He Said He Wishes He Was Gay Because Women Don’t Do The Things He Loves

[00:00:00]Um, friend, I have something to tell you. Yeah, I I have something to tell you. You know what? [music] Actually, I'm not going to ruin a surprise.

[00:00:08]>> Please tell me how this guy isn't gay because everything is saying is actually speaking around him being in love with men, but then it's like, unfortunately, I am attracted to women.

[00:00:24]everything he's saying, everything he talks about, how he enjoys being with a guy, what he does when he is with his boys, his own boys and all of that.

[00:00:34]These are things that you do with a romantic person. Also with your friends as well, but mostly with a romantic person, and you enjoy it, but then he's like he doesn't enjoy when he do does it with women, but then he's attracted to women. Like I is it that is confused with his sexuality? Let me show you guys this video and I'll be back. Sadly, I'm not gay, but like I kind of wish I was.

[00:00:56]Like, imagine you and your man could like go hoop together, you know, then play 2K after. Like, I could be play shot, he could be big, and then we just crack. Like, we could go hit chess back together, get Chipotle, and then go home and crack. Being gay would be so much more fun. Like, me and my men would be boys, like, you know? But unfortunately, I'm attracted to women. This is exactly what women are talking about when they say that they don't believe that a lot of men actually like women and that there's a lot likelihood that you could be gay than you believe. It's not that a lot of women believe that a lot of men have actually been with men or actually have homosexual desire that a lot of men express disinterest in women. And this is why I always say that male and female socialization are always so different because women are socialized to want to indulge in the interest of men or even understand men on some psychological levels or please them or or just indulge them in their whimsies. Like women are going to indulge men in their desire to watch sports. Women are going to cook.

[00:01:57]They're going to clean. Women are taught to cater to men. What is it that men are taught to cater to women? In what way are men socialized to do anything for women? They don't talk about periods.

[00:02:07]They don't know anything about women's reproductive health. They don't know anything about women's interest. They don't care about anything that women do at all. It's like men are socialized sexualize women and to not be gay.

[00:02:20]That's not the same thing as liking women. Just because you don't like men doesn't mean that you like women. That's what I'm starting to realize. And then like for men, I feel like their romantic interest, their sexual interest are split. It's just not like that from women. What he's expressing is a romantic interest for his bros. Do we understand that he's romanticizing his platonic relationship with his homeboys, doing games together, playing sports, eating at Chipotle, like those are dates in his mind. Like he's basically expressing like going on dates with his homeboy. that those those things bring him more pleasure than going on dates with women because the things that he's doing with women, taking them out to eat, going to movies, whatever, whatever they're doing for dates, it's performative. A lot of men don't introduce you to their interest. They don't want to get to know yours. I was like, y'all of dating when dating is just y'all doing stuff for the sake of being a middle ground. It really shouldn't be like that. And that's why I say society has destroyed dating. is it's not really about men and it's not really about women. It's that we have created different stratospheres for male environments and female environments but while simultaneously forcing women to understand the male stratosphere. This is how I feel about like as a black woman. This is how I feel about existing in a white society.

[00:03:41]I have to understand whiteness. White people don't have to understand blackness. This is what it means to be a part of an oppressed group. You have to understand the group that's in control.

[00:03:48]he will probably not ever understand you. This is a little different because women or straight men at least are supposed to be their romantic interest.

[00:03:57]Clearly doesn't really have a romantic interest in women. And I feel like this is true for a lot of men. They don't really like women. They like having sex with women. They don't like women. They don't find anything that women find interesting interesting. And to me, that's a lot different than actually liking women. I seen a post the other day and it was like he was like, "Oh, this girl was like, "Oh, you don't like women with tummies? You might be gay."

[00:04:22]And he was like, "Women are so quick to call everything gay." Like, "Why does me not liking this?" Because you're socialized to like a caricature of women. If 80% of women have a stomach and you don't like 80% of women, what does that tell you? You're socialized to like this immigrant Instagram image magazine version of a woman that does not exist in everyday society. So, if you only like this social constructed version of a woman that only exists in media, the chances are that you actually probably don't like women. You just don't know it yet. You just don't know it. That you don't actually have a real interest in women. Women drop the mask and they stop pretending to be so submissive and dainty and you decide that that gives you the hick, the the chances are that you actually don't like women. Yeah. Like, okay, maybe you're not gay. Maybe you don't want to sleep with a man, but do you actually like women? No. You don't. And that's all that women are really expressing.

[00:05:15]>> Sadly, I'm not gay, but like I kind of wish I was.

[00:05:18]>> Is that so?

[00:05:19]>> Like imagine you and your man could like go hoop together, you know, then play 2K after. Like I could be play shot. He could be big.

[00:05:28]>> And then we just crack.

[00:05:29]>> You've certainly thought this through.

[00:05:31]>> Like we could go hit chess back together, get Chipotle.

[00:05:34]>> Obviously there's things I like doing, but I never saw it as a necessity that the woman I ended up with would have to want to do those things with me, too.

[00:05:40]and then go home and crack >> some things. Sure. You haven't considered you could have a variety of people in your life to do a variety of things with and not expect to get it all from one person.

[00:05:48]>> Being gay would be so much more fun.

[00:05:50]>> Well, of course it would, sweetheart.

[00:05:51]>> Like me and my man would be boys. Like, you know, but unfortunately I'm attracted to women.

[00:05:57]>> Whenever I see women express frustration about being attracted to men, it's usually in relation to how men treat them.

[00:06:05]Whereas in this instance, a man is expressing frustration being attracted to women and it's connected to what women won't do for him.

[00:06:12]>> And are you gay? [laughter] Just skip the woman.

[00:06:15]>> Anytime I'm talking to a straight woman and she's like, I just wish I like girls, it'd be so much easier. Like last night, I was talking to a couple of my straight guy friends and they were like, "Li, if I like guys, it'd be so much easier. Like dating would be so much easier." And every time I hear that, I just laugh so hard inside because no, literally no. Like obviously the grass is always greener and I wouldn't trade the fact that I'm gay or myself for the world at all. Like no offense, the world is like set up for like straight people and straight couples. Everything is actually meant to be easier for you.

[00:06:40]Also, how are you going to be friends with me and say that you see my love life? You've seen me dating. And honestly, I feel like my lesbian friends have it even worse. I don't even know if I'd call it worse like for gay dating, but I will say I feel like in some ways we share a deeper bond, like a deeper emotional connection. Maybe that comes from being the same gender and like being able to understand each other more. And maybe that's why when two women are together, the bond is so intense and the breakups are very hard and like the relationships are so confusing because they do actually share a deep emotional connection and like understand each other. A lot of times men do not do that. Like men in straight relationships half the time like don't even care to get that deep. And like some gay relationships, men are not that deep either. I don't know. Point is, if you're straight, just be happy you're straight. Okay? I don't think you want to deal with this.

[00:07:23]>> Um, friend, I have something to tell you. Yeah, I I have something to tell you. You know what? [music] Actually, I'm not going to ruin a surprise for you. Just I'm not going I'm not going to ruin a surprise. [music] Just I got some people I need to meet, including yourself.

[00:07:40]>> Just be gay. I feel like most men are actually attracted to their men because the way this men are very happy when they with their home boys. The way whenever they think about something exciting, the first person they think about is not their girlfriend. They think about their homeboys. When they think about when they're in a place that they feel like this place is very very fun. The first person they think about bringing there is their own boy. How they're going to be there with their friends. you know when they are with their group of friends they kind of communicate to them talking shouting like they are very happy they with a lot of emotions you know but then when they with a woman that they call their girlfriend or their wives [clears throat] they don't talk much you know I don't talk much but when they with their boys they talk they express they do things you know they even enjoy going out on dates you can see a married man that might be out with his wife and just be quiet and not saying things and maybe the wife that is doing most of the talking and he's just nodding his head like mhm mhm let his own boy join the conversation and his friend join that dinner date or something you will see him you know talking with all his emotion you see automatically he has something to say automatically he's interested automatically he's enjoying the date you know they enjoy dates with their friends they enjoy to go on, you know, some kind of activities with their friends compared going with their wives or their girlfriends. They enjoy when they stay out late with their friends than going with their girlfriends. So my own is most of the time they attracted to their fellow men. They like them so much that they can actually give them money, do anything for them, you know, in fact lie for them and all of that.

[00:09:30]But when it comes to their girlfriends and all of that, they don't do that.

[00:09:34]They just all they want to do is text.

[00:09:36]they just want to have sex with you and that's it. It's either they are actually attracted to this men or they just they are confused about their sexuality. And I actually understand that sometimes some men do not like their wives. They don't like their girlfriend. Like if you've had conversations with men that do not like their wives. If you've had a conversation with a man that does not like his wife, you would understand when we tell you that some men don't like the women that they are dating or the woman that they are married to. The way they talk about their relationship, the way they complain about little things that doesn't even matter, the way they compare their wives to things that doesn't matter. You can tell or even there are some things that they do in the relationship. You can tell that these people don't like the women that they are dating. They would do anything for their own boys. They can do anything for their guys. They would keep secrets.

[00:10:33]They would love them. They will hold them so tight. But when it comes to the girl that they are dating, their girlfriend, they will cheat on you. They will lie on you. They will beat you.

[00:10:42]They will embarrass you. They don't even remember your birthday. They don't remember anything about you. But when it comes to their own boys, they remember every little details. They have pictures. They are happy. You know, I just feel like most guys that are in this setting, low key, they can't they might be gay. Maybe they don't just know, but low key they might be. Yeah, I just feel like they should explore that side of, you know, and see how it's going to, you know, you know, I just feel like they should explore it and see if it's going to work for them. Because if you're attracted to your gender like that and the other the other gender that they they told you that you're supposed to be attracted to, you don't really you're not feeling it.

[00:11:27]It means that you this is the person that you're feeling like are we does it do you guys get what I'm trying to I just feel like they should exploit at exploit like you you might be gay and there's nothing wrong with it like you might be gay instead of you wasting a woman's time instead of you deceiving a woman that you're in love with her instead of you faking a relationship with a woman go be with your man like go and stay with a man go and marry a man go and be a man best like jig instead of you wasting our time because most of you are wasting our time most of you are lying to us we are tired we are not interested in the relationship of a man that does not care and does not see us in a way that we see them they don't see us in a way that you have to cherish and love us so much if you don't see us that way go and be with your men that you love so much that you enjoy doing things with that gives you joy like just go and meet them. Like, go and date them.

[00:12:31]You might be gay. Anyway, guys, what do you think about this video? Let me know your thought about this video down in the comment section. Respectfully, as always, your girl Mar Davies, and thank you so much for tuning in this video. I hope you enjoyed this one. And don't forget to like and share and subscribe.

[00:12:45]And yeah, I'll see you guys in my next one.