Manipulating Men, Body Image Issues & The Worst Date I’ve Ever Been On

Añadido: 2026-06-01

[00:00:08]Hi guys and welcome back to Live and Learn with Livy. Clearly I am Libby. If you're watching YouTube, say hello to Tiny. You guys, I don't know what this tradition is where Tiny just feels the need to sit up there with me. But I guess I'm just going to let a [ __ ] live. How are we all doing? I'm doing good. I honestly Okay, so yesterday I didn't sleep. And if you've been listening to the podcast for a while, you know like I'm a D1 [ __ ] when I don't sleep. And normally I film the podcast on Wednesdays always. Today is a Thursday. I was like so damn bad yesterday just cuz like if I don't sleep, raging [ __ ] Like I am the worst version of myself if I do not sleep. So there's that. So today we're filming on a Thursday which mean this goes up which means this goes up tomorrow. So we have a quick turnaround ladies and gentlemen.

[00:00:55]And I guess I just have like I feel like for this week's episode I just wanted to talk about things that were on my mind a lot recently.

[00:01:04]So let's just deep dive into it. So basically last week I had this is so vulnerable. I had a family member reach out to me and was like are you okay? Like you look fat. That's basically what my family member said to me. Like are you good? Like you look fat. And that's a very first of all, nobody wants to receive a text message like that. Second of all, like it was out of call out like out of pock my god out of pocket, uncalled for. And like that family member ended up apologizing and was like, I had no idea why I did that. Like I don't even think that. But it really sent me down a spiral just because I feel like in today's generation with the ompic culture and everything we live in that it's just so obvious to me that like it really feels as if my body is the most important thing and like the way I look is the most important thing. And I always say like my le my looks are the least interesting thing about me, [ __ ] Like ask me the amount of prank calls I've done on exboyfriends. It'll be way more entertaining than the looks. Like, do you know what I mean? Just like little things like that where I'm like, I've accomplished so much. Every goal and dream I've had, I've accomplished. I anything I set my mind to, I do. I live alone in this beautiful apartment. I have an amazing job. I have amazing friends. I'm living by myself in New York City. No, none of that matters because my weight just seems to be the topic of conversation.

[00:02:30]And it's really disheartening. It's disgusting. It's annoying as [ __ ] if I'm being so beyond honest with you because it's like I just think my appearance is the least interesting thing about me. Don't get me wrong, I love the looks, whatever. But like I truly believe that is genuinely the least interesting thing about me.

[00:02:51]Ask me about my goals and my my dreams, like things like that. That'll really get a [ __ ] going. But receiving that text, it just like made me think of I think since Ozmpic started becoming a thing and everyone's on it, everyone's doing it. I have people who send me close people to me. Like it's never like you guys or like strangers or anything. It's really just like close people to me who will like send me who will be like, "Wait, why aren't you on Oz? Everyone's on Ozic. Why don't you want to try it? Don't you want to do it?" And I don't I don't want to be on OMIC at all. If I wanted to be on Ozic, I'd be [ __ ] be on Ozmpic. I don't want to do it because I have a history with an eating disorder. I had really bad trigger warning. I had really bad bulimia back when I was 20, 21. And every single night I went to bed hating myself. I genuinely hated myself. I cried my sleep to cried myself to sleep every single night begging God, the universe, whoever would have listened to me to just like please help me get through this because I I my bulimia consumed every single part of my being.

[00:03:45]I looked in the mirror. I hated myself every single day. Oop, not my mother.

[00:03:49]Um, and I felt so lost. I felt so alone. And I hated hating myself. I really did hate hating myself. And I think that's why I love myself so much now is because I had a history where like I didn't love myself for a really long time and then struggling with that bulimia and then coming to terms with the fact that hey actually I really did need help because I was in a really dark place with my bulimia and everything else that was my eating disorder and I needed help to get out of that and then I had to meet with a therapist all the time. I had to talk to a new actually looking back my mom got me a nutritionist which actually doesn't like check out whatsoever for someone who has like an eating disorder recovery but my mom was just trying the best with what she had and I had to send photos every day of the food I was eating to that nutritionist to make sure I was eating to make sure I wasn't throwing up again and so no I don't want to be on ompic my body's changed my body will continue to change if you guys know now I'm counting my macros and stuff like I do just want to tone up a little bit more and lean out kind of thing and I know Ozmpic would be an easy way to do it, but I also know about myself and I know how long it took me to get to a point where I was eating food and not feeling guilty for it or I was eating food and keeping it down. So, I just think the OMIC talk is too [ __ ] much. And I think it's pushed on to us so heavily. I mean, you scroll, you see ads. Not only do you see ads, everybody is dick thin. And that's fine. Like if that's what you want, that's what you want. But don't project it onto other people. That's where I have a problem. That's where all of this stems from is like I don't think anyone should ever be so comfortable to talk about somebody's body. I mean, especially not to me, [ __ ] But I don't think anyone should ever be like, "Oh, maybe you should like look into OMIC or maybe you should do that and da da da."

[00:05:41]At the end of the day, [ __ ] I like to eat. I like to eat and everything. I'm counting my macros. I am losing weight.

[00:05:48]I am doing that. I'm doing it in the best way possible for me and my mental health because I know I can flip on a dime. I can flip on a dime and like let's say I did Ozmpic babe, you wouldn't see me tomorrow because of this in fact like I couldn't do it health like I couldn't do it in a healthy mindset. I would be overdosing it. It would be so toxic for me and I worked so hard to get to a stage where my body and my image wasn't the number one thing about me and like the number thing number one thing I was obsessed with 24/7. So, it really is disheartening to and just [ __ ] annoying to like hear from people being like, "Oh my god, like have you thought about a zamic?" Or like just the comments about like my body and stuff. I just think even my entire life, my weight has always been a topic. And it's always been really interesting to me cuz like I don't understand why.

[00:06:34]But yeah, it's just like a little bit exhausting. And I mean, a little bit exhausting is an understatement. It's draining. It's very draining for people to bring up your weight all the time.

[00:06:44]And I have talked about this in past episodes, like yes, I'm losing weight and I'm doing it in the way that I think is best for me. And I'm doing it just to really understand my body and understand my relationship with food and not go down a dark path. But I just get annoyed, I guess, because I just think it's I truly think it my body is like the least interesting thing about me and I get annoyed when it's brought to the forefront for no reason.

[00:07:11]And yeah, I'm just I'm working on my like I'm figuring out what's best for me and my body. And I just it's interesting because being in social media and stuff, I get comments all the time about my body and my appearance and everything.

[00:07:22]And I've learned to not let that affect me. But obviously when I'm having close friends and family make comments like that, like that does really affect me. I think that would affect anybody. But I think it's just like a reminder every time I get that where it's just like that is them projecting and that is them really taking the bait of whatever this generation is and the hyperfixation that we have on our weight and the hyperfixation we've put onto women about their body size and everything like that where at the end of the day it's like I just want to be happy. I want to go to a restaurant and not worry and have a panic attack every time I go to dinner.

[00:07:56]I want to eat whatever I want to eat and I want to enjoy food and I want to enjoy my body and not restrict it and not live in a mental prison anymore. Yeah, I want to do that. So, that's just something that's been really heavy on my mind because I just think after I had someone like bring up my weight and things like that and she was like, "Are you eating any greens?" [ __ ] shut up. Am I eating any greens? Me and Arugula are like this. But I just also think it's nobody's place to comment on each other's bodies. I really don't. And I think it's become I don't know. I just think we're in I would hate to be a teenage girl in this generation. I would hate it because I grew up in the generation where like everyone wanted like a fat ass and like that was like the big thing the boys were like your ass is big. And I was like ah like you know what I mean? Like that's the generation I grew up in where like Kim Kardashian like she set the BBL standard for everybody. And so I would hate to grow up in the Ompic I would hate to grow up in the Ompic culture because I just cannot imagine what it's doing to our young girls. And that's what we should really be thinking about of like what it's doing to our young girls. I never want any woman ever or man to experience like the dark days I've experienced with like my body and just the damaging thoughts that come with it.

[00:09:02]Chinese, what are you doing, Maria? And yeah. Okay. So, the next topic that's been on my mind is mean flirting. Okay, you guys, I'm going to tell you, listen, you're going to hear about this on TikTok eventually whenever I'm ready to tell this story, but I have a story to tell you about a horrible [ __ ] date that I went on.

[00:09:20]Okay, this was the second date with a man and I feel like the first date can always be bad. I have never had a bad second date. But I will say in this date, this guy that I was talking to, I told him on the date that I did like I'm just very vague. I'm like, I do social media. And I then told him on the first date like a little bit more like, oh no, like I don't do social media for a company. I do it for myself. Like I am the company, [ __ ] So I just keep that in mind. And if you guys have been here for a while again, for some reason my job and my dating life are like very intertwined.

[00:09:55]Well, okay. Me [laughter] being like I don't know the reason. No, [ __ ] Like I do know the reason. I do talk about dating a lot on social media and I've told story times and all those things and I'll continue to do [ __ ] do so. Like if you don't want to story time about you, don't do storytime things and that's just that. But I was talking about with my friend about this last night and she's like, "You're going to need like a very special person to date and be with." And I'm like, "This is so [ __ ] annoying." But let me explain to you this horrible date I went on. And it stems from I saw a Tik Tok about this girl being like mean flirting is like the most unattractive thing a man can do. And this is what I experienced on the second date. So as soon as this [ __ ] sat down, I was like, "His energy is like really weird." Like his energy was completely off from like the last time that we went on a date. And we were texting and stuff too and like the energy was great. And I was just like, we know my therapist told me I have to date because I need to have fun. I need to relax. Da d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d da d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d I need to not ac expect everyone to be my husband and all those things. And like I really didn't expect that from this one. We sit down and he was like, "Wait, like why were you stressed today?" And I didn't want to be like, "Oh, I was stressed actually because I'm PMSing horribly and I feel like a whale." I didn't want to say that to the man that I was on a second date with. So I was like, "Oh, I was just stressed cuz like work, like whatever."

[00:11:06]Like I was just like, "Work was just like stressing me out." He looks at me.

[00:11:09]He goes, "Yeah, cuz it's really hard to make a video."

[00:11:15]I'm sorry. Who the [ __ ] are you talking to? I was like, "Wait, what?" And then I was also like, "Oh, by the way, like that's not all that my" And it's not like I never mind. But it's like that's I was like, "That's not all that my job is." I was like, "I also do a lot of networking. I go to events. I do a lot of meetings daily. I work with brands. I do all those things." I was just like casually mentioning this. I wasn't like, "Actually, by the way, I work hard." No, I wasn't doing that. I was like, "Oh, that's actually just like not all that my job is. Like maybe you're like confused." And he was like, "Yeah, cuz all of it seems really hard.

[00:11:47]You can't be talking to me, [ __ ] You genuinely cannot be talking to me. Like, this is a joke."

[00:11:52]So, I go to the bathroom. I text my friends and I'm like, "Uh, really weird energy. He's making like really horrible digs about my job and it's just like uncomfortable." And I was like, "But like going to see it through, like still going to have fun." Well, him and I, we went to a sushi place. We had plans to go to a place after. And I was sitting at the table like being like maybe I don't want to go. Maybe I don't want to go because like he's being really weird and rude about my job. Like I don't know. I don't really want to [ __ ] deal with a man and I definitely don't want to deal with a man who's making weird comments about my job. So I was like maybe I won't go. But then I was like you know whatever. So we go to the second spot and we're there and I make I love to make my dates play like would you rather like so it's very much like would you rather like do this or do that. So one of his was like would you rather make a video with this person or this person? And I was like, "Uh, it depends." And he like made a comment of like, "Yeah, I want to know how much you make per video. I'm sorry. I'm sorry."

[00:12:43]And I looked, I literally laughed and I was like, "You don't. You actually don't want to know what I make per video.

[00:12:49]It'll ruin your day." No, but I was like, "You don't." Like I was like, "That's so weird." And I like giggled.

[00:12:53]He's like, "No, like I'm so curious."

[00:12:55]And I was like, "Then do your own [ __ ] research. Like that's not my business." And I was like, "This man is just keeps giving me really weird energy about my job." And I don't know why. And then he told me, he was like, "Yeah, you just dillydally all day. That's your job."

[00:13:13][laughter] I'm like, "What?" [gasps] So I go to the bathroom. I text my friends again. I go, "He just told me I dillydally all day and that's my job."

[00:13:20]And they were like, "This guy's an [ __ ] Like what's his problem?" mind you like this man's still in school so don't talk to me about working [ __ ] when you're not even in of the workforce and so I was like what and then I get back and I was like so you think my job is dillydallying all day long he's like I stand by that I was like okay you're this is like really funny now I want to mention this I think if like I didn't sit there and be like I work so hard I've never said that I've never said that in my life I never I didn't bring up anything about my job he doesn't know I never once mentioned my job other than when he asked me on the first date like, "What's your job?" And I said, "I do social media for myself. I have agents and managers that represent me and I work with them." Okay, that's all the man knows. So, yes, he knows I'm an influencer. He knows that's what I do. I have not spoken anything else about my job. Like, if you even asked me what my fiveyear plan was, if you even asked me what my long-term goals were, like those things, whatever. So, I was like, "This is so [ __ ] rude." regardless of like yes I'm an influencer but if I was just doing like marketing anybody anybody in their right mind if they sat down and they're like hey I do this for a job and a man started making fun of it you'd be like what the actual [ __ ] like you'd be like this is the weirdest thing I've ever experienced so I was like you know what I'm in the mood to be a [ __ ] like that's just like what it came down to I was like okay you've belittled my job not once not twice three times I'm not in the mood and if like I was like and you're not I'm not the one to [ __ ] with and I'm not the want to sit back and just be like, "Oh, like he's just joking. It's like a mean flirting." No, you're a [ __ ] and I'm going to make you feel like one. Like, that's just what it comes down to. So, it was really like my true man hater came out at this moment.

[00:15:00]So, we're playing, he's asking me questions and he's like, "Have you ever dated anyone that I would know?" I go, "Absolutely." And he was like, "What?

[00:15:08]You've dated someone that like I would know?" And I was like, "Yeah." I mean, I was like, "I don't know. Like, do you watch sports like that?" Like, I I don't know. If you watch sports like that, then like, "Yeah, like you'll know my ex." And he was like, "What? What are you talking about?" And he was like, "Who is it? Who is it?" And I was like, "No, like my ex and I have an amazing rel I'm lying." I'm like, "My ex and I have an amazing relationship. Like I would never like just tell you who I was dating just to tell you who I was dating kind of thing. Like I would never do such I'm not an evil [ __ ] I'm like we still have like lots of love and respect for each other." So like I would never just tell you. I'm sorry. Just kidding.

[00:15:41]I said, "Yeah, I'm actually going to sit here and lie my ass off cuz I'm bored then." So, I like make the whatever I do that whole thing. Haha. Actually, like some of my exes, would he know? Yeah, probably. Whatever. Not even like my good exes. It's always It's never the ones that I'm like, "Oh, yeah, you would know my French ex-boyfriend." No, it's like the ones who have like my talking stages for like 3 months, whatever. But still, I was like, "Oh my god." Like, "No, these were amazing men. I could never talk about them." So, then he forgets not one but two things about me that I've mentioned on the first date.

[00:16:10]And I go, "Hm, perfect. I want an Uber home. I'm so sick of this. I want an Uber home. This man needs to call me an Uber home." So, I go, "Pull up your phone right now." And I go, "I'm going to give you three guesses, and if you can't guess correctly, you're calling my Uber home." He was like, "Wait, what?

[00:16:24]Wait, what? I thought we were having a good time." I go, "No, I told you three things on the first date, and you can't remember them. You're going to call my Uber home." But really, what I really was upset about was the fact that he just sat there and belittled my job. I was like, "Whatever." So, he pulled up his Uber app. I put my address in, and that sat in between us for 20 minutes. I have a photo if you guys would like to see the photo. that sat in between us for 20 minutes while I went back and forth with him and made him guess the things that he couldn't remember on the first date. And he was like, "Well, I just feel like the date's over now, like because I can't remember anything." And I go, "You're going to sit here and you're going to really think about it."

[00:17:00]So, he guessed three times. He was wrong. I called that Uber. I called that Uber on his phone. Absolutely.

[00:17:06]Absolutely.

[00:17:08]Um, now listen, would I say it's the best way I handled the date? No. But then don't make rude [ __ ] comments about me and we won't have these issues.

[00:17:15]Do you know what I mean? Like don't do that. Also, this is like my introduction back into dating. And I really was like, you know what? Forget it. Like, I'm not going to sit and I'm not going to spiral about it cuz like there's no need for me to do that. Um, and I was like, I'm just going to keep go move on, keep dating, do that whole thing. But I was like, what a [ __ ] Like that's the last time that I've been on a relationship with a man who's like genuinely a [ __ ] like that. I was like, it was just really weird the work thing. And I didn't even tell him anything. Like it was just very strange. Which I understand. A lot of people don't like influencers. Okay, then don't ask me on a second date just to belittle me because, you know, I'm successful. You know, I probably make like, you know what I mean? Like those little things where it's like you're just intimidated. And that's fine, but then I'm not the one to date because like I don't want to date someone who's intimidated. And it's really just like it's never that [ __ ] deep, you guys.

[00:18:04]I'm like it's my job. Like oh my god.

[00:18:06]Anyways, so when you see me tell that story time on TikTok, just be supportive. Just be supportive in the comments, [ __ ] Just be supportive.

[00:18:15]Anyways, cuz I probably will will tell it again, but it takes me a minute to like digest it cuz I am like that was like a really shitty feeling. Like nobody wants to sit there and be belittled about absolutely anything, let alone my job. I'm sorry, not my job. So, I also just made a Tik Tok about this topic, but I stand by it. Like, why does everyone's boyfriend hate them? I would love to know. I feel like there's only a couple relationships that I've seen where I'm like, "Oh, he actually doesn't hate her and he respects her." And it just is like driving me crazy because it I really would rather be single than be with someone who like clearly hates me.

[00:18:48]And like I have a friend and she's dating this man and it just is so clear as to how much he loves her. Like their relationship is the only thing that gives me hope in this dating world nowadays. I'm not even kidding you. them and like a couple other of my friends have like really great relationships, but like them specifically cuz I'm around them all the time. The way that he loves her and like just cherishes her and is just speaks so highly of her and like truly and genuinely loves her. I'm like that's goals and like that is the kind of relationship that I would want to be in. But then you see other people in relationships where they're just like dimming their light. And then I also talked about this. I had a couple friends, well I had a friend that was a couple. I had a friend and she had a boyfriend and it it was always like us three, three, like the three amigos, whatever. Those two hated each other to a whole different degree. I'm like, "Wait, why are you guys with each other if you like genuinely hate each other?"

[00:19:38]And it would ruin the day. Like we'd be out for drinks and laughing. And then my friend would like look at her boyfriend and be like, "Why are you laughing so hard?" And it would immediately like ruin the vibe. He's like, "Why are you bringing up the fact that I'm laughing so hard?" And she's like, "I don't understand why you're laughing so much harder than everybody else." And we would be like, everyone that I was with like, "Oh, I think they're fighting."

[00:19:55]And she'd be like, "No, he's just so [ __ ] annoying. Does no one else think he's so annoying? And we would all just be like, "Oh my god, like they're fighting." Like, do you know what I mean? Like, oh, like they're fighting.

[00:20:04]And he'd be like, "You're such a [ __ ] You're just such a [ __ ] And you always just you just hate me." And she's like, "Yeah, I'm a [ __ ] I'm a bitch." And it's like, "Oh my god, we're at drinks.

[00:20:12]Can we just like relax and like have drinks without you two spiraling and like losing your mind?" And then I would have him call me all the time and be like, "I'm breaking up with her." And I was like, "I'm not the one to call."

[00:20:22]Like that is my friend. I was like, "I'll be in the driveway with the car when she's ready to pack her shit." and go. I was like, I don't know why you're calling me. So, I just wouldn't answer his calls. I was like, oh, this is such a horrible place to be in, but like truly, I think it needs to be reminded that we don't need to be in relationships where we hate each other.

[00:20:40]We can be alone and we can also date people who like genuinely love us. But when I go back to my friend who's in that amazing relationship now, I'm like that is the relationship that like I would want of just like the mutual respect, how much he loves her. he loves her out loudly and like just it's very refreshing to see because I do just think there's a lot of people who stick with people just because they don't want to be alone and I'm like there's that's never necessary to be with someone who like genuinely hates you just because you don't want to be alone and you just really want the marriage and the kids and all those things that will come with the right person. Like I also think since I've seen like my mom and my dad's relationship with just like genuinely terrible, I see red flags a little bit earlier just cuz I'm like used to seeing that where I'm just like uh I'm just used to a horrible man. And I feel like I can I can point that out pretty early. Like number one, I my mom also dated a horrible man after my dad. And so it was like I kind of just got like a front row view to that where I was like oh god this is like what a shitty man looks like. Number one will always be the mean flirting because the mean flirting turns into well you don't work hard enough and you don't do this and you don't contribute anything into the family and it's like wait why did we get here? Do you know what I mean? And just like the way the belittling and those things. So that's when I when I was like being belittled on the date and I like told my mom and she's like oh my god it's not that big of a deal. I was like yeah to you cuz you've been in like you you would put up with something like that. I'm not going to put up with something like that. Why would I put up with something like that?

[00:22:07]No, thank you. So, that's a whole different topic of like just red flags.

[00:22:11]I feel like I can notice earlier on because I've just seen them within my parents. A lot of it is like money related, too, where like you kind of just get blinded by like the money of it all. But that's just that's a topic for a different day. Okay.

[00:22:27]I think we get into what is it? Um me me not remembering my own segment. I think we get into Livy's lessons. Okay. One of you Tiny, relax. You scare me when you do that. One of the people, what's it called? One of you guys slid up and when I was doing Livby's lessons and you're like, "You don't ever respond." I don't mean to do that, you guys. So, I'm so sorry if you feel like I never respond.

[00:22:49]I can't do all the questions I get.

[00:22:50]That's why I ask every week. And so, just like keep submitting your questions, but also I get like overwhelmed with like messages and stuff and like text messages specifically and the questions. So, like if you don't if I don't respond, I'm truly sorry. We'll get to it eventually, but like I am someone who gets very overwhelmed when it's like questions or things like that.

[00:23:09]So, I kind of should probably stop doing the question box to my story. I don't mind doing it for Livy's lessons, but it can be overwhelming when I just like put it to my story. Okay. How do I stop feeling so angry about my ex that cheated on me and disrespected me? That will come when you let him go. So when you learn to let him go and you look at that relationship more as a lesson and like what you don't want in future relationships, you won't hold on to that much anger. Like I don't really hold on to any anger from my ex-boyfriend. I had an ex-boyfriend who also disrespected me and cheated on me. I let go of that anger a while ago because it was interfering with my healing process and I didn't want to do that. But like some ways I really recommend therapy, letting those emotions out, journaling if you can't get into therapy, like truly letting those emotions out and just feeling every single thing you're feeling is so important because the only way to get through what you're going through is to feel everything. So I definitely recommend that. And like don't take any of the anger out on him because that won't do anything that will just put keep you in contact with somebody that you shouldn't be in contact with anymore. So that's my biggest tip is how do I stop feeling so angry? You got to let him go and just like really work on I mean anger is a part of grief though like it's one of the seven stages of grief is anger. So don't even judge yourself for feeling anger [ __ ] I felt anger too. I was ready to burn his house down. You think oh I was ready to burn that [ __ ] to the floor. Okay. How to feel more confident in summer [ __ ] It's just a season where you show your titties a little bit more. Like I actually realized this the other day, but when I was back back to my eating disorder days, I always was like, "Oh my god, I can't wear that.

[00:24:47]Like I'm too big to wear that." Da da d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d d whatever. And I was like the first time I wore a crop top and like was learning to love myself and things like that. I was like, wait, like I don't have to like not wear crop tops. Like the only person who's stopping me from wearing things that I want to wear was me and like my negative mindset towards myself.

[00:25:04]So I was like, wait, I can wear crop tops. I can wear sports bras. can do that whole thing. Like the only person that was ever stopping me was me. So I think that's like a really good thing to keep in mind is like the only person that's stopping you from feeling confident in the summer is you. And like wear clothes that make you confident. Do things that make you more confident. But like don't just cuz it's a season and like we're a little bit more naked.

[00:25:26]Embrace that. Like I think it's really important to sit and love your body and be like, you know what, even even me where I'm not where I want my body to be yet and apparently everyone in their mother's calling me a fat ass. Um, I'm still like I still love this version of me. I still love the fact that my boobs are a little bigger than they normally are cuz I have to. Cuz if I don't love my body, I'm just going to end up hating it. And there's no benefit of me hating my body. Then like there's no benefit to that. There's truly no benefit. So I'm trying to embrace the parts of my body that I don't necessarily love right now and that I am actively changing. But like I just think it's just confidence really just comes down to how you view yourself and how you talk to yourself.

[00:26:02]So, just view yourself positively and talk to yourself even more positively.

[00:26:07]That's my biggest advice.

[00:26:10]Libby, do you have any advice for the girls experiencing limrins?

[00:26:16]You guys, I've been there. You're just in love with the idea of them. You're not in love with them. Have I been there? I've been there so many times.

[00:26:22]Like, I think I was like the queen of lirance at one point, probably like last year. Actually, I just sent this Instagram profile of a guy I used to date and he was like wildly religious in a religion that like I didn't know anything about and my friends were like, "What the [ __ ] were you thinking?" Like thinking that you would actually like be with this man and I was like, "I genuinely don't know." But like the lirance, it will catch up with you. Like it really will. And I think like just being so in love with the idea of someone is such a horrible trait to like not a horrible trait, but it's so hard to deal with. Sorry, I didn't mean horrible, but like it is something that's really difficult to deal with, but you just need to remind yourself like the right person won't put you in limrance. And also, you are putting yourself in limrance. At the end of the day, you're hyperfixating on something that's not what it actually is. And like kind of snap yourself out of that and be like, are they really that amazing? Are they communicating how they should be?

[00:27:13]Are they taking me on dates? Are they doing those things? If not, then they're not the one for you.

[00:27:23]How to deal with feeling behind in life.

[00:27:26]I think there's no such thing as being behind in life. I think that you're exactly where you're meant to be at every single moment. And the more that you tell yourself you're behind, the more you're going to feel behind.

[00:27:38]But I think you just need to embrace every single season and every single moment that you're at and just be in the present. Like if you're like, "Oh, I thought I'd have a house by like 24 kind of thing where it's like that's not how life works. Life is not a specific way.

[00:27:51]No, sorry. What am I saying? Life isn't Wait, sorry. [gasps] Sometimes I just get it comes to the point of the podcast episode where I'm like, "Oh, oh my god, I'm stepping into my illiterate territory." But when when you make plans, God laughs. I think that's like a really good quote. I don't know why I'm quoting God so much. I'm so sorry. But whenever I say God, just know I mean like whatever higher power you believe in. I'm not over here like thou shalt whatever. Anyways, so I just think like that's a feeling you're convincing yourself of. You're not actually behind in life. That's just something you're convincing yourself. So you just have to like not be so hard on yourself and just be like if you're at a different point of your life than other people are around you. Just remind yourself that it's coming for you. And it being around you is just a reminder that like yeah, I am the things that I want are coming for me and they will come for me. And it's okay. Everything is in divine timing.

[00:28:41]It's all in the right timing. You can never be behind because you just can't be. That's what I tell myself. I can't be behind because I'm just not. Anyways, that's it for this week's episode. I hope you guys loved it. I love every single one of you. I hope you have a great day, night, evening, whenever you're listening to this. Make sure to rate the podcast five stars. Comment on YouTube. I love chitchatting with you guys in the comments. It genuinely means the world to me. And thank you guys always for the positive messages and the love. I love you guys and I hope we all feel the love in this community of ours.

[00:29:11]But have a great day, night, evening, whenever the [ __ ] you're listening to this, cuz I'm trying not to swear anymore. But I love you guys.