Doctor Reveals BRUTAL Truth About Your Body

Added: 2026-05-05

[00:00:00]One of the things I was quite surprised by, I'll be honest, is when I went on your YouTube channel, >> one of your very high performing videos, I think it had 31 million views was about enlarging your penis.

[00:00:13]>> Yes.

[00:00:16]>> I didn't know that so many men were interested in ways to enlarge their penis. Well, it's interesting because when you look at the data, more men want to so I let's say most guys would love to be taller, right? If you're an average height man, most guys would love to be taller, right?

[00:00:32]>> Yeah. True.

[00:00:33]>> Um more men want to have a longer penis than they want to be taller.

[00:00:37]>> Really?

[00:00:37]>> Mhm.

[00:00:40]>> Wow. Wow.

[00:00:43]Why is this?

[00:00:45]>> Well, I think you know a lot of people um it starts at a young age. I have sons, right? And so I see it like they talk about their penis in such a way like very early in life like oh my god my penis is so big or it should be so big or whatever and and there and it's like this it becomes this like this society thing about who's got a bigger penis like it's very interesting but there's a lot of pressure to feel like and and a lot of discussion around bigger is better right it's it's talked about in media it's subtly joked about it is um everywhere you look people are talking about like being wellendowed as being better. But interestingly, on my podcast, we interviewed the the guy who has the largest medically verified penis. It's I think it's like 13 or 14 inches in length. And um he actually has a lot of trouble because it's so large that people don't want to have sex with him and it's uncomfortable for them. And so, like, it's not all roses and sunshine on the other side. But the reality is that many people feel what's called small penis anxiety. and they they even if they have a normalsized penis, they feel consumed with how the size of their penis is. And so that's why this video did so well. I naively had no idea how many people it would resonate with because I'm not a guy, right? And I see patients all the time, but at that time in my career, people weren't coming to me to talk about it.

[00:02:05]And so I um I realized like there's so many people quietly feeling insecure.

[00:02:10]And we talk a lot about women having body image issues. Men do too, right?

[00:02:15]They feel insecure about the size of their penis because also they're seeing guys on pornography who have very well-endowed fallaces and you know they chose to be porn actors for a reason, right? Because they are naturally wellendowed and so you're comparing yourself to the outliers and the average penis is about 5.3 to 5.5 in erect. But when you look at like what do women want, they will say on average they want a six inch penis. But when you look at like the kind of sex toys they buy and they did this study because they were looking at people who they were trying to decide what kind of when they were developing fallaces for trans people like they they reconstruct fallacuses for they wanted to they were making them too girthy and they like well we need to figure out what girth women want. And so they looked at like what women buy on online, like what is the most purchased sex toy, and it's actually pretty close to average?

[00:03:09]>> Do you say 5.2 in?

[00:03:10]>> 5.2 to 5.5, depending on the study you're looking at. Yeah.

[00:03:13]>> Correct.

[00:03:14]>> Mhm.

[00:03:15]>> H. And what size do men think the average is?

[00:03:20]>> Oh, they think it's like six or seven inches.

[00:03:22]>> Oh, okay. So, they think the average is bigger. And also, how does age come into this? Because I'm presuming that when I get older, my penis is going to shrink or something. If you have good blood flow to your penis, it shouldn't shrink.

[00:03:31]So, like I said earlier, if you stop having nighttime erections or you're not having erections, now you're no longer getting blood flow to your penis and it will shrink over time. Also, if you're gaining weight, it will appear that it's shrinking because you're getting more fat over here. So, if you think about your penis here, this is the fat right above this bone. And as this fat gets more and more, you're seeing less and less of the penis.

[00:03:55]>> And is there a way to enlarge the penis?

[00:03:57]So there are many ways that have been uh tried, discussed, um attempted. So there's definitely surgeries that you can get, but they there's not a lot of surgeons who do a lot of penile lengthening surgeries and they have lots of complications, like very high rates of complications because the penis is a very vascular organ. And the thing is that when you have the tiniest difference on your penis, you notice it, right? Like I have guys come to like the tiniest little thing on their penis and they're like, "Is this okay?" Like this is new. And like luckily it's nothing, right? But I'm like they notice it. You notice it when something's wrong. So imagine you have a surgery and now something changes, right? So it is it is really difficult to sort of replicate exactly a normal penis when you're lengthening it through surgery. So I don't recommend surgery for lengthening penis. There is a safer way and that has been shown to help and that's using a traction device. So a traction device, we have one here. This is one brand. You can get many of these online. And you can put your penis in this device.

[00:05:02]>> It really I like I feel like um I get like shivers when I watch you do this to this penis.

[00:05:07]>> So you would wrap it. It would be more comfortable than just putting this like directly on your penis.

[00:05:12]>> For you guys that can't see, she's clamping the end of the penis into this >> into this device. And then you sort of lengthen it uh extend it with this 30 minutes twice a day for this particular device. They've actually done some research on this one. 30 minutes twice a day and you there's like a whole protocol on their website and it does show improvements in length about two centimeters but it is a commitment to increasing length and to doing this process.

[00:05:37]>> So just on those numbers 2 cm increase over what period of time and does that >> or about 3 to 6 months depending yeah >> and is it permanent?

[00:05:44]>> So that's all we don't know. I mean most of the studies stop at you know once they get their results and we don't know that if you stop will it just revert back to normal? I don't know. And so the other thing about this particular traction device that's night is if you have a curvature in the penis like you develop something called Peron's disease, this device can actually curve a little bit away from if you like let's say you have um indentation on the top of the penis, it can actually bend away from that and it can help straighten out the penis. So, that's actually a a a really nice utilization for it because um for some people that can be really traumatic and devastating to have a change in the way your penis appears because it starts curving all of a sudden. And this is safe and effective and you can have bruising. It can be slightly uncomfortable, but it's you're not going to really hurt yourself uh too much by doing something like this.

[00:06:33]>> I thought a curved penis would hit the G-spot better. Yeah, sometimes a slight curve can be beneficial for some people, but again, I think like when you notice like there's a a dramatic change. You do that more. Come >> rip the end off.

[00:06:48]>> It's okay. Um, >> I'm just trying to figure out how this works. So, I get the penis. I put it >> through. Yeah.

[00:06:57]>> Clamp it down.

[00:06:58]>> And you want to put it at your normal.

[00:06:59]And then you'll just slightly advance the the length. You're not going to pull crazy. easier. It's going to do a little bit of traction so it's not uncomfort.

[00:07:06]It's slight like just a slight tension.

[00:07:08]It shouldn't be like like that. It should be much less tension, but it is I mean they can vary in price from $100 to $500. So, it's a onetime cost. It is not, like I said, not dangerous. What is dangerous is when people try to do something that became popular on TikTok called jelking. And jelking is where you use your your hands and you make like an okay sign with your fingers and you're like stretching the penis with your hands. And this can be dangerous because you can create micro tears in the penis.

[00:07:40]And we in the urology community have seen plenty of patients who have now developed erectile dysfunction after doing jelking because they've now created damage to their penis. And so I I really caution people because this there is so much despair around sexual function, around penal health that people are willing to try things and they might really hurt themselves. No joke, I had a patient the other day asked me if he should drink hydrogen peroxide because he saw some ad that said hydrogen peroxide will fix your erections. And I said please don't. um this is you know but he really was like seriously earnestly asking me this question and I you know I didn't want to shame him by any means and I was like no you know this is actually not safe and it's not going to help you and there's no pill there's no drink there's no anything that's going to give you a longer penis >> what are the cases that you see that break your heart >> you know I I've seen so there I've seen patients who've had surgery to lengthen their penis and they are above average when they at baseline and they have these surgeries to lengthen their penis and then they have a bad outcome and now their penis is disfigured forever. And that's what really um you never forget that because that person knowing the risks and benefits perhaps made a choice and that choice didn't go the way they wanted and now they have to live with that for the rest of their life and that's really sad.

[00:09:03]>> Gosh, imagine that. Christ.

[00:09:07]>> Yeah.

[00:09:08]>> Well, and it just it doesn't work anymore. Well, like the one patient I'm thinking of, um, he, uh, had a like it it basically developed a scar all at the top of the penis. So, it was like disfigured essentially. Um, and so it was it was really sad.

[00:09:27]>> Before I hit puberty, I definitely had a penis anxiety because I was the youngest in my year at school and I I was the I was short, very very short, very small.

[00:09:37]I remember what it felt like to like hide my hide my dick >> when I was around like guys in the changing room and stuff like that. Um, you know, after puberty things I changed.

[00:09:49]>> And what I want people to understand, I think more than anything is that you don't need a long penis to pleasure a partner. We just talked about how the clitoris is the is the most reliable route to orgasm, right? And so you don't need a penis to stimulate the clitoris.

[00:10:04]You can use your mouth, your fingers, you can use a toy. There's so many ways to help your partner achieve pleasure.

[00:10:13]And and yes, of course, there are a small subset of women who really appreciate a large fallus, but the large majority of women, if you look at survey data, are very happy with the size of their partner, are very content with average or slightly above average or slightly below average as long as they are feeling intimate and they're feeling pleasure. And so I think that there's a misnomer that that people think if I have a longer penis I'm going to be able to pleasure my partner more >> as it relates to women. Is there different size vaginas?

[00:10:43]>> Yeah. So the a so just like there's averages there's averages in females and so average vag vaginal length is about 3 and 1/2 in. So when women get aroused it expands and widens and lengthens to about double. So the average woman can easily accommodate the average penis, maybe slightly larger than average. And so I think generally speaking, knowing that like you will be able to fit in the average woman and you will be able to please her with the size of your fallus.

[00:11:12]And like I said, penetration is is not as important. In fact, only about 85% of women orgasm through penetration alone.

[00:11:19]They need clitoreral stimulation to achieve climax. And so again, penetration feels good. I I tell guys it's like somebody rubbing your testicles or your paranneeium. That feels good, but it's not going to make you orgasm. And so penetrating, yeah, if you're getting a lot of clitoreral stimulation because maybe she has a thinner, you know, her clitoreral shaft is closer to the vaginal canal, maybe, you know, the size of the penis matters more. But for a lot of women, it's not going to be sufficient and they're going to need some directed clitoreral stimulation. Why do different vaginas feel different to and I guess the the inverse is also the case where like different penises will feel remarkably different even if they're the same size roughly and you can have sex with somebody and go it feels really good.

[00:12:05]>> I mean I think again it's how you it's like the emotion in the ocean right like how you use your so let's let's talk about the vaginas first. So, when a vagina is um has more pelvic floor strength, they may be able to like tense around the penis better, like they may be able to sort of grab the penis with their pelvic floor a little stronger versus someone who doesn't. And that's where I think some people get worried when I say, "Oh, you need to relax your pelvic floor." They're like, "Oh, I don't want to be looser." Right? And that's not going to happen if you have a normally functioning pelvic floor. If you're >> So, the penis is going in here, right?

[00:12:38]>> Correct. So, if I if you're a woman and you do pelvic floor exercises, then you feel tighter.

[00:12:44]>> Well, you're you're able to contract and squeeze those muscles during sex better around the penis. Yes. But we don't want you to be tighter. We want you to be able to squeeze the muscles and relax the muscles. Use them like a normal muscle like your bicep. You squeeze and relax. Squeeze and relax. We don't want it to be constantly squeezed.

[00:13:01]>> But to the man, it will feel tighter.

[00:13:02]>> You will perceive it as tighter, but it will not be that she's actually tighter.

[00:13:06]it just means that maybe her pelvic floor muscles are doing a better job. So that's for the female. For the male, it's it's generally like how the penis moves and how the positioning is and where it's uh it may be girth that's different. It may be the way that you're moving in the vaginal canal and that may be why it feels different.

[00:13:26]>> They often say that if you've got big feet or big hands, you know, like people think you have a big penis.

[00:13:32]>> Not necessarily true. So there's um there's actually no evidence that big hands, big feet correlate to female size. There's one study in Japan where they looked at nose length. And so the longer your nose is from the the bridge down to the tip, that is potent, at least the Japanese population that they studied was correlated with the length of the penis.

[00:13:56]>> People also think tall people have big penises.

[00:13:59]>> Not necessarily. H >> but nose length there's some correlation in a study in Japan.

[00:14:05]>> Yes.

[00:14:06]>> Okay. I was just checking if my nose was okay. Um the last thing I want to talk to you about is >> and how this relates to everything we've talked about today. Desire, attraction, sex. Is there any early data emerging that shows any correlations?

[00:14:20]>> Yeah. So ompic there's sort of benefits and there's potential downsides. So the benefits are that when you're on ompic we see improvements in metabolic diseases. they have improvements in diabetes, improvements in heart disease, improvements in overall health, right?

[00:14:35]And so that is going to mean that your blood vessels are healthier. You're more able to get blood flow to your genitals.

[00:14:41]You're going to have stronger sexual function and arousal, right? So that's great. The other thing is that you are losing weight, so you feel better. You feel more like your body image is is feeling good about yourself. Also, for men, remember I talked about this fat pad right above your penis? that's getting smaller and so now you can see more of your penis. So you may have heard of ompic penis where people are saying, "Oh, my penis is getting longer." It's not actually that your penis is getting longer. It's that this fat is going down. So now you're seeing more of your penis >> which makes it look longer.

[00:15:13]>> Yes. Exactly.

[00:15:14]Yes. Exactly. Well, it is reality to the person looking. Right. Um so those are all great things and I think that's wonderful. Now the other part of it is ompic works on the brain and it works on the reward pathway. So you now see food and you don't feel like it's that much of a reward. So you don't chase after, you have less desire for food. There's emerging data that we're seeing people on these medications, these GLP1s, have less desire for, let's say, gambling, let's say shopping, let's say, you know, alcohol, smoking, whatever it is, right?

[00:15:45]And so there's a theoretical because it works on the same pathways that it could also decrease desire for sex. And I think the thing that you know there's so many people on these medications there's so many metabolic benefits that I worry that people may not even realize that their sexual desire is changing right they might just be like oh you know I'm I'm eating less I look great.

[00:16:06]Everything's wonderful but like slowly in the background they're like oh maybe my desire is less and maybe it's creating discord in the relationship.

[00:16:13]Hard to say because we don't have data yet. So yeah, I think it's just something that you should be aware of that if you start feeling like you have less desire for sex or maybe you're like, man, I just really don't feel into anything, talk to your doctor cuz maybe your dose is just too high and maybe it just needs to come down a little bit.

[00:16:30]And again, we don't know yet, but I do worry about this because I feel like we're we're going to start seeing it.

[00:16:36]>> Is it possible to do studies on this type of thing?

[00:16:38]>> Absolutely. So you can take people starting Ozmpi and you can say hey here is or or any GLP1 you know there's questionnaires so like for women there's the female sexual function index for men there's Adam which is a questionnaire about testosterone but you could there's sexual desire questionnaires that you can use um and you can take it at the beginning and then you can take it as they increase their dose and see if there's a change right in terms of their sexual desire >> you said at the start about knowing how to talk to your partner I think like intimacy desire maybe the conversations like with your partner, how to have that conversation when there's a problem.

[00:17:11]>> Yeah. I I wish I could say there was like a script that you can follow and it's going to work. But everyone's so different. But I think the important thing is like not giving up because what happens is because we don't ever talk about sex. When you bring it up, it's immediately like, "Oh my god, is something wrong? Did I do something wrong? Um do you not like me? Am I not attractive?" Right? You're automatically going down the rabbit hole of worry and concern. And instead of dealing with it, you're supposed to shut it down. No, I don't want to talk about it. Right? Um, especially if like maybe you haven't connected intimately in a while and like you just don't want to deal with that or you're you have other stressors in life.

[00:17:44]Maybe you're not feeling like very good about yourself and so you're like, "Well, I don't really feel sexy so I don't want to have sex." And so I think really understanding that whatever reaction you get from your partner when you do talk to them, it's not about you.

[00:17:56]It's just usually about how they're feeling. And so don't stress about that.

[00:18:00]And two, like it's anything that is worth having requires work. So having a good sex life, having intimacy over the long haul with someone, if you are committed to that relationship, it is worth working for. It is worth dealing with a little bit of discord to get there. And so I tell people when you want to talk about sex, first of all, don't do it in the bedroom. Don't do it right before or after sex. Do it at a time where you are both calm, relaxed.

[00:18:26]Maybe you're out for a walk, maybe you're in the car, so you're not like looking directly at each other. You're kind of parallel. And always start with a positive thing. like I, you know, I really enjoy this about our relationship and I would love if we could talk about this and and maybe they're going to be like, uh, I'm not ready for that. And you say, maybe we could come up with a time where we can talk about this that works for you, right? Let them feel like they're coming to the conversation with like they're not being ambushed or like talking about something. And then be curious. I think the big thing is like being curious like what's going on with you? Like I want to I want to I want to be there for you. I love you. you know, I miss what we used to have or I miss this about us. And I think that there's always these misconceptions. I hear it all the time, right? It'll be like this partner only wants sex and this partner never wants sex and you know, and that's it. Like that's the end of the conversation. But the reality is that there it's it's somewhere in between. So typically women tend to view sex as like added stress sometimes when they're already stressed. Like they're like, "Oh, it's just one more thing to do."

[00:19:27]Whereas men look at it as a stress relief. So, one, you're coming at it from two different angles. The other thing is men aren't really taught how to be intimate. And so, for a lot of men, sex is their version of intimacy. Like, that's how they connect. That's how they feel connected with a partner. And so, often times when they're doing these initiations or attempts at sex, it feels like they're being greedy or it feels like they're they just want sex. And I think we have to reframe how we look at that. Like, sex is not just sex. It is intimacy. It is being together connecting with another human being. So how do we do that right? And like how do we make that sex worth having? We get into this frame where we have sex as like in a hurried quick like just got to get this done way. I just need to get an orgasm. I just need to get a release.

[00:20:13]But sex is supposed to be something we look forward to. It's supposed to be something that we're excited about. And so we have to build that in. We have to sort of like build the environment where sex can can happen. So it may mean like, hey, we are affectionate during the day.

[00:20:27]Maybe we send a lovey text message.

[00:20:30]Maybe um you know, I give you a hug. I caress your back. I um tell you you look beautiful. I I'm I'm showing you gratitude for how much I care about you in other ways. I think just really taking the time to understand why your partner feels the way they do.

[00:20:43]>> I'm curious about on that communication point about how different genders in heterosexual couples have different sort of taboos and things that are just a bit sensitive. Um, and I was looking at the the variance between men and women, and the the top one for men was around performance anxiety. So, like admitting to things like erectile dysfunction because it feels like it's so intrinsically connected to masculinity >> and you feel like a failure as a man if you can't get a erection and pleasure your partner, right?

[00:21:10]>> And then for women, it was talking about um prioritizing pleasure and asking for more foreplay or um, you know, specific specific stimulation stimulation around the clitoris or something like that. um because they don't want to be labeled as highmaintenance or too much hard work, etc. >> And it's interesting that on that walk with your partner, there are different things that will trigger each of you.

[00:21:32]>> Mhm.

[00:21:33]>> Um other ones for women were pain and discomfort, bringing that up. Um body image and the mental load, explaining why you aren't in the mood. And other ones for men are expressing nonsexual needs because it might be seen as unmanly, unmanly, boundaries and rejection, communicating when they don't want sex. And lastly, the script which is discussing fantasies that deviate from the norm.

[00:21:52]>> So I want to talk about fantasy but before that I would just say that you know it because of social media we're in a place and I get text messages from my husband 24 hours a day with like not 24 hours a day but like all waking hours with reals and videos. Oh, I think you'd like this. I think you'd like this. You should check this out. And it's like his way of like connecting and like hey let's talk about this later. Like this is fun. And so I I tell my patients like send your partner a a video that you saw on social media that might help them understand like why this is important to you. Maybe send them a video send them this podcast, right? Say like, "Hey, I watched this. It was great." You know, um and I I learned so much. And honestly, so many patients bring their partners to me. Whether it's women bringing male partners or men bringing female partners, they come to me and they say, "Look, like I want you to meet this doctor and I want you to talk to them." And like it's beautiful to see that. Like I love it because it's it's so deeply caring that they like brought their partner and they want them to feel good and they just want to figure out what's going on and like I think it's so lovely to to to find someone who's so invested in making sure that sex is good for you, right?

[00:22:55]>> As men though, we're just not good at talking about this stuff, >> right? But you know, I think you can't use that as a crutch.

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