Personality Traits of the "I’m Sorry, But...." Girls

Added: 2026-05-09

[00:00:00]I honestly think that women are making each other more and more mentally unstable, unfit every day. And I don't say that lightly because I realize the depth and the meaning behind it. Today, I want to show how it happens in real time. And while I go, I want you to think about why this woman says what she does in both her original video and this one that I'll dissect from a few clips in just a moment, which is a follow-up to her original video. As I continue, the question I want you to think about is what outcome was she expecting to get and what purpose would that outcome serve? I'll give my own response to that after we watch the clips. And then I'll assess the personality traits associated with such behaviors, followed by what conclusions a fair and unbiased therapist might come to.

[00:00:49]And for channel and Patreon members, I'll continue the conversation with how to respond to these types of situations, both in public settings like this and within relationships. This video clip is just a couple of minutes long. I'm going to roll through it pretty quickly while stopping just briefly to acknowledge and count all of the statements of irony that are in it.

[00:01:09]>> I wasn't going to make a video about this because I genuinely want to move on with my life, but a few weeks ago, I made a stupid video about the president, the far right Okay, so she says she was not going to make a video about it, but she wants to and that she wants to move on while making another public video about it.

[00:01:26]>> I found it, posted it on Twitter, and then got me fired from my job. I am already reaping the consequences of what I said. I lost my job in an economy that's already incredibly difficult, and I want to move forward. Do I regret what I said?

[00:01:42]Okay. So, again, she says that she wants to move forward to move on with her life, but immediately reopens and retells the entire controversy publicly.

[00:01:52]>> Absolutely. I shouldn't have posted it on the internet. Okay. It was a joke. I do not condone violence and I would never hurt anybody. Okay.

[00:02:01]>> Okay. So, she says it was just a joke and that she does not condone condone violence, but what she refers to as a joke about is a joke about violence was and it was serious enough to get her fired and to force this public apology.

[00:02:17]>> Okay, that being said, I just got a letter in the mail. They they have an address on it, so I'm going to have to report it to the authorities.

[00:02:27]It's a picture of my house and it says, "Allison, how does it feel you've been doxed in karma? Cause and effect is coming." With a smiley face.

[00:02:37]>> Okay. So, [clears throat] she complains about being doxed and and and and threatened while the letter itself frames the doxing as karma and along with cause and effect using language about consequences against her.

[00:02:57]All I have to say is that we're living in an incredibly scary time. Please be careful what you post on the internet.

[00:03:03]People aren't insane. Again, >> that's a doozy, right? She's warning people to be careful about what they post online after the situation began because she was not careful about what she posted online.

[00:03:17]>> I am already suffering the consequences of what I said and did. Okay. I want to move forward. I want to move on.

[00:03:25]>> That's the third time she said that she wants to move on. She says that she's already suffering the consequences and wants to move forward, but again, she's still publicly engaging and keeping it active, even escalating it.

[00:03:39]>> But these people are so vindictive and they want to preach morality while sending me letters like this.

[00:03:51]more irony. She's criticizing people for preaching morality, get this, while sending hateful uh messages and letters to her, but her own original post was apparently morally bad enough that she now regrets it. I believe she said she lost her job over it, right?

[00:04:08]>> While leaving hateful messages on my social media, calling me every name in the book because of a stupid thing that I said about the president of the United States, who number one does not care about you, and number Oh boy. She says the president does not care about people who are upset or or responding to her and probably did not even see it.

[00:04:30]And I I whatever whatever it was that she just said, which undercuts her implied argument that the post was harmless because the consequences came from the public rea uh reaction, not from whether the president actually saw it.

[00:04:46]>> Number two probably didn't even see what I said. He doesn't care. Somehow I am being held more accountable for something stupid I said on the internet than people who send stuff like this and the president of the United States who has been spewing violent rhetoric his entire presidential >> I don't even think I made a note about this one but uh the violent rhetoric that the president is is spreading.

[00:05:08]Meanwhile, she is on social media online saying wishing harm to him or wishing that somebody would do harm to him. I don't even think I had that on my list right here. But she said that she's being held more accountable than people who are harassing and threatening her and then warns people not to post political content while continuing to make political commentary in the same video career.

[00:05:37]That's really it. I don't even know what to do. I want this to go away, but this is absolutely insane. And please be careful what you post on the internet, especially if you post political content. People are crazy. Go on the internet, right?

[00:05:50]>> People are crazy the stupid stuff they post online. You're right, lady.

[00:05:54]>> Now, and make sure that your address and your phone number is not on there because I've seen people get doxed for reposting an Instagram story about the president.

[00:06:05]That is all. Be careful. Be safe. And again, I am moving forward with my life.

[00:06:11]Please leave me alone. Oh, and isn't that rich? Please leave me alone. Be careful with what you post online.

[00:06:17]People don't like what you you will have to say. Let's start with me answering the questions that I posed before watching these clips. What outcome was she expecting to get? I could be way off here, but I believe that she was expecting to get an extraordinary amount of support, agreement, and affirmation.

[00:06:35]In short, validation without consequence. People like this can't even imagine that a people would disagree with them and b that people would actually say something if they did disagree.

[00:06:49]But even if people do disagree and even in even if they do actually call it out, people like her expect other people just like her to be uh such a v vocal majority that they will then help pile on the ones that disagree and fight her battle for her.

[00:07:08]And what purpose would this validation without consequence serve? I would imagine any combination of superiority by way of ingroup versus outgroup, needing to justify her own beliefs, maybe even any form of monetizing her videos through clicks. Who knows? But regardless, just think of the audacity of this entire situation and what this type of public behavior by women means for men and how they interact with those women. Let's get into that by describing this type of personality profile. As I've mentioned many times before, I am not a clinical psychologist and I'm not a licensed mental health service provider, but I know that several of them do watch my content and I'm hoping they'll leave comments and chime in um about this as well. The personality profile of someone like this woman looks something like this. She appears highly reactive, emotionally flooded and conflict sensitive even while initiating and continuing in fact escalating conflict. As I had mentioned a moment ago, what we saw is someone trying to regain control by way of justifying behaviors after consequences come hard and fast. Barely an acknowledgement that the behavior was inappropriate or at least could have been perceived as such even. She repeatedly says that she wants to move on but continues to engage in a public forum which suggests poor impulse control and difficulty tolerating reputational damage. There's also a strong pattern I think of externalizing which is one of my favorite as many of you know one one of my favorite topics in psychology locus of control. She admits that her original post was stupid and says that she regrets it. But most of the follow-up is an emotional shift to what other people did in response.

[00:08:57]Look what you people did to me. Look what's happening because of you people.

[00:09:02]Now, let me be clear that it doesn't mean the letter that she got and the doxing are appropriate. Not at all. But they should be anticipated and they didn't happen for no reason at all. And as such, her accountability is almost entirely lacking. She accepts the easy part by acknowledging that she shouldn't have posted it, but then throughout the almost the entire thing frames the larger story as persecution, people being vindictive, and political hypocrisy.

[00:09:31]How's that for irony and hypocrisy?

[00:09:34]To be a bit more formal, and again, for those of you who are clinicians out there, please chime in about what conclusions you might come to. I think that this is how a fair amount of the statements and or behaviors that she just displayed would be described based in part on the assumption that this is not the only time that this woman has expressed these types of behaviors in public or private that we just saw from her. I'd say high neuroticism. She's got the anxiety, the emotional urgency, and catastrophic framing of the situation.

[00:10:08]High sensitivity to moral outrage. She's quick to interpret other people's behaviors as hypocrisy, being mean or cruel, and even injustice, all while framing uh fail, I'm sorry, failing to acknowledge the potential for the same thing from her own behavior. I say she also has a low tolerance for distress, which I think is one of the major ironies here. That's difficulty accepting consequences without publicly responding to them. She's trying to reduce the distress by coming back to state her case and likely hoping others will help help her out. I also noticed some low impulse control by posting the original video which she refers to as a joke and then posting again while saying that she wants pe it all to go away and for people to uh leave her alone. And again, one of my favorite topics in psychology is what I noticed in her that external locus of control. To her, the fallout is something to be that's been done to her even while acknowledging that her initiation was what uh started the chain of events. And then the did you notice the identity protective reasoning to protecting her protecting her identity.

[00:11:19]She separates her own behavior as a stupid joke while treating others responses as evidence of uh other people's broader moral illness, if you will. and that protects our identity as the good guy and other people as the bad guy. So that's the identity protection.

[00:11:36]Overall, this is an extremely clear and concise example of modern online self-perception that we see overwhelmingly from women more than men.

[00:11:45]wanting the expressive freedom to make inflammatory statements along with the moral status of victimhood when consequences follow and perceived group authority of the hive mind to jump in and help defend when it all goes to hell. But tell me, other than not getting involved with women like this, how would you respond to them? How would you attempt to work it out or to get them to understand? Would anything really work at all? for YouTube channel and Patreon members. I'll continue this discussion by posting the ad- free and extended uh discussion with ways to respond to situations like this in both public settings and in relationships.

[00:12:24]Looking forward to comments here and I'll be back soon with another in-depth assessment of hypocrite John Deloney and the damage that he does to men. So, make sure you come back for that. Cheers y'all.