> and it is so easy to just like get lost in your thoughts because there's so many of them. And if we have 60,000 thoughts a day, like >> probably most of those are >> are going to be negative.

[00:05:31]>> Negative.

[00:05:32]>> Our brains are wired to find everything wrong with everything. So yeah, a lot of those are going to be.

[00:05:37]>> So of course the thoughts about ourselves, it's so easy for those to be negative even when we don't notice them.

[00:05:44]So, >> I think and this is something like I find so much especially through my coaching sessions, >> the way I talk about myself is so negative and I just feel like that's most people's default and >> it's just not serving any it's not serving me. It's not serving the people around me >> and and >> I know and actually it is really >> uh so eyeopening when they can start to hear >> Yes. how you talk >> and a lot of times like >> you realize wow I'm so negative >> and I don't want to be negative and I don't want to feel >> you want her experience of life to be >> yeah and like the way she joyful like >> you know so it is important to >> and I think let me just say this that a lot of us learned this whether we learned it through society or we heard the way our parents talked or the way our families talked and a lot of that a lot of that is very negative.

[00:06:46]>> I just watched a video about this. I should have shown it to you but I couldn't find it.

[00:06:50]>> Um and it was before we even discussed this episode. Okay.

[00:06:54]>> But um >> like the way that your parents and you heard your parents talk about other people.

[00:07:02]>> Yes.

[00:07:04]>> This is good.

[00:07:05]>> You think of yourself.

[00:07:07]>> Yeah. And so it is really true like if you grew up in a house where your parents were judgmental judgmental and critical and like that is the way that you internalize them viewing you and then in turn view yourself.

[00:07:23]>> Oh m >> isn't that so >> I mean we could just stop this episode right there. I think that alone makes me >> well doesn't that call you out to be like how am I talking about other people because we all know like that is a reflection >> that's a reflection of you not them >> about yourself.

[00:07:40]>> Yeah.

[00:07:41]>> And Yeah.

[00:07:42]>> And gosh what a beautiful example because I can think of people in my own life like honestly first person that comes to mind when I think of this is my brother >> and and I talk about this all the time. I honestly for the 56 years that I've known him, I don't know that I've ever heard him say anything negative about someone else.

[00:08:05]>> Someone else.

[00:08:06]>> Like that is insane.

[00:08:08]>> Yeah. And not many people can say that.

[00:08:11]>> And you know, I love the scripture. I learned this when I joined the Lutheran church 20some years ago when we studied the commandments. The eighth commandment says, you know, to put the best construction on things, especially as it relates to other people. what like what's the best way you can think about them? And honestly, it's like what we teach in our program where you're seeing people as as the potential that they carry, you know, as their highest self.

[00:08:37]What would it be like to grow up in an environment where you heard people just finding the best in others and always, you know, looking to see the best construction on things, to put the best spin on things. It's like that's just not how our brains work >> and you have to work at it.

[00:08:55]>> Yeah. I think it was so eye opening too because if you do feel like you just have this negative outlook on life and it's so hard for you to not have that.

[00:09:05]>> Yeah.

[00:09:06]>> And it's been that way your whole life.

[00:09:08]Like turns out probably it's what you heard.

[00:09:12]>> Yes.

[00:09:12]>> And it's what you learned.

[00:09:14]>> Yeah.

[00:09:14]>> And most people skew negative. That's like >> the norm of our human brains.

[00:09:19]>> Yeah.

[00:09:20]>> And always looking for flaws. We're always looking for what's wrong. We're scanning, you know, our brains are afraid. They're scanning for things that could, you know, hurt us or whatever.

[00:09:30]Yeah. So, we're just so already bent toward the negative that if we just leave ourselves in that condition and we don't become aware of this and work on it, it just becomes the soundtrack to our lives. I think it's so cool too cuz like I grew up in a house like I honestly feel like you were not that way like critical or very negative. I feel like honestly it was more the opposite >> of like a very aspirational like >> gentle way of looking at life. And so until college, until I had my own like full view of myself where it wasn't painted by how people tell you you are, >> right?

[00:10:18]>> That's when I really feel like like high school, college, it's like really, yeah, your parents can do it, but ultimately you're going to get to a point where you start choosing that for yourself.

[00:10:29]>> For yourself. Yeah. And even if you grew up in the most amazing household with >> like just positive >> people all around you, this is still not easy.

[00:10:42]>> It's not a guarantee and it's not easy.

[00:10:43]And I think it's continually work that we need to do. And the good news is we can change. We can change the way we see the world. We can practice better, you know, ways of thinking about ourselves and about other people. We can practice this emotional regulation. We can decide what is the emotional signature. Like if people are around me for an hour, what are they saying? What are they feeling?

[00:11:07]Are they like, "Oh, she was really stressed. Oh, she was really frustrated, angry the whole time. She was really judgmental." Yeah. So, what is it that your brain defaults to? And again, not to heap on judgment to yourself, but just to recognize it to and to give yourself all the grace. Of course, your brain is always trying to find what's negative. But how can we begin to rewire that and decide on purpose what's the perspective I want to see the world with? What do I want to leave when I leave a room? Do I want it to feel lighter and more loving and, you know, more connected and more joyful? Or do I want to leave a room feeling heavy and judged? people, you know, leave a conversation with me and wonder like, oh, I wonder if she says that about me.

[00:11:56]>> And so, I think this is something that we all can pay attention to and kind of work on. Again, not from a place of judgment, but from a place of like, oh yeah, being willing to see >> how we're seeing the world and how that voice in our head >> is kind of determining our atmosphere.

[00:12:17]So the first thing that I will say is the voice in your head >> is the atmosphere you live in.

[00:12:24]>> So think about that. Like you might think you're being really critical of someone else, >> but when you spend a lot of time in negativity and criticism and judgment of other people and of other situations, you are the one experiencing that in your atmosphere, in your body, in the room you occupy. Like you're feeling the effects of that judgment. And it can feel good for a minute.

[00:12:52]>> Yeah. But it's not a long-term like think of how different you feel when you've been sitting around with somebody talking the be thinking of the best things that you can think about the person that you're talking about and you've been like oh my gosh I love how he does this and oh his the way he smiles here and the way you know think of how you feel when you spend time doing that.

[00:13:17]>> Yeah. versus how you feel the other way.

[00:13:21]And that self-critical voice that you have just becomes a critical voice. It just becomes, oh, now this is just the way I think about the world and I and I talk. And yeah, it's the atmosphere that you are living in.

[00:13:36]>> Yeah. You can only be as judgmental to others as you first were to yourself.

[00:13:45]>> Yeah.

[00:13:45]>> That comes from somewhere. Yeah.

[00:13:47]>> And it really does like >> call you out because >> Y >> it really is the way you view yourself and you wouldn't be noticing those things in other people if you weren't already thinking it about yourself.

[00:14:03]>> About yourself. Yeah. And the people around you are kind of absorbing that tone. Like I'm really sensitive to tone.

[00:14:11]I think something in my childhood, >> I don't know if you passed this along.

[00:14:15]>> I probably passed this along to you, but something in my childhood, I think it was a danger thing. Like when people use this tone, >> it's bad things.

[00:14:23]>> Bad things happen. Yeah. And so I'm so sensitive to tone. I in a way I'm glad I am because I'm also very um intentional with how what my tone is. Yes.

[00:14:37]>> And trying to make sure that it's >> gentle and Yeah. or whatever, but that energy, your emotional patterns, your nervous system, like all of those things in your own wiring, the way you think and feel is coming across. And yeah, so asking yourself, do I like that or is this something that I want to work on?

[00:14:57]And I've just decided this is something I want to work on. Like I I was I found this Instagram account. I don't I don't know if I told you about it or maybe I've sent you like 20 reels from this Instagram account, but it's this professor talking about the effect of grandparents on kids and the effects of the grandbabies on the grandparents.

[00:15:15]It's so cool all the stuff that he talks about, but he talks about how that the grandparent relationship is so powerful for kids because at that point in their lives, most grandparents are seeing this child as like this. that they're not worrying about the daily stuff like the parents are.

[00:15:34]>> They're not really parenting.

[00:15:36]>> We're not parenting. We're seeing like this this child hung the moon. This is the delight of my life. And the child feels that and it >> programs something powerful in them when they feel like they're so delighted in >> and somebody has the time and the energy and the the you know the focus. And yeah, I think like even if it were just through my grandbabies alone, I'm very conscious of the energy that I bring when I'm with them >> and how you talk, >> how I talk to them and that that that voice in their head is reminding them of, >> you know, how loved they are and how precious they are. Yeah. All of that.

[00:16:15]So, you know, it like you said earlier, em if you're not going to do it for yourself, >> then what about for these little humans or who are taking this on, you know, >> and it is really like you get older and you realize how much kids notice and you might not think that they notice the small moments of how you act to yourself.

[00:16:40]>> Yeah.

[00:16:41]>> Or how you are in small moments. And like kids do notice that >> and it does penetrate how they are and how they act and how they view themselves. And so >> yeah, >> I think sometimes it can be hard to see, especially when you're in your daily life and you're just going going going and just doing the next thing and you're busy. Like it can be annoying to focus on yourself. Like it feels like a selfish thing to do to be like practicing >> Yeah.

[00:17:16]>> talking to yourself a certain way.

[00:17:18]>> A certain way. I Yeah, I see what you mean. But then if you look at >> But like look at the effects. It's not just you.

[00:17:24]>> It's not just you.

[00:17:25]>> And I think it's helpful to see it that way. Yeah.

[00:17:27]>> Because >> we do and like you said at the beginning, we think of this thing as this private >> this private conversation going on in our heads, but it is not.

[00:17:37]>> No one is a part of >> it's spilling over >> and it does spill over >> all the time.

[00:17:42]>> And imagine like the parts that spill over then you think about >> what is not and like what is just internalized.

[00:17:49]>> Yeah.

[00:17:50]>> Like it comes out in other ways.

[00:17:52]>> And I'm often thinking when I hear somebody that's super super critical or negative. I'm like, "Oh gosh, what it must be like to live in their head."

[00:17:59]>> Well, and I think that's a cool thing about having this perspective of your own inner critic.

[00:18:03]>> Yeah. is then once you've really gotten a hold of your own and you work on that and you really like think of yourself and you're aware of it >> then you have so much grace for other people. I know >> because you see their >> kind own negativity and you >> have this perspective like >> they're it's really stemming from themselves like >> you you're become this like untouchable type of being because >> yeah it's hard to be offended because you realize like oh I wouldn't want to live in my head I wouldn't want to live like that in my own >> perspective of me has nothing to do with me >> with me yeah >> their opinion of me has nothing to do with me.

[00:18:47]>> Yep.

[00:18:47]>> And it that also is so freeing.

[00:18:50]>> Yes.

[00:18:51]>> You know, >> and I think for women, I'm not sure. I mean, I'd be interested to look at the research. I'm not sure if I think it would be true for men, too, that they have as much of an inner critic as women. But I know for women, this is something that we are constantly that that voice in our heads. I think is a constant thing that >> I definitely think it's experienced differently between men and women or just people in general. Like I've heard people say some people don't have that type of inner dialogue with themselves. They don't describe it the same way.

[00:19:26]>> Yeah. But no matter the way that you experience that in your head, most people can find fault with themselves. And they do.

[00:19:38]>> Yeah.

[00:19:39]>> Throughout the day.

[00:19:40]>> Yeah.

[00:19:41]>> And I feel like men and women alike.

[00:19:43]>> And not to say that there aren't times that we want to be sensitive to be corrected when we're wrong. And I think there's always when you are wrong.

[00:19:52]>> Yeah. like, oh, I want to be sensitive to that and to to be tender to the correction that I can feel God giving me. But also, he doesn't just berate and humiliate us. He gives us like gentle corrections, you know.

[00:20:07]>> Well, yeah. And I think the more that you can offer yourself grace >> Yeah. and show up and think about yourself differently. The more that when it is necessary to like overview yourself and maybe recognize when you're not doing something that's good, like >> you still can show up with grace.

[00:20:28]>> Yes.

[00:20:28]>> And not from a place of like >> Yes.

[00:20:31]>> You know, >> and one of the things that we were thinking about as we Well, I think what brought this up originally is that you were like, "Oh my gosh, Elo can hear now." like you were talking about.

[00:20:41]>> So it like really it like really brought this whole different perspective to the way that I speak.

[00:20:48]>> Yeah.

[00:20:48]>> And what I say.

[00:20:50]>> Yeah.

[00:20:50]>> And that so deeply stems from what I think. And also what we also know >> is what you think in your head and the way you stress yourself out and the way that you you hold all this stuff in your body and like we're sharing a body. So that also kind of like freaked me out cuz it's not just what I speak. It's like it is what I am.

[00:21:13]>> Yes.

[00:21:13]>> So what I think is what I am, that's what I experience in my body.

[00:21:18]>> And we're sharing.

[00:21:19]>> We're sharing that. I'm teaching her actually >> how to handle stress, how to think about the world, how to talk to >> which sound I mean it sounds like but it really made me feel like this is worth >> Yeah. It's worth thinking about.

[00:21:36]Yeah.

[00:21:36]>> You know, >> and I think one of the biggest gifts we can give our kids is to have them watch us in real time. be willing to grow, be willing to face these things in ourselves that we do, you know, want to change, to be willing to do the repair, to forgive, to apologize, like all of the um all of those things that I think are hard to do, you know, for most of us, but they're watching us in real time. how we think about ourselves, how we think about the world, how we talk to them, how we talk about other people when they're not around. Like all of those things are training them what it's like to be a human, you know?

[00:22:19]>> Yeah. And it's like there is no better way to be faced with your own self, like having a child, I feel like, because >> it's like, do I want her to be like me how I am right now?

[00:22:31]>> Do I Yeah. Like the way I think about myself, is that how I want I want her to think about herself >> about herself?

[00:22:38]>> And >> really powerful.

[00:22:40]>> Yeah. Not all the time.

[00:22:42]>> Yeah. And we, you know, when we're talking about this in life mentoring school, we use the scripture a lot. You know, renewing your mind. You want to transform your life, renew your mind.

[00:22:51]And that is just taking your thoughts captive. Like noticing when your brain is constantly going to something negative. I I noticed this, too. I noticed that I've done a lot of work on this and in my own environment I don't really have a tendency to go real negative but I can get in a group of people who are >> 100%. And then my mind will do. Yeah, >> I can go there. And it's like just noticing when your brain wants to do that and noticing when your when your thoughts kind of go negative, go critical, judgmental, kind of harsh and like picking up on that and again, yeah, you you creating this environment that you're first living in, but also that other people are living in. And is it the environment you want to create?

[00:23:39]>> Yeah. And is it worth it to you to change that?

[00:23:44]>> Yeah.

[00:23:44]>> If you know how much of an impact that can have, >> yeah, >> everywhere around you.

[00:23:49]>> And a lot of times if you just ask yourself like, okay, this critical voice in my head that's kind of mean to me, is this the way I would speak to other people? Is this the way I want to be spoken to from other people? Well, then why would I disrespect myself and speak to myself this way?

[00:24:06]>> Yeah. Sometimes Carrie will ask me like I'll just be kind of you know flowing telling her all the things. Yeah.

[00:24:14]>> And she'll repeat back to me >> like what I had just made fact about myself.

[00:24:22]>> Yeah.

[00:24:23]>> And the way that I say it too >> because the way I say things about myself I would never say about someone else >> or to someone else >> or to someone else. Right.

[00:24:37]>> And then you're like sitting there hearing what you just said.

[00:24:43]>> Yep.

[00:24:44]>> And like when she when you she when she says it, you're like, "Well, that's kind of mean.

[00:24:47]>> That was mean." Like that was harsh.

[00:24:50]>> Uhhuh.

[00:24:50]>> And then you realize like that is >> that is my default to myself.

[00:24:55]>> That is my default. I didn't even realize that that's how it >> sounded. Sounds. And sometimes like saying those things out loud is so helpful to just like wait that's not true.

[00:25:11]>> Yeah.

[00:25:11]>> And I'm thinking this way and I would barely even say it out loud.

[00:25:16]>> Yeah. you know, it's >> and one of the things that we do um is like to kind of help you get in the habit of doing this is you your brain offers you these unintentional thoughts, >> about yourself, about everybody else, and you can kind of notice, oh, my brain keeps telling me whatever. My best days are behind me. I'm never going to get whatever again.

[00:25:41]You notice it and then you get to decide on purpose, what do I want to think instead? And I often am teaching my clients just agree with God about what he says about you. Agree with him about how he sees the world. And I think when you do that, you realize that, you know, our thoughts are not his thoughts. And I want his thoughts. I want to think them more often. I want to think on things that are lovely and kind and beautiful and higher than my thoughts would normally be.

[00:26:09]>> I know. You know, >> another good exercise that has really helped me in this is um like thinking about your best friend or your sister.

[00:26:19]>> Yes.

[00:26:19]>> And if they came to you saying these things about themselves like >> Yes. You would go, "Oh gosh."

[00:26:28]>> Yeah. Like you're not giving yourself enough grace. you're you're being so harsh. Yeah.

[00:26:33]>> And you're not getting the full picture, >> right?

[00:26:37]>> Because often in our heads, like we take one thing that happened or one instance and make that mean something about us in general.

[00:26:46]>> Yeah.

[00:26:46]>> And leave out so much context and so much life that led to those moments.

[00:26:52]>> Yeah.

[00:26:52]>> And Yeah. I would never talk or let Ellie >> Yes. talk to herself like that and I know that it's not true.

[00:27:03]>> And a lot of times like we know that what we're saying is truth in our head.

[00:27:08]>> Yeah.

[00:27:08]>> We could prove that it's not fully true all the time.

[00:27:12]>> Yeah.

[00:27:12]>> And yeah, sometimes just taking a minute and really examining your thoughts and like what you're saying to yourself and would you say that to someone else?

[00:27:23]Would you say that to your best friend?

[00:27:24]Would you say that to your sister? And >> would you say that to your daughter?

[00:27:27]Right. And that can help sometimes just like pull you back into reality because >> our thoughts just like to spiral and go in horrible places. Yes.

[00:27:38]>> If you let them.

[00:27:39]>> Yes. So, so good. So, the second thing that I would say, the renew your mind piece, start to observe your thinking. A lot of times once you observe it, you're like, "No, I don't want to be thinking like that."

[00:27:53]>> It's those thoughts will almost let go of you. The second thing is to start to come at it from the emotional side too.

[00:28:02]What's your normal emotional signature?

[00:28:05]What's the main emotion that you are experiencing most of the time? Do you mostly feel stressed or overwhelmed or kind of resentful or disappointed or like what is your main emotion? Because that will tell you kind of like okay then what are the thoughts causing that?

[00:28:23]But a lot of times for that reset of your emotional signature, that reset of your nervous system, I think there are things that can really help. And I mean, we talk about these a lot on the podcast, but journaling can really help.

[00:28:35]I mean, just giving yourself that time, >> seeing your thoughts out on paper.

[00:28:40]>> Oh gosh, for sure.

[00:28:41]>> Also really make you aware of like reality and you sometimes feel silly.

[00:28:46]You're like, wait, why was I doing that?

[00:28:49]>> Yeah.

[00:28:50]>> Yeah. But think of things for you that kind of help regulate you more, that get you into a better emotional state. Maybe it's music. Maybe for me sometimes it's going for a run or, you know, getting a good workout in. A hard workout for me cures almost all.

[00:29:05]>> We talk about this most days. Me and mom have a time of 8 a.m. that we call Yeah.

[00:29:10]>> One of us calls each other every single day pretty much at 8 a.m.

[00:29:13]>> Yeah.

[00:29:14]>> And we're both on the way to the gym.

[00:29:16]>> Yeah. And it's so funny because we usually also call like some other point of the day as well.

[00:29:23]>> Yeah.

[00:29:24]>> And we both always are like, >> I'm so glad I'm so glad to the gym >> because it does it helps clear your mind so much. Like sometimes you just need to put the energy out to like get it out.

[00:29:36]>> And yeah, it can be so helpful >> for me sometimes a reset because I tend to recharge even though I'm extroverted a little bit in my personality. I really recharge by myself. So, give me a good weekend >> at home on my porch. Like, it really does kind of Yeah. centers me, resets me, like recharges me. So, figure out what that is for you. That will be a good way for you to get yourself back into a good headsp space.

[00:30:03]>> And I think this is just so powerful and important because it does trickle down um to all of your relationships. The people that you matter most, trust me, are hearing that inner critic that you have.

[00:30:17]>> Yeah. And it's it's not worth it.

[00:30:20]>> It's not worth it >> because it's not always truth.

[00:30:23]>> Almost never.

[00:30:24]>> Almost never. And something that I was going to say, this is like also so basic and it feels cliche as well. But to me, the perfect combat to negativity is gratitude. And there's almost nothing that can live when you are listing things that are you're thankful for and that you recognize as like I'm so thankful for this.

[00:30:54]>> Yeah.

[00:30:55]>> No, almost no negativity can live >> through there. Yeah. So true.

[00:31:00]>> Yeah. If I find myself like just piling it on cuz that's often what happens.

[00:31:06]Like it starts as a negativity on yourself and then you're thinking about the things in your life and then you're thinking about the things about your spouse and then you're thinking about the things about your kids. Like it does just ripple.

[00:31:18]>> It ripples for sure.

[00:31:19]>> And sometimes you just have to stop yourself and be like, >> "No, I love my life. There are so many things that I love >> and that I'm so thankful for myself for.

[00:31:29]I'm so thankful for others for. This is just my brain."

[00:31:33]>> Yes. doing what it does.

[00:31:35]>> Yeah.

[00:31:36]>> You know, >> and if you came into just a little more agreement about the way God sees you, you're loved, you're forgiven, you're being transformed, you're being renewed, you're his chosen, his beloved. Like all of those things kind of help me remember like, okay, if he feels that way about me, then I can find those things, >> renew my mind.

[00:31:55]>> Yes.

[00:31:56]>> And then that starts to spill out into other people. So, anyways, we hope that gives you a little encouragement today.

[00:32:03]for your inner critic, the voice in your head. How can you >> be normal and it just takes practice and intention >> and we all have that available to us.

[00:32:14]>> Yes, we do.

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