Things white People Say To Black People That Are Perceived As Racist

Added: 2026-05-11

[00:00:00]10 things white people say to black people that are racist even if they don't realize it. You're so articulate.

[00:00:05]Why is it racist? It assumes that black people are generally expected to be less intelligent or incapable of speaking well. Complimenting basic communication feels patronizing and reveals a biased low expectation. I don't see color. Why is it racist? It erases the lived experiences of black people including the discrimination they faced. Ignoring race doesn't solve racism. It ignores its impact. Can I touch your hair? Your hair is so exotic. Why is it racist?

[00:00:35]Black hair isn't an exhibit for public curiosity. This fetishization reduces a black person to an object of fascination ignoring their humanity. Where are you really from? Why is it racist? It implies that black people can't truly be American or British etc. And perpetuates the idea that they don't belong. You're pretty for a black person. Why is it racist? It generalizes all black people into a monolithic group based on harmful stereotypes. Black people are individuals not a hive mind.

[00:01:10]I have black friends so I can't be racist.

[00:01:14]Why is it racist?

[00:01:16]So for all those on the video shots guys deep I don't know. I don't know. It's just I don't do I just I don't just understand why the white people are always and the black business. I'm not saying everybody like everybody has an issue especially the white I'm not just talking about the white I'm talking about the both the white and the black.

[00:01:42]You know like it's just crazy enough crazy enough I just wish everybody can be united.

[00:01:51]But it's not possible. Because the factor alone that maybe at the church or at the school like you have an elderly one and the elderly one is like fixing stuff in your head and telling you oh, this is how the black This is what the black is. This is what the white is. This is this this this. You should not do this. You should not do that.

[00:02:16]That's crazy. Like that's not good.

[00:02:20]You understand? We all know what is right, so why the ups and downs?

[00:02:25]Why?

[00:02:26]It's high time like we need to like stop this.

[00:02:30]Like we really need to stop this and have one goal.

[00:02:35]Like we really need to have like one goal instead of ups and downs.

[00:02:38]Definitely like I have a friend.

[00:02:41]She was just going to the supermarket to get one of the and she was at the line.

[00:02:44]And all of a sudden this white dude saw she was on the line and just passed her over and went straight up to the counter.

[00:02:53]And you could see they were so many there waiting and you just went. Like who does that?

[00:02:59]Having black friends doesn't absolve someone of racism, nor does it mean they understand or even respect black experiences. It often comes off as deflection rather than addressing someone's problematic behavior. You're not like other black people. Why is it racist? This is a backhanded insult to the broader black community, reinforcing negative stereotypes while positioning the individual as an exception. Slavery was a long time ago. Why don't you just get over it? Why is it racist? It dismisses generational trauma and systemic inequalities rooted in slavery and ongoing racism, showing ignorance of history and its ongoing effects.

[00:03:44]All lives matter.

[00:03:47]Why is it racist? It dismisses specific struggles black people face by undermining the purpose of Black Lives Matter to address racial inequality and police brutality. Saying all lives matter ignores these disparities.

[00:04:02]Comments like these often come from ignorance, not malice, but it doesn't make them less harmful. These statements invalidate, stereotype, and patronize black people and perpetuate the very biases many of them claim they do not have. It's important to listen, learn, and engage with humility to avoid unintentionally reinforcing racism.

[00:04:23]genuinely gives zero about your guys' feelings, and I will come on here and say all the uncomfortable truths that everybody knows is true, but absolutely nobody will talk about. Black people are the most racist individuals that there is in 2025. As a white person, I certainly can't go to a black community and feel safe. But, when they come to white communities, it's like they're in Disneyland. Used to be an addict, so every time I go down to Newark, I would have to make sure I was strapped. I don't think they have to feel the same way about going out in a white community. Matter of fact, they can come here and say whatever they want. They can call me white boy this, white boy that, white whatever the And, I'm just simply not going to comply with the double standard. I genuinely do not care one bit about your guys' feelings, and I'll tell you the truth.

[00:05:09]And, the truth is, in 2025, white kids are being raised to be accepting individuals, and it's not the other way around, and everybody knows that.

[00:05:20]And, he's absolutely right.

[00:05:26]I got to be objective. I got to call a spade a spade, and I think that there are some nuance here, so let's go ahead and get the pleasantries out of the way.

[00:05:35]Of course, there are some still racist white people. Of course, there are racist black people. Of course, there are some white people that raise their children to be a little bit more demonic.

[00:05:47]And, of course, there are black people who raise their children to be a little bit more demonic. So, nobody is a monolith and when we talk, we talk about the majority, not the minority. So, now that we got the pleasantries out of the way, let's ask ourselves this question. Is it the truth?

[00:06:02]Is it the truth and why? And I think that the why is what we then explore after we evaluate if it's the truth. And from my perspective, as a black person that, you know, understand that we have to be a part of the Democrat plantation and, you know, that the label cuz I mean, be honest with you, like I get called out of my name because I'm objective enough to actually see the truth from what it is and I divest myself from the idea that all white people are bad or all Jewish people are bad or all this is bad. And so, when we then get rid of that mentality, you start to see it. The veil is lifted from your eyes and if you go into some of these households and you talk amongst these circles and white people are now being able to see it for themselves because racist black people feel comfortable saying whatever it is that they want to say. And when he even described the whole idea of they can say white boy this, white boy that. Right. If you say black boy this, black boy that as a white person, you are 1,000% going to be labeled as racist. White people are labeled as racist before they ever even open up their mouth. They just If black people think you stared them wrong, you racist.

[00:07:19]If you didn't get the job, you racist.

[00:07:22]Come on. If This is a >> you are called out on your behavior on a Carnival cruise ship, "Oh, I can't believe they don't want the black dollar." Like, you will never hear openly people say, "I can't believe they don't want the white dollar." You know what I'm saying? And so, the litmus test is always, if you don't feel comfortable with somebody doing to you what you Why I stopped being a racist, part one.

[00:07:50]I've been asked probably well over a thousand times in the comments and messages why I chose to confront my own racism and my prejudiced ideology.

[00:08:01]So, I thought I'd just have an honest conversation with with you and break it down over a few parts and let you see into the mind of someone like me, the way I grew up and the man I'm becoming.

[00:08:13]Now, here's the crazy thing. I've only ever known one racist in my life for sure and that's me. Because I can't speak into the hearts and minds of another human being and what they think and feel. That's not fair and that's prejudicial of me. So, I'm the only one I've ever known, so I feel like I can speak with authority about this. I'm not calling out other people who are I'm not This is simply about my evolution and the things I confronted and some of the difficulties and some of the beautiful parts of this. This is not an easy thing for me to do. This is kind of laying my soul bare. So, if you would, let me know if this is something you want me to continue in the comments, please.

[00:08:51]Because it's going to take a lot for me to invest emotionally to be open about this.

[00:08:56]Now, why is it I grew up with so much prejudice and bias and discrimination in my life?

[00:09:02]Well, I grew up in a small town in Arkansas and I am Arkansas proud. Let me just say that right off the top.

[00:09:08]But, I grew up with people who taught me these things and it was instilled in me.

[00:09:12]I mean, it was just reinforced over and over and then for the most part, I lived in an echo chamber of other people who thought the same thing. So, I didn't know it was possible to think any other way.

[00:09:24]I was raised Christian. I cannot explain to you why my faith in God, my morality, and my racism took so long to cross paths.

[00:09:36]I can't explain it, but it probably took about 40 years to figure that out.

[00:09:41]There's a whole series of events in my life, I guess ultimately, that led up to this.

[00:09:46]And prison was probably one of the biggest catalysts because when you're on 23 and one lockdown with someone of a different color from you in the same cell, you shut your mouth and you listen. You ask questions. And I had so many different cellmates of I mean, from different countries, from different races and heritages.

[00:10:04]And it just really opened my mind.

[00:10:08]And sitting in prison, I had a lot of time to think. And I had some old-timers tell me I need to do my time, don't let my time do me. And those those are good words of advice.

[00:10:19]But I started digging deep into myself and my flaws and because I was probably the biggest I knew at that time, and I wasn't proud of that at all.

[00:10:30]And I knew I needed to change if I wanted to live a productive and healthy life and just be somebody likable.

[00:10:37]I just couldn't see the world for the way it really was.

[00:10:41]And that breaks my heart that it took me so long to see it.

[00:10:46]But the beauty that is born from this change in me or this growth is just crazy. God is amazing.

[00:10:54]So, if you want me to continue I grew up racist, but I did not know that I was racist.

[00:11:01]Uh racism for me started at church. I grew up Missionary Baptist and was led to believe that black people were black because of the curse of Ham. Um and that's in Genesis, if you're not familiar with it, but Abraham got drunk in a tent, was naked, Ham went in and saw him, told his brothers.

[00:11:22]And then he was cursed because of sinning upon his dad, whatever. And that's why he was black.

[00:11:29]And somehow that was justified Excuses for slavery. And my church taught me that. And I remember thinking of that a couple of years ago and I asked my sister, I was like, "Do you remember us being taught that black people are black because of sin?" And she was like, "Yeah, that's wild." And we we talked a lot about that. I left church shortly after um I left home and was like exploring the world on my own. I had never really been around black people until my senior year of high school.

[00:12:02]I I went to a school that was all white.

[00:12:04]I had a black girl who was in my school in third grade. She moved away quickly, obviously. I had a Hispanic family who moved in when I was in fourth grade and they moved away after about a week and a half.

[00:12:17]Um and they all went to school across the river.

[00:12:21]And that was a lot more diverse than the school that I went to.

[00:12:25]But I didn't know I didn't know that I was racist. I had never been around anyone.

[00:12:30]So it was the kind of racist where you're just ignorant to everything, really. And so my senior year of high school, I started working at KFC and praise the Lord there were some black people there.

[00:12:43]Um and I say praise the Lord um There were some black people there, some black girls and they taught me everything. They taught me everything and they put up with me and they answered all my questions and um They were there. Like I I I had never been exposed. I didn't know better. I knew what I had heard.

[00:13:07]And that's what I believed.

[00:13:09]I had never been around any anybody of color to teach me anything any different.

[00:13:16]And it it was eye-opening. So when people ask like how are people still racist today? Well, it starts at the church for me and for many other people.

[00:13:28]Um I did make a list the other night while I was up pumping about things that I thought or that justified reasons of like why I was not racist. I'm not racist because I blah blah blah.

[00:13:43]Um and it's pretty embarrassing for the reasons why I thought I wasn't racist when I didn't even know a single black person or a single Hispanic person or a single anybody person who wasn't as white as me.

[00:13:54]I'm telling you here's what's funny to me about white people. And this is why I I constantly be am called a racist and I don't like white people. I There was a great quote and somebody said uh black people need to stop playing the race card. And then someone in the comment wrote, "Listen, if y'all want black people to stop playing the race card, tell white people to stop dealing it to us."

[00:14:16]And what DON'T WHY YOU CRUNCH YOUR EYEBROWS? I DON'T I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHAT THAT MEANS. Can you explain it to me? Like I I I don't get it. The fact is black people y'all always scream race race race, victim victim victim. Well, if we're tired of talking about it or if you're tired of hearing it, then we're tired of going through it.

[00:14:35]Okay. You understand what I'm saying?

[00:14:36]TAKE SOME ACCOUNTABILITY FOR WHAT THE Y'ALL DO.

[00:14:40]CUZ WE WE IT'S SIMPLE MATH. We wouldn't be here if y'all didn't do the things you do to cause us to be here.

[00:14:50]I have never been against equal opportunity. I've never been against reparations. I was on you know, at first I got a little wrong, but then I I corrected myself later on. Uh You Vlad. You.

[00:15:05]This is something.

[00:15:07]There's a lot of white FOLKS THAT ARE AGAINST REPARATIONS. THERE ARE A LOT OF WHITE folks that aren't for equality.

[00:15:13]Yep. I'm for it. Listen, I went to Berkeley.