11 Years of Marriage… He Was Alone In It — When to She Had Moved On | My Advice

Added: 2026-05-05

[00:00:00]HELLO, YOU'RE WELCOME TO THIS CLASS. How many of you have seen this video from Honest Bunch? After 11 years in a long-distance marriage, our guest woke up to videos and pictures of his wife on Instagram getting married to another man. The reason I'm here is because sending money abroad >> I was sending money I was sending money my wife would call me and tell me the money is too small.

[00:00:19]I'm talking about this marriage from air. You need to go and watch it.

[00:00:23]I am not here to tell you the full story. I will let you jump jump jump jump. The reason why I enter this matter not to teach some men lessons to open some men's eyes. We're going to believe that this is a true story until we hear from her. But for now, we're going to use waiting to talk for this interview.

[00:00:38]They show you when to exit. Never struggle for what is not yours. They say what God has joined together, let no man put asunder. But if God no join her together, now you join her together, when I see join her together, man should put asunder, okay?

[00:00:53]Look at your first life story. According to the story, this guy some years ago there on his own for Calabar. Now MC, his name na be MC Ekpo. Fully MC Robot Ekpeyong. NOW SO HE THERE ON HIS OWN, they do MC WORK FOR CALABAR. BIG BOY.

[00:01:09]THEY STAY ON HIS OWN. PEOPLE know him.

[00:01:11]Girls like him. But he no get time for them. Now so one day, according to him allegedly, now him this lady wey ENTER HIS DM. HELLO, HOW ARE YOU? SEND ME YOUR NUMBER.

[00:01:21]Who be this? Which type of girl they BOLD LIKE THIS? BECAUSE OF THAT BOLDNESS, NOW HE SEND HER his number. They call they talk call they talk. FIRST WEEK. SECOND WEEK.

[00:01:32]NOW SHE COME up for Lagos.

[00:01:34]GO VISIT HER. HE TALK SAY FROM THE AIRPORT COME AND see kissy. Na so they kiss themself. Love wanted TO DRIVE GO HOUSE. NA KEY.

[00:01:45]THIS ONE SWEET. HE TALK SAY HE LIKE THE GIRL well well. The shape because the girl is slim and busty. Say na this type of girl I want. ALL THE GIRLS WEY DON'T COME IN LIFE. Before you know it, month one month two.

[00:01:59]ON HIS BIRTHDAY, HE proposed to her. Na so they come marry.

[00:02:05]After the marriage, NOW HIM WEY COME COME OUT which wahala distance wahala.

[00:02:11]BECAUSE SHE WAS WORKING in Lagos, living in Lagos. THIS GUY THEY DO WELL FOR HIMSELF for Calabar. But marriage no want distance. Now she come they request say make he relocate to Lagos. Instead of him to say relocate to Calabar. AFTER MONTH PRESSURE FROM HER, ACCORDING TO MC Ekpo, he talk say na so he abandoned everything, relocate, go join her for her house for Lagos. This time, no job, no gig. As an MC, nobody know him for Lagos. Wetin they think? Na him be the truth. The truth be say na she WEY THEY WORK GO THEY PROVIDE for them. Food oh.

[00:02:48]Everything. Before you know it, this guy turn to house boy. They cook. They mop.

[00:02:53]They do everything.

[00:02:55]BEFORE YOU KNOW IT, year one year two.

[00:02:57]Around that time, the love come they die because our sister don't carry load oh.

[00:03:02]Say ah ah, I no go continue like THIS SO. HE TALK SAY THE LADY WEY THEY STAY TOGETHER THAT TIME BEFORE THE MARRIAGE, she tell this guy say I get wetin I want tell you. Hope say you no go run. Say talk. She tell am say I don't marry before.

[00:03:15]He say him no care. Wetin be marry before? This type of love wetin concern me say you marry before you no marry before? He no even take time to research or ask who be this man. Wetin happen?

[00:03:25]Love don't blind his eye. I dey cut am we go watch am for Honest Bunch. NA SO HE COME DEY WITH HER MORE. ONE DAY, THIS GUY TALK SAY THEY WANT sell the only car they they use. Now him talk say if you come sell this car, wetin you go they use to work out? Say he stood his ground. The first time where he stood his ground. Another time, talk say he no go rent bigger house. Na him say which type of bigger house? Is this place not okay? I want the way I let say she did be say as an MC, what experience is in radio houses? She never allowed him to go and seek jobs in radio houses in Lagos. She no allow. TELL HER SAY THESE RADIO HOUSES FM THIS FM that na knack you na they knack themself for. I beg oh. I no want lose my husband oh. I beg oh. No go there oh. He say because of that, he couldn't get job easily. Maybe after I be say he he enter where they no am. They fit download everything say allegedly, this woman don't marry three times before before he met her.

[00:04:22]According to him, he talk say this woman don't marry three times before he met him. They get a partner.

[00:04:29]WHY WEY THEY STAY WITH HER AS HUSBAND AND WIFE, QUARREL EVERY DAY, FIGHT EVERY DAY. FOR INSTAGRAM, THEY they do videos as husband and wife wey love themself.

[00:04:38]That is after fight to after many bus boots, they go still do video. Pretend say everything they well. To the extent that their church come give them award as the best couple of the year because the church voted they voted for them.

[00:04:51]They come sponsor them go Dubai because of SAY ON THE OUTSIDE, best couple. On the inside, worst couple. FOR DUBAI WHERE THEY GO, this woman give her hell according to him.

[00:05:03]TO CUT THE STORY SHORT, NA SO ONE DAY, JUST see her phone oh. SEE ONE MESSAGE.

[00:05:08]WHAT? Wetin be this? YOU KNOW WETIN HAPPEN? He sent a message allegedly to another of her friend. Wetin dey the message wey Robot see? Robot talk say he see something that day. He see something. Wetin he see? As he dey read am, I hate him now. I no like him again.

[00:05:26]Very irritating. I can't wait for him to crawl back to the hole where he come from for Calabar. He no dey satisfy me for bed. He no dey provide. He no dey do this. Complaint full of the text message. Now that day, this guy come know say marriage don't end for WHERE IT REMAINED. PRETEND SAY he no even see the message. He no even confront her. He know say he no get anything. He be like say he dey face if I confront her, this marriage go scatter patapata I will carry empty hands go back to Calabar.

[00:05:55]Make I just pretend. I go make her work.

[00:05:57]This one must work. I must no divorce. I must live together. Na so my guy dey work. They pretend say everything they well. They dey shout for her. They dey control her. THEY COOK. ONE DAY, NA SHE WAKE UP SAY HONEY, we need to talk. This country don't tire me.

[00:06:14]Don't you think it's a good idea for us to relocate?

[00:06:19]Na him ask her say how you want do this relocation? Na she tell am say you see I will first of all go. When I reach America, I will look for paper. You know say to get paper the easiest way na to do arranged marriage. Say okay, that's a good idea. Once I enter get paper, I will divorce the guy come marry you. Oh, sweetheart, YOU GET IDEA. SOMEBODY WEY I SEE MESSAGE WEY SUPPOSE no say marriage don't die say this woman want escape love she blind his eyes. Na so he kept everything secret from the family. Allow her to travel. You can go. I will support you. Na so they do do do.

[00:06:54]She jackpot. When she jackpot, she don't achieve the first step. Cannot live under the same roof. Now don't come out I don't come out. This guy said many things wey no fit do for her present life tattoo. When this woman dey curse say tattoo for wetin? Say this guy come dey do she come dey do tattoo. To continue the story, na so my guy say one day she tell am say I don't buy house for America. While she was planning to buy, she no tell am. He don't buy am finish. Call later no say my wife don't buy house. Because why he was with her in Nigeria, no gig nothing nothing.

[00:07:26]Immediately she left, gig started coming. That is the first for me spiritual sign to know this thing eh God no accept her. I no talk say man no fit struggle. Woman dey do well for under the same roof. Say that very week where we separate all something carry you come out. Something come enter.

[00:07:44]God is telling you you go you go cry later. Na so he get gigs. He dey work.

[00:07:49]He dey buy the money they send to her.

[00:07:51]They send to her. The woman no dey appreciate. Imagine say they send 200k to woman for America 100k. How much be that? 100 dollar. Or 30 dollar. 200 dollar. Person wey they see 3000 dollars, 5000 dollars. The woman no dey appreciate. Say na one day he now come 1 million. The woman call it out see am.

[00:08:08]Say na just one like thank you. I dey break am wey dey rush am because I dey go somewhere. Before you know it, na so for our house, she come get tenant for the house because she want say be renter with the person. Who be this person? Her man. He said he was not happy when he heard it. He later know no be say she tell am. Na later he come hear say that one they give her what to do for bed allegedly. To cut the story short, NA SO ONE DAY THE WOMAN say ah after almost seven years of staying in America, I will visit Nigeria.

[00:08:38]Na so Mr. Robot they appear. Hallelujah.

[00:08:41]Ah, opportunity for us to merge our path to reunite to do this. Na so he go hire two cars. Hire photographer to welcome her for airport. To go welcome her for airport like this the woman enter. To kiss for where? To hug? No hugging. See nothing nothing. Na so they drove from the airport to their house. As they reach house, no kissing, no hugging, nothing nothing. Na him call it out. He plan say he want do something. She snapped. Wetin be that? Forget that thing. One thing say marriage thing dey.

[00:09:08]He no know say the other person don't work out come out. Na so Oga go sleep for parlor. Living room. Woman dey bedroom.

[00:09:15]Say who generator? That time. You know say no sleep for America now. How to sleep for darkness again? Light no dey.

[00:09:20]Na so they burn fuel 24 hours. Say why you no say generator no pack am out. Na so generator blow say I don't tire oh.

[00:09:27]Cannot use me like this. I no like this type of work. For 24/7 wetin happen to Robot? You want kill me? Generator kill himself. Ah. One day oh, you no get money self. When I come borrow money whatever. Na so he come send 100k to this woman. I beg join money put. We take buy another generator because of you so that you go enjoy Nigeria small.

[00:09:44]She come later they talk say na she bought the generator indirectly. Na me dey feed am. Na me dey finance am. Upon all the money wey he dey send to her for America all this while, they struggle they send they do different small gifts.

[00:09:55]They dance for children party just to meet up, just to pursue say I like you.

[00:09:59]Whether the woman go change mind, go carry me go America, too. So, that life will also change for me. They try to prove his love for her.

[00:10:06]The woman no send one guy one caliber, one silly. Blessing the investment.

[00:10:11]Where she invest for her for 2 years. Around 2 years, about 2 years. When they stay with her for Lagos. Blessing now the woman they recover.

[00:10:21]Even while she was in Nigeria, her birthday, allegedly, God fall for that period. Did cake, everything. The woman no appreciate anything. I no even like the cake, whatever, whatever. No emotional connection, everything.

[00:10:32]The next thing, after some time, somebody tell her say you know say your wife, because now wife, still before her. Now they tell people, you know say your wife they marry her and cause scatter everything. My guy go dey cry.

[00:10:44]Go dey cry. All the imagination of moving from New York to Miami, from Miami to Chicago, Chicago to Florida.

[00:10:52]Oh, she go change mind. The prayer, everything. Oh, the years of investment.

[00:10:57]No baby, nothing, nothing. Long story, oh. Even while they were together, so, eh, no picking, oh.

[00:11:04]Somebody call him later tell her say you know say your wife, that time when I marry her so for Nigeria, they take piece. When I dey make person born, you know. And that time, she dey talk say I no get problem. He say he go many, many checkup. They no see anything. Oh guy, you dey complain. He say now caliber wey he be now they fire. The woman say you no dey fire twice a week, it's not enough. Every day now I want am. Say what killing it.

[00:11:25]>> [laughter] >> I be 35 years old. You are killing me.

[00:11:28]To call the long story short, hm, that's how marriage scatter. Marriage when don't end. [clears throat] While they were living together, he come later discover her after almost 80 years.

[00:11:39]Now he bring us come here. We have to know it is over. Look what it taught for us. Key messages to men. Please, oh, we are assuming that what he talk about talk now be true. When the woman later talk, it become toast like that. She never talk anything. The only thing what we see now this one.

[00:11:55]>> [music] >> So, now that's how.

[00:12:21]And I go remember am this time, okay?

[00:12:22]She exited and went for her life in US.

[00:12:26]When she discover say if I continue with this marriage, this man now use it, he go dey use me. Now she plan her escape. Now escape be that, oh.

[00:12:37]And the money for me, when Mr. Ekpo dey send to her, now the recovery for the one which he spend for her for Nigeria.

[00:12:46]So, so, for me, by all means, never anticipate to rise through a woman. I no talk say woman no wife no fit help a man, but no imagine her, no desire her, no think of her. Anything make her invest for her, she go remember me, forget that Avoid it by all means, men. Better invest yourself. Now men dey remember women. Women no dey remember men. Now one in 100 now him dey remember man. And if they remember you, their patience just hold this small. Before you know it, they go quick give up. His husband go come. You must be a provider.

[00:13:22]Anything go make you depend on your wife, forget that thing. By all means, avoid it. If I were him, make he use that money wey they send to her, they build himself, build his life. Investment. Now waiting you get go attract now my back.

[00:13:35]No be waiting they give her that time, when she no say you no get. And this guy get talent. Go and look at that video. I COMPARE WITH other videos on Honest Bunch. You go see traffic because the way where they present am. Carry another person where he get similar experience, make they interview am. People no go watch am because this guy is an orator.

[00:13:51]He's a big talk. Even the cry say if he give her money, he cry. He get talent.

[00:13:56]The flow, YOU GO SEE SAY THIS GUY, AH, the presentation. Make he forget all these things say, ah, they expect gigahertz.

[00:14:02]We gig. Carry camera, they tell stories.

[00:14:04]They tell people stories. You go make MORE MONEY. WHY THEY WAIT FOR 2,000 GIGAHERTZ? NO. THEY TELL PEOPLE STORIES.

[00:14:11]People want to listen to person like that. See talent. Even the cry say the way where they cry, they cry. Ah. Assume say the people they cry their cry, eh, for different contexts.

[00:14:21]Ah, people go watch am. The demonstration, the pattern, everything.

[00:14:24]The vibration, the suspension, the reminder, the moves, everything. Ah, the guy too much. Waiting just need talent management. That woman go regret say she leave am. See talent.

[00:14:36]Carry another person where he get similar experience to Honest Bunch. Now dumb moment. Now gift. They no dey learn am for school.

[00:14:43]OH, YOU GET [screaming] TALENT, OH.

[00:14:46]Forget America. America would dey push you save. Look now. Look collab. Forget woman, avoid it.

[00:14:54]Look inward. Waiting you get all the time. No waiting dey sell a woman body.

[00:14:58]But if woman say he want remember you, if he no remember, no never, never anticipate say one day she go remember me. They no dey remember. Next, since she was already gone, she began taking control of major decisions in the relationship. She pushed relocation from Calabar to Lagos.

[00:15:17]Now woman dey join man, I no be man dey join woman. She influenced her and lifestyle choices. She reduced respect in private interactions. He spoke to him in demeaning tones. Arguments became frequent behind the scene. She emotionally disconnected early. Signs to know say this woman don't go since. Why you no go just pack your load?

[00:15:40]Say now my enemy. No be me, oh. My enemy. What I detect am? Now I won't go buy something for Joshua. When you come back, you go dey look for me.

[00:15:50]He can't be pissed second time.

[00:15:52]You have self-respect, dignity. Ah, ah, he stopped engaging deeply in conversations. She became mentally distant from him. You no go know when woman no want you. Woman should want me, oh. Hey, want me pass me wanting you.

[00:16:06]She rejected physical closeness. She avoided ALL INTIMACY. [snorts] SHE REACTED NEGATIVELY to touch. SHE SEPARATED HER IDENTITY FROM THE RELATIONSHIP, TELLING you to delete everything, all our connection, pictures, photos, videos we all get together, after she don't even get her paper, eh?

[00:16:24]So, person no know.

[00:16:26]Turn yourself to a woman. No, no, no, no. She asked him to delete all their pictures and videos. She removed public association with him strategically. You know what I think? For me, before she go ask for this, me I don't delete am since now 2 years 2 years before this time because of America. You like go every minute, every time here. Follow Elon Musk SpaceX travel. Maybe they have they have it in the moon. And that And that place they rain me.

[00:16:52]She reduced communication efforts. She stopped returning calls. Conversations became short and dry. You no go know when they dey knock your wife. They knock am.

[00:17:01]She stopped investing in the relationship. She didn't send money or gifts. She showed little appreciation. I no blame the woman, oh, because the woman don't zap. Before he travel out of Nigeria, he don't hm.

[00:17:12]I go show you coincidentally you saw those things. The God of your father and your mother push you to see message say oh guy, and the reason why I no dey bring money for you for this house now because of say you go cry later. Come out.

[00:17:25]When she come out, immediately doors started coming. Oh, spiritual sensitivity. One guy once told me, eh, he dey hustle for one country, eh. They stay with one girlfriend. One girlfriend like that, oh. Stay for complete 6 months, nothing dey go on. Now one day the guy say him she travel go one neighbor country. Say the day where they get come out, now that day money enter. Now that day he block her, relocate, go another state for that country. Spiritual sensitivity.

[00:17:54]No be everything okay with your ear. You go sleep for dream. Now now you go dey cry FOR PUBLIC. SHE CONTINUED receiving support without GIVING BACK. SHE ACCEPTED MONEY REGULARLY. She complained about the amount. See, I am not saying if you are with your wife, you are married, this no be adult behavior. The woman dey support you, that is normal in life.

[00:18:14]But see everything they dabaru for like year and year, everything. You no dey respect you because now she dey provide.

[00:18:19]The day where she come come out, small this go dey happen.

[00:18:24]What person go tell am? Now she come out, no be you come out. SHE INTRODUCED ANOTHER MAN INTO OUR ENVIRONMENT, where they stay for her house. She live with a male flatmate. She did not consider his discomfort. Your husband no like this thing. She stayed away for long periods without URGENCY TO RECONNECT. YEARS PASSED WITHOUT PHYSICAL PRESENCE. No effort to close the gap. SHE RETURNED WITHOUT emotional connection. Waiting I dey do so?

[00:18:50]When the guy say I go know say this marriage don't die. No be that. Ah, ah, don't die since now. She did not hug, also excitement. She kept physical distance AT HOME. SHE REJECTED HIS EFFORTS OPENLY.

[00:19:03]SHE dismissed his birthday plans. She embarrassed him in front of others. She even confirmed her detachment verbally because she called this guy say make we talk.

[00:19:13]When she came to Nigeria, I say I'm no longer interested. That connection no dey there again. It be like say you be dumb. You no dey see am. As I say, it's not coming out of her mouth. No dey connected again. SHE SAID SHE was no longer emotionally attracted. She said she was no longer sexually attracted.

[00:19:29]So, she moved on publicly. She married another man. He fully exited the relationship. How Ekpo tried to prove his love when don't die. Now I want to see so. He kept communicating with her constantly, even when she was not responding. He called her regularly. He adjusted his sleep time to match her US schedule.

[00:19:49]He supported her financially throughout her stay abroad. HE SENT HER MONEY from his earnings. Little earnings or MEAGER EARNINGS. HE SOMETIMES SENT HALF of what he made, proving his love. He sent large amounts like 1 [snorts] million at a time. He accepted her decision to relocate to the United States. He did not block her move. He supported the plan for a better future. He could agree to arranged marriage just to get paper.

[00:20:13]He allowed her to marry another man for documentation. He defended and hid the arrangement from the family. He removed himself publicly to protect her new identity. He deleted their pictures. He deleted their videos. He removed evidence of their relationship online.

[00:20:28]He stayed loyal throughout the relationship. He did not pursue other women. He focused on the marriage. He continued investing emotionally despite distance. He kept trying to maintain the relationship. He did not withdraw even when communication reduced. He tolerated disrespect and emotional distance. He remained in the relationship after seeing negative messages. He did not walk away when signs appeared. He made efforts to reconnect physically when she returned. He went to the airport to receive her. He prepared for arrival with excitement. He made efforts to make her feel valued during her visit. He planned her birthday celebration. He bought food and organized activities. He tried to create a positive experience.

[00:21:09]He attempted to maintain intimacy in the relationship. He tried to show affection. He made efforts to reconnect physically, but she no longer loved him.

[00:21:18]He continued believing in the marriage despite evidence of breakdown. He held on to the relationship. He kept investing until the end only for him to enter crime mode. What is his for us is for us. Traveling to America is for us.

[00:21:31]Buying the house is for us. I will get you the the green I can't be justified.

[00:21:35]What did I do? But just look. I I I'm not perfect. But I'm not perfect. I I have my own shortcomings. And like I said, anybody anybody with you see hey I'm bent. Make you come with the shoe I wear. How can you stay with your wife? 4 years you didn't see her. You call her.

[00:21:47]4 days 5 days she will not pick and she will not call you back. And then you will not pick her up at the airport.

[00:21:50]After 4 days after 4 years she did not hug you. You won't take anything from this class. Never never anticipate desire imagine assistance from a woman.

[00:22:00]No.

[00:22:01]No.

[00:22:03]80% of the time your heart will break. It will pain you.

[00:22:08]He will relocate to Lagos and because he believes say anyhow my woman will carry me for me to stand.

[00:22:16]But you don't know say their patience get limit. But a woman can stay in the house 20 years.

[00:22:23]Man they provide for 1 year 2 years.

[00:22:27]You will see pepper. You will they pay for that assistance. You don't see her so what do you think? Drop a comment section. Don't forget to like, share, and subscribe to this channel. Thank you.