Cringing at "Nice Girls"

Added: 2026-05-11

[00:00:00]Listen, if there's one piece of advice that I tell you right now, don't trust someone who calls themselves a nice guy or a nice girl. In li of that, I thought on today's video, we'll go to the Reddit nice girls just to see the little hints, the little droppings to find out what a nice girl actually is. Without further ado, let's get into it. Taking a week to respond just to be rude is a different level of audacity. Okay, first message at 7:20. Hi there. She replies back a day later saying hi back. He asked her, "How are you this evening?" She responds back, "Is that all? Like, you seem so fun on your profile and then you're just giving me the hi, how are you?" He says, "Okay, never mind then." Wait, I don't even think that's that bad of a text.

[00:00:29]Like not to be on this girl side or anything, but I think a lot of girls get a lot more matches than guys do. So, I'm sure they see a lot of the same messages like, "Hey, how are you?" You know, let's go on a date, whatever it is. I mean, you can only say so much when you don't know the person. But what else do you expect from your first three messages, though? I think that she might be a little valid and feeling like, okay, like maybe bored. I can't imagine what she's expecting the guy to say within the first three messages. Like, I think it's a bit much to be like, is that all from a hi, how are you? Like, what could he have said there? I wonder if she's on the younger side. The how are you is like a good combo starter. So maybe she might be on the younger side.

[00:00:58]But like I think I'd always start my stuff by saying hi, how are you? Like it's a pretty okay thing to I'm like defending a question. But like what else do you say? I guess maybe his profile gave out the vibes that he's like a really whimsical person. So maybe she expected him to like ask her like a would you rather or something. I don't know what did the comments think. If she weren't a boring person, she wouldn't need to rely on you to say something interesting. Some people need to rediscover having hobbies and interest instead of relying on others to entertain them. When you have these things, small talk ain't so bad. As an adult, I love when the people I'm interested in ask how I am and make small talk. To me, it seems like they're thinking of me enough to want to chat in their spare time, but to Easterone, I suppose. Yeah, I'm a big person or a big component in asking someone how their day is. Like, I love I love I love not seeing someone for like, you know, the entire day and then like us kind of like I guess like decompressing or like letting each other know how our day went and every single minute detail. Maybe that just shows how bad I am in conversation that I need to know how your day went to make conversations. But I love it. I love it. I love it. It could be a girl I'm talking to. Even my friends like I don't know, something about telling me every single detail about your day just I don't know. It makes me happy like and I like hearing about it. I guess for some people they don't really care unless you're like dating the person like you actually know the person. But like it could be like a first date for me and I like talking about that kind of stuff. Like I always lead in with like a like, "Hey, how did your day go? Let me know everything cuz like let's say that person's like, you know, maybe a little nervous." Telling me how your date went detail by detail can tell you a lot about the person if they don't maybe don't want to. Maybe they're a little worried about it. A little worried about it. If they're a little nervous to let you know how they are. Let's get to the next post though.

[00:02:09]This girl added me on Instagram randomly. I've known her for about a week and told her today I'd be busy. She didn't acknowledge it and because I wasn't responding had this to say. If you want to stop talking to me for whatever reason, but don't have the balls to ghost me or tell me, so you try to make me lose interest, so I leave you. You're such a and you should definitely [ __ ] But if you like me and are for real just a loser, then stop being a loser and start texting first.

[00:02:28]At least hello, I am a woman.

[00:02:31]Wait, what else do they talk about?

[00:02:32]Also, I hate people who talk like this.

[00:02:34]Like the whatever I can deal with, that's fine, but the whole like if you like me and are for real, just like you can't have three acronyms. R, I'll be okay with whatever. For real, I say that a lot. the JS. I hate that because you're saving two letters in between J and S. And here's the thing on my keyboard. The U is right above the J and the S is way across the keyboard. I feel like you might be No, you're not taking more time, but like you're saving less than a millisecond. Like just type the word just. Come on, bro. I hate that last part, too. Like, hello, I'm a woman. What is that supposed to mean?

[00:03:00]I'm assuming she tried to hang out and that's why he said uh in his like context, I'd be busy. It's one thing to not respond to a person and you really are busy and they don't know about it.

[00:03:08]Like of course that sucks as a person on the responding end, but if a girl I'm talking to, especially only a week in, tells me like, "Hey, I'm going to be busy today. I can't respond or like I can't respond like at a moment's notice, like I'll take that as it is and like, okay, bet like we'll just talk at the end of the night or tomorrow or whatever it is." Like it's also only been a week.

[00:03:21]There's no expectation on the girl side or the guy side or an OP side to respond immediately. That doesn't make any sense. I feel like a lot of these posts, these girls, like especially on a nice girls, nice guys, whatever, they have to be under the age of like 16. You can't be a 25year-old. can't be like above 21, 22, maybe even 23 and act like this or have expectations like this on another person. She unmatched immediately after probably. But I unmatch with people I never talk to that I'm applauding that only because there is a disease on these dating apps or this hinge tind or whatever where it's not just a girl thing. Guys do this as well, but people will match with someone and I don't know if it's because of like a a validation thing for them to feel like, okay, bet I can match someone like this and they'll never talk to them.

[00:03:58]Like they won't send a message or they won't respond back, whatever. That's fine. You're entitled to whoever you like. But maybe I'm trying to get into the psyche of someone who does this. If I'm not talking to someone for whatever reason, I'll just unmatch them. I'm not going to like stay matched with them if I know I don't want to talk to them.

[00:04:09]Like what's the point of not unmatching?

[00:04:10]But shout out this girl for actually doing it. He responds back, "What are you looking for?" question mark. She says, "Not a hookup." He says, "So, because I guess she doesn't follow up with like what she actually is looking for." She then says, "What are you looking for?" He says, "To be honest, I don't think we would match well in a long-term relationship, though you do have an allure to you." She says, "What makes you say that?" He says, "I find you physically attractive, but I don't think our lifestyles are very similar in a way conductive to a long-term relationship." She says, "Yeah, cuz I go to ballet twice a week, spin and run 5Ks on the weekends. I wouldn't have time for a bum like you." Damn. Wait, what's her profile like though? Or like what's the context? Damn, [ __ ] I mean, maybe he's not an active person cuz I'm only going based off of what she said at the bottom. But her calling him a bum is so out of pocket like or like out of left field. Like why is this a thing of like someone getting rejected and then be like, "I wouldn't like you anyways." Or, "I didn't like you anyways." I was just I was just saying that just to say it.

[00:04:53]This is not the flex you think it is.

[00:04:55]This one's on you, buddy. I can tell your comprehension skills are in the gutter, but let me help you out. Okay, we got some Reddit fighting. Oh [ __ ] Okay. One, no one asked her for a hookup. Who asked? She pulled that one out her ass. Going on a try about how she's better than the average woman and then calling a stranger a bum for not being interested is incel behavior.

[00:05:09]Yeah, everyone asked. That's why we know. And giving it to him straight is not claiming to be better than the average woman. That is an assumption. No one needs to [ __ ] rebut your childish excuse for conversation. If you don't have good intentions, why are you on a dating platform, dude? Use common sense.

[00:05:20]My f, you need to turn off your computer and go get some sun. Walk on grass. It's Reddit, bro. There's no need to have a meltdown if someone doesn't. Okay, this [laughter] Okay, I'm I'm not done reading this. Wait, but I feel like Severe Muffin is kind of right though.

[00:05:31]No. What am I missing? An allure. Maybe he's trying to like still do something.

[00:05:35]I will say assuming that OP wants a hookup and knowing the girl doesn't want it should have just unmatched immediately, but that doesn't, you know, validate her response calling him a bum that there's no reason for that. He didn't say anything like worry of that worry. He didn't say anything like that had a good response to that or like that should have been responded like that. I don't know. A lot of people in the comments are actually kind of agreeing with the girl. I don't know what I'm missing though. Like this edit, I didn't see her final response because I didn't click on the text pick. But I stand by my original opinion. She states her objective upfront and he acknowledges that's not what he wants and yet he drags it out like he's hoping she'll agree to hook up and that's just gross after she says she wasn't interested in that. I think this commentator is right in the sense of like it does look like he might be dragging it out just in case she's like okay but let's hook up. Like the way he's like dragging it out is him dragging it out is explaining why they wouldn't be good together though. It's not like he's trying to make conversation. Like who's to say after him explaining his whole reasoning why they wouldn't be good in a long-term relationship and if she were to be like okay yeah that's fine. Who's to say he wouldn't have unmatched? Like I think it's a little harsh on OP. The gaslighting is crazy. So, this girl I was talking to had asked me loaded questions often. Things like, "Would you like me if I was this or looked like this?" And I told her it bothered me as my ex used to do that. And whatever answer I gave was a wrong one. And this new girl did the exact same thing. I cut things off. She's making me the bad guy.

[00:06:39]She said, "It was a joke. I sent it to all my snap friends, not just you." He said, "I mean this with all respect. My ex used to do that often. And any answer I give wasn't the right one. And I brought it up to you before. Again, I mean absolutely no disrespect whatsoever." She says, "I mean absolutely no disrespect at all, but you should take a joke. It was an effing joke. No disrespect. Everyone else found it funny. He then says, "Well, f me for having trauma from it. I guess it's all good, though. I know you will just forget about me. No disrespect. Dodge the bullet, but thank God." He says, "You're being very unkind. Please leave me alone." He continues, "Absolutely."

[00:07:06]Blows my mind that you can't respect someone's boundaries. Please leave me alone. I'm blocking your number now. She responds, "Okay, okay, okay, girl some balls." She follows up, "Blows my mind how a little joke makes you freak out so bad." It's like, how bad was it again?

[00:07:17]It was just, "Would you like me if I was this or looked like this?" on the assumption that it's like those very Tik Tocky questions like, "Would you like me if I was a worm or if I looked like Shrek?" I don't know if the second one's ever been asked, but like things like that, OP might be tripping. Trauma is a big word to use if it's questions like that. And that's kind of the vibe I'm getting considering that the girl was like, "I sent it to all my friends. It was a joke." I hate the fact that we don't know what the joke is cuz if it's like some serious, it's not really a joke, is it? But it's kind of hard to tell. I think it's okay that OP like set his boundaries like I guess beforehand like, "Hey, I don't want these questions being asked to me." And the girl is obviously in the wrong for like asking the questions over and over again. I think her response is kind of crazy.

[00:07:50]Like they're not partners, but if I'm talking to a girl and I try to make a joke out of something and she's like, "Hey, I don't find that funny." Or like I don't like being asked these type of questions because I find them awkward or whatever. Like my ex used to do that. I would just not ask her. Like, not to be the perfect boyfriend or whatever, but it's not that hard. Granted, I'm a pretty like, you know, I like making jokes, so maybe I might try to push the boundaries a little bit. That sounds kind of bad to say, but like just got a text from Pizza, my fat ass.

[00:08:12]But but if I get sent that message like this, then I know not to do it ever again. Like come on. Jesus Christ. When did people get so emotional about basic human interaction? Y'all need to get some thicker skin. I mean, it's effing annoying when people do that in a relationship, but calling it trauma is a bit of an insult. Not a bit of an insult. A huge insult to people who have experienced real trauma. PSA, your significant other asking if you still love them if they look like a tadpole is not real trauma. Okay. Yeah, thank god I'm being validated in my thoughts. The problem is we don't actually know what kind of interaction this person was claiming to have traumatized him. Like if your partner asks you if you love them as a tadpole, you're not a victim.

[00:08:39]But if they ask some questions like, "Would you like me if I was insert x-ray others might deem undesirable?" And you answer, "Yes, of course." But then they say you hesitated and give you silent treatment the rest of the day. That sounds like emotional abuse to me. It's not really the question that would cause a trauma. It's whether they treat you like a garbage despite giving a well-intentioned response. Intentioned.

[00:08:55]Intentioned. Yeah. And if that kind of interaction occurs frequently, I can see how OP might be extra sensitive to that stuff that isn't actually toxic.

[00:09:01]Unfortunately, all speculation. Yeah. I hate when Oh, they don't give enough detail, bro. And this guy literally says that yes, saf people screenshot online but neglect to post the first interaction. We don't know. But I want to take it at face value and like you know OP's girl that he's talking to is like just making a joke and then maybe took it a little too seriously for the girl that he's talking to to send it to all her friends like on Snapchat or whatever. It doesn't seem like she gave him the silent treat but like that level of like being asked a question and then like you know being annoyed by the answer that your boyfriend gave you or whatever. I don't know if that's a nice girl though. So far going to this Reddit hasn't really been based around nice girls. Sorry about that. It's been a lot more like relationshipy questions. But let's get to the next post. I got back with my ex but you shouldn't have added me. Context is we were just talking for a little bit but it wasn't going anywhere. Then randomly her man snaps me from her snap and I un added her. She messaged me on TikTok today and this is that. She says low. Why'd you remove me on Snap? He responds, "A man snapped me, lol." She says, "Yeah, my ex." He says, "lol." She says, "You didn't have to remove me, though, but cool. Go off." He says, "You'll be all right. Be safe and have a good one." Why does a girl care that the guy unadded her? They weren't friends beforehand, so they didn't have like a friendly relationship. So, if it's strictly based on the fact that it could have been romantical, why the hell does she care? Like, if I'm the boyfriend, I'm like, "Yo, why do you care like that he unaddited you? You should be happy." You know, you can have friends with the opposite sex, but again, this isn't that just to be clear.

[00:10:06]So, if I'm the boyfriend, I'd immediately feel like, you know, a little like a tiny bit of like a chest tightening, like why do you care about this [ __ ] un adding you? Let me know how you guys think. Most people would think that. Ghost me and tries to come back weeks later context. I don't know if it matters, but I'm a lesbian. So, also girl. Oh, she's speaking English. I thought she was American. I had been talking to this girl pretty consistently, but she would often ghost me for a few days at a time. This time, however, it had been a couple weeks. I posted a pic of myself to Instagram, and IG caught her attention, and I guess it caught her attention. Ah, I read IG's Instagram. Wow. So, she messaged me. My response to her, hey, was not supposed to be malicious at all. I'm a very sarcastic person and I was trying to poke light fun at the situation but I guess she didn't catch on and decided to freak out on me. OP says girl. She responds back. A girl can't get busy.

[00:10:43]Damn. OP says it's been like three weeks. Girl responds, "Maybe I just forgot about you." I saw you post and said, "Why not?" "Worth a shot, shouty."

[00:10:49]People say, "Showdy still." OP says, "Damn, okay." She says, "Truth hurts."

[00:10:54]OP says, "Goodbye." She says, "Lmao, you're funny if you think I care. You're not even worth a goodbye." I'm assuming the girl probably just like started dating someone or started talking to someone. It didn't go anywhere, so she went back to OP, which happens a lot.

[00:11:04]That kind of hurt myself when I realized that a lot of times like if someone were to get ghosted, it's usually because the other person found someone that they thought was better for a break or whatever. So, they prioritize that and then once that doesn't work out or whatever, they'll end up going back to the person. Obviously, you can just get ghosted for any reason. Like, to me, that's usually what the main reason usually is. But, you guys let me know any of the random reasons that you might ghost someone for. A girl can't get busy. A girl can't get busy for 3 weeks.

[00:11:26]Who are you fooling, bro? Also, talking about worth a shot shouty. I did not realize people were still saying shouty in the big 26. I thought we forgot about that. Just like how this girl forgot about her. Nice girl can't handle rejection. I was pretty closer with my message blank. I'm not sure what the issue is. Plus, we only talked to each other for a couple weeks. She responds, "Your attitude changed after I admitted it was a test. I just want you to be honest why you said no because I don't think it's work. If it was work, why would you have signed up for blank event in the first place?" OP responds, "Yeah, it was bad judgment on my end. Like I said, I just don't think I'm ready for relationship or anything right now and wanted to be honest." Opie continues with something. FaceTime calls, be furial, bro, please. She says, "So, why come to Mixer event if you didn't want anything?" OP says, "Listen, man. Why can't we just part ways peacefully? Girl says, "You're never going to get a better chance with me. I just want to know why you threw a chance with me away." Queen Elizabeth over here. Jesus Christ. She continues, "You really think you can do better than me? Do you know how many handsomemer, richer, more religious, taller, etc. guys I can get if Iinging tried? More religious?" What?

[00:12:18]OP says, "You are a princess who brutally mossed me in every aspect. I'm but an insect compared to you, your majesty." With a picture of the Joker clown going like this, "Please let my meager and humble self be your majesty."

[00:12:29]She responds, "You think I can't sense sarcasm? I'm literally an English major and I was going to go to law school. Is that like a class they teach you in law school that I didn't know about? OP responds, lol. Listen, I said you're great, but it won't work out with me. I genuinely think there's a better guy for you out there. And I mean it. You're out of my league lookswise. Don't worry, you're not losing much here. By the way, that's such [ __ ] about people's being in someone leagues based off looks. I hate that way of thinking. It's actually so annoying. It literally puts people in like different tiers off their like not intrinsic value, but like off their looks, which is doesn't make sense cuz everyone finds someone else attractive. Ah, I guess that's a rant.

[00:12:56]I'm not even trying to go on. Yeah, dummy. I know. And you seem to understand, too. Still haven't answered my question though. Why did you decide it's over with me when you can't do it better? God, why do you care about the reason? And also, it's not true cuz you like this guy enough to keep continuing this conversation. Granted, I think Opie didn't block her just to see how far he can get cuz I would have blocked this person immediately, but still, why is it so hard for people to like get no rejection? Like, I know these videos are making me come off as like the perfect guy. But if I'm getting rejected by someone, I'm not going to like try to find out why this much. Of course, there's a basic level that everyone wants to know like, "Okay, I got rejected. Was it because I wasn't attractive enough? We didn't mesh well?"

[00:13:29]Like, you know, you can ask why once if they don't want to give it to you. They don't have to. Like, it's their loss at the end of the day. But to keep pushing for a reason even if you're already rejected, like what is it going to benefit you? It's not like this girl is saying like, "I want to find out what I can do better for other relationships."

[00:13:40]It could just be personal. And that sucks to say, but it just could be that.

[00:13:43]But to harp like this much, like over and over and over again, like come on.

[00:13:46]Like, chill out. Also, her talking about her she's an English major, she can sense sarcasm. Like, there's no sarcasm 101 class. Like, what are you talking about? Know this girl in real life for a year or two now, and she always pulls stuff like this to every guy she knows.

[00:13:56]So, I wasn't surprised when she tried to doing it to me cuz she says, "Will you be my Valentine?" Opie says, "Okay." She says, "Oh, oh my gosh, I I didn't actually think you'd say yes." It was just a dare. I didn't really want to be your Valentine. Sorry, they just dared me because no one wants you to be their Valentine. I actually already have a Valentine. His name is Clav. He says, "Clvicular." She says, "Yeah, that's him. So, sorry no one wants you." She continues, "It must be really miserable to you." The did I just read? Okay. They have to be under the age of 10. Never the right time. When I was in middle school, I don't think people really did this in high school. Anytime a girl talked to me in any way that I thought might have been like middle school like I thought they liked me or like I like them. I would always be scared that it was a dare. Like I'd be looking around like okay her like friend group laughing laughing at her because she's talking to me or whatever. Like that's such a big fear of mine and I thought that was just me until like you know other people said it as well. But I was so scared of someone talking to me like and I saw that someone talking to me like inviting me to like a dance or whatever. Not that I went just to find out that it was a dare or like they didn't actually like me. I was soing scared of that. I'm not going to lie. That fear kind of went into high school until like, you know, like senior year, but freshman year, I kind of like stayed there a little bit like, okay, this girl's talking to me, but like she might be getting paid $5 for this conversation. Fastest match/ unmatch I've ever experienced. Matched at 1:45 p.m., got off work at 2 p.m., then unmatched at 1:45 p.m. I've unmatched faster, but yeah. Opie says, "Nice to meet you." She responds, "Nice to meet you, too." He says, "I'm just getting off work. Apologies for the delay. How's your day going?" She responds, "It's okay. I'm about to head to work in a little bit." He says, "I hope you have a great shift." Oh, wow.

[00:15:16]Just noticed you're local. That never happens. She says, "I know. I noticed that, too." She continues, "I'm sorry. I was trying to be nice and have a conversation with you, but it seems like you aren't interested. Have a good night." He says, "What? How do you figure? Lol." What? Wait, that has to be because of his response time. There's only two things that could have happened here. They messed at 1:45. He got off work at 2:00. So, in that 15 minutes, the first three messages happened 100%.

[00:15:36]Right? Cuz he got off work. I'm just getting off work. So, that would have been at 2:00. So, maybe they both said, "Hey, at 1:45, he finishing work, whatever, responds back at 2 p.m. And then I'm guessing he drove home and got back at 2:45." And that's when he says, "Great shift. Oh, wow. Just noticed."

[00:15:49]Cuz aside from that, why else would she say that? Or maybe the five texts of great shift. Oh, wow. Whatever.

[00:15:54]Whatever. To her, he didn't ask a question. So, like that made it seem like he didn't want to have a conversation. Wait, what is she on? I I I don't understand. I literally can't have like a like a vision through her what she was thinking when she wrote it.

[00:16:04]What? The comments are saying that she could be a catfish. Granted, I don't think I've ever been catfished before.

[00:16:08]Like, okay, I have been. Not like it's a different person. Like, the person just kind of like photoshopped the picture a little bit, but something like this. I know some people are worried about like hanging out with someone through a dating app. And that is like a big fear of this, especially women. And obviously you can understand why. But the way these comments are like this comment is like probably freaked out cuz you're local. She may actually have to go hang out. Someone respond back. Strong possibility. I'll give her the benefit of the doubt. Is that really a fear?

[00:16:27]Like with with me and dating apps like I'm not scared of meeting someone. That could just mean, you know, me having a guy privilege all that. Like I don't have the same words as a woman. But like when I hear girls say that they're like scared of meeting up and correct me if I'm wrong. I've never heard it in the view of like the danger. It's always been like out of nervousness. I might be wrong. You know, let me know in the comments. I don't know though. Why like self-sabotage a future relationship or a potential relationship because you're worried about meeting up? That doesn't make sense. For your viewing pleasure, I just wanted to include my piece of this subs puzzle. It's freaking hilarious what some people come up with to try to make themselves feel better, but I was 50 cents richer, lol. Okay, so PayPal message and Opie's getting 50 cents. A message. Thank you for letting me go. I found the love of my life because of you. A man that puts you to shame.

[00:17:03]Embarrassing, really. I won't message you again. I truly just wanted to thank you. Okay, I know the girl sending it was like trying to be mean. And I'm not going to lie, I don't know if my ego getting hurt this much is worth 50 cents. I'm going to be completely honest. At the same time, I'd be kind of happy knowing that she doesn't actually think this guy is that much above me.

[00:17:18]Because for her to go through all of this, that guy that might not even real that she's talking to can't be that good of a guy. Like, why are you still thinking about me sending me money even if it is 50 cents? You're going through a lot to try and make me feel bad and you're telling me he's that much better than me? I I don't think so. I don't know. Let's be honest here. I'm a little doubtful of the guy even existing. But doing all this and sending me money and a long message, unless it's like written by AI or something like you're still in that girl's head. Risky first message.

[00:17:43]Glad she didn't overreact. OP says, "Hey, my sister's got a Bernie's mountain dog. You should have used the picture with him, lol." She responds back, "I don't need to show a picture of her." Okay, it's literally confidential.

[00:17:52]I can literally say on my bio, but it doesn't mean anything. Okay, don't need to be rude. Are you good? Like, okay, that must have been a voice message. How do you type like that? OP responds back, just saying I would have loved to see him. I'm a dog lover. Dot dot dot. Are you good? Lol. I don't know if confidential is the right word to use.

[00:18:05]Did the girl responding back just have a bad day? Like genuinely, I don't know what I'm missing. And I know this is like guy brain guy brain talking, but like what's the point of responding like this? Are you good? Like wait, how do you take his message and twist it in a bad way? All those exclamation points exclamation explan exclamation points.

[00:18:21]Exclamation. They're exclaiming. No. All those ex exclamation exclamation points.

[00:18:26]God damn. You're exclaiming all those explan excla those long eyes of the dot at the end. I would take as like exciting like I wouldn't take his message like as a rude thing. Her dog has to be working for the CIA cuz for you not to be able to show him genuinely where does his attitude come from?

[00:18:39]Instead of grabbing drinks, let's do something outdoors. Try out a new restaurant/bar. Nada. I just wanted to say go yourself. We'll get along if you like to run or do anything active.

[00:18:47]Unless you cycle. Y'all are my personal hell. I said what I said. I can't lie.

[00:18:51]If she replaced cycle with running or jogging or any type of running, she'd be in the right. I hate running. Okay, I don't hate people who run. If you like to run, you know, whatever. Keep running. But I hate running. Oh my, you know, I love playing soccer, but I hate running with a passion. It doesn't make any sense. I hate the way it makes my legs feel. Like continued running.

[00:19:06]Running for like past five minutes.

[00:19:07]Green flags. I look for it. Instead of ghosting me, just simply say in quotes, "I don't think I can keep up with your astounding wit or spectacular personality, but thank you for the exclusive opportunity." End quotes. All right. This is like the classic someone ghosted her and she's taking it out on the Hinge profile. Like funny enough, there's a way of writing this like just saying like, "Don't ghost me." That would come off in a nice way, but like saying it like this, it does just give off really bad vibes. Like I think people who would have matched you, let's say just based off your looks or like based off your other two things, I feel like this would turn most people off.

[00:19:34]And like you're on hinge, like you want to give off like, you know, good vibes.

[00:19:36]show people like your personality. Maybe this just is this girl's personality.

[00:19:40]But like I don't know how you'd write I don't want to be ghosted on a dating profile without looking like this cuz it is kind of hard to not look like it. But I don't think this is the way. Let's be honest. I didn't realize by the way she in the instead of grabbing drinks, she wrote try out a new bar. I could tell like she didn't care about this whole thing. She just wanted to get to the last point of like, okay, this is the punch line. I genuinely don't know how she got there. Also, for context, this combo happened at 2:30 a.m. She says, hey, Opie responds, hello, late night.

[00:20:03]Haha. She says what? He says, it's late dot dot dot. She says, "No, it is early." He says, "Hm, I guess it depends on if you've been asleep yet or not."

[00:20:10]She responds back, "What do you mean?

[00:20:11]Why are you up?" He says, "Well, if you haven't been to sleep yet, you are up late. If you already been to sleep and you get up at 2:00 a.m., you're up early. So whether it is early or late depends on if you have slept or not."

[00:20:19]She says, "I have back issues and in pain." He says, "Oh, that's not good."

[00:20:22]She says, "So you just assume I'm a crackhead?" He says, "What? Why would you think I assume that? How did she get the crackhead?" "Oh, I also miss, sorry, I was traveling all day, so I fell asleep when I got back, slept all afternoon, and woke up at midnight." He says, "Why are you up?" Oh, she responds back, "I have packages in pain." Okay. I mean, no one thought she was a crackhead, but now that she said it, this is like the classic like stupiding Tinder conversation. Like, that's literally what this post is. I can't imagine this got anywhere like after this, I I refuse to believe it. She got mad at me because I asked her on a date.

[00:20:47]Some context. We were having a lovely combo before this. I have no idea why this girl freaked out on me. I blocked her after this. Edit: I'm a woman. If this changes anything at all. What's up with people saying mentioning that they're also women in this? I don't get that. Okay, we'll say girl and OP. Girl says, "Hey, this is blank from Tinder."

[00:21:00]OP says, "Yes, it is. Is this blank?"

[00:21:01]Girl says, "Yes, it is. How are you?" OP says, "I'm good. I'm currently working on a painting project. Girl says, "Oh, no way. I love making art." Wow. She asks her, "What are you painting?" Opie says, "My cat." Girl says, "A so cute.

[00:21:11]We should totally paint together sometime." Boom. The date was first planted by the other girl, by the nice girl. Opie says, "Oh, yeah, that sounds lovely. I'm busy most of this week, but can we schedule around it?" She says, "Yeah, how does this weekend sound?" OP says, "Sure, that works for me. We can get coffee and then we can come back to my apartment. I have all the supplies we can need. I'm a bit of an art nerd."

[00:21:28]Girl says, "Oh, dot. I'm not going to lie, that's really creepy that you would say that to me. Like, I don't even know you. Why are you asking me over to yours? Like, we all effing know what you want. Talking about some supplies.

[00:21:36]Stupid [ __ ] Leave me alone. You're action insult. You're effing disgusting.

[00:21:39]Please don't message me again. Okay, I'm not blaming OP or the girl. Granted, you know, OP said we can go we can get coffee and go back to my place. What did the girl think was going to happen when she says we can paint? Like, I guess she thought they could go to like a third place and then paint over there, but I think I'm with OP. Like, I would assume you mean paint at my apartment cuz OP, you know, previously said she's at her place painting. Oh, I guess she didn't say at her place, but I would assume she's at her apartment or whatever house painting. OP says, "Hello. Genuinely, what did I do? You're the one that suggested the date, but okay. You clearly have some issues that I'm not the cause of, so I'm going to leave this here. Hope you get better. Have a good one." Girl says, "What the f are you talking about? How I get better?" Like, you're the one with mental issues. You probably like kids. Wo wo wo. Holy [ __ ] What? You probably like kids. Like, you're such a predator creeping on my and trying to get me in your house.

[00:22:22]Like, I know what you're up to. I'm not stupid. And okay, this is cringe. Oh my.

[00:22:26]She put a gift, like a Tik Tok gift in me. Yo, that's cringe as [ __ ] I haven't done gifts in a while. I used to be big on gifts. You're calling someone an Epcene and then making gifts around it like trying to be funny. Effing [ __ ] Like, don't ever actually text my phone again. You're actually effing disgusting. OP says, "Thumbs up." She says, "F off." OP says, "Thumbs up again." Okay, so girl takes around 40 minutes to respond. And she says, "Okay, I'm sorry for freaking out on you like that. I'm just having a bad day, okay?

[00:22:47]I'm having a really bad split right now and that just set me off on the edge."

[00:22:50]Okay. OP says, "Okay." Girl says, "Stupid [ __ ] Don't message me ever again. I effing hate you. Laughing emoji. and you had big gears anyways thinking you can get with me. I already have 10 different girls on my DMs, so don't message me again cuz I'm moving on. If your family was any more inbred, you'd be a sandwich.

[00:23:07]Yo, okay. Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.

[00:23:09]The nice girl kind of cooked her. I can't lie. If your family was any more inbred, you'd be a sandwich. I've never heard that before. Like, you're down weird. Lol. Are you bipolar or something? Lma. Opie says, "All right, bro." Oh, yeah. So, from her apologizing was at 1452. Uh, okay. A day later, she says, "Stupid." Damn. I guess if she came over, OP would have either had the best night of her life or she probably might have ended up dead. So, the girl got obviously mad cuz she assumed that when Opie says, "We can go back to my apartment." I guess the girl didn't realize that she had the art supplies at her crib. So, she thought, "Okay, we'll go back to my place and hook up is what the girl probably thought OP was saying." Opie said like, "I have all the supplies." Like, I would understand that. Okay, that means we're going to paint at your house. Of course, on our first date, inviting someone over, you know, whether some people have different opinions, but like it might be a bit much to some, not much to others, whatever. God damn though. Like Jesus.

[00:23:54]It also took her 9 minutes to think of that big paragraph from her saying, "Oh." I mean, I've never dealt with someone who's bipolar, so I don't know if it's like really this like left to right like switch. Only took 45 minutes from an apology and then a day later her going back to like not back just taking the rejection and being like again the classic like I didn't like you anyways.

[00:24:10]You had big ears. Calling her imm calling OP in bread. The joys of dating at 41. Oh dude, it must be so hard dating at an older age. Context. Talked with this lady for well over a month just texting getting to know her.

[00:24:20]decided that after about 5 to 6 weeks to try and set up a small little inerson date over coffee or lunch. Damn, it took you over a month to set up even like a coffee date. Jesus. Oh, stupid open to whatever. She stated that she didn't have a car and the only place close to her was a park. I figured no problem and offered her two or three potential options, including picking up a drink or lunch for us both and meeting in the park if she wanted. Dead sounds for several hours and until I was driving my son back to his mother's house. He sent three or four voice messages that I had no way of privately listening to and had blocked me by the time I arrived back home. Saw her online today on the original app. we connected on and wanted to give her a heads up that I was interested in attending a location she frequented and hope we could be all good if we ran into each other. Got treated like a stalker for trying to do the right thing. OP says, "Hey there. Just wanted to say that I would have appreciated being able to discuss with you things because I feel some assumptions were jumped to. But I also know I'm not owed anything. I hope there won't be any friction if we run into each other at blank. Otherwise, I hope you're doing well and take care. Go responds back, I tried to discuss things with you. You wouldn't meet on my terms and that's a hard limit for me.

[00:25:14]Friction? I'll doubt I even recognize you, but you'll probably recognize me, so just don't approach me. I think we'll be good. Leave me alone. It sucks knowing that the same issues people deal with dating at like the early 20s still happened at the big old four. Oh, god damn. Just with more, you know, like proper English, I guess, and that's about it. I'm assuming she blocked him because he didn't respond back fast enough. But also, like, y'all can let me know in the comments. Are you guys waiting five to 6 weeks before meeting up with someone? Also, like you're meeting them in a public area. Like, it's not like a private like I've never I don't know anyone's ever done like come over to my apartment like on dating apps or whatever. That to me is crazy.

[00:25:43]You don't know who the hell that person is, but meet them in a public spot, wait a date or two, and then, you know, do whatever you want after. I mean, you could do it before if you wanted to, but like 6 weeks is a long time, but I'm not going to lie. Like, let alone over a month. But yeah, that was the video, guys. I'm going to be straight up. Maybe I can go through like the down bad girls Reddit and I can, you know, that would be more of an example of what nice girls are. This was not really a nice girls thing. This felt more like just relationship advice or Okay, no, more like dating app or like early relationship stuff. I didn't really get the vibe of nice girls. We got some like the whole classic of like I didn't like you anyways or like I have 10 girls damning me back home, whatever. But this still was a pretty good look into the world of nice girls. But if you guys did enjoy the video, leave a like, subscribe, let me know any video ideas you guys want me to do in the comments below. Until next time, peace.