Why you attract the wrong partner

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[00:04:57]Yay. Yes, we are live and it's going to be a good a good chat. Okay, so I'm sure you saw in my stories on the post. We are talking about why you always attract the wrong person for the wrong relationship.

[00:05:13]Because there's a reason why. There is a reason why.

[00:05:18]Oops, my bad. Sneak. I'm going to ask you guys this honestly, okay? Like, we're we're going to get pretty real.

[00:05:25]We're going to get pretty honest. We're going to get blunt, okay? I'm going to challenge you. We're going to create some thoughtprovoking um content for you guys, okay? Not trying to attack you on anything. This is just to help you think, help expand your mind a little bit, expand your brain, and we're just gonna we're going to get into it. Thursday's best.

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[00:05:52]I'm just going to warn you a little bit, guys. Some of what I'm going to say is going to make you a little bit uncomfortable, might make you angry, okay? But just stay with me, please.

[00:06:02]We're here to be challenged and we're here to learn. All right? Because when you sit through anything uncomfortable in life, like that's when you actually change and that's when you grow and evolve a little bit. Okay?

[00:06:16]This will be interesting. Yeah. But it's going to be good. It's going to be good.

[00:06:20]If you have questions too, I'm going to be bouncing back and forth through the comments as well. So, this is to help you just help you learn a little bit and learn just about yourself and why you maybe keep attracting the same type of person, right? But the same issue keeps happening. Like honestly, I want to hear from you, okay? Like big time.

[00:06:49]Also, how's the lighting? I know it's a little blue, okay? So, if it looks okay, tell me. I can make it brighter, less bright. You just you let me know, okay?

[00:06:59]But that is all good. But I want to ask you guys a question. How many times have you ended up in a relationship swearing that this was the last time that you were going to ever let somebody treat you that way? You're going to put up with some of the the nonsense. Okay.

[00:07:17]Okay. And then maybe few months later, 6 months later, you realize that you're in the exact same situation just with a different person, same issue. How many times has this happened to you? Like, be honest.

[00:07:29]If it sounds familiar, what I'm about to share with you this evening is going to probably change the way that you think about everything you know about why you keep choosing the wrong people.

[00:07:41]So, let me know. Let me know in the comments. Once. Okay. once.

[00:07:47]Let's see. Never in a relationship.

[00:07:49]Okay, it's okay. You're going to learn.

[00:07:51]UFO Gandalf. Hi. Hello. Hey, Melissa.

[00:07:55]How are you guys doing? I want to drop a number, guys, in the comments. Like, how many times has that happened to you?

[00:08:01]Just be honest. I am not here to judge you, belittle you. No, I don't care.

[00:08:08]It's all good in the hood. This is a safe space for you guys. Safe space.

[00:08:14]Just a number. Let me know.

[00:08:17]One, two, three. Many times. Yep. I know.

[00:08:29]Thank you guys. Thank you. You must have clear goals in a relationship before you take the first step. Yep. That is definitely one thing. You must have a clear clear focus for yourself, your life, right? And your own goals. You need that. That is very very very important.

[00:08:56]Your age gap. There's maturity difference, but I've grown a lot.

[00:08:58]Beautiful. Love it. What's your age gap?

[00:09:00]What is your age gap, Melissa? Just curious. You've been in here a few times, so I'm just curious because we have an age gap, too. All righty, guys.

[00:09:08]Let's get into it. Okay. Welcome.

[00:09:11]Welcome, welcome. For those of you that don't know me, I'm Lauren Flourish with Lauren. I am a relationship coach. I specialize in attraction, polarity, fitness, health, mindset, emotional dynamics, you name it. Okay? I want to be very clear about something. I am not here to make you feel good today. It's okay. Some of the things might make you feel good, but I'm going to tell you the truth, okay? I've spent years I've spent years in the wrong relationships myself. Okay. Choosing the wrong people, making the same mistakes, right? Wondering why love hurts so bad every single time. You know, have you ever felt that? Because I'm sure you have. Okay. It wasn't until probably I understood one specific psychological principle that probably changed everything and not just relationships, but my entire life. And that is what we're going to talk about today. But first, I kind of want to ask you something else a little bit. I want to hear from you guys. This is a non Yes.

[00:10:17]No judge zone. No judge zone. I'm going to challenge you. Yes. But this is a safe space for you guys. Like if I see anybody being a jerk or being rude or being just out of line, like you're gone. I'm sorry. Like this is a privilege to be able to be here and learn and educate yourself and interact with people from all over the world. So, be nice and don't be a jerk, okay?

[00:10:41]Because you're going to be gone. You are going to be gone.

[00:10:47]Hello. The video of your husband was really fun to watch. Keep it up. He can make an appearance after this if you want. If you want, let me know. He totally can.

[00:10:56]Aren't you only 30, Lauren? I am 31.

[00:10:59]Yes, I'm 31.

[00:11:07]Love it. 30-year age gap. Dang, girl.

[00:11:11]All right, you get it. Lots of learning from that man. I'm sure. Right. Lots of learning.

[00:11:17]Okay.

[00:11:18]Question, guys, for you and I want to hear it um in the chat. Okay. Like, think about for a second. We're going to go back to the past a little bit about somebody that broke your heart. Like bad, right? Really think about them.

[00:11:33]Now, think of the person before that.

[00:11:35]And maybe before that, if you catch my drift, do they have anything in common?

[00:11:42]Right? Because I probably already know the answer. And by the end of this, so will you, Perry. Nice. 17ear age gap. That's mine and my husband's too. 17ear age gap.

[00:11:56]Pay attention to that thought, guys.

[00:11:58]Like, have you ever really thought of what that other person had in common with the last ex and the one before that and the one before that? Because it's there's there is a reason and it is called the pattern. The pattern, guys. Same choices, same pain, just a different face, right? And it's literally invisible until you see it. And by the way, these slides are going to be available for you. I'm going to put them in um a Google doc for you guys so you can save them and you can learn from it also. Okay, here's the thing about patterns. They're probably pretty dang invisible until somebody points them out for you and but you actually have to be willing to see it, too. And you can never really unsee them. So, let me point something out for you. Most people believe that they end up in the wrong relationship just because, right? Maybe bad luck, wrong place, wrong time, wrong person.

[00:13:05]Like, you might think, "I just haven't found the one yet." But the truth about that is you're not unlucky. It's just that you're pretty predictable, right?

[00:13:14]You're predictable. Your nervous system is the one making the decisions for you, the choices. It's not your heart. It's not your ego. And it's not really your brain. Sometimes it is your body. It's your nervous system.

[00:13:30]Have you ever heard that before?

[00:13:33]Please answer.

[00:13:36]Let's be interactive, guys. Like be let's let's talk. Let's talk.

[00:13:43]Okay. Your body remembers familiar feelings. It remembers pain. It remembers trauma. It remembers happy times. It remembers times where you're anxious. Um, trauma, everything. Your nervous system is that. It's all of that. It's everything that's happened to you in childhood, young adulthood, um, adolescence, adulthood. It's everything compound into one ball. That is your your nervous system. That is what I mean when I say that. Like your brain is a pattern recognition machine. like it's m that is what makes you feel safe in a sense, right? Because something feels familiar.

[00:14:22]It doesn't necessarily mean it's safe though. Your brain is a pattern recognition machine from literally the moment that you entered this world, right?

[00:14:34]At a very young age, it starts to your parents are shaping. Yeah, they are. And their parents, right? It started to collect data right from a very young age of what love feels like, what safety feels like, what protection feels like, what um nervousness feels like, anxiety, all this stuff, right? At a very young age, it's learned behavior from just how your parents raised you, what you saw growing up, the relationships that were modeled after them and after them, like your grandparents, their grandparents.

[00:15:09]It's generational, guys. Everything that we are feeling today has to do with how we were raised, right? What you witnessed, um, what you survived, what you went through. And where it gets a little uncomfortable is sometimes when you grow up in a household full of chaos, right? Like that's kind of what you model love after. If that's all you know, like your nervous system has literally learned that chaos equals love because that is what you lived. If you experienced love by someone who was distant, emotionally distant or emotionally unavailable, guess what? Your body and your nervous system, it learns that unavailability equals love, right? Catch my drift? So, if another big one, right, I hear this all the time. Um, eggshell walking. If you always walked around your house on eggshells, right? If that's what love looked like to you, your nervous system is going to learn that anxiety equals love. Okay? Because your parents love you, yes, but they're also damaged. They're also hurt. They're also they have pain, too, and trauma.

[00:16:21]So, it's there's a reason why they're acting the way that they're acting a little bit, right? So, now every time you meet somebody new who triggers one of those familiar feelings, your brain is like, "Oh, this is home. This is where I feel safe. this is where I feel comfortable. Right? Even if your home was never actually safe, it just feels familiar. So, just pause on that thought for a second, right? Drop a yes in the comment if any of that landed for you. If you can relate to it, if it makes sense, if that was your life, if any of those were your life, if you had to walk on eggshells, if somebody was emotionally unavailable for you, like a parent, right?

[00:17:03]If um you lived in a chaotic household, like please let me know because I've been there, right? It's okay. It's all good.

[00:17:14]Yes. Look at that. See, I know. I know.

[00:17:17]Abused people abuse others. Hurt people hurt people, right? Like it's I know.

[00:17:21]Unfortunately, that is that is a sad truth.

[00:17:27]Thanks, Curtis. I appreciate it. I'm just reading your comments. Look at all the yeses. I am. It's sad to kind of see that, but that should also make you realize like we're not alone, guys.

[00:17:36]Like, we are not alone. Humans are deeply flawed. They're deeply flawed, but they're also very coachable, very trainable if you want it and if you want to work on this stuff. This is why I'm doing this stuff because I have done the work and I'm continuing continuously doing the work. So, it's what I'm here to do for you. Okay? It's what I'm here to do. The abuse only repeats if the cycle isn't broken. Exactly. Exactly.

[00:18:00]So, I am ending as much of the generational crap as I can, right?

[00:18:05]Obviously, I'm going to pass some of it down to my kids. Like, it's just inevitable. But the goal is less and less and less and less and to teach them and heal from your stuff so you don't bleed it on to them. That is obviously the goal. And then you have to talk to them about your family and your lineage and just how people are in your family and teach teach your kids. Teach them.

[00:18:29]Give them a chance to to do better than than we did, right? It's the best thing we can do.

[00:18:38]Best thing we can do.

[00:18:41]I'm just reading you guys your comments a little bit. Okay. Thank you for interacting, by the way. I really appreciate it. Okay.

[00:18:51]This is a part where sometimes therapists can kind of skip over a little bit because not all but some or most, right? They tell you maybe what happened to you, but nobody really explains to you how your body memorizes it and how your body literally latches on to those familiar feelings. And it's fascinating to me. It's really fascinating to me because I want to know why. I want to get to the root cause of of everything. So I just understand myself at the deepest deepest level so I can educate other people too. That's that's why I'm doing this. Okay?

[00:19:30]It's not even just about your past, guys. It's not it's not it's about something that's pretty specific that's happening inside of you right right at the moment where you meet somebody new.

[00:19:48]Once you understand it too, you're never going to look at attraction the same.

[00:19:52]You won't.

[00:19:54]You won't.

[00:19:58]Shutdown is so normal to me, but my man is the complete opposite. I feel it. I feel that, girl. I feel that. It takes a very special man and patient man to be able to pull you out of that. And I'm so glad that you found that. That is beautiful. I found that, too. I found it, too. So, that kind of gets me into my next segue, guys, which is the chemistry trap, right? We remember that it feels like love, but it's not. Let me tell you something about the chemistry trap. This is where people get destroyed, right? You meet somebody and immediately something inside of you is like, "Oh my gosh, something feels good.

[00:20:39]Your heart races. You get a little sweaty. You can't stop thinking about them. It feels electric, right? Have you felt that before? You think it's chemistry or true connection or even fate sometimes? Like, oh my gosh, this is my soulmate. But what's actually happening inside of your body? Have you thought about it? That feeling, the intensity, the electricity, all of that, it's not love.

[00:21:06]It's not love. It's recognition. That's all it is. Your nervous system just met somebody who feels familiar. That's all.

[00:21:15]Someone who matches the emotional blueprint from your childhood and young adulthood. And it's releasing dopamine, cortisol, noradrenaline, and norepinephrine as well. All of that stuff. Dopamine, cortisol, a little bit of stress, right?

[00:21:33]It's all of these hormones are releasing inside of your body, right? That's the same um cocktail as anxiety. the same cocktail as infatuation with somebody.

[00:21:44]You get all of these feelings, right?

[00:21:50]All of these feelings. Um, this is me because I'm live. This is not a clone or AI. This is me.

[00:21:58]So yeah, guys, that cocktail that all of those hormones, anxiety, infatuation, um where athletes feel that, oh my gosh, I'm nervous, excited, passionate, all of that. Extreme athletes, right? Like those um Red Bull Red Bull people that jump out of planes with no parachutes and skateboard down super high ramps. Oh my gosh, those guys are nuts.

[00:22:24]But your guess what's happening, though?

[00:22:26]Your brain is linking that feeling to that person as passion, but it's not passion. It's just a familiar feeling, right? This is why the people who are probably the worst for you, they feel the most exciting and the most thrilling, right? That probably you've ever met before. And the people that are actually good for you, they feel boring.

[00:22:49]Safe, predictable, um, too calm, because you're not used to calm. You're used to chaos, all of that.

[00:23:01]Oh, I'm sorry, William. I'm sorry.

[00:23:08]Sorry. I'm just reading some comments. I know I get distracted. I'm sorry. I just really like interacting with you guys, too. Okay. So, this is like a little master class plus live interaction as well because I like I like getting to know you guys, too. Okay.

[00:23:22]Is the chat still alive? It looks like it. It looks like it. Blunt and passionate. It's how I like to do it, guys. It's how I like to do it. Okay.

[00:23:31]So, I want you to kind of drill that into your head, right? like the people, if you've ever felt that before, the people that are actually good for you and you know that they're good for you, but maybe you push them away because it doesn't feel like what you grew up with, which was probably not peaceful or a little chaotic. And like I said, it feels a little feels a little boring or safe or too predictable for your liking.

[00:23:56]Calm doesn't trigger the same chemical response in you. That's that's just what it is, right? Your nervous system has been trained for that to to chase that spike of adrenaline and cortisol and um dopamine, all of those those hormones, right? Your brain is trained to chase that, not the stability, so to speak, which is what we want. We want stability. We want calm. We want peace.

[00:24:24]We want easy, right? All of that stuff.

[00:24:31]Thanks for the name correction. It's okay. It gets spelled wrong all the time, guys. Don't even worry about it.

[00:24:37]Don't even worry about it.

[00:24:41]I'm going to tell you something that I hear all of the time, guys. Okay? All of the time. We're going to call him We're going to call him Josh. All right? I had a client once, not just Josh, okay? and his name's not Josh, but many clients with the same problem. You're in relationship after relationship after relationship with totally unemotionally or unemotionally emotionally unavailable women. I combined those words. Even if you don't want that, you're gravitated towards that, right? And each one is probably a little more painful than than the last. And every s every single time that he or other people I've talked to met one of these women, they describe the same exact feeling. She just does something to me. I just felt this chemistry, this spark. It was undeniable. And then I asked him, like I ask many of you guys, what did it feel like with your mom growing up? Or did you have a dad growing up? And what was it like? Right? And then I get silence.

[00:25:53]It's very it's very loud silence, right?

[00:25:56]And more often than not, I get the response of, you know what, like I was always waiting for her to to come home or I was always um love was she didn't love me. She didn't give me the time of day. She didn't validate me and give me love and praise as her son, right? like I was always waiting for her to to be there for me. And there it is.

[00:26:23]There's the light bulb, right? You you're not attracted to these women.

[00:26:27]You're attracted to the waiting, right?

[00:26:30]Because you were always waiting for mom.

[00:26:33]Waiting to him was the very first language of love that he ever learned.

[00:26:41]I know some of you have felt that, have similar situations too. It can be the same thing as women too that didn't have a present father. You're gravitated towards unavailable men. It's it's the same thing. It's just your body. It's your nervous system, right? I know some of you felt that. Okay? If you did, put put a heart in the comments if that hit you somewhere real. Okay? I know I have parent wounds, too. We all do.

[00:27:11]It'd be we'd be lying to each other if we said that we that we didn't. We all do.

[00:27:23]Gregory, thank you.

[00:27:25]Thank you. I'm sorry that you went through that.

[00:27:31]My um my husband's very open about his mother wound. He has a mother wound, too. And I, so to speak, have a father wound. It's okay. We learn about it. We go through it. Thank you, Hyatt. Thank you, Hyatt Hudson. I was never told I love you from either parents. I tell my children every day that I love them without hesitation.

[00:27:51]Good job. Good job. I know maybe deep down obviously there's some resentment there but keep doing that for your kids, you know, and in a sense it's healing you too because you're giving them that love that maybe you never never received and they get to experience that and you're giving that to them. That's the best I could have like chills talking about it. That's the best gift that that you can give to them is just loving them. So, I'm sorry that that happened to you, but good for you for turning it around and doing different for for your girls. That's beautiful, beautiful, beautiful.

[00:28:34]I love that you guys are interacting with each other. Thank you so much.

[00:28:40]Oh, man. Okay, we're going to pivot really quick. Hold on. How do I get my girlfriend that's a deputy sheriff to leave the stress at work because she's always so stressed out and we butt heads when she comes home.

[00:28:51]Chris, that is tough because she is in her she has to be in her masculine energy and on alert all the time. It's really hard. And coming from law enforcement background, not myself, but my father and my grandfather, like, and I've known women in um in either the sheriff's association or um they're just police officers, regular cops, firefighters. I've seen women do that stuff too and it is draining for them because just because you can do something doesn't mean you should, right? I mean that in the most sincere way possible.

[00:29:35]I get that she wants to help and protect and serve and be a badass. Like that's amazing, but it comes with a cost. And that cost is her femininity. You have to be so masculine.

[00:29:50]so masculine more than her that she naturally just feels that and softens up a little bit next to you, but she has to turn it right back on when she goes when she goes to work. So, and she's a sheriff, a deputy sheriff. Like, man, maybe talk to her and ask her if that's really what she loves and wants to do as her passion. And if she does, you got to support her or become that guy that she can fall into. But man, it that is going to be tough. That is going to be very tough.

[00:30:31]I'm trying to repair families because I repaired mine, right? mine, my parents, um the relationship I have now with my husband. So, I'm trying to repair as much as I can. I really am. Okay.

[00:30:51]Okay. Unpivot. That's not a word, but I just I saw that question and I had to I had to answer it, guys. Okay. So, one of the questions that nobody asks, and I'm going to help explain it to you.

[00:31:07]If your nervous system is the one choosing your partners for you, then how do you override that? Right? How do you override your own nervous system? How do you break a pattern that's been running you and ruling your decision since you were a child? I'm going to tell you. I'm going to tell you. It's not what most people think, okay? But it's also not as complicated as maybe therapy or books or podcasts make it sound. Right?

[00:31:36]We are going to segue a little bit, okay, into the real reason why you stay with somebody. And before I tell you how to actually break the pattern, you need to know why you stay in it first, right?

[00:31:49]Understanding why you keep choosing wrong is only half of the equation. The other half is understanding why you stay even when you know it's wrong. Right?

[00:31:57]The real reason you stay is because familiar feels like love and safe feels boring. Your nervous system is making the choices for you, not your heart and not your logic. Okay? So, it's it's doing it even when you know that it's wrong. Right? This is the part that some people don't like to look at because it's the most confronting.

[00:32:20]You stay because it's the familiar.

[00:32:24]That's it. No matter how painful, it feels safer than the unknown, right?

[00:32:31]We're we're scared of the unknown.

[00:32:36]We're scared of the unknown. And for what? It's just a fear. Fear of the unknown. Okay? So, don't be scared. You can't be scared of something you don't know, right?

[00:32:46]No matter how painful, it feels safer than the unknown. So, your nervous system would rather have predictable pain than unpredictable peace. Right? Repeat that. Drill it into your head. Your nervous system would rather have predictable pain than unpredictable peace. Just let that sink sink in for a second. Okay. What is predictable pain?

[00:33:09]What is it? It's something that feels safer than h I'm trying to give an example of maybe somebody I know or maybe myself.

[00:33:24]It's just gravitating towards maybe the same toxic guy that is, you know, is not good for you, but you'd rather have that because it's just you know what to expect from him, right?

[00:33:36]what's unknown is going to the opposite of maybe the safer, more mysterious but nice guy, right? Still with a little bit of mystery, but doesn't treat you like crap. Well, you don't know what that feels like, so you'd rather gravitate towards the bad guy.

[00:33:58]Predictable pain will always feel safer than unpredictable peace. That's why people go back to the toxicity all the time. All the time. Some people say, "Oh my god, I'm so stupid. Why do I always let that happen to me?" You didn't know any better. You didn't know any better.

[00:34:13]It's not because you're stupid. So, don't say that to yourself, but recognize that there's a problem and you got to do something about it, right? You didn't know any better. Your nervous system is doing exactly what it's designed to do. Seek the familiar. Avoid the unknown. That's it.

[00:34:31]A healthy relationship though with somebody who is very consistent, emotionally available for you, genuinely good for you will feel wrong at first.

[00:34:40]It will feel boring. It will feel like something's missing. But what's missing, what's actually missing is the anxiety, the unpredictability, the the the stress, the bad tension, right? That's what's missing. And that's good. Your body has been mistaking anxiety for passion for for too long. Too long. So peace is like what? What is that? And I know that's hard to hear. I know.

[00:35:10]But this is why you leave good people sometimes, too.

[00:35:15]And stay with the wrong ones.

[00:35:18]It's a little bit of a self-sabotaging behavior, right? Because you might say, "Oh, I just I don't deserve this love."

[00:35:24]because you actually haven't learned to trust what real love feels like. You don't you don't know any better. Are you still with me? Are you still with me?

[00:35:35]Drop a little fire. Drop a little fire in the comments if you're still here.

[00:35:39]Okay, we're getting to the most most important part.

[00:35:47]Getting to the most important part.

[00:35:48]Let's see.

[00:35:52]I'm just reading reading some of you guys. Fear of being alone will keep you in a relationship. Yep, that is another reason too. Fear of being alone.

[00:36:00]Big reason. Let me know what other reasons, guys. Like why why have you maybe stayed in a relationship even when you knew it wasn't good for you? There's reasons, right?

[00:36:12]Mine was I was scared of being alone. Of course, I did not want to be alone.

[00:36:19]I didn't Codependency.

[00:36:23]Yes, that's another one.

[00:36:26]Look at all the fire. Yay. Thanks, guys.

[00:36:30]I love it. Look at all that fire. Look at all that fire. People pleasing. Yes.

[00:36:35]Codependency. Um, trauma bonded. Anxious codependent. Yes. Anxious avoidant.

[00:36:41]Anxious codependent. All that stuff.

[00:36:42]Right. Kids.

[00:36:45]That's one, too. There's a that. You guys are smart. Good job. Good job.

[00:36:51]Yeah. People stay for the kids. People stay for just the comfortability of things. It's normal. This is what you're used to.

[00:37:00]Fear that you can't get anything better.

[00:37:03]Fear that you can't work on yourself.

[00:37:05]Fear of hurting the other person.

[00:37:07]There's so many so many things I'd prefer to be alone than being with the wrong person. Good.

[00:37:14]It's very good that you think like that.

[00:37:16]It's very very good. Scared of being blackmailed. Yep. There's another one, too. I'm sorry, Jerry. Sorry, Jerry.

[00:37:29]There we go. Look at that. Fed up 63.

[00:37:32]For the men in here, to make your marriage really work, you have to be the man other men want to be and other women want. Yes. That means you have to be the best version of yourself possible.

[00:37:47]possible at the best version of yourself possible. That beautiful comment.

[00:37:51]Beautiful, beautiful comment.

[00:38:00]Ivan, you're single. Okay. Nothing wrong with that. Nothing wrong with being single. Work on yourself. Become so healed and grounded and content and happy with who you are as a man and go after it once you're there. Why not?

[00:38:17]Major truth to that statement. It is true. You want your partner to be admired by other people, right? There's nothing wrong with that. That means you have something of value. And that's that's beautiful.

[00:38:32]Be the right person.

[00:38:34]I'm 38. Hope I'm not too late. You are not too late, my dude. You're not too late. Most guys, and correct me if I'm wrong, guys, but I'm pretty sure most of you mature in your late 30s, early 40s, that's just my experience. That is just what I've learned over over the years, right? Most people, most men mature in their late 30s, early 40s, and that's amazing. That's fine. You've got it out of your system. You've done it all, seen it all, heard it all, been around the block. You have experience. It's all good. It's all good.

[00:39:14]Okay. I'm glad you guys are still with me. Thank you.

[00:39:18]Thank you. I'll tell you a little bit of my past relationships. Yes. But not not right now. But I will I will remind me towards towards the end of this live.

[00:39:26]Okay.

[00:39:29]So, how do you actually break this, guys? How do you rewire a nervous system that has been running the same program?

[00:39:38]Right? This is like a software in your brain. You've been running it for decades, years.

[00:39:45]Thank you. Thank you so much.

[00:39:50]Kisses for you. Thank you. I appreciate that. That was very generous of you. I'm glad. Thank you. I know I deviate sometimes a little bit, but it's because I really want to interact with you guys and I get a little hyper and excited.

[00:40:01]Sorry. So, anyways, anyways, how do you rewire your nervous system, right, that's been running this program for decades, many, many, many years.

[00:40:12]There's there's some specific things, okay, that actually work. And it's not theory. It's not um just saying positive affirmations to yourself. No, it's real practical steps that I use with myself and my clients. Okay, so that next segue is how we actually break this pattern. How right? Step one, you have to learn to recognize the spike that you feel in your body, right? That feeling of instant chemistry, right? So, you got to be aware. You got to be aware of that. Okay? And then you have to have boundaries. way better choices for yourself in a completely new standard with how you choose somebody for yourself. Okay? Break that pattern. That electricity that you feel when you meet somebody is not a green light. It's not It is a warning sign. It is a warning sign that you cannot ignore. You can't Don't do it. Break the pattern. Yes.

[00:41:15]Exactly.

[00:41:22]Exactly. Oh, I love it. That is not my quote, by the way. That has been said long time, for a very long time, but it's not originally quoted by me, but I love it. And that quote, again, guys, just so you know, is be the man that other men want to be and that other women want. Okay. Yeah. So, yes, breaking this pattern, we have to be so self-aware of yourself. So self-aware.

[00:41:47]Thank you. Thank you for the gift. That is so cute. The little turtle. Um, you're distracting me. You're distracting me. You're so cute. You're so cute.

[00:41:59]Okay. Anyways, that feeling not a green light, guys. Don't warning sign. That is your body saying, "Hi, hold on. Look at this sign first. Analyze it." Right?

[00:42:10]It's as information. Just as information.

[00:42:14]I want you to start treating that intense like intense immediate attraction as data as info, right? Not a step-by-step instruction of what to do and okay, let's let's pursue this. No.

[00:42:28]No. It doesn't mean don't pursue it. It just means to slow down a little bit.

[00:42:33]Just just a little bit. Get curious and ask yourself what specifically is triggering this feeling. Is this person genuinely remarkable or do they just feel familiar from something in the past? Right? Because there's a difference.

[00:42:49]You have to learn how to tell that difference though. That's the beginning of everything.

[00:42:55]Thank you for the gift. Thank you. That is so nice.

[00:42:59]That is so nice. I hope you get famous.

[00:43:03]I do too. There's almost two million of you guys across all my platforms. A little over two million. It's kind of wild. kind of wild.

[00:43:12]Okay, step two. You have to.

[00:43:18]Oh gosh. You have to grieve that blueprint, right? Like get rid of it.

[00:43:23]Goodbye. This is the step that most people miss. You hold on to the same blueprint that has gotten you here, right? And this is the most important one. You cannot break a pattern that you haven't engraved because that pattern is built on like your survival mechanisms inside of your body, right? It's kept you safe in an environment that probably wasn't. And maybe part of you believes that you still need it, but you don't.

[00:43:49]You don't. So, you have to grieve the the childhood that taught you that love was conditional, right?

[00:44:02]Grieve your parents who were unavailable for you, right? Or a parent or your caregiver or somebody, right? Grieve the version of you that learn to chase love instead of receive it or need that validation. Grieve that version of you and don't stay there. Just release it.

[00:44:22]Grieve it and release it and let it go.

[00:44:24]Let it go. Until you grieve it, your nervous system is going to keep trying to resolve it through every single relationship that you enter, guys. Every single one.

[00:44:36]It's up to you to catch it and stop it and be consistent with it and just be aware of yourself, right?

[00:44:45]Step three is Oh, thank you. Thank you, Emanuel. That was so nice. Thank you so much. Thank you. Um, step three is you have to literally practice tolerating peace, right? Because peace is one of the most unfamiliar feelings I think to 90% of the population. And that's a little sad, right? It sounds simple, but it's not. It's not. When you start dating somebody who is actually healthy for you, your body, well, I should say your nervous system is going to fight you in the beginning. It will. It's going to tell you that something is wrong. It's going to tell you, "Ah, you're bored. Leave this person." It's gonna literally create problems for you where there are literally none. There's none, right? Just to create that familiar tension, right? And it is your job.

[00:45:39]What is your job?

[00:45:41]It's to stay.

[00:45:44]It's literally to stay. To override that voice and that noise with truth. And the truth is, no, this person brings me peace. This person brings me calmness.

[00:45:53]I'm choosing this. So, just stay and breathe and recognize what's happening.

[00:45:59]And choose differently than you've ever chosen before. Peace is a skill.

[00:46:04]Stability is a skill. Healthy love is a skill. And like every skill, right, it requires practice and requires effort and a little bit of work and maybe some discomfort, too.

[00:46:24]Thank you, Hollister. Thank you so much.

[00:46:28]Thank you. That was so nice of you guys.

[00:46:31]Thank you. I really I appreciate it.

[00:46:33]Thanks. Right, guys. Just get comfortable being uncomfortable sometimes. And just sit with it for a little bit. I You hear that all the time, right? Just sit with your feelings. will freaking do it. Just sit with yourself and just be present. Be self-aware and go deep into your past and just learn about who you are as a person, please. It's okay.

[00:47:05]I'm just reading some of you guys.

[00:47:09]You guys are being very interactive this evening. I really appreciate it. Thank you so much. I really appreciate it.

[00:47:16]This is kind of like wild to me sometimes that I get to do this every week and talk to you and do something that I love and that I'm passionate about. Um, it's pretty cool. It's pretty damn cool.

[00:47:29]This is great advice. I'm glad. I'm glad this is a little master class for you guys. Okay. More women need to be more level-headed like you. Rain maker Alex.

[00:47:40]Man, it was work. I didn't just fall out of a tree like this. I'm not some freaking unicorn or no. I worked on myself heavily. And I I am fascinated by understanding the brain and people and personal relationships and just how we how we think. Psychology, right? Like men and women. Like you guys, you men are fascinating because it is you are so different than women. So different. And then women, we're freaking a little crazy. Yes. But in beautiful in our own way when it's contained and it's managed, right? And we've done the work and we've healed the best that we can and we've chose the right partner for us, right? Like we are always going to be this crazy wave and ball of emotion.

[00:48:30]That is just women. You can't turn that off. That's like telling a man to turn off his sex drive. You can't. That is your biology. It's in your DNA, right?

[00:48:39]So, it's honestly fascinating to me that we are so different, but we balance each other out and compliment each other so much when someone like a man is in his just masculine energy, all of it, right? And when a woman is soft and sweet and in her femininity, you guys compleiment each other, right?

[00:49:02]Okay. When there's two masculine energies, no. When there's two feminine energies, no. No. Do me a favor and look up the statistics on lesbian marriages and how many of them work out versus not. Just do me a favor. And we're not going to get into that, but just that'll explain a lot to you, right? Thank you, Rob.

[00:49:27]Thank you, Rob the Barbarian. I love that. Thank you so much. Very generous. Thank you.

[00:49:35]You're a fox. Thanks. Thank you.

[00:49:41]The worst stat. Yeah, I know. I'm just sorry. Like, sorry.

[00:49:47]Sorry, guys. But it's the truth. It's the truth. Wish my wife of 37 years thought the same way as you about intimacy. Thinking about therapy soon.

[00:49:57]Individual therapy or couples. like you want to go if that is the root cause of intimacy. I think you should go to someone that specializes in that like maybe like a sexologist too that help educate you more on sex and pleasure and intimacy too because there it's there's layers man there's layers and it's it gets deep. It gets very deep. I don't think you need therapy. I just think you need to talk. You need to have the uncomfortable conversations and you need to talk to each other and be vulnerable.

[00:50:25]Be open. be real and strip your ego down and your walls and get closer with your partner and just talk. I believe if everybody did that, you wouldn't need to go to therapy. You wouldn't need to go to counseling. But at the same time, you have to ask yourself if this is the right person for you anyways, too, right? There's so many factors. So many factors. Thank you, Emanuel. Thank you.

[00:50:46]Thank you. Thank you.

[00:50:48]Appreciate it.

[00:50:50]Appreciate it.

[00:50:54]I'm talking to you guys as a friend.

[00:50:57]Yes. As a coach, yes. As a mentor, yes, educator, whatever. Or just a regular human being. Like, I need to talk to you directly for a second. Okay?

[00:51:07]Like, I have lived in every single thing that I just described. I have. I'm not just talking out of my ass. Like, I have lived it. I've been in relationships where I walked all over him or got taken advantage of and just used because I made myself available, right? Like it's there's reasons why we do things like that. There are reasons and that's why I try to explain these things to you guys, right? I was the woman who chose chaos.

[00:51:38]I was her or who walked all over walked all over somebody, right? left maybe somebody stable because they felt boring, stayed with unavailable ones because that chase, oh my gosh, was electric and it felt fun and it was I thought it was love and all this crap. No, I confused anxiety with passion for years. And it cost me it cost me time and peace and versions of myself that I'll probably well not probably I'll never get back.

[00:52:12]I'll never get back. It wasn't until I did the work like the real real work until that's when things started to change, right?

[00:52:26]That's when things started to change.

[00:52:30]Understanding my own blueprint, so to speak. All of you, all of you have a blueprint. You need to understand it through and through. That is when everything is going to change for you.

[00:52:44]It doesn't maybe excuse some things that you've done. It never will. The past is the past. Things that have happened happened. But they're it's just data.

[00:52:52]It's just information to help you get better in the future. That's it. And you can't dwell on it. You can't.

[00:53:04]Three men listening to you here in Seattle tonight in my Kingdom Mountain living room. Yay. Yay. Thanks, guys.

[00:53:11]Appreciate it.

[00:53:15]That's called daddy issues. Lauren, your daddy is your first love. Thank you for calling me out. Yep. Yes, it is. Yes, it is. For a man, your mother is your first love. For a girl, your father is your first love. That is the first one. The only first reference that you will ever have.

[00:53:41]What was a turning point that made you want to change? Oh man, that's a loaded question because it wasn't just one situation. I was just so unhappy. I was so miserable. I was anxious, depressed, um had no self-esteem.

[00:54:00]I was giving myself and my energy to just people who didn't deserve it. and I didn't want to do that anymore. So, I just started working on myself by going to the gym, getting healthier, surrounding myself with better people, um stopped drinking, started eating better, um all these things. Daddy issues. What's that, Melissa?

[00:54:24]Good one. Good one.

[00:54:27]So, yeah, guys, figure out what your blueprint is.

[00:54:31]Best advice I can give you. Once you do, everything is going to change. You will become a different person. Right? I became a different person. I could finally recognize real love when it showed up. Real support, real connection, all these things. Real, not just what you thought was real, right?

[00:54:54]I also started to recognize when um I didn't need chaos to feel alive. If I didn't need the crazy highs and the crazy lows, absolutely not.

[00:55:09]I could finally sit in peace, right?

[00:55:11]Without running from it. That is available to you, too. Like literally right now. Not after more therapy. Not after the next relationship. Just now.

[00:55:21]And it's the moment that you decide that you're freaking done. like done trying to solve resolve your childhood, right, through the wrong people. That's you have to say, you know what? F it. I'm done. I'm done. But you have to make a conscious choice and you have to catch it. How often will you go live, Lauren?

[00:55:43]I go live every Thursday at 700 p.m.

[00:55:46]Pacific Standard Time. And I'm working on adding a second day. But guys, I am just I don't want to be stretched too thin to where this starts to feel like a job. But it's it's coming. More is coming. I'm going to start doing it on Tik Tok, too, I think. Let me know if you'd want that also. Um Tik Tok and YouTube at different times.

[00:56:06]And I was thinking in the morning, too, because I know there's some people in like England and Australia, and oh my gosh, there's there's a lot of you guys.

[00:56:14]There's a lot. But yeah, I plan on doing it um twice a week, too. one with my husband and one just me. That's also another thought, too. Tell me if you would like that as well.

[00:56:26]Thank you, Emanuel. Thank you.

[00:56:28]Appreciate it. You're a doll. Thank you so much. This is very generous of you.

[00:56:34]Okay, we are going to go a little bit into the next segue. Okay, just just just a tad.

[00:56:44]We're going to go full circle recap.

[00:56:46]Okay. So, you can finally find your person, the right person for you guys.

[00:56:53]You're not unlucky with love. You're not broken. You're not cursed. You're not patterned. You're not any of this stuff, okay? You're not. You are just extremely patterned. And patterns can be changed, right? But only when you stop blaming the people who triggered them and start looking at the actual system that keeps choosing them. And that's you. Your nervous system is not your enemy. It literally is doing the best that it could.

[00:57:21]It's doing the best that it could with what it was given. Right? You know better now. You know better now.

[00:57:36]Just reading. Oh, thank you. Okay. Why question? Oh, where'd it go? Oh my gosh.

[00:57:44]Where'd it go? There it is. Okay. Why do women treat sex as something they give to a relationship? To a man, a partnership often feels like a restriction on his sex life. With the right woman, you won't feel that, right?

[00:58:00]You won't feel it. Sex carries a different weight, right, for women than it does men.

[00:58:07]It's men value intimacy differently than than women, right? It's not that women don't enjoy sex. Like they they do, right? But for women, sex is deeply tied to how safe she feels with you emotionally, not just physically, right?

[00:58:22]How much she trusts you, how how much you guys bond, right? So sex can be and it usually is intertwined with with all of that stuff, right? That is her security. She needs that. But men, men are just sexually driven. It's your biology, right? And it can feel like you are limiting your your options. I understand that men are wired for variety.

[00:58:49]Men are wired for variety. It's in your DNA. It's in you. Okay? Understand that.

[00:58:54]That is why your woman needs to be your full gosh, your full outlet for fantasy and pleasure. She needs to fulfill that for you. And vice versa, you need to be able to please her in all all ways. All always all ways. Right? Women respond to how you make them feel. I say that on repeat all the time because it's the truest truth, right?

[00:59:24]The healthiest relationships though, guys, are when neither neither sex, neither side weaponizes anything, right? No, you don't want to do that ever. You don't want to weaponize sex. You don't want to start um using sex as a bargaining chip.

[00:59:43]And women typically do that, right?

[00:59:46]And a big one is your commitment to to somebody. It should never feel like a prison. It should never feel like you're trapped. It should just be getting better and better and better.

[01:00:00]So, I hope that I hope that answers your question.

[01:00:05]Get Mr. P on the show. He'll come. He'll come at the end. If you guys want him to come on, let me know. Like, let me know right now. Do you want him in on this live for a little bit or not? Just let me know. If not, it's okay. Just simple yes, no. But I plan on doing it twice a week. One with him, me and him, and one just with me. No. You guys are funny.

[01:00:29]You guys are funny.

[01:00:35]Would love a show with you and your hubs. Yeah, we've done a couple and it I thought it went really well just to hear the masculine's perspective of things, too.

[01:00:51]Sex is heavily tied into pair bonding for a woman. Yeah, of course. Women bond through sex. We do. we release um oxytocin and vasopressin, those hormones when we have sex. So, even if you're just hooking up with somebody casually, the woman is more likely than not going to catch feelings for you and going to be attracted to you. She just will. She will. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yay. Yes. For some truth bombs. Yes. Ha. Ask him question, guys. Like, he is the most unhinged, unfiltered man that I know.

[01:01:25]Okay. He'll come on. He will come on.

[01:01:27]and I'll send him um I'll send him a text.

[01:01:31]I'll answer a few of your um few of your questions, guys. I don't know where I just rearranged my my desk. I'm going to have to adjust the camera a little bit so we can both get in the frame.

[01:01:45]Oh, bye Melissa. Have a good night's sleep. Thank you for joining in. This is recorded, by the way. It's recorded and it'll be published so you can watch it later, too. Right?

[01:01:56]You guys need to also realize too that you're responsible for finding better for yourself. Like the right relationship is not going to find you.

[01:02:02]It's not just going to fall into your lap. Ours didn't. We worked for this.

[01:02:07]Like we didn't know that it was going to be us together. Like it was just beautiful how how our rel our relationship started. And I've talked excuse me I've talked about that before.

[01:02:19]But it is your responsibility to become that person that will just naturally attract the right person for you. Right?

[01:02:26]You can't run the old program anymore.

[01:02:28]My husband says this analogy all the time like you have to think of the year that you were born, right? That is the year of the software that you have in your brain, right? So 1994, that's my year. Okay? My husband is 77. Okay? That is the software you have downloaded into your brain. You need to download a new software into 2026 software, right, for your brain. That's going to take some time. You got freaking 1994 and 199 or 1977 brain. You have to erase and download a new software by learning about yourself by doing your individual therapy if you need to by dabbling in psychedelics for healing and trauma and growth, personal development, all that stuff. Hypnotherapy, there's many tools out there for you to go deep within yourself. You just have to one want it. Okay, accept that you need a new software and that work starts now.

[01:03:31]It starts today, not tomorrow. Not after another wrong relationship, not after the first of the year. Like, no, today.

[01:03:40]That's exactly what I do with people.

[01:03:43]Most of my clients are with me three to six months, maybe a year, like maybe, and then, okay, bye. Like, you're you're good. You've graduated. You've I'm about to have such an amazing testimonial. And if you're watching right now, you know who you are. You know who you are. If you're watching, I'm gonna call you out because I think we talk next week on on Monday or Tuesday.

[01:04:07]He's one of my best clients right now.

[01:04:10]I'm so proud of him. He's been working with me since December and it's just been amazing to watch him flourish. I'm going to use that word because he has and he's listened to everything that I've said and he is feeling good, looking good, acting different. It's just just six months of work. Like, okay, beautiful. Like, invest in your health, guys. Invest in this. Like, this is free. I understand. And I want to make it as valuable as I can for you with all the meat and potatoes that you can. So, you can go back and and um and watch and learn and and listen, right?

[01:04:44]But you have to invest in yourself. You just have to. The best coaches have coaches. I can't even tell you how many probably hundreds and thousands of dollars I've spent on courses and coaches and mentors and therapy, hypnotherapy. Like, it's the best thing you can do is invest in yourself and your health. You have a dream and a goal, freaking go for it. Go for it. We are all going to die one of these days.

[01:05:11]We're all going to die.

[01:05:14]Go live your life how you want to live it. But heal yourself. Become a better person. help somebody else become a better person. Start that that domino effect, right? It's the best thing that you can do.

[01:05:29]I've applied so much of what you've told us on your shorts. Thank you. Thank you.

[01:05:33]I'm glad. Like, I know it's a minute and a half to three minutes of me talking on the shorts, but I try to condense it as much as possible with all the boom boom boom like the truth bombs so you can leave with something valuable, right?

[01:05:46]Like, and guys, also a lot of comments and messages I get are, "Hey, you posted a video about this topic this one time.

[01:05:53]Um, can you send it to me?"

[01:05:57]No. Why? Let me tell you, because you can literally go on Google and type flourish with Lauren and whatever the title or a couple keywords and it will pop up. It will like my search engine on Google is insane. So, if you are thinking of a video that you had watched maybe months ago, it's there. Just flourish with Lauren um the man who healed alone or how to be more feminine.

[01:06:22]Like, it's there and all of them will pop up. So, just go go and do that.

[01:06:30]77 was a damn good year. I wouldn't know. I wasn't around. Wasn't around.

[01:06:39]Do you have a top three of your favorite books relating to dating and relationships? Um, so there is Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. That one's pretty straight to straight to the point and pretty straightforward. Um, The Queen's Code by Allison Armstrong.

[01:06:57]That one's wonderful. Um, there's The Mountain is You. That's not necessarily a relationship book. That's more of like a personal development book. It's uh by um Brianna West. The mountain is You by Brianna West. There's um Letting Go, and I am forgetting the author, but it's a white and yellow book. Letting go is the title. And then The Rational Mail by Rolo Tamasi. That's a great book, too.

[01:07:23]That's something that um you men should get as well. Um I am reading that because it's helping me understand men a little bit more too from a man male perspective, right? So, I would look um I would look I would look into all of those and I'm sure there's more. Those are just the first ones that are um popping into my head.

[01:07:47]Okay, I'm just reading some of you guys.

[01:07:49]Are you comfortable with AI channels impersonating you? Can you take any action? So, I'm working on trying to get all them taken down. All you can really do is report it and just say that they're impersonating me. But it's a public platform, you know, so people can take content and use it and manipulate it and but yeah, I I know that there's a ton. They're not me. The only YouTube channel is this one because I have a check mark. I'm verified. The only Tik Tok channel I have is um Flourish with Lauren as well or Flourish with Lauren for you. That's the only Tik Tok. And then Facebook is just my name, Lauren Pon, Flourish with Lauren. Instagram as well is is flourish with Lauren, right?

[01:08:28]So, just so you can see. Just so you can see, that's Instagram. Go ahead and get over there.

[01:08:35]Hit me with a follow. There is Facebook as well. You can hit me with a follow there. Um, I just started posting on Rumble also. Um, so more more of my content is going to be on there. And I might start be doing some lives there as well um on Rumble because I can be a little more unfiltered and unhinged and interact more with you guys in a unfiltered way. Right. That's Tik Tok.

[01:08:59]And then obviously YouTube, hit the subscribe button, please, please, please, please.

[01:09:06]Appreciate it. Men read My Secret Garden. I've heard of that. I've heard of that, but I have not read it.

[01:09:14]We're going to graduate. Yes, you are.

[01:09:16]Letting go. Great read, right? Such a good book. Such a good book.

[01:09:27]Oh, I haven't heard of some of these books, guys. Thank you for letting me know.

[01:09:32]Map of consciousness. I love it. There's like shadow work books that you can read, too. Just it's understanding more of like a spiritual side of things, too.

[01:09:41]I like learning um from all of that.

[01:09:49]RLO's second book, Preventative Medicine, has much more meat to it than Rational Mail. Okay, good to know. Good to know, Nick. Thank you. I um I've just read The Rational Mail. I'm not done with it yet, but that's the only one that I've started, but it's um it's pretty it's there's a lot of meat of meat and potatoes in there as well. But good to know that his second book is is better. I'll I'll take a look. I appreciate it.

[01:10:17]Yes, I know. I have a lot of knockoff channels, guys. Okay. I'm just um Any other questions for me? Please let me know. Okay. Please let me know.

[01:10:27]Good point. Books do not change anybody's life. They get you to start questioning things or point you in a new direction, but no books get you moving forward and getting you through a door.

[01:10:37]100%.

[01:10:39]100 million%. You can listen to all the podcasts, read all the books, work with mentors and coaches too. But it is up to you to make it happen for yourself. No one can force you to do anything. They can guide you and lead you like me. I can help you and give you the blueprint to change your life. I've done it with myself. I've done it with my dad. I've done it with many of my clients and people that are working with me right now one-on-one and I keep a very select small group of people one-on-one because one it's energy I give my time energy effort everything you get all of me and I can't do that if I have 50 plus of you so no my coaching circle is very small it's very selective and it is only for people who are ready for radical transformation and radical change and radical accountability, right? Like I don't just take anybody on. You have to kind of pass my test, right? My my interview and vice versa. Like you have to like me and we have to vibe and you have to be willing to go through the ringer with me because it's going to be intense. It's going to be probably quicker than expected because I don't want you forever. You don't need me forever. If that is happening, I'm not doing my job right or you're not doing your job right. Simple. Simple. It's okay. You have to vibe with the person though.

[01:12:16]Radical acceptance. Yes.

[01:12:23]You just got to jump in. Exactly.

[01:12:26]Exactly. Don't let any fear or anything hold you back at all. at all. Okay, I'm going to bring in I'm gonna bring in Mr. Pon.

[01:12:38]I'm gonna bring in Mr. Pon. What do we think?

[01:12:42]Thank you. Thank you so much. Happy Thursday to you, too.

[01:12:47]Thank you. That was so generous. Okay, Mr. Pon's coming in. Mr. Pon is coming in. Let me text him.

[01:12:56]Let me text him.

[01:12:59]Oh, I hear him coming.

[01:13:03]He's coming, guys. He's coming. Have your questions ready, okay? Like, take this opportunity to ask him anything. As you know, we are freaking unfiltered, unapologetically ourselves, love to talk, love to give advice. So, please ask questions. Use this opportunity to Don't be shy.

[01:13:25]Sorry. Sorry. Can you hear me?

[01:13:29]Don't be shy.

[01:13:33]Sounds like we're volunteering for special forces. Why? No. Don't be scared. Don't be scared.

[01:13:39]Don't be scared. He's blunt, guys.

[01:13:41]Blunt, honest, direct, to the point, harsh truth sometimes. Right, baby?

[01:14:00]I'm good. Thank you for asking. What do you do after an argument? Have sex.

[01:14:09]Okay, he's coming. I get so excited when he comes, guys. I turn into a little girl when I'm around him, as many of you have told me that before. I turn into a little girl because he just makes me feel so good, man. And he's like, he's an intense dude. He's an intense dude.

[01:14:40]South Korean romcoms are funny. That's funny. We watch some movies sometimes that are in um different languages like European movies or um like Russian Russian movies too. It's they're intense. They're funny.

[01:14:56]He's here.

[01:15:07]>> Turn off your thing.

[01:15:14]Mr. Pon's here, guys.

[01:15:18]>> What do you need?

[01:15:20]>> Nothing. I uh >> Well, I need to check.

[01:15:25]>> Yeah. Well, do you want to just sit here because I'm going to adjust the camera a little bit because you can only see here. So, just sit here.

[01:15:36]>> But I'm going to take over your show.

[01:15:37]No.

[01:15:38]>> No. But you can't.

[01:15:39]>> I want to over your shell.

[01:15:41]>> You can't They can't see you. Get a >> I'll get a chair.

[01:15:44]>> Okay. Maybe move this.

[01:15:47]>> Oh, that's fine.

[01:15:50]>> Hi, Mr. Pon. They're saying hi to you.

[01:15:52]>> Oh, say hi.

[01:15:59]>> Is that it?

[01:16:00]>> Yeah. Okay. Here.

[01:16:02]>> Okay.

[01:16:04]>> It's a little high, huh? Bring you lower.

[01:16:06]>> You have to sit on it.

[01:16:08]>> Okay.

[01:16:11]Perfect. I'm a ghost.

[01:16:15]>> Okay. I look tiny >> cuz I can't scoot over anymore.

[01:16:18]>> Huh?

[01:16:19]>> I can't scoot over anymore. That's why I was going to >> No, it's okay.

[01:16:23]>> A little bit.

[01:16:24]>> Okay, >> there he is.

[01:16:29]>> Okay, >> you can do it more. You can move it more.

[01:16:33]>> More. Okay.

[01:16:35]>> The mythical creature.

[01:16:36]>> Man, my nose looks so big.

[01:16:39]Jesus Christ, they look gigantic.

[01:16:42]>> Cuz they got your side profile.

[01:16:44]>> Look at that. Look at that nose, >> guys. He's gotten hit in the face a lot.

[01:16:49]>> Huh?

[01:16:49]>> I said you've gotten hit in the face a lot. He's a martial arts his whole life.

[01:16:52]So, >> yeah.

[01:16:54]>> He >> I um I have something for your fans.

[01:16:59]>> Oh, you do?

[01:17:00]>> Yeah. I'm going to upload it right now.

[01:17:02]It's a a little PDF of what you just presented here >> and and I want you to put it on the >> in the chat.

[01:17:10]>> Yeah. So, I'm going to create a >> I'm going to share it with you guys.

[01:17:15]>> A Google Drive right now for them.

[01:17:17]>> I know I'm far from the mic. I'm sorry.

[01:17:20]I'm sorry. Is that better? Oh, no.

[01:17:22]That's in the way.

[01:17:23]>> Okay. What's the name of your of your life?

[01:17:28]What was the name? Why you >> why you >> attract >> attract what else?

[01:17:38]>> The wrong relationship.

[01:17:41]>> No, that's not the name.

[01:17:43]You forgot the name of your own.

[01:17:47]>> Oh, why you always attract the wrong partner?

[01:17:49]>> Why you always attract >> the wrong partner?

[01:17:52]>> Attract the wrong partner.

[01:17:55]Wrong partner. Okay.

[01:17:59]Yeah, perfect.

[01:18:01]So, you can um >> Hi, Mr. Ponai. Pleasure meeting you both. I enjoy the vibe. Sent $2. Thank you so much.

[01:18:08]>> Oh, nice.

[01:18:08]>> Thank you.

[01:18:10]>> Yeah, one day or day one. That's what his shirt says. Perfect shirt, right?

[01:18:14]One day or day one.

[01:18:15]>> So, I'm going to send it to the computer and then you will upload it into the >> Okay.

[01:18:21]>> into the chat.

[01:18:24]>> Just text it to me.

[01:18:27]>> It's there.

[01:18:29]Can you give them a link so they can look? It's it's a PDF. I was doing that.

[01:18:36]>> Yeah, you need to send the Google Drive link.

[01:18:40]>> Okay, here.

[01:18:43]And here, upload file, photos, and videos.

[01:18:47]>> I'm going to send you guys something so you can >> go back and reference.

[01:18:54]Thanks, Jerry. Thank you. Oh, you guys are so sweet.

[01:18:58]>> Oh, yeah. It's here.

[01:19:01]Upload. Okay. So, >> wait. You have to wait until it's uploaded.

[01:19:05]>> Yeah, it's here.

[01:19:06]>> Yeah.

[01:19:08]>> Okay. So, I'm going to share it.

[01:19:12]>> Just text it to me.

[01:19:13]>> Share.

[01:19:14]No, I can't. Manage access.

[01:19:18]>> No.

[01:19:18]>> Yeah, it has to be for everybody.

[01:19:20]Otherwise, it's going to be restricted.

[01:19:22]Anyone with the link.

[01:19:24]>> And then copy link.

[01:19:25]>> Okay. All right, share it with your people. Okay, it's ready.

[01:19:30]>> We're both not that great at technology, guys.

[01:19:32]>> No, we're good. It just takes time.

[01:19:36]>> Okay, what do they want to know?

[01:19:42]>> Second. Do one thing at a time.

[01:19:46]>> Did you text it to me?

[01:19:48]>> It's there in your text. Look in your screen.

[01:19:54]>> Cool. go on the top and put command C and command V and then you copy paste or double click there on the top command C >> I know >> and share it with your guys and tell them that you're you know sharing >> well you can you're already talking I already said it >> they're real people >> okay guys I'm pinning this message so you can use this to go back and reference >> from this live. Okay. Please let me know if you can click on it and open it.

[01:20:35]Please let me know.

[01:20:41]Please let me know. Can you open the file?

[01:20:49]>> Check it out.

[01:20:51]>> Just did good. Good. It's a little takeaway, you know, so I can live with something.

[01:20:58]Um, you're going to do this every life that you have from now on.

[01:21:07]Yeah. Looks cool, huh?

[01:21:09]>> Mhm.

[01:21:10]Link works good.

[01:21:11]>> Yeah. So, they can have a little, you know, like manual so I can remember what you were talking about.

[01:21:25]Thank you for the donation, dynamic duo.

[01:21:30]Thank you. I think so.

[01:21:32]>> Oh, that's so cool. Yeah, it works. I'm so happy.

[01:21:36]>> Yeah, I'm I'm so glad it worked for you guys. I just designed it pretty fast.

[01:21:43]Next time it'll be better.

[01:21:44]>> Any questions, guys? Ask your questions.

[01:21:46]This is time to ask anything. Anything you want to know?

[01:21:53]>> Oh, that's so nice. They're giving you donations.

[01:21:55]>> I know. I appreciate it.

[01:21:57]>> Dynamic D. Oh, thank you. Alas, Alas, what? Alas Dynamis.

[01:22:06]Alas, I can't pronounce. That's cool.

[01:22:09]That's so nice.

[01:22:12]>> Hello, sir. Psychedelics. How to start and how to get your partner on board.

[01:22:18]>> Okay. How to start? You have to start on your own. I don't know if you're a man or a woman.

[01:22:24]Either way, it's a solo journey. You can do it with someone, but it's better when you do it alone and start little a micro do. Go a little by little more. Do a research and then do a macro dose. When you do a macro dose, that's when you're going to discover so much about yourself. It's like reading a book about yourself. That to me what a micro micro do of psychedelics do. Imagine going to a library, big library, and the librarian tells you, "Hey, this is the best book we have."

[01:23:02]And it's an old big ancient book.

[01:23:05]Imagine like the never- ending story. I don't know if you watch that movie. I'm pretty I'm pretty sure I'm the oldest one in here. And then you're reading that book and that book is about yourself and knowledge that you didn't know about yourself and your parents and everything. So that is what a macro psychedelics do. Once you get that knowledge, then you guide your partner into doing it herself or himself. You sit sit them. You know, you're a sitter.

[01:23:34]And then you guys start doing it together. That's what me and Lauren do.

[01:23:39]We do it together.

[01:23:42]>> Lauren, my play question is, how does a woman know if she likes you in the first 20 seconds of meeting?

[01:23:48]I mean, she's analyzing you in the first 20 seconds of meeting. She's watching how you hold yourself, your body language, um, how she feels in your presence, right?

[01:24:01]Your voice in 20 seconds. It's I mean you can correct me if I'm wrong, but it's hard to sell if she likes you, but she can be into you. She could be feeding off of your vibe, but she's not going to like you right away. She's just going to read you and read your read your energy. Just have some natural curiosity.

[01:24:24]Mhm.

[01:24:32]>> What happened to all the women who had morals and self-respect?

[01:24:40]>> What is to me?

[01:24:42]>> What happened to all the women who had moral who have morals and self-respect?

[01:24:46]>> Where is that? Where is that comment?

[01:24:48]>> Right here.

[01:24:50]>> Never mind.

[01:24:52]What happened to all the good men? What happened to all the women who have morals and self-respect?

[01:24:59]>> I don't know what they mean.

[01:25:01]>> Where are all the women that have morals and self-respect? Where are they? What happened to them?

[01:25:06]>> They're they're all over the world.

[01:25:08]You're just not finding them because you're just looking at the worst of the worst. And your algorithm is showing you the crappiest of the crap. There's tons of great women. I I I understand when men say, "Oh, women nowadays." It's like, "No, that's women that you're looking on your algorithm." There's a lot of amazing women a lot everywhere.

[01:25:32]You're just not looking at them. You know, you're probably working at the bakery, your cashier, at Ralph's.

[01:25:39]>> They went to Only Fans.

[01:25:43]>> But that's not true.

[01:25:44]>> No.

[01:25:45]>> The amount of women that that are in Only Fans is what? 1% 2% men. You have >> That's not the average woman.

[01:25:53]>> Yeah. You have 90 plus of women. It's it's it's amazing how to me the media um convinces people of of of some u agenda that they have. That's that's not true.

[01:26:07]That's not true. I know a lot of women like popular culture think that's cool.

[01:26:12]But once you're alone with a woman, just along you and her, they're not like that. When they're with their friends, it's different because the peer pressure, but you're alone with them like say walking to the beach. She's not going to act like anything. She's going to be herself. You have to be good enough in order to strip the costume that she's wearing and get to find the real girl within herself.

[01:26:34]>> As a man, do you care about body count?

[01:26:37]>> Yes, of course you should care about body count because the more partners a woman has, the less her ability to bond with you.

[01:26:47]So yeah, it matters a lot. Like a lot.

[01:26:54]>> What is your advice for someone who has a crush on a girl, but he doesn't have the balls to talk to her?

[01:27:01]>> You go and talk to her, buddy.

[01:27:03]>> Well, that happened to me. It happens to everybody.

[01:27:06]>> Happens to every guy. You just have to do it anyway.

[01:27:09]>> At the other side of fear, it's where your dreams are. Mhm.

[01:27:13]>> So what I I I used to be shy when I was a kid and uh in my country guys are very aggressive. Yeah. Like they're sharks.

[01:27:28]So if you're not aggressive, you're going to be left behind. You're not going to eat any fish, so to speak. So you got to have some balls. approach her and you're going to probably be nervous and you're going to shake and you're gonna act stupid and it's okay and she might reject you. Okay, it's going to hurt. But then guess what? You have to do it again and then you do it again and you did so many times. I remember being rejected so many times, but so many times that I got used to it. So I was immune. So I wasn't scared anymore. So that's what you need to do. It's reps at the gym, right? When you're lifting with weights, you lift and oh my god, the next day you're sore, it hurts. The next time you start lifting again and again and again, you get used to it and then you start increasing the weight and then you get better and then you build muscles. Same way you have to do the same thing. So everything that it's worth having is going to be difficult whether it's um you know taking off a big wave that you want to surf, you're scared, you take off and then you fall and it sucks and you think you're going to drown. But then with practice, you end up surfing that way. The same in a ramp and a skateboard, the same sparring in the gym, whether it's ski boxing, same jiu-jitsu, whatever you want to do is the same freaking thing. You just have to do it and say in your mind, okay, it's going to suck. Fine, it's going to suck. I don't care. Do it.

[01:28:50]>> How to take that crucial leap of faith when it would require me to leave everything behind. I have the knowledge.

[01:28:57]Been practicing, applying, and growing daily for the last three years.

[01:29:03]the same thing I was just saying.

[01:29:04]>> Yeah.

[01:29:05]>> You you have to >> face the fear.

[01:29:07]>> You have to understand that you're going to die.

[01:29:12]Yeah. The the movie ends with you dying.

[01:29:15]You just die. That's it. We already know how it ends. The beginning you were born. So what you do in between is what matters. So you can literally do whatever you want because you're going to die anyway. So go fail. Lose your house. Lose your money. Okay, start from scratch. It's a movie. No problem. You can respond all the time like a video game. So yeah, start seeing your life like that.

[01:29:43]>> Getting back to the gym, train to failure, 4 day split or more functional training to keep joint health long term.

[01:29:51]Not looking to do competition.

[01:29:52]>> Yeah. Yeah. Take care of your joints. Do that. Yeah, I agree. strength train and do your mobility and stretching and recovery, all that too, but build some muscle.

[01:30:02]>> The comment is funny. Mr. Pon, I'm single. Should I stay single for the rest of my life?

[01:30:11]No.

[01:30:12]Why would you stay single for the rest of your life? Are you crazy? Women are beautiful. They're amazing. They're like, we need women. They can be a pain in the ass. So you can complain all day about them, but we need women. You cannot exist without women. Unless you want to become a monk and live in the Tibet and meditate and I don't think that's going to happen to you. Then there are choices to marry your hand. I don't think you're going to like being married to your hand whether it's left or right. So no, don't stay single. Work on yourself. When you're single, you're with yourself.

[01:30:46]Work on yourself. Get better. Become the kind of man every woman wants to be with. That's it. That's the code. It's easy. No, it's hard. Yeah. But it's worth it. You have your whole life to become that. So don't be discourage. Go ahead.

[01:31:11]The other side of your fears are where your dreams are. Mr. P say >> always.

[01:31:15]>> Yep. Why can't women take accountability for anything?

[01:31:20]because it's not hardwired in their system.

[01:31:24]Women cannot take accountability because back in the day uh if a woman would be reprimmended and this happened to men too, they'll be kicked out of the group. Yeah. And for a woman to survive without the group, it's impossible because they don't have the strength of a man. They cannot hand like a man. So, it's hardwired. It's really hard for them to take accountability.

[01:31:52]But, I mean, we're 2026. They need to learn on how to take accountability.

[01:31:57]And some women do like this one, right?

[01:32:02]Sometimes her default is no. But eventually, she comes to her senses like, "Yeah, I was wrong." You know, I do the same thing.

[01:32:11]>> So, that's why it's hard. Don't hate women for that. It's biological. It's like women hating men. Why that do men always have to look every time a girl with big boobies or nice legs or big booty walks and she's curvy or she's young and you just have to look. Why do we just have to look? Because we're perves. No, it's biology. We're wired to look for the most fertile young female who's going to give us kids. The same freaking thing with accountability with women. It's the same.

[01:32:40]>> Thank you for the donation. What practical tips to help somebody stay calm, focused, confident, and warm during difficult conversations, especially with loved ones?

[01:32:52]>> Is Is that a man or a woman?

[01:32:54]>> I I don't know. But for me, like you need to just slow everything down first. Like just be calm.

[01:33:04]Don't react right away. and be confident in what you're talking about and hold your ground and enforce your your boundaries still, but it's it's it's hard and it takes practice.

[01:33:17]>> Takes practice. It's not just going to happen. It's um something you have to learn. It's a skill.

[01:33:22]>> You're going to get triggered.

[01:33:24]>> You will.

[01:33:24]>> It's just again reps at the gym. You're not going to get triggered. You have to catch yourself. It's going to suck. Next time it's going to suck less. Next time it's going to suck less and less and less. Can you train yourself? How do you can you have difficult conversations? By having difficult conversations. How >> you need to listen. Sorry for interrupting you. Listen to understand them, not to get your point across.

[01:33:47]Listen to understand the person because they're talking in a language that is completely different than your language.

[01:33:53]You need to figure out what they're trying to say to you. And that is your job to not get reactive or defensive or defend your ego right away. Listen to what they're trying to say and ask questions. I don't understand what you're trying to say. Can you help me?

[01:34:07]Simple. Without getting all flustered and reactive and emotional.

[01:34:11]>> If I say that, you're gonna get mad.

[01:34:14]>> Dude, no, I won't. I'll get mad if you go keep trying to prove your damn point to me all the time and you don't ask me that question.

[01:34:21]>> I understand what you're saying, Lori. I I You're like, >> it's how you say it. It's how you say it. If you're sweet and not a jerk, >> Yeah.

[01:34:30]>> then Yeah. It's like if if you ask that question with attitude like like combative, she's going to get mad.

[01:34:37]>> Even more mad. But if you literally say, "Honey, like, can you just get me to understand what you're trying to say to me? I really just don't understand it.

[01:34:46]It's the tone of freaking voice."

[01:34:48]>> Yeah.

[01:34:48]>> It's the tone of voice.

[01:34:50]>> Or let her vent.

[01:34:51]>> Yeah.

[01:34:52]>> And then maybe you'll get it.

[01:34:53]>> Just suck it up. Suck it up. Breathe.

[01:34:56]And then ask her, "Honey, I know you're mad. I know you hate me right now or you want to punch me in the face. Like, >> don't say I know you're mad because I can't stand when he says that. I know you're mad. Nope. Don't tell me how I'm feeling.

[01:35:11]>> Yeah.

[01:35:11]>> Don't tell me how I'm feeling. Women don't want to be told how they're feeling. They just want to feel and they want you to listen to that and be calm and suck it up. That's what we want.

[01:35:22]Does it mean it's right? No. We're freaking psychopaths sometimes. We're a lot, but you chose us for a reason. So, you have to put up with it and you have to figure us out. And what calms us down right away.

[01:35:36]>> Do you see how I got calm and quiet when she was like, you know, that's what you do. You just calm >> when I was what? When I was what?

[01:35:43]>> Making your point.

[01:35:44]>> Yeah. You know, >> let me >> and and then you're like, "Okay, baby."

[01:35:48]You know, you grab her leg.

[01:35:50]>> I what I say when we're having argument, I I always tell her she's crying. She's like, you know, going nuts. I tell her, you know, I love you, right? She's like, you know, I love you. She's like, yeah, I love you. Okay, I love you. And then once you drop that love bomb, the the water start coming down and then you can ask question, please help me understand what are you saying? So, be smart. You know, you're a guy, throw that love bomb. It's like giving her flowers or a kiss or a teddy bear or or a chocolate.

[01:36:22]And a woman can do the same thing with the guys like that. like, "Baby, baby, like I love you. You know, you're my man. You know, you're my man, right? You know, you're so strong. You know, I love you." Or, "You drive me crazy in bed or whatever." She's going to come down. And then you guys talk. It's practice. You got to understand how trigger she gets or or what are her triggers. What are the words you can use? You know, >> how about say calm down? Never ever the calm down. Yeah. You need to calm down just escalated it even more. adding gasoline to the fire. Wrong thing to say.

[01:36:57]>> Exactly.

[01:36:57]>> Even though, yeah, she does need to calm down, but that's not how you >> say it. She obviously can't >> calm down.

[01:37:07]>> Got to figure it out.

[01:37:08]>> From Australia. That's so cool. I like Australia.

[01:37:11]>> Good day.

[01:37:12]>> Australia.

[01:37:12]>> Want to visit Australia.

[01:37:13]>> How's my accent?

[01:37:15]>> Want to visit Australia. So cool.

[01:37:17]Is it good or bad for the man to compliment a woman if he's trying to get her number or have her to get to know you?

[01:37:28]>> What again? Is it good >> for a man to compliment a woman if he's trying to get her number or have her get to know you?

[01:37:36]>> No, compliment her. They love it. It's how you say it and when you say it. You know, if you would tell her, "Oh my god, I want to tell you, you're so pretty. If you don't have your number, you're an idiot. Don't don't say that. Don't just don't even approach her if that's your line. Just go. It's all about the energy, you know. It's like, "Hey, I want to tell you that dress looks fire on you. I I can't stop, but you know, oh my god, they're great.

[01:38:04]Thank you." And >> you probably know this already. Throw in like a little joke.

[01:38:09]>> Yeah. And then just talk to her and then at the end you tell her, "Hey, you know, let's grab some coffee.

[01:38:15]give me your number and then yeah, you call her, whatever. I I honestly don't have lines. I always just do it on on the spot.

[01:38:26]>> Uh >> did it on the spot.

[01:38:29]>> Yeah.

[01:38:29]>> Past tense.

[01:38:31]>> Yeah.

[01:38:34]I'm sorry.

[01:38:36]>> Yeah.

[01:38:37]>> He still likes to think he's Mr. Player player and single, but he's not. No.

[01:38:44]>> No. Man, that's funny.

[01:38:45]>> Love you.

[01:38:47]>> Uh, Alison Armstrong. Who is Alison Armstrong?

[01:38:51]>> That's the Queen's Code, the book. This little old lady. That's adorable. Love her. Yes.

[01:38:56]>> Yeah. I I I didn't read anything, but you like her. I think she's a girl.

[01:39:00]>> She's a sweetheart. And she made it her mission to understand men because she was in um a bad marriage before, too.

[01:39:07]>> Mhm. and she talks about it.

[01:39:10]>> Beyond break. Yeah, that's true.

[01:39:14]>> What are your thoughts about the 80% lesbian divorce rate and the 35% gay divorce rate? Are men more agreeable in a gay men relationships?

[01:39:26]There's usually masculine and feminine energy. There usually is, right? When there's two females, even if one is masculine and more of the man, you're still a woman. You're still a woman. And the hormones of the women, it's just no.

[01:39:45]I can't be. Imagine being married to a woman. Like, oh my gosh, absolutely not.

[01:39:51]>> Yeah. Because you're on your period.

[01:39:52]>> There's no balance.

[01:39:53]>> You're you're crazy. And then the other one is on her period, too, because you guys sink. And she's also crazy and she needs love and reassurance. And the other one needs love and reassurance at the same time. No, it's never going to work. No.

[01:40:06]>> Yeah, >> guys. We don't have hormones like that.

[01:40:08]We're just >> picking every day. It's testosterone goes up, down at night, up again, down at night, up again.

[01:40:16]>> You girls have this crazy lunar cycle.

[01:40:18]So, yeah.

[01:40:20]>> True. That >> makes makes sense what he's saying.

[01:40:24]My father recently found out that my mom had more affairs than one. And he was aware of it 20 or 30 years ago. He's losing it. He's afraid to get a divorce because he loses 50% and I'm not sure what to tell him. And I'm not sure he wants to leave her.

[01:40:44]Typical story that I hear all the time.

[01:40:47]He probably won't leave her if he is worried about losing 50% of things. Um, he's comfortable. He's been married what, 30 years. Odds are he won't leave her. It's going to take I don't know what's it going to take for him to leave.

[01:41:05]>> Um, >> if he wants to leave, >> a heavy dose of psychedelics.

[01:41:08]>> Yep. That's always our answer.

[01:41:11]>> Yeah. I mean, I understand when men say that because I'm not wired like that. To me, my honor is worth all the money on the planet. You're gonna take half my money and I get rid of a nagging, combative, >> cheating, >> cheating, masculine woman. Then yeah, >> take my car, take everything.

[01:41:38]>> I want my peace. So your dad needs to understand how much worth is his peace of mind and his balls, you know. He needs to understand that and then just leave that [ __ ] Just leave her.

[01:41:54]>> Leave that [ __ ] >> No, be free. He's probably codependent.

[01:41:58]I think your dad is codependent and he sucked it up. But I tell your dad, "Dad, you know what's the best gift that you would give me as a father for a son? You leaving my mom and showing me that you are a man. so I don't make the same freaking mistake. I want to feel that my dad is a masculine man.

[01:42:20]I want to be proud of my father, not embarrassed by my father. So call him out. That's called tough love. Tell him how you feel. Tell him what the [ __ ] that. You know, >> tough love.

[01:42:31]>> Yeah. Give him tough love.

[01:42:32]>> Is there such thing as being too nice even when you keep healthy boundaries?

[01:42:37]>> Yes. Example >> example being too nice. I mean you are you have your boundaries but she's like honey can you? Yes. I mean you immediately like you're like a dog.

[01:42:54]>> Don't be just Mr. Yes man.

[01:42:56]>> Yeah. You're you're you're bending over backwards for her.

[01:43:00]Don't be like that. It's the other way around. She should be serving you because you're the king.

[01:43:05]>> Yep.

[01:43:05]>> You know you are the king. But you don't think you're the king. You think you're a fan. And she's the queen. And then you treat her as a queen from a fan perspective. You not treat her as a queen from a king's perspective. Huh?

[01:43:20]Got you with that one.

[01:43:23]>> That's a good one.

[01:43:26]>> Yeah.

[01:43:29]>> Is it a green or red flag for a man to have a few female friends?

[01:43:37]Well, from a woman's perspective, that is like, well, guys want to be surrounded by girls, right? The problem >> I think it's a girl asking Rya, maybe.

[01:43:49]Is it a green or red flag for a man to have a few female friends?

[01:43:54]>> No, it's not a green or a red flag. It's >> people have friends.

[01:43:59]>> Yeah. It's is how often do they text him? How close are they to him? Do they accept all the time?

[01:44:06]>> Do they accept you? Do they flirt? Do they hug a little too much? Like you can be also that paranoid, you know, of of um your guy having female friends is you can tell with the body language and the tone and the text. You can tell there's something going on and then you say, you know, >> that's a woman asking. Like women know when other women want their man.

[01:44:29]>> That's you. So, I know if someone's being a little too flirty or a little too extra, even if they might not know that they're doing it, because he just is that that guy. Like, it happens. But I know when people cross the line and when they don't. And when they do, bye-bye. And when they don't, we're good.

[01:44:51]>> Yeah, >> we're good.

[01:44:53]>> Volume is very low. They say we need this closer because you're you're probably you need to speak like this.

[01:45:01]>> Hello.

[01:45:02]>> Yeah.

[01:45:06]>> Is the volume okay or no?

[01:45:13]Well, you may not read this. It's nice to see you. For you watching this, you're not as polished or scripted as you are normally in your shorts. here. I get to see you for you and it's nice.

[01:45:26]Yay. Of course.

[01:45:28]>> That's why they're short.

[01:45:29]>> That's why they're shorts, right?

[01:45:32]>> A minute than a half to >> to two minutes. Yeah. And it needs to be >> Yeah.

[01:45:36]>> quick, condensed, to the point with all the information I need to get in one little tiny video. So, >> yeah. From that you go to her long form YouTube videos and then from that live is more >> relaxed, >> more casual. Yeah, very minimal preparation, you know.

[01:45:55]>> Oh, that's better. Okay.

[01:45:58]You are more relatable when you're looking into the camera or at Mr. Pon.

[01:46:02]Yeah. Well, my computer's here, my camera's here, my husband's here, so I'm looking I'm looking at all all of you guys, right? All over the place.

[01:46:10]>> No, you can read and then just, you know, >> that's what I do.

[01:46:14]>> Yeah, >> that's what I do. Thank you for the gold coin.

[01:46:20]Thank you. I appreciate that.

[01:46:24]What do you consider flirty versus friendly, dude?

[01:46:32]>> And this question, too.

[01:46:34]>> Come on.

[01:46:38]>> Hello. Get closer.

[01:46:40]>> Flirty versus friendly. Flirting. You're trying to flirt with them. You're trying to seduce them. You're trying to be admired. You're trying to be pursued.

[01:46:50]You're trying to have sex with them.

[01:46:51]You're trying to get in their p like that is flirting with them and being just a little extra. It's the tone. It's how you look at him. It's how you touch this little thing like no. Friendly is just your normal. You're casual. There's no incentive. You're not trying to to get anything. He's flirty and friendly.

[01:47:15]He just is. It's in his personality.

[01:47:17]It's his character. or he's naturally just a flirty person.

[01:47:23]I don't think I am. I think I'm more friendly. I don't flirt with people. I never really did. I never really knew how like I wasn't taught. He grew up in South America. So difference it's tone of voice honestly and eye contact. How you look, how you get closer to somebody.

[01:47:50]>> Yeah. Tone of voice, body language.

[01:47:54]>> Yep.

[01:47:55]>> I can say Lauren, hi. How are you? You know, or Lauren, hey, how are you doing, girl?

[01:48:05]Yeah, that's different. Yeah. or makes me feel a certain way, right? Yeah, >> that is flirting. There you go.

[01:48:12]>> Better.

[01:48:13]>> Is that better?

[01:48:14]>> I think so.

[01:48:16]>> There we go.

[01:48:22]>> What do you say to someone who doesn't believe in love anymore?

[01:48:29]>> Well, I understand them. They're being hurt so many times.

[01:48:34]>> Too many times. Yeah. and they think that the same thing is going to happen over and over again and they obviously think that that you know it's not worth it. But the problem is is not love.

[01:48:49]The problem is you that you don't feel enough and worthy enough to be loved and you're attracting the wrong people.

[01:49:01]Why am I attracting the wrong people?

[01:49:04]Then that it's it's a journey that you need to embark within yourself.

[01:49:11]>> Yep.

[01:49:12]>> All the questions are within yourself.

[01:49:15]All of them >> because everybody deserves to have love, to feel love, to give love. That's just human nature. But it's just people are hurt. People have been >> through it, been hurt too many times. So you have just a a wall and a thick skin and you don't trust as much. I get it.

[01:49:33]But just work on yourself. Work on yourself. Learn to love yourself. Learn to love what that love feels like. And then you can start giving that to to other people, too.

[01:49:42]>> And receiving it, too.

[01:49:43]>> And receiving it. Yeah.

[01:49:45]>> And get a >> get that man a chair. He's in a chair.

[01:49:49]>> Get out.

[01:49:49]>> It's just a small chair.

[01:49:50]>> Yeah. And >> get a what?

[01:49:53]>> Lauren is going to remodel all this and we're going to have a podcast like >> it's going to look so cool.

[01:49:58]>> And yeah, this is very >> rudimentary.

[01:50:02]Thank you.

[01:50:04]I get it now. Thanks for sharing. I'll acknowledge, appreciate, respond warmly, and truly feel and mirror body language.

[01:50:13]Importantly, I got it. Should listen patiently. Sorry, I don't really didn't really understand it, but thank you for the donation, but I appreciate you listening and taking all this in.

[01:50:26]>> Body language is more important than most of you can imagine. Like I with my eyes, I can look at her a certain way and she starts like shaking. Just with my eyes >> get nervous.

[01:50:38]>> And those are skills that you can practice. They're not that hard with your body to how you posture, how you approach. A little >> how do you say this? Not smile, but >> smirk.

[01:50:50]>> Smirk. A little smirk.

[01:50:52]>> Yeah. I mean, it's not just your mouth.

[01:50:55]You have your whole body to >> to play with >> transmit emotions or things that you want to say. You guys need to start again everything start from within you know practice. Look at yourself. How can I talk? How can I use my hands?

[01:51:10]Everything you know it it's a skill.

[01:51:14]>> You should definitely do a podcast together. We are. We are.

[01:51:18]We are.

[01:51:24]Meusta mucho estal.

[01:51:28]>> So sweet. I love this channel very much.

[01:51:33]>> Gracias.

[01:51:35]>> They saying there's different versions of flirting. Yeah, of course. There's levels, man. You can take it to 100 >> from one. Yeah, there's definitely levels.

[01:51:45]>> But flirting is flirting. I'm sorry.

[01:51:46]>> Micro expressions. Yes.

[01:51:49]>> Yeah.

[01:51:50]>> Let the body do the talking. Yes.

[01:51:54]>> Everything.

[01:51:55]>> How you walk like Lauren because she she's being raised as a tomboy. The youngest daughter living with her dad who was this badass. Yeah.

[01:52:10]Let me repeat again. Badass mofo alpha male macho man with a motorcycle, the mustache, the guy 61, muscular, tough wrestler, gets into fights. Yeah, that dude was her dad. So imagine how she was raised. Yeah.

[01:52:31]So when I convinced her to do her first fitness bikini competition, she knew nothing. She was like a baby giraffe trying to walk >> in heels. Yeah.

[01:52:42]>> In heels. But now when Lauren walks, she walks like, you know, >> and that's beautiful because that's body language. Exactly.

[01:52:50]>> Body language, you know. And guys have to walk a certain way like you're dancing. Learn how to dance. Move your hips. Use your hands when you talk. When you talk to a girl, like don't touch her like this. Just like a little tap, you know, things like that. Man, I don't know. I learned that since I was very little, but it's things that you learn and how you can look at her, say a lot of things just by looking at her. Don't look at her like you're, you know, a dog who hasn't eaten in three days. But there's ways and practice. Look at yourself in the mirror. Watch movies.

[01:53:23]Watch James Bond. Watch James Bond movies. Copy that guy. Just copy him.

[01:53:28]And you'll see how many more girls are going to be attracted to you just because of that.

[01:53:33]>> Yep. And if you dress like him, bonus points.

[01:53:37]>> What do you think about speed dating events? I've been to a handful of them and they seem like a waste of time. By the way, I'm a guy, so it's We'll probably have different answers for this, but that's actually something I tell some of the people I have consults with that are nervous about getting themselves in front of women or approaching women. I tell them, I'm like, "Go to a speed dating. It's fun.

[01:54:00]It's not that serious. You might get a friend out of it. You might get a girlfriend. It might be your wife. Like, who knows? Like, but you just go to enjoy it. And then you get that fear of getting in front of a woman out of the way because you're only talking for like what, a minute or two, and then the next one comes. And so, I think it is a good thing. I don't think it's a waste of time at all. Um, I think it's fun.

[01:54:25]>> I couldn't agree more, >> right, >> dude? I never thought about that. Like if I was single, I would go to speed dating events just to get my muscles fast, ready, you told. Yes. Boom. Next.

[01:54:40]And you have to impress her in probably what, five minutes?

[01:54:44]>> A couple minutes. Couple minutes. Get her now. And women will read you right away and feel your energy right away.

[01:54:51]Exactly.

[01:54:52]>> So, it's good practice.

[01:54:53]>> And you have to dress nice. You have to be in good shape.

[01:54:56]>> Haircut, your cologne, how you talk to her, how you look at her. do it because the more reps you get, man, you're gonna meet so many girls so fast. I'm I'm I'm saying yes. Hell yes. Of course. It's like point karate. You know what point karate is?

[01:55:11]>> Yeah.

[01:55:12]>> When you practice, >> point karate is so it's different than kickboxing, right? So you get in a kickboxing fight >> and you're punching, kicking, and trying to damage the opponent. Yeah. for a period of time until you land more or you knock him out or the referee says, you know, technique knockout or whatever.

[01:55:30]>> Yeah.

[01:55:31]>> Point karate is only one hit, just one.

[01:55:34]So, you're like this moving and >> in one blow you can it can be a devastating blow. So, to me, speed dating is like that. You get so good at that. You know, >> I mean, speed dating is not natural though. That's not the point. It's not about being natural. It's just getting yourself uncomfortable. Yeah.

[01:55:53]>> And doing something different. Getting yourself in front of women. Getting yourself praise your your words or your your game or whatever. Like just if it's whatever. Don't think too much.

[01:56:07]>> It's reps at the gym. The gym is not natural. Like what's natural lifting weights, being a machine? There's nothing natural about that, right? It's just to help you get strong. The same thing.

[01:56:16]>> You just do it.

[01:56:17]>> Yeah.

[01:56:18]>> We should like do an event like that.

[01:56:20]You should do it. That would be fun.

[01:56:23]Flourish with Lauren speed dating event.

[01:56:25]Let's do that.

[01:56:26]>> All the guys.

[01:56:26]>> That'd be so much fun.

[01:56:28]>> Or with her. I think it should be her and we invite you guys and you have to hit on her >> for five minutes or two minutes and and she like evaluates you. Yeah, that would be cool.

[01:56:38]>> That would be >> And I dress her all sexy. So you guys go crazy and get get all >> all nervous.

[01:56:46]>> That's evil. That's evil. That'd be so much fun.

[01:56:50]Yeah, that would be cool. I mean, if you you don't coach people oneon one, but I think the people that you're coaching, but they see you like as a coach, so it's different, but >> it'll be good because if they can talk to you being, you know, you being that beautiful, they can talk to anyone.

[01:57:10]>> Go on tour with speed dating.

[01:57:12]>> Yeah.

[01:57:14]>> All over the world.

[01:57:14]>> She's like, "Okay, talk to me."

[01:57:16]>> That's a good idea. That's a really >> Okay, impress me in two minutes. Go. And then you give them tips. You're like, "Okay, you're good at this. You need work on this. You need to do this."

[01:57:25]>> That would be badass. I mean, >> genius.

[01:57:27]>> We need security. But >> yeah, we need security.

[01:57:30]>> But it'll be so cool.

[01:57:31]>> Big time. You You can't be my only security because there's too many.

[01:57:35]>> Oh, let's do it on YouTube. We'll bring people live. Okay.

[01:57:40]>> Impress me. Impress me next.

[01:57:42]>> Impress me, Josh. Just kidding.

[01:57:43]>> Impress me, Josh.

[01:57:45]>> That'd be so funny.

[01:57:46]>> No.

[01:57:50]Brother, what inspires you to read? I struggle with it because English is my second language. Please help me.

[01:57:57]>> Oh, very simple. You buy a book that you're interested in. I Well, my English I don't, you know, I have my accent, but I read so many books in English.

[01:58:11]>> In English. Yeah. like books that will like I adore those books and I just read and read and that's that's how you get words and you understand the language better. That's that would be my advice.

[01:58:22]Not so much movies but read a book and now you have AI. So now you can ask what does it mean or talk to me in English.

[01:58:28]Talk to your AI agent man. Like make it your friend. Have a conversation.

[01:58:32]>> I missed a couple questions. Sorry guys.

[01:58:37]>> Oh wait, that was that one. Um >> Puerto Puerto Rico. There's a guy from Puerto Rico. He says, "I understand you, bro. That's so cool."

[01:58:44]>> "Would you guys like to have children one day? You guys would make great parents. Keep up the good work." Thank you. Yes. I want him to get me pregnant now.

[01:58:53]>> Yes.

[01:58:55]She wants I'm holding it.

[01:59:00]>> I'm patiently waiting.

[01:59:01]>> I'm holding it soon. Soon it's coming.

[01:59:04]It's a lot of money. It's a lot of money. So, I want to do it the right way, but it's coming.

[01:59:11]Good kids expensive.

[01:59:15]Mu expensive. Mu expensive.

[01:59:17]>> I don't care.

[01:59:18]>> I know. We will. We will. I told you next year. Next year for sure.

[01:59:24]>> Holding him to that, guys. Holding him to that.

[01:59:27]>> Yeah. No. And And it's probably going to be two because she's been told by a couple of witches that she's going to have twins. So if you were in my position, you would be thinking it 10 times because dealing with a girl like her, which I mean I love her, but it's work.

[01:59:46]Two more, man. And I work like an animal. So that means I'm going to have to multiply that by three.

[01:59:54]So it let me let me >> tell him tell him to let's have kids.

[02:00:00]Tell him.

[02:00:02]We will >> just Oh, Jason. Hi. Jason's been here since day one. Just joining now. Life has been busy. We'll have to watch the whole thing tomorrow. Appreciate you both.

[02:00:12]>> The OG.

[02:00:13]>> The OG. Jason, appreciate you.

[02:00:16]>> Oh, they sent you money, too. Thank you.

[02:00:19]>> How did you two meet? We've talked about that before.

[02:00:22]>> Canada.

[02:00:22]>> Where?

[02:00:23]>> That's so cool. That guy, look, he just >> Oh, yeah.

[02:00:25]>> donated you.

[02:00:26]>> Yeah, he's been um >> Oh, he's your OG, too. No, he just asked a few questions in here um already and donated it a couple times. I know.

[02:00:34]>> Yeah, that's so cool. Thank you.

[02:00:35]>> Appreciate you.

[02:00:37]>> We've done we've done a live about how we met.

[02:00:40]>> I mean, we don't have to get into all of it.

[02:00:43]>> Yeah, kind of long. People long >> but but you can see it on her channel.

[02:00:47]>> I was her coach.

[02:00:48]>> He was my coach. Lauren, you're incredible. Totally makes sense.

[02:00:54]Um, I'm just catching up on the questions, guys.

[02:01:01]Oh, Emanuel speaks Spanish. Estee canal.

[02:01:07]>> Oh, he's very useful. He says, "I learn a lot." Oh, thank you.

[02:01:10]>> Yay.

[02:01:11]>> Thank you, Emanuel. I'm I'm going to open my own YouTube channel because I've been he is >> 49 years on this earth.

[02:01:18]>> Lots of knowledge.

[02:01:19]>> And I came to this country with nothing.

[02:01:22]Literally nothing. Sleeping on a mattress on the kitchen floor, washing dishes, demolition, construction. Like I was at the bottom of the barrel. Yeah.

[02:01:31]And I'm the American dream now. I live few steps away from the beach, beautiful house, married to this beautiful blonde.

[02:01:39]So let's say I made it, right? And I have so much knowledge to share. I want to share a knowledge to everybody.

[02:01:47]>> Look at children like tax write offs.

[02:01:51]Ah, that's so funny. Oh my god. Who's that?

[02:01:58]Cyber.

[02:02:00]That was good.

[02:02:01]>> Cyber 8000.

[02:02:02]>> That was funny.

[02:02:03]>> That was so good.

[02:02:07]My ex brought me a book called The Secret Gardening. in that book. In that book, it's a compilation of anonymous women's fantasies letters to the author.

[02:02:20]And it blew people's minds away because the crazy stuff, the twisted, crazy, dark.

[02:02:33]>> Just look at that book, guys. Look it up. Buy it. It's wild. All of the fantasies that women have. Dude, they are like >> I don't tell you.

[02:02:41]>> Yeah. I mean, when I read some of those letter, I like dude, I thought I was nuts.

[02:02:47]>> Those women's the women are like when it comes to fantasy, they're freaking crazy.

[02:02:52]>> So, when your wife tells you that she isn't a freak, she isn't wild. She is an exploratory [ __ ] Like, you just haven't cracked the code yet. You haven't gotten to that level of her because it's there. It is there. How long have you been together?

[02:03:10]Since 2022.

[02:03:12]>> Yeah. I mean, women like slasher movies, horror movies, psychological thrillers.

[02:03:19]>> Yeah. It's makes us freaking go crazy.

[02:03:22]Yeah.

[02:03:23]>> Don't ask why.

[02:03:24]>> They like the darkness.

[02:03:25]>> They like the darkness.

[02:03:26]>> They like the danger.

[02:03:31]>> Thank you, Lauren. Realistic and full of unsettling truths. Your help is invaluable. Your advice and reality checks have sparked awareness. Keep it up. We need it. Kisses from France.

[02:03:43]>> France.

[02:03:44]>> That's so cool.

[02:03:46]>> Or French friend.

[02:03:48]>> The presence of God is within you two both humans.

[02:03:51]>> Mercier or madmoel.

[02:03:58]I learned a little French when I was in school.

[02:04:02]>> Yeah. Is that all you got?

[02:04:04]I know a few words, too, but they're bad words.

[02:04:09]They're >> Mr. Pon, do you speak Spanish? Of course he does. Espanol, Mr. Pon, >> um, look at that one. Is the birth >> rate in America alarming to you? The numbers are wild.

[02:04:29]Yeah. Yes, it's it's alarming. That's why we're having two kids.

[02:04:34]That's why I'm waiting.

[02:04:35]>> The world needs more of this. Needs more of us.

[02:04:39]>> Yeah. But kids that are made with intention, you know. There's some people, man, I see them with four kids and I'm like, you are a child mentally and you're having four kids. I can only imagine.

[02:04:57]>> Oh, wow. Look how low it is. you know, >> 53 births per 1,000 women.

[02:05:04]>> Yeah, >> that is dangerously low. Wow.

[02:05:10]>> Exactly.

[02:05:10]>> I was just curious cuz I didn't know it.

[02:05:12]Yeah.

[02:05:13]>> Europeans need to reverse that.

[02:05:15]>> Babies.

[02:05:15]>> Yeah.

[02:05:16]>> More babies. More babies.

[02:05:23]>> How long have you been personal trainers with fitness? You almost 15 years.

[02:05:28]me since 2020.

[02:05:34]>> But we're not personal trainers anymore.

[02:05:36]>> Not anymore. But we were personal trainers.

[02:05:38]>> Yeah.

[02:05:39]>> I started be I got >> I made you a personal trainer.

[02:05:44]>> Personal trainer when I was in 2020.

[02:05:46]>> I graduated you. I gave you a black belt. I told you you're ready. Yeah. The best. The best in the world. This girl.

[02:05:55]The best in the world. You need to have five kids.

[02:05:59]>> Jesus, man.

[02:06:00]>> I don't know about that.

[02:06:01]>> Yeah, I mean, yeah, because I'm going to make millions and then I'll get some help then. Hell yeah.

[02:06:06]>> All the babies, all the babies we can have.

[02:06:09]>> I told her if I have help, I don't have a problem. But five little demons running in the house, I just go nuts.

[02:06:16]>> If the section eight bums in my neighborhood can have seven kids, you guys can have at least four.

[02:06:23]>> Well, that's what I'm talking about, dude. Yes. Seven kids. They're like, they're going to be criminals. All of them. Section eight.

[02:06:31]>> Stop.

[02:06:32]>> Seven kids. They don't have money. How are they going to Dude, one kid? Just one kid. Taking care of one kid is freaking tough.

[02:06:41]>> Two kids.

[02:06:43]>> Tougher.

[02:06:44]>> Seven. You didn't remember their names or their birthdays.

[02:06:47]>> I don't understand. More than three.

[02:06:49]>> It's too dude. With help. Yeah. I mean, >> with help. Of course.

[02:06:53]>> Your mom is living with us.

[02:06:55]And then we have I don't know >> we have a nanny and a maid >> or an auntie or that's different. Back in the day it was like that. Back in the day the whole family is helping you.

[02:07:04]>> Yeah.

[02:07:05]>> But now imagine me and you alone three kids.

[02:07:11]>> Wouldn't be doing this right now.

[02:07:13]>> We can't do anything. Yeah, mom.

[02:07:16]knocking on the door and my my brother spilled the soup on my my little sister pee on or shot on the floor. I mean, dude, kids are crazy.

[02:07:30]>> You're so annoying. Could imagine having triplets. What if we have triplets instead of twins?

[02:07:35]>> No, I didn't see it.

[02:07:40]>> Oh my gosh.

[02:07:45]Lauren, love your content. Been married a little over 10 years. Your advice is gold. I've been able to have Gemini interpret your content and how you would respond. It's amazing. I have Lauren AI.

[02:08:00]>> That's amazing. I love it. Such a compliment.

[02:08:03]>> You're a smart man. We're gonna We're going to help you with that.

[02:08:06]>> Just Just wait.

[02:08:08]>> Yeah, we're going to help you with that.

[02:08:09]>> Just wait.

[02:08:14]Say if you have a name in the podcast.

[02:08:17]>> No, we don't have a name of the podcast yet.

[02:08:20]>> Yeah, you guys should come up with a name.

[02:08:24]>> Polarity with the ponies >> that just came out. Peep.

[02:08:30]>> Yeah. Or the old the old dude and and the beauty >> and the young fox and the beauty queen.

[02:08:37]>> The old guy with the big nose. the old perf with a big nose and the accent and the hot blonde bombshell from California or something like that, right?

[02:08:48]>> Like why is this guy with her or >> don't say that about yourself? What's wrong with you?

[02:08:54]>> I'm kidding.

[02:08:54]>> No, you hunk.

[02:08:57]>> It's funny.

[02:09:03]>> Yeah.

[02:09:03]>> My sister has five kids, all under the age of 13.

[02:09:08]Yeah.

[02:09:09]>> Wow. She was busy.

[02:09:13]>> My god. Yeah.

[02:09:15]>> Wow.

[02:09:15]>> The energy, man.

[02:09:17]>> I'm seeing this woman. She's 31 and I'm 38. Lauren, I think she likes me. It's our second date, but I'm not sure if she's the one.

[02:09:26]It's your second date.

[02:09:30]Give it time.

[02:09:31]>> Like after two years, you'll know.

[02:09:36]You need time to handle conflict, how to live together, how to >> crack her code.

[02:09:44]>> How to crack her code. And that takes time. Yeah.

[02:09:47]>> I mean, it didn't take you that long for me because we were friends first for >> No, but but to really get to know you, it took time. Like >> Yeah. But you figured me out pretty Don't lie. You figured me out pretty quick.

[02:10:04]>> Okay.

[02:10:05]>> Okay. You didn't You're not lying, but you figured me out pretty quick.

[02:10:08]>> No, I know what you mean. No, it's true.

[02:10:10]We got along right away. It was nice right away. But now where I'm at now, looking back, I thought I knew you, but there was so much more.

[02:10:25]>> So many layers.

[02:10:26]>> So many layer. And me too, right? I I feel like it took me longer to figure you out more than you figuring me out.

[02:10:37]>> Yeah, because I'm a man and I don't like open up that much. You're a girl. But still, man, you >> there's so much more in you. Like I think for most people a year is not enough. I think two years minimum. two years you get a very very good understanding of what it's going to be like with this person.

[02:11:00]>> Yeah.

[02:11:01]>> I believe >> with a lot of intention like getting to know them.

[02:11:05]>> Ask the hard questions.

[02:11:08]>> Ask to see their shadow self too because everybody has a shadow self. They don't want to show. They need >> good, the bad, and the ugly. Everything you need to know >> everything. everything as soon as you can. Yes.

[02:11:23]>> So you can work through it.

[02:11:25]>> Yes.

[02:11:25]>> In the moment in real time instead of finding out 10 or 15 years later something that is like so detrimental and something that you probably wouldn't have worked with if you would have known before.

[02:11:39]>> Yeah. Everything. Faith, uh, religion, politics, uh, sex.

[02:11:45]>> Your morals and values. Yeah.

[02:11:47]>> Morals, values, activities.

[02:11:49]um everything people like otherwise you guys start resenting each other right >> quickly. Yeah.

[02:11:55]>> Quickly.

[02:11:55]>> You have to align.

[02:11:56]>> Yeah. It's misalignment is I think one of the biggest reasons why people just don't work out. It's incompatibility and just misalignment that you can't fake that. If you guys think completely opposite of like kids for example, like if I wanted kids and he didn't, >> it's not going to work. Sorry, but it it won't event. You might say, "Oh, I can get over that. I can work through that."

[02:12:23]That's what you want to say in the moment because you're scared of what the outcome is going to be if you hold your ground with your boundary, right? Like you have your moral and value. You have to honor that for yourself. That is who you are at your core. If they don't align with that, that's not your person.

[02:12:39]And that is okay. Don't try to make it your person if you are totally misaligned or just incompatible people.

[02:12:46]It's not going to work.

[02:12:48]>> We did a live last time about how you need layers and layers and layers of compatibility, different layers that help solidify what you guys have.

[02:13:03]>> He cracked the code early. Lol.

[02:13:07]Kind of.

[02:13:10]I think you did less than two years.

[02:13:13]>> Yeah. But >> when we were friends, we were very open to each other.

[02:13:18]>> We were. Yeah.

[02:13:19]>> We opened right away. We didn't hide anything.

[02:13:22]>> We were.

[02:13:24]And there And the thing is there's still going to be layers as change happens for the next five or 10 years. Yeah. Of course, there's always going to be challenges to work through, but how big those challenges are is, I think, determined if you're with the right person or not. Like, we have disagreements. We have I don't even think we have real challenges. Like, because it's not challenging to be with him. It's not challenging to be with me.

[02:13:57]>> It's just not. So, I I can't relate to >> to I just I just did a video about this today. I haven't posted it yet, but I cannot relate to people who need to get away from their husband or need to get an escape. Like, I sorry, what? Like, >> escape weekend.

[02:14:21]>> Yeah. Like, I need to go out, man, with my girls. I just needed away from you for some time. Like, no. I want to do freaking everything with this man.

[02:14:30]Everything and anything. I want him to be a part of it. I freaking when I leave the house sometimes I'll call him on my on the way home or on the way where I'm going because I just thought of something and I wanted to share it with him. Like he's my person. I'm obsessed with him in every way. You need to be that for your partner. And I know, oh my god, just wait. Wait until you have kids. Just wait until you've been married for 30 years. I can't wait. I can't wait for that because I married, right? I married, right? I married my first choice and it feels good to be able to say that. So, >> yeah. Exactly.

[02:15:12]Exactly.

[02:15:13]>> That was good.

[02:15:15]>> Sorry, rant. Went on a little rant.

[02:15:18]>> Yeah, but guys, >> the whole I need space or I need to find myself. Yeah, BS. Yes, that is BS. Go ahead. Sorry.

[02:15:26]>> No, but if they need space, give them space.

[02:15:31]They need to find themselves. Let them find themselves. Why would you be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?

[02:15:37]Needs time to think. I mean, especially when you're a man. Men need to go away from their wives. That is okay because we're men. We're different.

[02:15:47]>> Hey, he asked another question and donated. Thank you. This is for you.

[02:15:52]Beyond having a clear why and what h what habits, mindsets or practices help a man remain focused, disciplined, and energetic.

[02:16:04]Okay.

[02:16:06]So, when you have a why, it's easier. Let's say you don't have a why, you're figuring it out. A must for any man. A must is physical exercise. That is a must.

[02:16:24]We're meant to exercise. We're meant to either go to the gym or get in a boxing school. You need to face adversity physically combat. Okay, that to me is a must. You have to. I don't care if you're a nerd and work all day writing code or the crypto. I don't care. You need you you have to push yourself to do that >> because you just feel better. Okay, that is number one. Second one, big one is selfreflection.

[02:16:57]A man has to be able to be by himself and reflect and analyze where his life is going. It doesn't have to be negative. It doesn't have to be all positive, but it has to be a balance.

[02:17:11]Okay, I'm [ __ ] up here, here, here. I need to fix this. And I'm doing good in this and this and this. Good job. Okay, so always talk to yourself nicely.

[02:17:19]That's number two.

[02:17:21]Number three, you're going to be living with women for the rest of your life in this planet. Okay? Don't be a weirdo and don't tell me that no, they're not important. They are important. You need to figure them out because we have biological needs that only women can fulfill. Okay? I'm sorry. This is the way it is. You see your thing, that thing goes into a little thing. Yeah.

[02:17:46]Took like a Lego piece. It's meant to go there. All right. Sorry to say it so bluntly, but it's the truth. So, you have to fear women out, too. Those are the masks of a man. you know, physical exercise, self-reflection, and obviously the why is your purpose, right? I'm not bringing that at the end, but you need to have a purpose. You're like, why am I on this earth just to breathe oxygen?

[02:18:08]No, you need to find something that you want to enjoy doing the rest of your life. And that that would be my advice.

[02:18:16]My advice is that when I was lost, like lost because I had my head up my ass for so many years. So many years, I can't even count. Like too long, honestly.

[02:18:27]Longer than you guys in the comments.

[02:18:28]Yeah, I was worse than you guys. I always worked out. I always trained. I always went to martial arts school or surfing or or or at the gym. I always was doing that because that kept me leveled headed always. and then you you'll find your north.

[02:18:46]>> Is it better to get married later in life than earlier? It seems like most of the people got married earlier in life or divorced now.

[02:18:56]>> Mhm.

[02:18:56]>> Yeah. I believe you should get married later in life. And as a woman, marry somebody a little older than you. It doesn't mean somebody at the same age is wrong for you. It's not. I just appreciate his time on this earth and his education and knowledge and um it works for us, right? And men typically mature a little bit later. They mature I think in their late 30s, early 40s, maybe some maybe some earlier, but >> it's um I think it's better to marry a little bit later in life. So you're just so you know don't waste you're not wasting time by waiting. You're just being strategic and as a man you need to be very strategic of who you choose to marry. It's a very very important decision of your life.

[02:19:52]>> I agree from my experience. If I would have married every single ex that I had in my life, I'll be one of you guys. Yeah. Not not all of you, but you. And I'm talking to you, the guy who has been married for 30 years and >> unhappily >> haven't had sex with his wife in 10 or just she's a nagging [ __ ] And she's always like, "Why do you have to do that? Why do you have to go there again?

[02:20:29]Oh my god, you forgot to take the trash.

[02:20:32]Hey, the kids have a resol tomorrow.

[02:20:34]Don't forget like yeah I'll be one of them if I didn't wait. So you have to wait. It's better. Don't wait too much.

[02:20:44]Not too little. Balance, right?

[02:20:46]>> Balance.

[02:20:48]>> Yep.

[02:20:50]Great live. Saludos.

[02:20:53]>> Yay.

[02:20:54]>> Thank you.

[02:20:56]Any other questions, guys? Are you watching the World Cup next month?

[02:21:02]No.

[02:21:04]We watch UFC.

[02:21:05]>> We don't watch that. I'm not opposed to it. It's cool to watch, but no, we watch um UFC.

[02:21:11]UFC.

[02:21:14]>> Yeah, >> you both read me inside out. Nerd Code.

[02:21:24]I got it. It's all about moderation, physical exercise. I heard for myself now. The raw truth. Thank you.

[02:21:30]>> Thank you for the donation again. You know what I >> radical accountability?

[02:21:35]>> No, but I knew there was at least one guy like that watching the live. I'm so glad.

[02:21:42]>> A little nerdy. It's okay.

[02:21:44]>> Dude, was my dad was a total nerd. Yeah, total nerd. He He will read books, buddy. Nerder than you. Do you say nerder?

[02:21:54]>> Nerdier.

[02:21:54]>> Nerdier than you.

[02:21:56]>> Who walk in the street reading his book and and forget about, you know, our house. She will pass like 20 blogs like oh freak I forgot. He would read he would write >> study.

[02:22:08]>> He study. He was a scientist. So a nerd but but >> had game.

[02:22:14]>> He work out. He worked out always.

[02:22:19]He loved doing masculine stuff.

[02:22:22]He put me in karate when I was young. He had game with the girls. Game. A nerd like my dad had so much game because he read so many books. He knew how to talk to women, you know. So, if you're a nerd, use that brain of yours to get more information and balance it with physical exercise just how you're saying you're going to do. And man, you'll conquer the world. Believe me, the the richest men in the world are no guys like me extroverts. They're introverts like you.

[02:22:55]>> We don't watch football. They asked what our NFL team was, but we don't watch football.

[02:23:01]>> American football.

[02:23:02]>> I mean, I'll watch, but I I like UFC.

[02:23:04]It's better.

[02:23:06]>> I grew up watching football. We grew up watching um the Packers. My grandpa was from Texas, so we w he liked Dallas. Um and then the Longhorns, too, for college. But we don't watch we don't watch football anymore. We don't watch any sports really. We just watch UFC and maybe like extreme sport videos just for just for fun.

[02:23:33]Do you guys watch boxing as well? I don't. He's gotten me into it a little bit. We've watched some things, but I just The UFC is so badass. We love that.

[02:23:43]>> And it's every weekend.

[02:23:45]>> What do you think about the Ronda Rousey Corano fight? A lot of hype for 17 seconds, huh? That was expected, guys.

[02:23:52]Like that was expected. Gina Chrono hasn't fought for I think like 17 years, something like that or 14 years, something wild like that. Um I think it was 17 and it was to be expected.

[02:24:07]>> It was whatever. We watched all of it.

[02:24:09]>> I met Gina Carano in person. She's very sweet. I um met her husband Kevin Ross who was with her. He's an amazing former Muay Thai fighter. Um, yeah. I I met I met a lot of them and um I was excited, but I knew Rhonda was 40.

[02:24:30]>> She's 37. Gina's 43.

[02:24:34]>> Oh, sorry. Sorry. Gina Corano. Gina met her. Um, and yeah, I knew it was 15 years that she didn't >> crazy >> fight. So, I knew it was going to suck.

[02:24:44]But, I mean, good for them. They made so much money.

[02:24:47]>> So much. And I hope with this Netflix start getting better fighters and being a healthy competition for the UFC because competition makes you better.

[02:24:57]>> Brother, your wisdom is hitting like a cologne.

[02:25:01]>> Thank you. Well, I'm 49 years on this earth.

[02:25:04]>> He's pretty um pretty knowledgeable, guys. Pretty knowledgeable.

[02:25:09]>> Yeah, Gina 43, but she looks so good. So good. 43. Did you see her with that dress? Yeah, man. That That's a girl that takes care of herself. That good job, Gina. Good job. And Ronda looks good, too.

[02:25:27]WWE.

[02:25:30]I used to watch that when I was a kid.

[02:25:32]The whole hole and all that stuff.

[02:25:41]You see? Yeah. Yeah. I want to watch that fight. You versus Rico. that I'm going to make her watch that fight.

[02:25:48]Boxing want to fight.

[02:25:49]>> I could have used Lauren's husband's advice when I was 25.

[02:25:54]>> Yeah, >> buddy. When I was 25, I had my head up my a-hole.

[02:26:01]When I look back, I I look at myself, I'm like, damn, man.

[02:26:06]You're you were so stupid. Like, literally, I can't believe it. So lost.

[02:26:16]>> So was I. I mean >> she I used to believe >> this wild animal next to me.

[02:26:27]>> This wild feral animal.

[02:26:30]>> Yeah. Oh, look at this guy. He's an Yeah. I watched Pride FC, man. All of them. All the Pride. I used to watch beginning UFC, but Pride was the best one ever. I loved it. I made her watch some some fights. She would see people getting head stomped on the floor.

[02:26:49]Remember? I will show you.

[02:26:50]>> Oh, yeah.

[02:26:50]>> So, for kid, that's Pride in Japan.

[02:26:53]>> That's crazy.

[02:26:53]>> Not okay. Are you guys going to do any collabs for your podcast?

[02:26:59]Why not? But got to align with me.

[02:27:04]>> No, you will. Yeah, there's cool people.

[02:27:06]>> Not just anybody.

[02:27:08]>> Yeah, they're cool people.

[02:27:11]I want you to talk to Rolo live for everybody. That would be amazing.

[02:27:15]>> Yeah, >> Rolo is really cool. We met him. He's >> He's very smart. Rolo is very smart.

[02:27:21]>> Very smart for you guys.

[02:27:22]>> Rolo very very smart. Very smart.

[02:27:25]He's a He's an OG with I show speed. What? Oh, the dating.

[02:27:37]>> What are you reading? You said they're gonna >> Oh, you're going to collab with L show speed? I don't know what that is. How do I get my wife to see your videos without directly sending them to her? She needs your advice, but she would see it as an attack if it came from me. Of course, she will. You have to You have to There's a couple ways you can approach it. First way is kind of funny. You can secretly go under her phone and type me in and get me into her algorithm and just they'll slowly start popping up. Or if you don't want to do that and risk getting caught, you literally just sit down with her and say, "Hey, look at this video I found talking about men and talking about what they can be doing better." First, I I liked what she had to say about this. Like, why don't you take a look and see what you like, too?

[02:28:29]That's another option. Um, but she's going to get triggered. She's going to get triggered. She's going to think, "Why are you getting advice from some random girl online that has big boobs and glasses and she's blonde and she's young and why?

[02:28:46]>> And she's pretty >> and pretty." Like, that is just the typical thing that I get, right? But fun fact, a lot of men that I have talked to in the consults have sent me their wives and in the beginning they're all bitter betties, right? But then when we start talking, they realize I'm a normal person. I'm just giving advice and I actually vibe with them a lot and they like me, right? But you have to be careful. But as a man, you you go >> let let me say something. Show your wife. She her transformation. She's like, "Dude, she was >> fat and big and that's why I watch her.

[02:29:24]That's it. That that will destroy the argument of this hot blonde."

[02:29:28]>> Yeah. because I wasn't energy 300 pounds and >> now I'm this person, right? So, that's a little less threatening, too. But, >> um I think if you if you can find a way to get onto her phone and just like search me on all of her platforms, then I'll start to just pop up naturally.

[02:29:49]Yeah.

[02:29:50]>> Right. But you got to be careful there >> while she's sleep. When she's sleeping.

[02:29:54]>> Yeah. while she's sleeping. Just get on there, search me on her Instagram, her Facebook, her her Tik Tok, and just watch it.

[02:30:00]>> Delete the search >> and delete the search. Yeah.

[02:30:02]>> And then it's going to guess what's going to pop up tomorrow.

[02:30:05]>> Save and then unsave and like and send it to you and then >> delete and send but you already received it. So when she's sending it to you or more people, well, it has to be you.

[02:30:16]>> I wonder algorithm is like, you know, >> yeah, >> it's going to show you.

[02:30:20]>> I wonder the amount of female hate that you get.

[02:30:24]Yeah, >> believe it or not, it's getting to be less and less. I'm glad for that, too, because my content is for women. It is.

[02:30:33]It's not just for men, but it's maybe more for women than it is men because I'm teaching you how men think and how they operate and what they want, right, from a man's male's perspective. I know I'm not a man. I don't have a male brain, but I'm doing my best to convey it to women so they understand.

[02:30:51]>> It's it's doesn't have to be like that. It has to be from a female's brain. This is how I understand men. This is how men think.

[02:30:59]>> True.

[02:31:00]>> And this you should understand that, you know, because it's coming from you.

[02:31:04]>> So, it's it's a channel for women.

[02:31:06]Honestly, you want to learn >> how guys operate, watch your channel.

[02:31:12]Like Jesus Christ.

[02:31:14]>> What about an introduction short to send? Something not so threatening to her character. Nothing about calling women out. like nothing about how to be a better woman, how to be a better wife, how to be more feminine. No, you have to take some accountability for yourself and say, "I watched this video. I got this information for me out of it." And then you but just tread lightly because she's going to get pissed. Nine out of 10en times she gets pissed. The 1% don't get pissed. They're just more healed or more confident in themselves or more secure. But it's it's a tough one.

[02:31:51]>> She has to get she has to get mad. I mean, how do you evolve if you're not going to >> be ready to face the uncomfortable truth?

[02:32:00]>> A woman's worst enemy is other women.

[02:32:03]Dude, women are gnarly. They're mean.

[02:32:07]Not all, but hurt women, unhealed women, traumatized women, jealous women, um controlling women. Like, it's women are They're they can be evil sometimes, but they're just hurt. They're expressing that in that way, right? It doesn't make it right, but at least it explains it explains it a little bit.

[02:32:34]>> Crocoped Milano. Me too, >> brother. We owe a big hug to Lauren for getting to talk on this platform.

[02:32:46]>> Hugging you.

[02:32:47]hugging you, >> making the world a better place.

[02:32:50]>> Trying.

[02:32:52]>> Yeah, this this blondie is special.

[02:32:59]>> So are you.

[02:33:01]>> Thank you.

[02:33:02]>> So are you.

[02:33:02]>> Thank you. But this is your show. You're the special one. Changing the world.

[02:33:06]>> Yeah. Well, I wouldn't be here if I didn't have you. So, >> a little bit.

[02:33:11]>> You can keep saying that all you want.

[02:33:16]>> Yeah. And my ex is like, "Who's Lauren?"

[02:33:18]Yeah, it's okay.

[02:33:20]>> You tell her Lauren is a girl who was >> almost 300 lb.

[02:33:25]>> Almost 300 lb. And look at her now.

[02:33:28]Let's listen to >> Changed her life. Got her head out of her rear, did something about it, and made a change. Lauren, you're making us better men. Thank you. I'm trying. I'm really trying. It help. It's helping me, too. Like, I am constantly learning, also. and helping this guy, too. And he is helping me. Like, it's just wild.

[02:33:52]>> Well, yeah. Pretty much is what you do with me. That's your content.

[02:33:57]>> Yeah. Everything we talk about or I talk about, guys, it's how it's how I live.

[02:34:02]It's stuff I've done. It's things I've learned. Um, it's it's us. My controversial rules in my marriage video. That is how we live.

[02:34:15]That video went viral like so many millions of views >> over 10 over 10 million views. Yeah.

[02:34:21]Because it's like >> we live traditionally. Not everybody does. Some have egalitarian relationships. That's for you. Okay. But might not work in the future. It just doesn't. There's no there's no leader.

[02:34:37]You guys are equal. Like don't get me started.

[02:34:43]Don't get me started.

[02:35:02]>> I'll stay with you guys. No, baby. No, it's okay. Tell him, guys.

[02:35:08]I >> potty break.

[02:35:11]>> Break. break.

[02:35:12]>> That's okay. You're so sweet, >> honey. But it's your show.

[02:35:18]>> It's been 3 hours. Hold on. I have to go pee.

[02:35:20]>> Dude, I can't believe my wife has been holding it for so long.

[02:35:24]>> I'm sorry.

[02:35:26]>> And I like to just go to the bathroom.

[02:35:32]That is so funny. Well, I'm taking over now.

[02:35:39]I'll leave soon, guys. I promise this is my wife's show, not mine. God damn it.

[02:35:43]This freaking thing. Okay, better. I look better now with a light. I look all weird.

[02:35:52]Okay, you're literally waking us from sleep.

[02:35:57]Yeah, my wife is the best. Lauren is the best.

[02:36:03]Let's talk comar sports now.

[02:36:06]Yes, let's do it. Let's do it. Let's talk about Banderlay Silva and Shogun Rua was my first job. My first job uh McDonald's in my country, my first job here in the States, I was working in construction. In demolition, actually, because I sucked at construction and yeah, I work on demolition.

[02:36:29]>> That's what I did. And I washed dishes.

[02:36:31]I did every single job none of you guys would ever do in your lives. I did that.

[02:36:40]Who's your pick for the White House card? Oh, >> Alex Pere.

[02:36:47]>> Alex Pereira for sure. Then um what do you think about Justin baby? You think he's going to know?

[02:36:56]>> No, Ilia's taking it is going to knock it ass out.

[02:37:02]>> Ilia Pereira. Who else? Who else is fighting?

[02:37:05]>> I think Ali is Ali fighting. Omali is gonna win. Um, oh, that crazy dude with the with the glasses.

[02:37:13]>> That dude is insane.

[02:37:15]>> He's a Looney Tunes.

[02:37:16]>> He's gonna win, too.

[02:37:18]>> Your Magamed was the best.

[02:37:21]>> This is the first time in 50 years I've seen a toile break live on TV.

[02:37:25]>> Sorry. Sorry. Not sorry. I don't care. I need to go. It's not healthy.

[02:37:31]>> Yeah. Yeah. Kabib was the best. Yes. I agree. One of the best. George Pierre was amazing, too. He's from Peru.

[02:37:38]>> No, I'm not from Brazil. I'm from Peru.

[02:37:39]But we're brothers with Brazilians, Argent uh Argentinians, Colombians. We get along with everybody in in Peru.

[02:37:46]Everybody likes us, honestly.

[02:37:50]Uh she didn't watch Pride because she's a baby. I watched Pride. I watch Pride, man.

[02:37:57]>> I watch Pride in VHS tape because we didn't have that cable channel in my country. and I will watch the fights and then I will go to my martial arts school all excited and and train.

[02:38:12]I I loved it. Pride is amazing. And for all of you guys, all you men in this chat, >> please watch Pride FC MMA. Watch that.

[02:38:22]It's so brutal.

[02:38:23]>> You're going to love it. It's going to get you pumped and you're going to be able to say to yourself, "Man, I need to train and fight like this because you have to, man."

[02:38:32]>> Fast pay break. Yeah, I should have. She doesn't want me here talking because she's scared I'm going to say something wrong and she's going to get banned from YouTube >> toilet for hours to go pee. I'm a girl.

[02:38:42]It just fast.

[02:38:45]>> Look at this guy.

[02:38:47]I've noticed for most of my life, but you notice girls and women don't take or like to correct their wrongdoings. I blame feminism making them deflect accountability. That's one part of the piece of the cake, right? That's we've talked about this earlier. It's not in women to take accountability. It's not naturally just in us, right? We are emotional. We we feel things. We we explain things that don't make sense sometimes, right? Like it's we need to be taught accountability. So, it helps having a good partner that checks us when we need to be checked sometimes, too. And recognize that we maybe took it a little a little too far sometimes. But it's it's women's kryptonite accountability.

[02:39:41]>> I'm taking over.

[02:39:43]>> It's fine.

[02:39:45]>> See guys, I'm out. Mr. Pon is going to take over.

[02:39:50]>> Uh, call your own [ __ ] Yeah, that's true. Women need to be mature.

[02:39:56]>> What do you consider red pill content?

[02:40:00]>> Well, what she's doing, she doesn't know anything about that. Um, but what she's doing is consider red pill. Red pill, I think, because I don't know that much. I just know Rolo, but and I I read his book and I recommended her to read that book, too, because it's really good. The rational male. Um, Repille is pretty much what she preaches. Polarity. That's pretty much it. That's what I think. I don't know if they're taking it somewhere else, but pretty much is polarity.

[02:40:33]You're a man, be a man, be the leader, be the boss, the woman, be feminine, be submissive. Pretty much that red pill comes from the a movie, The Matrix, right? You take the red pill and you wake up. And yeah, that's pretty much it. And and it also tells you how women are, not what TV tells you they are.

[02:40:56]Like women, they have hardcore fantasies.

[02:41:00]Women like to be dominated.

[02:41:03]Women like to be adventurous and nothing what they show you on >> Lauren more purple pill.

[02:41:09]>> I have no idea what that means.

[02:41:11]>> Me neither. I've heard black pill before. I don't know what black black pill means either. I guys, I don't conform to any category, any ideology.

[02:41:25]>> Oh, there you go.

[02:41:26]>> Yes, much better.

[02:41:28]>> Anything. I I don't like that. I don't say this is my box and I stay in here. I just I like what I like. I talk about what I enjoy. I challenge myself on stuff that maybe I don't agree with. Um, but I I'm never going to put myself in any type of category or box ever for anything.

[02:41:50]>> I'm a free thinker.

[02:41:54]>> Hell yeah.

[02:41:55]>> And that's in anything. Okay.

[02:42:00]Move the mouse.

[02:42:05]>> What one?

[02:42:09]>> We should set up a match between Lauren and Honda. See, dude. Yeah.

[02:42:14]>> Kick my ass.

[02:42:16]>> Scary.

[02:42:17]She's scary. It's on my face.

[02:42:20]>> No, but you're good at strong.

[02:42:22]>> Yeah, you're so strong.

[02:42:23]>> I'm very strong. Rhonda's freaking Look at her traps. Look at Rhonda's.

[02:42:28]She's a freaking tank.

[02:42:31]>> Maybe 10 years when she's 40.

[02:42:34]>> I know. I'm too pretty for that. I don't want to get hit like that. They are freaking savages.

[02:42:40]Can't.

[02:42:40]>> She don't take pills.

[02:42:43]>> I don't take pills. Exactly.

[02:42:45]>> Not those pills.

[02:42:48]>> Black pill, nihilism, purple pill, siso, blue pill, f theory, and dude. What the hell is that?

[02:42:54]>> Yeah, that's just like LGBTQA plus all that stuff. No. Nope.

[02:43:02]I don't conform.

[02:43:04]Pineapple on pizza. Yay or nay?

[02:43:09]I like pineapple on pizza.

[02:43:12]Unless you're being weird and pervy and sexual and you just tricked me into saying yes, but no, we do like pineapple on pizza.

[02:43:27]I narrated Rolo's books using my real name because they've saved men from delusion.

[02:43:37]rings.

[02:43:41]Oh, Mashi, that's a really good book.

[02:43:45]>> Okay, go back.

[02:43:54]>> Got to collect all of the pills.

[02:44:02]>> Let's go. Look. Most of society had hit on the down spiral and it's going too far. If a woman does something wrong, the full response is, "Oh, it's her hormones."

[02:44:14]>> Yeah. You That should be just already debunked because you know your hormones are coming. You know your period's coming. You know your ludal phase is coming. You know it's coming. It happens every single month. So you can't say it's my hormones. Nope. That's the oldest lie in the book ever.

[02:44:34]No, that annoys me.

[02:44:39]It's like telling a guy, "Don't be so horny." And he's like, >> "Well, you can't turn it off." I was going to say, "I can't just turn it off." Well, you can't, so never mind.

[02:44:50]>> Yeah, that's impossible.

[02:44:54]Good morning from the UK.

[02:44:56]>> Good morning.

[02:44:59]Let's go. UK, save your country. UK, save your country.

[02:45:04]>> Don't get political.

[02:45:06]>> I'm sorry.

[02:45:06]>> No, that is my boundary. Don't get political here. You start your own channel for that.

[02:45:14]>> Okay, that's a good question. When do you guys have your first relationship heartbreak?

[02:45:22]>> In eighth grade.

[02:45:26]Eighth grade.

[02:45:28]going into ninth grade.

[02:45:32]>> Me, I was 13 and one of my best friends ended up dating my first girlfriend and they all kissed in front of my face and that will hurt me so much. I remember and I was an idiot because I broke up with her. She was in love with me. I broke up with her and then this idiot. Okay, nobody's eating that cake. It's gonna be me. And I remember how much I regretted that.

[02:46:00][ __ ] >> dude. As you were talking, I just remembered like so many little I had so many little random heartbreaks in high school from just boys that I liked and didn't like me or we liked each other at the wrong time and did they or cheated on me. My first high school boyfriend cheated on me and think made out with my friend right in front of me and I he thought I didn't see him but I saw him.

[02:46:25]So that sucked. But it was eighth grade.

[02:46:27]That was my first little first little heartbreak.

[02:46:30]>> Read this one. So why don't women use some logic and always keep saying it's because they're emotional and hormonal?

[02:46:42]Why don't women use some logic and always scapegoat saying they're hormone?

[02:46:46]>> Women don't run on logic. They run on emotions. Okay? So even if they know they're in the wrong, it's very hard for them to admit that it's very hard. But at the same time, like it takes a certain level of I think growth of a person, you know, cuz I mean, how many times do I say it's my hormones and then take zero accountability for things?

[02:47:10]Like I say it's my hormones. I'm like, [ __ ] Like I'm about to start my period.

[02:47:15]Like I'm being a little too much. But I can I can say that and not be like, "Well, I did that because it's my hormones and that's just is who it is.

[02:47:24]Suck it up." Like, I don't do that anymore.

[02:47:28]>> I used to.

[02:47:30]>> Australia.

[02:47:31]>> Hello from down under.

[02:47:37]>> England.

[02:47:41]>> I don't know why.

[02:47:43]>> You need to speak close to the mic.

[02:47:45]>> This needs to be turned. Okay. Can you hear it?

[02:47:49]>> Stop putting it in front of my face.

[02:47:52]Put it there. You're covering the star here.

[02:47:58]>> Let me change.

[02:47:59]>> Is big nose the star?

[02:48:01]>> Let's change that.

[02:48:02]>> No.

[02:48:03]>> Let's change.

[02:48:04]>> Little nose is the star.

[02:48:06]>> Change that.

[02:48:07]>> I'm fine. I'm fine.

[02:48:14]>> Talking podcast. Call her daddy. Have you heard that?

[02:48:18]>> They're asking you if you watch the podcast. I have no idea.

[02:48:22]>> Yes, I've seen it. Don't rot your brains. What? It's It's that blonde girl. I've showed you a clip of it and you were like, I can't freaking listen to this girl anymore.

[02:48:32]>> Can we stream it here so you can see?

[02:48:33]>> No, she's not welcome on my podcast. No.

[02:48:37]>> Okay. No.

[02:48:38]>> I have no idea who she is.

[02:48:39]>> You can look it up, but I'm not playing.

[02:48:41]I can't handle it.

[02:48:43]I can't handle it. I mean, she's doing something right cuz she's very famous and very >> Can I open this?

[02:48:50]>> It's going to play and it's going to be loud. Just make sure it's muted.

[02:48:56]>> You mean follow.

[02:48:56]>> She's the one that just interviewed Nikki Glazier. And >> dude, no. That's horrible.

[02:49:05]>> It's just all >> It's brain rot, guys.

[02:49:08]>> It's all celebrities.

[02:49:10]And they probably ask her asked them like what stupidity.

[02:49:14]>> She got famous for talking about sex and how to give up a [ __ ] and how to be a [ __ ] and be okay with it and to just sleep around. And I'm sorry, but >> sorry, Alex Cooper. Not a fan.

[02:49:29]Not a fan. But you are doing something right. You're famous. Everybody wants to be on your podcast, >> dude. But >> it's There's no substance. There's nothing that I have seen that actually helps people and educates people at all.

[02:49:47]It's just people, they're talking [ __ ] back and forth and talking about drama and the tea and oh my god, your ex did what? Oh my god.

[02:49:55]>> Yeah. Stupid.

[02:49:56]>> Can't handle it.

[02:49:57]>> Yeah, I know. Low IQ.

[02:49:59]>> Yeah. Stupid brain rot. See Most people have rings to rut.

[02:50:15]You can check the podcast out and correct me if I'm wrong, but I have seen it. I have watched her from a very when it was her and Sophia a long long long time ago when they were talking about the gluck gluck. The gluck gluck. Okay, that's what it's called. gluck like 10,000 or 9,000 or some BS like that.

[02:50:42]>> Can you go to the >> Can I show them this?

[02:50:45]>> No, you can't on here >> on the live. Can you show videos?

[02:50:48]>> No.

[02:50:49]>> Yes, you can. You have a button for that, right?

[02:50:51]>> I don't know what it is and I'm not going to figure it out right now.

[02:50:55]>> Oh, okay.

[02:50:56]>> I have no clue. You have to pre >> pre-generate it into the thing. We're changing >> minimize that.

[02:51:03]>> I was researching.

[02:51:04]>> Yeah.

[02:51:05]>> And we're not using this BS platform anymore. We're done with that. We're using uh Streamyard.

[02:51:10]>> Streamyard.

[02:51:10]>> Another software. And then you won't have problems.

[02:51:13]>> Okay.

[02:51:15]>> Because I want to watch fights with the guys. I can't.

[02:51:18]>> The Hakua.

[02:51:20]Stupid stupid girl that got famous.

[02:51:23]>> She disappeared. Huh?

[02:51:25]>> Rightfully so. Like why are you making these people famous? You're making people stupid.

[02:51:36]>> Why is marriage and dating hard for the younger generation? Oh my gosh, so many reasons. So many reasons. And the first thing that comes to my head is social media and the constant comparisons of everybody you see on a freaking phone screen or a computer screen. um more temptation out there for people. Um think back in the like 40s and 50s, even 60s, like there was no phones, there was no computers. You just had your person and you spent time with them. Like you maybe saw someone on the street, but you didn't have just this endless access to freaking anything you want, right? And we've talked about back and forth like, well, all that stuff should be banned.

[02:52:28]No, it shouldn't. It shouldn't be banned. It's good that you actually can trust somebody fully with all that stuff still easily accessible to you, right? Like it's if they dabble in that, then okay, good. Like, you weren't for me. I'm going to get out of here. Like, use their let their actions be be of value to you, too. So, I don't think all that stuff should be banned necessarily.

[02:52:54]Just work on your freaking self-control and yourself.

[02:52:59]>> Yeah, this is true. You're competing with everyone on the internet, but I think that they just competed with those around you.

[02:53:06]>> Yeah. And those people on the internet, they don't know who you are. They don't know you exist. You just are seeing them. You're seeing what they're po choosing to post. You don't know their life. You don't kind of like me, right?

[02:53:21]Like I'm pretty real and I'm doing these lives so you get to see me and who I really am, but who I am in my shorts is who I am in real life. There's no no different. But there's a lot of fake and a lot of um just lies on the internet of Photoshop filters. Jesus Christ. Like you you name it.

[02:53:43]>> Yeah, that's true.

[02:53:46]>> I think that's the number one reason.

[02:53:49]there's too much um temptation and not enough maybe social interaction either with just human beings on a daily basis.

[02:53:58]So you see a freaking girl in a bikini or showing her ass and you're like, "Oh my god." Like you go nuts because you're freaking [ __ ] and don't know how to control yourself.

[02:54:10]I'm getting a little um unhinged because it's late and I'm hungry. Um, so yeah, that's my thought on that.

[02:54:27]The phone doesn't just give you access to everything. It gives everything access to you. Yep.

[02:54:40]That is why if you're in the red pill or black pill space, you should teach from a religious or god- centered focus perspective.

[02:54:48]I disagree.

[02:54:57]So, >> Oh, we're getting serious.

[02:55:01]We're getting serious.

[02:55:02]>> Yeah.

[02:55:04]You you didn't you don't need to teach whatever you want to teach from a god- centered focused perspective. You don't have to.

[02:55:14]>> No, >> you have religious people teaching about religion. You have non-religious people teaching you about science.

[02:55:25]So you don't need to have everything scientific based or religious based or gender specific based. You you don't have to have that in order for it to have value. Get what you can get from the red pill, black pill, purple pill or white pill or any pill you want.

[02:55:47]Use extract the information that resonates with you and use it on your everyday life.

[02:55:54]go to church or read the Bible. You don't have to agree with everything.

[02:55:59]Like if you give me a Bible, I'm not going to agree with most of it. I'm pretty sure >> there's beautiful passages in it, too.

[02:56:08]>> Exactly. There's some passages that I'm going to like. I'm like, "Oh, I like this." And then I'm going to use that.

[02:56:14]The same with Three Little Pigs and The Ugly Duck and whatever you can read, even from content creators online. I don't have to agree with everything they say and they oh I'm not going to follow you. No, that's a childish mentality.

[02:56:29]>> He's responding to you.

[02:56:30]>> I I listen to anyone anyone online. I'm like, okay, I like what you're saying. I don't agree with this. So, you have to pick and choose. Pick and choose. Pick and choose. And sometimes the people that trigger you the most are the people that probably going to awaken you the most.

[02:56:46]>> So, getting triggered is good, too. But that's what gives structure and order.

[02:56:52]>> That's not true. That's not true.

[02:56:54]>> It restores order to all problems in this.

[02:56:58]>> No. No. Do you remember what the black ages are? The black ages held back civilization. And it's because it was dominated by religion. Everything had a religious lens. You were doing something. Ah, that's from the demon.

[02:57:13]We're going to burn you alive. Yeah. No.

[02:57:15]You're completely wrong. Religion will blind you.

[02:57:17]>> It too much of anything will blind you.

[02:57:22]For example, I was talking to Lauren and she was telling me, man, they should ban only fans, right? And I thought to myself and like, yeah, it makes sense.

[02:57:33]But then I told her, no, they shouldn't ban it. Leave it there. But a lot of guys are getting addicted. Yeah, all the idiots are getting addicted. Yeah, >> let them get addicted.

[02:57:44]>> I give you an example.

[02:57:46]If I leave my house right now, somebody offers me crack, I'm not going to smoke it. I don't care how often you offer it to me, put it in my face, I'm going to say no. So with only fans, it's the same thing. Only the low IQ, weak men are going to get addicted to Only Fans. Yeah. The rest of us, we we don't. So you don't have to outlaw Only Fans. What you have to do is teach people what are the important things worth giving their energy to and having and giving them the ability to choose and be strong and say no I'm not watching what's the name of that stupid show the godaddy >> call her daddy >> yeah call her daddy okay I don't watch that show it's there it has millions of you just saw to million I'm not going to watch it I don't care because I'm not [ __ ] And I'm not gonna go to Only Fans and give some stupid, you know, tarant to the woman my credit card like an idiot. I'm not doing that. I'm not spending all day watching porn like an idiot. I'm not doing that. You know, have I done it before? Yes. When I was young, yes. Did I become addicted? No.

[02:58:57]>> I knew someone was going to say that.

[02:58:58]You know, >> 90% of the stuff Lauren teaches deres from the Bible.

[02:59:03]>> Yeah, that's great. But it's not only the Bible. It drives from Hinduism, from Buddhism, from any kind of uh ancient religion. You have to understand that it's all connected.

[02:59:16]>> Everything is connected. What you find in the Bible, you're going to find in some other ancient book and more, you know. So, it's just ancient knowledge that different people have converted in my opinion um to religion in order to manipulate humanity. But in reality, everything comes from the same source, right? Be kind to one another. Don't kill anyone just because, you know, control your impulses. Um be more um spiritual. Like every single religion is going to tell you that there are religions in Christianity.

[02:59:55]Yeah, that's true.

[03:00:02]In this world, it's impossible not to be addicted to something.

[03:00:07]I have addicted personality. You know what I'm addicted to? Getting better, working, training, reading, um, sex sometimes. That's why she's happy. I'm addicted to music.

[03:00:25]Like, you understand? Yeah. Pick your addiction. It's It's okay. As long as it's not destructive, then all right.

[03:00:32]The most successful men in this planet are addicted to what they do. That's why they're successful. Uh Michael Jordan was what? Addicted to basketball. Yes.

[03:00:41]And there you go. Michael Jordan.

[03:00:49]>> This religion [ __ ] woke everyone up always.

[03:00:53]>> Yeah. Because the funny thing about religion is like, "No, my religion is the true religion and my god is the true god and yours is wrong." And the other guy says, "No, my god is the real god, yours is wrong." And it's just stupid.

[03:01:07]That's that's really stupid. Like none of you know anything. You don't even know yourself and you're going to know God and you're going to know how this world was made. No. Just be be humble.

[03:01:20]You don't know [ __ ] Have faith. Do your thing. It's okay. Like, we do not care what you believe in, how you think. Just be open to other people's perspectives, too. It's not You have no clue what is right and what is wrong and what is true and what is not. Like, how how can we how can we? I'm sorry, but that's as much as I'm talking about religion or politics. I don't like talking about it.

[03:01:51]Yeah, it's controversial.

[03:01:53]>> I don't mind it. It's other people. Like I cuz I really don't care what other people think or believe or want to believe. I really don't care. But when I say my thoughts, it's always the Christians or the super religious people shaming me or saying I'm going to hell or you're demonic or you're controlled by the devil. I'm like, you're a psychopath. Like, I'm sorry, but no.

[03:02:19]That's why I don't talk about religion or politics at all. Nobody knows. Just be good. Be a good person. Give back to the world somehow. Help yourself. Help other people regardless of what the [ __ ] you believe in. Who cares? Who cares?

[03:02:37]Just be good. We are all humans. We're all connected somehow. Nobody knows what is going to happen. And I think that is pretty damn fascinating and pretty cool.

[03:02:50]That's just me.

[03:02:52]>> Yeah.

[03:02:56]>> No, but as as long as it >> helps you in your life, then do whatever you want, man.

[03:03:03]>> Like I've seen it personally in my family and friends. It saves people. It saves them. It makes them feel good. It gives them a sense of purpose, a community. There's nothing wrong with that. God is inside of you. God is in you. Not in a freaking church, not in a a sermon, not in some cathedral, even though they're beautiful. No. God lives within you. Your faith is your faith.

[03:03:37]You don't need to share that with the world or feel like you need to be in some community just because like no do it for you because you want to do it and it makes you feel good and it makes you a better person. That's it. Believe whatever the freak you want to believe.

[03:03:52]I talked to so many different people of all cultures, religions, and I think it is damn fascinating how different we are, how different we think, what we believe in. It's cool.

[03:04:08]That's it. It's cool. Do your thing.

[03:04:10]Just be good. Be a good person and work on yourself and improve yourself and help the world somehow. I don't give a [ __ ] what you believe in or who you like, where you live. I don't care.

[03:04:22]There's good people in the world.

[03:04:23]There's bad people in the world. There's good people in every race. There's bad people in every race. There's good people in every religion. There's bad people in every religion. That's just it. Let it be. Get on with your life.

[03:04:37]We're all going to die one day.

[03:04:43]There you go. That's the real Lauren, man. That's my wife.

[03:04:48]That's my wife.

[03:04:50]>> Yeah. Go.

[03:04:52]>> You are the temple. Yeah, we are the temple. We're our own temple. Sorry, I'm just getting too excited.

[03:04:58]>> No, that's true.

[03:04:58]>> Too excited. Once you cut the religious dogma and the nonsense and realize that your own heaven and your own hell it's in here, your own god and your own demon is in here. Things are going to change for you beautifully.

[03:05:14]It's all inside of you. All inside of you. The moment you realize that God lives inside of you, everything changes.

[03:05:22]The more you externalize it, the harder life gets. I'm going to pray for you.

[03:05:25]You need to pray. It's here. I'm gonna ask God to know. You do it yourself. You do the work. Don't outsource what you need to do. No, because I need some kind of enlightenment. It's in here.

[03:05:42]Yeah. But if they do that, then all the religions collapse and every religion on earth, every single one is a multi or trillion dollar industry. They stop going, everything collapse. They can't.

[03:05:53]They need to have your number. Keep going back. Donate to give money. Yeah.

[03:05:59]No. Awaken yourself. Awaken yourself.

[03:06:13]Yeah.

[03:06:16]>> Yeah. Exactly. We can agree to disagree.

[03:06:18]>> All good.

[03:06:19]>> It's all good. I mean, if you feel good going to a building with a bunch of people, you know, looking up in the sky and praying to someone outside of you, do it. I think you don't need to do that. I think you you have it within yourself.

[03:06:33]You should self-discover yourself and find God within yourself. You don't need to spend any money, go to any building, can do it in your house.

[03:06:43]That that that's the cool thing that we can debate. We can have different opinions, you know, and you're like, "Wow, they're like crazy, but they have good advice." Yeah. You know, someone says there is no God. And he might be right because maybe there's gods, right? We don't know. I don't know.

[03:07:04]I don't know. I don't know. Nobody knows.

[03:07:10]I remember my uncle telling me this when I was a kid because I had that God question and he told me, "Look, you trying to understand God is like that snail."

[03:07:21]Yeah. In your in your garden. Yeah. Make that snail understand that she's in a garden, who is in your house, who is in a city, who is in a state, which is in a country, which is floating on mass of water on a globe that is on a galaxy. Yeah. Yeah.

[03:07:39]You can't. He's like, "You would never.

[03:07:41]You can try, but you would never."

[03:07:44]>> Husband, how do you deal with that girl all the time? Good man.

[03:07:51]>> No, Lauren is the >> He deals with me pretty well, >> dude. I'm telling you, Lauren, any man, any man on this planet can be married to Lauren. She is so easy. So any any her mother is the same way. My mom, >> her mom, dude, she's such >> That's why I am the way that I am.

[03:08:13]>> She is Your mom doesn't have a mean bone. She's like a little butterfly. Her mom >> in the world.

[03:08:19]>> Little fairy. Oblivious to the dangers of the world, but she's super sweet.

[03:08:24]Like >> she's the best.

[03:08:25]>> I tell her that. I'm like, "Dude, you got lucky with a girl. You won the lottery." He's like, "Wow, she's no peach." No, no, no, no, no. You are wrong in every sense of the word because I see Lori. I see her mom and I, Lauren.

[03:08:38]Look, I love you. I'm in love with you.

[03:08:39]But Jesus Christ, your mom, dude, how how can you have any issue by being married with your mom? It's impossible.

[03:08:48]The easiest thing ever.

[03:08:49]>> I know.

[03:08:50]>> Happy with anything. Let's go have Subway. Yay. Okay, thank you. Subway.

[03:08:54]Happy with the subway. Uh, we're broke.

[03:08:57]Okay, we sleep on the floor. No problem.

[03:09:00]I mean, she is like that. What a hippie.

[03:09:02]Your mommy is >> She is a hippie.

[03:09:04]>> Total hippie.

[03:09:08]Maga husband, how do you deal with a girl all the time? Yeah, because she's amazing.

[03:09:14]What do you guys think about folks saying a marriage without God won't work? That's not true. That is not true because I'm going to tell you something.

[03:09:21]Yeah.

[03:09:23]Even let's say that for the sake of arguing that God exists no matter what.

[03:09:29]Even the people who say that they don't believe, they still have God within themselves. And that heavenly particle is going to make the relationship work.

[03:09:39]She has so many clients, all of them religious pastors and relationships are a mess. A complete mess. Complete mess.

[03:09:49]And we know couples that are atheists and they love each other. Yeah.

[03:09:56]>> For them.

[03:09:57]>> They see God probably on a sunset.

[03:10:00]That's how they see God. They see God every time they smile. God is everywhere, right? It's it's it's a very interesting um topic of discussion. You can speak about this for days. For days. It's it's very interesting.

[03:10:15]Protect her at all costs. Yeah, >> he does.

[03:10:19]>> He does.

[03:10:20]>> Unless you worship the devil because that's wild.

[03:10:25]Yeah. Those people are lost, man.

[03:10:27]They're lost. They're lost. You're woring what? Like as some red horn devil. Are you kidding me?

[03:10:34]>> You're welcome. Surprised OJ Simpson face. He said, "Appreciate you guys for at least reading the comments and being able to have discussion talks and debates. You guys are awesome."

[03:10:46]Thank you. Appreciate it.

[03:10:49]>> I remember um a time of my life when uh I fought with religion. Yeah. Because I experienced horrible things from Catholic church.

[03:10:59]And one day I went surfing with my friends to this beach that was a desert.

[03:11:06]Nobody was there.

[03:11:08]And I felt something so powerful inside of me. And me, the atheist me said, "Man, I felt God for the first time in my life, you know. Isn't that crazy?

[03:11:20]Isn't that crazy?"

[03:11:21]>> Okay, no more religion talk. Shout out from Wisconsin. My wife Lauren and I named twin. Yay. Watch your videos all the time. Any advice on passing some of the advice we've all learned to the younger generations? Start leading by example and living how how I'm talking or how I'm preaching and they will see that and they will hopefully model themselves after that.

[03:11:52]Right? The best thing you can do is leading by example and just hoping that they catch on and start living like like that too. You know, that's the best. You can force them to watch it and sit and I need you to watch it. No, you're going to push them away.

[03:12:10]Like it has to just be natural.

[03:12:13]But you are the best teacher yourself.

[03:12:17]Lead by example.

[03:12:33]Hey, you're cold.

[03:12:36]>> Trump 2030.

[03:12:39]>> No politics, no religion. Don't get this freaking animal started. Just no. I will end the live.

[03:12:48]I'll end it. It's mine. I can do what I want.

[03:12:55]>> You should start watching religious reaction videos.

[03:13:00]The God created your wife. So look at her eyes and see how amazing. I'm No, I'm not talking about religion anymore.

[03:13:06]No more. We're done. We're done.

[03:13:13]>> I guess you guys are dims.

[03:13:18]>> No, we're not. And that's no more politics. No more.

[03:13:22]>> Stop.

[03:13:23]>> But we're not dims.

[03:13:24]>> Hell no.

[03:13:26]>> Don't say anymore.

[03:13:28]>> Hell no.

[03:13:30]>> Our young ones are 10 and eight. So, we're doing our best to lead by example so far.

[03:13:37]So good. We think beautiful. Good. They will listen to and follow how you are acting and how you are living your life.

[03:13:47]It's like when you grow up in a home full of addicts. You think you're magically just not going to be one. It's going to be really damn hard for you not to be. You're most likely going to go down that path, right? It's like a family full of athletes. Are you going to be more nerdy or books smart? Odds are most likely not because that's not how you were raised. But you might, right? Just keep keep doing it and keep teaching them and educating them. based on how you live your life. Kids are smart. They soak up everything that you're doing. Everything. The good, the bad, and the ugly. Everything.

[03:14:30]1:30 a.m. My gosh, you guys are killers.

[03:14:34]My crush rejected me. I miss her.

[03:14:38]That's life, my friend.

[03:14:41]>> You'll have another crush.

[03:14:42]>> Yeah. Move on. It's all good.

[03:14:44]>> Telling he's going to have another crush. You will have another crush.

[03:14:47]That's fine.

[03:14:47]>> And then >> and then more.

[03:14:48]>> And then another one.

[03:14:49]>> And then more.

[03:14:50]>> And then another one.

[03:14:51]>> Don't get hung up on just one.

[03:14:52]>> Yeah.

[03:14:54]>> Don't get hung up on it. I miss her.

[03:14:57]What can I do? Don't be desperate. Don't be needy. Learn about why maybe it's hurting you so bad. It's okay. There's going to be more chances for you. Don't worry.

[03:15:09]>> I have advice for you. Yeah.

[03:15:14]That pain that you're feeling. Yeah.

[03:15:18]Because she was everything that you wanted in a woman and then she rejected you.

[03:15:24]>> Hurts.

[03:15:25]>> Embrace it. Don't run away from the pain. Feel it. Feel it fully. Embrace it. Cry.

[03:15:35]Cry alone. Cry. Let it out. Let it out.

[03:15:40]And after that get upset. Get mad. How you dare? Me.

[03:15:47]Me the king. You're rejecting the king.

[03:15:50]>> You're lost.

[03:15:51]>> You're los. I'm going to show you what you lost. And you know what you do?

[03:15:56]You get better.

[03:15:58]>> That pain is the feeling like a crackhead, an addict having withdrawals.

[03:16:03]>> Yeah. Yeah. Go to the gym, train, get stronger, dress better, be smarter, be smoother, read more books, learn how to flirt, like evolve. Every heartbreak that I experience, I use it as a catalyst for growth. So, I thank every rejection, every traumatized event, every single thing that hurt me, I thank it because it made me the man that I am today. and I continue getting better and that's why I have her.

[03:16:36]It's true. People don't want to feel the pain. You have to feel the pain.

[03:16:40]>> Got to feel it and you got to sit with it. You got to work through it.

[03:16:47]>> It's nice.

[03:16:53]He left California. That's good.

[03:16:55]California kind of sucks, but where we live, we live in a magical world. I'd rather live here than anywhere else right now.

[03:17:02]>> Yeah, it's beautiful. We across from the beach.

[03:17:14]Okay, I want to give him advice to Steve point.

[03:17:18]>> Married woman. Move the mouse.

[03:17:20]>> Sorry.

[03:17:20]>> Married woman shows interest. Great attraction.

[03:17:25]The silent I get, the more she will poke, but never becomes concrete.

[03:17:30]>> She's married.

[03:17:32]>> Uhhuh.

[03:17:34]She's playing with you. She's just like she wants the candy, but no, she can't have it.

[03:17:41]>> Yeah, but she's a married woman showing interest in him.

[03:17:44]>> Yeah, well, he wants to sleep with a married woman, man.

[03:17:48]>> Don't get involved with a married woman.

[03:17:50]What is wrong with you?

[03:17:52]>> Ain't nothing wrong with me. It's him.

[03:17:54]>> What's wrong with both of you?

[03:17:56]>> He wants to get laid with a married woman. A lot of guys want to do that.

[03:18:00]I'm not saying they should do it. He's saying like she pokes, but but she's married and she's scared and she wants to feel the thrill of the play of the attraction of, you know, of the moment of, oh, this is wrong and but I like this guy. So, she's flirting with you to feel that.

[03:18:23]Get excited and then bang her husband.

[03:18:26]Maybe she's banging her husband. Maybe she's not. Maybe she's playing with herself. Maybe that relationship is not going to work. I don't know. But that's why she's not committing to you. If you want her to commit, here is my advice.

[03:18:39]Don't pursue her anymore. Ghost her. And if she really wants you, she's going to go and tell you, you know what? I want to sleep with you and she's going to make it happen. When a woman wants something, she'll make it happen. Don't be the instigator because she's a married woman, right? Unless you're a piece of [ __ ] If you're a piece of [ __ ] then do whatever you want. But I mean, I don't recommend it because the husband then finds out, gets a gun and pa just shoots you. You never know. You never know. Some guys that I know got in with married women and had a blast and it was amazing. The sex was amazing.

[03:19:14]Great. But I also heard stories and they're true stories where the husband found out, lost his marbles, came to the guy's house to the job, broke the door, some guy's been shot. Like, dude, I'm telling you, it's gnarly. So, yeah, my two cents.

[03:19:36]Next question.

[03:19:38]Next question.

[03:19:50]I can't see it from here. You have to read it.

[03:19:53]>> We have a 10-year-old daughter with a new boyfriend. We monitor the conversations and they're saying they love each other so much. They're only 10. Any advice?

[03:20:19]10 years old. One, they don't know what love is. Just let them be young and dominant in love. Just let them let them experience it. Just make sure they're being freaking safe. I mean 10 I Gosh, I didn't think about boys when I was like that when I was 10. Times have changed. My gosh.

[03:20:46]Lauren, your advice on transparency and social media and phones after infidelity was excellent. If we cheat, we give up privacy and start the long road towards rearning trust. You have to. You [ __ ] up. You broke the trust. You want any chance of rebuilding it? You better give her access to everything so she can see proof is you [ __ ] You did it. You screwed up. So now you have to deal with the repercussions of it if you decide to to to stay. If she decides that you want to do that >> answer that please.

[03:21:26]>> Have I been through an opiate withdrawal? No, because I was never addicted to opiates. But what I did have a withdrawal from was bad food and alcohol.

[03:21:36]>> Yeah.

[03:21:36]>> So go up a little bit.

[03:21:50]Okay.

[03:21:54]>> Stay single.

[03:21:56]>> Do your thing, man.

[03:21:58]Plenty of single women out there, bro.

[03:22:00]Yeah. Don't get involved with a married woman. Like, you're a dummy if you decide to do that because she's a married woman. You already know that it's starting off rocky with a [ __ ] ton of red flags. But you want to be the one that maybe doesn't get involved in it too much. But you will. You will.

[03:22:21]>> But he maybe he just wants to get laid and he knows that she's married so he doesn't have to deal with her. You will deal with her, dude. You will deal with her. You think you're just going to have sex with her once and she's going to leave you alone?

[03:22:39]Okay. You're hilarious. You're hilarious.

[03:22:43]>> I'm asking you. I'm asking you.

[03:22:44]>> Or some guys think it's cool because look at me. I can get a married girl.

[03:22:50]You're not cool. You're not cool. Sorry.

[03:22:54]You think you're cool, but you're not.

[03:22:56]Oh my gosh, but the sex is just so good and so crazy, and we're being sneaky, and I I know the I know the friend, too.

[03:23:03]And >> yeah, wait.

[03:23:04]>> You're not cool.

[03:23:07]>> I don't care how good the sex is or how fun it is. No, you're stupid.

[03:23:28]My ex-girlfriend, can you read?

[03:23:30]>> My ex-girlfriend and I split up after eight years. We have a 14-year-old. Then after we split up, I found out she went into another relationship three weeks later.

[03:23:40]Yeah. She had that guy on her radar long before you guys broke up.

[03:23:44]Women don't just jump into another relationship just like that. Especially if it's an exclusive relationship. No, she doesn't.

[03:23:54]She's been talking to someone. She had her exit plan maybe already already planned out strategically. She's not going to be alone. She's going to want someone to be there for her while she's going through the breakup with you.

[03:24:10]People are going to do what they're going to do. Isn't your job to have to save somebody? Yep. You can't control anybody.

[03:24:23]You can't. All you can control is yourself. What you decide to do with your life, your actions, reactions, what you choose to say, how you choose to think, regardless of of other people.

[03:24:35]>> Jesus Christ. This guy keeps posting the same thing.

[03:24:41]You're you're going to annoy me.

[03:24:45]We answered your question. Stop being so desperate. You're going to be okay. Go work on your yourself and your mindset and your self-confidence.

[03:24:56]You will be fine.

[03:25:01]Do you think a lot of women have rosters even when they're dating? Have you heard the term hypergamy?

[03:25:09]If you haven't, look it up.

[03:25:11]>> Explain. Yeah, >> I'm tired. I'm hungry.

[03:25:15]>> Let's go eat.

[03:25:18]>> It's almost been four hours.

[03:25:20]>> Women don't care. They have a finish line. Pick the winner.

[03:25:24]>> Yep. Brutal, right? Brutal. Brutal truth.

[03:25:30]All women have rosters. Yeah. Yes. They have their options. They know. They have their orbiters.

[03:25:38]What? Why are you pointing to me?

[03:25:41]>> Do you? Yes.

[03:25:46]>> Options better than you.

[03:25:48]>> Honey, I didn't say better. I said options >> a [ __ ] ton.

[03:25:58]>> I love it. I love it.

[03:26:01]>> That's just a fact. But do any of them make me feel how this one makes me feel? No. Does Do any of them put up with my [ __ ] like this one does? No.

[03:26:16]>> Oh my god.

[03:26:18]>> Does anyone make me freaking tap out in the bedroom from having too many orgasms? No. Him?

[03:26:26]>> No. I mean, >> there's options. Of course there's options. There's always options. And he knows. He knows that.

[03:26:35]He knows if he freaking isn't doing what he needs to do to keep me happy, there's options. And vice versa. If I I know plenty of women would kill to be in my spot, but they're not. And they won't ever be because guess who rocks his world? Guess who makes sure I'm keeping myself up? Guess who makes sure I'm his fantasy and pleas all forms of pleasure and and everything. I'm his outlet for everything vice versa. But yes, there are options on both sides. Are they entertained? Absolutely freaking not.

[03:27:13]Because gh nozzy >> what?

[03:27:19]>> And I'm laughing out of nervous laughter.

[03:27:34]That's funny.

[03:27:35]>> The dot dot dot >> laughing nervous.

[03:27:47]>> Let me answer that.

[03:27:50]But you got to understand that you're never the only one. Never. If a woman is pretty or attractive, do you think you're the only one who's going to be calling her or No, there a line of guys. If you find her pretty, thousand find her pretty. You're always competing.

[03:28:14]>> Life's a competition. Always. To this day, even though she's married with me, to this day, I don't sleep and on my laurels and relax. I'm like, "Nope, no.

[03:28:30]I'm always training, getting better, dating her, giving her what she needs in every sense of the word. And she does the same. She's in shape, eating healthy, trying to be the everything that I need, my fantasy, everything. It's We always tell couples the following. There has to be a certain amount of healthy fear.

[03:28:56]Yeah.

[03:28:57]Healthy fear. Always. Never say, "Oh, that's even though inside I know she's my girl, my soulmate, and she thinks the same thing."

[03:29:07]>> But why though?

[03:29:08]>> Exactly. Because it it refrains you from taking that person for granted.

[03:29:14]>> Exactly.

[03:29:14]>> There needs to be that little bit of healthy fear. It's okay. It's okay. It means you appreciate that person. You value them.

[03:29:23]>> You don't want to lose them. You want to keep them. And you don't take them for granted. You can't take them for granted. You can't. It's easy to do that when life gets a little comfortable, but don't let it get comfortable. You can't let it get there. That's how it starts is by just complacency and just doing the same [ __ ] over and over again. Like, no, don't do that. Always date each other. Go do fun things. Go do exciting things. Go do new things. Try new things. Talk. Be vulnerable. Get the [ __ ] inside of you out that you wouldn't tell anybody but your person because you trust them so much. And give them a chance to to choose all of you. Just give them a chance.

[03:30:13]Yep.

[03:30:16]>> Go down. Is that all of it?

[03:30:19]>> Yeah.

[03:30:19]>> Go up a little bit.

[03:30:27]>> That's funny. No, go up.

[03:30:40]You already >> I didn't cuz I was talking. I was going on a rant.

[03:30:49]All right, guys. I'm getting tired and I need to get my beauty sleep if you want me to keep doing this.

[03:30:58]>> I am tired.

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