Could You Have Done More?

Added: 2026-05-23

[00:00:02]Well, here we are, huh?

[00:00:06]Could you have done more?

[00:00:10]Could you have tried harder to help them more and be more understanding and patient?

[00:00:16]You know that these people are hurt.

[00:00:21]They're broken.

[00:00:22]We need to be careful, fragile. Love them more.

[00:00:27]You just couldn't do that for them, huh?

[00:00:32]Now they're damaged cuz you didn't feel like trying hard enough.

[00:00:41]Stinking thinking, huh?

[00:00:43]Let this thing take over who we are and guide us.

[00:00:46]We're in trouble.

[00:00:49]We need the truth. This isn't very good with the truth, is it? Nope. Not too many facts in here.

[00:00:56]Never done this before, doesn't know what's going on.

[00:01:00]That's why we get help, guys.

[00:01:03]From somebody who does know what's going on.

[00:01:06]Toxic relationships.

[00:01:08]Pretty general broad statement. I'm going to leave it at that. I don't care if it's with a borderline, a narcissist, a sociopath, or just some broken person.

[00:01:19]It's about neglect. It's about abuse.

[00:01:21]And we're all here cuz of trauma, emotional trauma.

[00:01:26]And mental illness is another factor, very important factor in this.

[00:01:31]Relationships are to help add some comfort in our lives, support, things like this.

[00:01:41]They're not easy.

[00:01:42]Obviously. Look at the divorce rates.

[00:01:45]Look at the dating sites, you know.

[00:01:51]When relationships have problems, we fix them or we end them. And not every relationship can be fixed.

[00:01:58]And not every relationship that ends need to have problems.

[00:02:02]Just weren't compatible.

[00:02:04]We fix relationships or we end it them.

[00:02:07]And if we don't live by that, we're screwed.

[00:02:11]Screwed.

[00:02:13]It's just stress.

[00:02:17]It's about functioning.

[00:02:18]It's about compatibility. You can decide if you're compatible.

[00:02:23]But, we both know that they can't function.

[00:02:29]You have seen their capacity, their limits.

[00:02:34]You've reached them. That's why we're here. That's why it's over.

[00:02:39]Could you have done more?

[00:02:41]Yes, of course.

[00:02:44]Of course. Everything your brain's telling you, oh, going over and over and could you have would have could have would have could have would have should have tried to help them fix something.

[00:02:51]Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, sure. Sure.

[00:02:53]Sure. Why didn't you, huh?

[00:02:55]What happened?

[00:03:00]Functioning.

[00:03:02]How can you have relationships with somebody who can't function?

[00:03:07]Can you run a business with people who can't do your job? Do the job you hired them for? No.

[00:03:12]Can you build a house if no one knows how?

[00:03:15]No.

[00:03:16]Good luck.

[00:03:20]Functioning requires awareness, self-awareness, empathy, compassion, remorse, commitment, investment, meeting emotional needs, support, communication, being vulnerable, and so much more.

[00:03:35]Can you do those things? Honestly, did you try? Did you do some of these things? Were you okay?

[00:03:41]Yeah, I bet.

[00:03:43]How about them?

[00:03:46]No.

[00:03:49]None of it.

[00:03:50]And if you're still confused and wondered if a borderline do all these things, then we really need help.

[00:03:56]That's okay.

[00:03:59]Could you have been better or done more?

[00:04:02]Yes.

[00:04:05]What would that look like?

[00:04:08]Psychological damage and broken boundaries.

[00:04:14]Your life life is not easy. It's hard.

[00:04:18]Requires attention, time, and energy.

[00:04:24]Commitment.

[00:04:26]Commitment requires space and time.

[00:04:30]Period.

[00:04:31]We can only make so many commitments, right? I have nine commitments. I don't have any more space and time. It takes it all up.

[00:04:37]So, if you don't have enough to add a new commitment, you have to drop other commitments to add a new one. Then And those other commitments are you.

[00:04:53]Doing more has a price.

[00:04:57]Your self-worth, your self-respect, your self-esteem.

[00:05:03]Number one reason they all go down.

[00:05:06]Your sense of self, your health, your life and future.

[00:05:13]That's the price.

[00:05:15]Could you have done more? Yes. Could they?

[00:05:20]No.

[00:05:22]You know this.

[00:05:25]You tried and this is what happened. You want to try again?

[00:05:33]Because it's not you that's required to change.

[00:05:36]It's them.

[00:05:41]So, you can keep trying over and over and over again. You can keep doing more.

[00:05:46]What are they going to do?

[00:05:51]You must sacrifice. You must compromise and you must neglect you, yourself, to do this, to do more. You already did too much.

[00:06:03]Let's learn how to have more success by doing less.

[00:06:10]Not hope I get what I want by doing more and trying this again.

[00:06:21]You think you wasted life?

[00:06:25]Keep doing it.

[00:06:26]Don't change.

[00:06:29]Don't feel better.

[00:06:32]Don't fix something.

[00:06:34]Just keep trying with a new person like they did.

[00:06:38]And see where that gets you.

[00:06:41]Cuz I can tell you you're worth it.

[00:06:43]Getting better, getting help, taking time, but it won't matter. You have to believe that.

[00:06:48]Okay?

[00:06:51]If you can, please share your experiences down below.

[00:06:54]Ask me any questions you want.

[00:06:57]Thank you for the thumbs up, the likes, subscribing to the channel. If you want help, you can find me at [email protected].

[00:07:05]But guys, if you don't learn anything from this video, love yourself first.

[00:07:10]And you won't have people like this in your life.

[00:07:13]Period.