The Masks We Wear - The Rant 138

Added: 2026-05-26

[00:00:36]Good morning, good afternoon, and good evening wherever you are in the world.

[00:00:45]My name is Jade and this is everybody's favorite time of the week. It is the rant and today we're going to be talking about masks.

[00:01:00]Are you wearing one?

[00:01:04]Do you wear one sometimes and swap it out for a different one? Let's talk about masks. Let's get into it. Let's Yo, what's going on? I'm Jade and this is the rant. And of course, I hope you're doing okay. It's Monday morning here in Australia. Sunday for the rest of you. I was waiting for one of those comments, but it's not about him today.

[00:01:27]So, we're going to talk about masks. Is everybody doing good? Let me know in the chat. Another big week coming up here on the channel. I just want to cover a couple of things before we get into today. So yesterday we did a really I had a really fun time doing the opening hour because I got to sing some songs from one of my favorite musicals or movies of all time, Headwig and the Angry Inch. And we discussed during the show something could happen and guess what it did. Warner Music decided to ban the show and block it entirely. So just for you, [ __ ] you Warner Music, you [ __ ] bunch of goons. Right. So basically what I have done because I don't like laying down on my back and taking it up the ass from these big record labels. So essentially the show is back up on the channel, but it's not what you expect. It is a 30-se secondond interlude of some of the music from the the movie with this thumbnail and a link to Vimeo where you can see the entire show. So, I'm using YouTube to send you to another platform to go and see something that Warner Music refuses to let you go and see. [ __ ] you, YouTube.

[00:02:41]And [ __ ] you, Warner Music. There we go.

[00:02:43]Have we got enough swearing out the way for the start of the show? Good deal. I think so. It is a back available on Vimeo. There's a link in the description of the video that I posted and it doesn't break up any continuity and all that cuz I hate continuity getting broken up because of selfcentered wankers like Warner Brothers music. You losers, man. You can't even let people just sing a song. I got no problem with you demonetizing me and leaving it up there and taking all the money. I could give a [ __ ] but to block it is just so petty. It really is petty. Anyway, that's being said, and I hate saying that because everybody says that. That being said, some cool stuff coming up on live streams this week. Tomorrow, we're taking a look at a new little show here called App Rewind, where we go back five years or four years and take a look at something that came out ages ago that is still very relevant now. If you haven't heard of it, you should go and check it out because it's a really cool app.

[00:03:44]Other desert cities by Audio Damage tomorrow. Also a date change. So we're we're doing now the creative hour on a Tuesday US and UK time. So that's a little bit of a change. We're bringing it forward a day because we're continuing on with the developer spotlight on Wednesdays and this week is audio kit. So these shows I think these shows are really fun. I get to come in here and cover a whole bunch of apps in a in half an hour and just remind you these developers have a whole wonderful suite of cool apps. I'm not going to go in I think our interview this week is with Lewis Laval. He's an app demo, an app uh developer who made Dark Park and uh uh I can't remember the other one, the new one. Anyway, he's coming on the show uh so this week. So, we got a developer on this week. So, all you music people probably won't give a [ __ ] about that, and that's all right, too.

[00:04:41]But that is what's happening this week, plus the usual drops of um of, you know, app demos, pre-recorded app demos during the week. Let's say hello to folks, then we'll get into today's show on Mass.

[00:04:53]Thomas is here. Hello, Thomas. Dave Bops, we've got Gary Hubs. We got Seek Cow. Good day. You got your [ __ ] mask on? That's good. Uh, Shepherd Veil, hello Gary Havs. Sorry, I already said Gary Hves [ __ ] Abat.

[00:05:10]Hello. Uh, anyone else? I think we got If you lurk in the Girkin, welcome to you. U Walk with me channel just got a brand new video dropped as well, too. If you haven't subscribed to Walk with me, please do. And we've got a really cool short up there at the moment, too. Can I play this short and get into it? Let's do it. Uh, caught that. But that demon magpie swooped me and I felt a breeze across the top of my head. They're vicious here. They they flack you right in the head. They swoop down.

[00:05:43]>> They're brutal. If you don't know about it, Google YouTube magpies swooping.

[00:05:50]There's a Yeah, everybody loves seeing me get this again. Did you see that?

[00:06:06]>> Well, I don't even know if the camera caught that. Isn't it fun seeing seeing somebody get hurt? Yeah. Uh so, isn't that good? Uh I think next week's rant's going to be really interesting. You're going to want to uh jump into next week's rant. We're going to be talking about shorts and how to game the system because we've worked out some things, man. We've worked out some things.

[00:06:25]Anyway, that's a whole another story.

[00:06:26]Fat Panda Cat, hello. Uh, Alexander Dean Francis, hello. All right, so what inspired me to do this show today? What was the inspiration to talk about masks?

[00:06:38]Well, funnily enough, it's a conspiracy theory that's going around on YouTube at the moment. Uh if you follow any kind of politics, you may have seen this pop up in your feed that on Fox News this last week, a dude went on who's a retired military [ __ ] who knows, some kind of weirdo who went on Fox News and was interviewed and apparently it looks like he's wearing a [ __ ] mask. And it's very strange. It's very, very odd. And I have questions. And I know Fox News have come out and said, "No, it's the lighting." And listen, there's another reason why I want to talk about masks. I have been a collector of masks my whole life. Whenever there's been like a festival on or the Royal Melbourne show or any kind of thing where there's a mask store or a magic store with masks, I will I've always had a massive mask collection. I still do now. I have like 50 masks. I've got Toxic Avenger masks and uh what's his name from the the Art the Clown. You've probably seen I've got a huge Darth Vader costume in my full costume in my lounge room. I collect masks. I always have since I was very young. And I think I'm a pretty good spot of uh when somebody's wearing a [ __ ] mask. And I'm going to show you the video cuz I think it's interesting to kick off this with this con conspiracy theory that this guy is [ __ ] not wearing a mask. Here he is here. And uh just just so I just want to say right now, I'm not a conspiracy theorist.

[00:08:12]I'll only jump on something when it looks pretty real. Now, listen. I know the way lighting works. I have lights in here and I set them up to work and work against shadows as best I can. All right? So, I've never seen anything any kind of lighting that has made my neck look the [ __ ] like that.

[00:08:34]All right. I ju I just want to say I've never seen anything like that before. So this is now we're not I'm not showing you this to get into if it's a conspiracy or not. I I don't give a [ __ ] right? This does not this does not like change my life whatsoever because these people are all pedophiles and they're horrible people. So who cares?

[00:08:57]But look at it. Just look at it. Right.

[00:09:00]I'm going to play the clip and I'm going to talk over there. I'm going to walk you through. G mate, what's going on?

[00:09:05]Let's play the clip. Right here he is talking. I'm not playing the sound obviously. I don't want to get a claim.

[00:09:11]But look at that. Look at the way it's moving. Right there. There's something.

[00:09:18]I don't know, man. Right. Cuz now we're going to see now. This guy was only on Fox News a day before. A day before. Now look how smooth his skin is. Right. Oh, look how smooth it is. Now, there's been no filtering on this. No filtering, no nothing like Look at how smooth his skin is. And there he was. Now, just let me pause this. This was from the exact day before he was on the program the day before.

[00:09:49]There's his neck.

[00:09:52]What's happening? What is happening here? What is happening now? Uh, Is it him wearing the mask? It's Is it still him, but he's wearing a mask? Was he in a house fire? What happened? What is going on? Or is this somebody else?

[00:10:09]Cuz even the voice sounds a little bit different.

[00:10:12]The eyes are different, too. I know.

[00:10:14]It's very odd, man. It's very odd. Let's hit play. Uh I don't know. I I don't know what to And you know, this guy's on Fox News every couple of days. He's a regular on there.

[00:10:25]And look, I mean, even look at the neck, the how it's all wrinkled. Look at the the lines in his face, everything. He's even got like this cleft in his chin.

[00:10:34]It's very very strange. It is very strange. I mean uh I mean this show is not about physical masks. We're not talking about this, but we're but this inspired me to talk about uh you know social masks and that's what we're talking about today. Very very strange. We are living in very bizarre times at this juncture in our lives. Um, I I all I want to know is why. And look, he's got eyebrows here and he I just don't know, man. It's very It's mask maxing. Exactly. Very, very odd behavior. Rich people are all very very weird. And uh sadly we're being force-fed rich people on a daily basis and they are proving to be either a bunch of uh or uh child or you know just uh sexual you know so they're very odd man. They you know they're very weird.

[00:11:29]Everything's different. The whole thing's different man. Anyway uh you guys make a decision. That's not what we're here to talk about tonight. Just as I said, I'm just I'm just asking questions.

[00:11:43]Trust me, I [ __ ] hate conspiracy theories. I think they're nonsense.

[00:11:48]In fact, I I have a friend who when I was uh uh when I was addicted to meth, I used to live in the house with this person and we got we fell down the conspiracy theory hole and um well, obviously I snapped out of it when I stopped doing meth, but uh I don't think she has because she left this comment on one of my videos this week that was I don't know 18 paragraphs about so many things that I had to remove the comment.

[00:12:14]It was very very very very odd. But anyway, let's get down to it.

[00:12:20]Right. So, we're talking about masks.

[00:12:22]So, what kind of masks are we talking about? Hello, Jenny.

[00:12:27]All right. Are we ready? Tremor bear.

[00:12:29]Hello. All right. Let's get to it. So, masks. The the version. So my definition, the various definitions of masks I'm going to talk about here is the version of ourself we present to survive, to fit in, to impress or to uh avoid conflict or gain approval or protect vulnerability or protect who we are deep inside, right? Because you you know and you know masks are an essential thing. And when I'm talking about masks, I'm not always saying that they're um a negative thing either, right? So masks aren't always malicious, right? If somebody is masking up, so to say, around their personality, that doesn't mean it's a malicious thing, right? Uh because many uh and and I'm an expert on this stuff, right? As I said, I've collected like physical masks, better ones than that guy was wearing anyway, for a very long time. And myself, I lived uh under a mask for 30 years, right? So, uh you if you know my journey, I hate going over it because I know people get upset. I don't want to hear about this stuff, but it it ties in. Um knowing from a very young age that I was trans and told you're not [ __ ] you'll grow out of it and punch in the head and all this stuff. It's like, well, I didn't. So, you're the [ __ ] right? So what my coping mechanism was to mask up and do everything totally the opposite of how I felt inside.

[00:14:01]Piercings, really long hair, leather jackets, tattoos, all that kind of stuff, singing the death metal band, right? So that's the mask that I wore for 30 years. And you know, whenever there was a quiet time and nobody was around, I would become this other thing, which you know, I am now. So that was my mask that I carried around a long time. And you get eventually it comes to a point where it's like how I I couldn't even look at my friends anymore because like all my friends didn't actually know who I was. I was lying to them. I they I had friends that I'd known for 25 years and they have no idea who the [ __ ] I actually am. I've been putting on this this mask every day. And so I'm I think I've got some uh a little bit of understanding about this topic, right? because I wore one for a very very long time and now I could give a [ __ ] what anyone thinks off u everyone wears them to some degree and you know not maybe people don't always wear them all the time maybe you know it's a very special occasion like I'm off to grandma's house got to put on that mask and it can be even something as simple as just not swearing in front of grandma hello Lewis Cook these are things right everybody puts on some form of mask to a degree Right? If you're a if you're a fire breather for your job, you're not going to go to the doctors and walk in and go, "Hi, everybody." Just blow flames in people's We all have things that we have to like put a lid on and and we've all had jobs, right? Job, just a dayto-day 9-5 job is one of those uh places that most people wear masks.

[00:15:41]There's always somebody at the job who doesn't do that and well, they don't last most of the time, right? because it's like you're too outside the you're too weird and we need to get rid of you and they're just being authentic. They they have no filter. I mean that's another word you can use for masks I guess filters whatever you want. The danger with masks and speaking from personal uh experience is when a mask becomes permanent and the real self disappears underneath that mask and you become something that you're not. And uh this can lead to many many many problems for people right many problems many uh many a trauma can be developed from such stupidity of burying who you are 24 hours a day hello professor you know not healthy stuff that's why here on this channel I was tried it myself be authentic and trying to encourage people to be authentic but of course even me I have things that I will not talk about on this program because well I get enough death threats from idiots on the internet and um there are people I need to protect in my life from getting those death threats as well because here's the deal, right? When people can't get to you, they'll go and target other people that they can get to you through. Just be aware of that stuff, right? The internet's a [ __ ] sensational place.

[00:17:05]And social media has really in the last what uh 20 years is that how long social media 26 years of social media kind of thing has really turn masks into brands or brands into masks. I mean either way you look at it the social media influencers we've all seen them right [ __ ] their videos on Instagram where they're like look at me I'm flicking cash everywhere. I've got a [ __ ] nice car and and you know when they log off they're [ __ ] when they're not in front of the camera they're like [ __ ] yeah you know they're doing it right you can see it you can see that they're you know these fake personalities tell every anybody who's very boastful and that kind of stuff who's an influencer normally you know that it's the complete opposite as soon as that camera goes down they are just see you later they they they don't want to be here cuz they know they're lying to themselves.

[00:18:02]They're wearing a mask. But hey, these are the things some people do to make money. And if you want to lie about who you are to make money, that's all right.

[00:18:10]In my book, I just won't follow you.

[00:18:13]Different types of masks. Let's run through them individually, break them down. At the end of the show, I'm going to ask you guys to see if there's any of these that you think you've worn at a time or are wearing now. And again, this isn't to shame people because as I said, masks aren't necessarily a malicious thing or they they're definitely not always used to, you know, be horrible to cause yuck.

[00:18:40]The work mask, we'll start there because it's probably the most common. It's professional mode, right? That's what it is. I've worked in uh uh you know cor corporate work for American Express and some other big television companies and stuff and you have to have some kind of professional mode that you go to. Uh the television industry is a little bit different than American Express.

[00:19:01]Although American Express has a lot of gay people working for them. We used to call it GameX. Uh so I really didn't have to tone down myself too much there.

[00:19:11]But you do walk through the door at a corporate job or such and you've kind of got to tone it down even with your dress sense and all this kind of stuff. You've got to uh smile through the exhaustion, right? This is another thing which uh you can call a mask too, right? Even today, like I'm so tired at the moment.

[00:19:30]I'm so buggered right now. I did a live stream on my channel yesterday. I did a live stream with Ron. Um something else got released. Anyway, it was a really crazy day yesterday and I was so bombed out by the time I finished Ron's show that I tried to get some sleep and then I had to get up and work for two and a No, it's three and a half hours sitting in here doing thumbnails and everything.

[00:19:53]And right now, let me tell you, I am smiling through exhaustion. This is a mask to some degree, right, of just trying to get through to provide the content, try and be at least entertaining and keep the vibe up and all that stuff. agreeing with things you don't believe in to avoid con uh uh conflict. This is a thing you have to do in a job, right? You have to cuz you've got power struggles, you've got hierarchies in a job, and you know, you can't be like telling the boss, "No, you're a [ __ ] You can't say that.

[00:20:24]You're not at the pub, are you?" So, you got to wear a mask. You got to put on yes, sir. No, sir. Three bags full, sir.

[00:20:30][ __ ] you, sir. Underneath my breath.

[00:20:33]Hiding creativity or individuality to seem safe. This is a thing too, right?

[00:20:39]This is something that I remember when I started doing this channel, Pete Johns would always say to me, "You probably should tone down the swearing where I would always respond to, "Fuck you." No, cuz it's not me. But I have, right?

[00:20:54]You're not going to see swearing in a pre-recorded app demo. I really do try and limit the swearing in a demo now, right? Because I'm I'm I'm representing somebody's product. So you kind but on this show hey you know let's go there right but uh you have to kind of sometimes you know hide that stuff you you have to bury it a little bit uh stifle turn it down a little bit turn down your personality a little bit because some people aren't always going to agree with your personality might be it's a bit too much right um a Wolfstone studio Hello.

[00:21:34]And Forest of the Wolf. Good day. Good day. Good day. These are things. Uh, now burnout. Burnout is a All right. I'm not really a good example on this because I will tell you if I'm burnt out on this channel. I will I'll probably do a show about it. I'll make [ __ ] content out of it.

[00:21:54]But burnout, trust me, you know, people get this idea that burnout always comes from work, from, you know, the things you have to do behind the scenes like work, the things you have to do to get, you know, the job done and all that.

[00:22:09]Burnout, man, can often come from wearing a mask and keeping up that mask for a period of time, right? If you're if you're like really tired and stuff and you're continuing to push through, you can that's a mask, right? You're wearing a mask to push through, get to the next level of the video game that we call life.

[00:22:33]And uh you'll you'll get burnout from wearing that mask. It's a lot of work carrying around this kind of thing, carrying thinking, pre-thinking everything you say and everything you do and trying to maintain energy to keep things flowing and right. But why do people do it? So this is how this is going to break up today. So what is this mask for this particular thing and why?

[00:22:56]Especially work financial survival because you got to pay the bills.

[00:23:01]You got to this. It's a no-brainer. You have to put on the mask to go and do that. The fear of losing status or opportunities, right? Especially in the corporate world, man, if you don't lick the boot.

[00:23:14]Although, right, uh, something with some some advice that I was told and I'm going to share it with you cuz I think it's great advice. When I worked at American Express, I was very keen to move up the ladder. I was I started the job. I did my training. Training is like [ __ ] six months at American Express.

[00:23:29]It's crazy, right? And um, I got into the job and very quickly I started moving up the ladder very quickly. And one of my managers said to me, "Here's the deal, Jade. Uh you shouldn't you shouldn't you're the type of person who shouldn't keep pushing to climb up the ladder cuz no matter how high you get up the ladder, there's always going to be someone you're going to have to wear a mask for and you're going to have to bend over and lick their ass and you you don't seem like that kind of person.

[00:23:58]So my advice to you is study this company and make your own job. Create your own role in the company. And that's what I did. And that's how I got really high up because I saw a a a role that was not there previously and said, "Hey, I have an idea to do a roll." And make your own role. And then and then even the big wigs right up the top have to answer to you cuz you're the expert who's created your own role.

[00:24:29]You've made your own destiny. And you can apply that to everything. You're still going to have to wear a mask, right, and say yes sir, no sir. But you actually own the role. You actually have the power. The power play is secretly hiding under there as well. And you can find these things there. There's so many companies that get bogged down with just [ __ ] you know, middle management and nobody. If you can see opportunities for yourself to create a role, it's a great way to not have to carry around such a [ __ ] heavy mask.

[00:25:04]And yeah, this is it too, right? they you you'll move up the ladder till they sack you. But if you create your own role within the company, who else are they going to get, right?

[00:25:15]You're the expert. You've made the role.

[00:25:17]You now will end up having people under you. It's it's really good advice and I'm so thankful it was given to me. Um fear of losing your status, workplace politics. These are another thing, too.

[00:25:30]There's always politics. There's politics everywhere you go, right? We're surrounded by politics. Everybody's like got some kind of power play. Somebody's got a mask on over here, another mask here, and everybody's trying to wedge their way higher up the ladder, especially in work conditioning from school systems, right? This is a thing, too, right? Where I've said this here on this channel, too. We are We are born into boxes, right? We're we're we're manifested in a box kind of as a floating box, right? We we're born gestated inside a womb. We're inside of something. We're spat out inside a box in a hospital. They put us in a school in a box. We finish school, go into a higher tertiary school. Then we go into a university, another [ __ ] box. And then when we get out of there, we jump into a [ __ ] job, which is a box. And then if we commit a crime, they put us in a jail, which is a box. And then eventually you die. And they put you in a box. We are in boxes anyway, right? So we're conditioned into these school systems. So you know sometimes you've got to stay in the box but when there's an opportunity you can break away from the box. So customer service voices these are the examples of the things the masks you have to do. Hello. Hello sir. How can I help you today? When really you're seething inside going I'd love to cut you up.

[00:26:57]I've got some lime at home anyway.

[00:27:00]Yes boss. You're the best boss. We've all had to be there, right? Uh musicians pretending to love networking agents. I can't tell you how many times, man, I've had to get a gig at a venue that I [ __ ] hate the promoters so much. And you just got to do the thing. Hello.

[00:27:19]Yes. I can't wait to play there. It's very exciting. Or you know, uh promoters manage. If you've ever had management as a musician, oh man, they're the best.

[00:27:28]All their ideas suck balls. They have no idea anything about music. But you know, content creators acting endlessly upbeat online. Oh [ __ ] Hello.

[00:27:45]But that's it, right? It all depends on if the content creator is telling you, "Hey, man, it's a struggle." And that's that's what I try and do anyway, right?

[00:27:55]Because you can't be happy all the time.

[00:27:57]It's you can't be and you're going to be burnt out no matter what it is cuz [ __ ] happens in your life that you can't control. But I think being as honest as you can in this in this form of entertainment, work, I guess, whatever.

[00:28:09]I think it's u and some people are going to be okay with it and some people aren't. Some people just want to hear the app demo and they don't want to they don't give a [ __ ] So the next one, the social mask. Let's talk about the social mask. acting cooler and tougher and funnier and smarter and more con confident in social settings. Man, we all know these people. We know them.

[00:28:31]They've been in our social groups.

[00:28:32]There's the loud [ __ ] who's always like, "Yeah, so I smashed him in the face."

[00:28:36]Yeah, obviously you smash everybody in the face. You're awesome. There's the funny [ __ ] who just can't stop trying to be funny. There's the knowit all. All right. Everybody's got their little uh things and people turn it up to 11. And they do when they're out in social gatherings, especially around booze, right? When you go out with people and there's booze involved, somebody's like thing is going to get turned up to 11 and the aggro guys going to end up punching a woman in the head.

[00:29:03]It's like, well, that's his social mask.

[00:29:08]But um becoming different around different friend groups like this is a very, you know, you see this all the time. Different people act differently in different friend groups. Uh look, I've seen this a lot. I've seen people who, you know, said to me, "Oh, I'm an ally. I I have no problem that you're trans." And then I see them with a whole bunch of people. And I'm like, "Really?

[00:29:30]You joined a neo-Nazi group? Okay, maybe not that extreme, but it's true, right? Especially on social media, man.

[00:29:39]How many people like they say they're your friend and then they're like posting stuff like trans people should be killed." It's like, "All right, nice." I guess you've got to like pander to your audience. And this happens in political left and right groups. People pander to the the Look at Blair White.

[00:29:56]Blair White is a transgender um political commentator. I I feel bad even saying political. She's a dumb [ __ ] She just happens to look very pretty. And she's now like doing commentary to the right and telling everybody that trans people suck. And it's like, but you are one.

[00:30:15]And these people that you're pandering to, they would kill you just as much as they would me. Don't even, right? They only like you because you're speaking out and you're speaking to their terms.

[00:30:25]You're wearing the mask for them. You're a grifter in other terms. And there's a lot of grifters, right? Masks these days have become a very griy thing. Um, pretending to enjoy things just to belong. Has anybody done that? Anybody been that? gone out to a something. Oh yeah, this is the best.

[00:30:48][ __ ] me. This sucks. Get me out of here.

[00:30:50][ __ ] Where's the hook? Kill me. Social masks, right? We wear them all the time.

[00:30:56]And uh sometimes it's not that it's out of again, not out of maliciousness.

[00:31:00]It's just because it's better to do that and not be not be an [ __ ] right? Because if you were the one person in that social group who's going, "Nah, this sucks."

[00:31:13]Everybody's going to think you're an [ __ ] Just keep it in. Just keep it in, right? Until you get home and then just [ __ ] vent. Examples: laughing at jokes you hate. Oh man, that's a hard one. I I always find it hard to laugh at jokes that aren't funny. Uh drinking or partying to fit in, right? Uh people who've oh god I used to have lots of friends are like that who just go out and and they never drink and because they know they can't handle it but they drink just because oh well senzo you all [ __ ] drink I acting emotionally detach because vulnerability feels risky. Hello, E.

[00:31:51]Urban. Hello, Paul. Hello, Farrell.

[00:31:54]Anyone else I've missed? Um, becoming a character in social situations again. So, real life social situations, you know, we've all had those friends, right? Where you've gone out maybe in a group of friends and you've met somebody new or somebody who's just joined your kind of social network of friends and whenever you you leave that kind of group, you go, "Fuck, that person's fake."

[00:32:18]There's something about them. It's like there's something about that person.

[00:32:22]It's It's almost like I don't know.

[00:32:27]Oops. Oh god. Come on, man. It's almost like I don't know. I can see they're wearing a mask.

[00:32:38]I can see it. You can't hide it from me.

[00:32:44]Oh, [ __ ] hell, man. That video is never going to get old. We are doomed as a species. I'm telling you folks, we are absolutely doomed. Um, social mask becoming a character in social situations. Again, this moves to social media as well. These people, you know, Andrew Tate, he's another one of them.

[00:33:00]Andrew Tate, man, the dude's like, I got I got Bugatti. I GOT BUGATTI. I got women everywhere. The guy [ __ ] the guy's a [ __ ] human trafficker.

[00:33:10]I got Bugatti. And all these men are like, "This guy's awesome." You know the the hilarious thing about someone like Andrew Tate, right, who's completely like a weak gay dude, right? You can tell you can see these things. The mask has slipped, right?

[00:33:27]The mask has slipped so quickly when when you get to the point that you have people following you and your whole thing is to get men to follow you and pay you money and that's, you know, and you just lie and wear a mask to try and act tough and [ __ ] because he's a [ __ ] fighter as well too, right? But he got his ass kicked in his last fight. Now he's saying to men who follow him, if you like women, you're gay.

[00:33:58]Is anyone paying attention?

[00:34:06]We are in backwards world. I'm telling you. So why do why do people uh do it?

[00:34:10]Why do people wear this social mask?

[00:34:13]It's fear of rejection, right? Cuz everybody wants to be accepted and it's it's totally different than the work mask.

[00:34:23]It is very different than the work mask.

[00:34:25]The work mask is a protection thing where it's like I don't want to get fired. Yes, I have to work with these people who I think are utter [ __ ] But the uh the social marks it's a lot of you you people want to belong to a group and you know you don't always end up in the the group that is right for you.

[00:34:44]Depends on which mask you're wearing.

[00:34:46]Right. This is the thing. And uh the mask that you wear can determine the group of people that you socialize with.

[00:34:53]Think about that for a second. Yeah.

[00:34:55]Joe, I I've I've been meaning to give you a call, Joe. I hope you're doing all right. I hope both you and Barry I'll give you a call today if you're around.

[00:35:03]Joe, I miss you, Joe.

[00:35:06]But think about this, right? The masks that you wear or that people wear decide the friends, the friend circles that you have and the types of masks that they wear. Right? For for every person in your social group that you think is wearing a mask, there could be three of them in that social group who think you're wearing a mask. And you know what? You probably are if you think that they're [ __ ] but you're still hanging out with them. I know this is very confusing. We We are a very [ __ ] up species. Uh people, we really are a [ __ ] up species. And I just going to say it now. I think one of the biggest problems with our species above everything else, all the politics, all the nonsense is that as a species, we have a lot of trauma around um sexual around essay that has never been addressed.

[00:36:00]Generations and generations of of human beings being assaulted and it's never been addressed. And that kind of psyche on people helps to create these masks, right?

[00:36:13]Do you know I saw somebody put a post up uh yesterday on Facebook uh some right-wing Christian post saying that uh LGBTQ events should be rated R and children should be banned. And um I I couldn't help myself but put up some statistics on uh you know the main offenders of this kind of stuff. And it turns out 95% are men and 85 to 90% happens in the home by people that you know.

[00:36:45]Yeah, I know. But statistics don't mean anything, do they? They're just statistics. And and especially for dumb [ __ ] who [ __ ] base their life on a [ __ ] fantasy novel. So there's that, right? The online mask. Carefully curated identities, right? We see this all the time. Mr. beast is an absolutely carefully curated identity. Everything about him is manufactured and, you know, put out there. A lot of these big uh creators, look at the news, man. Look, when you watch the news, you see these people reading off the news talking so casually about somebody getting shot, dead, and I look at them and I'm I'm so zoned out from the news because it's so full of just misery all the time. And I look at the person reading and just go, "What are you like? You have less depth than a failed sex change surgery.

[00:37:38]Right? You're the angry inch. There's nothing. There's no there's no it's just surface level nothing. Like, who are you when you walk out of the studio? You're so curated to just read this nonsense that is [ __ ] handed to you. You have no no [ __ ] quams. No, just you're gross. You're just a shill. You're just like you're not even talent. Like in the TV industry, people are called talent, right? They're not This isn't talent.

[00:38:05]This is a carefully curated [ __ ] blank canvas that just spits out [ __ ] that's fed to them. Highlight reels replacing reality. Think about this. Even though when I film Walk with me, yeah, I film Walk with me and what I try and do with it is and I'm going to show you if you if you are a patron over on the new Walk with Me channel on the Swear Box, you're going to see a lot of how I film the stuff because when you watch a lot of YouTube content that's travel stuff, you'll see these scenes, right, of people like talking to the camera and then the next scene is a wide shot of them walking past the camera.

[00:38:42]All this [ __ ] takes time to set the camera up and then film yourself walking past. Whenever you're watching a travel vlog and they're driving in a car and then the next shot is an overhead shot of the car driving, they've got to like set that camera or the drone, drive the car back, drive past it, come back, get out of the car, get the drone, right? Highlight reels replacing reality to give you the sense of travel. And this happens too just in everyday uh content talking about these influencers on Instagram and stuff feeding you this.

[00:39:17]Today I I don't know if you've seen those videos of women who oh man these Instagram videos where it's like today I got up and I had scrambled eggs and I did my face cream and then I did this and they talk in this really drone.

[00:39:29]They're like trades.

[00:39:31]You must have seen one of these videos on Instagram and then I had my apricot uh then I did my fitness routine and they talk in this droney [ __ ] like dead voice.

[00:39:42]You know, I'm telling you, you know, they're thinking about unaliving themselves all the time. I'm tr trust me on that. You know, rage bait personas.

[00:39:53]You've got these personas online in social media who their whole thing is to get PEOPLE UPSET, RIGHT? AH, THEY THEY'RE JUST GOING to push buttons all the time to get uh this is their online mask. And you know, once somebody somebody finds anything on them, digs under their mask and attacks them, they will crumble like godamn nothing because that's their mask, right? Their mask is I'm just going to target everybody else.

[00:40:18]There's a whole lot of these channels on YouTube, right, where they just make videos attacking people constantly. This YouTube content creator is a [ __ ] [ __ ] This one's an [ __ ] the uh internet anarchist. He's he's one of them, right?

[00:40:32]You look him up. The internet anarchist.

[00:40:35]Uh internet anarchist.

[00:40:40]Look at this guy's content. I'm telling you, man. Look at the content. Every video is just this guy's a liar. This guy's a fraud. This guy's stupid. This [ __ ] is an idiot. He's an idiot. This one's how to destroy life ruined.

[00:40:58]Right. And you know this guy when you see him on camera, he's the most insecure, sexless [ __ ] And if somebody made a video about him, it's over. It's over for this guy. And uh he's got 1.8 million subs. Watching this guy just destroy people's lives. Totally unaccountable. Just, you know, hey, his whole thing is built. That's his mask, right? His mask is he knows he's a bag of [ __ ] and he's just going to attack other people. It's a diversion, right? Hey, look over here. This guy's bad. This guy's bad. This guy's bad. It's like, hang on a minute. I'd love to find out what you're doing cuz I'll bet it's really bad. If you're projecting on everybody else so much and making money from it, I'll bet you are hiding some [ __ ] [ __ ] man. You know, this is the thing. It's the old homophobia thing, right? Anybody who so loudly yells, "Gay people should be killed." It's like, yeah, you're scared of being killed, aren't you?

[00:41:54]Influencer perfectionism. This is a thing, too.

[00:41:59]Influencer perfectionism. People want Oh god, I'm see it's happening. You getting to see it live? I'm spitting all over the camera again.

[00:42:07]We're going to have to have a halftime wipe down of the camera or the uh See, I get too excited on this show and I end up spitting everywhere.

[00:42:18]There we go. That'll that'll clear up. I guess it's interesting to watch watch uh people just try and decimate other human beings and destroy their livelihoods. I don't know. It doesn't make sense to me.

[00:42:32]I I wouldn't know what to do if some if the internet anarchist decided to like delve into my life and try and destroy me. Like what's he getting out of it?

[00:42:41]It's so weird, man. Uh influence of perfectionism. It doesn't exist, right?

[00:42:46]I'm I'm far from perfect. I'm I make mistakes all the time and I'm more than happy to tell you about them because I'm a [ __ ] and you should embrace the [ __ ] Authenticity becoming a performance, right?

[00:43:01]Authenticity becoming a performance. So yeah, you can Mr. Beast is a little bit like that for social stuff. This whole warm fluffy character and it's like but it's a character man. It's not like, you know, it's a Oh, wow. He g he's just a modernday Oprah, really. Hello, Barry. A lot going on. All right. I kind of thought so. Talking points. What do we got here? Uh, filters literally becoming a mask. And And this is the other thing, too, like physical filters now on social media, right? The people whose skin has been smoothed so much they look like a [ __ ] They look like an orange.

[00:43:43]You You've seen them. I've even guilty of doing it myself. There's some old photos of my Facebook and I look at it and go, "What was I thinking?" Cuz it was new technology, right? And you're trying to smooth out the wrinkles. And now face filters are everywhere. And you can even go into AI and just, you know, you don't even need one of those apps. I feel bad for people who are buying those apps on iOS and getting a subscription to smooth out their face. You can just take any photo now and just upload it to Grock and go smooth my skin. You'll do it for free, you idiots. You don't need to uh Anyway, algorithms reward extremes. They reward um uh performative stuff.

[00:44:22]People crafting identities for validation. Yes, people creating these characters to feed you that there's somebody else that they're not. And the big one is uh for masks is anonymous cruelty. Right?

[00:44:40]We talked about this with this masks create confidence in people who wouldn't have the balls face to face to say the [ __ ] that they say online. Absolutely they wouldn't. You know, there's a lot of that right now. Trust me, I get emails all the time threatening to [ __ ] kill me for I don't know why somebody's [ __ ] got getting off on it. Some people are more honest online than in real life. Others are completely fictional. And uh there's been a lot of social media influencers who've been exposed cuz here's the thing. You build up a lie about yourself. Eventually it's going to come out. You can't you can't maintain a fake persona forever offline. You got to walk in the real [ __ ] world, man. And there's people out there to see you and go, "What the fuck?"

[00:45:33]All right. Relationship masks. This is a really [ __ ] up one cuz relationship masks normally work around um cheating and you know I I like I said earlier I think uh this our human the species we have a lot of trauma unadressed trauma throughout just just generations and generations and generations as far back as you can you can't even remember right um and if it's not addressed then it just becomes a built-in structural part of of most people's upbringing, right? This trauma that you just try to like I said, man, a lot of uh assault that happens uh when you're growing up is from family members. It never gets addressed cuz anyway, pretending to be someone early in a relationship. This is one of the major reasons why relationships break down, why marriages end so quick, cuz people they they they meet some some guy meets a woman or the other way around or a guy meets a guy, girl meets a girl, trans or whatever.

[00:46:36]You meet somebody, you think they're out of your league. You [ __ ] build a persona around yourself and then you got to live up to this thing with this person and you put you put some two people in a confined space, you're [ __ ] You're done, man. People are going to find out that you are full of [ __ ] very very quickly. That's why when I used to meet women before I came out, I'd just tell them on the first date, "Yeah, I think I'm trans and I like wearing women's clothing." And then I gave them the option to [ __ ] off now or or maybe hang out and give it a go, right?

[00:47:09]It's just better to do it. And I probably lost a whole lot of relationships that probably would have gone for three years and ended and ruined me because I lied to them. So, you know, relationships, I guess you got to be you just got to be honest. And look, how many people I was guilty of it. I married somebody who I really wasn't that attracted to. And so, it didn't last. She wasn't I just I admit it. And I used to think it too.

[00:47:37]You know, she's not really my type, but I'll marry her. Whatever. It was dumb.

[00:47:42]What a stupid mistake. And you hide flaws in yourself to secure love or secure approval, right? Or this one, saying, "I'm fine."

[00:47:53]You know, whenever somebody says that in a relationship, it's like, "Yeah, all right. You're clearly not." There's a problem becoming the version you think your partner wants. This is very interesting, right? Because you've got you've got people out there who are constant fixer uppers in relationships.

[00:48:12]If you've ever had one of those. Yeah.

[00:48:14]And they just go through relationships.

[00:48:16]Every relationship ends the same way.

[00:48:18]They they hook up with you and then they just make it their mission to try and change you. And it's like you're manufacturing my mask. Like I I met you and didn't have a mask. You wanted to date me and now you're trying to manufacture a mask that you want me to wear for for your sanity. If you don't [ __ ] like how I am, please do me the satisfaction and [ __ ] off. Just tell me.

[00:48:45]I don't want to waste time. Who's got time? Time is so precious, right? Um and and it goes the other way around, too.

[00:48:54]You know, people trying to uh manufacture the face, the the the the personality that you think they want because they put it out there and you or you think you're not good enough.

[00:49:07]This comes in avoiding uh difficult conversations, pretending that interests align and all this stuff, going along the things that you instead of just being honest going, I don't I don't really like that [ __ ] I don't really like your music. It sucks. But, you know, hey, you have at it. I don't have to sit here and and listen to it. You can't have separate [ __ ] lives and be together. It's not that hard. Performing strength while emotionally collapsing inside. This is the thing, too, in relationships. you [ __ ] put on this face, you're dying inside and and you're putting on this act and trust me that mask, we're going back to what it said before. The weight of wearing the mask is just going to end up [ __ ] burying you in the ground. It will that'll be the thing. The mask becomes heavy after a while.

[00:49:53]And over accommodating or uh avoiding abandonment, these kind of things, right? And it all comes back to there's a lot in this. There's trauma. Why people do it? Trauma. Fear of being left out of other people having relationships. All your friends are getting married. I should get married, too. I'll just take the [ __ ] thing that I I really don't want. And then wear a mask to please it. Low selfworth desire for acceptance. Again, that's very heavy. The strong person mask.

[00:50:24]Hello, Ed Zalinsky. The strong person mask. Listen, when I worked in the sex industry, right, let me tell you, the biggest the the highest percentage of customers I would have as a trans sex worker were massive, musly dudes.

[00:50:40]Massive dudes, right? And do you know what they all wanted from me? They all wanted to lay on their back.

[00:50:48]Think about that. Think about that.

[00:50:50]Think Think about that. these guys [ __ ] they're doing everything to look like the most manly the most outrageously manly creature and then you get them in the bedroom and they're they're on their back going please [ __ ] me in the bum performative masks man you can go to any gym and I'm telling you look at the Chip and Dales women used to go to the Chip and Dales and be like throwing their panties at these guys who when they get off the stage they're all you know what I'm saying the strong person mask.

[00:51:25]The strong person mask.

[00:51:27]Or you know the people like Andrew Tate and all that kind of stuff. You know they they put on this act like you know I'm I'm the big alpha male. I'm the big tough guy. It's like you're not dude.

[00:51:37]You're you're not. Ask any woman who's [ __ ] you. Uh or the person that everybody relies on and you know inside you're crippled with [ __ ] I can't I can't maintain this kind of thing. I can't do it.

[00:51:50]or you know the thing that men used to be you know expected to be don't show emotion. Don't show emotion and that that's just leading to disaster you know uh cuz you're emotional. You got to let it out somewhere. You put on the strong man all the time. It's going to come out somewhere and it kind of could come out with you murdering somebody. You don't know how these things come out, right?

[00:52:13]You bury things and the if you bury them long enough, they're gonna come out sometimes in really [ __ ] ways, right? Like you go on a like mass thing, right?

[00:52:27]Look at incelss. Nearly every incel ends up right because you bury stuff. You you you push it down. You wear this mask, right? Terrible stuff. The performer mask. Oh, there's other stuff I could cover here. run out of time. The uh or you know somebody who never asks for help.

[00:52:48]Sometimes you're going to have to you're going to have to. There are times when you need help. You can't do it all by yourself, right? Uh that mask you um let's move on because we got we're pretty close to the end here. The performer mask extremely relevant for creators and musicians. Now the performer mask again not necessarily a malicious thing, right? Uh because you're a performer. Remember, it's in the word performance.

[00:53:19]You're an actor.

[00:53:22]You're an actor, right? It's it's a part of the performance. So, you're kind of getting off off with this one. Well, not getting off or Lori's always getting off.

[00:53:33]>> I got to get off.

[00:53:34]>> Right. So, but uh this you're kind of off the hook with this one, right?

[00:53:38]Because you're a performer. Extremely relevant. Entertainer mode becomes permanent. This is where it gets scary.

[00:53:43]Look what happened to Jim uh Kerry when he was in that film that uh the uh what's his name? The comedian. He he to he he totally lived that role. Andy Andy I can't think of his last name. He lived that role and he virtually became that dude, right? Andy some Andy Kaufman.

[00:54:02]Thank you.

[00:54:04]And it probably, you know, it can become a problem if you're like turning into that because people can fall down those holes and become like you, we've all known people, right, who like take on some kind they find some some comedian or something then they just start acting like them like are you going to stop at some point? You know you're not that person. We've all met those kind of people and feeling the pressure to always be on and keep that that performance up. You can't, right?

[00:54:34]Look at the celebrities who are out and about just getting a hot dog on a Saturday and you got the paparazzi filming them going, "Look, they're wearing tracksuit pants."

[00:54:45]So, what do you want them to do, though?

[00:54:49]What What do you expect them to They're [ __ ] people, you idiots.

[00:54:54]The expectation to always be on is That's different, right? Cuz they don't want to They're not acting right now.

[00:55:00]They're just taking the kids for a walk to get an ice cream. But these paparazzi, man, they [ __ ] Oh, we're going to [ __ ] make you look like [ __ ] It's like, guess what? Everybody who's not on camera and not got a face full of makeup to do their scene or whatever it is looks like [ __ ] when they're taking a day off. We all look like [ __ ] All right, Shelly. Hello. Um, it is what it is. Audience is expecting consistency even when you're struggling. Yeah, I know some creators. I I know some creators who are going through some hard [ __ ] right? And they're not talking about it on their channel. They're not giving their viewers.

[00:55:41]They're not telling them and they're just everything's normal. Everything's norm. That's not healthy, man. It's not healthy. And you know what? I think you I think you uh get better engagement and you get a better understanding with the people who follow you if you let them know, yeah, this this thing went down.

[00:56:00]So just in case you think things, right, cuz it opens up dialogue and and it in it makes it less of a parasocial thing and and more like, oh [ __ ] I'm going through that, too. And you you feel less like this person's some kind of untouchable, right? like the newscaster that you don't give a [ __ ] about it. It just reads the [ __ ] Um, going live when mentally exhausting. Sometimes you got to do it, right? You just got to do it. I do it. But I'm going to tell you when I'm tired. Smiling through anxiety.

[00:56:30]Hey. Uh, yeah. Uh, turning pain into content.

[00:56:37]I don't mind turning my own pain into content. Other people's pain I disagree with. Uh, feeling guilty for disappearing offline. Oh, I go through this all the time. For the longest time, I used to think, "Oh, [ __ ] If I don't live stream today, I'm going to disappoint everybody. And then I realized you guys don't give a [ __ ] Well, you'll be worried if I just disappeared. But of course, it's not a thing, right?

[00:56:57]Why do humans wear masks? Let's end on this. We got four minutes. Then we got Pete John's coming up. He's doing your music live.

[00:57:06]Survival across all these things we've talked about today. Across all these things we've covered today. And you know it's been a a good uh collection of uh different situations that we have to or choose to wear masks or other people choose to put masks on us.

[00:57:29]Survival to adapt to environments especially in work. Humans are social creatures right and rejection historically means uh puts us in a a danger mode like I I feel threatened. I I don't want to be feel rejected. Protection. Masks protect the wounded parts of ourselves at times, right? People hide insecurity behind masks. Shame, trauma, fear. There's a whole lot of reasons people wear masks.

[00:57:58]Control. This is the bad stuff. And look, the thumbnail. Yeah. Right. I used to work in the industry and my job was control. And that's why I have gear like that, right? And I used to like control these people. These are people who in their day jobs had a lot of control.

[00:58:15]Judges, football players, police officers, politicians, lot of control.

[00:58:21]But they would come to me and they'd want to wear that mask and that thing and just be totally And then there's criminals. Can't forget the criminals.

[00:58:30]Uh control. So control is a thing. If people can't see the mask, they can't hurt the real you, right?

[00:58:38]Validation.

[00:58:40]Some masks are built entirely around seeking approval. And then there's conditioning, right? So the last one, conditioning, childhood messaging. Don't cry. Be a good girl. Man up. Stop being weird. What are you a pansy? What are you, a [ __ ] All this kind of stuff. This [ __ ] Chicken, you know, all that kind of stuff. That's conditioning, right? That then you wear the mask. I'm not a chicken. If if you say I have to jump into this lake with 30 alligators in it. [ __ ] yeah. Let's go. So we can be friends.

[00:59:16]All right. If that's what it takes. How do you spot it? The last thing. How do you spot it? Inconsistency.

[00:59:23]Inconsistency. Personality cont uh constantly changes depending on who's around. You can see it right in certain social groups. Overperformance. When people are over performative.

[00:59:35]Image obsession. When people start hitting themselves in the face with hammers, that's a mask.

[00:59:42]Emotional avoidance, deflecting vulnerability with humor, anger, intellect, sarcasm, or silence. Chronic people pleasing.

[00:59:52]Yeah, it's okay to piss people off, right?

[00:59:55]It's okay to have people not like you.

[00:59:57]It's all good because there's heaps of people out there.

[01:00:01]There's always a new people around the corner. Just because one doesn't like you, there's a new people just over there and things are too perfect.

[01:00:11]Too perfect. Normally a mask. All right, I think that's about it. If you enjoyed the content, hit the like, subscribe, all the fancy stuff. You know the drill.

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