5 THINGS I DON’T MISS ABOUT BEING OBESE ‼️ | -80lbs GLP-1 ✨🎀💪

Added: 2026-06-02

[00:00:00]I'm Amy May, and here's five things that I don't miss about being obese. Number one, I don't miss constantly being aware of how much space I'm taking up, of how fat I am, of how I'm the biggest person in the room. Just 24/7, if it's not at the front of my mind, it's at the back of my mind. It's always lingering. It's always lurking. It's always curve crawling. Constantly aware of my size, and you know, the fact that I might be the fattest person in the room, thinking what do people think?

[00:00:31]How do people perceive me? It's always there. It's always there. Number two, I don't miss constantly fearing that people will judge my food choices. Like even like work, or if I'm out for a meal with people, you know, whether I order a salad, people will be going, "Oh, yeah, she should be eating salads."

[00:00:49]Or if I order a pizza, people will be like, "Yeah, I thought she would.

[00:00:53]Thought she would. Wouldn't expect anything else."

[00:00:58]You know, whatever environment it is, if it's in the work environment, just having a soup, being conscious that people will think, "Yeah, I bet she's on a diet, as she should be." Or if I order like lasagna, chips, whatever, they'll be like, "Mhm, mhm, no wonder she's so big." Number three, and we all know I don't miss this. I don't miss just having to wear whatever clothes fit me, regardless of whether I like them or not. I don't miss not being able to walk into clothes shops. I think the first time that it was about I want to say Mhm, I think August 2024 was the first time that I actually walked into a shop.

[00:01:36]It was Primark, and I bought a skirt and this red Hello Kitty top. That was the first time that I'd done in years, since I was a teenager, when I was like out with my friends in town, and they're going to shops, and they'd be trying on everything, and buying stuff that fits them, and I'd just kind of be stood there feeling really awkward and uncomfortable, and not enjoying myself.

[00:01:56]I don't miss not being able to express my sense of style, not being able to wear clothes that I actually like cuz there is some awful I won't even call them outfits. Like you literally just wore whatever fit you. And I've told this story before, but basically I was on placement for a few months like somewhere a few hours away and I had this one black polka dot dress from Boohoo that was like my staple. I'd use it for any like whenever I had to leave the house that wasn't work or whatever, I'd be in that black polka dot dress.

[00:02:25]And I didn't bring it with me and so I ordered for next day delivery the exact same dress off Boohoo.

[00:02:33]Because you had you had your sort of your your comfort clothes, didn't you?

[00:02:36]Your go-tos. You had like a few staple items that you just wear constantly cuz they fit you. One of the biggest joys post weight loss is actually being able to clothes shop, walk into shops not feeling so self-conscious and awful, and actually be able to try stuff on and not feel Well, to be fair, I still do this day. You know me. Going to the fitting rooms and you have to say how many items or whatever, and then you try them on.

[00:03:00]And obviously like in in the past like 10 years ago, well, more than that actually, like when I'd gone like as a teenager or whatever, I always felt really self-conscious like giving them back to the the fitting room attendant and so I'd just go and put them back on the shelves cuz I didn't want them to think, "Oh yeah, knew that wouldn't fit you." Or like, "Oh yeah, knew nothing would look good on you."

[00:03:21]Even now though, to be fair, I feel really awkward like when I go and try like 10 things on and even if I'm not going to buy anything, I might give like one back to the like the shopping attendant and then I'll go and like put the rest back on the shelves cuz I don't know why, I just feel really awkward cuz I don't want them to think like I'm taking the mic. Adidas, I am still waiting for you to get in touch.

[00:03:40]I'm patient, so it's fine. I've got time.

[00:03:43]I've got time. Number four, I don't miss the complete lack of confidence and absolute self-hatred. I don't miss that one bit. Other than finally being enabled to buy clothes that I like, one of the greatest things about weight loss for me is the increase in confidence.

[00:04:00]It kind of links in with number one, but actually sort of believing in myself as well, because when I was obese, complete lack of confidence, I've said it before, hated myself, sort of seeking external forms of validation, wasn't able to validate myself, and just falling into self-destructive cycles related to that.

[00:04:19]I wasn't able to stand up for myself. I didn't even try. And I didn't think that I deserved nice things. I wouldn't put myself forward for opportunities because I was too self-conscious, too embarrassed, and I thought, "Oh, well, I'll never get it, will I?"

[00:04:33]It all links together, but yeah, I don't miss the absolute lack of self-confidence. And so now I think like when some trolls, you know, comment on me [clears throat] being vain or this, that, and the other, I'll happily be vain. Like I think after what, 25 years of feeling worthless, hating myself, I'm not afraid to now say, "Actually, do you know what? I do look good in that. I do feel good in that." And if that makes me vain, self-absorbed, attention-seeking, then so be it. I also think it's completely natural when you've sort of been starved of attention or you've been shying away from any sort of attention to the any attention you get is negative.

[00:05:11]I don't really think it is a bad thing being attention-seeking. Like if that's a bad thing, fine, but so I think now I'm sort of at the point where it's like when people make comments, like if I'm happy within myself and if I'm feeling confident within myself, that's all that matters. And number five, I don't miss since childhood, since primary school, knowing that that is the first thing that people will always reach for in argument cuz people seem to think just cuz they're thinner than you and like that's a one-up, that that's enough in itself. So I don't miss like regardless of the circumstances, if you're thought that is something that's going to be weaponized against you. Or like if you have a minor disagreement with someone. I told you I've told you before, you know, I nearly got I nearly got run over once, right? And then they shouted like, "Fat seaweed." or something out the window.

[00:06:04]What on earth? So, now I feel more able to assert myself and to stand up for myself.

[00:06:09]I know it sounds bad that I should have felt able to do that when I was big, but I'm not going to sit here and pretend I did, cuz I didn't. And I wish I had, but even now, I think the reason I've gained confidence is because I'm sort of able to not like pass, but fly under the radar now, because I'm not constantly aware of how big I am, and because you know, someone can't sort of immediately reach for that and weaponize it against me, I do feel more able to stand up for myself, and more able to put myself forward for opportunities and assert myself. Just a quick one for me today, guys. I am doing an ongoing Q&A series, so if you do have any questions you'd like me to answer there, then either comment them down below, or comment them I did a community post, but I think it was like 3 weeks ago now, so I might do another post. If you've got any questions, let me know, and it is an ongoing series. I think I've done two parts now, so part three will be coming soon, and I hope everybody has a lovely day.

[00:07:07]And Adidas, please sponsor me.