Pain Explains It. It Doesn’t Excuse It.

Added: 2026-06-03

[00:00:00]Pain, it's completely real. But feeling pain and having pain is never permission. A lot of people try to use pain as an excuse, and they end up saying things like, "I was angry." Or "I was hurt." Or "I was emotional." Or "I was overwhelmed." And okay, that could be absolutely true. You probably were all of those things or one of those things. And that explains how you felt in the situation, but it does not erase what you did, how you handled [music] the pain or the overwhelm, or the hurt, or the confusion, or the anger, or the emotion. It does not erase what you did with it. So, the pain, it does explain the state, but it does not remove the responsibility that you have. And being emotionally mature about somebody or something is not saying, "I'm never hurt." Or "I never feel hurt." It's about choosing responsibility and taking ownership over your emotions and feelings and what you do with those.

[00:00:55]That is what emotional adulthood and maturity looks [music] like.