Ep 32: “a brass FYI is a prostitute”

Added: 2026-06-02

[00:00:05]I just [music] you're [music] >> Hello. Welcome back. Welcome [music] back to our podcast. Welcome back to the place where we used to go.

[00:00:28]>> [laughter] >> Guys, how are we? How is it?

[00:00:32]>> How's it hanging? [laughter] >> Remember in school?

[00:00:37]>> Long and dangly.

[00:00:38]>> Long and hairy. Mine was.

[00:00:40]>> I've heard long and dangly.

[00:00:43]>> Anyway, we've honestly [clears throat] been trying to set this up for 10 minutes. Um, which in the grand scheme of things isn't long.

[00:00:54][laughter] >> No, it isn't. [clears throat] >> It's been 10 whole minutes. Could [snorts] have been longer with you faffing about with your jumper and hair bands. Um but yeah, we're here. It's a Sunday.

[00:01:07]>> Oh, you had to layer.

[00:01:08]>> Sorry, guys.

[00:01:09]>> Did you not always get to layer?

[00:01:10]>> I know I do. Um we have had a semi relaxing weekend.

[00:01:19]>> Yeah. Yeah.

[00:01:21]>> Yeah. because last week we were obviously on the hu and let's just say we really needed to sort of check into TLC hotel. This week um >> I personally didn't feel normal until Friday.

[00:01:36]>> Um so I just and my house was it was a midden so we just spent the whole weekend doing stuff in the house getting stuff finished. Um seen you >> seen ne. My flat is unfortunately still a midden and I'm not sure when it will be unmidden.

[00:01:54]Um I don't I just I'm not going to go home and do that today. I'm not.

[00:01:58]>> That is okay.

[00:01:59]>> I'm knackered.

[00:02:01]>> Also, I like had like nine days off the gym because I was away like I went on the then I went to London and I went back to the gym yesterday and I'm that way. You know when you go to the gym for the first time?

[00:02:12]>> Yeah. It's so sore. Like I feel like just to tap me is so painful. Like I feel like a big bruised peach.

[00:02:19]>> Oh, I I'm really scared cuz I'm going back.

[00:02:22]>> I actually messed up two of my PT sessions this week.

[00:02:27]>> I was just not with it in my know, Carla. I know you're listening.

[00:02:32]I'm so sorry again. Um honestly, it's just I don't know where my brain's been this week.

[00:02:38]>> Probably back in Barcelona.

[00:02:40]>> Definitely left it there. So yeah, I think this week we are just focusing on work. We're focusing on >> relaxing gym.

[00:02:52]>> Yeah.

[00:02:52]>> And just getting prepared because >> Saturday we're going to a pizza. [music] >> Oh, guys. Oh, come on. Come on. He [ __ ] Mont. That's payback. Nine spill boiling hot tea down me. Not once but twice yesterday.

[00:03:19]>> I did.

[00:03:20]>> It was by mistake. [laughter] >> Like I'm clumsy as in I fall, but you're clumsy as in you spill and break.

[00:03:28][laughter] >> So like I'm clumsy on my feet. You're clumsy with things.

[00:03:32]>> Yeah. So true.

[00:03:34]>> That's what it's like. You never fall.

[00:03:36]>> No, [laughter] I don't.

[00:03:39]quite stable on the pins. [laughter] >> No. Yeah, for sure.

[00:03:43]>> But she'll anything that can be broken.

[00:03:45]>> I know. Yesterday >> she'll give it a good go. [laughter] >> She was like that to me yesterday. No, you're actually really starting to annoy me today. I was like that. [laughter] Okay. Sorry.

[00:03:54]>> No wonder. Boiling tea down. It looked like I peed myself.

[00:03:58]Anyway, no. I >> feel like this is the holiday that we've like dreamt of for a really long time.

[00:04:06]Yeah. Um, we've been to I not to pick me go to quite regularly, but the last time we all went, >> she's on a retainer reject honestly would love that brand deal.

[00:04:20][gasps] Um, the last time we all went was in 2022.

[00:04:25]>> Mhm. After I was actually telling her it was that and she was like, "No, that wasn't 2022." I said, "I literally saw it the other day." It is. And I had to go and get evidence.

[00:04:35]>> I was gaslighting her. I was unintentionally. I would never do that intentionally cuz I know how it feels.

[00:04:40][laughter] >> Um, but yeah, the last time we went, we must have been [music] >> 24.

[00:04:49]>> 24. Um, and I feel like we just done it really wrong. We went out to a super club every single night. We didn't do any nice dinners. No, >> we didn't do anything nice during the day.

[00:05:00]>> We wouldn't even really eat. We would just go across to that like >> that weird Thai restaurant. [laughter] >> Yeah. But then we'd have like toasties.

[00:05:09]>> It was just stupid. Whereas now we're like old enough and we're wise enough and we've got a really nice itinerary >> courtesy of my only time I'm ever making I won't be doing it again in a rush.

[00:05:20]>> I can do it when it's cuz I know where I'm going.

[00:05:22]>> Yeah. I feel like it'd be no point in me doing it because >> but I did book the holiday.

[00:05:27]>> Yeah. But I think this is where you and your skills come in. Yeah, definitely.

[00:05:33]>> So, so excited. I think we're just going to have a real mix of >> fun and and you know, just >> fun in the sun.

[00:05:43]>> On the schedule on the itinerary is laughter and >> dancing.

[00:05:48]>> Dancing. Yeah.

[00:05:49]>> Eating, drinking, >> margaritas.

[00:05:51]>> Yeah.

[00:05:52]>> Um so, yeah. And lucky for you guys, we're taking you with us. So, [screaming] um, that sounds like we're vlogging, but I actually meant more.

[00:06:03]We're doing the podcast.

[00:06:04]>> Yeah, you can watch a vlog on my YouTube channel. But we're going to bring the podcast to Two is coming to IA.

[00:06:11]>> Us to podcast is coming to IA. Ne is going to be there and we're going to probably do it towards maybe the end of the holiday and we can do some um we can tell you the itinerary. We can tell you what was good and we can tell you what we've done and we can share any fun silly stories.

[00:06:27]>> If it's towards the end, Ed might also be there.

[00:06:29]>> Oh, it might be the four of us.

[00:06:31]>> Might be a full whammy.

[00:06:32]>> Oh, it would be. Yeah.

[00:06:33]>> Um, so yeah, we got that to look forward to. This week's going to go so fast. It always does before a holiday >> and it's time to glow up again. I don't feel like we're particularly in crisis mode at the moment cuz we're still looking all right from Barcelona.

[00:06:48]>> Yeah. Yeah, definitely.

[00:06:49]>> But your eyelashes are still very curly.

[00:06:51]Thank you. Thank you. I >> think I'm going to go a bit blonder, >> right? It's happening.

[00:06:56]>> Yeah, cuz I guess we we've just like done all their bits and bobs.

[00:07:00]>> I'm going to get my eyebrows darkened because the the person who did it >> um used a lighter tint, so she's going to redo them darker darker.

[00:07:10]>> Um and I've already had my hair done.

[00:07:13]I'm getting my next spray tan. Guys, >> let me just tell you, right?

[00:07:18]>> Mhm.

[00:07:18]>> Obviously, it's no secret.

[00:07:20]I'm a blue girl. I'm a white girl.

[00:07:23]>> I'm a pale pale pale girl. I'm [snorts] like snow white minus the princess part.

[00:07:28][laughter] >> You are a princess.

[00:07:31]>> Yeah, maybe.

[00:07:33]>> So, I I honestly love being tanned, right?

[00:07:39]But I don't care about being pale. And obviously, everyone knows how annoying it is to put on tan, scrub it off. D. So [music] dayto-day don't actually care, but I love when I feel tanned and I feel it gives you a confidence. It gives you like a healthy glow, right?

[00:07:56]>> And I just I usually do put on some tan for holidays, but my friend was going to get a spray tan and the only time that I've ever got a spray tan was when I went to hot in those boots. [laughter] >> I remember that. Now, I think once I got it and it was fine, I went back and for whatever reason, [sighs] obviously this happened to me.

[00:08:20][snorts] It was like spurting out but like really like not I was it's meant to spray like a mess >> spritz. It was like and I was like, "Excuse me, excuse me." And like literally I'm naked. [laughter] >> And the girl was like, "Oh, I don't really know how to like fix this." And I was like, "Okay, sure. Um, I'm probably just going to leave it then.

[00:08:41]She's like, "Yeah, sorry. I really don't know what I'm doing." I was like, "That that's [laughter] >> I love the transparency.

[00:08:47]>> That's unreal." I said, "Can I get a refund?" Like, honestly. Anyway, [snorts] um, so since then, I've just never went back. Fair enough. So, anyway, my friend was getting a spray tan and she was getting it by obviously loads of people now do like Well, I'm sure it's always been the same. It's been like, >> that's not new. [laughter] There's this new thing where people are actually doing spray dance. So my friend was like, "Oh, I go to this person." And I was like, "I know them."

[00:09:14]>> You know the person?

[00:09:15]>> Yeah, cuz it's um I'll actually put up her we um it's Cheryl. She works in Callum's uncle's florest and she does spray tans and let me tell you, >> Cheryl, she won't be listening to this, but >> she's amazing. It's in a house. like she's got a we out house attached to her house.

[00:09:36]>> Love that.

[00:09:36]>> Um and you go in and she's do you know I didn't know there's a science behind spray tans but she was telling me about like my skin like we would do different tan not like I know like levels of tans dark not darkness but there's two types because you're olive skin and I'm >> the opposite of olive like she was telling me what would match my skin so I need to go for like rey undertones and you would go for green. Um, >> sorry. No, that makes sense.

[00:10:04]>> Um, and then so anyway, I went in, got it all done. Great experience. She's she's a hoot and then went home and she tells you like when to wash and all that. It was just like a really like easy transition. Well, I loved it.

[00:10:19]>> Yeah, you look great.

[00:10:20]>> Uh, honestly, I'm going to say I've never had this many compliments on like my tan ever. Obviously, when I did myself, it [laughter] must be shiny, but it just it didn't make me look too different. It just made me look, I think, like it was really natural. Do you know what I mean?

[00:10:37]>> Yeah, it was.

[00:10:37]>> And I just felt amazing. And even it coming off and stuff, it was absolutely fine. I just topped up with some gradual moisturizer. So, >> brilliant. That's your new holiday regime.

[00:10:47]>> Yeah. And I might go as far to say like I might get it randomly sometimes.

[00:10:52]>> Yeah. It could be like a we treat every so often. No, just like someone she knows goes every week. I'm not going to start doing that.

[00:11:00]>> You go like every Fortnite.

[00:11:02]>> I don't know.

[00:11:02]>> Well, when whatever the fun's allowed.

[00:11:05]>> Yeah, maybe during summer. I'm So, if you see me tan, guys, you know, shadow.

[00:11:10][laughter] >> So, yeah. Anyway, I'm going on there on Thursday with Neve.

[00:11:14]>> Nice.

[00:11:15]>> Friday. Sorry. And that's going to be my next that's going to be my glow up. I got my micro needling done yesterday.

[00:11:24]Oh, I need to get my nails done. That's >> Yeah, I need to do nails. I think I'm hopefully going to try squeeze in the hair. Um, I need eyebrows.

[00:11:33]I >> think that's me.

[00:11:34]>> Yeah. Oh, waxing.

[00:11:36]>> So expensive. Just >> although I don't really have any hairs to wax at the moment. I was thinking that in the shower today. I said to myself, I'm not sure we should be waxing here. [laughter] Well, >> but maybe by Thursday.

[00:11:48]>> Mhm.

[00:11:49]>> So, that's what's next on the agenda for us.

[00:11:52]>> Yep. went away for five nights.

[00:11:53]>> Five nights feel that is a really good amount in IA. Um >> like you couldn't be partying for any longer than that. You'd need to just like really chill if you were going any longer.

[00:12:03]>> But yeah, it's going to be spectacular.

[00:12:05]Can't wait. Outfits are planned.

[00:12:07]>> I've got one outfit left to buy and we're done.

[00:12:10]>> Love it.

[00:12:11]>> Boom shackle.

[00:12:12]>> Yeah, I just need to buy that one today and then that's me.

[00:12:15]>> Boom.

[00:12:16]>> Boom. So >> let's do pets and peaks.

[00:12:19]>> Yes.

[00:12:20]>> Okay.

[00:12:21]>> Peak of the week. cake of the week.

[00:12:23]>> Um, this kind of translates into last weekend, but we're going to allow it just [music] everybody a favor. Still, m Barcelona >> with the girls. It was just >> Let's see what our favorite [clears throat] part was >> of Barcelona.

[00:12:42]>> Mhm.

[00:12:43]>> And mine was probably the pool day.

[00:12:45]>> Oh, that was >> cuz we were playing games. [screaming] OH MY GOD.

[00:12:52]>> We like made up like our own dance routines and all this. It was just like total like I felt like a child.

[00:12:58]>> Yeah, it was silly. It was fun. And the sister-in-law um she like did all these fun games and we were doing like racing, diving. It was really fun.

[00:13:08]>> Team building.

[00:13:09]>> It was team building. Um and it was such a fun day out. And then we all got ready and we went for like a really nice dinner.

[00:13:15]>> Yeah.

[00:13:16]>> Yeah. It was >> What was your favorite bit? That was my favorite bit.

[00:13:19]>> All right. Okay. So, that was the peak of the week.

[00:13:22]>> I would say the the holiday as a whole was spectacular. Even the first night, like we didn't leave the villa, but >> we had like the chef and he made his pella and then we played like um Mr. and Mrs. >> and it was just like it was just such fun vibes.

[00:13:38]>> It was just wholesome girly vibes. It was so nice.

[00:13:43]>> Take me back. Um, pet of the week was [music] >> I've just been chasing my tail the whole week. We actually >> You've said this three weeks in a [laughter] row.

[00:13:58]>> No, but I mean hangover wise.

[00:14:00]>> We went out on the last night which was a Sunday which was also my birthday. So we went out and we went to Pasha which isn't anything like the pasture. Pasha from team you and she >> it was um and however it couldn't have been that bad cuz we did stay till probably it shot >> No it wasn't bad it just >> wasn't like passion >> no it was misleading >> yes so we were there and then basically by the time we had to get home and get ready to go out to the airport we did we missed out on a sleep and that unfortunately just really set me back >> and as soon as we got home the next day I was going to London and I just shouldn't have done it. Like I got up at 3:00 a.m. to go to London and it just totally messed me up.

[00:14:44]>> And I'm still tired now.

[00:14:46]>> Yeah.

[00:14:47]>> So that that's been the part of my week.

[00:14:49]I've just felt very flat.

[00:14:51]>> Yeah.

[00:14:52]>> Flat is a flat tire.

[00:14:54]>> Yeah. I would say um actually very similar and I really hurt like pulled a muscle in my back and I basically >> went for a massage to like it's like a physio massage. Um so that was great >> massage.

[00:15:09]>> Um >> I also have had these pains in my arms from my rotator cuffs for like a year and I just didn't do anything about them and he like went in on them and he was like they're quite bad. Um, so anyway, that was fine. Came home. I was really, really sick that night. Like really nauseous. Was up all night being sick.

[00:15:31]>> And I couldn't figure out why it was, but I looked it up and there's a thing called massage flu. And it's basically like, now, correct me if I'm wrong cuz I'm going to get the wording wrong, but it's like they massage when they massage, it's like releasing like toxins. It's like, >> so it's like if you're dehydrated, >> Yeah. Yeah, >> you can be really sick and like obviously from the hen and then all that week I was like really tired and not myself and I think I've just >> been really >> That's awful.

[00:15:58]>> Yeah, it was it was super unfortunate.

[00:16:00]>> Mhm. Well, >> I woke up on Friday and I was like, "Oh, feel back to normal."

[00:16:05]>> Good. Good.

[00:16:06]>> I also feel like obviously when you come back from I hung over, but I feel like me and you and like me would never not sleep.

[00:16:15]>> Yeah. No, we'll always >> That was really really unlikely. I was and I won't be doing it again in a hurry.

[00:16:19]>> Tested and tried. Not for me.

[00:16:21]>> Not for us. Won't be doing it again anytime soon.

[00:16:24]>> Exactly.

[00:16:24]>> But anyway, should we waste no further time?

[00:16:27]>> Let's get >> and dive into the FBI files.

[00:16:31]>> Fresh be investigating.

[00:16:35]>> Right. Number one.

[00:16:36]>> Number one. [laughter] >> Giddles. On my 18th birthday, I took my ex-boyfriend out to the social. Banging cocktails in there. If you know, you know. Anyways, I order him an espresso martini. We do a couple of cheeky sambukas and he says he needs to go to the toilet. I'm like, "Go piss, girlfriend." [laughter] 20 minutes go by and I'm like, "Where is he?" Then he comes back out the toilet and immediately says, "We need to leave."

[00:17:03]So, I'm thinking, "What's happened in there?" But we need to leave and we head to the Seavoi. Suave Sav on your 18th is truly a rock bottom moment. But what can you do when this man had [ __ ] himself and been to his boxers in the toilet in the social? [laughter] The espresso martini gave him the shits and he quite literally pooped on my party. [laughter] I was absolutely mortified. But to be honest, out of all of this, I feel really shitty for whoever had to go in after him and see his skitty boxers in the >> So, did they go to the Seavoy box >> boxer list? I think he's went just >> like just >> what's that called? Commando. Yeah, cool.

[00:17:42]>> No pants on. [gasps] >> Unfortunately, I have shot myself as an adult when I had Salmonella. We were actually saying bye to Star. So, when we were in Thailand in 2024, >> God, >> I know time really flies 2 years ago.

[00:18:00]>> What the hell?

[00:18:01]>> So, we were in Thailand, right? And we hadn't seen Star in like 2 years cuz she moved to Australia. So, Nadine Ay and I go to Thailand. Star comes to Thailand.

[00:18:10]We meet up. Hurry. Um, we spend 16 days together and on day 16 I catch Salmonella and we had we had a really long travel day ahead and we were saying bye to Star. Did we all split in Bangkok or Kos?

[00:18:26]>> Bangkok.

[00:18:26]>> Bangkok. That's where we had to say our goodbyes which was obviously emotional cuz we're like we don't know when we'll see Star again. Like we've been spoiled of these two weeks wherever. But we're all like hugging and like people were crying and then I was like [snorts] I just like felt something. And I was like [laughter] I was like like I've just shut myself.

[00:18:45][gasps] >> It really did like lighten >> it lightened moods. Now for me not so much cuz you know there's nothing more humbling than feeling that you're [ __ ] in your pants and like down your legs and [ __ ] like it's [clears throat] mine humbling. But now I can look back one of those stories you can look back and laugh. Do you know if you think about it right how lucky you're unlucky but how lucky were you that was on the last day.

[00:19:10]>> Oh yeah >> cuz what would we have actually done?

[00:19:13]>> Well I would have been in hospital.

[00:19:14]>> Mhm.

[00:19:15]>> [ __ ] [ __ ] >> Yeah. Yeah. If there was a time to get it was the last day or actually just just never would [laughter] have been good. Would have worked.

[00:19:26]>> Yeah.

[00:19:27]>> Okay. found out my ex-boyfriend was paying for Only Fans from looking at the notifications on his phone.

[00:19:34]>> He cried when I confronted him about it.

[00:19:37][laughter] >> I didn't mean it. And I stayed with him for probably another 6 months, though.

[00:19:45]He would also follow Ghettos on TikTok while we were lying in bed at night. I'd refresh his following and see more ghettos again. I stayed with him.

[00:19:52]>> My current boyfriend is a gem, though.

[00:19:54]>> A that's good. We love a success story.

[00:19:58][laughter] >> Sometimes, we've said this before, but sometimes you really you do you need to be tested and pushed to your absolute breaking point before you call it quits.

[00:20:07]And that's fine. I love you guys so much. Both such an inspiration.

[00:20:13]>> A that's so sweet.

[00:20:14]>> However, let's get on with the story. I had this ex-boyfriend who I'm actually currently back with now. Don't kill me, guys.

[00:20:23]Look, we listen and we don't judge.

[00:20:26]>> Yeah, we listen and we don't judge. Say it with me, everyone.

[00:20:29]>> We listen and we don't judge. However, everyone should judge me if I get back with my ex.

[00:20:34]>> I would never let you do [laughter] that.

[00:20:37]>> Um, anyways, back then we were on and off for so long and I was abroad saying bye to a family member due to them passing away. And at home, I didn't know that the boyfriend I had was actually up to no good with a 17year-old when he was 14.

[00:20:55]It's quite illegal. Um, and I found and I found out through a be real. I remember be real. You were good at that.

[00:21:04]>> Yeah, I'd love Bere.

[00:21:06]>> I seen the skirt next to him and went on her Insta that night to see that's what she was wearing. stopped speaking to him for years, but we're back and better than ever. Scared someone finds out this story is me writing it.

[00:21:24]>> Honestly, we're just 14.

[00:21:26]>> Yeah. Like, we don't know what age you are now, but I think it's all as well.

[00:21:31]And you literally [clears throat] just blame it on someone else. It's anonymous. Um Well, that you know, good detective skills for being so young.

[00:21:39]>> This in the skirt. Yeah. Um I hope he's treating you well. I hope he is um not cheating on you. I hope he got his fantasy of older women out the way, I guess.

[00:21:50]>> Yeah. And also, I think maybe the 17year-old was in the wrong.

[00:21:54]>> Yeah. A 14y old. Anyway, as we said, we listen and we don't judge. [music] >> FBI files lipstick on collar magically appeared. Hey girls, love the pod, especially FBI files. Have my own story to share. Amazing. You've come to the right place. [laughter] >> I was with my ex between the ages of 16 to 24, so eight years. I actually had my breakup around the same time as Megan had her long relationship breakup, so was major majorly relating to your content at the time. Lovely.

[00:22:28]>> I got you, honey.

[00:22:29]>> There you go. If you need someone to go through breakups, Megan's going to do it for you guys, and she's going to tell you how it goes. [laughter] if it's quite a few.

[00:22:38]>> If you want advice on longlasting [laughter] relationships, I'll be here.

[00:22:44]>> We lived together for the last two years of our relationship in a different city to where we're both from.

[00:22:49]>> He worked in construction and about 6 months before we ended, a new girl, we'll call her Sarah, started in his work. You can see where this is going.

[00:22:58]>> Oh, Sarah, Sarah, Sarah.

[00:23:00]>> They started to be friends and he'd meet up with her cuz he felt sorry for her cuz she had no friends. All right.

[00:23:07][clears throat] He We even went on a double date with her and her fella and I dropped her home one night after her and him went for drinks. Basically a date. Brought him to Barcelona for his birthday. He was texting her the entire time.

[00:23:21]>> Lots of fights as you can imagine. I would be absolutely [ __ ] raging at that one.

[00:23:27]>> Mhm. Then we went to a concert after in our hometown and he wouldn't come out with me and my friends with their boyfriends afterwards as he was rushing back to the city we lived in where she was conveniently.

[00:23:39]>> I was staying at home for a week to look after my dad who had just had a heart attack.

[00:23:44]>> So he had so he used this as a great excuse to go on dates with her all week.

[00:23:49]My spidey senses were tingling. So I came back to her flat for a few days a few days earlier than I planned so we could talk. To which he replied, "Maybe don't come up today. Me and Sarah are going for a walk and get food."

[00:24:02][laughter] That cat, what the hell that is? Bear in mind this whole time he's saying they're just friends and I'm a psycho for thinking anything else. M >> imagine I went away and I came home and I was saying I'm coming home early and Cal was like that sorry I'm going out with Deborah [laughter] Deb.

[00:24:25]>> [ __ ] off Debbie.

[00:24:27]>> Long story cut short after a lot of fighting. We've broken up. We're not broken up yet and he's sleeping in the spare room and we're on thin ice.

[00:24:36]>> Anyways, that weekend he went to a work event where he posted Instagram stories of selfies of the two of them. I'd already told him that's a boundary he was crossing and not to do it again. So the next morning I woke up and broke up with him to which he tried to stay together. Next day he goes to work and I'm working from home in the spare room where he'd been sleeping. I see the suit he wore to the work night out and her red lipstick from Selfie is all over his shirt.

[00:25:03]>> Like by the buttons on the collar and everything >> by the buttons. Oh, she's been chomping off [laughter] the >> she's been opening that shirt mouth.

[00:25:13]>> Who needs fingers?

[00:25:16]>> I confronted him about it and he says they were sitting next to each other all night.

[00:25:21]>> Oh, >> as if the lipstick floated off her mouth onto his shirt. It honestly is laughable the logic these cheating boys try to use. It really is.

[00:25:31]>> It is. had to live with him for another two weeks till I moved out of the flat that I did all the work to get us. By the way, to add fuel to the fire, I was moving jobs to a new city away from all my friends because he didn't like the city we lived in anymore and he was meant to be following me. Obviously, he didn't and stayed with the girl instead.

[00:25:50]Oh my god. They were going on dates while we still lived together. I rang his mom and told him and his told his cousin, too. He had tried to pretend his mom knew everything she didn't. Safe to say she was disappointed on her son.

[00:26:04]Obviously, I also looked through his phone while he was in the shower once and Sarah was celebrating the fact they were both single now and could finally see each other more. He still denied it after this after this by the way.

[00:26:16]Anyway, I moved away. They got together officially, went on holidays like 2 months later. She's basically moved into my old flat, found out from the neighbors I was friends with, >> and they moved abroad together.

[00:26:28]>> Wow.

[00:26:29]>> They even even though he wouldn't with me, and I was dying to leave the country.

[00:26:34]>> Everything works out in the end, though.

[00:26:36]Now I live in London. Have a lovely, sweet, amazing boyfriend that I live with and had two great years of singledom. Singledom.

[00:26:43]>> Singledom.

[00:26:44]>> Singledom.

[00:26:46]Singledom.

[00:26:48]um before this where I was selfish and did so many fun things for myself. Met so many new friends, went on great trips and had SOME LOVELY DATES. A >> all hope is not lost, ladies. Looking back now, he gives me the complete egg, but at least I got a great story out of it. It's always a great bit of lure to drop ON NEW.

[00:27:06]>> LOVE THAT.

[00:27:07]>> YO, [cheering] I know it's a bit raspy.

[00:27:11]>> Um that is honestly a crazy time for you. Like, why would you not just come out and be like, "Look, we need to break up because I've fell in love with this girl work." I'm not saying that would make things any easier, but it would definitely just what? Why drag you along?

[00:27:28]>> That's just so unfair.

[00:27:30]>> Stupid stupid boys.

[00:27:31]>> Stupid men, right? FBI story. [laughter] >> When I was 19, I started dating this guy. Me and Megan keeping these like >> Patty McInness accents, but you're way better than me. I'm not very good at it.

[00:27:48][laughter] >> You're not good at anything.

[00:27:50]>> No l no, >> you're really good at it. You're really good.

[00:27:56]>> Thanks.

[00:27:56]>> I was editing the Barcelona vlog and I hear you do it and you're like, whoa, >> is that out today?

[00:28:00]>> Is that the right >> hitting cinemas tonight, man?

[00:28:05]>> In theaters tonight.

[00:28:07]>> Right. When I was 19, I started dating this guy who was a mutual friend and who at the time was 27.

[00:28:18]>> Probably not the best idea.

[00:28:21][laughter] >> Probably not.

[00:28:26]>> To date a much older guy.

[00:28:28]>> Do you know what though? [laughter] >> Ah, age is just a number. Um, he'd always make me feel sorry. He'd always >> Are you okay?

[00:28:38]>> Yeah. [laughter] [gasps] >> He'd [snorts] what?

[00:28:46]>> He'd always make me feel less than for being younger than him. And I'd frequently question why, if that was a problem, he was dating me then.

[00:28:55]>> Sorry to interject, but this is actually a thing.

[00:28:58]>> Yeah. Like people will use it against you.

[00:29:00]>> I had a friend once >> and he's no longer a friend. Well, I've just not seen her in years.

[00:29:06]>> And she was very similar ages and she went out with a much older guy >> and he used to like I don't know. I just got they're not together now. But like I feel like he was like that.

[00:29:20]>> Yeah. Like so why are you going out with him?

[00:29:21]>> Like he would be like he would like act as though someone be fully passionate.

[00:29:26]It's like well see if you want a big mature mama go for someone older.

[00:29:30]>> Yeah. Pick on someone your own size freak. [laughter] >> Anyway, [snorts] sorry. continue.

[00:29:34]>> Um, yeah, I frequently question him.

[00:29:37][laughter] >> I know. I just I don't know.

[00:29:42][laughter and gasps] >> Um, [laughter] no, I'm getting on. I was going to start humming in the [laughter] background to match the lawnmower.

[00:29:58]>> Sorry. Right. I don't know what's going to answer. Right.

[00:30:00]>> Right.

[00:30:02]I frequently question him why if that was a problem, why was he date me then?

[00:30:06]To which he would reply, "It wasn't a problem." However, he'd often comment I'd understand certain things when I grew up.

[00:30:16]>> This is just to give you a quick overview of the character, although there's much more. Nonetheless, I was head over heels for him. I moved shortly after meeting him, so most of our relationship was long distance. Anyways, our relationship progressed and we saw each other every time we could.

[00:30:35]Although, sorry. Oh, >> funny [laughter] come up saying Megan's birthday.

[00:30:48]>> Anyways, our relationship progressed and we saw each other every time we could, although that meant I was the one traveling to see him. At one point in our relationship, he told me about his ex. And when I asked him why the relationship ended, he told me that she rarely wanted to have sex with him and therefore he had to look for it elsewhere and basically implied he was going to do the same thing with me. Oh god.

[00:31:14]>> Um although there was a massive red flag flying over his head, I guess I overlooked it. Maybe he was right on that. I indeed was young and naive at the time. He'd left his job and was starting his po photography [laughter] >> photography.

[00:31:43]Right. No, no, you can do the next one.

[00:31:46]>> You've been confiscated. This poor ghetto [laughter and snorts] photograph.

[00:31:55]photography.

[00:31:55]>> Sorry, I'm actually really confused.

[00:31:57]>> I'm back.

[00:31:58]>> No, but I just need to reread it.

[00:31:59]>> No, I I'll summarize. They started going out. She's younger. He would make jokes like, "Oh, you'll get it when you grow up." But then we'd say, "No, there's not an issue with the age difference. She's moved very soon after they started dating, so they're now doing long distance." She's always traveling back and forth to see him.

[00:32:16]>> She's asked, "Why did you break up with your ex?" And he said, "Because we didn't have sex enough, and it was meaning I was going to have to start looking elsewhere." So now she's saying like, "All right, well, we're long distance. So does that mean because we're not having sex that much, we're going to you're going to start looking elsewhere." Boom.

[00:32:32]>> Brilliant.

[00:32:32]>> Right. Unlock. At the time, he'd left his job and was starting out his photography portfolio, and that meant that his job was precarious to say the least. Therefore, on one occasion, he started complaining and acting worried about his upcoming rent payment, which I then found out he shared with his sister detailed that he conveniently omitted.

[00:32:54]Oh, what's that mean?

[00:32:56]>> omitted >> and and asked me if I could send him some money to help out.

[00:33:03]>> Again, silly me. I cared about the guy, so I did send him £150.

[00:33:09]And I remember at the time it wasn't easy to send money internationally. So I went around different shops to be able to send this money to him. Bless you.

[00:33:19]Fast forward a couple of weeks whilst doing some social media checks on some of his followers. He seemed to be a bit too interactive with. I found out he used the money to go on a weekend getaway to Venice with this other girl.

[00:33:35]I can't remember if he said anything at the time, but I remember I stopped being as responsive and was super disappointed and lied to. Fast forward a couple of months, I was barely talking to him anymore and he asked me if I could buy him a Mac [laughter] >> as he needed a clums >> as he needed it for his job and his finance wouldn't get approved. Well, you shouldn't be getting it then. And so he needed me to pay it in installments and he'd repay me monthly. Heard that one before. Um I immediately said no to that though he insisted. I later found out that someone else had bought it for him and that it was his sister's best friend who he was also cheating on me with. E >> scumbag this guy is a frecoid. Like this is also why he's probably like wanting to go out with a younger girl because >> they can manipulate.

[00:34:33]>> You have less life experience. You know, you you are subceptive to these older men.

[00:34:39]>> Yeah, absolutely.

[00:34:40]>> They make you feel like you're less than so that they can manipulate you.

[00:34:44]>> Definitely.

[00:34:45]>> Um and but you actually held your own.

[00:34:48]And um I think even you being long distance probably helped you be like I think distance probably helped you be like okay maybe like I'm not going to buy him a MacBook and I'm not going to do you know what I mean cuz I feel like if you're constantly around something like say for example when you broke up with your ex and you weren't like there was no way you could see him >> unless you jumped on a 4-hour train.

[00:35:12]>> Yes.

[00:35:12]>> So I feel like distance sometimes >> it's good for breakups.

[00:35:17]Yeah, but they they were distancing themsel anyway, so that would have been easier for her.

[00:35:26]>> She said she hardly was speaking to the MacBook.

[00:35:29]>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So, were they not boyfriend and girlfriend then? Because >> like would you not check in with your boyfriend? But anyway, good reasons to him.

[00:35:37]>> Absolutely.

[00:35:38]>> God, strange cat.

[00:35:41]>> There's some strange people out there.

[00:35:46]Okay. Okay. So, love the pod divas.

[00:35:50]Thank you. Oh, I've done it wrong. Thank you. [laughter] What is that thing people do?

[00:35:59]>> It's like that. I think >> the heart for audio. Where? Oh, anyway, >> I'm not I don't know that one. But basically, your chats about feet picks reminded me of when I was about 18 and back in the day when Instagram used to send you a notification if someone and your phone contacts made an account.

[00:36:21]>> One of my friends got a notification that someone we knew, let's call her Barbara.

[00:36:26]>> Barbara Barbara, >> had made a new Instagram account and it was linked to her phone.

[00:36:35]>> Oh no. She had made an anonymous Insta account and called it sexy size six sexes.

[00:36:42]>> That rolls off the top. What's that called?

[00:36:44]>> Greatation.

[00:36:46]>> With loads of feet picss on it and had sent a notification to every person.

[00:36:53]>> Bless Barbara's cotton socks. No judgment.

[00:36:57]>> She's getting socks on, babe.

[00:36:58]>> Do what you got to do, but doubt her intention was to notify everyone we knew. Safe to say the account was swiftly deted.

[00:37:08]>> Barbara Barbra, that's a [ __ ] sher.

[00:37:11]>> You guys [ __ ] your shot. Do what I mean.

[00:37:13]>> I know. Um, you would actually die.

[00:37:18]>> Sexy. Sexy.

[00:37:20]>> Oh god. Oh no.

[00:37:23]Right. Buckle in troops.

[00:37:27]Buckle in troops. Buckle your secret troops.

[00:37:31]FBI files. Okay, girls, strap in because this is a long one, but I promise it's worth it.

[00:37:39]>> I'm sad.

[00:37:40]>> I also love you both in the pod. It's my getting ready watching.

[00:37:45]>> You literally remind me of me and my best friend.

[00:37:48]>> That's so cute.

[00:37:49]>> So, >> do you hate your best friend? [laughter] >> So, let me set the scene. I had been with my ex for about a year and a half.

[00:37:58]And when I say we had issues, I mean issues, but I stayed like the loyal girlfriend I was. He was going on holiday to Spain with his mom. So naturally, I packed his suitcase for him, dropped him in the airport, kissed him goodbye like a good little girlfriend, >> queen.

[00:38:15]>> Prior to this, Trust was already on thin ice, but I thought he's on holiday with his mom. What is the worst that could happen? Lol.

[00:38:24]>> [laughter] >> So, he lands, texts me saying he's going for a few drinks. Fine. Keep in mind, I had his location on for obvious reasons.

[00:38:34]>> Cue the sleepless night.

[00:38:35]>> Oh, no. Sorry.

[00:38:37]>> I'm waking up every 2 hours checking his location like an FBI agent.

[00:38:42]>> Oh, we've all been there.

[00:38:43]>> Yeah. First stop, random bar. Okay, I can cope. I wake up at 3:00 a.m. He's still out. Location is La Discoa. Alarm bells ring, but it's that I try to stay calm. I wake up again at 7:00 a.m. No replies to any of my messages since midnight.

[00:39:02]>> Check the location again. Tell me why this man is now in some random house on the absolute outskirts of town and it looks like it should be on a crime documentary. [laughter] What do I do? Straight onto Google Maps and street view like a psycho detective.

[00:39:18]>> I would do the same. And let me tell you, it's given Crackden chic. [snorts] >> Crackden chic. Those are two things I would not >> That's an oxymoron.

[00:39:29]>> Yeah, that is an oxymoron if >> I've ever heard one. [gasps] >> At this point, I'm phoning him, texting him, calling again, nothing. But his location is still live, so I know his phone is on.

[00:39:42]>> So I screenshot it and send it to his little brother. I say, "Hey, is this your house in Spain?" His brother replies, "I have literally never seen that place in my life." Right. The saxophones start playing loud. Have you seen that trend on TikTok? It's like when something bad's about to happen.

[00:40:00]It's like the saxophones are getting louder.

[00:40:04]I've got a good story, good couple of stories I could use the saxophones on.

[00:40:08][laughter] [gasps] So, I text his brother again and I'm like, "Have you heard from him?" And he goes, "Funny you should say that." He just texted me asking for £250.

[00:40:20]>> God, his brother's out in him.

[00:40:22]>> I know. So now I'm like, "Okay, let's connect the dots. One, random dodgy house. Two, ignoring me. Three, asking his wee brother for money.

[00:40:32]>> Who's his mom?

[00:40:34]>> What could he possibly be doing?"

[00:40:37]Anyway, fast forward. He finally turns his phone back on at like 300 p.m. the next day. Location now magically back at his lovely family home. And I get a text. Hey babe, I'm so rough. [snorts] Sir, you have 50 missed calls. And he's acting like everything is normal. He hits you with I got home at midnight.

[00:40:57]Oh, >> it's like [snorts] Yeah. It's like looking in the mirror. I got home at midnight. Lost my phone.

[00:41:05]Someone just dropped it off.

[00:41:07]>> Oh, really? So I question, oh, is that why your phone was at a random location at 7:00 a.m.? I'm withholding the information. I knew that he was on his phone because he text his little brother. I just wanted to see him lie and fall into my trap.

[00:41:21]>> Love that.

[00:41:22]>> And he goes, "Yeah, yeah, one of the boys must have had it." Right. So, your friend knows the password, takes the phone to a mystery location, and texts your little brother asking for £250.

[00:41:36]I then dropped the bomb that I knew he was on his phone and must have been at that location. Cue the gaslighting and manipulation. I swear this man has a master's degree in it. He starts telling me the GPS is wrong, Apple Maps is broken, and basically inventing conspiracy theories on the [laughter] [gasps] >> He flips on it. He flips it on me, telling me I'm a crazy psycho that can't let him have a good time.

[00:42:02]>> All right. Yeah.

[00:42:02]>> He's trying to enjoy a holiday with his mom. [laughter] >> He ignores me for two days and come back saying I'm ruining his holiday. His mom thinks I'm crazy and his friends thinks I'm crazy and if I don't drop it, he's ending it.

[00:42:15]>> So I think fine, I can't prove it right now. I'll let it go.

[00:42:19]>> He then spends the next two weeks telling me he loves me, facetiming me, begging me to come to Spain, acting like boyfriends of the year. Fast forward to him coming home. I pick him up from the airport and we go back to mine.

[00:42:31]Everything seems normal. What he didn't know that was before he left, I watched him type his passcode and saved it into my notes as you do.

[00:42:40]>> So that night, he falls asleep peacefully in my bed and I go straight on his phone, open his messages with his best friends because I know that's where the juice will be and he can't fart without telling his bestie.

[00:42:53]>> Whoa.

[00:42:54]>> And there it is. Texas friends along the lines of, "Can't believe I've been here for two weeks and only shagged a brass and two birds."

[00:43:03]>> What's a brass?

[00:43:03]>> I don't know. Must be losing my mojo. A brass for anyone who doesn't know is a prostitute.

[00:43:12]>> So, the mystery location on night one, a brothel.

[00:43:18]And it doesn't stop there. He also slept with three other girls over the holiday, [snorts] four in total. At this point, I'm practically shaking like a Chihuahua. Don't know how to spell that.

[00:43:29]Sorry. But [laughter] what do I do?

[00:43:33]I put the phone down, go in for a shower, and complete denial. I keep thinking to myself what to do or how to confront him. So, but I can't muster up the courage to bring it up. A anyway, the next day we're in the car. He puts on Adele. Love in the dark. And I don't know, something just triggers me. I burst into tears. Babe, you're rightfully so triggered.

[00:43:57]>> Adele is emotional at the best of times.

[00:44:00]>> Never mind when >> your boyfriend just shagged four people >> at the brothel.

[00:44:04]>> He's like, "What is wrong with you?" And I just look at him and say, "Did you sleep with someone on holiday?" And he goes, "No, here we go again." So I hit him with change your name please if you read this Maxwell what is a brass the silence the panic in his eyes and then you went through my phone and I'm like yeah and you're a scumbag and instead of apologizing this man still calls me a psycho anyway he drops me off he tries to end it with me saying he can't believe I invaded his privacy like you invaded her.

[00:44:45]>> You invaded four women's vaginas.

[00:44:49][sighs and gasps] >> Like he hasn't absolutely violated me.

[00:44:53]But needless to say, I slammed a car door hard.

[00:44:56]>> Good.

[00:44:57]>> And then he tried to send me flowers and drop handwritten notes at my door.

[00:45:01][snorts] I don't know. Men when say they Sorry. I don't know. Men say we are delusional when they are the most delusional people I've ever met in my life.

[00:45:11]>> Sorry. It was the worst two years of my life, but now I'm free, happier than ever, and I finally know my worth.

[00:45:19]>> Moral of the story, if your gut is streaming, listen to it.

[00:45:23]>> A >> Yes. Yes. And more. Yes.

[00:45:27]>> First of all, very well written.

[00:45:29]>> Very well written.

[00:45:30]>> I was at the edge of my seat the entire time. That is one of the craziest stories I've ever heard.

[00:45:37]>> That's disgusting. And you know holiday with your mom get a [ __ ] grip.

[00:45:42]>> Guys will go to no.

[00:45:44]>> It's disgusting.

[00:45:45]>> They have some guys, not all, just have no moral compass. And this gaslighting and Oh, it's just [snorts] honestly it makes me sick to my core.

[00:45:58]The way that Who do they think they are?

[00:46:01]Who do you think you're It just It's just crazy to me that they can do that and think that like they're going to get away with that.

[00:46:10]>> Oh, yuck.

[00:46:12]Right, next one.

[00:46:15]Girls, I love love love the podcast.

[00:46:18]You're both amazing. That is really sweet. Thank you.

[00:46:21]>> I have my own sort of FBI story and I wish I could share everything in this story, but the story would need its very own podcast episode. So picture this. We were together for nearly three years.

[00:46:33]Not casual, serious.

[00:46:35]>> Future planning, talking about moving to Australia, building a life.

[00:46:39]>> I even helped this man get a job at my workplace when he was on the verge of losing his.

[00:46:44]>> I was all in.

[00:46:46]>> Then December hits.

[00:46:48]He goes on a night out in Edinburgh.

[00:46:51]Nothing unusual. He's texting me all night, drunk, emotional, telling me he loves me, calling me beautiful. He's went to get the last train home so I can pick him up. He misses it, decides to stay out. So, I go to bed. And that's when everything shifts.

[00:47:08]>> I wake up around 1:00 a.m. to a flood of mis calls. Messages that don't even make sense. His phone dead. Location last seen an hour ago. But he'd mentioned being with a guy from his work, John, who lives near me. So, I tell myself, "Okay, not ideal, but he's probably safe."

[00:47:25]>> Yeah. Morning comes. No sign of him. And now something doesn't feel right. I message his mom. He's not there. She doesn't know if she doesn't know where he is either. And suddenly we're both spiraling. Calling people from the night out, messaging anyone who might have seen him. Even checking hospitals because at this point, we genuinely think something terrible has happened.

[00:47:46]Hours go by and then midafter afternoon he just appears. Walks into the house like nothing's happened. straight past us. No eye contact, no explanation.

[00:47:57]Shower, bedroom, silence, [snorts] nothing.

[00:48:02]>> Hello.

[00:48:03]>> I know. Like, are you okay? When he finally speaks, the story keeps changing. A colleagueu's flat. No, actually, a random group of guys. And somehow it becomes my fault. I'm insecure. I'm dramatic. The next day, he sits me down and says completely flat, "My feelings have changed. I don't love you anymore."

[00:48:25]>> Oh my god.

[00:48:26]>> And just like that, after 3 years, while we're planning to move across the world together, >> that's awful.

[00:48:32]>> And I'm still trying to process that when it gets worse. I'm in the middle of selling my car for his for this Australia move. On Monday, he drives me to work, says he's going to Edinburgh for Christmas shopping, and then he asks me to turn my location back on, even turns turns his on, too.

[00:48:52]So, of course, I check. He's sitting outside a random block of flats, not moving, just there in the exact same area he disappeared the night before.

[00:49:05]And then his location starts moving.

[00:49:08]George Street, Blank Street Coffee, Princess Street Gardens, the Christmas lights, and it clicks instantly. Oh, you're not shopping. You're on a date. I call him, declined. I call again, declined. That night, we meet. He's crying, saying he loves me, but doesn't want to be with me. Still denying everything. [clears throat] But at this point, I don't want him to admit it. I already know. So, I stay quiet and I start digging. I notice he's followed a girl from Edinburgh. She's posted a Tik Tok of her flat.

[00:49:41]>> I go back to his location, compare the building. It's almost identical. So, I take it further, cross check properties in that exact area, and just like that, everything clicks. A few a few days later, his Snapchat location places him at a bar. Not just any bar, the same one he took me on our first date. So me and my best friend, we get in the car, drive straight to that flat, and there it is, his car parked right outside. Proof, clear as day. I film it, say nothing, and then I make my move. A few days later, I pack up everything he owns, clothes, gifts, sentimental sentimental pieces into the suitcase I bought for Australia move, and I drop it at his mom's house while telling her everything with him upstairs. And here's the part that really says it all. Everyone in his life already knows what he's like. His friends, his family, they've all said the same thing. I've had a lucky escape.

[00:50:41]They don't think he'll ever change. And less than 3 months later, he's on a ski trip with her and her family.

[00:50:47]>> Oh my god.

[00:50:48]>> Facebook official. Do people still do that?

[00:50:50]>> I know.

[00:50:51]>> Still sticking to his story, still lying, still pretending, even though everyone around him knows the truth. And here's the part that honestly just adds insult to injury. He's still working at the job I got him >> and sorry [laughter] >> and he has absolutely no intention of leaving. He's basically the joke of the office. I thought about telling the girl, but honestly, I don't think she'd believe me. He's Oh, the stomach.

[00:51:17]>> He's that convincing. This is someone who went through my phone, lied about the smallest things, and gas at me every time I questioned something I knew wasn't right. And the irony, he chased me relentlessly. Flowers at my office, love bombing, constant effort until I gave in. And the only reason I was hesitant in the first place, he told me he'd broken up with his ex two weeks before we met. And now I know the truth.

[00:51:44]And now his lies have cost him his friends respect to the point where they no longer a groomsman at his child. He's no longer a groomsman at his childhood best friend's wedding.

[00:51:54]>> Wow.

[00:51:54]>> So maybe karma's already started. And honestly, here's hoping it comes for [snorts] his hairline next.

[00:52:01]That is so funny.

[00:52:02]>> That is brilliant.

[00:52:03]>> What on earth?

[00:52:06]Wa.

[00:52:08]That is just like there's so many things girls have to go through to like just find out the truth.

[00:52:16]>> Honestly, >> just tell me. Like honestly, just tell me the truth. I can I can take it. Like I'll cry and I'll be sad, but just tell me. Save me all the [ __ ] hassle that comes with.

[00:52:26]>> Exactly.

[00:52:26]>> Do you remember the [ __ ] we had to do?

[00:52:29]Like there was a point where my whole group chat were creating a script for me to FaceTime my ex and on my laptop and then record it with my phone. Remember this?

[00:52:41]>> Yeah.

[00:52:41]>> I was to record the FaceTime with my phone >> with this script the girls wrote me.

[00:52:46]Like why am I having to do [ __ ] with this?

[00:52:48]>> No, it was it's so crazy. I think as well like I can relate to when my ex so my ex see how you the girl said in that like he was like being so full on like >> like everything was normal >> and like he chased her I feel like that's kind of what happens with me and then my ex went on holiday >> and during the holiday I just was really like had a gut feeling like I genuinely had a gut feeling you genuinely just know.

[00:53:21]>> And then when he came home, he just randomly broke up with me.

[00:53:25]>> And this was someone who like he would have never like >> No, it was it was so everyone was really shocked.

[00:53:31]>> I was in such denial and I was like so confused why he broken up with me, but it's because >> he he's been he'd been a dirty dog.

[00:53:41]>> Yeah.

[00:53:41]>> So I think this is just for context if you've been listening. So >> the last >> is it?

[00:53:48]>> Well, potentially. Yeah. So like we think this is a followup of the girl who wrote in before and she had 10 weeks to spend with her boyfriend >> that they broken up with but they lived together and worked together and she was working her 10 week notice period in work. So >> it is her. She was her.

[00:54:05]>> So she was stuck.

[00:54:06]>> So this is an extension.

[00:54:08]>> Yes.

[00:54:09]>> FBI files. She sent police cards. She sent alarms.

[00:54:14]>> Hello. Love the pod girls. Once a week isn't enough. I could listen to it every single day.

[00:54:19]>> I wrote in a dilemma recently and this is a bit of an extension on it. So I'm from Scotland, live in a different city in England. A I work here and I got with my now ex-boyfriend who I work with and live with and was with him for just over a year. I dumped his ass. After listening to the boundaries app, I literally couldn't see myself staying with him because it summed him up to a tea.

[00:54:46]>> We when we first started shagging, he was also shagging a girl in our work. I know, red flags, lessons [ __ ] learned. And during relationship, she would text some weird things about meeting up, just them two, and like ignoring my existence when we work together and would go out together as a group. Fast forward, I dumped him for so many [ __ ] reasons, but he never ever gave me the reassurance or comfort about that situation and called me insane for asking him to tell me when she texted him to keep me in the loop. How unreasonable of me, lol. I dumped him.

[00:55:25]We live together. We work together. I have a 10e notice to work. We have one bed.

[00:55:33]It's been a hard eight weeks, but I've been trying to be civil, giving him space, do yoga, took up running, eating good. Like, I've really turned a corner.

[00:55:43]He has started taking lots of treat just in case it gets >> broas, [laughter] smoking, getting in at 6:00 a.m. E. And then on a Friday night, he went out like the usual. Not my business. I had a great night. Everything shower, face mask, listens to your pod. Oh, >> when we were together, we shared our locations. Nothing toxic, surprisingly.

[00:56:09]But when we swiftly turned that off after breaking up, which is fine, as I said, not my business. Jokes on him. I still had his wallet Air Tag on my phone when he lost it on a night out and his phone was dead. Wasn't really checking it to be fair, but I knew I had it up my sleeve. But I wake up at 2:00 a.m. with like the worst gut feeling ever. I just knew to check his wallet location. Where was it? Obviously that [ __ ] girl's house, who, by the way, I was meant to be friends with and due to go out for drinks with her and another girl on Weddednesday.

[00:56:46]>> Oh my god. [snorts] >> So that's me up. Heart rate at heart rate from 45 to 178 in a split second.

[00:56:53]>> Oh no. like it was always going to happen, but like when I was still living there and sharing a bed with him, [ __ ] off, mate. I compile and compiled a nice stern list of things I was going to say to him, saw he was moving on Find My iPhone. And she dropped him off a street away, so he just walked in. He came in and said, "Oh, nice. You up for a run?"

[00:57:15]And I said, "Yep. So, how was your sleepover?" He said, "Fine. I just crashed at the boys." And I said, "Oh, funny how he's next door." No. Oh, I said, "Oh, how funny is he?"

[00:57:32]>> Blank >> blank next door neighbor then. Like a deer in the headlights. Lol. He was like, "I wasn't there. I stayed at the boys. I have never felt so [ __ ] powerful knowing I was right."

[00:57:45]>> Good for you. He gaslight me and lied for a solid 5 minutes until I said, "Well, you're a [ __ ] idiot because I still have your Air Tag."

[00:57:54]>> Silence. A good 40second silence. And the only thing he came up with was, "Why are you tracking my location?" So, I told him, "Don't dare sleep in that bed.

[00:58:05]Don't come to my leaving do and literally just disappear cuz you're dead to me." He was shook.

[00:58:11]>> Yeah. Literally, he was shook and saying, "Well, where am I going to sleep for the next 2 weeks? That's not fair.

[00:58:18]We've broken up. We can both do what we want." I said, "Well, you figured out last night, so I'm sure you'll be able to figure it out."

[00:58:25]>> Also, yes, we've broken up, but you could have at least waited until I left to do that. You have two weeks of my presence, and you have no respect for me. His response, I do respect you. Oh.

[00:58:37]>> So I said, "Well, were you respecting me last night when you were [ __ ] bossed deep in her?" "No." "So [ __ ] off and never speak to me again." [laughter] And he told me to stop speaking like that. God forbid a girl was realistic and continued to say he had respect for me. So basically, trust your [ __ ] gut, ghettos. Mine is like yours, Megan.

[00:59:00]And she can't physically be trusted, but mentally is always right. I'm good. I'm such a sound sleeper and always sleep through the night, but God bless I woke up. Anyways, can't fault my girlies and family for being around me during this and love them all so much.

[00:59:18]>> They deserve the world for putting up for pulling me through this and I will be starting therapy.

[00:59:23]>> I can't wait to move home and be a single free spirit and just fall in love with myself again. Oh, your friends and family will always be there to have your back even if you get an absolute [ __ ] And this podcast has truly opened my eyes and made me feel so validated. Please never stop yapping.

[00:59:42]>> P.S. It feels so good writing this down.

[00:59:44]Maybe I should start journaling to shitty men. Cheers.

[00:59:49]>> I love that. I love that. The end.

[00:59:52]>> I love that so much.

[00:59:54]>> A >> that is so so amazing to read. I feel like you, my dear, >> can I just say I love how we you've kept us in the loop. She even um for everyone else sent us a DM. So, like we actually, you know, got her DM and she just said we'd visit out and she told us to look out for this.

[01:00:17]>> And I just feel like for you to go through 10 weeks of hell and be able to hold your own and not fall back into the trap and you know, like start running, start yoga, be healthy, and like at the end be like that, no, you've crossed another boundary even though we've broken up. Like that's amazing and you should be so proud of yourself for that.

[01:00:37]>> Honestly, well done. And you have now set the foundation to being independent.

[01:00:44]Yeah. You've got your freedom now. Like how amazing. You can look back and be like, I can do anything.

[01:00:49]>> And the fact your mindset is like already is like I can't wait to get home, fall in love with myself, be single.

[01:00:56]>> You know what you need to do.

[01:00:57]>> I'm going to start therapy. Like wow.

[01:00:59]Like the fact you can like see all those things this soon on is very very powerful. Absolutely. And I honestly like I can feel in my chest that like I know I'll never be in a situation like I was in ever again. And it's not because I've had truth of that. It's not because someone's came along and started cheating me right. It's because I trust myself so much now where I'm like just kill >> where I'm like that will never happen again. And I know that you feel the same. [music] >> Exactly. So thank you for telling us all that and we wish you nothing but love and the best.

[01:01:32]>> Yes. is coming your way.

[01:01:35]>> Okay. Well, that's us.

[01:01:37]>> That's us wrapping up for another week.

[01:01:39]Remember, the little inboxy thing is always open so you can send in your dilemas, FBI files at any given point.

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[01:01:47]>> The next week we're going to be in IIFA.

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