Dr. Tanya Byron Confronts the Mother Who "Hates" Her Son | House Of Tiny Tearaways

Added: 2026-05-09

[00:00:30]In this building behind me, three families are searching for the solutions to their problems. The person they hope has all the answers is clinical psychologist Dr. Tanya Byron.

[00:00:40]She's been given just 6 days to solve the family's eating, sleeping, and behavior problems in what she hopes will be an environment of mutual support.

[00:00:50]The design and construction of the house has been completed in conjunction with a committee of child care experts to make sure that it's a safe, fun place for kids to stay, whilst also recreating a realistic and practical home environment.

[00:01:04]>> Can I help them? Of course I can. Can I help them in six days? I don't know.

[00:01:12]The Dixons, mom Sara and dad Darren, have brought their son Harrison here in a last stitch attempt to control his antisocial behavior, as well as his sleep and food problems. Single mom Sarah McMillan doesn't know where else to turn. Her daughter Kelsey's explosive tantrums have made life a living hell and torn their relationship apart.

[00:01:33]The Field family have come here to put a stop to 2 and a halfyear-old Ryan's aggressive behavior before someone at home gets seriously hurt.

[00:01:42]These worrying problems are an enormous mountain to climb. And with only 5 days to go, it's impossible to say whether Tanya will come out on top.

[00:01:56]>> Oh, he's on his motorbike. Where are they going?

[00:01:59]>> Since their arrival yesterday, the Field family have felt frustrated that 2 and a halfyear-old Ryan has yet to display any of his usual bad behavior or tantrums.

[00:02:08]In fact, Ryan has almost been impeccably behaved.

[00:02:12]>> Can you go and get the for me?

[00:02:17]>> I don't believe it.

[00:02:18]>> No, I don't.

[00:02:18]>> Thank you, darling. Good boy. Thank you.

[00:02:21]>> At home, mornings are a particularly difficult time for the family as Ryan usually wakes up angry and grumpy. Will his first morning in the house be any different? Dad Mark is making breakfast for Ryan and his six and a halfyear-old brother, James.

[00:02:38]I want some milk.

[00:02:40]>> Milk. I know. I was there.

[00:02:46]>> There.

[00:02:47]>> Milk.

[00:02:51]>> Do you want it pinged?

[00:02:54]>> Yeah.

[00:02:56]Nothing.

[00:02:58]NOTHING.

[00:02:59]>> You don't want it pinged?

[00:03:00]>> No.

[00:03:01]>> Okay.

[00:03:03]Daisy, give it to you, >> Dad.

[00:03:09]>> I'll do it.

[00:03:11]>> You want it pink now?

[00:03:12]>> No.

[00:03:13]>> Okay.

[00:03:16]>> Have you seen the mist outside, James?

[00:03:21]>> You don't want it.

[00:03:23]>> Should we give it to James then?

[00:03:25]>> Just hold it. Take it back to the room.

[00:03:32]At home, Ryan's tantrum would have escalated dramatically. But uncharacteristically and to everyone's surprise, this morning, the tantrum simply fizzled out.

[00:03:44]>> How chuck it?

[00:03:45]>> Chuck it. Throw. Ready, steady, >> alive.

[00:03:54]Was that funny?

[00:03:56]>> Yeah.

[00:04:03]Single mom Sarah McMillan wants to improve her relationship with four-year-old daughter Kelsey and control her explosive behavior.

[00:04:11]Yesterday, Kelsey had a series of tantrums from the moment she arrived to when she went to bed.

[00:04:19]Mom Sarah already employs a timeout strategy, but it's not having the desired effect. Tanya has asked Sarah to join her for their morning consultation.

[00:04:28]Do you think you've taught your daughter how to argue and fight?

[00:04:31]>> Probably. Yeah.

[00:04:31]>> And how do you think you've done that?

[00:04:33]>> Um, by listening to me and my family or maybe just my expressions.

[00:04:39]>> Okay. Well, today I'm going to work with what you you know, and that's time out.

[00:04:43]But I want to I want to shape it up because there are some things that are wrong with it.

[00:04:47]>> Yeah.

[00:04:47]>> I've got an example of a timeout and I just want you to watch it with me. Here you go.

[00:04:59]You're going to hurt yourself.

[00:05:02]Come on. Calm down.

[00:05:07]>> Come on. Calm down. All right. We'll hold your arms again then.

[00:05:15]I got the nose.

[00:05:21]Inside my nose. I'm not sticking my finger inside your nose. Get out of it.

[00:05:27]>> What did that look like to you?

[00:05:28]>> Didn't look very nice. Didn't look very caring or anything, but it looked like a game.

[00:05:33]>> Well, where Kelsey won't sit down, I'll try putting her back. Putting her back.

[00:05:36]Putting her back.

[00:05:37]>> I've seen that.

[00:05:37]>> And because she won't stay there, she thinks it's a game.

[00:05:40]>> Mhm.

[00:05:41]>> So, I actually sit and hold her.

[00:05:43]>> It's interesting that I actually don't think you're doing the right form of timeout. I think it's too physical. You were holding her.

[00:05:49]>> Yeah. And you look you you had your head away your head away and you're holding her.

[00:05:54]>> You're not actually holding her very effectively. And I'm worried about this head because she'll either smack her head on something or she's going to break your >> She hits right on my collarbone and the bang and the thumb. It hurts me and it's going to hurt her.

[00:06:06]>> Yeah. So forget we're not going to use this one anymore. That's not the right one for you because I'm worried about the restrain and I don't think it's it's the right thing to do. There is a version of it that I would teach you and I have taught parents, but I don't want to teach it to you because you and Kelsey have such a physical relationship. There's the restraint.

[00:06:23]There's the smacking that I've seen her do with you and all of that. I think we need to just take it pull it right back.

[00:06:28]>> Yeah.

[00:06:30]>> Why don't you just send put her in her room?

[00:06:32]>> Mhm.

[00:06:32]>> Or in another room and shut the door.

[00:06:35]>> I've tried that and she comes straight back in.

[00:06:37]>> Well, why don't you hold the door shut?

[00:06:39]>> I don't like that. I don't like people locking doors because then the kid does the kid's doing that and the door's locked and they can't get out. If you hold the handle, then she knows you're there. But don't get in a tugofwar.

[00:06:51]>> Do not talk to her through the door. Do nothing.

[00:06:54]>> Timeout should never exceed anything in my book more than one minute for each year of the child's life. So, she shouldn't be in timeout for more than four minutes.

[00:07:03]>> The question is, what do you do when you then open the door and she's and she's not calm? The aim of timeout is not initially to get your child to be calm.

[00:07:13]It's to give them a message. A very powerful message is >> I won't stand for this and if you don't behave, the last thing you're going to get is me. Now, she wants you big time.

[00:07:21]>> She wants the attention. So, she That's right.

[00:07:24]>> It's an extreme form of ignoring. Mhm.

[00:07:36]>> Before long, mom Sarah is putting her new timeout technique into practice.

[00:07:40]Tanya stays close by to help her through it.

[00:07:45]>> Kelsey, would you like to help? Kelsey. Kelsey.

[00:07:50]Kelsey, turn. Kelsey, would you like to help me unpack my bags, please?

[00:07:54]>> No. Can you help me unpack my bags, please?

[00:07:57]>> No.

[00:07:57]>> You can go into your bedroom.

[00:08:19]Stupid >> Mommy.

[00:08:48]When you come in, you can go in your because you didn't do well. Very nice. Let's have a cuddle.

[00:08:59]Okay.

[00:09:05]She's very polite.

[00:09:08]>> Mommy.

[00:09:12]>> Right. Are you listening to me? No.

[00:09:14]Don't hide behind the door. Right. You were in your room because you wouldn't calm down, Kelsey. But you've calmed down nicely. That's well done. Would you like to come and help me unpack the bags now?

[00:09:27]>> No, just put them in the drawers.

[00:09:30]>> Would you like to come and help me put all my clothes away?

[00:09:33]>> Yeah. Thank you. Well done. That's a good girl.

[00:09:36]>> Where's the lady?

[00:09:37]>> Um, can you see how effective that is?

[00:09:39]>> Yeah. Brilliant. More effective than what you've been doing before.

[00:09:41]>> Now, mommy didn't even know that opened.

[00:09:43]Clever girl. Well done.

[00:09:45]>> Lots and lots of praise.

[00:09:46]>> No, we're going to put these in the drawers.

[00:09:49]>> Yeah.

[00:09:50]>> Good girl. Very good. You want to put them in there?

[00:09:52]>> Lots of praise.

[00:09:53]>> Leave them in there, Kelsey. Are you going to put him in the drawer?

[00:09:55]>> Clever girl. I'm going to um just let you get on with this. But I'm going to watch.

[00:10:00]>> And does that feel good?

[00:10:02]>> Brilliant.

[00:10:02]>> Yeah. Well done.

[00:10:03]>> She knocked on the door. That was awful.

[00:10:05]>> Very polite. You're a very very polite little girl. Can I just say to you, you're being a very nice little girl now, aren't you? Do you think you're going to get some more stickers today?

[00:10:14]Can I see your beautiful face? Could I have a cuddle, please? Cuz I just feel like one. Cuz I think you're lovely.

[00:10:20]Thank you. And would you like to give your mommy a nice big cuddle? Cuz she's a fantastic mommy. She's the best mommy in the world and she's yours.

[00:10:30]>> Now that's his specialty.

[00:10:32]>> Is it? Okay. That was very nice of you to give it to him.

[00:10:35]>> You ready? Hold on.

[00:10:38]>> Tony, yesterday was assessment day. How do you feel about the families now?

[00:10:42]You've met them, seen them in action.

[00:10:45]Well, I have seen them in action, but what I haven't seen is any action in the field, family, which is worrying me because I'm I'm concerned that Ryan's behavior is so context and environment specific that actually bringing him into this house, we're not going to see anything >> like he will only be naughty at home.

[00:11:01]>> YEAH.

[00:11:09]>> Why is that? Why hasn't he uh kicked off, if you like, in the house? Some children their behavior is so specific to certain environmental cues which particularly I would say are his parents and familiar places that he starts to kick off that he's come into this amazing house with all the toys and the other children and he he's getting you know so much stimulation that actually the behavior isn't coming through >> and my worry is if the behavior doesn't come through I can't treat it and if I can't treat it am I wasting the fields time and also are they using a space in the house that another family could make use of, you know, I'm balancing it up in my mind. We could wait another day, but then they're very anxious and on edge. I don't want them to set their child off just for the sake of it. But also, if we wait too long, then actually the possibility of a third family coming in who I could work with has gone.

[00:11:58]>> When you started this project, did you think this would ever happen? That a terror would come in and just be adorable.

[00:12:04]>> I worried actually it would happen more than it has. Interestingly enough, I do think the environment have has changed all the children's behavior slightly.

[00:12:12]Um, but this is actually the first child that I've experienced in this way. So, I'm I'm actually surprised this is only the first time.

[00:12:20]>> Breakfast nicely.

[00:12:26]>> Yes.

[00:12:27]>> Tanya has now been observing the Field family for almost 24 hours and caused them to the consultation room to broach an incredibly difficult subject. We've got a massive problem.

[00:12:37]>> Which is that we don't have a problem.

[00:12:39]>> Yeah.

[00:12:39]>> So, I really need to talk to you about that.

[00:12:41]>> Yes.

[00:12:42]>> Because I'm actually concerned that this environment >> is not going to produce it.

[00:12:51]>> Exactly.

[00:12:52]>> Which leaves you with a really difficult situation that I I think I need to discuss with you today and we need to think about it because there are other ways I can help you.

[00:13:01]>> But it may not be in this house.

[00:13:02]>> Yes.

[00:13:04]Basically what has happened >> is that your son's behavior problem is context and environment dependent.

[00:13:11]>> I think so >> it's completely environment dependent and it's to do with the home.

[00:13:15]>> Yeah.

[00:13:17]>> Do you think first tough question before we get into what should you do differently? Do you think you should move out today?

[00:13:25]>> I don't know.

[00:13:26]>> I'm not sure. I'm not sure it'll happen in here.

[00:13:30]So from my point of view, there's a commitment to help you. And I'm also saying to you that if you do leave today, then I will do everything I can to make sure that we set up situations for treatment to occur, but to occur in the environment where the problem happens because if it doesn't happen here, I can't treat it.

[00:13:50]>> No, that's right.

[00:13:52]>> So, let me leave you for two seconds.

[00:13:53]All right. Have a chat and um I'll I'll be back in a minute. All right. Yep.

[00:13:57]Okay.

[00:14:00]You go first.

[00:14:02]>> What do you think?

[00:14:03]>> Well, she's right.

[00:14:05]>> I mean, I I would agree. I don't think it'll happen.

[00:14:08]>> He's not going to misbehave.

[00:14:09]>> No. Well, >> he is not going to pick up stuff and throw it. Pick up his knife and fork and throw it.

[00:14:17]>> I thought maybe this morning when we were at breakfast cuz it was only us, but even then he sensed >> slight belligerance, but not. It's frustrating, but it is the right thing to do.

[00:14:29]>> With their minds made up, Tanya returns to get their final verdict.

[00:14:33]>> What's your >> We We think we should go.

[00:14:35]>> You're gutted, aren't you?

[00:14:36]>> I am.

[00:14:37]>> I wanted it to be >> sorted. I would like it sorted. Yeah.

[00:14:44]>> I'm so sorry. No, no, no, no. Come on.

[00:14:47]We got to do this and then I'm going to >> tell you exactly how we're going to sort this cuz it will be sorted. It will be sorted. I I really feel for you both. I can't tell you how bad I feel for you both.

[00:15:01]Tell me.

[00:15:03]>> I think >> What is it, Mom?

[00:15:12]>> I'm looking for a really happy life.

[00:15:15]>> Yeah.

[00:15:17]>> And stupid.

[00:15:19]>> It's not stupid.

[00:15:23]I know. We're not making her happy.

[00:15:26]>> You're not making him happy. Is that what you think?

[00:15:38]cuz he has tantrums.

[00:15:40]>> Yeah, >> I cannot fault your parenting skills.

[00:15:47]Trust me, I'm trying. I'm looking. I was I was scrutinizing everything you did with your children yesterday.

[00:15:55]>> So, if we're playing together and he does it, if he does start getting nasty, violent, throwing things around, and it's just us playing, what should I do in that situation?

[00:16:03]>> So, while you play like this, daddy's going and walk out the room. Absolutely.

[00:16:08]Because what are you saying to him?

[00:16:10]>> You play nicely, you've got daddy all to yourself. You play horribly, daddy goes.

[00:16:15]>> The world for kids is black and white.

[00:16:16]It's good fairy and bad witch. That's what it is, isn't it?

[00:16:20]>> But there there's always a happy ending.

[00:16:22]>> Tanya has gathered the families in the lounge to inform them of the situation, >> right?

[00:16:28]An interesting bit of news. Really.

[00:16:33]>> Do you want to share the news?

[00:16:35]>> We're going to go home.

[00:16:37]Uh we I think the feeling is that Ryan isn't in this environment going to play out.

[00:16:42]>> It's very much explicit to at home or if we're out as a family.

[00:16:46]>> So I think that you know it's great.

[00:16:48]He's got too many distractions here.

[00:16:50]>> He's going to have to whale of a time and it's not actually going to help us as I think you've probably seen. He's he's not really done a great deal.

[00:16:57]>> Been naughty at all.

[00:16:59]So, uh, >> yeah, I think I feel it would been sort of a waste of everyone's time if we hang around >> and and do it here rather than try and maybe do it at home.

[00:17:09]>> So, you might still see us.

[00:17:10]>> Yeah. I mean, are you okay, you guys? Is it a bit weird? You've just all got to know each other and then it's like >> it's sad knowing that they're going to be going, but then you can see it from their point of view as well.

[00:17:19]>> Yeah.

[00:17:20]>> Cuz if we was in the same position, we'd do the same.

[00:17:23]>> Yeah. And I'd want you to do the same because I want to help you. I've only got a specific amount of time. I might as well help you when you're in the place where the problems are, then keep you here and nothing's happening.

[00:17:31]>> So, the difficulties for you guys is new family coming in. So, obviously, >> we've got to set all that up and think about that because you've established yourselves. If you just want to hang out for a couple of minutes, I'll come and get you when when I'm ready for us to go. Is that okay?

[00:17:44]>> We need to start working.

[00:17:45]>> Yes.

[00:17:46]>> There's work to do in the house.

[00:17:48]>> Yeah.

[00:17:49]>> All right. See you.

[00:17:51]>> Lovely meeting everybody. I hope it all goes well and I hope >> good luck to you. Hope it goes okay.

[00:17:56]>> See you.

[00:17:57]>> See you.

[00:17:58]>> Yeah. Byebye. Good luck. It all turned out fine.

[00:18:01]>> As 2 and a halfyear-old Ryan's aggressive behavior has not manifested itself here, making it impossible for any treatment to be carried out. The field family are returning home to where the problem occurs.

[00:18:12]>> Come in. We'll say goodbye. There can >> Good luck. Thank you for coming. Thank you. Thank you for coming.

[00:18:22]>> That's right.

[00:18:23]>> Sorry to see you, Lee. But >> where's the wine?

[00:18:25]>> You can do it.

[00:18:26]>> Where's the wine?

[00:18:26]>> Where's the wine? Now your alcohol problem emerges when it's too late.

[00:18:31]>> I just takes a lot. Take care. I'll speak to you soon.

[00:18:35]>> All right.

[00:18:35]>> Bye.

[00:18:36]>> You can do it.

[00:18:37]>> We can.

[00:18:37]>> I know.

[00:18:39]>> Should we get in the car?

[00:18:41]>> I can't believe I've got all >> te.

[00:18:44]It's strange, isn't it?

[00:18:47]>> Hi.

[00:18:47]>> Bye. Tanya has advised mom Fiona and dad Mark on how they should start dealing with Ryan's behavior and will continue to work with them from home instead.

[00:19:00]It's the second day in the house of tiny terways and already it's all changed.

[00:19:04]The Field family from Cudden came looking for help with their two and a halfyear-old son Ryan's tantrums and aggressive behavior at home. After a day of observation, Tarnia has had to break the news that this environment was actually suppressing the problem, making it impossible for her to treat it. So, the fields have returned home, where the problem is triggered, and Tarnia will continue to work with them from there.

[00:19:27]Mom Sara and dad Darren Dixon have brought 5-year-old Harrison to try and turn around his behavior problems.

[00:19:33]Harrison shouts,, screams, and even lashes out if he doesn't get his own way.

[00:19:39]He also has a very limited diet and usually sleeps in his parents' bed.

[00:19:43]Tanya is concerned by the negative attitude mom Sarah has towards her son and coming to grips with it has been an uphill struggle.

[00:19:51]Sarah McMillan has come with four-year-old daughter Kelsey. Sarah can no longer cope with Kelsey's tantrums and bad behavior.

[00:19:59]After a day of explosive outbursts yesterday, Tanya wants to work with Sarah on new ways she can regain control and rebuild the shattered relationship she has with her daughter.

[00:20:10]With considerable upheaval caused in the house, Tarnie's got her work cut out if she's going to get her plans back on track. There's some people >> still to come, a new family arrive at the House of Tiny Tearways.

[00:20:22]>> Hello.

[00:20:23]>> Hello. Hello.

[00:20:24]>> Hello.

[00:20:27]With precious time already lost, Tanya meets the Dixons for their morning consultation.

[00:20:32]>> Yesterday, Tanya discovered that the relationship between mom and dad Dixon and their son Harrison wasn't as it should be.

[00:20:38]>> Some days I just hate Harry and I just >> sounds really horrible, but I wish I never had him. And >> she wants to explore this negativity further today.

[00:20:49]>> First three words that come into your head to describe him to me.

[00:20:53]>> Naughty.

[00:20:56]demanding and loving.

[00:21:01]>> He's naughty and he's and he knows he's done it and he knows he's in the wrong and he'll just say, "I love you, Dad," straight away.

[00:21:07]>> Yeah. And >> so that's his way of diffusion. Yeah.

[00:21:09]Yeah. We love him a bit.

[00:21:10]>> Do you like him?

[00:21:12]>> Not all the time.

[00:21:13]>> I think you've got a very negative attitude towards your son.

[00:21:17]>> And I I I think he's very unhappy.

[00:21:20]>> I think behind the naughtiness is a lot of anxiety and unhappiness.

[00:21:25]Does it feel like I'm telling you off?

[00:21:27]>> No, >> no, no. I'm glad to hear it. I >> It's hard to It's >> just amazing that >> somebody can pick it up so quick.

[00:21:34]>> Yeah.

[00:21:35]>> But if you would if you sort of reflect on yourselves. Why don't you look at yourselves then? Have a look at this. I want to show you a sequence of tape and I want you to tell me after why you think I've shown it to you. Okay.

[00:21:44]>> Won't you?

[00:21:45]>> Okay. Have a have a look at it. See See what you think.

[00:21:50]>> Come on.

[00:21:51]>> Get your feet around the chair and sit and eat.

[00:21:53]>> No. Don't ask for nothing later.

[00:21:56]>> You're not having nothing later. Harry, >> Harry, >> I think I should sit you on one of those seats there. Turn around and eat your dinner.

[00:22:08]>> What did you see there?

[00:22:10]>> I couldn't speak. Um, I couldn't lower my tone. I was my tone of my voice was quite harsh, I think.

[00:22:18]>> Okay, here's the next bit.

[00:22:21]I close my eyes and then when I open my eyes, you show me that you've eaten a little from the corner and this green sticker goes straight on there. Okay, you tell me when you're ready. Tell me when you're ready. Not looking. Not looking. He can't do it.

[00:22:40]>> No. I gave him a motivation and I praised him every step of the way. I'll be really frank with you. I'm really concerned about your parenting.

[00:22:52]I think your son is very unhappy.

[00:22:56]I think you've blamed him for being a monster almost. You set him up to be a problem. I think when he cries, I think he's genuinely sad. Unless we can get to the root of why you find it so difficult to show your son any positive emotion, we're going to get nowhere this week.

[00:23:14]>> I'm not a very emotional person.

[00:23:17]>> You don't show me emotion though. hide that zap from me.

[00:23:20]>> You don't show me emotion either.

[00:23:21]>> So Harry doesn't feel loved. Maybe >> you don't feel loved.

[00:23:26]>> No.

[00:23:26]>> Do you feel loved in this family?

[00:23:31]>> Yeah.

[00:23:32]>> How how do you feel loved? How does it get shown to you?

[00:23:35]>> Because I'm going home to my family.

[00:23:37]>> If you lost your family, if some if whatever, >> what would that do to you?

[00:23:43]>> It's just another thing I deal with.

[00:23:45]>> I would deal with it. I'm not. Death was forced upon me when I was seven years old. I know it's part of life from a very young age. I know people die. I say my real dad died when I was seven.

[00:23:57]>> How did your dad die?

[00:23:58]>> Uh cerosis, the liver, heart attack, everything. Drinker, smoker.

[00:24:04]>> Died when I was seven and he was only 31.

[00:24:06]>> Wow.

[00:24:07]>> I was in the room with him.

[00:24:08]>> You was the only one.

[00:24:09]>> You saw your father die?

[00:24:10]>> I was I was the only one in the house with him. I was sat next to him when he broke it.

[00:24:15]Do you feel that when your father died and you saw him die, a bit of you inside died?

[00:24:20]>> Well, yeah, cuz I was I was spitting image >> and I didn't >> You was close to your dad though, were you?

[00:24:38]>> It's all right to cry, you know.

[00:24:40]>> It's all right to cry. I think that Harrison is banging on the door to get some of this from the two of you.

[00:24:48]>> He doesn't want to just hear that you love him. He wants to feel it.

[00:24:52]>> Every seven-year-old wants their dad, don't they?

[00:24:55]>> Absolutely. But your little son, he really wants his dad. But you now you're so frightened of that connection because what if you lost it again? So bang, we just >> put the shields up.

[00:25:06]>> I can see that you love your son. I'm not saying to you that I I can't see that. That's the bit that hurts when you say that we're bad.

[00:25:13]>> I don't think you're bad parents. Why on earth would you put yourself through all of this unless you have something that you really want to change? That makes you good parents in my book. I think your parenting skills are not very good.

[00:25:26]>> I think that you are on the money though. I think you know what the problem is. It hasn't taken me very long to get us to this point. M >> in order to help them be more affectionate towards 5-year-old Harrison, Tarnie has asked them to spend more time playing with him today.

[00:25:48]>> Not me.

[00:25:48]>> Ready? Should we check these?

[00:25:54]>> What mommy's look like with balloons on her head? What's mommy look like with balloons on her head? Does mommy look good?

[00:26:00]>> No.

[00:26:00]>> No. What do I look like?

[00:26:04]A what?

[00:26:06]>> No. What do I look like?

[00:26:08]>> Nothing.

[00:26:09]>> That was A HORRIBLE WORD, WASN'T IT?

[00:26:12]>> You was playing nicely then, wasn't you?

[00:26:14]>> Give both back, >> right?

[00:26:18]Not repeating it.

[00:26:20]>> How?

[00:26:23]As well as teaching single mom Sarah McMillan how to carry out a more suitable and effective means of timeout to control the tantrums, Tarnie has encouraged Sarah to be more positive and praising with four-year-old daughter Kelsey when she's well behaved.

[00:26:38]>> This will show her which type of behavior receives the most desirable attention.

[00:26:42]>> You having a good time?

[00:26:44]>> Yeah.

[00:26:44]>> Are we staying here >> for another few more days?

[00:26:48]>> Well, we not stay here all day.

[00:26:51]>> Well, we are staying here all day.

[00:26:53]But we're going to be staying here for another few more days. And then after a few more days here, we'll be going back home.

[00:26:59]>> And you know what's going to happen when we go back home?

[00:27:01]>> What?

[00:27:02]>> Mommy's going to try her hardest to stop shouting at you.

[00:27:08]>> Yeah. And you know what else mommy's going to try and do?

[00:27:10]>> Yeah.

[00:27:11]>> Well, mommy's not going to Mommy's not going to hold you anymore.

[00:27:16]Yeah. Would you like that? Mommy not stops holding you. Well, we still have our cuddles. We still have our cuddles and kisses as we always do, but you know when mommy takes you to the stairs if you've been naughty and I hold you on the stairs. Mommy's not going to take you to the stairs anymore.

[00:27:35]>> You want to cuddle, do you? You want me to stop the swing? Yeah.

[00:27:41]>> Oh, come on then, Pickle. Oh, >> after observing the Dixon family for 24 hours, Tanya wants to work with mom Sara and dad Darren on positive play.

[00:27:55]>> Come on, come and do.

[00:27:56]>> At home, Harrison is aggressive, swears, and lashes out. And Tanya thinks this may be caused by the lack of positive attention he receives from his parents.

[00:28:05]She set up an observation session in which both Sara and Darren will spend time playing with Harrison whilst the other parents observes so they can see firsthand how it affects Harrison's behavior. Mom Sara is the first to play with Harrison.

[00:28:18]>> I think this is going to be a big castle, isn't it?

[00:28:21]>> That going to be big.

[00:28:22]>> Is that going to be big? Is that going to fit us all in?

[00:28:24]>> That's my >> Oh god, this is getting bigger and bigger and bigger, >> is it?

[00:28:30]>> Does this play happen a lot between Sara and Harrison? No, very rare.

[00:28:35]>> Oh, wow.

[00:28:37]>> She's very good.

[00:28:39]>> Why doesn't she do it more?

[00:28:42]>> I don't know.

[00:28:44]>> Harrison's going in with us.

[00:28:46]>> Nope.

[00:28:47]>> What about if Harrison goes in his own room up here? Cuz I think it's a nice room that Harrison's going to go in.

[00:28:56]>> Harry was born after you've been together how long?

[00:29:02]We've been together nine years and he's five. So four years, >> right?

[00:29:06]>> Before Harrison came along, had there been any other >> me what >> pregnancies or >> She lost one. Yeah, >> she lost >> last one miscarriage. Yeah.

[00:29:14]>> When was that?

[00:29:15]>> Right at the start of our relationship.

[00:29:17]I think it was about 19 weeks pregnant, I think.

[00:29:19]>> Almost halfway. Right.

[00:29:22]>> She lost the baby. Yeah.

[00:29:23]>> She got really >> Did she wrote your name on it? wound up and tend to >> So you didn't name the child or >> we had a name picked out and it's >> the name of Harry is now Harrison.

[00:29:36]>> Okay.

[00:29:37]>> We they the doctors always said never >> choose the name of that was going to be your first child.

[00:29:44]>> But we like the name so much that >> we did it anyway.

[00:29:48]>> But she was what almost 20 weeks?

[00:29:51]>> I think so. She knows the weeks more than I do. I don't get involved in Right.

[00:29:56]>> Things yet?

[00:29:57]>> I think we should swap now. But as you um go in, you could say if if you say, "Okay, if she doesn't spontaneously go to give him a kiss and a cuddle, you could gather your whole family up in your arms and give them both a kiss and say, "I've just watched you. You're just so lovely together." You could initiate it when you go in.

[00:30:13]>> Yeah.

[00:30:14]>> Go on then.

[00:30:15]>> Go on then.

[00:30:16]>> Go on then.

[00:30:22]That good for you?

[00:30:24]>> Yeah.

[00:30:24]>> Did you enjoy that with mommy?

[00:30:26]>> Yeah.

[00:30:26]>> Mommy's got to go in the room now.

[00:30:28]>> Me?

[00:30:29]>> Yeah.

[00:30:29]>> No. Me.

[00:30:30]>> You going to give mommy a kiss before she goes?

[00:30:32]>> Do you want to give me a kiss?

[00:30:33]>> Yeah.

[00:30:34]>> My mom going Oh >> no. She's going in the room with the the lady.

[00:30:38]>> Give me a kiss. Take that out of your mouth.

[00:30:39]>> Take care of your monkey.

[00:30:41]>> A.

[00:30:43]>> Do you want to give me a hug?

[00:30:45]>> Big squeeze.

[00:30:46]>> Big squeezy squeezy. See you in a minute.

[00:30:49]>> Good with daddy.

[00:30:50]>> Chill mommy what? Show daddy what you was doing.

[00:30:54]>> My booby's name.

[00:30:55]>> It was Whose smart car is that?

[00:30:58]>> My >> Is that because you were 5 years old?

[00:31:01]>> No.

[00:31:01]>> That was found quite hard.

[00:31:03]>> Did you?

[00:31:04]>> Yeah.

[00:31:04]>> Very interesting because you made it look so easy.

[00:31:09]>> Did I?

[00:31:09]>> You look like an absolute champion there. That was a training video in how to play with your child. Look how happy you are. I've not seen your face like that much. Did you love it?

[00:31:20]>> Yeah. Yeah, I think so.

[00:31:22]>> Did you love the kisses at the end?

[00:31:23]>> Yeah. Yeah.

[00:31:25]>> Is that the dog's ears?

[00:31:27]>> Yeah.

[00:31:27]>> You got really big black ears like that.

[00:31:31]>> You might ears. Is that mommy? She looks like Tony Blair.

[00:31:36]>> Normally, you wouldn't be on the floor playing like this because you get home from school and you're thinking, "Got to cook the tea, got to clean the house, got to do this, got to do that, got to do the other." When you see this, what's more important? Having a clean house and a perfectly cooked tea or this?

[00:31:53]>> What's more important?

[00:31:56]>> What is Sully? Sully's a >> dog.

[00:31:59]>> Right. So, what does a dog begin with?

[00:32:00]>> Some snake.

[00:32:01]>> No.

[00:32:02]>> Ducky duck.

[00:32:03]>> Ducky duck.

[00:32:04]>> Yesterday, I think he was quite an unhappy kid.

[00:32:07]>> And today, you've seen a difference in today.

[00:32:09]>> I have. You have. What's the difference?

[00:32:12]>> Um, >> he's got a smile on his face. He's >> he's more talking. He's open more.

[00:32:18]>> Yeah. What's that about? What's changed for him that's getting him to be like this?

[00:32:24]>> Us.

[00:32:25]>> Us. But the way we are around him.

[00:32:27]>> Good boy. You >> pig.

[00:32:35]>> But is it coming from your heart yet or do you still feel it's coming much more from outside? You're having to think about it.

[00:32:40]>> No, from the heart. No.

[00:32:42]>> Really?

[00:32:43]>> Yeah. The more of the more I've sat out there and I've thought about things and everything else. I think so.

[00:32:50]>> Yeah. It's something so simple that could have been dealt with ages ago rather than having to go through all this to get to it.

[00:32:56]>> So, in effect, it's also making you feel bad about yourself, is it?

[00:33:00]>> Yes.

[00:33:01]>> I think you've got a lovely family.

[00:33:05]>> Lovely husband, lovely son. Do you want to go out there and congratulate them and congratulate your son on his way? Do you want to have a family hug?

[00:33:14]Hey.

[00:33:15]>> Hello. Oh, you Larrison's been very good out here, hasn't he? I've got Oh, come out here.

[00:33:22]>> Oh, it's Harry been good.

[00:33:24]>> Harry, come and give mommy a cuddle.

[00:33:26]Mommy, I'll tell you what. Give mommy and daddy a cuddle. Should we all have a cuddle? Should we have a big cuddle?

[00:33:30]What about mommy? Give mommy cuddles.

[00:33:32]>> He's a big monkey, isn't he?

[00:33:37]>> What about me? Good.

[00:33:39]>> That was lovely. He's a sloppy little kisser.

[00:33:44]Mom Sarah McMillan used to endure a dangerously physical struggle trying to time out her four-year-old daughter, Kelsey.

[00:33:51]Tanya has taught her a more suitable version OF TIME OUT.

[00:33:55]>> We'll start picking up the toys in a minute. Yeah.

[00:33:58]>> What do you reckon?

[00:33:59]>> What?

[00:34:00]>> We'll get all tidied up. Ready for dinner?

[00:34:01]>> I want you to I want you to pick the toys up so we can get ready for dinner.

[00:34:04]>> Right. Let's see who can pick the toys up.

[00:34:07]>> Harry can pick the paper up and Harry pick the the Lego up quickest.

[00:34:11]>> Yeah. Who can do the >> quick? Put it in.

[00:34:14]>> Come on then. Come on then, Kelsey.

[00:34:17]>> Quick. So, who can see who can beat >> me?

[00:34:21]>> So, you can have a race.

[00:34:23]>> Kelsey, can you help me pick the paper up, please?

[00:34:26]>> Kelsey, >> I asked you. Please, can you help me pick the paper up?

[00:34:34]>> Right. Once more, >> Kelsey. After repeatedly asking for Kelsey's help and Kelsey flatly refusing to cooperate, mom Sarah decides to implement a timeout.

[00:34:45]>> Right, we'll go to your bedroom.

[00:34:47]>> I am I am mommy. I ammy.

[00:35:04]I am going to pick the toys up.

[00:35:15]MOMMY MOMMY, >> thank you for calming down. Right now, I'd like you to come and help me pick up the paper. Are you going to come and help me pick up the paper?

[00:36:06]Yes. Thank you. Well done. That's a good girl. Come on then. Let's go and pick up the paper then.

[00:36:11]>> Mommy.

[00:36:12]>> Well done.

[00:36:12]>> You didn't want me this locked door, did you?

[00:36:20]>> It's the second day in the House of Tiny Teaways, and Tanya has already got her work cut out. Mom Sara and dad Darren Dixon have brought 5-year-old Harrison to try and put a stop to his antisocial behavior.

[00:36:33]Harrison will think nothing of shouting, screaming, or even lashing out if he doesn't get his own way.

[00:36:39]>> Harrison also lives on a diet of bread and butter and chocolate buttons and regularly refuses to sleep unless it's in his parents' bed.

[00:36:46]>> So far, Tanya has identified mom Sar's negative relationship with her son as one of the core problems behind Harrison's behavior, and addressing that emotional issue has been anything but easy. Single mom Sarah McMillan has brought her four-year-old daughter Kelsey to the house because she finds it increasingly hard to cope with Kelsey's explosive behavior. Yesterday was a day of tantrums for the McMillan. And after assessing the problem, Tanya is hoping to work with mom Sarah on new techniques and ways to deal with Kelsey's tempestuous manner. Tanya has had to break the difficult news to the Field family that the House of Tiny Terways is not the right environment to treat their son Ryan's aggressive behavior and tantrums.

[00:37:27]So, the Fields returned home, and Tanya will continue to work with them on finding a solution to the problem. But with one family now gone, another family with a whole host of new and very different problems are on the way.

[00:37:47]When Alex met Tony Pit in his native Tobago, she thought her dreams had come true. But eight years later, life in a cramped flat in Cuddon has turned into a nightmare. They live with their two sons, Timu, who's almost seven, and 2-year-old Toby. And it's little Toby, who is wreaking havoc on the whole family.

[00:38:07]>> Would you stop eight?

[00:38:12]>> He's still breastfeeding at 2 years old, waking mom and dad up to eight times a night.

[00:38:22]Mommy needs to go to sleep first.

[00:38:30]>> Don't go in your bed.

[00:38:32]>> No.

[00:38:32]>> Could be good. I'm quiet.

[00:38:34]>> No.

[00:38:40]>> No. I don't want to do boobs anymore, baby. I'm tired.

[00:38:50]sake.

[00:38:51]>> I don't think Toby's ever really slept through the night and um he's been breastfeeding since he was born. So, um but I just I get the feeling that I get the feeling that he's been waking up more in the last few months cuz I seem to be more more tired.

[00:39:07]>> And most of the time when he wake up just crying, >> you boop boop. That's all I hear him saying. Yeah. You want this boob boob.

[00:39:16]Alex wants to stop breastfeeding, but ends up giving into Toby every time.

[00:39:20]>> Is daddy awake?

[00:39:22]>> My daddy's downstairs cuz daddy got caught.

[00:39:25]>> Dad is eventually pushed out of bed and ends up sleeping on the sofa every single night.

[00:39:34]>> This is >> being continuously woken through the night is taking its toll on Alex and Tony's relationship.

[00:39:40]>> It's not a good start to the day, is it?

[00:39:42]if you haven't had enough sleep. And it's not a good start to the day if you and your partner are fighting with each other because you haven't had enough sleep. I guess we're we're devoting so much energy to Toby that we're not we're not able to give each other anything.

[00:39:56]>> And on top of the arguing, Tony doesn't offer the support that Alex would like.

[00:40:00]I think I need Tony to help me do this and Tony to take more um charge of feeding him or dealing with him when he's waking up because on my own I just can't I can't do it. I try to help out but he just want his mommy you know and by I trying to give him a help with that he get worse >> Tony and Alex have finally reached breaking point I'm just really drained emotionally >> and I don't think I can take another year going through uh that non-s sleeping because it's really start to affect >> whatever we're trying isn't working is in >> Timu, who's nearly seven, leads his younger brother, 2-year-old Toby, and his mom, Alex, and dad, Tony, into the house of tiny terways.

[00:40:52]>> The other door. There's some people in the back opens towards us. That's in.

[00:40:55]You go.

[00:40:56]>> Hello.

[00:40:56]>> There you go.

[00:40:58]>> Hello.

[00:40:58]>> Hello. Hello.

[00:41:00]>> Hello.

[00:41:03]>> Hello. Hi.

[00:41:06]>> Balloons.

[00:41:07]>> I'm Alex.

[00:41:09]>> I'm Sara, by the way. I'm Sarah. Sarah.

[00:41:13]>> Hello. Tony Tony.

[00:41:14]>> Nice to meet you. Kelsey, that's Darren. My husband.

[00:41:20]>> I see you in the kitchen.

[00:41:26]>> Toby.

[00:41:27]>> Toby. And >> Teemo and Toby. Tim the little one. No.

[00:41:30]Teo is the big one. Big one. Toby's little one.

[00:41:32]>> Toby's the little one.

[00:41:34]>> Hello.

[00:41:35]>> Hello.

[00:41:36]>> Hello.

[00:41:37]>> Welcome to the house.

[00:41:39]>> Hi, Tony. I'm Tanya Byron. Nice to meet you. Hello, Alex. Thank you for coming in.

[00:41:43]>> That's okay.

[00:41:44]>> How'd you feel?

[00:41:44]>> Quite nervous, actually.

[00:41:46]>> Are you? Don't be nervous. There's nothing to be nervous about. I'm just going to watch you all the time, take apart your parenting, and then help you.

[00:41:53]>> So, nothing to worry about.

[00:41:54]>> Nothing at all. Nothing at all. Let me meet the children.

[00:41:58]>> Hello. Hello, >> Toby. He's excited.

[00:42:01]>> Hello, Toby. I mean, we've lost Tim. Oh, that's >> Hello, Timu. Hello. I'm Tanya. Will you shake my hand? How are you? Fine.

[00:42:12]>> What do you think of the house?

[00:42:14]Good.

[00:42:15]>> I see you're cleaning. Thank you. That's great. We can do a bit of floor sweeping. Have you seen your bedroom?

[00:42:20]>> No. No. Should we Do you want to see?

[00:42:21]>> Yeah, absolutely. Do you want to have an explore? First of all, look, look, look.

[00:42:24]Look in there. This is a cool room.

[00:42:26]>> This is cool.

[00:42:26]>> Can you decide what you want to achieve in this house?

[00:42:30]>> On the boobs? Off the boobs?

[00:42:32]>> Okay. Yeah. On the boobs during the day, but off the boobs at night or off the boobs completely in the bed next to you.

[00:42:38]I mean, what do you want?

[00:42:39]>> Do you know I have a real problem with with giving up the breastfeeding myself because we don't intend to have any more children.

[00:42:45]>> I'm a mother myself. I remember that feeling.

[00:42:47]>> My last baby.

[00:42:48]>> Yeah.

[00:42:48]>> That's why I'm finding it difficult, I think. And and I did like the breastfeeding and I still quite like it in the day, you know, just once or twice in THE DAYTIME.

[00:42:58]>> SURE. SO, but I know that I have to there has to be a time when I do stop.

[00:43:01]And so, psychologically, I've got a problem with with stopping, >> right? And do you want me to help you with that?

[00:43:07]>> Because my question is, who are you feeding him for?

[00:43:10]>> I don't know anymore. I don't know.

[00:43:12]Well, I Yeah, I don't know. I have to do it.

[00:43:14]>> But say goodbye to baby.

[00:43:16]>> Yeah, he's not a baby anymore.

[00:43:18]>> Yeah, >> it's a big decision. I mean, I suppose we have to work out together whether I'm here to help facilitate making the decision >> or whether the decision is made and I'm here to help facilitate making the change.

[00:43:30]>> It's it's that because I can't I can't do this forever. He's two. He was supposed to stop before he was two.

[00:43:36]>> It'll be good. It's going to be good.

[00:43:38]>> Okay.

[00:43:38]>> You look very anxious. So, the first thing I need a cup of tea.

[00:43:41]>> Have a cup of tea. And I just need you to feel that you can kind of just chill.

[00:43:45]>> Take in the atmospheres and everything.

[00:43:48]>> Tempt it. At home, Harrison Dixon will only eat chocolate buttons or bread and butter. Today, Dad Darren and mom Sara are going to try them on something considerably more substantial, a roast dinner, hoping that with everyone else sitting down to eat, Harrison will be encouraged to do the same. Go on then, sit there with us.

[00:44:10]>> After your dinner, >> I'm going to mash your dinner up.

[00:44:15]>> Come on, I'll be with us.

[00:44:19]Um, I think he's got this spoon here.

[00:44:21]But >> why is he this anxious when he's had quite a relatively a nice day with his mom and dad?

[00:44:28]>> Because this is a completely and utterly new experience for him and he knows that he all he has to do is go for a while and he'll get milk and buttons.

[00:44:35]>> It's hot.

[00:44:35]>> Look at Kelsey. Look, she's eating a lot.

[00:44:38]>> Look, it's nice. Just try it.

[00:44:42]>> Come on.

[00:44:45]>> You don't like what? A lot of food, I have to say. Four, fivey old.

[00:44:48]>> Not a child's plate. Yeah. Big mistakes.

[00:44:50]All mistakes. But that's good. That's what I need to see. How intimidating is that for a little boy who's never eaten that kind of meal before? Grownup plate, grownup portion, grown-up spoon.

[00:45:00]>> Yummy, yummy, yummy, >> yummy, yummy, yummy, yummy in your tummy.

[00:45:04]>> Why don't you like it?

[00:45:06]>> Daddy took ages cooking this.

[00:45:08]>> Daddy cooked it and mommy's upstairs boy. Cuz Harrison's been good today. And he ate that bread and he ate the cheese biscuit, didn't he? And that yogurt, that mousse.

[00:45:20]That was really brave of you to do that, wasn't it?

[00:45:25]>> Nothing.

[00:45:26]>> Oh, come on.

[00:45:27]>> Makes you into >> Is he after attention here or is he properly scared of the food?

[00:45:34]>> He's just completely unfamiliar with what's going on here. Telly's on drinking milk, eating chocolate buttons.

[00:45:39]That's what he knows. At table in chair, huge plate of food never seen before.

[00:45:45]>> Oh, do I see Harry lifting the spoon up?

[00:45:49]>> You lifting the spoon.

[00:45:52]>> I saw that spoon moving.

[00:45:54]>> Quick, Kelsey's going. It would be nice.

[00:45:59]>> Oh, it's okay.

[00:46:01]>> It's all right.

[00:46:02]>> It's all right. With everyone's attempts at getting Harrison to eat falling flat, Tanya joins them to try herself and get a better understanding of Harrison's refusal to touch his supper.

[00:46:14]>> Hello. Hello. Hello, sweetie pie. So, really good attempt. Feeling a bit anxious now.

[00:46:20]>> Anxious.

[00:46:21]>> No, just more >> confused. What do we do? Okay. Well, first of all, I saw you touch your spoon. Very, very good boy. Would you like to have a sticker for touching your spoon? Which one would you like?

[00:46:33]Well done to you. Well done. Give me a smile.

[00:46:38]>> If you don't mind me saying kind of a couple of mistakes here, but I wanted to watch.

[00:46:44]>> You've given him a huge amount of food.

[00:46:46]And >> yeah, well, he asked for that, >> right? Okay. Well, let's I mean, what I'd like to try and do something if that's okay. Can I just Can I just get on with something while you're Sure.

[00:46:56]>> Okay. Let me just see what um Harry, which is your favorite color?

[00:47:01]Which is your favorite color?

[00:47:03]>> Green.

[00:47:03]>> Which one, darling?

[00:47:04]>> Green.

[00:47:05]>> Green. Okay. Right.

[00:47:07]>> Remember what I want though, I'd like you.

[00:47:09]>> For a child that's not used to eating like this, he's done extremely well cuz he's sat at the table. He's not locked down and run away. He's done really, really well. What we need to do is just reduce that hugely. Reduce that.

[00:47:18]>> I thought that it did look >> anything on here. He would eat potato.

[00:47:22]>> Um, just stick to the chicken.

[00:47:24]>> Stick to the chicken. So, if I just do a tiny tiny bit of chicken. All I want you to do with the chicken is put your spoon in and take it out. That's it.

[00:47:33]That's all. Just like a game. Put the chicken on your spoon and just hold it so it balances. See if you can do that.

[00:47:40]>> There we go. Hold it up.

[00:47:43]>> So, ladies and gentlemen, here's the chicken and it falls on the plate.

[00:47:48]>> Oh, no.

[00:47:51]>> Do you understand what we're doing here?

[00:47:53]>> Yeah.

[00:47:53]>> Fun fun fun.

[00:47:55]Right now, I'll tell you what we could do. Do you like the taste of chocolate buttons? Do you? Right. If you put a piece of chicken in your mouth, you can have a chocolate button. And you can put it in at the same time if you like. So, you put that in your mouth. Ready, steady, go.

[00:48:09]>> Go on. In it goes.

[00:48:12]>> Good boy.

[00:48:13]>> Can you do it? No. Is that too scary?

[00:48:14]How about then that we put the chocolate button next to the chicken. The tiniest bit of chicken. Do you want to try it, darling?

[00:48:21]>> He's quite nervous of the food that he does. He's actually because you've never taught him to to know it as anything that he's familiar with. So, this isn't willful. This is just the whole thing is completely alien to him.

[00:48:36]>> Having spent a few hours observing the new arrivals, the Pit family, mom Alex, dad Tony, and their two sons, Timu and Toby. Tanya decides to talk to them about the problems they're having with winning 2-year-old Toby off breastfeeding. He's completely in control of you and your breasts basically, isn't he?

[00:48:54]>> Are you both in agreement about this?

[00:48:56]>> Yeah.

[00:48:56]>> But are you both in the same emotional space about this?

[00:48:59]>> No.

[00:49:01]>> You are just like >> I just want him to stop.

[00:49:04]>> It's got to stop.

[00:49:05]>> Yeah.

[00:49:05]>> Yeah.

[00:49:06]>> And you are >> like, I want it to stop, but it's hard.

[00:49:09]>> You want it to stop in a nice fluffy clouds kind of way so he's not upset and you're not upset.

[00:49:14]>> Yes.

[00:49:14]>> Okay. Well, let me tell you, that's not going to happen.

[00:49:16]>> Okay. and you're giving him lots of mixed messages. So, I kind of feel sorry for him because he doesn't know that you want to stop because sometimes you give in, sometimes you don't.

[00:49:25]>> I have thought about that actually. I've thought that I'm It is a bit confusing >> with a child of his age with any kind of behavior. If you don't want them to do it, you have to say no and you have to follow through.

[00:49:35]>> And that's why I'm not doing I suppose.

[00:49:37]>> I mean, they're very accessible, aren't they?

[00:49:39]>> You don't have >> That's another thing. I've got bras that I can wear where he can't actually get into them.

[00:49:44]>> Yes.

[00:49:44]>> And I don't I don't wear them. might wear the ones which can get into. So, you're very ambivalent about this.

[00:49:51]>> Um, Channy, why don't you just take him off and take him away?

[00:49:55]>> Yeah, that's why normally do what do we >> just say no? Just say no.

[00:50:02]>> Okay.

[00:50:03]>> And that little face is breaking your heart.

[00:50:06]>> Yeah.

[00:50:06]>> Okay. And he can see you doing this. So, he's thinking >> I can uh I can get mommy and I can get her boob.

[00:50:14]>> Yeah.

[00:50:16]I cannot help you, >> right, >> Alex?

[00:50:19]>> Right.

[00:50:19]>> Unless you are very clear in your mind what you want me to help you with.

[00:50:23]>> I didn't think the problem was so much to do with the breastfeeding. I thought it was just to do with the sleeping.

[00:50:28]>> It's all connected, >> right?

[00:50:29]>> His sleep associations are sucking on your breast, >> right?

[00:50:33]>> He wakes briefly in the night and the only thing that he knows will get him back to sleep is sucking on your breast, >> right? His sleep association should be in his bed with the light out.

[00:50:43]>> After a story and a kiss, you leave the room. He falls asleep on his own, right?

[00:50:48]At his age, 2 years and 1 month, he should be able to do that.

[00:50:52]>> Mommy, >> no.

[00:50:55]>> She's all right. Is it?

[00:50:57]>> I mean, the my feeling is Tony, you're going to have to do the nighttime stuff.

[00:51:01]Are you up for that? Can you do the whole night shift?

[00:51:03]>> It's all right. Do you want to just put him in the bed tonight, sit with him until he falls asleep?

[00:51:08]>> If he's crying a lot, you're just going to need to kind of keep calming him down, but not too much chat. Just lie with him. And >> do you feel ready for this tonight?

[00:51:18]>> Yeah.

[00:51:20]>> Well, that's the reason we came here, so I have to be.

[00:51:31]Time for bed in the house of tiny tearways. Four-year-old Kelsey McMillan has settled without a hitch. And even after a few tears, 5-year-old Harrison Dixon has drifted off by 8:30. However, there's no sign of such an effective bedtime routine with the Pit family.

[00:51:47]Earlier today, Tanya asked dad Tony to put 2-year-old Toby to bed in order to help mom Alex make the break from breastfeeding Toby to get him to sleep.

[00:51:56]It's nearly 11:00 and Toby just won't settle for the night.

[00:52:01]Are you rolling?

[00:52:04]>> Are you rolling?

[00:52:20]M >> mom Alex decides to talk about her frustration in a video diary.

[00:52:25]>> It's been quite a stressful day really.

[00:52:28]Yeah, I know. Our problem is is Toby not sleeping at night time >> and um he hasn't even gone to bed yet tonight >> and I have to kind of break away from him and it's really hard for me.

[00:52:48]Toby doesn't look like he's suffering though, so it's probably just me.

[00:52:53]>> I think Toby's just very excited about the house.

[00:52:56]>> Oh, no. Now he's thinking he's going to bed with me, which is probably not a good idea and not what we wanted to do.

[00:53:09]>> Put this paper back.

[00:53:13]>> What about daddy? What daddy need? Hey, >> I need >> What daddy need?

[00:53:41]It's almost midnight now and 2-year-old Toby has finally fallen asleep. But will he wake during the night and disturb his exhausted mom and dad demanding the feed he's become accustomed to? And will Tanya be able to help them in the few days she has left?

[00:54:02]Tomorrow on the House of Tiny Terways.

[00:54:05]I can't believe what I've done to Beth.

[00:54:08]He's got too much on her shoulders for such a young age.

[00:54:11]>> If you want me back, you've got to show me that you do because sometimes I just feel you aren't interested in me. The only time you show me love. The only time you kiss me is when we go bed and have sex.

[00:54:20]>> I'll reach into a stage where like one of these days I'm going to just leave.

[00:54:25]I'm stuck in a marriage that's there for convenience.