If you're secure, the # doesn't matter

Added: 2026-05-16

[00:00:00]When you were trying to draw the line on body count, you're trying to make that How many is too many?

[00:00:05]>> Right. You're trying to make that point of hey, at some point you are going to have a problem with with body count. We didn't get into extreme hypotheticals, but you could have.

[00:00:13]>> We said a thousand. That's I don't even think that's that extreme. I mean, it's pretty it's pretty uncommon Mhm. for sure. As we as we discussed, the average is nine for a lifetime or eight eight or nine, something like that. But your point I thought was interesting and a little challenging.

[00:00:30]There is a point at which the logic breaks down.

[00:00:33]>> Mhm. If we did an anonymous survey with people watching this podcast or this clip and said okay, like what's the number? And maybe we should do that. I don't know if you have the ability to do that.

[00:00:43]>> You can do a poll. So, um that could be pretty interesting.

[00:00:46]>> Go answer the poll. If you're listening to this right now, go answer the poll.

[00:00:50]>> Answer the poll.

[00:00:50]>> Yeah. Because I think you're right. Like I think that a lot of people on both sides do get triggered at some point of having that like feeling of like disgust maybe or at least uncertainty or like whoa, okay. That is a bit of a red flag. Not necessarily like you're gross or you're for the streets, but like hey, tell me more about that because I'm I'm not sure our values are aligned. I mean, what do you what do you think about that?

[00:01:15]Well, I don't see anything wrong with it. Like I don't I don't definitely don't think it's immoral in any way. And personally, I don't really know if there's a number that would evoke disgust Mhm. if I knew that they're like healthy. Yeah. You know, sexually healthy. The difference though would be in lifestyle. But like if I'm on a first date with someone, it would be the same as if like they're super jacked. I know they're going to be spending, you know, let's say 25% of their time in the gym.

[00:01:41]And that doesn't align with my lifestyle.

[00:01:43]>> way. And eating a certain way. And that just doesn't align with my lifestyle. Or if if went on a date with someone and they have logged 10,000 hours of Call of Duty. It's like okay, well, that's part of your lifestyle. I don't know if I really want to immerse myself with that.

[00:01:58]But that's nothing wrong with it. No immorality there. I don't want to shame you in any way, but it's just not the lifestyle I'm choosing. So if I heard that somebody had Um here, I'll give a realistic number to where it it'd be kind of a lifestyle red flag. Would be like 500. 500 cuz at my age, that means they've had one new partner every week for the last 10 years.

[00:02:19]And that's that's a point where I'm like Uh it sounds like you didn't have any long-term relationships. Seems like you've just been single this whole time and doesn't seem like you've had much consistency in this realm. That doesn't super align with what I what I'm doing.

[00:02:33]No shame, no whatever, but it's just not for me. No, I think that's perfectly fair. Um and we kind of went through that in the ring a little bit where my counter to that was hey, you're talking about a compatibility thing and that's not what conservative men are talking about >> Right. when they talk about >> They're talking about a moral thing.

[00:02:50]They're talking about like a status and value as a human being. Yeah.

[00:02:54]Mhm.