Autism vs ADHD vs AuDHD: “Late, Early…. Never On Time?!“

Ajouté : 2026-05-05

[00:00:00]I like to arrive early. I'm always 12 minutes late. Early is safe. You account for delays. I account for nothing. I'll figure it out on the way. That's stressful. That's efficient. Okay, so here's the problem. You plan ahead. You leave late. I do both. I get ready early. Good. I had extra time.

[00:00:14]Dangerous. So, I sat down for a second and then it was time to leave. Classic.

[00:00:18]You should have left earlier. I tried but you didn't. No. Then I rushed fast.

[00:00:22]I became efficient. At what cost?

[00:00:24]>> All of it. And I arrived exactly on time. Barely. And now I need to recover from existing. This is why I arrive early. This is why I'm late. This is why I'm on time and exhausted. I hate that I understand this. How long do you need to recover?

[00:00:37]>> Yeah. Hard to say. The rushing is one part, but the planning is also a part.

[00:00:40]And the sitting down and knowing I shouldn't have sat down. And sitting down anyway, that's a lot of parts. Each one costs something. I arrive 20 minutes early. I sit in the car. I do nothing.

[00:00:50]Then I go in. That sounds peaceful. It is. I tried that. Sitting in the car. I got there early once. Sat in the car. I started thinking about whether I was too early. Left, drove around the block, came back, was almost late. I've done that. Why would you leave? I didn't want to seem too eager. You were in your car.

[00:01:05]No one could see you. I know. I was once 2 hours late. 2 hours. I thought I started at 3:00. It started at 1:00. Did you check? I checked. I read it wrong.

[00:01:13]Did you feel bad for a bit? Then I arrived and everyone was nearly done.

[00:01:18]So, I got the short version. That worked out for you. Usually does. Doesn't work out for me. I arrive exactly on time, which means I miss the settling in part, the getting a glass of water part, finding a seat without anyone watching part. That's why I'm early. All of that happens before anyone arrived. That's exactly what I want. Then be early. I know, but I sat down. Don't sit down. I was ready. There was time. It felt wrong to just stand there. Stand anyway. Is that what you do? Sometimes it feels strange, but it's better than the alternative. I could try that. Just don't sit. Just don't sit. I could never do that. I know. I need to be moving.

[00:01:51]Standing still makes the time feel longer. Time is time, not to me. Next time I'll stand good. Near the door so I can leave if I need to. You won't need to, but just in case. Fine. Near the door. I'll be 12 minutes late. I know, but I'll get there. I know. We all get there eventually. Exhausted. I really hate that I understand this. Do you arrive to places on time, early, or pretty late? Depending on your answer to that question, it lets me know a lot about you.

[00:02:18]I'm the type of person that normally shows up late. I'm just going to say none of us want to tell the truth here.

[00:02:24]I'll just put myself out there. I normally show up to places late. And that's primarily my ADHD.

[00:02:31]It is, guys. It doesn't make it okay, but it is. When you have ADHD, you can struggle something called time blindness. And this is where you lose track of time. You take a seat, it's 3:07, you have to be somewhere at 5:00.

[00:02:46]Before you know it, you blink twice.

[00:02:48]It's 5:30. But we needed to be at this place at 5:00.

[00:02:55]What are we going to do? We're late. Are we going to skip the event? What are we going to do? If you have autism, you could be the type of person who likes routine and order. So, you could show up to places on time or early. if you have ADHD and autism, depending on how it shakes out, you could be the type of person who shows up on time, but it takes so much out of you. And normally when we show up to places on time, myself included, it takes a lot out of us. So the neurotypical person who needs to be somewhere at 5, they can get in their car at 4:20, do that 30 minute drive, and they're there 10 minutes early. But for us, we probably have to get ready at 2 o'clock.

[00:03:40]We may have to go an hour early and just sit in the parking lot because we know that if we stayed at home, something would get our attention and we' be sidetracked.

[00:03:48]Oh, the joys of having a neurode divergent brain. Don't you love it, guys? Aren't you having fun with the brains that God has given you?

[00:03:59]That's not a rhetorical question. I want you to really answer that question to yourself. If you're not having fun with the brains that you have, you got to switch for something up. And I know that the way our brains and our bodies are set up as neurody divergent individuals, it doesn't lend itself to having fun all the time. We can be in a lot of trouble.

[00:04:20]We can be behind on things. We can be fired from our job. There's a lot that, you know, is a negative when it comes to being neurody divergent, but we still have special brains. And when put in the right position, we can thrive, we can excel, and we can succeed. Watching these videos is a great way to do so to learn some different tips, tricks, and strategies on how you can help yourself.

[00:04:45]If you want more, I have a private neurody divergent community called the neurode divergent lab. And this community will be having monthly zoom calls and I'll be sharing my best tips and tricks, my personal tips and tricks on how I thrive with a neurody divergent brain. On top of that, I just want to mention that I'm doing standup comedy.

[00:05:03]That's one of the things that I do to fill my soul up. I love stand up. I love to laugh. I may be coming to your city.

[00:05:10]I want you to hit the link in my bio to get more information on tickets.

[00:05:14]Houston, Nashville, New York City, Chicago. We're coming to your city to do Sam comedy. And I'd love to see you. I'd love to shake your hand. I love to take it forward with you. And I love to laugh with you all night long. So, if Sam comedy is your thing, hit the link in the bio. If you want to be a part of my private neurody diver community, hit the link in the bio. If neither of those things interest you, it's all good. I just want to say thank you so much for your attention and thank you for being a part of this community. Stay for as long as you need to. See you next video.