Let's not crash out YET.

Added: 2026-05-27

[00:00:00]Before you crash out and before you spiral too much, I think we need to recognize that the person that we're dealing with here is triggering some old wounds. I feel like for whatever reason this person has a lot of similarities to maybe a past situation that hurt you really bad and they're kind of like exhibiting some similar qualities, but the action doesn't necessarily read that way. It's more like you're jumping to conclusions about their feelings because they are being very careful and you take it as withholding and sneakiness and they don't actually want me. They don't like me. They're hiding something.

[00:00:43]There's something going on. There's something going on and you're like trying to decode and you're spiraling when this is someone who's actually just genuinely taking it slow. They're taking it slow. They're trying to maybe come across more like self-contained.

[00:01:00]They're not trying to rush anything here. And it kind of feels like that feels a little threatening to your nervous system because you've been [ __ ] over a lot of times and you have trust issues. Like let's be real. You've been [ __ ] over. You have seen similar patterns, but from more emotionally immature people.

[00:01:23]But again, the way this reads across to you is like nope, the same thing's happening again. I need to go into self-protection mode. I need to I need to remove myself.

[00:01:36]So this energy may feel a little bit like breadcrumbing to you. Like am I just being strung along?

[00:01:42]But I also sort of feel like while this person does want balance and reciprocity, they also are trying to approach this connection in a way that ultimately feels the most manageable for them, which could look like they are taking their sweet ass time. There are times where they may come across quite warm and affectionate and like really giving you what you need and they could resort back into maybe a more like emotionally numb, kind of cold, detached way. They're very much focused on other things. They're trying to keep multiple priorities juggled, trying to feed a lot of different areas of life. And it's hard because you want that energy. You want that clarity. You you're like, "Let's lock it down. Let's [ __ ] lock it down." And they're like, "Hold on.

[00:02:36]Let's let this grow naturally. I'm showing you interest, but again, it's it's it's enough to keep access to you and not enough to fully commit to you. So, I understand I understand where you're coming from.

[00:02:54]But at the same time, I do feel like you need to just bring it down. Bring it down a little bit. You know, you are a romantic. You are.

[00:03:04]And you know what you want. I I I feel like you're trying to keep it playful, but you know, in a way you end up sort of trying really hard to stay the chill one. Chill, easy going, no, it's fine.

[00:03:16]It's fine. It's fine. Until you eventually crack and you're like, "Okay, I'm about to freak out." You know?

[00:03:23]But I I do feel like there are other things that are happening in this person's life right now that they also have to give attention to. So, just bear with them and trust the process.