People Are Not The Same... And It's Actually Terrifying [RAW]

[00:00:00]People are not the same, and it's actually terrifying.

[00:00:05]People have changed. Their behaviors have changed. Their personalities have changed. Their character has changed.

[00:00:12]And so, they are different now.

[00:00:14]They are not the same as they were before.

[00:00:16]Now, I want to ask you some questions.

[00:00:21]How many of you felt as though you just can't get ahead in this life?

[00:00:25]Like everything you tried to do, someone ends up sabotaging it.

[00:00:29]Or people in your life end sabotaging it.

[00:00:33]How many of you feel like your friendships or relationships you make end up getting infiltrated and hijacked and stolen from you?

[00:00:41]How many of you feel as though your hopes and your dreams and your ambitions and your goals, they just get mocked, they get criticized, and they get shattered before you even get them up off the ground?

[00:00:55]Comment down below if this has been your experience, because the truth is you're not alone.

[00:01:01]I would assume that everyone in this world has experienced some form of sabotage or bullying.

[00:01:06]Even if there were people who haven't, that would only make them more vulnerable because they wouldn't be prepared for it.

[00:01:14]So, this is something that everyone is experiencing, but to varying degrees.

[00:01:19]And people are talking about it now.

[00:01:23]ABC News reported that nearly half of Americans believe public behavior has become ruder since the pandemic.

[00:01:32]Many people frequently observe acts like loud music, cursing, and disregard for personal space when it wasn't like this before.

[00:01:41]And here's the thing.

[00:01:43]Many countries have achieved remarkable development over the past few decades.

[00:01:48]Many people now get to enjoy higher wealth, better education, increased life expectancy.

[00:01:56]So, they are experiencing significant improvements in their quality of life.

[00:02:01]But, research in a Refinery29 article suggests that as individuals attain more wealth, their levels of empathy and compassion can decrease while feelings of entitlement rise.

[00:02:16]So, while millions of people may have been lifted out of poverty and improved their living standards, these benefits do come at a cost to traditional social norms.

[00:02:26]This increased individualism frequently contributes to increased selfishness and decreased politeness.

[00:02:36]A 2025 Ipsos survey found that 61% of people believe the environment was better in 1975.

[00:02:45]People reported a stronger local community.

[00:02:49]Whereas one in four adults now report having no close friends, even though there are an abundance of people now.

[00:02:57]I mean, the global population has actually doubled since 1975.

[00:03:02]And yet, many people have become isolated.

[00:03:06]Mostly as a result of technology, social media, mental health struggles, and financial pressures.

[00:03:13]Many people aren't interested in family or community anymore.

[00:03:17]They're more focused on self-promotion and fostering high self-esteem regardless of actual accomplishment.

[00:03:25]According to analysis by Dr. Jean Twenge, there has been a 30% increase in narcissistic personality traits among US college students between the late 1970s and mid-2000s.

[00:03:39]And there is a 2010 study by Dr. Sara Konrath at the University of Michigan, which found that college students in 2009 were 40% less empathetic than their counterparts 30 years prior.

[00:03:54]Researchers have suggested several possible causes for this change, including the rise of social media, an increased exposure to media or technology that encourages tuning in and out of others, and a more competitive, individualistic culture.

[00:04:10]So, people these days are placing a heavy focus on getting and spending, which takes time away from activities that nurture happiness, such as maintaining relationships with family and friends.

[00:04:22]Many people are stuck in a loneliness loop.

[00:04:25]They're experiencing social isolation and loneliness, which just drives them to seek belonging through material consumption.

[00:04:34]But, this dopamine hit from buying is short-lived.

[00:04:38]So, it just ends up reinforcing a sense of emptiness and leading to further consumption.

[00:04:44]They're just buying goods to display social status, which just ends up increasing their status anxiety, where the pressure to keep up with the Joneses creates stress rather than social bonds.

[00:04:57]And that is what we're all seeing now on social media.

[00:05:01]People feel pressured to perform, and to show everyone they've got it, or that they're not missing out on something.

[00:05:11]But, social media just amplifies their loneliness, because it replaces face-to-face interactions with shallow virtual engagements and comparison culture.

[00:05:21]So, the impact of high consumerism is linked to greater unhappiness and lower cooperation in relationships, increased depression, anxiety, and feelings of inadequacy, and decreased life satisfaction, because high materialistic values are consistently linked to lower overall well-being.

[00:05:41]And when you see these people on social media, once you look past the initial shock value of their performances, it becomes clear that they're really just smiling for the camera, as though they're just trying to prove something.

[00:05:55]And research shows that the act of performing for social media often directly reduces the actual enjoyment of an experience.

[00:06:03]Psychologists refer to this as the spectator effect, where documenting life for an audience turns you into a spectator of your own life, rather than a participant.

[00:06:14]When they're smiling on social media, it isn't about connection.

[00:06:21]The smile is aimed at the validation, the likes and comments that come later, which creates a loop where the reward is the digital feedback, rather than the social connection or the event itself.

[00:06:37]Some studies even suggest that focusing on capturing the perfect shot can actually weaken your organic memory of the event, because it teaches the brain to rely on the external device to store the moment, rather than processing it deeply.

[00:06:50]And eventually, it leads to what psychologists call self-branding burnout, where living as a constant performer eventually drains the person's actual identity, because they develop this double life dissonance, where they have to maintain this branded persona versus an authentic self, which creates this intense cognitive dissonance.

[00:07:10]Constantly trying to embody a flawless image eventually burns them out and results in them becoming emotionally numb.

[00:07:18]And that is how there are so many people in the world today who you can't even talk to or connect to.

[00:07:24]And they just seem rude and arrogant, or they're always busy doing something else, because they're constantly trying to impress, so they are in a state of taking rather than giving.

[00:07:36]They are desperately feeding on external validation, such as likes and comments, to fill an internal void.

[00:07:44]And this is fundamentally addictive and unsustainable, which leads to anxiety, depression, and a loss of personal identity.

[00:07:52]Because once people start branding themselves, their self-worth becomes conditional on maintaining that brand.

[00:07:59]And it's not just about maintaining it.

[00:08:01]There is a phenomenon known as the hedonic treadmill, where people are constantly adjusting to their new peak.

[00:08:09]And so they immediately need something even or better just to feel the same level of satisfaction.

[00:08:15]So even if they manage to maintain it, they still feel like they're falling behind.

[00:08:21]Because now people aren't just comparing themselves to a friend, but to filtered multi-millionaire influencers.

[00:08:29]And yet, people wonder where all the good people have gone.

[00:08:34]People wonder why everyone seems so rude and obnoxious these days.

[00:08:38]And it's because betrayal isn't just a byproduct of all of this.

[00:08:42]It's actually the fuel for the system.

[00:08:44]It's what keeps the system running at peak condition.

[00:08:48]Because status is measured by being above others, which means the ladder must be built on the back of those who refuse to play the game.

[00:08:56]Because for the system to reward extrinsic values, such as wealth, fame, status, naturally, it must penalize intrinsic values, such as honesty, empathy, community.

[00:09:12]In a world that values performance, being genuine is viewed as a weakness.

[00:09:18]So if you refuse to exploit people or sell your soul, you will end up sidelined because you won't be productive or marketable.

[00:09:26]So the good people often end up broke or isolated because they chose peace over performance.

[00:09:33]And this often ends up in them being villainized or pathologized because the system labels them as a failure or mentally ill to justify ignoring them.

[00:09:43]It's a way for those at the top to avoid feeling guilt.

[00:09:47]So, you won't see good people too often anymore because most of them are either broke, mentally ill, villainized, or dead.

[00:09:55]They may end up in remote areas or in isolation because the modern social landscape is increasingly transactional.

[00:10:02]So, they end up being made irrelevant because society has no place for them.

[00:10:09]But, these are the people who value deep connection over consumption.

[00:10:16]The people who everyone wants, but no one can find.

[00:10:19]The people who refuse to play the performance game.

[00:10:23]They are the people the world is starving for.

[00:10:26]Yet, they are increasingly hard to find because the modern social landscape is designed to hide them.

[00:10:34]People who are quiet, modest, or live in simple lives or remote areas often remain invisible.

[00:10:41]They don't appear in the algorithms or social circles where most people are looking.

[00:10:45]And people may say that they want authentic people, but the moment someone is truly authentic, showing their messy, unpolished, or unproductive sides, they are often ignored or even penalized by social media algorithms.

[00:11:00]So, while people may be looking for authenticity, they will only find performative versions of it.

[00:11:06]These people are dehumanized and marginalized.

[00:11:09]They are often labeled as failures or irrelevant, which makes them the last people the average person would think to look for, even though they hold the genuine connection everyone craves.

[00:11:21]The good people aren't just invisible.

[00:11:24]They are often deliberately blended in to avoid being stepped on.

[00:11:28]They are the person quietly sitting at the back of the bus.

[00:11:32]The one working at the job that doesn't offer status, or the one staying at home because they refuse to pay the entrance fee of modern socializing.

[00:11:42]The people you do see in the street often look weird or cold because they are using hyper-vigilance to protect their status or their energy.

[00:11:52]In a culture of performance, strangers are viewed as potential critics or distractions, not as friends.

[00:12:02]But this is what is happening now.

[00:12:05]We once provided empathy, patience, and genuine human warmth.

[00:12:11]We were stepped on and pushed to the bottom while everyone else raced ahead.

[00:12:17]And now, the predators who relied on my energy are starving, which is how we are now seeing that their starvation is leading to a dangerous escalation.

[00:12:29]Because when narcissistic people with exploitative system can no longer get what it wants through charm or manipulation, it pivots to aggression and provocation.

[00:12:42]So, to get attention in a world that is becoming numb and isolated, they are now becoming louder, more heartless, and more controversial.

[00:12:51]And now they are even forcing interactions just to settle for being feared or hated as long as they are being noticed.

[00:13:00]And that is why everywhere you look now, you see people with expensive cars and perfect bodies, and yet they have this permanent frown like they're not happy.

[00:13:10]The rates of isolation, divorce, and single mother hoods are higher than they've ever been before because the people who are isolated tend to be the ones who are empathetic.

[00:13:23]The people who actually have the equipment for a long-term relationship, such as empathy, patience, loyalty, those are the ones who are most likely to be single because they've already been mined by narcissists and left with betrayal trauma.

[00:13:38]And after being stepped on, these good people withdraw.

[00:13:43]They refuse to be fuel for someone else's performance anymore.

[00:13:52]Let me know in the comments if you have noticed any changes in people lately.

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