எல்லா Divorce-ம் ஒரே Reason- காக நடக்கிறது இல்ல | Psychologist Aisha |Divorce | Marital Affair Issue

Added: 2026-06-01

[00:00:07][music] >> It's very easy to sit here and generalize.

[00:00:13]I mean so long we are there.

[00:00:15]>> [music] >> That will just be an oversimplification.

[00:00:22][music] >> [music] >> First of all, long before the actual sexual intimacy [music] happens.

[00:00:46]>> [music] >> I mean we should be thinking about it.

[00:00:51]>> [music] >> Have you thought [music] about it?

[00:01:01]One of the main reasons.

[00:01:10]>> [music] >> Not that extra marital affair they are having is going to matter in the [music] future. I don't think they only have that.

[00:01:29]>> [music] [music] >> Because they are so used to it.

[00:01:51]>> [music] [music] >> You know how hurting it is for the child?

[00:01:59]>> What a trauma money I earn.

[00:02:03]>> [music] >> What are you going to say something on the little jewelry number four of one that you see?

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[00:02:56]Okay, divorce money and I can do that.

[00:02:58]Media Erica it's more prominent in Minnesota and I would love to learn more. See most of the worst case you're seeing now are celebrities.

[00:03:09]I'm going to put it there. But I don't want to increase I reckon I guess there is an increase and there are multiple reasons more than just media for that.

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[00:03:48]One of them is Hello everyone so the reason I don't care that you get it's very easy to sit here and generalize.

[00:03:54]>> It's very easy to sit here and generalize.

[00:04:00]I think you need to know the reasons for the divorce.

[00:04:05]It's their personal life.

[00:04:08]They might have been in a mental abuse.

[00:04:11]It might be like other forms of abuse or even incompatibility.

[00:04:20]Their needs are not being met and they're going to get a divorce. In some cases it could be extra-marital affairs.

[00:04:24]There are multiple reasons. I don't think we can like say it is that.

[00:04:32]That would just be an oversimplification.

[00:04:35]And then there is something called grey divorce. Grey divorce is when people divorce in their 50s.

[00:04:45]The reason they stayed together in the first place was not strong enough.

[00:04:59]So they're like waiting for it to happen.

[00:05:04]Once they are not needed for the marriage system to work out anymore.

[00:05:11]So I'm not selfish for getting a divorce.

[00:05:16]So let me get it.

[00:05:19]But in most of the cases they will still keep on I don't know.

[00:05:29]Yeah, most likely because of the kids' future.

[00:05:32]>> Okay.

[00:05:38]If you want to generalize it then you can.

[00:05:44]I don't know if it's right or wrong.

[00:05:59]>> First of you must call EMA is basically extra marital affair. So when they It can be emotional intimacy.

[00:06:12]But I don't know Because corporate culture when they everybody has wife.

[00:06:36]I don't think it's right at all.

[00:06:44]Proximity.

[00:06:58]So there is a likelihood that you can fall for the person.

[00:07:08]You know cheating is not a one time event.

[00:07:11]There's a lot of things that happens before it that leads to cheating.

[00:07:23]opposite gender get most like Generally is that men have this feeling to be needed.

[00:07:40]I will go Google on Google.

[00:07:42]Recognize that I don't know what to do. feel needed.

[00:07:51]But I think up in the men They go for it.

[00:08:15]And in and I'm just being kind.

[00:08:18]I'm just being nice.

[00:08:29]First of all, long before the actual sexual intimacy happens.

[00:08:35]So I think I have a I think So what a point to You know what I mean?

[00:08:51]And I don't know what to If I can play the cheating behavior irrespective of gender.

[00:09:03]I think I need to get a I think I need to I need to talk about I think so So actually I'm going to talk about it.

[00:09:20]But I don't know what to I don't know what to talk about.

[00:09:22]I don't know what to If you are sharing or I don't know what to talk about. So what I think is I don't know what to talk about. I don't know what to talk about.

[00:09:34]I don't know what to talk about.

[00:09:37]I don't know what to talk about. I don't know what to talk about. I don't know what to >> Most likely I'm your soul mate most of all but when you delete it it becomes like 10 times more worse.

[00:09:55]>> [laughter] >> Isn't it gaslighting?

[00:10:13]Am I am actually gaslighting you?

[00:10:20]Finish it.

[00:10:37]Have you thought about it?

[00:10:48]They sometimes even say some of my friends say that I even love my partner.

[00:11:09]There is love. There is a primary partner but cheating just was like a one time event.

[00:11:17]or pleasure So I think if you love somebody loyalty should be a very serious thing.

[00:11:35]>> or man or woman could have that kind of thing going on, correct? I don't know if the woman could manage it or not, I don't know if they could do that. But man is in a marital affair or they are having an affair or something like that.

[00:11:45]I don't think they only have one man.

[00:11:47]Women are also involved.

[00:11:50]Or a woman could have a partner. Many of them have them. Or many of them get to do what they want. You want to mix that up with a fair look on the other profile and be happy now. Or a man or a woman or a woman or a man or a woman or a man or a woman or a woman or a woman or a They are going to look at you like you are a man or a woman or a man or a woman or a man or a woman So basically if a woman cheats which is wrong, at least she'll get the like I don't know what kind of thing you are talking about, but I don't know what you are talking about. But men get away with it more and I don't know what you are talking about. I don't know what you are talking about, but I don't know what you are But they get away with it. So many people are thinking that men will be men. Men are not able to be with a woman or a man or a woman or a man or a woman.

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[00:13:38]So if you want to put in a marriage with Okay, the one of the major reasons in the other opinion now in order in there partner on the bottom will be in a happy marriage But I should have a lot of this with What do you want?

[00:14:32]naturally But automatically They are more prone.

[00:14:44]So come on.

[00:14:48]Basically In fact It's client It will not happen. Student teacher something like responsibility to make sure that the client doesn't fall in love with us. Now I am I think I am ready. I think you are in a relationship.

[00:15:08]You are So I am You are the man.

[00:15:15]You are happy, right? You are the person who should be more loyal.

[00:15:19]You are the person who has more to lose.

[00:15:23]You know what I mean? Already So, more responsibility on the person who's in a happy marriage.

[00:15:49]marriage couple is loneliness.

[00:15:52]Maybe I do EM for Okay.

[00:16:16]One of the reasons obviously kids.

[00:16:25]Like it doesn't in that way Because they're so used to it. I think You know how hurting it is for the child?

[00:17:18]I do EM >> Sometimes cheating children children bad worse Sunday behavior fight But there is an audience there.

[00:17:41]I'm safe new second You are shaking their base.

[00:17:48]You life long impact on Something I would like to say is divorce is not the worst thing that it can happen to a marriage.

[00:17:56]other worse divorce problem I'm divorce problem But worse at least marriage first over honeymoon period honeymoon period problem problem true stage Sunday Sunday Sunday start Okay.

[00:18:33]total after start See, that not just marriage even for a love marriage love marriage different thing.

[00:18:43]September problem problem Because there are more speculations, more expectations in a marriage. problem marriage in the situation. You know love love number marriage marriage You know You You You >> In our family we do it like this. In the matter I will do anything for you. I will do anything for you. But I don't want to do it for you.

[00:19:25]I don't know why I am doing it. I don't know why I am doing it. I don't know.

[00:19:28]Do you understand?

[00:19:29]What happens then?

[00:19:30]Marriage is a problem.

[00:19:34]Performative marriage is basically a problem. Many new expectations come up.

[00:19:43]You wanted this. You wanted to be together.

[00:19:48]You don't have to entertain everyone.

[00:19:50]You don't have to please everyone.

[00:19:52]So if you just remember why you started and second, communicate what you want.

[00:20:02]You have to say it so that they understand.

[00:20:03]So if you want something you can't always be like that. You can't always be like that. What? What do I need? I need this.

[00:20:13]You just say what happened and what you feel. These two are facts. These two are not opinions. No one can argue with you about this.

[00:20:22]But you can't make a generalized statement. You are always like this. You don't love me. You don't love me. You love your house more than me. When you say a statement like this, it's not a fact. It's your opinion. You can argue about this. It's not true. It's not true. It's not true. The reason for the fight is that after marriage, there will be a small problem. After marriage, there will be a small problem. After marriage, there will If you had said it, it would have been solved. If you had said it, it would have been solved. If you had said it, it would have been solved. But you didn't say it.

[00:20:44]Completely they will think about it and think about it and think about it and think about it. They will come to a declaration. This person doesn't love me. This person doesn't love me.

[00:20:50]This person loves only his family.

[00:20:54]This person doesn't want to adjust. They will come to a declaration and they will announce that declaration to their partner.

[00:21:02]They can't accept it because that's not what they feel is true. Then the fight will start. Then the fight will start.

[00:21:07]So this is the reason for the fight.

[00:21:08]This is the reason for the fight.

[00:21:10]So, yeah, every time I just What happened and what you felt.

[00:21:16]Clear up. You got to be patient.

[00:21:32]I don't know what I'm going to do with my life. I'm going to go to the