SAGITTARIUS THIS READING MADE ME CRY 😭 YOU'RE NOT TOGETHER BUT IT DOESN'T MEAN IT'S OVER! MAY

Added: 2026-05-05

[00:00:00]Hi everyone. Thank you so much for joining me. I hope that you're doing well.

[00:00:05]Okay, Sagittarius.

[00:00:07]There's someone you're not with right now. Someone you might have walked away from or who walked away from you.

[00:00:14]Someone whose absence has been teaching you things presence never could. And the story between you is far from finished.

[00:00:22]You know, there's a specific kind of grief that comes from loving someone you're not currently with. It's not the clean grief of a definitive ending. It's not the closure that comes from knowing something is completely over. It's this complicated, tender, aching space where you care deeply, but circumstances or timing or healing or growth require distance. Where love exists but proximity doesn't. Where connection is real but contact isn't happening. Where your heart still holds them but your life doesn't include them right now. And that space, it's confusing.

[00:01:01]It's painful because part of you wonders if you made a mistake, if you gave up too soon, if you should have tried harder, if the distance means it's over.

[00:01:14]If not being together means the connection was never real or that you've lost it forever. But it doesn't not being together right now doesn't mean it's over. It means you're both in a chapter that required separation, that needed space, that couldn't sustain what you're building toward until certain things shifted, until certain healing happened, until certain growth occurred. And that healing is that growth. It's happening for both of you in the space between you. Take a breath with me. Because what I'm picking up is so tender. It's making my chest tight.

[00:01:58]Like there's this invisible thread still connecting you to this person. This energetic bond that distance hasn't severed. This sole recognition that time and space can't erase. You're not together, but you're not disconnected either. You're in this in between space, this liinal territory, this holding pattern that's actually preparing both of you for something neither of you could have handled if you'd tried to force it before you were ready. Does this resonate? Does reading these words make you feel seen? Does some part of you already know that what you had with this person isn't finished, even though it looks finished from the outside because it's not. The connection is still alive, still active, still evolving, just not in the visible tangible way that being together would make it. Let me tell you what's actually happening in this space between you.

[00:02:51]Because you need to understand that separation doesn't mean abandonment.

[00:02:57]Distance doesn't mean disinterest.

[00:03:00]Not being together doesn't mean you don't matter to each other. First, this person thinks about you constantly.

[00:03:09]You're not out of sight, out of mind.

[00:03:12]You're out of sight, but very much on their mind. They wonder how you're doing, what you're experiencing, whether you're happy, whether you're healing, whether you think about them, too, whether you miss them the way they miss you. They see things that remind them of you. They hear songs that bring you to mind. They have moments where they almost reach out, where they type a message and delete it, where they look at your social media even though they know they probably shouldn't, where they ask mutual friends about you without being obvious about it. You occupy space in their consciousness, in their heart, in their daily experience, even though you're not in their daily life. And that matters because it means you're not forgotten. You're not dismissed. You're not someone they moved on from without looking back. You're someone they're carrying, someone they're processing, someone who still means something. Have you been wondering if they think about you? If you cross their mind, if you mattered as much to them as they mattered to you, because they do, you did. You still do. The separation doesn't negate the significance. It just creates space around it. Let me know in the comments if you've been feeling this person's energy. If you've sensed them thinking about you even though you're not in contact. Second, this person is doing work, internal work, the kind that couldn't happen while you were together.

[00:04:47]The kind that requires solitude.

[00:04:50]The kind that needs space to process without the distraction or comfort or complication of your presence. They're looking at their patterns, their wounds, their ways of being in relationship that didn't serve either of you. They're confronting things about themselves they couldn't see clearly when you were around. They're healing things they didn't even know needed healing. And this work, it's hard. It's uncomfortable. It's the kind of thing people avoid because it's easier to stay distracted, easier to jump into something new, easier to pretend the issues don't exist. But they're not doing that. They're facing it. They're feeling it. They're working through it because on some level, conscious or unconscious, they know. They know that if there's going to be a future with you, if there's going to be a chance at getting it right, they need to become someone different, someone more healed, someone more whole, someone who can show up differently than they did before. And that work takes time. That work requires distance. You can't heal a relationship wound while you're still in the relationship. You have to step back, get perspective, do your own work separately before you can come back together differently. Are you someone who's been doing your own healing work, who's been using this separation to grow and evolve and become more of yourself? Because if so, um, you understand you understand that sometimes love requires space. that sometimes the most loving thing you can do is let someone go so they can find themselves, so they can heal, so they can become who they need to be. And if they're doing that work too, if they're using this time the same way you are, then the separation isn't an ending. It's an investment. It's preparation. It's both of you becoming ready for something you weren't ready for before. Third, the timing wasn't right. And you both knew it, even if you didn't want to admit it.

[00:07:08]Even if you tried to force it to work anyway. Even if you hoped that love alone would be enough, but it wasn't because timing matters. Readiness matters. Life circumstances matter. You can have genuine connection with someone and still not be able to make it work because one or both of you aren't in a place to sustain it because external pressures are too intense. Because internal capacity isn't sufficient because the foundation isn't stable enough to support what you're trying to build. and recognizing that, honoring that, choosing to step back rather than forcing something that's going to crumble. That's maturity. That's wisdom.

[00:07:56]That's love in a form most people don't recognize because it doesn't look like holding on. It looks like letting go.

[00:08:04]But letting go temporarily isn't the same as letting go permanently.

[00:08:09]Releasing something because the timing is wrong isn't the same as deciding it's not meant to be. Sometimes the most loving thing you can do is acknowledge that right person, wrong time is real and trust that if it's meant to be, the timing will align eventually.

[00:08:28]Have you been beating yourself up for walking away or angry at them for not being ready or heartbroken over timing that felt cruel? Because the timing wasn't cruel. It was honest. It was accurate. It was life saying not yet, not never. Just not yet. And both of you are in the not yet space, the becoming ready space, the growing into what this connection is going to require space.

[00:09:03]Fourth, there's still so much left unspoken between you. things you never said, things you didn't know how to say, things you weren't ready to hear, things they weren't ready to express. And those unspoken things, they're part of why this isn't over. Because there's unfinished business, not in a toxic, can't let go way. In a there's still more to this story way. In a we didn't get to the end way, in a something still needs to be said way. And at some point when the time is right, when both of you have done enough work, when enough healing has happened, there's going to be a conversation, a reconnection, a moment when one or both of you reaches out, when the silence breaks, when the distance closes, when what's been unspoken finally gets voiced. And that conversation, it's going to matter. It's going to create clarity. It's going to reveal whether the separation was preparation for reunion or whether it was preparation for closure. Whether you're meant to try again or whether you're meant to finally properly release each other. But either way, the conversation is coming. The reconnection is going to happen because this thing between you, it's not complete yet.

[00:10:29]There are still chapters to be written, still moments to be lived.

[00:10:34]still truth to be exchanged. Are you someone who keeps drafting messages you never send? Who thinks about what you'd say if you had the chance? Who imagines the conversation you'd have if you reconnected? Because that conversation is going to happen. Maybe not today, maybe not this month, but eventually when both of you are ready, when the time is right, when the universe orchestrates it, and when it does, all those unspoken things are going to have their moment. Let me know in the comments what you wish you could say to this person because holding it might be exactly what you need to do until the right moment arrives. Now, let me tell you what this separation is teaching you. Because it's not just pain, it's not just loss. It's not just loneliness.

[00:11:28]It's lessons. It's growth. It's transformation. This separation is teaching you that love doesn't have to look like possession. That caring about someone doesn't mean you need to be with them right now. That connection can exist across distance. that honoring someone sometimes means giving them space. That real love isn't just about wanting to be together. It's about wanting what's best for each other. Even when that means being apart, this separation is teaching you about yourself, about what you need, about what you can handle, about your capacity for love that isn't dependent on reciprocation or proximity, about your strength, about your resilience, about your ability to choose yourself.

[00:12:19]Even when choosing yourself means walking away from something that feels good but isn't good for you yet.

[00:12:26]This separation is teaching you patience, trust, faith, the ability to hold space for something without controlling it, the ability to love without gripping, the ability to hope without demanding, the ability to believe in possibility without forcing outcome. And all of these lessons, they're preparing you for whoever you're meant to be with. Whether that's this person eventually or whether it's someone else entirely, these lessons serve you regardless. This growth benefits you regardless. This healing matters regardless. Are you resisting the lessons, fighting the growth, staying stuck in the grief? Because you can do that. You can stay in the pain.

[00:13:14]You can refuse to see the purpose. You can make this mean you're broken or unlovable or cursed. Or you can trust the process. Can honor the separation.

[00:13:24]Can do your own work. Can become who you need to become. Can prepare yourself for whatever comes next. Whether that's reunion with this person or readiness for someone new. Here's what I need you to understand. Not being together doesn't mean it's over. But it also doesn't guarantee it's going to happen.

[00:13:44]This is Schroinger's relationship. It's both possible and not possible. Both alive and not alive. Both ongoing and ended until something happens that collapses it one way or the other. And that uncertainty, it's maddening because you want to know. You want clarity. You want someone to tell you definitively whether you should keep hoping or let go completely. But I can't tell you that because the answer isn't written yet.

[00:14:16]The answer is being created right now by the choices both of you are making. By the work both of you are or aren't doing, by the healing that's happening or not happening, by forces beyond your control and within it simultaneously.

[00:14:34]What I can tell you is this. The connection is real. The separation is necessary. The future is unwritten. And your job isn't to figure out the ending.

[00:14:46]Your job is to focus on yourself, on your healing, on your growth, on becoming the best version of you, regardless of whether this person comes back or not. Because if they do come back, if the timing aligns, if both of you have done the work, you want to be ready. You want to be healed.

[00:15:07]You want to be whole. You want to be someone who can show up differently than you did before. And if they don't come back, if the separation becomes permanent, you still want to be all those things for yourself, for your own life, for whoever comes next. Either way, the work is the same. The focus is the same. You are you making yourself the priority or are you staying stuck in longing, in hoping, in waiting for them to come back so you can finally be happy again because that's not how this works. You don't get to pause your life until someone decides you're worth coming back to. You have to live fully now, regardless of whether they're in your life or not. And and here's the beautiful paradox. The more you focus on yourself, the more you do your work, the more you become whole without them, the more likely it becomes that if reunion is meant to happen, it will because you'll be ready. You'll be healed.

[00:16:17]You'll be someone who can sustain what couldn't be sustained before. And if reunion isn't meant to happen, you'll be okay anyway because you won't need them to be happy. You'll be happy because you're you because you're whole. Because you're living a full life regardless of who's in it. So here's what I want you to do. I want you to release the need to know how this ends. Release the need to control the outcome.

[00:16:45]release the attachment to this specific person being your person and instead trust. Trust that if you're meant to be together, you will be when the timing is right, when both of you are ready, when the work is done. And trust that if you're not meant to be together, something better is coming. Someone more aligned. A love that doesn't require this much space or distance or separation to work. Either way, you're going to be okay. Better than okay. This reading might have made you cry. Might have opened something in your chest that's been tightly held. Might have given you permission to grieve while also giving you permission to hope. Both are okay. Grieve the separation. Hope for reunion. Hold both simultaneously without letting either consume you.

[00:17:40]You're not together. But it doesn't mean it's over. It means you're in the middle, in the space between, in the not yet. And that space, as painful as it is, it's sacred. It's transformative.

[00:17:57]It's preparing you for whatever comes next. So, trust it, honor it, do your work in it, and know that whether this person comes back or not, you're going to be okay. Better than okay. You're going to be whole and healed and ready for whatever love story is meant to be yours. This one might still be writing itself or it might be complete and you just don't have closure yet. But either way, you're not together. And that's okay because sometimes not together is exactly where you need to be to become who you need to become to heal what needs healing to prepare for what's coming. Trust the separation. Trust the process. Trust yourself. And know that this story, whatever it becomes, it's teaching you something beautiful about love and letting go and trusting what's meant for you.

[00:18:59]will find you. You're going to be okay.

[00:19:03]And so are they. And maybe, just maybe, you'll find your way back to each other when the time is right. Or maybe you won't. And that will be right, too.

[00:19:16]Either way, you're exactly where you need to be. Trust that.