He Claimed “Mutual Contact” as a Defense… Then the Judge Stepped In

Added: 2026-05-15

[00:00:00]Let me, let me just say this.

[00:00:02]Okay.

[00:00:04]I look stupid, but I'm not. I'm just having a real tough time believing your client's premise for why that's This hearing starts like a routine bond violation case, but within minutes the courtroom turns into a complete legal and emotional disaster. The judge is faced with a defendant accused of violating a protective order, while the defense argues that both sides were still constantly communicating behind the scenes. Hundreds of texts, shared outings, money transfers, even an AirTag secretly placed in a vehicle. But here's the problem, court orders don't disappear just because two people keep talking.

[00:00:34]And once the judge realizes the explanations aren't adding up, the entire tone of the hearing changes.

[00:00:41]Watch closely because this case becomes less about the relationship itself and more about whether the court is being manipulated in real time. This time the defendant is going to acknowledge the allegations that are set forth in the complaint.

[00:00:57]Bond violation.

[00:00:58]>> Bond violation, correct.

[00:01:00]Okay.

[00:01:02]Anything from the people?

[00:01:04]Your Honor, I'll just rely on our uh previous motion. I do want to say I did mention that there could be a potential for future charges. I do need to get a little bit of further investigation done before I make a final decision on that for both defendant and defendant's mother. They were both submitted on by Anna Brooks. Who was? Defendant and defendant's mother.

[00:01:23]Defendant.

[00:01:24]All right.

[00:01:27]Okay.

[00:01:30]Anything you want to say?

[00:01:32]Your actually quite a bit I want to say, Your Honor.

[00:01:37]Um Defendant >> [clears throat] >> is the parent is married to the victim of this case.

[00:01:50]Um there's a highly toxic and dysfunctional relationship with uh victim.

[00:01:59]Uh the victim's sought a PPO. There was never any allegation that there was uh uh striking, hitting, assaultive behavior in the PPO. There's more threatening behavior things of that nature. But not like I've been punched or I've been hit or anything like that.

[00:02:17]In any The PPO was put into place earlier in the winter.

[00:02:24]The PPO obviously was at the choice of the the victim.

[00:02:29]Um I'm just going to lay it out for you, your honor, and maybe in a way that's not helpful to my client, but I'm just going to lay it out for you.

[00:02:39]These people have been in non-stop communication with each other since the day the PPO was granted.

[00:02:48]Hundreds and hundreds of text messages.

[00:02:52]I just looked at my client's cell phone log this morning before in the hallway before I came in here. Hundreds of text messages including, your honor, more than 25 text messages yesterday.

[00:03:04]The parents have a child together. The child's birthday his first birthday was on April 12th.

[00:03:12]The parents went to church together on April 12th for a birthday party for the child.

[00:03:18]Uh uh they visited with the fire department and took the child on a ride in the fire truck together uh recently.

[00:03:28]Uh the uh victim I read through every one of these texts and as an off as an officer of the court, I can tell you that there is not a scintilla of evidence that indicates that the victim is scared of the defendant. The victim is asking the defendant to come and power of her life.

[00:03:51]The defendant has Venmoed the victim thousands of dollars since the uh inception of the PPO. Uh How does he Venmo her? She calls him and says that he needs money and he Venmo's her money.

[00:04:12]The victim has shown up at the defendant's house.

[00:04:17]Defendant has been at the victim's house.

[00:04:20]It's a highly dysfunctional relationship.

[00:04:26]Some of the texts, Your Honor, that the victim has given the uh I read this morning some of the texts.

[00:04:36]The victim is advising the defendant on how to beat this case, on what strategies he needs to be using to beat this felony case against him.

[00:04:46]And so I'm making some admissions to the court that maybe under some circumstances would be against the best interest of my client, but I'd rather I've been in front of you, Your Honor. I know you're a straight guy and um I I think the court would rather hear this than than some nonsense. That's been the relationship that's going on here.

[00:05:09]Uh the defendant is 31 years old, Your Honor.

[00:05:12]He's a honorably discharged uh member of the United States Army, served in the airborne, served in Ukraine, served on the board border of Syria.

[00:05:25]Uh he receives an 80% uh disability payment through the Veterans Administration for some uh lower back issues as a result of uh parachuting. Um uh he has been uh enrolled at At this point, you can already see why the judge is struggling with this case. The defense attorney is being unusually candid here, openly admitting the relationship is chaotic, dysfunctional, and full of non-stop contact despite the protective order. That honesty probably helps his credibility with the court, but legally it also creates a huge problem. The more communication he describes, the harder it becomes to argue this was all accidental or misunderstood.

[00:06:03]And notice something important. The attorney keeps emphasizing there was no physical violence alleged. That's strategic. He's trying to frame this as emotional chaos and terrible judgment rather than dangerous criminal intent.

[00:06:13]But the court isn't only looking at whether someone was physically harmed.

[00:06:16]It's looking at whether direct court orders were ignored repeatedly. And viewers, this raises a serious question.

[00:06:21]If both parties keep reopening contact, does that lessen responsibility?

[00:06:25]Or make the situation even more dangerous. Washington County Community College and on May 6th supposed to receive his associate's degree in transportation technology. So, he's been involved in a two-year program. He's supposed to graduate from that program in the next 2 weeks, Your Honor. Uh he has final exams coming up in the next few days.

[00:06:45]Or can see his parents are here with him.

[00:06:48]Uh and um they share with me and the victim and the the family shares with me that um there is some counseling that he can get through the VA that would probably be appropriate.

[00:07:03]Um uh As an attorney and I know you're an attorney, it's frustrating to me that the defendant has conducted himself in this way.

[00:07:14]I've shared my frustration with him about this. It's it's just very frustrating that I that I can't impress upon him that or I haven't been able to as of yet that I don't care if she shows up at your house. If she shows up at your house, you run in the house and lock the door.

[00:07:30]That's what you do. And that's that's how you handle it. And and so, there's been some monumental bad judgment here.

[00:07:38]Uh in regards to this allegation of an ear tag being put in her car.

[00:07:44]The defendant says that it was the says that that took place at his house with the victim participating in this. So, um Excuse me.

[00:07:57]That he and her did it? That they did it together? He said that she came to her house his house unannounced in Ann Arbor, his parents' house where he lives.

[00:08:08]Uh They discussed putting an air tag in the car so he would know where her and his child is and she said that that would be a good idea and the car and the air tag was placed in the car.

[00:08:20]And um And that's true, then why does she have concerns when it alerts her phone?

[00:08:28]Because it's a highly toxic relationship, your honor. The parents are trying to evict the The parents are in the process of evicting the victim from their uh condominium where the former marital home. The parents are the owner of that home. They're in the process of evicting it. It's It's It's a cluster of incredible proportions that are happening here.

[00:08:52]The amount of legal fees in this case are eye-watering, your honor. And it It's just I think that I come here today asking that the defendant be given another chance and I can't promise the court that he's going to be able to control himself to not communicate person.

[00:09:13]I I think that this brings it to a level of seriousness that we haven't seen up until now. Um but I think that he deserves another chance. There's no allegation of physical uh Well, and if maybe counsel, um I This is the exact moment the hearing shifts from sympathy to suspicion. The judge is no longer focused only on the toxic relationship. Now he's evaluating credibility, and credibility in court is everything. The AirTag explanation immediately triggers concern because from the judge's perspective, it simply doesn't make logical sense. If both people were already texting constantly, sharing locations, meeting in person, and communicating every day, why secretly track a vehicle?

[00:09:55]The judge is testing whether the defendant's story aligns with normal behavior, police evidence, and common sense. And once a judge starts openly questioning whether an explanation is believable, every future statement becomes riskier. You can also see the defense attorney realizing the danger here in real time. He knows if the court believes anyone is being dishonest, this could escalate far beyond a simple bond violation discussion.

[00:10:16]>> Yeah, that they've got a child together and that there might be some conduct, although there shouldn't be. Hundreds, hundreds and hundreds.

[00:10:26]Right, but the problem is he's the one under the court's juris- I So, I And I know you know this, and I've been the one that cannot have that contact. And I've told him I've told him that, his parents have told him that. But what I don't get is that I don't understand this AirTag.

[00:10:46]No, I that if they're having so much contact, why do I need an AirTag?

[00:10:54]Well, I mean, I could just tell you anecdotally, I on my phone, I can see where my wife is at at all times, you know? And so, I can do that without an AirTag.

[00:11:07]Uh Yeah, all she would have to do share her location with him and he would know.

[00:11:19]Yeah, all I can tell you is I'm seeing texts as early as as this morning, at 9:00, where excuse me, at 8:00 this morning, texts from the victim saying, "I'm going to the prosecutor's office because this is all a big misunderstanding.

[00:11:34]I'm not making that up. That's the text I see from the victim at 8:00 this morning. Okay? I saw the same text from the victim three times yesterday. She tell texts him that this is a terrible misunderstanding.

[00:11:46]And so so the the defendant is here. He's executed He's demonstrated monumental bad judgment.

[00:11:57]Uh you know, we're here falling on our sword.

[00:12:00]We're not here trying to say that uh this didn't happen.

[00:12:04]I told my client, "What what are you going to do? You're going to come tell the judge you didn't do this?

[00:12:08]You can't You're not going to lie in court. And so we can't do that. That's not an option to come to court and deny this. That's just not an option. It's not an option for me as an attorney. It's not an option for for the defendant.

[00:12:20]And so there's just bad judgment here. I'm hoping the court could give him the proverbial second chance.

[00:12:29]I'm hoping that you could impress upon him the seriousness of this.

[00:12:34]See if he And but I'm asking you not to take him into custody, Your Honor. I just don't think it rises to that level.

[00:12:42]Um That's Let me Let me just say this.

[00:12:48]I hear what you're saying about the the contact and that shouldn't be happening and I'm sure you're after about that.

[00:12:56]It rises to a different level when I'm tracking your whereabouts.

[00:13:05]That's That's my problem.

[00:13:09]The defendant tells me that this was done cooperatively between the parties.

[00:13:15]And >> And I And I heard you the first time regarding that.

[00:13:20]And I don't believe it. I The reason I don't believe it is because he obviously hasn't been following the court's orders, but also that the whole tenor of the police report, which I'm sure you got a copy of. I did. Doesn't indicate that this is anything cooperative on her part.

[00:13:39]I know, but your honor, this is also somebody who went and sought a stalking charge, and then went and contacted the person saying this is the police's understanding here. I never meant to see you charged like this. I never meant I mean, so you have a very frenetic victim here who is, you know, on what day we It's a toxic relationship. These people will do not do a good job communicating with each other. So, if for chance, you know, she asked for a Venmo and it doesn't go through, guess what? She's off to the police department. I mean, that's the nature of this relationship and and that's something that needs to be resolved via the divorce, but I mean, this is a This is a This is an insane relationship here. And it from from what I gather, and I'm I'm not a testifier, from what I gather, it doesn't rise to That line right there completely changes the energy in the courtroom. The judge is sending a direct warning. He believes he may not be getting the full truth. Judges hear thousands of explanations every year, and when one openly says, "I look stupid, but I'm not," it usually means patience is running out fast. What makes this moment so important is that the court is no longer debating only the facts of the violation, it's evaluating trust.

[00:14:55]And once trust collapses, judges often become much stricter because they start worrying about future compliance. The defense attorney deserves credit here for staying calm and realistic instead of arguing emotionally, but you can tell he understands the danger. The judge is practically inviting the defense to reconsider the story before testimony begins.

[00:15:15]And honestly, this is where many defendants make critical mistakes. They keep defending weak explanations instead of recognizing the court has already stopped believing them.

[00:15:25]>> level striking each other, hit hitting each other in the face or that type of thing, you know, but as far as um you know, daggers out and just sort of crazy conduct, these people are involved in a spiral of crazy conduct with each other. They're both part of this crazy conduct. Both of them. But you're right, Your Honor, the defendant is the one who's here in court. The the victim is not in court.

[00:15:53]She's not on the The court doesn't have jurisdiction over her contact conduct as to whether she shows up at his house. Um and so it's it's it's just been bad judgment. It's terrible judgment. And you know, that's uh That's right cuz you know, I thought long and hard about this weekend. What am I going to say to you?

[00:16:13]I I really, you know, uh belabored in my mind, what am I going to say to you? And this this is what I'm going to say to you. And I think he deserves another chance.

[00:16:23]Um I do believe he can fly straight. Um and that's our prayer to the court, Your Honor.

[00:16:32]So. Your Honor, so I did also want to let the court know that I did Our victim advocate did speak with the victim today and I also spoke with Paul Waite as where I was before this and I didn't have any mention of any of that including the cooperative AirTag from her phone. She didn't say it. She I told her she could leave before this because she was not testifying she wanted to leave she didn't want to be present today uh in the courtroom.

[00:16:53]But she did not mention any of that.

[00:16:56]And I have not seen any of these texts either.

[00:17:01]Um but she did not indicate that this was somehow cooperative or somehow No, Your Honor. that the mischief reported self was some type of misunderstanding. No.

[00:17:14]Did she indicate to you that the entire eight the entirety of the case was presented to you.

[00:17:20]No, she informed me that and I thought she wanted him to get out.

[00:17:25]Um and she was concerned about his parents and what was coming with that.

[00:17:29]So, she just had concerns [clears throat] um with what was going on.

[00:17:40]There's there's a highly unusual relationship between the parents and the victim's spouse. It's like it's off the charts, Your Honor.

[00:17:56]Um mainly revolving an eviction.

[00:18:00]Okay. And How old is the child?

[00:18:06]The child just turned 1 years old on April 12th. That's when Yeah, this is this this is the part that's phenomenal to me.

[00:18:13]I've got the parents at each other in some way.

[00:18:22]Well, I think somebody may have provoked her.

[00:18:27]She did.

[00:18:28]>> [clears throat] >> I've got I've got the circumstance that the parents are at each other. The parents of the child are at each other.

[00:18:45]The defendant's wife are at each other.

[00:18:48]There's a divorce going on.

[00:18:50]There's then this stalking case going on. There's then going to be Thank goodness, the premises I think are in Ann Arbor, so it's not my jurisdiction. There's then going to be an eviction. In the end, this case became a powerful example of how court orders operate independently from personal relationships. The defense tried to present the situation as mutual chaos, two people constantly reconnecting despite the protective order. But legally, the court only needed to focus on one thing, whether the defendant followed the judge's restrictions. And once the AirTag issue raised credibility concerns, the hearing shifted dramatically.

[00:19:24]The judge ultimately revoked bond, not simply because of emotional conflict, but because trust in the defendant's judgment had broken down. That's the key lesson here. Courts may tolerate confusion, bad relationships, and emotional volatility, but they rarely tolerate violations combined with explanations that don't make sense.

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