“Staying in an Abusive Marriage ‘For the Kids’? This Is What It’s Really Doing to Them”

Added: 2026-05-10

[00:00:00]You see those women, that are staying in toxic abusive marriages because of the children.

[00:00:10]Your husband is treating you like trash, raising his hand on you, using bad words on you, blocking you from money. And then the only reason why you say you are still staying in that kind of toxic space is because of the children.

[00:00:27]My darling, I'm sorry to disappoint you because those children you're staying for, you're doing them more harm than good.

[00:00:37]You're doing them a great disservice because when children grow in a particular environment, just close the door now or you pass.

[00:00:47]Just choose one way.

[00:00:50]When children grow in a particular environment, they are learning.

[00:00:56]You are teaching them what to accept, what not to accept, what is normal.

[00:01:02]You understand? And what can be passed around as a normal traditional practice.

[00:01:08]So if your children are watching your husband raise his hand on you, what do you think will happen to the the daughter and the son that you have?

[00:01:15]Let's talk.

[00:01:16]Let's rub our mind this morning because I really want to know what is going on in your mind.

[00:01:21]When your children, your daughter is seeing you kneel down to pray for a man that has just broken your face, blood running out of your nose, your your your jaw swollen, your eyes almost covered, and you're saying, "Let's pray for daddy. Don't worry, daddy didn't mean it."

[00:01:39]You're teaching that girl to accept such a behavior from a man. So even when she starts dating, boyfrienship, she will make man she will see it as love. She will even kneel down and pray.

[00:01:51]So you are teaching your children because they don't learn by what you say. Ah, my darling, please oh, don't ever be with a man that will treat like this, so. My dear, you that they were treating like that, what did you do? You knelt down and prayed. Your daughter will not learn from the words of your mouth. She will learn from your actions.

[00:02:05]Are you listening to me?

[00:02:08]Either she allows the man to po-po her, or she'll become very violent and very anti-man. That's why you see a lot of these strong people that are against men. They don't want to marry. They hate men. Those are the likelihoods. It is either you have a pushover as a child that can allow a man raise his hand on her, and he sees it as very normal. She will see it as very normal, very okay.

[00:02:31]She will even be surprised when somebody say, "Ah, my husband beat me, oh."

[00:02:34]Ah, me, I won't take it. She will be like, "Ah, but he's your husband. He's He loves you. That's how That's how it is. You will just manage." That is how they behave.

[00:02:42]It's either she's like that, or she'll be like, "I will never marry. I hate all men. All men are evil." That is how you see, those are the two things that your child will either turn to.

[00:02:52]This or this.

[00:02:54]For your son, your son seeing his father using you as punching bag every morning. You It's as if you are the gym he's going to exercise on.

[00:03:05]Sometimes, in front of the children, he will drag you, even use them and join on top, po-po them on top.

[00:03:11]And you think that that boy will grow up tomorrow to be normal?

[00:03:17]Two ways he will turn out.

[00:03:18]Number one, it's either he becomes as violent as his father.

[00:03:25]Po-po-ing every girl that comes around.

[00:03:27]Starting from when he They because they always start. Sometimes, even in the house, he will raise He will turn it to your daughters and start beating. Just imagine. That's why I hate to see siblings fight.

[00:03:36]I hate it when brothers and sisters in the house, or brothers and brothers, like my children, they know that the ultimate thing that you can ever do to make mommy go ballistic on you is for the two of you to stand and fight. Mommy will kill somebody. They know. You can break my glass, I will look at you. Fight your brother. Oh, let us see. Me, I won't fear them.

[00:03:55]Oh, I love us.

[00:03:58]I will I will pop all the living eh? I will bastardize you. Ah, oh my share. Okay.

[00:04:05]Now, you will start to when you see all those things. Two two ways. Either he becomes as violent as his father. He will start it in your home. You will even see practicals.

[00:04:16]Sometimes they even go to even beat you, the mother, because you allow beatings on you. They watched you accept it.

[00:04:22]think it's okay. That's how they should treat women. That's why you see some children can have the boldness to raise hand on their mothers. I've seen some men do that. Some boys.

[00:04:31]They fight their mothers. They get physical. They can hit their mother.

[00:04:36]And then they their sisters, they can do that to their sisters. You they will have You know when your children start dating, you see their behaviors. You don't call them to order.

[00:04:44]They will start doing rubbish. Beating their girlfriends. They will graduate and enter husband and wives. And they will beat their wife because they think it's normal. If he does not become a woman beater, eh?

[00:04:55]What he will become is a pushover.

[00:04:58]Because he saw that the father was mean and he doesn't want to be like the father at all. So, what does he do? He overcompensates to make up for whatever it was that his mother went through. So, he want to overcompensate. So, you go see you go raise boy where you go be a pushover.

[00:05:12]Where women feel right on just because he doesn't want to become that kind of thing. So, he he now leans on to this other side and becomes too complacent.

[00:05:20]He becomes too weak. Let me not be like my father. So, not wanting to be violent, he becomes too weak. He doesn't stand like a man. He's not firm.

[00:05:30]He's not firm.

[00:05:31]He go meet women. Women go use them. Use their head. Wife go fit to control and do rubbish just because he has sworn that I will not raise my hand. I will not do this. I will not do that.

[00:05:40]I will not be weak. I will not be violent. I will not be like So, whether you like it or not, you I can take anything, eh? I can tell women in their plenty situations you can manage.

[00:05:55]But you see open abuse.

[00:06:00]Open disregard where a man does rubbish to you, maybe throw it in your face, disrespect you in front of staff, family members, eh eh this thing in the house, domestic staff know.

[00:06:15]That you are you are nothing, you're a rag in front of your husband. You talks to you anyhow, fights you, beats you in front of your children, in front of your staff.

[00:06:23]Me I don't stand for that one, no.

[00:06:25]But if the man a normal, the man they do anyhow, you fit manage. But you see when it has to do with this kind of abuse, I tell women you that your reason for staying is not valid. And the way you say apart from the fact that your children will pick up nonsense attitude, pick up stupid way of life.

[00:06:41]When anything happens to you in the course of this is everyday using you as gym equipments to punch and jack and hit and stretch, eh?

[00:06:49]You buy.

[00:06:51]You now analyze you.

[00:06:52]Those children you think that you will not suffer.

[00:06:55]Eh?

[00:06:56]Life will go on.

[00:06:58]Life will go. So, why don't you use this message I'm sending to you as a wake-up call to arrange your children's life in the right direction.

[00:07:09]Now that you are alive and they can see you, dust your slippers and move.

[00:07:14]Show your children that their life is not meant to be like this. There's a better way.

[00:07:18]Don't just tell them how to do it. Show them by making certain moves, putting up certain things in place to make sure that they understand that this thing you're seeing is not normal. Never let it happen.

[00:07:30]In fact, sorry. Apologize to I'm sorry for allowing you see certain things, but I want to start showing you how it's meant to be. You start to change your life. You start to make sense You start to rearrange yourself.

[00:07:42]You turn around.

[00:07:45]I don't know if this makes sense to you because sometimes I really talk talk and I don't know whether you hear.

[00:07:50]I don't know whether you hear me.

[00:07:52]I don't know whether you hear me. It's a burden in my heart. And when I have a burden like this, I want to come out and talk about it.

[00:07:58]Please. Please.

[00:08:00]Please.

[00:08:02]Oh, please.

[00:08:04]Please.

[00:08:06]I've just seen this thing that is trending, this 11-year father assaulting her.

[00:08:13]And they say that's how he has been to the mother. The mother had to escape with her daughter and left the boys with him.

[00:08:19]I fear for how those children will turn out.

[00:08:21]If a father can do this to an adult, his adult daughter.

[00:08:26]And he has been doing that to his wife.

[00:08:28]We should expose these monsters.

[00:08:31]Don't let them feel comfortable in their wickedness.

[00:08:34]It has been going on for too long.

[00:08:36]Please, women.

[00:08:38]Women, don't stay silent in toxic, physically abusive men. Don't do that.

[00:08:44]Please.

[00:08:46]Please. Especially when your children can see and hear. Please. You are not You're not doing them good. I'm staying because of the children. You're not doing them You're damaging those children.

[00:08:56]THEY WILL GROW UP DAMAGED AND COME INTO THE SOCIETY AND FURTHER add to the deform that they mess up that's already out here.

[00:09:03]Ah, women. I take God beg you. You get how we fit endure, but you see this one.

[00:09:09]No endure. No endure, please. I take God beg you. If you see this video, share it. I take God beg you. Share this video. Somebody out there needs to see this. This is a message to somebody. If it can get to just that person, then my job is done.