You Called Out Their BS + Now They’re Spiraling 👀💀

Added: 2026-05-14

[00:00:15]What's up, beautiful besties? Welcome in to Turning Tides Tarot. My name is Alicia. Thank you so very much for being here with me. Y'all are freaking incredible. Um, thanks for your patience. I know it's been a minute, but I'm super stoked to be back. Um, okay.

[00:00:34]Y'all are kind of I don't know if you're going to laugh or going to cry. I mean, I don't know. But I sat down to pull the reading. Okay. So, I got the moon, I've got the queen of swords, and I've got the six of wands in reverse. And right away, I was tuning into the vibe and I heard Mr. Big.

[00:00:50]Okay. So, um I don't know if spirit's talking about Mr. Big from like Sex in the City or like Mr. big I mean I don't know maybe that resonates with you but then I I also like it came to me remember that song in the early 90s I believe and it was like just to be the next to be with you. I mean I don't know but anyways I'm pretty sure that was by Mr. Big. Anyway, okay.

[00:01:16]Honestly, it doesn't matter because both energies actually fit this vibe right here. It definitely feels like there was someone who knew exactly how to keep you like emotionally invested, right, without ever fully giving you any kind of stability, right? Okay, stick with me. Like I feel like this person like always seemed to know like the right thing to say, just enough um giving you like just enough just enough attention.

[00:01:40]So I guess breadcrumbs, all that future talk and and uh maybe just enough like emotional availability to kind of keep you hanging on, right? Um and maybe even believing like that there was some kind of real potential here and and you saw the potential too, right? So you believed it. Um but somehow they always actually like avoided any actual commitment. Okay, now stick with me, right? Um after a while I feel like you know obviously they started assuming this dynamic was just going to continue forever. Okay? Like no matter how inconsistent they were or like how many mixed signals they were giving you, somehow you'd still be there emotionally available to them. And then something shifted, okay? Because the Queen of Swords, I mean, the Queen of Swords is my no BS queen, right? I feel like the second you stopped like romanticizing all of these excuses and actually started looking at the pattern here instead of the potential with this person, everything changed, right? And now I feel like this person can feel that you see straight through them, right? And their charm is definitely not landing the same anymore. I have to say that. Um the excuses aren't working for them. any kind of like confusion that used to keep you stuck is not working anymore with this person. And honestly, um I don't think they know how to handle it at all. So, I feel like you also called out their BS and like because the Queen of Swords isn't just going to sit there and take it. Like the Queen of Swords is going to dish it. Uh and the Queen of Swords is going to like call it like they see it, right? So, I do feel like you were calling out their breadcrumbming. You called out their BS.

[00:03:21]You called out You're like, "Why would I believe you, you know, after all this time? like I would have seen some kind of results by now like if you were super serious about this. So I feel like that's pretty much where we are. Okay.

[00:03:35]You know what I just heard like that Mr. Big comment could be like Mr. Big ego.

[00:03:40]Okay. But you know I don't want to like nail this down to one gender. This could have been a woman. All right. It could have been for some of um my men viewers out here. So either way um I'm going to ring the soundbull. We're going to call in spirit and we will get the tea, my friends. So, I want to find out first of all um you know what exactly did you finally see through? Like I I just want to I want to get the background details a little bit and then we'll we'll see what's up and why this is coming out today. Here we go.

[00:04:24]Okay, I'm calling on spirit with so much love and so much gratitude. I ask for divine guidance as I interpret these messages. May they help us all on our journey towards our highest and greatest good. I'm asking for love, joy, peace, abundance, and protection for myself, for you, and for all beings on the planet at this time. Thank you so very much, spirit. All right, spirit. Show me please. What exactly did our collective finally see through when it comes to this person?

[00:04:55]Okay. The page of pentacles.

[00:04:59]Let me just get something here. The six of swords.

[00:05:07]I feel like first of all like what you know what I just heard? I just heard they ain't [ __ ] Okay. So, um I feel like what they what they were always offering you or what they were promising you was always really small potatoes.

[00:05:21]Like, you know, it wasn't ever really anything of real substance. Um and I feel like yeah, they were just like their words and their actions were never really matching anyway. Okay, that's what I'm getting here. And even though what it was that they were promising, whether it was that like future faking or um saying, "Oh, next weekend we'll do this and that or yeah, I just have to wait till I get paycheck or something."

[00:05:47]Like I don't know why I'm getting these really silly little promises and they could never really back them up. Um but they were just like kind of saying these things to kind of keep you emotionally invested in them. Um and I'm going to get more details, but eventually you started like, "Okay, this isn't even worth my time. this isn't even worth my energy. I'm going to keep it pushing because not even the small stuff was like like what they were promising they weren't delivering on and it was not even like it was anything like big and special either. So it was like I don't know it just feels like it was a lot of this like I feel like they were keeping hope alive right without actually moving things forward in a real stable way. So, um I feel like you heard a lot of like, "Oh, soon or eventually. I I just need time. Like, I really care about you. Uh I've never felt this way before." But then, like nothing ever fully came into fruition with this person. And I think for a long time, like you really kept giving them the benefit of the doubt because there were real feelings here at times, you know, and and what made this really hard to fully like it really made this hard to fully see very clearly, okay? because they kept promising things and they just never delivered. But again, eventually you started noticing this person always seemed to want like access to you whenever they wanted.

[00:07:07]You know what I mean? Like I feel like they would call you up or hit you up or send you texts or show up when they needed you, but when you needed them, it was like crickets. They were nowhere to be found, right? And I feel like they were definitely avoiding the actual responsibility of like a real consistent relationship and like showing up for you when you needed them. So it it kind of gives me the ick at this point because it does I mean yeah they definitely kept you highly confused, right? Because they would say one thing and they would do something else completely. Um, and I just feel like everything like every time things maybe even got a little bit deeper emotionally, this person would pull back, right? This person would disappear. Um, they probably got super flaky and created a lot of confusion.

[00:07:53]Yeah. And then kept you hanging, right?

[00:07:57]I feel like they were like they created so much confusion with you. They kept you hanging. And basically, I don't know how it's like they would make all these promises and then they would throw the relationship right back into limbo.

[00:08:11]Okay. After they got what they needed from you. Okay. So, now we're at this point where you really stopped listening to those promises and really started paying attention to the pattern. Right. Okay.

[00:08:23]So, and I feel like you did call out their behavior. I'm not going to lie.

[00:08:26]You you had to call out their BS here with the Queen of Swords. Absolutely. Um because the six of wands in reverse is like, "Oh, it's not working for you anymore, bud." You know what I mean?

[00:08:37]Okay. So, how did they react? I want to know how they really reacted cuz six of wands in reverse, I mean, you called out their behavior for sure. I feel like you really did. So, how does this person react? Eight of Swords. First of all, whatever you said to them lives rentree in their mind. Like, it it it is on repeat. It's like a broken record. So, whatever you said hit a nerve for sure, right? And I don't feel like this person really even expected you to like call them out. I I really don't I don't feel like they expected you to call them out or cut them off. Okay. Now, I don't always jump to conclusions when I see the Ace of Wands, but a lot of times for me that's like um sexual energy, right?

[00:09:22]It's like the spark. It's very phallic if you look at it. Um and it doesn't matter, man, woman, whatever. Um, but in the reverse it's like you turn them down. They may have consistently like hit you up for like physical intimacy, let's say, sex, whatever. And then you shut them down cuz you're like, I'm not giving you anything. Like you're not getting you're not getting any piece of me. Like what are you talking about? You like won't even be there. Like you're not even there for me. What do I get from you? Like you know what I mean?

[00:09:48]Like this is ridiculous. So um they definitely I I feel like it was a shocker to them. I feel like you got really direct with them. Okay. and and they were not expecting you to call it out. And I I really don't feel like you were expecting or they were expecting you to cut them off, okay? Physically cut them off. Um, and for the most part, they this person was always feeling like they had all the time in the world to always like smooth things over with their charm, right? or if they just threw a little bit of flirty energy at you or like those breadcrumbs or even just a tin tiny like um little check-in like hey good morning like a good morning text or something. Um whatever their usual thing was. Uh they they didn't think that they would ever be busted by you essentially which obviously they underestimated you and your intelligence. Um, but yeah, they did not see this coming when you cut them off. And I do feel like you got really direct and like you weren't just like accepting any kind of like vague answers from them anymore. Like you started asking real questions. I feel like I not only did you Yeah. You're like, I don't even care how it is I feel about you or how strong that connection really feels because I do feel like obviously to you felt that connection.

[00:11:08]They felt the connection. Um, and it should have gone a a completely different way if this person wasn't over here playing those stupid games. They're getting their stupid prize, right? Um, so you were like, I don't care how it is I feel about you. I don't care if you're a soulmate. I don't care if you're my twin flame. I don't care if we've signed a freaking soul contract that's supposed to last a 100 lifetimes. You are not going to treat me like this. Right? And so, you started asking real questions.

[00:11:31]You started pointing out all the ways in which they were like inconsistent and hot and cold. um the disappearing acts, you know, you really I feel like you once you saw it clearly, they obviously started seeing it too, you know, like and and it's weigh it's been weighing heavily on them like ever since, right? it has been because I'm not sure if this person was just like incredibly emotionally immature or u maybe for some of you this person was manipulative and they were doing this on purpose. I I really don't know your person like in real life, right?

[00:12:13]I'm just reading the energy so you can let me know if what you feel about them, but um I feel like this person was at the very least very avoidant, right? So, um, I'm not even sure if some of them were even aware that they were doing this.

[00:12:30]I don't know. I don't know. I don't want to get into it. I'm not here to give this person excuses, okay? I'm just reading the vibe. Okay. What do we have?

[00:12:36]The eight of wands.

[00:12:41]Pardon me, y'all. Um, this person I'm getting that they would always run away from conflict like avoid those serious conversations, eye contact even for some of you like um trying to like basically ghost or disappear before they had to deal with any kind of like emotional consequences.

[00:13:00]That's what I'm seeing here. But I feel like this person is hiding from you right now.

[00:13:06]To be so for real, I feel like this person ran away and went and hid in a little cave somewhere where they were never to be found. I mean, once you started seeing this very very clearly and seeing the pattern and clocking it and calling them out, they like tucked tail and they ran. Okay. I feel like they were hiding from you at this point.

[00:13:24]Um because I feel like there's this deer caught in headlights moment like where they're like, "Oh my gosh, do you see me?" Or like, "Oh, you're calling me out." I don't know.

[00:13:34]There's a guilty feeling, too. and some embarrassment that I'm picking up on.

[00:13:37]That's why I was like, I'm not very willing to like pinpoint this person as a manipulator.

[00:13:45]Uh I feel like this person is just used to like getting away with things and you're like, "Not today. Not with me.

[00:13:53]I'm not the one." You know, and and I don't feel like anyone has ever really called them out for that or in that kind of way, right? Like I don't know. Have you like I and I just want you to be super for real with me. Like did you have that moment where their behavior just suddenly clicked for you? And then it's like you couldn't unsee the pattern from from that point forward, right? You couldn't unsee it. And I mean I if that's the case and this is your reading, I also want to know cuz your girl is nosy af. Uh what' you say? What' you say? What did you say to them? What did you say that made them tuck their tail and go run and hide and like be so super embarrassed?

[00:14:32]Okay, I'm curious. I do feel like they're hiding and avoiding you right now. So, let's find out why. Just actually, you know, I have to take a sip of water. All right, y'all. I really needed that. My mouth was getting so dry. Anyway, tmi. Um, why are they hiding? Why are they hiding or avoiding you right now? Oh, okay. I mean, yeah. I mean, it is because honestly, there's this like exposed vibe that I'm picking up. Like I said, that deer caught in headlights. um and not exposed like publicly humiliated necessarily, but like emotionally exposed here. Like they know you see through their performance now. And I feel like what's really throwing them off is that like your energy feels completely different now. I have to say you are less available cuz cuz what I see here with the six of pentacles and the ace of pentacles is like if you're if you're going to breadcrumb me like like you can't like I'm looking for the real deal. I'm not looking for breadcrumbs, right? Not I'm not looking for somebody who's emotionally immature or somebody who's like emotionally unavailable, you know.

[00:15:34]So, right now you're very much not impressed, you know. I feel like your whole vibe and the shift of your vibe after seeing them very clearly is totally throwing them off, right? Um you are a lot more calm. Um and I feel like you're a lot more detached. You're not impressed. Uh and you're not willing to chase or like make it better. It's like I'm not the one, right? That's what I'm getting. Like I'm not the one to like I gave you energy. I gave you my time. I gave you affection, effort. I gave you access to me and what did I get back?

[00:16:04]This situation has been highly one-sided, highly unfair. No, you know what I expect from you is something real, something honest, something open, like something, you know, and so I feel like you pulled all the way back here.

[00:16:17]And I feel like you're again, you're definitely not chasing this person. And they thought, you know, unfortunately for them, they thought they'd always be able to come back around eventually. and kind of like pick things back up with you. But now I feel like they can like they can feel that the distance is real between the two of you, you know. And um I got to say I do feel like it's hurting their ego a little bit here. Maybe even more, especially if you resonate with them like, oh, Mr. Big ego or like Mr. Big whatever. Um they had this like very high uh regard like about themselves.

[00:16:52]And it's not that it was like confidence. It was like I don't know because a person who has confidence is actually like awesome, right? Um but it was more ego than confidence. And I feel like you know you know what I'm saying.

[00:17:05]I feel like you're picking up what I'm putting down about this person. Um it was almost like false confidence or like inflated ego is what I was looking for.

[00:17:14]Thank you. Um yeah, I I feel like this person's really used to their charm like working for them. Yeah. But you're like, "It's not working. Not today." If you're not coming forward with some kind of real offer, then it is over. You know, and I feel like this person isn't used to being called out. This person's used to getting away with all of this inconsistency way longer than they should, right? And now that none of it I feel like none of it works on you anymore. They can feel like this version of who you you like this version of who you are now like does not tolerate this kind of BS, right? That that person who tolerated any of that breadcrumbming is mm- they're gone. Okay. Mm-m. Never again.

[00:18:00]You know, I feel like this is this the case where like maybe it took you a little bit to see through some like rosecolored glasses and that's okay. We go through what we go through to figure it out. But once you saw it, you couldn't unsee it with this person.

[00:18:12]Okay. So, I want to know that. And that's why they're hiding because they know that you'll never be able to see them. Like, you're not seeing them the same way. They don't know what to do.

[00:18:21]They're the charm that they laid on you, the breadcrumbs, all that stuff. Like, it's always worked for them. And that's what I'm trying to get around to saying here. It's always worked for them. I don't feel like anyone's called them out like you did. And so, now they're like running and hiding and avoiding. And like I'm I'm almost 100% guarantee that since you called this person out, you likely have not heard from them. Okay.

[00:18:43]So, I want to know what they're realizing now uh that this illusion is totally broken, right? I want to know what they're realizing now in their little hideyhole, licking their wounds, licking their trying to repair their ego. Like I cuz again what you said is living rentree in this person's brain right now. Like I want to know what they're realizing.

[00:19:08]Okay. The magician.

[00:19:11]You know what? With the magician, I feel like they're realizing the connection really had way more like long-term potential than they ever let themselves acknowledge.

[00:19:21]Like this really could have gone somewhere. Um, you know, it really could have been something and that's a total shame. You know, it really is. It's a total shame, especially with judgment.

[00:19:38]I feel like when you made that final call, it was like you you shut it down, right? You shut it down. You shut down the potential. But in fact, they're the ones that shut down the potential here by trying to continue to like string you along. Like I don't know why I'm getting this person thought that like creating distance made them look more powerful or like more desired somehow. Like I don't know why. Um but it is it is what it is.

[00:20:06]I feel like all all it really did when they were trying to create that distance and they weren't doing the follow through. Um all it did was really like slowly chip away at the trust between the two of you. I will say that. Um because it really feels like there's someone here that's realizing way too late that like trying to maintain that like upper hand cost them something very meaningful. And I feel like now they're sitting here realizing like those games.

[00:20:35]Yeah. Like first of all they lost control of this of the situation. They did. Okay. And and those games that they were playing were not as subtle and the mixed signals like weren't very clever.

[00:20:47]um well, not as clever as they thought anyway. And I feel like they're realizing you're not emotionally naive.

[00:20:54]Okay. And again, I feel like this is where they almost underestimated you because when you're in love with someone or you feel that connection very deeply, we tend to look at all the positive things and sometimes we ignore red flags and sometimes, you know, like we wear those rosecolored glasses, but once you took them off, you know, I mean, you're not naive, okay? You just gave them the benefit of the doubt. So, I feel like they're definitely going through this realization that and they they know deep down that if they ever wanted another chance here, they'd really have to show up very differently, okay? Because the old strategy is dead. It's over. It's done, you know. Um, and this brings us right back to the hermit and their little hidey-hole cave, okay?

[00:21:42]um where they are just kind of like I don't know again licking their wounds but they're also being shown very clearly by spirit their toxic tendencies and patterns in relationships you know but not only that you know what else I'm getting here I'm getting that you know how I said like you were likely the first person to like really call them on their BS I do feel like you're not the only one now I feel like other people are are seeing it very clearly because I feel like people have questions like where did you go or where did that person go like oh I really like them you know how come you're not speaking to them anymore what happened there like I feel like people are I feel like they're they're not just hiding from you with the hermit they're not just hiding from you especially with the devil I feel like they are actually being exposed at first I was like it's not publicly humiliated but maybe it's going that way because you know what? I feel like there's other people here who are starting to see through this person.

[00:22:49]There are other people in their life.

[00:22:51]Okay.

[00:22:52]But you know, you know what's most important is that they see their own toxicity. Not about it. It's not necessarily even about you or other people. It's about them because until they see it, you know, but I feel like you're the one that showed it to them or you shone a really bright light on it because again, like I said, what you said to them is is really living red in their head and it's like they're in this hidey-hole. They're in their little cave and they can't stop thinking about whatever it was that you've said to them and how you called them out on their BS because again, you were the first. I will say that. So, I mean, if you if you want to go a little deeper into this with me, I totally get it. I will I will get petty. I will I will get nosy, you know. No shame here. Um I do kind of want to see like I want to see what's going on. I want to know who else is starting to see through this person. I I I definitely want to know what's happening behind the scenes like for them like how they're feeling and everything behind the scenes. Um, I want to know if they're trying to like save face publicly what's being said, you know, and if they do eventually reach it like reach a point where they where they crack and they try to come back around to you, I want to know. I want to know.

[00:24:04]I want to know what happens. Um, but yeah, I mean, I don't feel like this person is definitely as unbothered as they're pretending to be or again, I don't even know if they're having to like pretend because they're hiding.

[00:24:15]Okay. Um, they've gone dark. They got it's like radio silence with this person. But I feel like there's more to the story here. So, I'm going to do that. For those of you who want to join me and and be so nosy with me, I do appreciate your energy exchange and and the support that you give to myself and the readings and the work I do. Y'all are amazing. But everybody here in our tribe is incredible. So, thank you for likes and sharing the tea and your comments and, you know, satisfying my curiosity out here in the tarot sphere in our community. So, thank y'all. Um, and thank you to everybody who's been here since the beginning, part of our tribe, OG, and also to everyone new who's been jumping on board, too. Y'all are great. So, I love you guys. I'll see you in the extended or in the next reading.

[00:25:04]Oh, shoot. Look, I didn't even look what was under the deck. It's the tower. I knew it. I knew it. I knew it. Things are blowing up. Okay. Okay, loves. I got my karma deck. I had I couldn't resist.

[00:25:14]And look, we got justice just as I said that. You cannot make this up. Okay, so we have justice in coming through the karma deck. All right. And and before we, you know, I did put I'm pretty sure I'm going to splice that little moment where I discovered the tower was sitting at the bottom of the deck because honestly, this is really letting me know here that this person's little strategy, you know, their little Mr. Big act, you know, with all the freaking games and the avoidance, the ego, like all of it starting to collapse, right? in real time for this person. Oh yeah, seven of swords. There it is. It's coming out.

[00:25:49]It's all coming out. Um yeah, I have to say I don't feel like you were the first person anymore like to actually notice these patterns, but I do feel like you were the first person brave enough to actually call it out, right? And now I do feel like other people are starting to connect the dots, right? So let's get nosy because I want to see what the fallout actually looks like now that you know the illusion has totally cracked here. Yep, there it is. Six of wands or sorry, six of cups. I always feel like that's going to be the six of wands, but six of cups, the fool, seven of swords.

[00:26:23]People are starting to see they cannot they can't hide behind the charm anymore. Okay, they really can't they can't hide behind the charm anymore.

[00:26:30]Seven of swords. Seven of swords is all about like yet lying, cheating, sneaking, playing games, all that kind of stuff, doing stuff that's shady and underhanded, but it always happens in broad daylight. And so that means like people clock it. Um they're definitely underestimating how visible their uh toxic toxicity, their toxic patterns.

[00:26:50]Yeah, the five of swords. Ooh, the seven of cups under the deck. Like I do feel this person, they they're starting to feel it.

[00:27:00]They're starting to see they're starting to be publicly humiliated by all of this. I got to say.