women reveal why women don't want to be with overly attractive men

Added: 2026-05-25

[00:00:01][snorts] It's your boy Noto back in these YouTube streets because your boy Mr. B. And in today's video, we're going to discuss women reveal why women don't want to be with overly attractive men. So, I came across a couple's clips, guys. Got a pretty good one for you guys today. So, uh we're going to dive into it, see what they have to say, and you know, we're going to reflect.

[00:00:23]>> I cannot be the only girl who is scared of like overly attractive men. And I'm not talking about men that are handsome, just like goatee is my thing. Like a goatee and a beer is my thing. But like the men who have like the sharpest jawline, the clearest skin, the most perfect hairline. Like I'm ter I don't know why, but I'm terrified of it. And like I can never be with someone like that. [snorts] I like my guys like clean cut and like handsome and all of that, but they have to have like a they have to be rough around the edges. And I don't know if that makes sense because they can't be like perfect perfect.

[00:01:01]>> No, it doesn't make sense. No, it it don't make no damn sense. You basically said you don't like the same thing that you like. Carry on.

[00:01:13]>> But like when you're too perfect, it's scary.

[00:01:17]>> Translation, if you look too good and she feel like you can get other chicks, it's too much for her. That's all.

[00:01:29]That's really what it is.

[00:01:31]>> Women don't like male baddies. So, this conversation is going two different ways. But when you say male baddies, this is what I think of.

[00:01:40]And I think about this.

[00:01:42]>> No, we don't refer to ours.

[00:01:43]>> That's what I think of when we're actually saying male baddies.

[00:01:47]>> Now, the second conversation is being had I actually do agree with, which is that most women do not want an attractive man who is highly desired.

[00:01:56]like they okay with him being kind of attractive. A lot of women, they'll tell you they want medium ugly men, but most of this is all rooted in insecurity.

[00:02:06]Most women don't want to feel like they're in competition with other women for the man that they got.

[00:02:12]>> That's just what it is. Most women want to feel like the prize in a relationship. They want to feel like they doing him a favor by being with him. But when it's equal playing field and he can get just as many women as you can get men or he can get more women.

[00:02:28]All right, it put a lot of pressure on you. [laughter] It put a lot of pressure on you as a woman and most women can't handle it or don't want to handle it.

[00:02:35]And I would argue that same go for men.

[00:02:38]A lot of men are talk about n and tens, but they don't really truly want those women cuz they can't handle the pressure of being with those women.

[00:02:45]>> Facts. They don't want to constantly think about the fact that every time she go out there's a man trying to take her from him and that she could possibly go.

[00:02:53]Even though she may be a great woman who would never do that in the back of their mind because of their insecurities, they always think that. [clears throat] So, like I said, I would argue that no gender is really exempt from this. Most do not want somebody who is too highly desired because they're too scared of losing that person because they don't feel like they adequate enough to be enough for that person. You have to be very confident in yourself to deal with somebody who is highly desired. Because you have to think enough of yourself to know that you're enough and it doesn't matter how many other people could want them, you're enough for them to choose you every time. Most people, they don't have that type of confidence. And even if that person was to choose somebody else, you wouldn't internalize it and think it was a reflection of you, but just know that it was a choice that they decided to make. And it has nothing to do with you. Most people, they don't have that confidence level to think that way. And since they don't, they would rather deal with less attractive people that puts less pressure on them. And honestly, you got to know your limits.

[00:03:58]If you know you can't handle the pressure of being with a male baddy, woman baddy, whatever baddy, if you know you can't deal with somebody who is highly desired and you can't deal with the pressure of other people wanting them and knowing that you in competition with other people, get somebody less attractive then, I guess.

[00:04:16]Well, you heard what she said. She gave a very, very, very great example. So, it's almost to the point where I don't even need to necessarily add something.

[00:04:24]But since it's my channel, of course, I'm going to add my my uh two to three, four, five, six, 10 cent with this subject right here, guys. We always talk about the old power struggle, man. It's always about the power struggle. But at the same time, like even if you as an attractive man, you can't like reassure her that you want her and nobody else your way out of her feeling insecure about herself and or her feeling insecure about your her perceived options that you have that might be more attractive than her. You see what I mean? You can be that man. You be like, "Oh, you know what? I see this girl and you know, she's everything that I want."

[00:05:00]But if she don't feel that way about herself and she's consistently looking at what she feel like you can get and she probably don't feel like she's good enough, then you no matter how much you try to tell her, oh, you know what that that's, you know, I want you. I don't care about these other chicks out here.

[00:05:15]They might be choosing, but I only want you. That's not enough for her because she doesn't feel like that's she doesn't feel that way or that highly about herself. Like I've always told you guys about this. Whenever they see a woman sees like an attractive man, they don't just compare themselves to women on a daily basis or other women. They compare themselves to the perceived options that they feel like you can get. And if they feel like those options that they perceive that you can get look better than them, they're not going to be secure in that situation. That's just point blank period. Now, if they're secure within themselves and they know what comes with you and they're confident within themselves, even if they know some chicks that look better than them will be coming at you, but they're confident in themselves anyway, those are usually the tricks that are going to end up being the best for the attractive man because he doesn't have to consistently keep reassuring her that he's not going to be going anywhere or nothing like that. She knows that what comes with that territory. Like on the flip side, if a man is trying to go with a woman that's highly desired, you have to understand that the same thing that drew you to her is going to be what draws the other man to her as well. So you you're not the only one that sees her beauty on a on a daily basis. You can't be sitting around walking on eggshells and biting and nails every time she walk outside. Oh, I hope she don't see somebody that's better than me. Like a lot of guys, you have to do that internal work. And that's why I say if you're in a man, you have to prove that to yourself. [snorts] It it ain't just for you just to have high validation and or be like, "Oh, I want people to look at me and be like, yeah, oh, he none of that." You have to It gives you internal confidence for yourself. So, no matter who comes in or leaves out, you're going to feel good regardless because you know your value to bring to the world, the environment, and the sexual marketplace. You see what I mean? But a lot of people can't handle that. Like, that's why I say the reassurance doesn't work. So you like I know sometimes by probably like if you're a type of attractive man that attracts a lot of women and you find yourself trying to be like you know calm the chick down cuz I used to have a chick that would be uh talking about oh yeah u I know you got somebody that don't that don't play about you. They automatically assume that you have a girlfriend. They automatically assume that you're a player. Oh I know you doing this. I know you they just they just they come out of the woodwork saying I know you do this. I know you do that. Because of how they look at you.

[00:07:22]Like if they look at you and you got them at hello, they know they automatically assume that other girls look at you and think the same way. So when they come at you like that with the I know you're a player type of thing, they automatically putting themselves below. So it be some girls will be like, "Oh, you know, I didn't want to bother you. Uh you know, I know you're busy and stuff." Like when they coming at you like that on the DMs and they saying stuff like that, they don't necessarily feel that way about themselves. And that's when you as they try to man, you got to consistently and constantly keep reassuring them that you know, you know, you good. You good. You know, it's not a problem. Hopefully, it's not a problem I'm hitting you up. Like when when they hitting you up like that, that's when they feel like you're above them in that sexual marketplace hierarchy. It may come off as subtle. It may come off as sweet. But that's really what that's uh that's really what that's saying. And I've had like a lot of girls do that.

[00:08:10]I'll be like, "No, you good. You we can talk." You know, all that. They feel like they don't. And uh you'll be surprised how beautiful some girls that that actually will act like that are.

[00:08:20]It's a lot of beautiful women out here that are insecure when inside. I'm like, no. You look around, you'll think like, man, she is she can go around and slap people in the face and they'll do whatever she say. But no, it's it's a lot of them that have like very very um insecure ways. And you would think just by looking at them that they just have the world is handed to him. And any guy and just because a woman have a bunch of options, that doesn't mean that she feels that good about herself as well.

[00:08:50]Cuz trust me, I've seen drop dead [ __ ] that's just that don't feel that up about herself. I'm like, "No way. No way." But when you get to talking to her, you get to having a conversation with her, you just be like, "No, this is for real. This is for real. This is how she really feels about herself." So, like I say, if you find yourself in having to reassure the chick all the time and all that, that's not going to work for you as an attractive man because she's going to consistently think that you're going and trying to talk to these girls and she's not comfortable within herself. That's inner work she has to do for herself. She has to find the security within herself in order to deal with the fact that you're going to have options coming your way.

[00:09:28]So, uh, that's basically why a lot of women wouldn't want to deal with that because they feel like a bunch of competition is going to come their way.

[00:09:34]A lot of them, they try to get into those situations acting like they're cool, but time will always expose how they really feel about it because day after day, it's going to it's going to show his head one way or another. He's going it's going to show, you know, cuz the more that she's around you, the more she's going to see these dynamics at play. She's going to probably see your social media. is probably going to be like, you know, it's going to come out in certain ways. She's going to be like, "Oh, you ain't talking to her." Or if y'all out in public, she going to be like, "Oh, I seen those chicks look at you." It's going to come out like that.

[00:10:04]She going to keep on talk about all the options that she sees that you able to get. So, if you're online, this may look like uh chicks liking your post, chicks loving your stories. When you're out in public, she'll catch chicks glancing at you and stuff like that, but she's always coming to you, telling you about seeing the the chicks watching you. You see what I'm saying? So even though she might come at you in a joking way, I see all these chicks choosing at you. I see, you know, it may be joking, but I'm telling you that is very serious and that's something she has to do for herself. Especially if she's consistently do it. Like if she do it one or two times and just leave it alone and just be proud be proud and understand that she's with an attractive man and just, you know, governs herself accordingly, then that's cool. But if it consistently comes up every time, then it's a problem. It's almost like you being a fit guy and you're hanging around uh guys that don't necessarily work out like that and you just trying to be cool but they keep bringing up the fact that you working out or that you in great shape but you try not to make it a problem. You like no I'm cool I don't want to talk about fitness you know I'm trying to you know whatever cuz you know they ain't consistent or whatever but they keep bringing it up. They keep bringing it up to so you want to eat this. I want to eat like this. And they keep reporting to you. It get aggravating because it's their insecurities coming out and they can't ignore the fact that you're in shape and they keep on bringing it up. So apparently and on the inside it's bothering them. You see what I'm saying?

[00:11:22]So like you're going to have to constantly keep telling your homie like, "Bro, it's cool, man. You know, you ain't we ain't got to talk about fitness. We ain't got to talk about that and all that stuff." But they just can't leave the [ __ ] alone. That's what it's like when you're trying to keep reassuring a woman as an attractive man that you're not going anywhere that you have everything you want there. That's it's the same thing. But anyway, I've yapped for long enough. Hopefully you guys got the point. She pretty much just she pretty much hit a home run with the point. I just wanted to come back and, you know, and clear off the bases. But anyway, it's your boy Noto back in these YouTube streets because your boy won't miss a beat. And remember guys, anybody can improve themselves if they willing to work at it. I'm out.