S21: Ep.223- A man who has an abundance, and one who doesn't...who is more likely to cheat??

Added: 2026-05-09

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[00:02:00]>> All right, so we have season 21. Can't get over that. Episode 223.

[00:02:07]Do you believe the man who has an abundance of sex or women would likely cheat than the man who doesn't get it like that or finally does get it for the first time? Yes. Would you like to state your name or remain anonymous?

[00:02:21]>> My name is Diana.

[00:02:23]>> Did Did you hear the topic when I read it out?

[00:02:25]>> Yes.

[00:02:26]>> Um so do you believe uh the man who has an abundance of sex or women would likely cheat than the man who doesn't?

[00:02:36]Um, so what I I believe it's not always about having um cheating with those two options. I think that not necessarily about if they have more abundance and or if they don't have any at all. I think it has to do with uh inner work healing and um you know going in and working on their uh childhood traumas and things like that that trigger you not to be disciplined. I believe that that's where it all starts as a man of sexual energy.

[00:03:08]Um, but if he's, you know, worked on himself, he will probably not cheat because he'll have discipline within himself and he'll he'll have self-worth and all that. And same goes for the man that just has it for the first time.

[00:03:24]They may have insecurities and things that they need to heal inside as well.

[00:03:29]So, they are capable of cheating as well. So, I don't know which one it would be as far as those two options.

[00:03:35]It's kind of more is which one did more of the inner work to have have more discipline and more self-worth and self-care of what they're truly trying to build. Is this um a relationship that they're just building or is this a relationship that they just want as another sexual encounter?

[00:03:56]>> That's a very good um answer.

[00:04:00]Yeah. Looking at it from different perspective.

[00:04:03]>> Yeah.

[00:04:03]>> Um but if you had to pick, who do you think?

[00:04:10]>> Um if I had to pick, um I mean the mo more likely to be the cheater. If if we're saying both men are, you know, equally not not uh you know, healed, um then it would probably be easier for the men that has more abundance uh in you know in women and you know more options um just because you know it would just come to him easily. Um so that would be I guess the choice but you know like I said it's it's not always about that. I I really I'm I really believe that it's all about how their uh self selfworth and self-discipline is.

[00:04:57]>> Mhm. So, I'm glad you mentioned sexual energy when it comes to like sex, right?

[00:05:03]Doesn't necessarily mean the act. So, it can be an abundance of sexual energy. M >> sexual energy definitely like some people have it more than others but that's also part of something that you know a lot of people lead with that they they go and they date and it's due to their sexual energy and they you know the first thing that they're looking for is sexual attraction. Um, I don't think that uh you can build uh I mean sometimes you get lucky and you can build a relationship uh you know that starts off at sex, but most of the time most relationships that are built uh primarily with sex end up being like situationships and they're not built on a solid foundation. You want to go deeper and get to know a person and their morals and their compatibility. Um so the sexual energy you know it's something like also has to be it comes from somewhere it comes from one of our traumas that that's like the only thing that you're you know going about sexual energy can be a good thing because that's something that we can create from but we know we need to know how to control it not control it but like kind of be disciplined and not give it away just to anyone. I I think it should be um more something of like having like more than just a sexual attraction. You want to have that sexual energy with someone that you feel safe with.

[00:06:33]>> Yeah. Yeah. I mean, you're you know, you're definitely talking from your lens. Um and I I like that you said um that it's not a good thing cuz I was going to like challenge that. Um because realistically like someone who has a high high sexual energy or an abundance, they have power um to heal.

[00:06:59]>> High sexual energy don't necessarily mean that it's going to lead to that activity or they're going to they're going to build off of that. um you know for a man that can be high levels of testosterone to uh to correlate that high masculine energy um high feminine energy in the woman. Um you know we'll get more in depth in that um but hold on one second. Sue, what do you think?

[00:07:29]Um, I was listening to what uh Diana was saying and and I was trying to find like the well I think that not that I think I was like hm would the the man who doesn't get it like that you know um would he be the one to cheat?

[00:07:46]And I was like and I thought about it and I agreed with what she said. If he doesn't get it like that then that maybe he's not comfortable with himself or he's too shy. So, I agreed that the man who has um more um opportunities would be the one to um to cheat most likely.

[00:08:04]>> And as far as the sexual energy, I'm you know, that's uh she makes a very good statement. You know, both men and women have that sexual energy. It depends on how how much of it they they like exude or how much of it they have. um is definitely something that you know people who have it know that they have it and it's something that they you know should be disciplined with and they don't not always are. Um and again I guess some a man who doesn't get it like that or finally does for the first time I guess he doesn't have that or doesn't know how to how to push it out or use it.

[00:08:44]>> Yeah. But when when Diana was saying that, right, people one one thing you said Sue was people have it know they have it. What Diana was saying about the unhealed and healed. So I agree with both of you.

[00:08:57]>> Um the person who's not healed is going to use it in a negative way.

[00:09:02]>> Mhm.

[00:09:03]>> You know what I'm saying? Like like um could be a seducer, right? They're going to use it in a negative way. um um manipulative way to hurt people what they want um weaponize that that um that sexual energy um stuff of that nature and just like this goes both ways females and males.

[00:09:24]>> Um the moment you do like you're healthy and you do have that or you're close to being that you you're close to being healed, you use it in a positive way.

[00:09:36]Like now now that you're close to healed or healed, >> everything you engage in, it's like an alchemist.

[00:09:43]>> Like you make it go, you elevate it, >> you know. But when you're toxic and you have it, everything you touch the opposite, you hurt it, >> you you make it toxic.

[00:09:54]>> Um, do you call her, do you know what an incel is?

[00:10:00]A >> incel? No, I do not. Um, Sue, do you >> I think I do. I know my kids have tried to tell me before. Is it is an insult just a man or can it be a woman? Sue, I I heard of it as is a man who doesn't It's almost like the one that you described over here, a man who doesn't get it like that.

[00:10:20]>> Yeah. So, >> does he hate women also?

[00:10:25]Um could be but the general basic uh you know definition is an incel is an involuntarily celibate man.

[00:10:36]>> Oh >> voluntarily celibate. Yeah. So when um >> so um you know they kind of like are awkward >> um pertaining to the opposite sex. Um and um they you know they don't like get along with the opposite sex you know um whereas like it's hard for them to connect.

[00:11:02]>> Mhm.

[00:11:03]>> You know so those are like incels. Um so do you believe women are attracted to men who other women are attracted to?

[00:11:14]>> Um so I do believe that that is a thing.

[00:11:18]Um, I've I've heard it a lot with my friends. Sometimes they don't like someone and then um they'll see them with someone else and then all of a sudden now he's starting to look hot to them.

[00:11:31]Um, I personally I'm not I'm not like that. But then again, the way I look at um, you know, a relationship or finding someone that I may think of going into a relationship with is a little bit different now. Um, and it's more like I like I'm I'm into someone's mind and you know and how we connect. And of course, you know, there's always the the first thing is the the attraction, but for me, it's not always a physical thing. I would need to get to know them. So, I don't care if it would be that he was with someone else and it made him look better because that's what happens sometimes. A a guy may have a beautiful like a woman on his side as they say like arm candy and so it makes him look better and it gives him more status, right?

[00:12:20]>> That's true.

[00:12:20]>> Yeah.

[00:12:21]>> Yeah.

[00:12:23]>> Um what do you think?

[00:12:24]>> They've even made movies about it, >> right?

[00:12:28]>> You know what I mean? They even like uh some movies have even turned like the nerdy guy into like the cool guy. And now because he's changed like his status or whatever, you know, people want to go towards him like that.

[00:12:40]>> So what about you?

[00:12:41]>> Um I do believe that um not obviously not all women because I'm not like that either. Um but they're I definitely I think women who are have a lot of trauma and don't know themselves and who are not even close to being on their journey are more like that.

[00:13:00]>> So um >> it's almost like envious. Sorry, I didn't mean to cut you off, but it's like um you know that's that saying you want what you can't have or you you want what somebody else has. now.

[00:13:10]>> M so I think it's um I think it's all women you know normally like I I do what you do Sue I kind of differentiate but I think it's all women you know it doesn't matter traditional feminine masculine independent boss babe um modern healed unhealed I think it's all women um natural follower in follower instinct uh women have and um it makes them comfortable when they see other women comfortable. So, I'm going to like kind of play an activity real quick with the both of you ladies. U call her first. If I was inviting you to a party, right, and I said, um, "Hey, it's um me and my boy, we have this party we're throwing.

[00:13:57]We rented out this venue. Um, it's um party for a book release party. It's a movie or or a music video, right?" And I'm like, um, it's me and like 10 of my guys, but there's going to be two girls there. You're you're going to be the third. All right, that's one that's one scenario. The flip side is reverse. It's me and my boy and um there's going to be like 10 girls there.

[00:14:31]Where where are you going to lean towards more?

[00:14:35]I mean, I don't I wouldn't look at it at uh >> No, no, no, no, no. Hold on, hold on.

[00:14:40]Don't Don't look at it anyway. Just Just think Just think quickly like a snap of a finger.

[00:14:45]>> I mean, I don't I wouldn't So, normally when I get asked to go somewhere, I kind of don't usually ask, you know, who's going. So, it's kind of like if we're just friends and you're inviting me to this, um >> I feel comfortable going because you're inviting me and I know you.

[00:15:02]>> Okay. So, let me make it a little bit more that that's true. Let me make it a little bit more um surprising. You actually get there.

[00:15:10]>> You actually get there and now you get to observe. So So you don't ask and I don't mention. You get there now and now you see 10 guys, two girls or you see two guys, 10 girls.

[00:15:28]Um >> where do you feel more comfortable?

[00:15:33]Well, I I guess I guess you I maybe I'd feel more comfortable with more girls around. I guess um just because you know it also depends on the guys uh if they are >> like you know just chill guys like respectful this and that. I mean because then I would be comfortable either way.

[00:15:52]But if it's kind of like, you know, these are some rowdy guys, you know, and you know, they are not making you feel comfortable, then yes, I would probably feel more comfortable around uh having more girls around than than having more guys.

[00:16:05]>> Um Sue, >> I agree. If it's if it's about comfortability, um I would choose the the party with more girls. And the reason is um it's it's the girls that's there, but for you ladies and it's it's subconscious, you see um some type of validation and and and confirmation about the guys because if if you're seeing more girls than guys, you're you're going to be comfortable there. Not just because of the same sex that you're seeing. You're seeing that if these girls were here, then these guys must be cool.

[00:16:47]>> Well, >> they're not they're not in they're not incels or or awkward.

[00:16:53]>> Yeah. In my case, it was more like uh safety reasons, not really for the other thing because um just because I've been around groups of guys and sometimes when a lot of guys get together and if some of them are not on, you know, like they're on their toxic, you know, path or whatever, they'll egg on the other guys and then you'll feel they'll make the girls feel uncomfortable. And that's where Ira's getting at.

[00:17:19]>> And and Deanna, it's along the same lines. Um because it's safety too, that falls on the line of like comfort. So when you see a man who gets along with the opposite sex very very well, those women are confirming to you that it's safe there.

[00:17:40]>> He's not a weirdo.

[00:17:42]>> Right. Right.

[00:17:43]>> Right.

[00:17:44]>> You know what I'm saying? So same thing, Sue. Right.

[00:17:48]>> Yeah.

[00:17:48]>> Like you're going to think like you're not even going to think of anything sexual.

[00:17:53]You're going to think more so like, "Oh, it's safe there. Look at all those girls and those few guys." Or it could just be one guy. It could be me myself cuz I'm the only guy here and maybe like five girls. We're on a boat, right? And we're all having a good time or whatever. Vide videographers or whatever. They're just all having a good time. You're you're going to be like, "Oh, that guy must be cool cuz those girls look like they're happy. either having fun, it's safe there. If you were seeing it, if you were in the presence, a physical presence of that man too, being the six girl or one of the five, you might think the same thing, you know? So, I think like, yeah, it's safety, but I think it's also coming down to, oh, that guy's not an insult. He's not weird. He's cuz those women are validating it. Even if you're not, you didn't talk to them.

[00:18:50]like now you're starting to make friends with them. Oh, who are you? What's your name? You know, but the actual like visual aspect of it. Um, and you guys could correct me if I'm wrong, right?

[00:19:02]Cuz y'all y'all are the ladies, right?

[00:19:04]>> Yeah. I'm not going to tell I'm not going to tell y'all how y'all feel, >> but >> you would see that in regards to that and probably say, "Oh, okay. Like the safety is there. The guy's not weird.

[00:19:17]They're not running away." All right.

[00:19:20]Right. Then he's the chill guy. Yes. Um I could see that. I see your point now.

[00:19:25]I just see it just came off a little different in the beginning because I'm like, you know, the like um as far as like validating that we would like them, but I thought you meant like as far as like uh in a sexual way or something like that.

[00:19:38]>> But I do see your point. Yeah.

[00:19:40]>> Okay. Um let me see.

[00:19:46]What does a man have to like have or do to have an abundance of sex or women >> like characteristic? Do you mean like like character trait?

[00:19:58]>> Yeah, this is this is for her. Yeah.

[00:19:59]>> No, no, no, I know. I'm just trying to clear it up.

[00:20:01]>> It does it doesn't matter. It could be internal, intangible, it could be tangible.

[00:20:05]>> Okay. Well, I mean, there's many ways I think that you can uh have an abundance of women. Um, I mean, manipulation is one of them, you know, kind of that that happens a lot. Um, some men just kind of um do their masking and and pretend to be something that they're not, but that's their mask and and they they, you know, make it seem like they have, you know, everything together and that they're this like uh likable guy. Um, but then there's also men that just have high vibrations and they're just like, you know, like very positive and their energy just feels nice to be around. They attract a lot of women as well. Um, so it can be either or either, you know, someone that's just pretending, the pretender, right, or the guy that actually has that great energy.

[00:21:01]And they they both can have a lot of uh women in in their um in their presence or you know trying to be in their presence.

[00:21:12]>> That's true.

[00:21:12]>> Yeah. See, I like to bring a lot of um I'm just going to take a pause real quick. I like to bring a lot of guests on the show that are mature >> that mature thinking um like like her because if you notice, she didn't mention anything about money. She didn't mention anything about great lover.

[00:21:32]>> You know, she didn't mention those things. And this is where we're like the modern era is losing touch.

[00:21:39]>> Yeah.

[00:21:39]>> Because I've talked to um a couple of young ladies about this topic and right away they mention one or two things.

[00:21:47]>> Oh, he's probably paying all their bills or he's good in bed. I'm like, so nothing else.

[00:21:54]>> Nothing in between. Right. But >> but usually like for instance like the the baker or whatever, he's going to pretend he has all this money and you know just showboat all that too. So it kind of is involved in there.

[00:22:06]>> That's true.

[00:22:07]>> Um you know and and the positive guy may have money too, but he may not like put it out there like that because he's just kind of just all about the vibes and you know not trying to just buy people. But the the pretender will try to buy people, right? And it's kind of I I could see where the girls now they think that because they just see the the surface of it. They don't look the deeper, you know, deeper part of it.

[00:22:33]>> How many guys have you met that go off the vibes and connection?

[00:22:37]>> Um, very few. That's actually uh that's very few. Yeah. I mean, for for the most part, most guys think that they have to be like this, >> you know, pretender guy and show money because that's how the world has has become.

[00:22:53]Yep, that's true.

[00:22:54]>> So, Sue, Sue, >> um, you know what I liked what she said?

[00:22:58]She didn't just say, "Well, he has to have a great sense of humor. He has to have, you know, treat people nice."

[00:23:03]>> She flipped it around and said that, you know, user and abuser or whatever, he can do it with manipulation.

[00:23:10]>> Cuz instantly when you said it, I was like, "Well, he, you know, how he treats people that could get, you know, >> and she turned it around." So, I like that. I like that you brought out even which is good because we want to have you know young ladies who are watching the the podcast to be aware that you know that there's all types of people out there. So um definitely I'm going to write off of what Diana said. Um, but I also believe a man's uh character and how he holds himself can get him a lot of a lot of women.

[00:23:47]>> Um, okay.

[00:23:51]>> Oh, yeah. We are the experts. We are the women.

[00:23:54]>> Yeah. Yeah. Um, let me see. You're right. You're right.

[00:24:00]I think um a guy that that has that he has to have a lot of a lot of intangible values >> like intangible values like Sue you mentioned character.

[00:24:15]>> Mhm.

[00:24:16]>> Um because I think um what Diana was saying with that manipulation, well that's character too.

[00:24:23]>> That doesn't have character. He doesn't have character actually. Um but I think a lot of what she was saying with like manipulation and um you know the toxic aspect um even pretending to have money eventually those things will be exposed.

[00:24:38]>> Yeah.

[00:24:38]>> You know a lot of women um who are using their intuition correctly they do better jobs than the FBI.

[00:24:46]>> Oh yeah.

[00:24:47]>> So like eventually those things you know they'll catch wind of it right. So that's one the the character right that is something that is like um going to be able to like elevate others you know change people's lives. So they'll see that consistency in a positive aspect >> and um vibe off that way more than the material.

[00:25:22]>> You know what I'm saying? And um even the the phoniness of like the pretending and stuff like that, the manipulation.

[00:25:29]Um, so, um, I think that he has to have like, um, a lot of high value intangibles, you know, for him to be able to have that. So, which guy would you take? Um, and you can't say neither cuz I feel like you would.

[00:25:48]Um, you must pick one. The Incel or the Casanova, Don Juan, Ladies Man, Romeo, Bad Boy, or Amazing Seducer. So, you have to pick one. Which one would it be?

[00:26:00]>> Well, that's really tough.

[00:26:02]>> Yes. And I make it tough so you can think.

[00:26:04]>> I know. Well, I mean, the thing is the incelss can be like when they're weird sometimes there there's just like different levels of weird. So, that kind of scares me sometimes.

[00:26:18]>> That's true.

[00:26:20]So, I I guess I would have to say the Kasanova, but you know, I don't know if I'd stay with them depending if like, you know, usually I can tell within one or two days if you know what they're about.

[00:26:33]>> No, it's it's cool. It's not really about um like longevity. I just wanted to know which one that you would you would pick.

[00:26:40]>> Um good answer, though. I I expected that now that I forced you to pick one.

[00:26:46]I kind of I kind of knew you were gonna go with the second suit.

[00:26:50]>> I would I would go with the Kasanova, too. I don't even got to think about it.

[00:26:54]>> Okay. Um, let me see.

[00:27:04]Do you think a man who has more has more sexual discipline or he just has more and can get it whenever?

[00:27:13]>> Has more?

[00:27:14]>> Like he had like who has more of like women or uh an abundance of sex or sexual energy? Do you think he has sexual discipline where if if we pick that he might be prone to not cheating easily?

[00:27:36]Um do you think it's because it's readily available to him? Um, or is it because he has sexual discipline?

[00:27:48]>> Um, it it can be either, but um I mean if it would be his choice really like if he's if he has plenty of it, he has control of pretty much who he gives it to. I mean, if he if he's a man of like good character or like he's, you know, has a lot of uh self-worth and all that and he wants and he wants to be picky, he has the choice to do so and then that that would bring him a better quality person into his life. But if you know if he chose to just you know take his sexual energy and you know just because he can get it with anyone and just you know take it that would be on him. But um I mean it would really be up to what his morals are and what his purpose right now in life is. Like what is he trying to do right now? Is he just having fun or is he actually um you know at the time in his life that he's trying to build a better life or you know working on himself?

[00:28:49]>> What she's mentioning is an anomaly.

[00:28:53]>> Like it's so funny when she mentions this stuff like I I agree but it's just an anomaly.

[00:28:59]>> Like it's it's it's it's very rare to find a guy that's really good at that but also >> you're right.

[00:29:07]also is going to be that good that good man where he cares about connection and cares about character and brings those good values and >> it's very few out there I know but I mean I guess most men would you know just take it if they can get it I mean you know if it's easy for them but you know some men that are focused on their you know on on building their career may not want that distraction of just some random person because sometimes those kind of things um you know they interfere in your focus. So it's like >> it's like uh like a man that's really like you know working on making his millions or whatever he's going to want somebody that's solid by his side. He's not going to want these little random people that are just going to want to take from him or just affect him you know in his work life because you know that can also interfere in your growth >> financially and and like um physically mentally and all that.

[00:30:06]So >> that's true.

[00:30:07]>> So what do you think >> maturity and like because I think okay so a guy who has that he has that he picks up on it from young. So obviously a young adolescent guy you know teenager he's going to want to just you know fling it around and use it and see can I bag her? Can I get her?

[00:30:26]>> But once you know sometimes that kind of gets old and boring if you can just keep bagging it and you never really have an issue. it kind of gets like it's almost like redundant like routine, you know what I mean? So, I think that as a a young guy matures and if he's had it like that like most of his life by the time, you know, I think that's going to make maybe not deter, but it'll make him be like, well, it's just like if you know what's special about her, let me get to let me get to know her. You know what I mean?

[00:30:56]>> So, I don't I don't think the man who has more has more uh sexual discipline.

[00:31:02]There's there's not that much context there that's putting that stamp on, oh, he would have sexual discipline because like if he has it available to him, right, does that count?

[00:31:18]If he goes to a nude bar all the time, does that count?

[00:31:26]like if if it's around him all the time, right? And he has that, does it count that he has it? Now, you have to really test it when it is there, like when he's at the nude bar and he walks straight to the bar to order his drink.

[00:31:43]when he's around. Um I'm going to get into the next one, but maybe when uh when your best friend is going at your man >> and and and and she's like, "Oh, don't don't say nothing.

[00:31:58]Don't say nothing." That that's when it's tested the most. So that's that's what I wanted y'all ladies to kind of get at. Like does he when he has more of it >> is it is he does he does that mean also the sexual discipline come into play >> or is it like cuz there's no there's no real context there. No, there's not.

[00:32:16]But, you know, not Yeah.

[00:32:18]>> I think if it's readily available to him on his own, he doesn't have to pay or or you know, go on, you know, you know what I mean? I think he will have more sexual discipline because it's easy for him.

[00:32:29]Now, a man who goes to the to the, you know, to the strip club and he's going to go and and pay for it. That's all that also counts because he doesn't get it. He has to pay for it. You know what I mean?

[00:32:39]>> I don't I don't think >> he's not going to have I don't think I don't think he does. I don't think it does because remember the context is not there. So I I I guess you guys are saying your perspective. My perspective is when I add more context, you don't even know if that guy's a sex addict.

[00:32:56]>> That's true.

[00:32:57]>> He wanting a drink.

[00:32:58]>> You don't know if he's like like a porn addict. You don't know if he's got that trauma he didn't heal from. And it's like it's a double whammy. It's available to him. It's around. And he doesn't have sexual discipline. So, it's not even just him being able to beat it because we adding more context to I can even throw in there he dominates in that regard. He doesn't get dominated.

[00:33:25]>> So, if he does if he I if he gets dominated then most likely he won't have it. He'll just go to whoever. Oh, the only fans is twerking. That would be really good in the bed. the only the person that doing this on on online. Oh, she really do.

[00:33:44]She's playing with the cucumber. That's not what you do with it.

[00:33:47]>> That's not what you do with it. You supposed to eat it now. Put in your mouth that way. You know what I'm saying? So, if he's really dominating in there, that is where I'm going to say, "Yeah, he's going to have it." Because it being thrown at him is going to be like, "What? [ __ ] could be trash." Like, I I don't know. I'm the one that dominates in that regard. So I could I could choose. I I don't have to be a slave to it. But if he doesn't and it's also readily available to him and it's all around and you got abundance, that doesn't necessarily mean he's going to be disciplined.

[00:34:21]>> That's true.

[00:34:21]>> So throwing more context in there >> is that cuz I'm I'm a technical beast.

[00:34:27]So, I I always look at, but if we're just stating it in in regards to just, you know, black and white or whatever, >> you know, I guess I see how y'all looking at it. You know what I'm saying?

[00:34:38]Like, if he got it like that, of course he does.

[00:34:41]>> When you throw a wrench in there, it's like, hm, now you rethink.

[00:34:45]>> That's true.

[00:34:46]>> Um, let me see. Uh, do you think the man who gets it for the first time and enjoys it and the man who has an abundance Um, do you think you'll be able to trust that man around women more? Like either or your mom, your best friends, your little nieces, your co-workers, strangers, and all these are females.

[00:35:13]Caller goes first. So the man who can gets it for the first time and enjoys it, who has an abund or or who or who has an abundance, whi which one are you going to be um >> like comfortable >> comfortable >> leaving >> leaving around >> those type of women?

[00:35:32]>> Well, I mean on the out on the surface level, it would probably be the one that doesn't uh get it in abundance, but we don't really know his background. Yeah.

[00:35:43]the contact because it could it could go either way if we if we had some more like you know if he has uh you know any more issues like he was just not at his best right now that's why he's not in abundance and like you know will he try for more because now he feels confident you know I don't know you know just there's just so much stuff we can add to it but yes in the simple form if we're just looking at it from that um you would think that it would be the one that doesn't have it in abundance What do you think?

[00:36:15]>> Um, instinctively I would have said that as well, >> which is weird. Yeah. Who doesn't?

[00:36:21]>> Okay.

[00:36:22]>> Because >> right because of the experience and I would just without knowing any like this is me making something up in my head.

[00:36:30]Why is he inexperienced? He must not be comfortable. He's shy. You know, something like that.

[00:36:35]>> Whereas the other guy has experience, but we don't know. Can he control his urges? You know what I mean? And will he >> see I get it now. That's why that's why I saw those memes in the past when um you know like those toxic girls would be like oh you know you you invited me to this restaurant. How many of your girlfriends you bring here? And you're you're doing this. Oh your your bed is kind of dented. How many girls you bring? Like it makes sense now because if guess if he has an abundance and he's really good at it, >> she not gonna trust him.

[00:37:13]>> Oh, he's he's really good at this. A lot of men are not. H how many hoes you got?

[00:37:17]>> So it makes sense now. I never got it.

[00:37:20]Now that y'all ladies are saying it, it makes sense. Me seeing those memes in the past, I'm like, these chicks are crazy.

[00:37:26]>> You know what I find interesting? that her and I have for the most part been on the same wavelength without even knowing each other.

[00:37:34]>> Like which room would you be in? The one with the women >> and instantly it was a safety reason not for nothing else. Who would you?

[00:37:42]Meanwhile though, we think that the man that you know without knowing the background story or whatever that has abundance will be able to control himself more in a certain situation because if you involve our family members now to be with either the man who has an abundance of sex that he can have or the guy who doesn't have it, we'll go with the guy who doesn't.

[00:38:02]>> You know what I think?

[00:38:03]>> That's weird.

[00:38:04]>> You know what I think too? Um, you know what I think too is because um, like before the guests come on the show um, audience, we interview them. Um, so I was talking to her. She said she's a Pisces.

[00:38:18]>> No way. When's your birthday?

[00:38:20]>> March 15th.

[00:38:21]>> Shut your face. I'm March 14th.

[00:38:24]>> Oh my gosh. That's my niece.

[00:38:25]>> Another reason.

[00:38:27]>> Yeah.

[00:38:27]>> We're super smart and we know all the right answers, >> right? We're very intuitive, too. And >> Very intuitive.

[00:38:33]>> Yeah. And even even during my, you know, our toxic time, I think we still had intuition.

[00:38:39]I was Oh, okay. She jumped it because I was about to say when you guys are healed, you're intuitive.

[00:38:44]>> There you go.

[00:38:45]>> You get more clear as you get healed.

[00:38:48]But you are intuitive even with your toxic stage, but you just don't listen to it.

[00:38:53]>> Exactly.

[00:38:54]>> Um, so that was all my questions. Um, so this part of the segment we do like final thoughts you normally like final thoughts could be anything. If you're promoting your business and you want to give your social media handles, if you want to give food for thought, um, you know, you want people listening out there, you know, um, whatever, whatever you want to say is like your time right now.

[00:39:23]>> Really have anything.

[00:39:26]>> Okay. Um because like I don't have a business out there yet. I'm uh I am a certified Reiki healer, but I'm not doing it for money at the moment. Um I I have helped out friends and family a little bit. Um, and it pretty much just I've been through um a big healing journey for about nine years and um took a little break and uh I had a boyfriend that triggered me into go in into a deeper dive. Uh so this past little bit more than a year and a half, I have been doing deep deep work on myself and everything. So, I've been celibate and um >> Good for you.

[00:40:12]>> Yeah. And it's just been like working on me and and it's just life has been different. Um I see things differently and clearer. I stopped drinking. Um not that I drank a lot, but I did socially drink, but I decided to stop drinking. I And I feel like it's even cleared up even more how I see life. And >> Wow, that's awesome.

[00:40:34]>> Yeah. So, I've been able to I can go to the bars and hang out with my friends and be sober and still have fun.

[00:40:40]>> That's great. That's awesome. Good for you.

[00:40:42]>> That's pretty much the where I'm at is that I am um just continuing to do doing the healing work and I do have a Tik Tok that I I put it out uh kind of just something to people to resonate with.

[00:40:54]Not that I'm actually uh putting anything like specific out there. Just little thoughts that come daily that maybe inspire someone to kind of, you know, keep going or just like that other people have gone through it as well. and just not not even me speaking, just maybe I match up the music with like a little video and just, you know, I feel like I've grown a lot since I started that page, but that that a lot of things on TikTok since 2020 um helped me get through, you know, all the healing that I've done. So, I just wanted to kind of give back.

[00:41:32]>> So, do what's your can you do you want to give us your Tik Tok handle or >> Sure. It's um Yeah, I can give it. Um it is uh they have like a double name like it's atthe period layers period of period day and it's called healing whisper is what my my page is called. So I don't know which one they would find it through. I I'm not really I guess I'm not that techsavvy but I do have like all the social media.

[00:42:04]Yeah, you could send it to us and then we'll we'll put it up.

[00:42:08]>> Okay.

[00:42:08]>> Yeah. No problem.

[00:42:10]>> Well, um thank you for uh being a guest.

[00:42:14]>> Um >> you had some great answers. You think more in depth, not at surface level.

[00:42:20]Mhm.

[00:42:21]>> Um, >> but I think if we bring you back next time, we're going to we'll throw more context >> in those things and then kind of >> and then he'll really get you where you >> then he'll really dig in deep. Huh.

[00:42:34]>> You see that's I've been his business partner for a while. I know how his that evil genius mind works.

[00:42:40]>> Yeah.

[00:42:41]>> Oh, that's awesome. So, it's good that you guys are both uh Pisces and Scorpio.

[00:42:46]They say they do work well together. and cancer. But there's no cancer there.

[00:42:50]>> Yeah.

[00:42:50]>> Water signs. Yeah.

[00:42:52]>> All right. Um >> thank you so much for joining us.

[00:42:57]>> You have really awesome >> uh ideas and views.

[00:43:01]>> Oh, great. Thank you so much. It was a pleasure. And um speak to you next time.

[00:43:06]>> All right. Take care.

[00:43:07]>> Okay. Thank you. Bye. Bye.

[00:43:09]>> Okay.

[00:43:10]>> She was nice.

[00:43:12]>> My final thoughts are going to be thanking her for being on the show.

[00:43:16]>> Oh. Um cuz I didn't prepare. Do you believe the man who has an abundance of sex or women would likely cheat than the man who doesn't get it like that? Oh yeah. No, I'm going to double down on what I said. I feel like um a man who has an abundance of women at his god, this sounds so awful. At his disposal. I didn't mean to say it like that. At his I can call at his fingertips. Um, I think with maturity and just like I said before, it's it almost becomes redundant. I I think that they would um not be the one to cheat likely and the guy who doesn't get it all the time.

[00:43:59]>> Yeah. Because we're not Yeah. Because we're not adding like context to >> Right. So on that on that one. Yeah.

[00:44:06]>> Mhm.

[00:44:06]>> Because of that.

[00:44:08]>> Yeah. Imagine like um like a obese person. They're they're not just obese because of food that that's around them.

[00:44:17]>> Like they they get some type of craving.

[00:44:20]It don't necessarily mean because they're they eat a lot or whatever it is that >> they have discipline.

[00:44:27]>> Yeah.

[00:44:27]>> You know what I'm saying? Um so I was going to ask you ladies about like what gender practices celibacy more, but I already know the answer. It would be it would have been a rhetorical question.

[00:44:38]So she even said she is practicing that.

[00:44:42]So women are more inclined to practicing more celibacy than men. Remember that's why there's a term for males about the incel, right? Um, so women are more inclined because of a lot of the things she was saying in the show pertaining to um vibrations >> uh attraction specifically physical um connection values and stuff like that.

[00:45:12]So if women like her who are celibate, they they connect through sex, >> you know, so they haven't found what they're looking for yet. That's why they're celibate and they're single. So that that's common, right? Um for someone that's celibate who has those values. Like when you hear of women being celibate, it like automatically like all those things click in my head.

[00:45:39]M >> may not be like the average modern guy.

[00:45:42]It will click. He might shame them or her for that, but he's not looking in depth. It's a light bulb in my head immediately. And then I already assume then I'll get the answers by asking why.

[00:45:55]>> And then most of the time they'll confirm or cooperate my vision or my mindset towards it.

[00:46:04]>> You know what I'm saying? Or what I was thinking. So women, you know, was what we'll say. Even statistics will say most women um because remember that's voluntary.

[00:46:17]>> The incel is involuntary because if they could they would, right? They got it.

[00:46:23]The voluntary ones got it, but remember they want more so boom boom boom and this and that.

[00:46:28]>> So that's more of like discipline, >> sexual discipline, too. So what I wanted to say in my final thoughts, I'll let you go first and then um >> I did already. I went >> okay so yes we want to appreciate her coming on um we might bring her back depending on schedule and stuff like that you know topics and whatnot I believe at the end of the day any woman like I said earlier any woman will pick the man who has an abundance of sex abundance of sexual energy abundance of women um it doesn't matter who now we're We're not mentioning longevity. We're not mentioning if it's going to work out. We're mentioning initially you're going right or you're going left. Left is the complete opposite. Left is the incel. Left is the weirdo. Whatever it is, right? And in order for a reason why the women will pick the abundance is they're not specifically looking at the fact that they got a lot. Women think more in depth. Remember, they use their brain efficiently. Back in the day, they had no choice. That's how they got away from the saber-tooth tigers.

[00:47:44]They know how to manipulate more, right?

[00:47:46]So, they use their brain more efficiently. So, they think things through. Even when they're going to cheat, it's all planned out.

[00:47:54]They think things through. Now, now I'm not saying all women um do that for pertaining to that specific regard of cheating, but they have the ability to the with the calculation of the mindset.

[00:48:07]They have the ability to. So, because of that, they're not actually looking at the tangible or the physical beings, right? Or the they're looking more of the intangible. The women are thinking more in depth of how did he get there?

[00:48:25]You see, that's how they always think of it. And if you don't think of it consciously, I bet you you think of it subconsciously.

[00:48:31]Because if you're thinking, "Wow, this dude got magic." You're not going to You're going to be thinking, "Why?"

[00:48:37]You're going to be thinking, "How did he get there? What does he have? He got the sauce."

[00:48:42]You're going to be thinking, "There's some type of substance." Um, you're going to be looking at some type of value.

[00:48:49]You're going to be looking at style.

[00:48:52]Maybe how he strokes the woman's mind.

[00:48:54]Maybe he's he he got um what this new generation would say Riz, but we say game.

[00:49:00]>> Mhm.

[00:49:00]>> You know what I'm saying? So he got game. He's a good talker. Um he has that energy. Uh word of mouth. Word of mouth.

[00:49:09]We talked about the scenario earlier.

[00:49:10]Other women, you're seeing other women.

[00:49:13]So you get to the party and you're like, "Hey." You might ask, "Well, how do you know these guys?" Word of mouth could be your best friend, which is why she's in his DM now >> cuz you don't know how to keep your mouth shut about your man and how he treats you, especially in the bedroom.

[00:49:33]>> Yeah.

[00:49:33]>> So now you telling your co-workers, you telling your friends, and they're like, "Damn, I never experienced that before."

[00:49:41]>> Yep.

[00:49:42]>> [ __ ] I want I want just I want just a piece so I could be so I could be like her. What makes her so special? We on the same level. [ __ ] I make more money than her. How come she gets the best?

[00:49:52]No, I need that. So, you see how they even word of mouth. So, um that um how he makes them feel, move, aura, dominance, high levels of masculine traits, or high level of masculinity.

[00:50:08]all which quench a woman's thirst um when she's been thirsty for a lack of it in her life for so long or dreams of it and it can never come true. So all of those things that I stated would be the catalyst to them going with the guy that has abundance, you know, because they're looking at, well, he had to probably do this, this, that, and the third to get there because that's not easy. See, you got to look at it this way. One of the reasons why there's side chicks out there knowing damn well they don't like Py and they would never engage with somebody who's cheating, right?

[00:50:49]>> One of the reasons why is because they're looking at the fact that he got the commitment and the longevity because women know that a lot of women walk away. So, if you're able to keep a woman around for a while and she's happy, something about them. You see how females think.

[00:51:07]Most men aren't thinking like that. So that's why it's puzzling them why they're like, "Damn, why they so many side chicks?" And they be saying they not into poly.

[00:51:17]>> Well, they probably don't know >> to married men >> when that is a violation of what they would do. They would not even like to do that. But why they would do it? Even if um even being a side to a dude that got a girl, it's not even a marriage aspect.

[00:51:33]It's more so that's what they looking at. They looking at, oh, it got to the commitment aspect. Okay, so he's serious. Then second of all, it's like, well, he was able to keep her for so long and she's happy, so he got the sauce in some regard and and he's able to do that with multiple some because it's hard to keep a woman happy. Females know that and males know that. Mhm.

[00:51:57]>> Especially in the day and age we living in where more females especially in America 70% are initiating divorce.

[00:52:05]>> So females know that remember this goes back it's like it it's like a um connecting the dots right full circle is what I always say. It goes back to the female using her brain more efficiently.

[00:52:18]All this stuff is going on in her head.

[00:52:20]She ain't talking about it but she's dissecting it.

[00:52:24]So when she's seeing the abundance, she's looking at it like he is him. I know I talk a lot, but just to summarize for some people, he is him. He is the man in her mind. And a lot of times females want the best.

[00:52:41]>> That's true.

[00:52:42]>> They want to talk about the best. They want to talk that they got the best.

[00:52:45]They want to say that I experienced the best. You know, so most of the time it's just a subconscious thing. And that's why I told the caller, "Pick, pick, pick." Like a snap of a finger. Which one did you pick? Stop. Stop putting in scenarios in there. And I get it.

[00:52:58]Scenarios. You're just like me. If I would do it, I'm I'm a thinker. I'm going to not go left right away. I'm going to think about all scenarios. If I've been investing, I got to think about the long term and all this. My ROI, return on investment. I'm scared if they ain't no ROI. So, why would I invest? I'm thinking all like that like a business person. But just think of initial. Initial. If the female is not really thinking, she's just going to where her DNA is is is taking her, what what she's biologically um designed to be attracted to. So, if she's looking at that abundance, she's probably thinking of >> testosterone. She's probably thinking of masculinity, aura, dominance, security, all those things is what she's gravitating towards. All those things I mentioned are intangible.

[00:53:46]So she sees the physical but she's reading in depth of the intangible. He got to have blah blah blah blah blah blah because because that's that's what's the going to bring the assumption. It's the curiosity that's triggering the desire.

[00:54:02]>> That desire is making you move.

[00:54:05]So the incel ain't curious. He ain't mysterious. He ain't he don't look a little dangerous. Ah that's kind of safe. Uh that's boring. that don't excite me to move. The abundance does.

[00:54:19]And I know I don't like it, but my bad my body's gravitating and I'm trying to fight it. But it is just initially of just not even thinking. Subconsciously, you're just doing that. That's why I say they would do that. I'm not saying it in regards to damn, you know what it is. It it sounds bad in regards to all those things. It does, but that's initially what the woman would do. That's why there's a lot more females that's complaining. They're complaining about males and all these things that they've been through. Meanwhile, they knew it from the beginning. And what did they go with? Their feelings. What did they go with? The dopamine hit. So that's that's that's what dragged them over there.

[00:55:03]Even if they knew it was a bad decision.

[00:55:07]Like you'll hear them all the time, hey, let let's go out tonight. Let's make some bad decision, >> horrible decisions. Let's make them let's we'll regret it later. We'll blame it on the alcohol.

[00:55:19]>> So it it comes down to that. So I think that initially the feminine is going to go with what makes her feel the best.

[00:55:31]You know, if we're if we're putting it in layman's terms, I know I said a lot of things that might have made them lose me, but it just goes back to like being loyal to your feelings and your emotions. So, you're going to go with like what makes you feel the best in every regard, mentally, um physically, um emotionally, spiritually, you know what I'm saying? And the guy with abundance or a lot or whatever you want to say is is um like triggering all those arousal points, emotion, mental, physical and stuff. And that trigger triggering of arousalness.

[00:56:10]I don't even know if that's a word, but it is today.

[00:56:13]>> I was like, wait a second.

[00:56:14]>> Arousalness, right? Making out my own word. Um maybe it is.

[00:56:20]it um or or arousal, right? It it it it actually is the catalyst to making them move and then wanting to build something like let me get to know him now.

[00:56:35]>> Mhm.

[00:56:36]>> Let me build off this. Oh, he doesn't got a lot. Let me help him. Let me d Oh, all this is already good. So, maybe something could turn out of it. You know what I'm saying? So, I think that's like where it would go with this. This was a fun episode. Um, because we got a lot of females that would complain >> about these type of guys, but yet again, the irony still gravitate towards them, you know. Um, and then ultimately when they get with someone who's not healed that has this, they get the consequences and then they're left worse worse prior to them >> worse than before.

[00:57:18]>> Yeah. They're they're Yeah. worse than before, >> you know, going there, >> you know. Um, it ends up turning into that. But like I was mentioning to the guest, it's, you know, have you met those guys? and she was like few. So, it's very rare that they're good at these things, have these things, the high energy, abundance, whatever. And they're also like a good man.

[00:57:43]>> Mhm. True.

[00:57:44]>> You know what I'm saying? They're also like not evil, like not the devil, you know? So, that's very rare. Like she's looking for an anomaly or or that's an anomaly or it's um it's fuel. Yeah, it's few among among many, >> you know, cuz sometimes like you have to get to that level by one of the things she used was like evil manipulation.

[00:58:10]>> May not be evil, she said, but she used manipulation. Um, but it's evil manipulation, you know? So, there's good manipulation and there's evil. So, sometimes like you got to there because of that, you know?

[00:58:24]So, it's like if if you're incel, you're kind of weird. But then some women out there, maybe feminists or whatever, they might be like, "Well, I'll take the incel. I don't want to have to go through all that. I'll take the insulin and I'll train them."

[00:58:38]You know what I'm saying? That's like me taking a lion and training him how to um operate in the jungle when I never built the jungle and I don't operate in there.

[00:58:48]And I and I ain't a lion myself. So, I'm going to teach a lion how to be a lion, but I ain't a lion myself. That's exactly what the fe the feminists would would would do. Like it's asinine and it's like um it it's like a a backfire.

[00:59:03]>> Mhm.

[00:59:05]>> You know, but they'll say that cuz they they think it's going to bring peace.

[00:59:09]They think it's going to bring um you know, be better. I won't be hurt there.

[00:59:15]But um the reality is it's going to do more harm than good, you know, for to do that. Well, I can train them cuz I'll control that.

[00:59:25]>> If I can control that, then it will be in the realm of like my sanity is what if I can't control it, I won't be able to be seen.

[00:59:36]>> Telling you like I'm in the mind sometimes, but it's it's when I'm on the mic, the ancestors help.

[00:59:42]>> That's it. Uh once again, ladies and gentlemen, you are tuned into the most raw, uncut, unapologetic, real, no hoes bar, the dispensary podcast. Peace.