She Saw Right Through Him!

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[00:00:00]I am 29 years old. I have four kids and I'm sitting in my lovely minivan up the street from my parents' house. I literally just moved in with them 2 weeks ago and I'm sitting here, you know, just contemplating life as we do and I'm wondering how the hell did I get here. You know, I'm just replaying all my life decisions and if you would have seen me 8 9 months ago, you'd be like, how the hell is she still standing? I'm questioning that [ __ ] myself like pinch me, am I awake? I am. It's my life. I lived it and I still can't believe it, you know?

[00:00:32]Everything was going great. Everything was amazing. Amazing. And this whole [ __ ] fecta kicked off in like July of last year. I'm, you know, a couple months into my new career. I absolutely love it. Um, I go to Cancun with my best friend to celebrate her 30th birthday.

[00:00:54]Um, we are living our best life, of course, you know, as as we should. We're moms. We we need to have fun sometimes, you know? And I I meet this guy, slightly younger than me. I was like, you know what?

[00:01:06]Let's have some fun, you know? I was in a relationship for almost 10 years, married for eight, you know? And I'm thinking life is great. Like it can it get better than this? Can it get any better?

[00:01:20]No, actually it got way worse.

[00:01:23]Um, 2 weeks after [snorts] I get back, I get into a car accident. Not one, but two. Two. They're telling me my minivan is totaled. I'm I'm freaking distraught.

[00:01:37]And then the guy that I was talking to at the time, >> [clears throat] >> red flag. Red flag.

[00:01:44]Gave me his car. He went out and bought a brand new car and gave me his car.

[00:01:51]And I'm like, you know, I can't take this. I can't I can't accept this.

[00:01:55]Whatever the case may be, he insists.

[00:01:57]I obliged. You know, I have kids. I have a job. I need to get around. I I You know, I need I need to do what I do.

[00:02:05]Little did I know that would be one of my biggest mistakes. Let's just dive into my one of many mistakes in my 29 years of living. Well, you know what?

[00:02:15]Let's call it a lesson, okay? Cuz cuz we're learning. Progress, baby.

[00:02:19]Um anyway, there's a little backstory on how I met him. We going to call him Chevy for the purpose of the story.

[00:02:24]Um I met Chevy probably a week and a half after I came back from Cancun.

[00:02:30]And then, I want to say 5 days later, I get into a bad accident. Bertha is done.

[00:02:35]A hood is smashed. Radiator support frame smashed. And it's pushed so [ __ ] far back, it's covering my oil cap.

[00:02:43]So, I'm like, all right. I'm trying to leave the scene of the accident. I'm like, okay, it's it's moving. Okay, maybe maybe she's drivable. I get back on Baltimore-Washington Parkway trying to go the other way. This big-ass black cloud of smoke just comes up from under my hood, and it smells like it's on fire. I pull over immediately, and I'm I dive out this [ __ ] cuz one thing about like I ain't It's too early for me to go. I ain't finna get. All right. So, I'm freaking out cuz I'm like, you know, what do I do now? Like I do not have money for a tow truck. Like I'm a single mom of four. This was not in the cards.

[00:03:19]I call Chevy. Chevy's a mechanic, and I'm like, look, give it to me real.

[00:03:22]Like, what what are my What are my options?

[00:03:26]Can I drive this out of here? Because if it if it's moving, baby, I'm a I'm a do what I can do to make it work, okay?

[00:03:33]If if I can save some money, best believe I'mma save some money. So, he ends up coming out, helps me get the van to a safe location, takes a look at it, goes out, gets the parts, comes and fixes it the next day. We jerry-rigged the hood because it can't latch no more cuz the support frame is is pushed all the way back to Narnia.

[00:03:55]Um So, we jerry-rigged it. We're pulling on the hood. Every Everything seems great.

[00:03:59]I'm like, all right, it's not going nowhere. I make it to the store the next day, fine. So, I go to work on Monday and I'm on my way back to go pick up the kids and I'm driving and I'm not I'm going no more than 45.

[00:04:13]The speed limit was like 30.

[00:04:16]Maybe. But yeah, I'm driving and the [ __ ] hood flies up and shatters my windshield. And I just start hysterically laughing. I mean, laughing to the point I'm snorting like this cannot be reality. This cannot be my life right now. Like, when do I get a break? So, I pull over to the side of the road. I'm picking glass out my face, picking glass out my legs and I'm like like, what the [ __ ] I was going to say, thank God that she survived the first incident with her car, but have you ever been in that situation where you literally have to laugh to keep from crying? When life just keeps slapping you and slapping you and slapping you and you know, you just got to laugh cuz it's like, I'm not going to let this break me right now.

[00:05:03]Cuz if I give in, if I think about it too much, I am just going to ball. I'm going to go into probably a deep depression and she just she just trying to keep it together. Thank God she was able to move her car because yes, tow trucks, towing your car at this point is just like let's leave it. Nobody wants to pay that tow fee. So, shout out for that man for helping her because man, if you ever been to the mechanic at for I speak for myself, I know some women don't like going to the mechanics cuz they feel like you like they get over on you. So, thank God that she has someone that could do that for her for probably a discounted price if not free.

[00:05:35]Welcome back to the channel, Messy Fam.

[00:05:37]That's all I got to say right now.

[00:05:38]Welcome back to the channel. We appreciate you all for supporting the content on a daily basis, but that's all I got for right now. Let's see how the story develops.

[00:05:46]Here we go. Here we go. When it rains, it [ __ ] pours. So, fast forward to later that evening, we had we had plans to get some food. I text him, I'm like, this was going on. I ain't going to be able to make it.

[00:06:01]So, the next day, he's like, oh, you know, I'll I'll come over, see what the damage is like, see if I can find one in the in the junkyard.

[00:06:11]Unbeknownst to me, this man is at the dealership buying himself a brand new car. He texts me and he's like, what are you doing right now? And I'm I was I was searching everywhere. I'm on the I'm on my laptop, on my my phone. I'm calling junkyards. Like, I'm trying to find the cheapest windshield possible. I got to get Bertha on the road. If I don't work, I don't get paid. So, I'm like, ti- you know, ti- don't if I don't work, I don't get paid. So, I'm like, ti- you know, time is of the essence here. And he's like, okay, you know, I know this I know this guy. Sent me money for an Uber.

[00:06:42]He's like, meet me here. It we might have a windshield. So, I get a Uber, I go over there.

[00:06:48]And there's a dealership across the street. And he's like, come over here with me real quick. I got to pick something up. And then he was like, we'll come back over here. So, I go over to the dealership with him.

[00:06:58]He gets he's getting handed keys and stuff. And then he turns around and he hands me the keys. And I'm like, what's this for? And he's like, it's to my old car. And I said, yeah, what is this for? And he's like, it's for you. And I'm like, no, absolutely not. I was like, I cannot take this. I cannot accept this. I'm like, we you know, we barely we're barely knowing each other. Like, we went we went out maybe twice. I'm like, we barely know each other. Like, I cannot accept something like this. And he's like, no, I insist. You're a mom. You have four kids. Like, you need to work.

[00:07:30]And he's like, I know how hard it is out here. He was like, so just let me help you. And I'm like, I'm like, no. I gave him the keys back. And I was like, I appreciate you. But I was like, I'd rather just get a windshield fix fix Bertha and and be on about my business.

[00:07:43]And he was like, "No, I insist." And I said, "Okay, so how much do you want for it?" And he's like, "No, I'm not here to take nothing from you, sweetheart. Like, I'm here to just add to your life." And I'm like, "Okay."

[00:07:56]I'm like, "All right. Well, you know, I like I want to give you something for this. You know, my my mama always told me ain't nothing in life truly free."

[00:08:05]So, he gives me the keys and he's like, "I'll I'll I'll meet up with you later to give you the title."

[00:08:10]So, I can respect people that say that. If I try to give somebody something and they tell me like, you know, they they just have a hard time accepting it like to the point that it's like, "Fuck it."

[00:08:21]I'mma let them pay for it or whatever the case may be just to make them feel better cuz I'm the type of person I'm just like that. If I don't want to take nothing It's not out of disrespect.

[00:08:29]Don't get me wrong, you can make me some food, something like that, something thoughtful, some crafts type of stuff.

[00:08:33]But anything that takes money out of your pockets, really a lot of time out of your day, I will not I wouldn't accept it either.

[00:08:39]And it's not really disrespectful. I can see why a lot of people may see it as disrespect, but it's not disrespect. I feel like there's a lot of people who just been used to being controlled by material things or controlled by stuff that they want. They just kind of we just kind of like don't accept stuff because we know what comes behind that. Rather just be debt free to people and to the to the, you know, the big institutions of the world.

[00:09:02]You know, but it works though. I feel like if you are this way, you don't have nobody who can say like, "Oh, they did anything for you." And that matters.

[00:09:08]That matters to a lot of us. You know, that been through some [ __ ] because it's like that's what keeps people in these toxic relationships so long and, you know, just dealing with the bad people for so long because typically those people are most likely using the people they dealing with. That's why they deal with them. So, but if you a type person who don't take any handouts, who kind of just like to get it out the mud themselves, you kind of force people to respect that though. Even a man. Like, if I'm a narc If a man's a narcissist and he knows he's kind of coming in trying to control you and he sees he can't get it. That those are to be the ones who are the most irritated by. It's not because you won't accept the gift, it's just because you're not accepting this controlling mechanism that's been working for me for so long. And you can see it, you get it as a person, but it's just like you kind of be like, "Oh, maybe I'm just being hard on them." Or I'll say keep that thought. I feel like you shouldn't accept nothing from nobody, especially if you can go out there and get it yourself, you know? But that's just me. Yeah, I definitely believe they're saying nothing in life is free.

[00:10:01]They'll definitely dangle something over you to control you. But uh the fact that she even said, you know, like I'll I'll You know, what can I do for you? What can I What can I get for this? Because the fact that they only went on two dates so far and he's willing to give something as big as a car. I'd be like, "Why? What is the secret motive behind it?" You know, there might be some genuine people out there, but that list is very, very slim. So, the fact that she's going to get that um title over is the smartest thing she could do cuz the last thing you want is to have to keep being a yes woman to this man. And if you don't say yes, he's going to go, "Well, give me my car. Now you can't go to work. Now you can't go pick up your kids." Nobody wants that inconvenience at all.

[00:10:39]Yep, that's why you learn to get things on your own and stop being a moocher.

[00:10:42]You know, learn to get your own [ __ ] You let people do these type of things to you and you taking [ __ ] from people you know you shouldn't be taking stuff from.

[00:10:50]That's how you end up like this, but you know.

[00:10:54]So, I go to pull off, the car immediately shuts off. It dies.

[00:10:58]Just with no lights on, no nothing. Just completely shuts off and I'm like, "What the fuck?" Like, this is a bad omen.

[00:11:07]This is a sign from God that I should not have taken this vehicle.

[00:11:12]So, boom, car dies on me, right? I didn't even make it all the way into the lane. Like, I'm hanging out like this.

[00:11:19]Like, just caddy-cornered in in the middle of the [ __ ] street waiting for somebody to come and t-bone my ass. So, I'm trying to start the car up. It's not starting at all whatsoever. So, I call him. No answer. I call him again. No answer. I text him. I'm like, "Hey, you know, I'm not trying to bother you, but you know, uh something just happened with the car. I could really use your opinion on it." So, it's like 5 minutes, he calls me and he's like, "Hey, what's up? Everything's okay?" And I'm like, "Yeah, but I'm I'm good, but the car like just completely shut off. Like, it just in the middle of the road." And he was like, "Hmm, that's odd." And I'm like, "Yeah, that is odd. Like, just completely shut off." And he was like, "Well, it was working fine when I had it."

[00:12:03]And I was like, "Okay, so do you have any idea what could possibly be wrong with it or, you know, whatever the case may be? Like, is there something that needs to be fixed?" And he's like, "No, like nothing that I could really think of." And he's like, "Are you sure you didn't do anything to it?" And I'm like, "Sir, you literally just gave me the keys 25 minutes ago. What could I have possibly done? What could have I possibly done to the car?"

[00:12:30]And he's like, "Well, I'm I'm I'm tied up right now. Like, let me let me give you a call back."

[00:12:35]And I'm like, "All right." So, 10 minutes rolls by. I haven't received a call back and I'm like, "Fuck it. I'm not I'm not about to sit here and keep waiting." So, I'm try I keep trying to start the car like two more times. It finally cuts on. I'm like, "Cool." I make it back to uh the shopping center by my apartment because at this point like I'm just I'm just feeling really uneasy about this whole situation. Like, it's just it's not sitting right with me and I'm not taking this car to my apartment until I thoroughly inspect it.

[00:13:04]Like, no. So, >> [snorts] >> I'm probably home for like 20, 30 minutes at this point and he's like, "Hey, sorry. I got tied up. Are you free? Like, are you good? Did you make it home?" And I'm like, "Yeah, no, I'm good. Like, I'm I'm free. What's up?" And he's like, "Oh, do you still want to meet up so I can give you the title?" I'm like, "Yeah, that's that's cool. We could do that." He's like, "All right, bet. I'll send me your address and I'll be on my way and I'll bring us some dinner." And I was like, "No, I'll meet you at the Royal Farms like we discussed." And he was like, "No, that's fine, you know, like you've had a long stressful day."

[00:13:36]And he was like, "You know, you can relax. I don't want you to have to drive too far, especially if the car's having issues. Like I'll just I'll just bring you dinner." And I was like, "No, that's fine. Even if I have to Uber, that's fine." And he was like, "What's the big deal me trying to bring you dinner and bring you the title? Like I'm just trying to make it easier on you, and you just want to be difficult."

[00:13:58]The big deal is cuz she probably used to people doing that [ __ ] to control. I think she just hip.

[00:14:03]I Am I wrong? You ever had that feeling of why you don't want to accept things from people? When you get older, you start to realize like maybe it's because of this.

[00:14:11]Maybe it's because of trauma. Anybody who trying to force that [ __ ] down you down your throat, you know, like, "Oh, you ain't taking all this stuff this is that's a red [ __ ] flag." If it ain't a pink one, you know, if it ain't red, maybe pink. But it's like I don't know. Maybe I'm Maybe I'm thinking too deep, but y'all got to understand we didn't reviewed hundreds of stories, and a lot of them come from trauma. And one thing that we always pick up from every story time is don't take [ __ ] from nobody.

[00:14:36]Not just verbally, but physically. Don't Don't let people give you things and just think that nothing's coming of this. You know, you become transactional. Some women can understand it. They got enough value in their life to be like, "Hey, I don't want this to be transactional. I don't want you to feel" cuz I got an older sister. We have conversations like this all the time, and I tell her like, "Don't take nothing from a man who complain about everything he do for for another person." He complain about all the stuff he doing for everybody else and everything else, and you don't think he going to be complaining when you when he give you some stuff? You know what I'm saying?

[00:15:03]Broken people, people who don't have [ __ ] typically give more. You know what I mean? And then they expect you to when they have their downturns that you give to them. And I feel like that's selfish in a sense and controlling because it's like, how can you if I'm already down and you help me cuz you're up? When you're down, how the hell do you expect me to help you up when I was already down from the jump? You know what I'm saying? So it's like you could choose who you help and who you choose not to help, you know? But, you can also choose whether or not you want to accept some stuff from somebody or not. You know, it don't matter. I think she just She locked in, man. I think a lot of women need to be locked in like this. A [ __ ] make you feel crazy because you don't want to take that gift. And I feel like that's crazy.

[00:15:39]Yeah, this is definitely giving the ick.

[00:15:41]When a woman says no, she means no.

[00:15:44]Don't keep trying to sugarcoat it like, "Oh, but that that that." It's a no.

[00:15:48]You're not getting my address. I barely know you. Thank you for the big gesture, but you're not getting nothing out of this besides what? Money? I'll pay you for it. I the money I was willing to pay anyway to get my windshield fixed. And it's just like it's clear that this man is obviously in it for something more than what it seems. Like he's just keeps pressing the issue. Definitely got to watch out for people like that. And the fact that he's like, "Oh, I know you're a single mom. You could really use it."

[00:16:13]I'm not looking for a handout. Yes, it's hard, but she's handling it pretty well.

[00:16:18]I don't need you to think that you're coming and saving the day.

[00:16:21]Uh if you want to help out, thank you, but more than that, you're going to think you're about to get praised for this? No. I'm going to do what I need to do. Thank you for being there. Nothing more than that. Yeah. And I want to rebut a little bit. I want to say like that doesn't mean doesn't I don't mean like don't take help from people. Don't be a fool, you know? If somebody's trying to help you from drowning, don't just like, "No, I don't want to help. I can figure it out myself." This is not that. I mean like if you're going to take something from somebody, make sure you can give it back. I don't care what it is. Give it back.

[00:16:48]Even if it takes you weeks, months, years. My family will give me My sister will give me something out of goodness of her heart, money and stuff like that cuz she's just a big sister, but I know down the road, you know, my sister has kids. She has responsibilities. She's taking on kids in our family, adopting kids from our family, you know, taking care of them. So, it's like even though she's up right now, I know she's giving from a overfilling basket. When I get the money to replace it, I will. And I'll do it immediately. Even though they say, "Oh, you don't have to give it back." I'll do it immediately. I feel like you need to do things like that for people so people can know hey I'm thinking about you too. You know you ain't just thinking about me I'm thinking about you. You know so here it go. It just honestly looks like we just recycling money at one point when you got you know what I'm saying like you you got one of those siblings or people in your life that you feel like y'all always just kind of like doing stuff for each other and it's kind of like recycling money. Like I give you a band this month and 5 months later I might be [ __ ] up and you give me a band. You know? But it's like we just constantly recycling like you give me something I give you something. But it don't have to be that way but I'm just saying if you make it that way it kind of makes it more like I'll be more willing to help out with this type of person than a person who's just always taking taking taking taking taking you know? That's just And it seems like this guy was giving from a overflowing car because what are the odds that I mean overflowing cups but what are the odds that he was getting a new car that day?

[00:18:00]So now it just like opened up so now I can help you out in this way. If he wasn't getting a new car he would have not have been calling you saying hey I got a car for you.

[00:18:14]And I was like no I barely know you. You don't need to be coming to my house. Point blank period. He's like all right fine.

[00:18:22]Respect. And I'm like cool. So I go to meet him I bring $200 in cash.

[00:18:27]He gives me the title I give him the $200. He's like no I don't want nothing from you. I don't want your money.

[00:18:34]You know I told you that this is a gift.

[00:18:35]I mean it. And I'm like are you like are you sure? I don't want to feel like you know I'm just taking from you like I'm more than happy to you know pay you for the for the vehicle whatever. And he's like no. And I'm like all right bet. You know you not about to keep denying my money. You know I I could use the $200.

[00:18:51]Probably more than you could. I'll keep this. Thank you very much. So everything's cool and we sit and we talk and he's like you know tomorrow bring the car by the shop. I'll see what I'll try to figure out what's wrong with it.

[00:19:03]We can go from there. Cool. Fast forward to the next morning. He [snorts] calls me around 10. And he's like you know what? I thought about it. It's a crankshaft sensor. I've been meaning to replace that. Like I forgot that there was something wrong with that. Like that needs to be replaced. He was like, "It's at AutoZone. You can go pick it up." And he was like, "And I'll just come I'll just come over your place and install it real quick and then we can go grab something to eat." And I'm like, "Okay, I'll go grab the part from AutoZone, but I'll bring it to your shop like we discussed last night. You don't need to come to my house." And he's like, "No, I have no problem bringing my tools and stuff like that." He's like, "You know, that way you don't have to worry about it shutting off on your way here or whatever." And I was like, "No, I will bring it to your shop." And he's like, "Fine, you know, that's fine if you insist."

[00:19:53]Yes. Yes, I do insist. So, I go get the part. It's like 40 bucks. I drive up to the shop where he works at. He fixes [snorts] it and then [sighs] we go get some food.

[00:20:03]>> [clears throat] >> I'm driving back home. I go get the kids. Everything's fine. I get into like turn into my apartment complex, the car [ __ ] shuts off again. Just And I'm sitting I'm trying to start it up start it up start it up. It's not working. So, there's this group of guys that were like walking down. They see me like I popped the hood and everything. Like I'm I'm trying to troubleshoot. I don't know what the [ __ ] is going on, but I'm like, "Hey, maybe there's a loose cap. There There's some There's something going on here. I don't know, but hey, maybe maybe I could fix it." So, they come over and they're like, "You know, do you need help?

[00:20:38]Whatever." And I'm like, "Yeah." I explain the situation. The guy is like, "Oh, I'm actually a mechanic. Um if you don't mind, I'll take a look for you."

[00:20:45]And I'm like, "Yeah, please. Like I have no idea what's going on. Like I just got this fixed earlier." So, I I get back in the car with the kids. Um you know, he's looking under the hood or whatever and they're, you know, talking amongst themselves. And then they're kind of just like looking at each other and I'm like, I'm starting to get like a uneasy My stomach's starting to hurt. So, I get out and I'm like, "Is everything okay?"

[00:21:07]And he's like, you know, where'd you Where'd you take this to have it done?

[00:21:11]And I was And I told him the the shop that I went to, and he was like, whoever did this does not like you.

[00:21:17]And my heart, when I tell you it dropped to my [ __ ] [ __ ] I thought it was about to come out my body. Like, the [ __ ] feeling that just overwhelmed me, and I was like, oh my god. And he's like, you know, um He was like, look at this. All these wires are exposed, and he was like, these wires are like like Some of them look like they were like splitting or whatever. He was like, this person just kind of tried to tie them back together or whatever. He was like, whoever did this was a [ __ ] job, and and they do not like you. And he was like, you know, I can try to fix it for you if you want. Like, I was like, honestly, I don't really have that much money. And he's like, you know, don't don't worry about it. Like, he was like, I'll I'll just help you out. And then he was like, if you give me like 50 bucks, that's cool. Like, I got you. So, I was like, okay.

[00:22:03]Uh he fixed the car. Like, he was working on the car later that night. Um I don't have any more issues with it for a couple days. Um you know, Friday rolls around, Chevy texts me, and he's like, hey, what are you doing tonight? And I'm like, oh, you know, I'm going out with my homegirl for her birthday.

[00:22:21]He replies and is like, do you think that's a good idea?

[00:22:24]And I'm like, do you think it's a good idea to question my decisions?

[00:22:28]Who are you? Oh, I didn't mean to send that to you. I meant to send that to someone else. Like, I'm sorry about that. Y'all go out. Have a Have the best [clears throat] night ever. I'm like, okay. Cool.

[00:22:42]Yep, that's red flag number one. That was not an accidental text. How the hell did you accidentally send me something that actually aligns with what the [ __ ] we're talking about? I feel like that's a red flag, though. You know, the first step is to love bomb you. Second step is to get you alone, to isolate you. If they not already moved in by the love bombing stage. If he already got you in that point, then you see how he starting to show himself. Eventually, if you move fast with a person moving that fast, y'all both be together in the same house. He'd be seeing my kids. He'd be seeing you Davis, you'd be seeing each other kids type [ __ ] And it's like now you realizing how toxic and controlling he is. Like, do you think it's a good idea for you to to go out with your friends on her birthday? On her special day, the girl you've been probably going out with every year. You think that's a good idea knowing that I'm in your life? That's what it sound like. And it's like, oh, you know? That right there would have been like Yeah. Nice rebuttal, though. Oh, I didn't mean to send that to you. [ __ ] not the Virgo me. I'd have been like, nah, that was meant to send, [ __ ] That That aligned too well, you know? But it's like, yeah, you kind of just noted and just keep listening more from there. It's like, at least she catching the [ __ ] you know?

[00:23:46]She ain't just be like, oh, you know, all really like ditzy. She just really like, yeah, now, who the [ __ ] you talking to? Right, cuz it's like, who Excuse me? Like, let me know type of [ __ ] you is before I let you come over here and see me and my kids.

[00:23:58]Like, isolation is that, though. Once he get your kids locked in, get everybody locked in, it's all about dominating and getting you to yourself. And that friend going first. Know that.

[00:24:06]Yeah, the switch-up after he handed her over the keys was like this. He didn't waste no time. Now you're trying to control what I'm doing. Why? Because you gave me a car?

[00:24:14]You You should have just took the money.

[00:24:16]I'm You're not getting none of those app like Nothing comes from this. I'm not going to listen to what you say now. And the fact that it's like he's testing the waters like boldly sent that text. And as soon as she's like, yeah, I'm not one of those girls. It's like, oh, haha, >> [laughter] >> didn't mean to send that to you, actually. Sir, you are literally exposing yourself. And the Like I said, the constant trying to go over to your house after you keep telling him no, that just shows you a lot about somebody. He can't take a no. Never be alone with him. Ever.

[00:24:43]What are y'all thoughts? Are y'all picking up on the same signs, or do y'all feel like it's this is giving off something else? Let us know in the comments.

[00:24:51]So, it's like 12:00 30-ish. I get a text message from him like, hey, what are you doing? You want to go get ice cream?"

[00:25:00]Sir, do do I want to get [ __ ] ice cream at almost 1:00 in the morning? No, thank you. Like, are you cool? Like, is everything okay?

[00:25:11]So, I didn't respond. I didn't respond till like 2:00 something in the morning.

[00:25:15]I'm like, "I'm still out with my homegirl. Thank you, but no." Like, so then fast forward, I get home.

[00:25:23]I wake up the next morning.

[00:25:26]I have six missed calls from him. Six.

[00:25:30]So, I text him a whole bunch of question marks. I'm like, "Is everything okay?

[00:25:34]Like, why'd you blow my phone up like that?" And he was like, "Oh, no, you know, give me a a call when you're when you have some time. Like, I would love to explain."

[00:25:43]So, I call him in about an hour. I'm like, "What's up? Like, why are you blowing my phone up like that?" And he was like, "No, you know, I just I just wanted to make sure that you were okay.

[00:25:51]You know, you said that you were going out with your friends last night, so I just wanted to make sure you made it home safe. And, you know, you got home pretty late, like almost 5:00 or so, right? So, I just wanted to make sure that you were you were good."

[00:26:04]And I was like, "How do you know what time I got home?"

[00:26:08]And he was like, "Oh, well, you didn't respond to me until like 2:00 something in the morning, so I just figured you stayed out for a couple more hours."

[00:26:17]But 5:00? Like, I did get in the house around I got in the house at like 4:50 something. Like, it was almost 5:00. So, I in my head, I'm like, "How the [ __ ] do you know what time I got in the house?"

[00:26:28]Like, that that shit's that shit's weird to me. I'm like, "No.

[00:26:32]Absolutely not." So then, he's like, um he's like, "You know, but I'm sorry about that. Well, you know, it won't happen again." And he's like, "Well, what are you doing later this evening?" And I said, "Well, I'm trying to find a sitter. If I can get a sitter, then I'mma go pick up a shift." And he's like, "Oh, you don't have to worry about paying somebody to come watch your kids for you. I'll I'll come watch them for you. Like that's not a problem at all.

[00:26:55]Just send me your address. I'll be there as soon as you need me.

[00:26:58]And and then I'm I'm trying to gain my composure because sir, I've been told you multiple times at this point. I don't want you coming to my [ __ ] apartment. Why would you think that I want you to watch my kids if I don't even want you to come to my apartment?

[00:27:16]This the type of situation awareness I'll be telling people they need to have. Like if you want to understand why she's snapping on him immediately, I think everything she's doing is smart.

[00:27:24]The fact that she waited for him to like, you know, he he she ignored him for one. That's a good, you know, ignore him because it's if you're trying to test out to see if this person's truly crazy, let's see. You know, and I feel like that's what she's doing. Because why did why not react? Why not call him back right away? Why did she wait an hour? I think everything was intentional. It's like either wait for him to cool down or let's see how mad he really gets. Cuz he she he's trying to establish control and I feel like her mind is is the opposite. Like, well, I'm not about to let him establish control.

[00:27:53]Which I feel like it's smart in the beginning stages. Like if somebody's coming out very demanding, very dominant. I hate that dominant [ __ ] Oh, I'm just a I'm a alpha male, you know, I'm this is what alphas No the [ __ ] we No the [ __ ] you don't. This is not what alphas do. The [ __ ] We don't instantly come in and just start taking over [ __ ] They do everything alpha besides pay the bills. That's what I don't get. You know, it's like alpha males do everything but pay [ __ ] bills. Like I'll make sure you don't die. Oh, the [ __ ] I can make sure of that. Hell, just by staying out the way. But I feel like everything she's doing is perfect, you know, when it comes to like cuz I would I would feel like as a man, this the game I would play especially with somebody I'm I'm not really too sure about. You know, it's like you kind of giving me red flags. Now I'm about to start testing those theories. But that's just some Virgo [ __ ] you know, it's just we going to test you out, keep putting you through a little ringers of tests until we figure out if you're truly crazy or if you just Am I tripping? You know, and most times you're never tripping. It's it's that person cuz I'm feeling the same way she feeling like [ __ ] what's going on with you?

[00:28:49]Yeah, I don't know what type of woman he's used to but please I hope nobody is just leaving their kids with him. Oh my goodness. There's women out there that do it sadly. Yeah. I don't even know him for a week sir. But the fact that she he knew when she got home is giving there's a tracker in the car.

[00:29:05]Give that back immediately. This man has it's off the hinges. Ice cream at 1:00 a.m. 2:00 o'clock or you're clearly just keep trying to come to my house. You're way too comfortable like sir relax. And the fact that he did a BS job on the car is giving I want to give her a reason to keep needing me. I'm a maintenance guy whatever I I do cars. She has car problems it keeps happening. I'm literally a call away. Yeah.

[00:29:28]>> That's what that's giving.

[00:29:28]>> I think he's still just stuck in the love bombing phase. I think he's still trying to find ways to love bomb the [ __ ] out of her. It's like okay she didn't really want the car and it's like you didn't really give her [ __ ] You kind of gave her a responsibility at the end of the day. It's like damn it's like giving a woman attached. It's like giving a woman roses but you she got to clip the bottom of them off [ __ ] put them in a vase feed it. You know what I'm saying? Like you ain't really kind of get it together. You know what I'm saying? It's like these are the gifts that But do y'all get what I'm saying? Let me know in the comment section. I feel like this is just she she playing the game smart at the end of the day.

[00:30:04]Like what's not clicking Steven?

[00:30:07]Obviously you're not thinking clearly.

[00:30:09]You're not [laughter] thinking in a logical sequence because clearly not.

[00:30:14]He was like you know there you go not accepting help again you know in my culture we band together and we're village you know it takes a village and I said okay that's cool. In my culture that's [ __ ] weird. That's what it is in my culture. So I was like nah I'm I'm good on that and I was like you know I'm not really feeling this situation no more and I was like I really appreciate everything that you've done for me but I was like I'm just not I'm not feeling the the the calls you know, you insisting on coming to my house, and after I told you I don't like that, now you're volunteering to watch my kids.

[00:30:49]Like, this is just it's crossing too many lines for me, and I was like, "I'm I'm not good with this, and I think that, you know, we should just leave this right here."

[00:30:59]And he's like, "Oh, you know, you're making a big mistake. Like, you're not even giving me a chance. Like, um you know, we don't really know each other."

[00:31:06]So, he was like, "You don't really know how I am as a person." And he's like, "I think you're just you're just trying to call it quits way too early." And he was like, "Maybe that was that's what happened in your last relationship. You just don't give people chances." And I'm like, "Okay, goodbye." I hang up, cuz I You ain't about to stress me out on my [ __ ] phone. You ain't pay my phone bill. Not not on my line, okay? Do that with somebody else. So, end the call, whatever. So, the next day, I get 16 calls from him. 16 calls.

[00:31:39]I block him. I said, "That's it. Like, I'm I'm not entertaining this [ __ ] no more. Like, no." So, then, I don't hear from him for a couple days.

[00:31:47]Tuesday rolls around, and I'm I'm like rushing home, whatever, and I forgot to I forgot to stop at the So, I pile all the kids up in the car.

[00:31:57]I start the car. Not even 2 minutes later, I get an Instagram message. Like, "Where are you guys going?"

[00:32:06]And I'm looking around, and I'm like, "What the fuck?" The way that I dropped that [ __ ] phone like that [ __ ] was a hot potato. And I'm like, my my heart starts racing. I'm checking in my purse. I'm like, "All right, cool. I got my knife. I got my pepper spray." And I'm sitting there, and I I'm I'm like rubbing my eyes and [ __ ] I'm like, "I'm not seeing what I'm seeing. Like, I'm a little delirious.

[00:32:26]Like, it's been a long day. I'm I'm all over the place." So, I'm trying to just like my mind my mind got to be playing tricks on me. And I'm trying not to freak out, because I got my kids in the car with me. So, I'm like, "All right, You know, stay focused. So, I'm pulling out of my neighborhood and um we're coming up we're approaching the light. There's this car that's in the left-hand lane. I'm all the way in the right-hand lane. They [ __ ] dart all the way across and then slam on their brakes because there's a person on their bike going across the crosswalk. I try to swerve to avoid [ __ ] hitting them and I smash right into the back of them. The car instantly starts smoking.

[00:33:02]My kids are screaming. [ __ ] headlights out on the ground. And I I had banged my head on the steering wheel. I had like it was [ __ ] crazy and I'm like, this cannot be happening again. Like, what the actual [ __ ] Like, did somebody do some voodoo on my ass or [ __ ] Like like what the [ __ ] So, then I pull up so the car that I had starts pulling up like they're pulling into the shopping center and they [ __ ] bust a U-ey and dip.

[00:33:29]And I'm like, what the [ __ ] I'm I'm like honestly I'm in this [ __ ] I'm riding dirty. The car ain't registered in my name. I don't got insurance yet. I don't even I'm riding around with an old tag on this [ __ ] So, I'm like, you know, do I call the cops? No, cuz who's going to jail? Me.

[00:33:45]So, I have like I literally have no other option.

[00:33:51]So, I get the car started again. I like thank God we're up the street from the apartment. I get the car started again.

[00:33:58]I make it back to the apartment and then um so, now I'm I'm dealing with all of this.

[00:34:05]Why the [ __ ] do I get another message saying, "Is God still blessing you now that I'm not in your life? Seems like he's not."

[00:34:13]And I'm like, what the actual [ __ ] Then I start getting all these Bible quotes, Proverbs, Matthews, like [ __ ] like all this stuff and I'm like, what the actual [ __ ] Like, did did did this man set this [ __ ] up? Like, did he have like did he figure out where I live? Cuz he he had to know I was I was in the car and I was leaving. I go I go and I unblock his phone number and I said if this is you playing with my [ __ ] phone, best believe I will get your ass deported. I'm going to your job. I'm going to the police. I will make your life a living hell if you don't leave me the [ __ ] alone. Like you are barking up the wrong tree. You're [ __ ] with the wrong one.

[00:34:52]After I said my piece and made sure that my point was crystal clear, I didn't hear from him again.

[00:35:00]Well, that tells me he's illegal. The [ __ ] I wouldn't be playing these [ __ ] games if I'm illegal in this [ __ ] Hell.

[00:35:07]I uh >> [snorts] >> Oh, yeah.

[00:35:10]You know what I'm saying? Like I would have did that [ __ ] anyways cuz what you playing with the right one. And you know what made me I just think I just thought about this like how he gave her the car and she was smart, bro. This woman is very smart. I like her. You know, she didn't just take the car. She had this man switch the titles over to her.

[00:35:27]That's smart as [ __ ] I want to give her her props. That's smart as [ __ ] I was just thinking like this woman is smart as [ __ ] Like she she ahead of the game.

[00:35:34]Like she had to deal with a few of these [ __ ] before because that's smart. And then she had money in her hand. So, if you ever had bought a car in your life before, you typically when you buy a car, if you have nothing down on the title, so when you go get your title, they ask you like how much did you purchase the car for? They can say zero and say it's a gift. You know what I'm saying? But she came in with some money and was like, you know, here's $200. Like she already came so she can show on paper that, you know, this isn't a gift. This is Even if it is a gift, they can't take it back from you. I'm thinking it's smart in general that she had his ass go to the title place, but she had money in her hand to give it to him and say like, "Hey, this is a transaction. Like this is not a gift. You didn't give me shit." She just doing it for the pride at point. But the the fact that she got him to go down there and get switched those titles over, you know a friend right now who driving her man's car and it ain't in her name.

[00:36:21]So, every chance he get to take that [ __ ] from her, he will. Like he could have just be like, "Give my car back."

[00:36:25]But you can't say that when it's not your car legally.

[00:36:28]You know, so but that's what I was thinking. I thought that was pretty smart.

[00:36:32]Yeah, this man is definitely giving set up. Like I said, he probably has a little [clears throat] air tag in that car cuz how does he know her every move?

[00:36:41]It's definitely scary and whoever rammed into her car were definitely riding dirty as well, but to do that like what is this guy paying you? Cuz why did you just do that and skirt off?

[00:36:53]Especially with her kids in the car.

[00:36:55]That is definitely super scary and yeah, it's call the police immediately on that guy because what? Don't play about my kids at all.

[00:37:02]Mhm.

[00:37:03]What do y'all think Ms. Family? Y'all think that was him this whole time? If you made it to this point of video, what do you think? You think that's him playing games or was that just a coincidence? Mhm.

[00:37:13]But little did I know life was not done with my ass just yet.

[00:37:17]Shortly after that, I ended up in shock trauma due to something completely unrelated.

[00:37:24]Okay. So, where we left off is I ended up in shock trauma. Before we get into it, I do want to say that I am going to be very mindful in how I tell this story. Um there are other people involved. Even though, you know, this happened to me and I have the right to tell the truth about what happened to me, I do not want any negative repercussions for this person or for myself.

[00:37:49]Um and I do want to put a disclaimer out there that I will be posting graphic photos. So, if that is not something that you would like to see, I advise that you keep on scrolling.

[00:38:02]For my people who stayed, let's get into it.

[00:38:05]This incident happened on August 3rd of 2025. Um I did have a history with this person. They came to my apartment because we had important matters that we had to discuss.

[00:38:17]Um they came into my apartment. At this time, I was on the phone with my sister.

[00:38:23]I had my airpod in. You know, I didn't anticipate this taking uh too long. I don't really remember much of what happened, but what I do remember is that we were in my kitchen um talking about what we needed to talk about. Um they saw that I had alcohol sitting on top of the fridge and they asked if they could have some. I obliged and I said, "Yeah."

[00:38:45]And they were like, "Oh, are you going to drink with me?" And I'm like, "Yeah, you know, who who likes to drink alone?"

[00:38:50]And at this point like everything was going, you know, pretty well, like pretty smooth. There were, you know, there was no tension, no animosity, or what have you. Um This this individual had tried to kiss me. Um I denied that advance and then they asked me if I had a boyfriend. I don't know if I answered the question or not. My sister said that at this point the the phone had hung up. Um I don't know how we ended up where we ended up, but the next thing I remember is being in my parking lot and them smashing my face into the concrete.

[00:39:28]And then I'm guessing I I I passed out for a second and then I remember they had like my [clears throat] arms were like this behind my head and they were dragging me over to the the top of the steps like leading down to get into my apartment building. Um I passed out again. I don't know how long I was out, um but I do remember like when I came to I was very I was very panicked. All I was thinking was like my kids, my kids, my kids. I have to get back to my kids. Um At this point like I didn't I didn't feel anything. Like I knew that I was bleeding cuz I had like a warm sensation and then I had like touched my face and there was blood on my hands, but I didn't know like how bad I was bleeding or anything like that. So, I get back into my apartment and the next thing I remember is like I'm I'm picking up couch cushions. I don't know why.

[00:40:20]I think that I was looking for my phone or something.

[00:40:23]And then I end up calling one of my best guy friends. I've known him since seventh grade. I FaceTimed him on my laptop. This is the picture that he took when I had FaceTimed him from my laptop.

[00:40:38]Um and then my mom said that I called her on Facebook Messenger video called her.

[00:40:45]She said that I was like very in and out of it and I probably talked to her for like a good 5 minutes or so and then I passed out.

[00:40:55]Um The next thing I remember is being woken up by the paramedics and I was laying on my floor in like a fetal position like in my own pool of blood.

[00:41:07]And they woke me up. And the next thing I know is I hear my my babies crying.

[00:41:14]And I am like I'm trying to fight them off of me and I'm like my kids my kids my kids like my my baby's crying my baby's crying I got to go to my baby I got to go to my baby.

[00:41:26]>> [sighs] >> And the paramedics and the cops are like trying to hold me back and they're like no no you can't like they can't have you seen yourself like no you can't you can't and then I remember like they sit me back down and then I was just like I just want to go to sleep. I just I just want to go to sleep like just let me go to sleep just let me go to sleep and they they wouldn't let me go to sleep.

[00:41:48]And then um all and then I just I just hear I just keep hearing my baby cry my baby cry and I'm like and I and I'm sitting there and I'm I'm begging them I'm like please let just let me go get my baby just let me go get my baby.

[00:42:05]And I'm really grateful to the officers and the paramedics for not letting me see my kids in in the state that I was in because that would have really traumatized them.

[00:42:16]Um >> [snorts] >> and one officer had to step out because he started he started bawling his eyes out.

[00:42:23]And I you know, I I can't begin to imagine like what my kids would have felt seeing me in that in that state. Um the next thing I remember is waking up in the hospital room and my parents were there.

[00:42:39]Um they told me that I had a severe concussion, uh bruised ribs, a broken nose, and then I had a gash on the side of my nose right here that they had to stitch up.

[00:42:51]Um and then I also had like road rash on my back and stuff from when I was drug across the concrete.

[00:42:59]Here are some of the pictures that my parents took and I took of myself.

[00:43:05]I stayed in the hospital for a couple more hours. Um they stitched up my nose and everything and that is when I found out that I had a mass on my lung.

[00:43:33]This was the last video that she had pertaining to this. Like she said in the beginning, she didn't want to give too much information because it is something that is recent and that people that know this man or I I'm assuming actively watching her things.

[00:43:47]But yeah, that is extremely sad. No woman ever deserves to be abused at all, no matter what the circumstances is. There is no reason that a person should be putting their hands on someone like this, especially because she said no and has boundaries.

[00:44:01]People need to understand no is no, and now I see why she has so much precaution. I have an another man coming to her home. Yeah. When something like this just happened, you know, weeks after the fact.

[00:44:12]Well, I was just saying that she's probably been through stuff throughout the story. That's why the way she was acting the way she was acting in the beginning. You can tell when somebody's been through true trauma. Like it's probably wasn't her first rodeo.

[00:44:21]Probably, you know, obviously she had another situation like that afterwards.

[00:44:24]But that's She knows something, you know? In the beginning they always are coming off so nice and and there for you, but it's always a trick just to get you into a position of vulnerability where they can where you would be more dependent on on them, you know? And once you get in that situation sadly, you you kind of most people end up stuck in that situation because they just don't have the the fight in them in a sense. And if you are just like that if you're in this current situation like that, I would advise you to definitely reach out to the violence centers that's in your area. Look it up on Google, please. Do whatever you can. Don't just sit there and let it just continue to progress and get worse because maybe it ain't as bad as the last person or your family or you always tend to know the One thing I learned is that victims always tend to know somebody that's worse than the current person they with and that's why they tend to stick where all those people more. Uh and I would just say don't be that. Don't do that, you know?

[00:45:16]Try to go get some therapy, you know, get the right people around you. Don't let a person completely isolate you from everybody that you once knew. No matter what y'all going through. Your family can be just temporarily beefing. You know your family more than them, you know? And don't ever tell people tell a person like this all the bad things about the people around you to make themselves feel better because then all you doing is giving them even more leverage to be like, "See, that's why you shouldn't mess with your sister.

[00:45:39]That's why you shouldn't mess with your brother. That's why you shouldn't mess with your mama." You know, that's how they isolate you. They use your own feelings that you feel towards them and they amplify it to make it seem bigger than what it really is. As if a conversation couldn't heal none of this this stuff that you're going through.

[00:45:52]That's the isolation part, you know? So, it's it's not what you think of like, "Oh, you just can't go outside." You It may be that for some women, you know? It may be that. But on a more less extreme level on a I want to play the nice guy role, it's going to be more of making you feel as though, you know, the people you with are the wrong and that I'm the only one here to save you. So, she was catching that in the beginning with those but you know, some people are just so good at it that you just you might end up still with somebody like that, you know? But it's just up to you to have the ability to fight back, you know, at the end of the day, what do you have to lose? You know, if you already feel like your life is in danger and you feel like this person is, you know, what do you have to lose? I'd rather just go out fight and go out swinging and go out, you know, just fear and fear. That's just me, maybe that's just a man take on that. But if you're in this situation, obviously you you may feel a little different. But what are your thoughts when it comes to this? If you guys are interested in following her for more updates when it comes to this topic or maybe she may feel comfortable in the future to share more about this one. There's no rush to the storyteller, you know, take your time, do your, you know, go through the emotions before you get online and just start telling everybody how you feel because a lot of these people really don't give a damn.

[00:46:55]It's all just entertainment for them.

[00:46:57]But I would say, you know, I'm praying for you. I pray that God, you know, continues to protect you, your children and I pray that, you know, get the kids some therapy as well if they need it.

[00:47:05]It's up to you to decide whether or not they need that or not, but sometimes just watching their mom go through stuff can be very traumatizing to children and it can they can end up growing up with certain, you know, behavior patterns that, you know, you didn't teach them but they may have saw you experience. So, just get them therapy to make sure that they straight cuz therapy can only do good for them, you know, it doesn't make you feel crazy.

[00:47:26]You know, people think they crazy. I know it's a black thing, you know, we always feel like therapy makes us look crazy but it's not, man. It's really just to help your mental state so that way you don't lose your mind one day and be left in a mental hospital and without family helping you. We just did a story on that. You know, take care of your mental health 100% and make sure that y'all keep God in your life at all times, you know, stay prayed up because that's one of the main God is the main reason you making it through all of this. You know, he's giving you the wisdom that you need and even experience, I have to say, that you you to know whenever you're dealing with somebody like this. Whenever the devil is in your face, you would know more than a person who doesn't, you know, who never been in a situation. So, I completely 100% understand where she's coming from and the aggression she has throughout the storytime about that dude and why she was so hard on him. I already knew it from the jump. I kind of already figured it was something even worse in her past. But, what do y'all think? If y'all interested in following her, you already know what to do. But, that's all we got for today, Messy fam.

[00:48:17]We appreciate y'all for sticking through this storytime to the end and I apologize if anybody has was triggered by this in any way. It did get kind of graphic towards the end. But, that's all, Messy fam. We'll see you in the next storytime. Peace.