The #1 Trait That Makes People Instantly Like You

Added: 2026-05-12

[00:00:00]Think about what you're going to say before you say it. And sometimes the best thing to say is nothing at all.

[00:00:08]That's the most cliche thing I think I've ever said. Welcome back to Madeline Mack. I mean, to Mission Mode with Madeline Mack. I'm Madeline Mack and this is Mission Mode, a podcast where I share just things I'm learning in my life and how I'm applying them to my mission [music] and hopefully you can learn how to apply them to your mission to help you in your life, your goals, your ambitions.

[00:00:29]All those things. And today I want to talk about something that I've been I've become more aware of and more aware of and more aware of recently. And I mean, just over the past my life, I guess, in growing up and dealing with people is just being aware that I am a hypocrite.

[00:00:50]I am a sinner.

[00:00:52]I am actually a bad person. And like just like knowing that judging myself with the same measure that I judge others.

[00:01:08]And that's what Jesus kind of talks about when he says, "Judge not."

[00:01:12]What I'm I don't even know what the verse is. This See, I'm not even that good in the Bible. I don't even know what I'm talking about.

[00:01:20]The Bible says, "Judge not." And sometimes that's weird cuz like yes, you do have to judge people to like understand like to hire someone you're judging one person compared to the other.

[00:01:32]You're judging people's by their appearances, whether you know it or not.

[00:01:36]We're judging people by the way they talk. We're We're always judging. But it's like we need to judge ourselves with the same measure that we judge others. And I think a lot lately I've been in conversations and I've been like, "Wait a minute. Wait a minute.

[00:01:50]Wait a minute."

[00:01:52]I was about to say something about a person that I am definitely guilty of.

[00:02:00]I'm going to preface this by saying, "Now, I do this thing, too, but I notice this fault in them."

[00:02:09]And just saying that first, just saying, "Hey, I'm a hypocrite, too, okay?

[00:02:14]I'm a poopy head.

[00:02:16]I can be a real poop, piece of poop sometimes, but they're acting like a piece of poop. First, judging myself, realizing my own faults, and even if they're super embarrassing and make me look worse, you will always get a better result in whatever conversation that you're having, especially if it's about like a loved one or I mean, someone at work, always, always, always, always, always, always, always say, "Okay, I know that I I I I mean, not maybe not always, but I'm just kind of saying what's been helping me lately. And I kind of want this podcast to be short and sweet, to the point, kind of like Andy Frisella's Real Talks. I like when he does that format. They're literally like 10-minute-long podcasts, maybe even less than that of him just like screaming in the mic saying like, "You need to be better."

[00:03:05]Basically, is what it is. But today, it's just like something I really realized that has helped me a lot.

[00:03:11]Also, just to not feel like a a mean person whenever I'm talking and also just like in YouTube videos and I think the way that Dolly Parton does this I think Dolly Parton is the best at this. She's very, very self-demeaning. Is that the word?

[00:03:30]Self-deprecating. Excuse me, that's the word. She's very self-deprecating in the sense that people make fun of her for her appearance and they have her entire career, and she'll say little jokes before they can even say a word. "It costs a lot to look this cheap." That was a terrible country action, but she'll say like, "It costs a lot to look this cheap.

[00:03:53]And I think that's flipping hilarious.

[00:03:55]And everyone thinks that's hilarious.

[00:03:56]Even her haters laugh at that because they're like, "Yeah."

[00:04:00]But still, it's almost like you beat them to the punch.

[00:04:04]And especially when you are a public person not really even public just if you're talking to anybody, to any group of people that's larger than one person, like you're a public person.

[00:04:18]And and when you're able to kind of self-deprecate, not in a terrible like destroying way because you can definitely destroy yourself by calling yourself a bunch of names and negative things and saying, "Oh, I look so bad.

[00:04:33]My hair looks terrible. I look so bad in this outfit. I feel I I look so ugly.

[00:04:38]I'm so whatever."

[00:04:40]The words I am are very powerful. What does God refer to himself as when he tells Moses what to tell the Pharaoh who sent him?

[00:04:49]I am that I am. I am that I am.

[00:04:55]We are all created in the image of God.

[00:04:57]Who do you think What do you So, okay, God literally told Moses to tell the Pharaoh that I am sent him. What?

[00:05:07]And what do we say? I am so lazy. I am so fat. I am so skinny. I am No, that's Like even me just saying that makes me like sound I feel like gross.

[00:05:18]Those words are so powerful.

[00:05:21]So, don't take it too far, okay? Don't be like you're about to call someone out for lying and be like, "I lied about this and this and that.

[00:05:28]I'm a terrible person and da da da da da da da da da da da da No, just say I'm aware that I have not been the most honest person in my life. I will full honesty, every single thing, come up to you and say, "I have messed up many times in my life, but Susie lied, and I I think that's right, and I think that we should maybe consider that in whatever environment that we should be considering that in. That didn't make any sense at all, but you kind of get what I I mean.

[00:05:58]I think it's also a very freeing thing because whenever you just come up straight to the camera and be like, "I'm a hypocrite." If you guys watched my you might have not, but I made a YouTube video talking about um why I'll never compete in bodybuilding. And in the video I'm like, "I'm a hypocrite. You guys can call me a hypocrite if I decide to compete." Um I I think I said something like, "And if I do compete, then you can call me a hypocrite." And I like zoomed into my face and I wrote, "I'm already a hypocrite." Because I'm already a hypocrite. There are things I'm a hypocrite about that I'm not even aware that I'm a hypocrite about. There are so many things that I could pick apart myself about that I'm not perfect.

[00:06:37]And again, not in a self like actually destroying way because your words are very powerful. That is why like if we were created in the image of God and in the beginning was the word and the word was God and the word was with God and not anything in the beginning was without the word. All the things John 1 1 or John chapter 1 that I'm butchering right now.

[00:06:59]Words are very powerful. They are God made everything with his word.

[00:07:04]That does not mean that we are God. That does not mean that we should worship ourselves and our words as the creators of our reality. That just means that God has put power into everything.

[00:07:15]God has put power into words. God has put power into blood. God has put power into the earth. God has put like there's all these different things of power, but it's all from God.

[00:07:27]I'm going on a tangent.

[00:07:31]Basically, just and I keep saying basically, oh my goodness.

[00:07:36]Also, I have a cold. If you kind kind of can hear like the sinusy, I'm sorry about that.

[00:07:43]Just it will make your life a lot easier in public relations if you just say, "Hey, I realize I am not perfect at all."

[00:07:55]And then say what you're going to say.

[00:07:56]Or even better, you're about to say something bad about someone, you're about to criticize someone in a way that like yes, there people need to be criticized. That is a very important part of life. It's how you learn and grow.

[00:08:11]Sometimes the criticism is not needed at all, though.

[00:08:17]And when you do the self-analysis, "Oh wait, I've goofed up before in my life. I'm not perfect."

[00:08:24]You might save yourself from saying something that really doesn't really need to be said that will just cause bad feelings and a bad situation that you have to deal with even longer.

[00:08:37]And you might just be like, "You know what? Actually, I was going to say this bad thing about them, but I've also done similar things.

[00:08:43]So, I'm just not going to say anything."

[00:08:45]And then that situation usually resolves the quickest.

[00:08:49]I was reading um How to Win Friends and Influence People yesterday for like the third time, and the first 10 pages talks about a story with Abraham Lincoln cuz Dale Carnegie did a lot of research on Abraham Lincoln. He studied him for like 10 years. He wrote a book on him.

[00:09:04]Very in-depth.

[00:09:06]And something that Abraham Lincoln did in his past was he used to write like hate mail basically to people he didn't like.

[00:09:13]He'd leave them in the road by their house where obviously someone's going to pick up this letter and read it and be like, "What the heck?" And one day he wrote a hate mail to someone, and that person was like, "You know what? Let's fight to the death then, buddy."

[00:09:25]So, Abraham Lincoln and this guy Abraham Abraham Yeah. He chose long sword swords, I think, to fight cuz he's very long and lanky, and that was kind his strength. He took some fighting lessons and he was on this place about to fight to the death and I think their wives came and stopped it before it happened, but from then on out Abraham Lincoln never wrote a hate mail letter again.

[00:09:53]And he almost did.

[00:09:55]One time they were in battle in the Civil War and there was this guy that they could have easily captured and conquered that basically would have put put a stop to the war.

[00:10:05]Abraham told this guy, "Ayo, stop him. Get him right now." And the guy didn't.

[00:10:12]And then he got away. The bad guys got away. And then Abe wrote a letter saying "What the heck, man? You really You really messed up here. Great job, buddy.

[00:10:23]You screwed that one up."

[00:10:24]And >> [snorts] >> Sorry, I had to sniff.

[00:10:28]That letter was never sent.

[00:10:31]Because Abe was like, "You know what?

[00:10:36]I've made poor decisions in my life before. So like, I could have Probably if I was in his situation and I had been hearing the screams of death and war and all the terrible things, I probably wouldn't have want to stir up that fight either. And I probably would have just let him get away, too."

[00:10:55]He put himself in the other guy's shoes.

[00:10:56]Put himself, "Okay, maybe if I was in that situation with what I've done in my life, I probably would have reacted the same way." He never sent the letter. He knew it would probably just cause the guy to have bad feelings against Abe and just resign from the army that he needed him to be in to fight the war.

[00:11:13]And Abe never sent the letter. And it's just sometimes like we should just never send the letter.

[00:11:18]I've written out many texts before and just never sent them.

[00:11:22]I have had like full-on speeches I was going to give people that I never said.

[00:11:29]And I'm not saying that I'm perfect at all. Again, okay? The whole point of this video. I'm literally not perfect.

[00:11:33]I've goofed up so many times in talking to people like a bazillion times, okay?

[00:11:36]And I I've said so many things I should not have said.

[00:11:39]And I mean, even yesterday like I did that. I was like, I probably shouldn't have stirred up the pot anymore, but I did.

[00:11:48]Um it's just never sometimes it's just not worth it. Now, there are some things that you should die on the hill for.

[00:11:56]Yes, but there are also some things that are so like don't matter.

[00:12:01]Don't Don't stir up the pot. You know what I'm saying? So, moral of the story today always consider your own faults before you pick apart someone else's faults.

[00:12:16]Think about what you're going to say before you say it. And sometimes the best thing to say is nothing at all.

[00:12:24]That's the most cliché thing I think I've ever said.

[00:12:28]Uh but I know that this has been helping me a lot.

[00:12:32]It's not like a super like in-depth like ooh, this is like so cool of a podcast Mel on just made.

[00:12:38]But it's something that's helping me.

[00:12:40]And helping me to talk to people better.

[00:12:41]And it I genuinely think that it makes you more likeable. If you feel like everyone hates you, try it out.

[00:12:48]Be like guys, I know I'm kind of a terrible person.

[00:12:52]Make fun of yourself, like Dolly Parton.

[00:12:56]Like the bigger her she I think she said something like the bigger my hair is the closer I am to God or something like that cuz people make fun of her for her wigs.

[00:13:03]And I mean, she says so many hilarious things. Like you guys like just look up like compilations of Dolly Parton making fun of herself. They're awesome. They That makes her more likeable when she self-deprecates.

[00:13:14]And I think also it just helps you to it just helps you to be more kind.

[00:13:21]To give mercy to others, to be more forgiving because you realize, okay, you You I'm not perfect at all.

[00:13:28]We're not perfect.

[00:13:30]Okay, but also I will say there are definitely situations that some people need the entire the entire book thrown at them. Not just the entire book, the whole library including the limestone it was made out of should be thrown at these people.

[00:13:49]But when you just talking to your friends, talking to co-workers, talking to family, sometimes we we ought to give a little little mercy, little grace. So, that's the moral of today's story.

[00:14:02]That's all I got.

[00:14:04]I'm going to stop talking cuz I have a cold and well, actually I have to film another podcast cuz I'm going to be in Disney.

[00:14:09]>> [sighs] >> Yeah, okay.

[00:14:13]All right, that's all I got. So, peace out.

[00:14:18]Bye.