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[00:03:56]But to continue on, >> Tim Duncan is not even on the Spurs.

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[00:04:54]>> Okay. Great. And then of course you guys know Anton Daniels. Please hit the like button. If you are interested in joining the panel, ladies and gentlemen, please hit me up on IG and just say panel. Um and we'll have you on here. Well, I'll have you on here. But to start off, do you guys think um just like a quick raise of hand, is there a man that's 100% loyal nowadays? Do you think there's men out there that's 100% loyal?

[00:05:19]>> Yes. Yes.

[00:05:20]>> Yeah. Most definitely.

[00:05:22]>> Okay. Okay. Let's watch this clip and talk about it.

[00:05:24]>> Do you guys think it's possible to find a man that truly only has eyes for one girl? Like a man that won't cheat in any way, not even looking. Like, won't even think about it.

[00:05:37]I really don't think so.

[00:05:41]>> Okay.

[00:05:42]>> She mixing a lot of stuff in there now.

[00:05:44]>> It's a lot.

[00:05:47]>> So, >> even though the clip talked about men, is any man/woman actually 100% loyal? Go ahead.

[00:05:57]>> By your standards in the video, no.

[00:06:00]>> Why you say that?

[00:06:02]because you can't help but look like if you have a have a thought and you and you see somebody that's okay like I she was adding too many things into the category so if the category is so broad >> then yeah it's nobody nobody >> nobody is perfect nobody's 100% perfect >> you could be you could be 100% loyal as far as not not cheating or or or you know having a good job and you know you just loyal but you gonna look so that that makes you unloyal. No, >> it's some it's some women that walk by you can't help but >> I just think >> I think it all depends on what stage you are in life. Um, if you are in a stage where you're looking for a committed commitment, you're not trying to get into something looking to want to cheat or looking looking for anything back, even if it happens throughout your relationship. Um, I think that going into something that you want, you're not your thought process is is not thinking about cheating. So, it all depends on your stage where you are. If you want a a partner, then you you're not going to think about that. So, I do think >> so. If you think if if you with your husband or whatever and he looks at other women, you think he's not loyal.

[00:07:27]>> Not if he looks at other women. So, what? I don't think that's cheating.

[00:07:30]>> Oh, got you.

[00:07:31]>> Yeah. I think cheating comes with emotions and feelings attached.

[00:07:36]>> But if he's looking at other women, I don't think that's cheating.

[00:07:39]>> What if he What if he looks at other women and takes that thought into the bathroom?

[00:07:44]into the bathroom.

[00:07:47]>> That's not I He wouldn't do something like that.

[00:07:50]>> Whack me off at the mall.

[00:07:54]>> No, I I For me, I just think that it all depends on the stage in your life. You men don't have to cheat. I don't think men are cheaters 100. Every man is a cheater. I don't >> Yeah, I don't >> I don't think so either.

[00:08:06]>> As they get older, I think they calm down a little more. But they all, you know, men got that in them. But if they're loyal, they gonna be loyal.

[00:08:15]>> Yeah. I just think it depends on the person and the relationship you in.

[00:08:19]>> I think it depends on how somebody was raised too. I think it depends on your morality level, your values, your principles, how you're raised, what's in you, and how you're conditioned.

[00:08:30]>> Oh, so if you if you cheat on somebody, you just a not raised right.

[00:08:35]>> You can that can be I I'm a firm believer in all behaviors. I learn behaviors. your father who raised you for you develop that.

[00:08:44]>> I don't >> all behaviors are learn how to eat.

[00:08:50]>> Everybody learn that stuff from the culture.

[00:08:52]>> Exactly. Behaviors are learned.

[00:08:55]>> But at the end of the day, if you're not having sex with nobody else, you 100% loyal.

[00:09:01]That all the other [ __ ] is is but then whatever.

[00:09:06]>> Wait, so y'all think cheating is like a learned behavior? Like you learn to cheat.

[00:09:12]>> I mean I think as as men >> you conditioned an environment that you supposed to be hitting multiple women and all that. Like so it's just it is what it is.

[00:09:24]>> Why do you think as men men supposed to just be with a >> I don't know why. That's just how it is though. That's how it always has been.

[00:09:31]Like I don't know who started it. If I knew his name I'd give it to you. But >> it just always been >> I mean just because someone did it does that mean it's the rules?

[00:09:40]>> Does that mean it has to be the rules?

[00:09:42]Because what if women like to have sex and and want to run around and h and be with a bunch of men >> that there you guys are saying that's nasty. So who created those?

[00:09:52]>> It doesn't mean it doesn't happen though.

[00:09:54]>> Do you know how long it's been going on though? I'm saying like I can't I only been here for 41 years. I can't [ __ ] was going on hundreds of years before me, thousands of years before me. is going to go on way.

[00:10:06]>> If y'all had y'all had to put a percentage on how many Well, let's separate it. If you had to put a percentage of how many women versus how many men are 100% loyal 100% of the time and never cheat, what would you say that percentage is?

[00:10:26]>> Zero.

[00:10:27]>> I think for a woman I think for a woman I give them about 40%. [ __ ] no.

[00:10:34]>> For women, I'll for men I'll say probably 12.

[00:10:41]>> So you think that you think that 20% of women are faithful like never cheated?

[00:10:48]>> Possibly. Um that's a possibility.

[00:10:50]>> Like if you had to just guess, I mean obviously we don't know. So there's no answers.

[00:10:55]>> We live in a society where we have dating apps, social media. there's too many things at our fingertips. So, yeah, >> I've noticed that like being being oldest like you know older, I've um noticed that younger people are more like pessimistic like they're more >> I don't know what you mean.

[00:11:20]>> No, not perspective. Not I don't even know that word, but I'm more they're more um >> optimistic. Say it again. No, no, they're more negative about like relationships and stuff.

[00:11:37]>> Thank you. Let me drown. Thank you.

[00:11:43]>> I'm like that [ __ ] >> Sometime sometimes you able to pull it through. You know what I mean?

[00:11:49]>> They more when it comes to relationships, but they more free when it with sex. Like sex ain't nothing. M >> n I think it's more like if I had to guess with women I would say it's probably more like maybe 2%.

[00:12:06]>> Wow.

[00:12:07]>> Yeah.

[00:12:08]>> Cuz Anton said never cheated.

[00:12:10]>> It's two It's never >> He said never. So a woman could be faithful to her husband but could have cheated in the past.

[00:12:19]>> Oh yeah.

[00:12:20]>> Yeah.

[00:12:21]And I feel like even if a woman's married, you like um entertaining a man in your DMs. To me, that's still cheating.

[00:12:27]>> That's cheating.

[00:12:28]>> Like why are you entertaining them? You got a whole husband. You're in a relationship. You're messaging a guy cuz he's liking your pictures, want to screw you. To me, that's cheating.

[00:12:37]>> Them fighting words.

[00:12:38]>> Yeah. Like, >> so I definitely think it's low.

[00:12:42]>> I think it may be about 2%. Um, and the only reason I would even give it that high is because I think that it's some women that just not not willing to risk it based off of the person that they with. And I don't think it's based off of their character at all.

[00:12:58]>> So you think only 2% of women are faithful?

[00:13:01]>> Are you bas off the entire world?

[00:13:06]>> No, I think it's I think it's in general. I think the nature of women I think the nature of women is the same regardless of what your your your race is.

[00:13:15]>> They like attention.

[00:13:16]>> Yeah. I don't think it's I don't think it's any different. Um I obviously I think y'all get caught less. So it would it would seem like guys are doing more.

[00:13:28]I think women do way more um and they get away with way more. And I think that >> when women do it, they they do it like they're demons.

[00:13:41]Like it's it's a different type of of betrayal when a woman do it. And I don't even think like a lot of times they'll say, "Well, it's different between guys and girls." That's true. But part of the reason why I think that it's different between guys and girls is because when women do it, they they they go all the way to hell with it. like it's it's a different type of um >> fall a different type like like if a let's say for example if a woman >> when when guys are with girls a lot of times especially if they don't give a [ __ ] about him like let's say yo he he messing with her but she cheating right they don't care like they actually like they'll smut them smut them all the way out like and that's and women they like that [ __ ] to be honest with you. You know what I'm saying? Like they'll just completely dog walk them and the woman don't care a lot of times because in her mind it's like well you know what I'm saying? This is just a fun time. This is not something that you know what I'm saying?

[00:14:54]So the standards that she'll have for the person that she with is completely different than the standards to the person that's that she's cheating with, right? And so it's it's a it's a crazy level of of disloyalty, I think. And so, you know, because of that that level of like because it's way more magnified, it's 10 times worse. is ten times worse.

[00:15:20]If God if a woman knows what a guy did, I don't think that she's as heartbroken.

[00:15:26]And if if like if she knew the details of what he did, it wouldn't even be close to the level of heartbreak that the guy would have.

[00:15:35]>> Oh my god.

[00:15:37]>> What the [ __ ] she did?

[00:15:39]>> What?

[00:15:39]>> Oh god.

[00:15:41]>> What? Listen, if if if all cards was on the table, if all cards was on the table, no, there would be no relationship.

[00:15:50]There will be no marriages. There will be no relationships. There will be nothing. If if truth was truly like what it was, there would be no no trust.

[00:16:00]>> If you could read that, >> there would be zero trust with men. The only reason that guys still trust women to the extent that they do and still rock out with them to the extent that they do and still is loyal to them to the extent that they do is because they don't know no better. They have no [ __ ] clue >> or or she doesn't give it away. You know what I'm saying? Like she doesn't give the fact that what she's doing away like you can't tell. That's what makes men crazy too cuz they go, "Man, I can't believe she did this." You know what I'm saying? But all the time she was doing it cuz he don't have a clue.

[00:16:33]>> He don't have a [ __ ] clue. He He don't have a clue whatsoever.

[00:16:38]>> For women, how many what which what percent do you get for men, though?

[00:16:42]>> Um I think that there's more faithful men than women. And I think that it's probably closer to maybe maybe a No, I'm I'm I'm keeping it 100 with you. I know I know guys in real life, mentors that have never ever ever stepped out, never did nothing, never had any inkling or any interest in it whatsoever. even to the point to where and one of the reasons that some of them was telling the truth because you know these real talks happen and one of the reasons I even know it is because sometimes they've even said to me in a mentorship level like I'm not really sure that I should have been like that like they've even expressed a level of regret because of the the type of loyalty that they've had to the women that they've been with. You know what I'm saying? And so I know for a fact that there's a segment of guys out there that's just genuinely good guys.

[00:17:41]>> Think about think about it. Think about it like this.

[00:17:44]>> When guys go bad, that's a progression.

[00:17:47]They grow to go bad. It's it's the re it's the reverse for women. When women go good, they go from bad to good. When guys go go bad, they go from they go from good to bad.

[00:17:59]Guys start off with a mo not all obviously. Most guys have a pure heart until they get involved or they get tempted or whatever, right? It's not always a woman's fault why a guy goes bad. Sometimes it's access. Sometimes he just get caught up. Sometimes he get too much and he get too much. Sometimes he get caught up in the lifestyle, right?

[00:18:21]But a lot of times guys go bad because of the circumstances that they they that they in or what they see or all of this type of stuff or what they experience or heartbreak or whatever. Guys, for the most part in a lot of instances, they start off good guys and then they turn into whatever they grow into being.

[00:18:40]Girls a lot of times they start off with a [ __ ] phase, a hoe phase, and then they find God and they start to try to figure out how it is. You know what? I need a good guy, marry the nerd, all of that other type of stuff. You know what I'm saying? They they they want to have their fun when they're younger. And then they say, you know what? I'm ready to settle down. A lot of guys are focused on doing the right thing and then they they be like, you know what? I'm never [ __ ] getting married again.

[00:19:10]It's a it's a reverse of how they move.

[00:19:14]And so when you think about that from that lens, honestly, that's the only logical conclusion that you can really draw. And again, nobody is a monolith. I'm not saying that all women do it. I'm not saying that all men do it. But in a general, you look at the culture, you look at how guys progress and what it is that they turn into, that's usually.

[00:19:35]>> So if a woman was going through a holes phase and she said, I'm going to get a good guy, the nerd, and all that, is she forcing herself to be that way? because her age or whatever or she really wants to change.

[00:19:47]>> I think that women are usually usually as faithful as their opportunities and their options.

[00:19:54]>> So much so to where a woman will seriously consider leaving a man that is halfway decent in order to level up with a guy that's much better. If he if she felt like this is something that I could really attach myself to, she'll figure out how to justify in her mind why this [ __ ] is no good no more.

[00:20:12]She'll see all the bad in him because it's another opportunity that's right there.

[00:20:18]It could be a [ __ ] walk in the hallway and he just so happened to be him and she'll entertain it and it'll be on some honestly it'll be on some innocent [ __ ] but she'll be curious and so you know she'll let the [ __ ] Instagram and she'll go through his profile to see who the [ __ ] he is and >> she'll entertain the little conversation. She not going to block him. And if he if he get through that wall, not even intentionally, but unintentionally, and see him, [ __ ] it's a comparison the rest of the way out. It's nothing that the dude that she can do. There's nothing that that the dude that she with can do.

[00:20:58]>> No.

[00:20:58]>> To save her from that [ __ ] that's up there.

[00:21:01]>> Look at the judge. Look at that judge that was screaming in the chambers.

[00:21:05]>> 100%.

[00:21:06]>> Yeah. You know what I'm saying? She got her husband. Her husband is a judge as well. He He look like You know what he looks like right now? You know what I'm saying? Like a police commissioner was banging your wife in in her chambers and >> Oh yeah.

[00:21:22]>> Think about it though. Think about it though. How you going to unsee some [ __ ] that you that you already didn't saw?

[00:21:29]>> You can't Women Think Women change their standards based off of what they see.

[00:21:34]What? Based off of their new experiences. Oh [ __ ] I'm steak houses every day. Lifestyle different. Cars is different.

[00:21:44]What you think? She going backwards to be with a be with a good to be with a good guy.

[00:21:50]>> This guy options.

[00:21:52]>> This guy treats me well.

[00:21:55]>> Yeah. But that judge man, if you if you think about it, that judge went backwards with the police. Uh >> well, because well because that wasn't her man, right? Again, that's not something that she had to be committed to. That was a situationship.

[00:22:11]>> Now, she was a >> they're not going to leave the person at a better situation for a situationship that's less than. They'll they'll have fun, >> right? But they're but they're >> they're less willing to risk it when they got more to lose, but it doesn't mean that they not going, right? So, the level of faithfulness in that situation, I think, is different. However, if they if you got a if there's a upgrade available and there's a slot available, man, listen, bro. I think a woman would rather be would rather matter of fact, I don't even think it. I know it. A woman would rather be a man's second and third on a higher level than a man's first on a lower level.

[00:22:56]>> They tell you it every day.

[00:22:58]>> Listen, hear what I'm saying. A woman would prefer she's going she would prefer to be a man second and third on a much much higher level than a than a a decent guys.

[00:23:12]>> I don't like women like that >> first on a regular lower level.

[00:23:18]>> I don't like women like so what I work with the guys >> and I'm and I'm curious am I am I off because I I love for women to tell me that I'm wrong.

[00:23:29]That last part.

[00:23:30]>> I hate that.

[00:23:33]>> That last part, you're not wrong. Women Women prove it every day. They say they say they'll be with a man with money and he could have a bunch of other girls.

[00:23:41]And >> they say it all the time. We watch these videos every day. That's just women go off circumstance. They want the benefits that they gonna go every time.

[00:23:55]>> What is it though? Rather cry. Well, that but on the other hand, on the flip side of it, if if a woman if a man got money and or or whatever and and she doesn't care that he cheats, that could be a way of making him not cheat.

[00:24:12]>> If if a woman if a woman acts like she doesn't care what you do, that'll make a man be more faithful.

[00:24:19]>> Really see here's the thing though, Q.

[00:24:22]You say the G crying to Bentley. I don't think they crying. I don't think that they like they're not confused about what they got themselves into.

[00:24:32]>> They know exactly what's going on.

[00:24:34]>> Yeah, that's true. But that, you know, women be like, "You know what? Broke men cheat, too. So, why not get a rich man, right?"

[00:24:39]>> You know, why not get a rich man?

[00:24:42]But think about it. That don't necessarily mean that the guy that they're with, and I'm not saying that he even broke, he may just be a normal cool cool dude with a good personality, whatever. That don't mean that he cheating just because she choosing.

[00:24:56]>> Yeah.

[00:24:57]>> Women will women will create a situation that divides the person that they with in order to justify being with another guy.

[00:25:05]>> What's that again?

[00:25:07]>> They will create a situation that that that basically forces them to divide themselves against the person that they with. Oh man, you know, he not doing this or >> Oh yeah. I can't tell you how many people send me videos of women saying it's okay to leave a good man because he's a good guy. He's just not a good for me.

[00:25:31]>> What the [ __ ] does that even mean? He's a good guy, but he's not good for me.

[00:25:34]Either he good or he >> talking about he's a good man. He's just not good for me. What the [ __ ] is that?

[00:25:41]>> You just don't like him.

[00:25:43]>> You hate him. If they like them, they like them. You just don't like them no more because >> of some [ __ ] that they didn't seen. If a woman if a woman I know it sounds corny but if a woman cheats on >> on your if a woman cheats on her man or husband she h a t e s she hates him.

[00:26:04]There's no but >> you know you know what the worst part about it is you know what the worst is >> when a woman says I just you know but I think we should really still be friends.

[00:26:18]>> WOW.

[00:26:21]THEY'RE just willing to still be cool with a person.

[00:26:28]>> So they can keep >> or if a woman say, "I'm still cool with my ex. We we we the best of friends."

[00:26:33]I'll be like, "Damn, that [ __ ] ain't hit that [ __ ] at all."

[00:26:38]>> And it's a diabolical game, man. It's a it's it's it's >> gotta be careful.

[00:26:43]>> It's a diabolical game. It is such a like game to play.

[00:26:50]>> I don't believe I believe 98% of women are are have >> um have or will >> get themselves in a bad situation and I think that maybe at least a quarter of the guys is is chilling.

[00:27:07]>> They're chilling.

[00:27:08]>> 98 is high. And going back to that judge that was screaming, I don't want pe I don't want the the the um the police officer that was [ __ ] her to to think that that's why she was screaming. She's a screamer. This girl that scream in there, you can put your pinky in there, they be screaming.

[00:27:29]>> Oh my gosh.

[00:27:31]>> Yeah. He probably like, "Oh, I was killing ass." No, you wasn't.

[00:27:34]>> You say you put your pinky in there. No, I'm saying you got cuz she was screaming like come on.

[00:27:42]>> Yeah, she was acting very performing.

[00:27:45]>> This [ __ ] must [ __ ] would have been >> I thought somebody was getting murdered.

[00:27:49]>> I didn't think she was having sex.

[00:27:51]>> Yeah. You think what >> some like somebody was hurting her like like a pig like >> but you know maybe he was maybe he was maybe his [ __ ] was like like a football.

[00:28:02]You know what I'm saying?

[00:28:03]>> I I don't know. I think um you know women do cheat more than men. I I do agree with that. I do agree with that.

[00:28:10]>> I don't I do I I give more >> it's the most logical thing. We don't get caught.

[00:28:17]>> We cannot get caught as much. Like it's just >> Yeah. In my circle, my immediate circle, my friends were the ones to get cheated on. So for for me to sit there and say men don't cheat at all, I can't. They they do cheat.

[00:28:36]>> I'm not saying that you would know. I'm not saying you would know. But do you think a woman >> you think when a woman gets cheated on she think it's like she's inferior?

[00:28:48]>> No, I don't think she thinks she's inferior. I just most of the time we look we want to look at how the girl look like if >> to compare. So you can see if she looks better than you and then >> that's I understand that >> if she looks better than you, you'll have a different type of emotional reaction. But that's something you could joke upon.

[00:29:09]Oh, you look dumb.

[00:29:12]>> You know how it go.

[00:29:13]>> Yeah. I don't I don't We don't think that we inferior to the girl. No, we just going to crack on.

[00:29:18]>> No, I'm saying inferior to him. Why does he do that to me? Does it get that deep to say why would you maybe I'm lacking or I don't know. Women do. Women think that, but we won't say that.

[00:29:31]>> It'll be it'll be thoughts in the head like, "What is it mean?" Like, we'll have those thoughts, but we will never voice them.

[00:29:37]>> Oh, yeah. I >> I'll never tell you that that's what we was thinking.

[00:29:42]>> I believe >> if if she not a real If she not real.

[00:29:45]>> Yeah.

[00:29:45]>> If she real, she will. But >> meanwhile, if if a girl did that, the man would like, you know what I'm saying? He would love to hear that.

[00:29:52]Like, you know what I'm saying? Like like >> he would love to hear the woman say that she feels inferior.

[00:29:58]>> Yeah. That that that you made me feel like >> to hear us self-reflect like to hear us try to >> Yeah. It's like it's it's it's unique.

[00:30:08]It's unique. Just like if a girl say you I don't care where you go or or don't you know you could go wherever you want to go. That makes a man because men women are smarter than men. So they they that's reverse psychology. Oh no. Why you want me? You don't care where I go.

[00:30:26]No, I ain't say I care where you go, but you have your freedom. You know, I don't want no damn fre, you know. It's like reverse psychology.

[00:30:32]>> I know. I know men like compliments a lot of time. I compliment my husband a lot. And he really likes that, you know.

[00:30:39]It's something that women we women don't do. We like getting compliments from men, but men like to get compliment.

[00:30:45]>> You said like you forcing it like you you don't you said I give them a lot of compliments. like you for >> I give him compliments because it's just I just see that he if he does something that you know I like I just be like oh that you know I call him >> but you've been with him so you've been with him so long why how much can you compliment him like you know everything about him like >> compliments it's still men appreciate that you know I think men appreciate you talking night talking nice to them speaking life into them >> um we want that from our men, right? We want men to do that for us. I think we should also give that back.

[00:31:22]>> I think so, too.

[00:31:24]>> Yeah.

[00:31:25]>> I don't get that. I get a lot of [ __ ] >> Well, that's that's on you. But I'm just kidding. But that was a good little icebreaker. Anybody else before we move on?

[00:31:33]>> I think that um you you got to continuously train her. You got to train her up, bro. You do. I don't think that women by themselves, left to their own mindset and their own devices, are able to are able to maintain who they are throughout a relationship unless you're training her and you continuously retraining her on how it is that she to operate in that relationship.

[00:32:00]>> Can you train a woman that was raised by her father?

[00:32:03]>> Yeah.

[00:32:04]>> Yeah.

[00:32:05]>> It depends if her father was a woman.

[00:32:07]>> If her father was a real man, what we would define as a real man? How can you train a woman that was already trained by a man and preach?

[00:32:14]>> Tell me. Tell me what a real man looks like to you. define that.

[00:32:18]>> I mean, you should always take care of business. So, I'm not saying teachable.

[00:32:23]I'm saying that things have already been instilled into her. Now, maybe train her as to how to deal with you >> and handle you. But >> other than that, outside of that, can you >> and maybe we need to define what you mean by train.

[00:32:39]>> But that's what you need to train on.

[00:32:40]That's what you need.

[00:32:43]>> Um, okay. So, let's let's talk about train. Um, it's like a horse. Like you got to break her in >> like a horse.

[00:32:57]>> I'm not trying to be insulting. I'm using it as a as a um like a metaphor, right? It's like a wild horse in a way.

[00:33:05]It's like you break them and then you you retach them. You break them and then you got to retach them. And a lot of times a lot of women have been in different relationships or they see how things or they may even be influenced by what they see happening out here from their friends or whatever, right? And so a lot of times you have to you have to retrain them. Um because they may even get comfortable, you know what I'm saying? They may get complacent. They may get a lot of things. And so you have to recondition them or you have to kind of like reset them >> like a refrigerator.

[00:33:43]>> You have to No, I'm being serious. You have to reset them other because otherwise they will they will get too comfortable and some sometimes you can even see some of it seeping through, right? So, like for example, you'll see a woman that start to talk to you a certain way or start to feel more com comfortable saying certain things that may be a little bit more out of pocket than usual. And so, for example, you may retrain her in a way and say, and it ain't even necessarily what you say, it's what you do. So, you don't let her see you for a while. You don't let her have as much access to you, right?

[00:34:21]Sometimes you gotta you gotta um not allow for them to be able to get so comfortable or not not allow for them to bring so much stuff over. Hey, you know what? You got to go and you got to get your stuff and you know I'mma bring your stuff to you or I'mma take your stuff to you. You can't always let them get too comfortable sometimes because then start to feel like they have dominion over what goes on in your life. And so I think that the best guys sometimes will tell them, you know what, I need to retrain you how to treat me.

[00:34:51]Yeah.

[00:34:54]>> You know what I'm saying? And and and and part of that is also not being so desperate for the box because if a woman knows that she can manipulate you with sex because they know that you so [ __ ] thirsty. And that's why you got to have stuff going on. You got to have motion. You got to have things going, you know, things occupied because if you worship sex or if you worship her and what she do for you sexually, then she'll be able to control you and then that that'll give her some some dominion over what goes on in your life. And so you have to I think train is is a word that maybe triggers women, but you need to treat her. You need to teach her how to treat you as you continue to elevate and as you continue to evolve in your life.

[00:35:37]>> Well, I agree with that part. Yeah, that's why I said teachable. Just >> don't tell them. Don't tell them that was some good [ __ ] Like after you finish, damn, that was good. Like don't say that.

[00:35:47]>> Just act like it was regular.

[00:35:49]>> Yeah. Straight face.

[00:35:52]>> No, no, no. I actually am cool with the super complimentary like a [ __ ] You know what I'm saying? But >> I'm talking about when you having sex after like, damn, that was the best I've ever had.

[00:36:04]>> Oh my god. No.

[00:36:05]>> No. That's what is saying.

[00:36:08]Don't say all of that.

[00:36:11]>> You're not going to gas them up, you know.

[00:36:13]>> Yeah.

[00:36:14]>> I don't know. I mean, I think it's cool to hear, >> I don't know. I don't know. I might disagree with the part about not getting in contact with your wife every day or your husband every day, you know, seeing them, touching them.

[00:36:31]For me, my husband is very um not touchy feely, but he he likes he wants to know what I'm doing.

[00:36:39]>> He's wellendowed. Is he wellendowed?

[00:36:45]>> He got No, seriously. I just want to know.

[00:36:47]>> You don't have to answer that, Miss Blue.

[00:36:54]black and blue.

[00:36:57]>> Hold on. Pause. Why do you want to know?

[00:36:59]He's Well, >> underline.

[00:37:08]>> Underline. See, I'm all man. I'm all man. I can talk like that because I'm I'm just curious where you >> All right. No. No, no. My My husband is >> Happy Pride.

[00:37:22]>> He's >> no answer. What What do we get out of that?

[00:37:27]>> I'll just say this. I've been with him since I was 16 years old. Been together for 22 years. 23 years. So, >> let it grow.

[00:37:34]>> Trust and believe.

[00:37:35]>> Hey. Hey, Miss Blue. You don't have to >> ignore him.

[00:37:44]>> I'm not gonna I'm not gonna say it, but I'm just saying We've been together for a long enough time. So, stuff is >> You know what? Sometimes things if you if you look at if you get a big 90 in screen TV and you keep looking at it, it looks like it's wrecking.

[00:38:02]>> Getting bigger screens. It should be all over the damn house.

[00:38:05]>> He's a mess.

[00:38:06]>> You made me forget my whole point.

[00:38:10]>> We going We gonna go to the super chats, y'all, cuz that was a good little icebreaker. Um, Mr. Lowkey-864L says, "I find it interesting that women want to take away the very essence of what a man is. We're literally designed to be attracted to the opposite sex. A man not being loyal to his biology makes him gay." Shout out to you guys. Make sure you hit the like button. But the next topic is, do men want women to suffer nowadays? Let's watch this clip and talk about it.

[00:38:37]Something I realized on this app is not only do men really want women to suffer, but they are also very jealous and hateful that women have the choice to not suffer after they make a mistake.

[00:38:49]When the conversation comes up where a woman is upset because she got pregnant by the wrong man and she doesn't know what to do and she made a mistake because he's a piece of he's showing his true colors and she's realizing that he's not going to be a good partner, a good dad and it's going to be hell for her and she's basically going to suffer by having a child with this man. Here come the men in the comments like, "Oh, well, but you chose. That's what you chose. Now you have to live with it. Now you have to suffer. You don't have a choice. Haha. Now you have to live with it." And it's like, "Hold up, babe. Hold up, babe. She does have a choice. She does have a choice. She can go get an abortion, and then she can cancel this whole and move on with her life, go find her husband, and not have to suffer with the consequences of that poor choice, right? There's many other options a woman can go through to not have to live with that. Okay? Men do not have those options. But men will get on here and cry and complain that the woman that they had kids with is a vindictive and conniving and bitter and oh, she's keeping my kids from me. Oh, she's making my life a living hell. Oh my god, she's terrorizing me. Oh, now I have to go to court. I have to spend all this money.

[00:39:51]But you chose her. But you chose her.

[00:39:54]That's your choice. Oh well, now you have to be stuck with the consequences, right? Because you chose her. Don't get on the internet crying because when women do it, mind you, women are risking their lives to give birth and carry children. You're not risking [ __ ] You're not carrying [ __ ] You're not going to die. You don't have to give birth. You don't have to be stuck. Like, get the [ __ ] out of here. Don't come on the internet crying about your baby mama and the choice you made. Cuz remember, you chose her. You chose her. Don't get on here crying because that's the consequences to what you chose. Just like y'all love to tell women.

[00:40:34]>> She said you chose her. Now, are most bitter and looking to punish women nowadays?

[00:40:40]>> No, I don't think so. I think it's just an internet thing. I think it's just an internet thing. Really? Cuz in real life, a man doesn't want to see a woman suffer at all. Like, I don't see the point in that. Now, if he's bitter, >> if he just hates women, then yeah. But a real honest man does don't want to see a woman suffer at all.

[00:40:59]>> Yeah. But if you if you were if you were with a if you were with a woman for a while and she breaks up with you, you naturally want her to suffer.

[00:41:09]>> No, you don't.

[00:41:10]>> You don't say, "I wish the best for you and all that."

[00:41:14]>> I mean, if you love her, >> but you don't.

[00:41:17]>> If you love her, if you The more you love If the more you love her, the more you would want her to suffer.

[00:41:23]>> No. Not everybody is though. Cuz if you don't love her, then you wouldn't care if she's suffering. You know what I'm saying?

[00:41:32]>> Yeah.

[00:41:32]>> Um I think the girl in the video proved why men be in those women's comments because the lack of regard for what men go through. So she was bragging on the fact that women are able to um not be held accountable for the poor. She said it herself. She said >> poor choices that they made. She said that herself. So they know that they are getting themselves into situations that are bad situations and they they shouldn't even be in they already know that and they're bragging about how they don't have to be held accountable and when men are complaining they're doing the aha thing that they saying they don't want men to do but then she's saying but it just doesn't make sense. Um, but she's proving the point why men complain and why men could feel bitter or might have some sort of resentment towards women. She's proven it in the video.

[00:42:27]>> I think she articulated I don't think she articulated herself well at all, >> but I think her point more so was that um, men have to possibly suffer the consequences of their choices and they don't just like women do. So on the internet, let's just use for an example when u a woman is complaining about um the fact that she has um a dead be baby father or something. Most often men and women will point the finger at her and tell her it's her fault and the man gets to escape responsibility where we're putting all the responsibility on the woman. So basically she's saying that why I think she's more so saying that a man has to face the consequences of the choices and the decisions that he's making. She just didn't put it. She didn't frame it.

[00:43:13]>> No, she >> No, she said that.

[00:43:15]>> Men always she was all over the place though. She She said it, but that's I think that was her main point. Everything else was just her babbling.

[00:43:25]>> I think I I think her main point was to say that women should not be held accountable. It to me it just seemed as though when she made the comment about, "Oh yeah, we can have other choices. We can have an abortion." It it to me it seems as though she wanted to to say, "Look, I can have I have other ways to do things. I don't have to I don't have to listen to this man. I don't I don't have to to even care for a man."

[00:43:50]>> Oh, she's right.

[00:43:51]>> I have my other options.

[00:43:54]>> There's no accountability when it comes down to some women with their poor decisions that they make. And when you make poor decisions like that as far as being with a man that you know that might not be a father or whatever the case may be, >> we should not use an abortion as though it's a it's a tool or some kind of contraceptive as though it's something that can get you out of your bad situation that you put yourself in.

[00:44:16]>> Yeah, but you chose her. That's what she's saying.

[00:44:19]>> No, she she chose that man that she didn't want.

[00:44:23]>> No, she said that man is in her comment saying, "Well, you chose that." No good dude.

[00:44:31]>> Yeah.

[00:44:33]>> Yeah. But she flipped it at the end to say that >> the same thing that men do. She said you chose she said and I hear dudes do that.

[00:44:42]They go, "Oh, my baby mama, she crazy.

[00:44:45]She was saying just what she was saying."

[00:44:48]>> And women be writing out the internet talking bad about women.

[00:44:51]>> And it's true. It's true that you chose him >> in real life. Walking around bitter to every girl on the street.

[00:44:59]>> Don't show me. Don't show me how big your eye is. You You chose him. Look. He look what he did to my eye. It look like a a patches mitt.

[00:45:10]It look It look like a like a like a like a big beige piece of cake on your face.

[00:45:22]Look at what he did. What you want me to do? You chose him. It's a fact. It's a fact. That's why I I I agreed with her the way she >> You cannot use domestic violence as a tool to try to justify whatever you trying to say. That is just completely >> No, I said you chose him. You chose him.

[00:45:41]Don't show me your eye. Don't Girls love to show you their eye.

[00:45:47]>> No. Look what he did. He almost took my eye out my eye socket. You chose him, right?

[00:45:54]>> No.

[00:45:56]>> That's what I will tell him. That's what I would Why you >> You cannot use domestic violence.

[00:46:02]>> Question. Don't women say, "Look in my eye."

[00:46:06]>> No. Get away from him, county child.

[00:46:09]>> No. No. No.

[00:46:10]>> You need to stop being with him, honey.

[00:46:11]You know how um them d them soap opers be. You need to get away from him. Look what he doing to you. We put you in the hospital, girl.

[00:46:18]>> Do you No, that we should not use that as a tool to try to say that women that men accountable.

[00:46:27]>> I'm not using >> Domestic violence is wrong. Period.

[00:46:29]>> I'm talking about choices. She was used I like the way she said you chose him.

[00:46:35]>> I like that. I like that cuz you that's that's accountability.

[00:46:40]>> Yeah. She could be that brutally honest with men, but if it's rose reverse, they don't want that accountability. They don't want that harshness. They don't want that truth.

[00:46:48]>> Yeah.

[00:46:49]>> They don't want you in their comments saying you chose him.

[00:46:52]>> Yeah. Nobody wants to Yeah.

[00:46:56]>> But I like the way she flipped it.

[00:46:58]That's all. And it's true cuz I hear I hear I hear it.

[00:47:02]>> Yeah. But I got to go to court when she think men do hold themselves accountable a lot more than we that women do. We always find a way to blame the guy. The it it could be something that has everything to do with us. Even when we're in an argument, we can be arguing with >> I don't argue with men. So, some women go and argue with a man and they could be dead wrong and call their brother and then here's another situation that she caused. She's not holding herself accountable >> that she got a loud mouth and she's over there talking crazy to a man. She's ready to go call her brother and here's another situation. So I think women do do not hold themselves accountable in a way the men do hold them themselves accountable. Men men can acknowledge if if they cheat they can acknowledge say hey I cheated. If a woman if a woman cheat you would probably never find out that she cheated. She would never say that but she's blaming him for being the bad man. He you know he is no good. He's not giving me attention. He's not doing anything that he needs to do. But at the end of the day she knows she cheating.

[00:48:07]But but she's holding him accountable.

[00:48:12]>> Got a little bigger. Like you can tell it don't fit like a glove like it used to.

[00:48:18]This [ __ ] used to be like a one of them vacuum cleaners that come out the wall that that suction.

[00:48:25]>> I have a question.

[00:48:26]>> She's losing his suckle.

[00:48:28]>> Do we make overstatements by saying woman that's doing it or a man and it's just not a human thing? Is it really genuinely, oh, this is just a woman thing? And are we speaking specifically about the black community? Because how we're not around majority of the world.

[00:48:43]How are we accounting women are doing?

[00:48:47]>> Well, statistically speaking, you know, >> those are not stat statistics though.

[00:48:52]Statistically, you said women cheat more than uh men. I look up statistics every day. That's not the truth. Uh >> I don't agree with that.

[00:49:01]>> Men cheat more because men have testosterone. So that's >> Well, hold on. Hold on.

[00:49:06]>> How do you gauge that? How do you gauge that that statistic? Are you testing everybody that cheated? You cannot.

[00:49:12]>> No, you can't. That statistics don't test everybody.

[00:49:15]>> That is a That's a flawed statistic already. You You can't put a percentage.

[00:49:20]>> She does it for a living, Miss Blue.

[00:49:23]>> Did y'all understand the question?

[00:49:24]>> So my question is, is it a human thing?

[00:49:28]Because we're over Are we making overstatements by saying >> is a human thing?

[00:49:32]>> This is >> Hold on. Let her finish. Let her finish.

[00:49:34]>> This is what women do or this is what men do. Women are not accountable. Men are not accountable. Is it a human thing >> or is it generally we're going to sit here and say that this is these are things that women do?

[00:49:46]>> Is not being accountable.

[00:49:49]>> Society holds men accountable. Men don't have a choice but to be >> you got men that do it, but it's more of a woman thing.

[00:49:56]>> Well, hold on. Let's mine this out. I think that she I think that she introduces a a great part of the conversation. No.

[00:50:03]>> And I don't I don't want to discount what she's saying, right? But let's let's let's kind of m right. How do you how do you accurately measure cheating between men and women?

[00:50:15]>> I don't think you can.

[00:50:17]>> You can't depends on the person. You can't measure it cuz some people say to the grave >> and men and they say men get caught all the time, right? men are the ones that >> if you caught if you caught him once that means he did it five more times that you did >> come on you well well let's think about it though how do we how do you know how do you measure whether people cheat or not because some people can some people will use well how you file for divorce right irreconcilable differences cheating all of that type of stuff right I would say it's very hard to measure it because some people even what you consider cheating some People can say, "Well, I'm in a long-term relationship. I'm not married." And he cheated. But there's no real way to measure that. No statistic to be able to justify whether he cheated or not, right? That that's something that's not measurable. So, >> I don't know how you can even use statistics in this in this conversation in this, you know, while we having it.

[00:51:17]>> And then on the other end, most men are out here saying that they got cheated on. That that's it's really rare. It's not going to happen.

[00:51:26]I don't think it's measurable. They >> don't want to put it out there.

[00:51:29]>> Yeah, >> but there is data though.

[00:51:33]>> Well, explain it to me. Break it down.

[00:51:34]>> Come from >> Hold on. Break break break it down to me.

[00:51:37]>> There's data. She's right about that.

[00:51:39]>> What kind of data? So So let let's say for example, how do I how do I pronounce your name? Can I just say Mia?

[00:51:46]>> It's Mia.

[00:51:47]>> Okay, let me just pronounce it Mia. So Mia, let's say for example, me and you in a relationship and I cheat on you, but I never get caught. How do you measure that?

[00:52:02]>> I'm not measuring it based off of So you're trying to make it a personal experience. That's not how data works.

[00:52:08]Data doesn't work off of our relationship. It works off of multiple relationships. So that's fake right there. But if but if you're missing a data point, then how can you say that accurate?

[00:52:20]>> Because I'm not the one making the data.

[00:52:22]I'm not the one collecting the data.

[00:52:24]Data is collected based off of uh like you said, maybe divorces, what's the purpose of the paperwork on what maybe happens on the internet. Um there's different ways to collect data, but I can't collect data. If me and you are in a relationship and you cheat, that's not data. That's one instance.

[00:52:46]>> Yeah. But but it's it's one instance as an example.

[00:52:49]>> But if but if we but I'm using that as an example to extrapolate it to say that the data can be skewed or the how do we measure it? Right? Because a sample size can be inaccurate. Let's let's say for example, let's use politics for example and they measure it and they go and they poll uh 800 people in order to try to evaluate whether or not somebody is going to win an election. and they say, well, you know, this person has this percentage of a lead over a person based off of survey of 800 people, but you can't necessarily extrapolate that. And that's why a lot of times, you know, polling is wrong and they measured it wrong and different different whether it's the presidential election or or a local election, you know, they say, "Well, how do we get this so wrong?" And it's because I think that they're using the wrong you can't we're not adding a context. I think that that's the best way to put it. If you you say using that as an example can't be used as an example, then that means that we have to throw the whole the whole statistic away because it's not an accurate statistic based off of the fact that it don't have enough context to speak to what we talked about in this conversation.

[00:54:08]though. I wasn't saying throw the whole statistic away. I was just saying that we have to distinguish. You said that the scenario you created was that we are in a relationship and you cheat and you never get caught. That's not how data works. We can't just collect based off of us. Then we would have to use 10 different relationships. Now, if you want to encounter that, then cool. But then also if you want to say that uh data is not correct and statistics aren't right now we have to broaden it because now you can't never use data and never trust statist >> but you can't and in a conversation about relationships unless we talking specifically about divorce and that's my point is because you have to throw it away because you're saying that it can't you're saying that well that's not an accurate representation because that's not how data works and I'm telling you that the data points that we're using in order to justify our arguments are completely wrong because you can't ignore the fact that a lot of it goes unreported.

[00:55:06]If if we say that everybody is not having sex, right, the first thing that I'm going to ask is where did you get this information from and how do you justify it? Because it's not just to say, well, well, this is where we got it from. I also want to know how you gathered it. I want to know where did you poll? Did you poll over in Connecticut or did you pull over in Detroit or did you go down to Miami? Did you go to all three of them? Did you How many people did you have a conversation about? When we talk about STDs, it's skewed because it only measures the amount of people that actually got tested and there's a lot of people that never got tested. And so I understand what you're seeing in order to be able to justify an argument and win a debate.

[00:55:51]But when it comes to having a conversation in truth, it's very difficult to be able to just use that data point as a justification because we all know that it's not accurate because it's a lot of people that didn't go get tested. It's a lot of people that's running around and never they got STDs and they they they won't get tested because they don't want to actually be responsible for telling everybody else that they actually gave them an STD.

[00:56:13]>> So So if we don't use data, then it's just based on perspective basically individual.

[00:56:19]It's a combination, right? We don't throw away the data completely, but we combine it with lived experiences. We combine it with, you know, our own personal um our interpersonal relationships. We combine we we use a whole bunch of things together and have these conversations. And we use common sense also, right? So, I I don't think that you throw anything away, but I don't think that you just use that to justify it alone.

[00:56:48]So then it's all like he said, it's all going to boil down to just perspective though because like Drake said, we all live in the same apartment, but we got different views. We're all going to give different perspective, but is our perspective sometimes going back to what I said, an overstatement. How can we honestly say that women are not accountable? And who are we accounting for? Are we accounting about the black community specifically?

[00:57:12]>> Who are we?

[00:57:13]>> I'll tell you why. And this is the best piece of data that I can use is that I see women tell on themselves every day.

[00:57:23]If you volunteer the information and say, "I'm a piece of shit." Who am I not to believe you?

[00:57:30]The one thing that we know happens every single day is that women get on these devices and they get on TikTok and they get on Instagram and they tell on themselves.

[00:57:41]>> And that's exactly what she did in that video.

[00:57:44]She said have to be accountable.

[00:57:47]>> And the one piece of data that we can depend on that you can't skew is how many women are having abortions.

[00:57:59]>> You can't you can't discount you can't skew that.

[00:58:02]>> You can't skew Planned Parenthood, right? You can't skew at the Democratic National Convention that they had a Planned Parenthood bus out there to offer abortions in Chicago.

[00:58:13]>> Yeah. But don't they got data? Me Mia, don't they got data on abortions? How many people get abortions or they don't?

[00:58:20]>> Yeah, but I'm confused on what they what does abortions have to do with >> because what she said was that women don't in the video she said that women don't necessarily have to be accountable for their actions because they can go and get an abortion if they decide that they didn't have they didn't get pregnant by the right guy.

[00:58:38]>> Okay. I I got what you're saying. Um, like I said, majority of what she was saying to me was just her babbling. Like you said, women get uh some people get a phone and they get a little platform and get a phone in their face and they just babble.

[00:58:53]>> But it's not just babble though.

[00:58:56]>> What is it?

[00:58:56]>> It's the truth. It's the truth. That's what's going on.

[00:58:59]>> Her truth.

[00:59:01]>> No, the truth.

[00:59:02]>> No, the truth.

[00:59:04]>> She was she the thing I got from her, but she was saying that was true. I don't know about the other stuff, but when she said people go in the DMs cuz I do it. I do it to people. I say you chose it. You You chose it. So when she was saying it, it hit home to me because I I say that to people. You chose that.

[00:59:24]>> That sounds people are responsible for the choices and decisions. I guess I just uh question is is she the spokesperson though for majority of women?

[00:59:35]No, but they, you know, they trying to be on there.

[00:59:37]>> Well, if you know, >> she's not the spokesperson, but she's one of the many that goes online and a bunch of nonsense like this, you know, but she's not the spokesperson.

[00:59:49]>> She almost failed.

[00:59:50]>> Cat jumped up on the counter on the leader.

[00:59:52]>> She was have to take a dump. She >> It was my chair. Damn.

[01:00:01]>> You almost fell.

[01:00:03]I had that face at the White Castle.

[01:00:06]>> Damn, Mimi, you watching? You watching?

[01:00:09]>> No, girl. I I got your back, girl. I know. I thought See, they thought a cat or something. So, she ain't got no cat.

[01:00:14]>> Oh, no. I don't >> You got a cat.

[01:00:17]>> She ain't got no cat.

[01:00:18]>> You ain't got no cat.

[01:00:21]>> Cat. You ain't got me on. You ain't got no cat.

[01:00:24]>> No.

[01:00:26]>> Shampoo down. Okay. Anybody else before we go to the next?

[01:00:29]>> What color is your cat?

[01:00:31]Okay, let's go to the super chat.

[01:00:33]Saturday Night Beater said, "Y'all so scared of men, but y'all orbital bone broke." Saturday Night Beater says, "You measure according to how they care for the spouse." HMVP podcast says, "What up Anton panel?"

[01:00:47]Shout out to one of the best podcasts in the world. Also, take it easy on my woman. I love you, Mia. Last week, Anton, I'm a bag chaser, bro. Um, when them hats dropping, shout out to you. Um T.Scar wash services Nick and six come to y'all in the chat.

[01:01:06]>> They just won the >> hit the hit the like button. Okay, we don't care. Okay, but um is getting a divorce over your care your career a good thing? Okay, let's watch this clip and talk about it. So, I am super nervous to make and post this video, and I've struggled a lot with whether I should share this information. And I ultimately decided that because I think that most all social media is fake and paints a very inaccurate picture of many people's lives and situations. Um, I don't want to be that for my followers, for my viewers. I share a lot about obviously my legal work and my law firm.

[01:01:51]Um, I share a little bit about my personal life. For the most part, it's all positive and flowers and roses. But again, I've decided that I want to be real with you guys. I want to um encourage you guys that if you are going through things, if you are a business owner, there's going to be bumps in the road. Um, so I have decided to share a little bit more than I'm comfortable with. So I am 40 years old. I own my own law firm. Most of you probably already know that. And I am going through a divorce. Actually, let me be real real and honest with you guys. I am going through my second divorce. I think it is really hard to try to create a life where you have it all. And I've clearly tried and failed twice to do that. Um, so while I'm not going to go into details as far as the cause of the divorce or whose fault it is, obviously it's both of our faults. Um, but I will just say that I think it's really hard to own and grow a super successful business and also have balance and happiness and peace in all of the other areas of your life. I don't think it's impossible. I don't think that you can't choose a few areas to really excel in and give your all. Um, but to give a 100% of you to every single area of your life and have it all be super successful and perfect all the time is not possible. At least not for me.

[01:03:19]>> She talking that girl.

[01:03:23]>> She hit home with the last statement.

[01:03:24]She said, "At least not for me."

[01:03:27]>> Yeah.

[01:03:28]>> So, you agree with her in the last statement? I I'm I'm saying she she she doesn't she's not looking at herself.

[01:03:38]She's blaming it on trying to be successful and everything. I I think that if if you going through a second divorce and only 40 years old is it's something you got to look in within yourself or something you doing not have nothing to do with your career. She's trying to blame other things for what's wrong with her inside like her personally.

[01:04:02]Again, women don't like to be held accountable.

[01:04:05]>> That that career more important to her obviously.

[01:04:08]>> Yeah. She's simply just >> I don't think anything to do with that.

[01:04:12]>> I think it's her.

[01:04:15]>> What do you think, Mimi? You look like you about to disagree.

[01:04:17]>> Yeah. I don't I don't know if I agree with if that is that is necessarily her.

[01:04:24]Um, I mean there we don't know necessarily the the relationship how it started. If she was a lawyer when they got married and he was somebody who maybe didn't have the same level of, you know, job as her. I don't know. I I don't if she said why like she just want to know may not be her is all I'm saying. It could be I think I think it's hard for women who are successful to be successful in relationships. It takes a lot of work. That's that's just and that's comes from person.

[01:05:01]>> Say that again. I didn't What' you say?

[01:05:03]>> It's hard for successful women or women who are maybe the bread winner >> to be successful in relationships.

[01:05:11]>> Why? I I I mean I just I think maybe you you can't like she said you can't you can't be you know 100% everywhere and when you're in a marriage >> you're in relationship and it takes a lot of work and people I hear that a lot takes work if it takes that much work it's it's then something is wrong >> I think she put I think she put so much energy in her career and she put less energy in her marriage so that's going to deplete She put so she put so much into her career that she that her marriage fell to pieces. Then wanted to say, "Oh, you know, she got all this going on in her life." She just was never a wife. She just wanted to be a career.

[01:05:55]>> But she played politician by saying, "Oh, it's his fault and my fault. That doesn't really No, that matters. Whose fault was it? Why you saying not accountable?"

[01:06:06]>> I think it's different types of lives. I think we got to broaden our horizon.

[01:06:11]um as far as like the type of type of people because I think that we're stuck in the 1950s in a way >> in life.

[01:06:22]>> Yeah. But at the same time you you using yourself as an example. So let's use yourself as an example, right?

[01:06:32]So you're a career wife, meaning that you're a working you're a working woman, right?

[01:06:36]>> Okay.

[01:06:37]>> Yeah.

[01:06:38]>> Where is your priority? Is your priority at home or is your priority with your career?

[01:06:42]>> At home.

[01:06:44]>> That's exactly my point.

[01:06:47]You still kind of move in a traditional type of mindset. And I think that nowadays I don't think that there aren't there aren't any rules to what a marriage looks like because everything is different. Women can work. Women are choosing for themselves. Women can have abortions. They can choose not to have kids at all. is it's different types of relationships. And traditionally, we look at a relationship and we say, "Okay, two people get together, the man is the head of the household, they automatically live together. Most of the time, they going to have children and hopefully their marriage lasts, right?

[01:07:23]That's not the that's not the the playbook anymore, right? Women making their own money. They choosing their career. Some people are choosing not to have children. Some women want to prioritize their career over it. and they want a relationship, they want companionship, but they may not necessarily even want to live with a man. They want to have their own spaces nowadays, right? And so, I think that for this woman in particular, she might be in traditional relationships and trying to force it to work, but I don't think that that's the type of guy that she want to be it. I'll give you an example, perfect example. There's politicians that get married to each other and stay married to each other for the entirety of their relationship, but I guarantee you they don't even live together.

[01:08:07]>> I I get what you're saying, but I'm I'mma have to push back on that a little bit because I'm just going to go in a little personal. Um I used to >> love being that person. That's what you want to do.

[01:08:20]It's up to you.

[01:08:22]>> I keep telling you you don't have to do it. I'mma do it.

[01:08:25]>> Go ahead. Um, yeah. So, I used to work for the Department of Defense. I used to work for the Department of Defense. So, I had to travel. I was a I'm my career as a manager. I I've been in management my whole career. So, I had to travel a lot. And my husband told me that it wasn't working for him. He He didn't like me going away, traveling, none of that. Guess what I had to do? I had to make a decision to leave that job because he did not res he did not like that the fact that I was traveling a lot.

[01:08:56]>> So when I left the job I found another one in management but that's what I had to do for my family.

[01:09:02]>> You love your job >> of course I used to go to all these different places. I used to go to plants. I used to go to I went to somewhere in Wisconsin that no one would ever go before. I used to go to California. I used to go all over.

[01:09:16]But think about what you're saying, right?

[01:09:18]>> It sounds like you was in love with your career.

[01:09:21]>> I wasn't. I liked the job, but I loved my husband more to say, "Look, I'mma get rid of this."

[01:09:26]>> No, no, no. Wait, wait, wait. Why do you keep including your husband into it? I ain't even include that. I I was just talking purely about your career. I said, "It sounds like you loved your career."

[01:09:37]I love I still I still got the same position in management, but I love that particular job because I was able to see the whole >> Look how you do over it.

[01:09:49]>> Like you you you do over it and you wish that you could have kept that and kept your relationship at the same time.

[01:09:58]>> So do you resent your husband for that?

[01:10:00]>> But guess what? I had to choose what was best for my family.

[01:10:03]>> Correct.

[01:10:04]him >> for that like a little bit you like when you get mad and say you you know I could have been in California you know >> no I don't ever I did that for me I did that because I choose to do that not because he told me to do that I >> hold on hold on hold on now Miss Blue you decided that you want to include this you did that you did that for him >> you did >> I did that for us >> no you did it for him because you still you still are ing and you said I didn't even ask you all of his description.

[01:10:36]He's like and I love traveling and we got >> mother you did it for him in order to save your relationship.

[01:10:48]>> I I did it for >> and it's okay.

[01:10:50]>> I'm a bad thing.

[01:10:52]>> I'mma be transparent. It's a balance of the two because I love the job but I love my husband more. So it's like I prefer that is a sacrifice you have to make >> in order for you to build a stronger family. Like the reason something that he didn't like >> the reason why you happy is because you found another job like that. If you didn't find another job like that then you would resented him more.

[01:11:19]>> No, I've always been in management though. I I find that the leaving part, >> right? The lady was saying that she didn't I think Anton's point was she didn't want to sacrifice her career. You wanted to you were willing to make that sacrifice. The woman in the video wasn't willing to make that sacrifice. Her mattered more to her than her marriage did.

[01:11:42]>> That's what I was saying. She was she's a she's not a really a a a wife because wife no >> people if they faced with that challenge they got to make a a a solid >> n that she align with. I tell people all the time you need to pick a person based off of where you're most of us do not have foresight. We cannot envision where we are going to be and so we pick people based off of where we're at. We pick people based off of how we feel. I tell people on a regular basis. I've said this a thousand times. Usually say it to men because I'm a man, so I speak to guys mostly and I say, "You need to vet for a woman based off of where you going, not based off of where you at."

[01:12:29]And so it's not that she's not a wife.

[01:12:32]She's not a wife to that type of guy that is looking for a traditional woman to be in a household and to make the sacrifice and give up her career for what it is that he thinks makes the most sense for him, which is cool. And I don't think that that's >> around cuz there are men that are with it. There's men that are with that life.

[01:12:51]>> We live in it. We live in this world where we think it's only one way to skin a cat. And I'm telling you that there are people out there that is cool with her having her career and he gonna do what he do. And baby, listen. Um, we going to connect on Thursday and Friday tonight. And we going to stay together and then I'mma go off and do my thing cuz I'm busy as [ __ ] and I want you to do your thing because you busy as [ __ ] And it's a lot of guys that's not even looking for a woman to be up under them 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

[01:13:24]Because to say that it is would mean that we're a monolith. We're not a monolith. And we keep trying to force a square peg and a round hole instead of trying to understand. Listen, what is it that makes the if you had to if he didn't force you to pick?

[01:13:42]Would you would still be in that position and still be married at the same time?

[01:13:46]>> Yes.

[01:13:48]>> Exactly.

[01:13:49]>> That's just honest >> and that's that's the that's the reality. And some people are willing to make the sacrifice. The woman in the video was not willing to make the sacrifice. She was like, you know, I put too much into what it is that I think is meaningful to me and my career and this also makes me happy and I'm not willing to give it up.

[01:14:06]>> Then why would she settle? Like obviously she been through this twice.

[01:14:10]So So it is her fault. So but why should she why?

[01:14:14]>> Absolutely.

[01:14:15]>> You can't you can't absolve her responsibility at all.

[01:14:17]>> I think she just need to like what Anton is asking.

[01:14:19]>> Why did she settle for somebody like that?

[01:14:23]It's not a settle. It I think her priorities are a little >> um messed up when she's probably picking men.

[01:14:30]>> So, she's not picking them where they're on the same level or somebody certain things. She probably picked them for money or how he looks or any those those type of things, but she probably wasn't really locked in.

[01:14:45]>> Especially if this is her second time.

[01:14:46]Those are most regular couples. They they both work and they still marry and they just live regular life. Like that [ __ ] ain't really nothing nowadays.

[01:14:56]>> Well, I I know if it was me, if I was posed with that same ultimatum, he'd have to go. I I'm the bread winner. I I mean, I'm the one that that makes the money. I I built a I built a very, you know, successful business. I'm not letting that go just because you don't want me to do what I've been doing. So, >> most women, most women, you don't see them say out loud, I regret the fact that you forced me to choose unless the relationship don't work, right? Because if it don't work, but you did make this, you felt like you make the sacrifice, then you regret it and you say, "Well, I should have stayed where I was or I should have chose me."

[01:15:37]>> Yeah. That's that's when you start to get people being bitter and they start to feel some type of way. If the relationship don't work, you're in a position where you obviously, you know, it's working for you. So, you're not going to have that sentiment. You're not going to express that and say that, right? But I think that the thing that most women feel like is why are you forcing me to choose? Like, if they Let me revise it, right? Make it more make it a little bit more palatable. What women really want is for guys to ask them, "What do you want?"

[01:16:11]They they want guys to be more open to hearing them and their thoughts instead of just saying, "You got to do this and you want to still be with they want they want guys to take them into consideration and to work with them. That's why they changing the words around and say I want a partner instead of saying I want a husband."

[01:16:33]>> Yeah. Am I wrong, Mia? Tell me I'm wrong.

[01:16:38]>> I hear that a lot, my partner.

[01:16:41]>> Um, I think that in this >> What's the data on that?

[01:16:45]>> I think in this modern society that you have a point about that, especially with women being in the workforce and things, as Mimi said, she would choose her her career. Like me personally, I I'm very I don't know, question mark. catch me in another 10 years on that because I'm not sure. Um I love >> So that means >> I love both um because I like to have my own money. Um but I also am a taken care of well taken care of. So I don't I have no clue. Um but I know in this modern society that it is easier to put the career before the relationship because the relationship can let you down. You have control over your career. I feel like those discussions should be had upfront. Like >> if you're dating somebody like I feel like that's questions that need to be like if you're intentionally dating like first three dates, you know, what does the roles look like in the household for the man? What does he want? Because if he wants a woman that's prioritizing family or or kids over her job, then y'all should not even talk. I wouldn't want a man to convince a woman that got a business to leave her business if she doesn't want to automatically do that herself.

[01:18:00]>> Like, so now Q, if you on the third date and you start talking all that heavy [ __ ] right, and the guy looks at you can see he don't want to talk about that, >> then he's not.

[01:18:11]>> Oh, come on.

[01:18:12]>> No, because it's like men that are intentionally dating, I think they should ask those questions. The thing is is that y >> I mean like hold on because y'all so quick to have sex with these people but you don't want to ask those hard questions is crazy.

[01:18:26]>> Exactly.

[01:18:27]>> So if you're really intentionally dating like those questions why would you want to waste your time on a broad that wants to prioritize her work and not prioritize a man because really she's supposed to put God man and then kids her job in any of that order.

[01:18:42]>> But Q I'm not saying I don't want to talk about it no time but not right now.

[01:18:47]I don't want to hear that right now.

[01:18:48]>> Okay. So, when is the perfect time to hear? After we sleep together, >> the eighth date. Eighth date.

[01:18:54]>> I don't think that people people it don't matter what what time or whatever.

[01:19:00]Nobody cares about what anybody is saying on any date, especially in the beginning because the only thing they care about is if I like you and you like me. Are we feeling each other? Are we vibing? Are we having a good time?

[01:19:12]>> And and then most people try to figure out as figure it out as they go. And see, most of the time the people that you out with and you on on a date with >> ain't nobody being honest about who they really are in a anyway. You put your best foot forward because you're trying to impress the person. It's not even about being honest.

[01:19:30]>> But some said she Mimi just said she's not leaving her company. Like she's not leaving.

[01:19:36]>> Yeah. But but what I'm saying is let's say for example, I always use myself. If I go on a date with Mimi and Mimi say Mimi is not gonna tell me, man, I'm not leaving my company for you.

[01:19:49]Not a conversation that we gonna broach, right? That's not something that's gonna say >> I think it's hypothetical.

[01:19:54]>> You know what Mimi gonna say? Mimi gonna say, "Yep, I do this for a living." So on and so forth, and these are the time, you know, these are the hours that I work. I like my job or whatever. So on and so forth. And I'm gonna say, "Yeah, this is what I do for a living." Blah blah blah blah blah. And we gonna go out and we gonna have a good time. And we not even gonna broach the conversation of whether or not you leave. I mean, you may role play a little bit just to have a little, you know, over some drinks, >> taking on having no serious conversation about whether or not Mimi would leave her job.

[01:20:21]>> I mean, and that's the problem. People are just casual dating, casual conversations, and not having those questions up front.

[01:20:28]>> If I if I'm sitting there and I'm having a conversation with a woman with a woman on at over dinner over a second or third date and she pressing me, I'm gone. I don't even give a [ __ ] about what we talking about. think it's over dinner.

[01:20:39]Like I feel like you need to get to know the person via phone.

[01:20:42]>> But I want to hear that right now. I told you.

[01:20:45]>> Okay. So when when is it tomorrow? Are you available to have that conversation?

[01:20:49]>> Maybe tomorrow. Maybe tomorrow.

[01:20:51]>> I'm really wasting your time and your money on abroad that don't want to prioritize you. So it's really helping you out. Why?

[01:20:58]>> I'll get back to I'll get back to you tomorrow. All right.

[01:21:01]>> Get married.

[01:21:02]>> Now what you want?

[01:21:04]I'm going take half of your money once I divorce you. And then what? You wish you wish you would have asked those questions up front.

[01:21:11]>> Let me be real.

[01:21:15]>> Most people know who they >> first date is crazy. It don't have to be the first date.

[01:21:20]>> Most people know what they when they get into I mean, >> I'm talking about conversations prior.

[01:21:26]>> If I like you, I'm [ __ ] with you >> and then we just gonna disappoint ourselves later because we like each other in the moment. That's just the re That's the reality. Like people rock with each other and they like each other if they like each other. Most of the time, >> all right, >> that's why these women be you want to go there. Okay, listen. Most of the time guys decide that they want to marry a woman. Not because they like her so much that they want to be with her.

[01:21:53]>> Nope. Nope. Not because they like her so much because they want to be with her forever, but because they like her enough to not want to lose her.

[01:22:01]>> Yeah.

[01:22:02]>> Okay. And then they gonna get cheated on.

[01:22:05]>> No, we are. Listen, think about what she gonna take half. She gonna take half of your money because you didn't ask right questions.

[01:22:12]>> No, she not.

[01:22:13]>> Y'all just be saying women be cheating the most.

[01:22:16]>> Mean she get half my [ __ ] >> Hell no.

[01:22:20]>> A lot of men. A lot of these men don't have half.

[01:22:23]>> You be at the bottom of the lake with a brick with a brick tied to your ankle.

[01:22:28]You're not gonna get half of my You're not gonna get half of my stuff. Like that don't mean you don't get half of my stuff just because I like you a lot.

[01:22:35]>> That don't mean nothing.

[01:22:36]>> That's you. But a lot of these men get used nowadays.

[01:22:40]>> But my but my point is is I don't think that that's like that's not a thing. You know what I'm saying? Like when you get involved with somebody and you start to like somebody, most of the time you making a sacrifice.

[01:22:55]Everybody is going to make a be with each other. Even if y'all move in together, >> y'all gonna be uncomfortable because I got to move my [ __ ] around. I got to get on. You know what I'm saying? I got to >> It's a sacrifice for us to even live together.

[01:23:08]Everything is a sacrifice.

[01:23:10]>> That's why I'm saying that. Listen, I am an advocate for revamping what the definition of marriage looks like and changing this whole narrative. I think that what we got going on right now does not work.

[01:23:26]And I think that we need to rethink what relationships are supposed to look like. And if we did, we would have more successful relationships instead of trying to force our way into something that does not work, has not worked, and will not work ever. It's not going to work the way that we doing it.

[01:23:45]>> I just I think I think people has been far removed from God >> that move the whole definition of what a marriage supposed to look like. So they kind they try to change it around and try to best benefit and how they want to live their life. If you have a great relationship with God, then you would find your answer.

[01:24:08]>> I disagree.

[01:24:09]>> Me too.

[01:24:12]>> 100%.

[01:24:14]>> I Well, >> the reason that I disagree.

[01:24:17]>> Yes.

[01:24:18]>> Because marriage is singular to just people that believe in Christianity and God.

[01:24:23]>> No, I didn't say Christianity. I said God.

[01:24:26]>> Well, God is Christianity.

[01:24:28]>> No, God is many different religions.

[01:24:30]>> Oh, come on. You going to play around with God like that? Don't play around with God like that.

[01:24:35]>> As a believer myself, I think it's it's is it's not singular to just people that are believers in God.

[01:24:44]>> As a matter of fact, I would make the case that there are some people that are more success some cultures that are more successful at marriage that don't even believe the way that we believed in the West.

[01:24:59]>> I mean, yeah. because of the dogma. I mean, they're all different, but at the end of the day, if you have a rel If you understand God's will, then you would know what it entails in a in a union.

[01:25:10]>> No. No.

[01:25:12]>> A marriage is a union.

[01:25:13]>> What's God's will? What's God's will?

[01:25:16]>> I'm sorry.

[01:25:17]>> What's God's will? Let's explore it.

[01:25:19]>> Oh, Lord.

[01:25:21]>> NO. SEE, Y'ALL Y'ALL DON'T WANT TO HAVE A CONVERSATION. Y'ALL WANT TO SAY IT, but y'all don't want to substantiate your argument.

[01:25:27]>> Just want to sing the main tunes. She don't want to get into the song.

[01:25:30]>> What's God's will?

[01:25:31]>> Name.

[01:25:33]>> To me, I think to me, I believe God's will is for you to to open up your your your mind and your spirit to understanding of your emotions, understanding of your self. Um patterns as hum as as humans. We have we have all these different type of um um different type of flaws like envy, jealousy. God's will is for us to identify that, to see that, have discernment within yourself to to really dive deep in yourself to know what you can bring forth into the world and into whoever you're going to be with, whether it's a man or whether it's a family. I think that's God's will.

[01:26:19]>> Yeah. But it but how could that be God's will if you if you're if you got jealousy and envy which we all have. God gave us that.

[01:26:30]>> We also have good and bad. We also have cause and um we we have attraction, we have femininity, masculinity, everything is opposites. So >> here's the thing those things. What if, for example, because because I tend to think that God's will varies depending on the person that you're talking to. My purpose is different from your purpose. Her purpose is different from his purpose. Some women don't have the ability to have kids, >> for example.

[01:27:03]>> Right?

[01:27:05]>> Some men are called to be apostles.

[01:27:08]Others are called to be preachers.

[01:27:10]Others are called to move the chairs.

[01:27:12]Some people are called to make a difference and pouring into other people and add value when it comes to participation in the community. It's a lot of different different roles. Some people are musicians. Some people are are are you know their evangelists. It's a lot of different people that have different purposes. And so the will of a person, the foundation of who we are is based off of the word of God. The will, God's will in your life, it varies from person to person. That's why I said, "Well, what is God's will?" Because I think that different people have different purposes and different different people serve differently, >> right? But yeah, I I agree with you with that. But my p my push back is that when it comes down to women like in the video caring about career and she has two two husbands and she has all this time to to worry about her the the material things.

[01:28:07]She's lacking her. She's not self-reflecting and really seeing that the issue is not >> her career and her wanting to have this great life. The issue is how she's going about living her life in conjunction with a man.

[01:28:23]>> Well, >> why you think do you think you're pushing your ro your world and the way you operate the framework you operate within off onto her? I think that's what Anton kind of means when he say we're not a monolith. So, >> I'm not pushing that off on her. What I'm saying is that she she's coming to the internet with her with whatever she's talking about, what she believes, right?

[01:28:46]>> And I'm I'm responding to that. Maybe she needs to look at it from a different perspective than what she's looking at it now because you have two failed marriages.

[01:28:56]>> So instead of you looking at it to the in a point of view of, oh, I'm a career woman. I have all this stuff going on.

[01:29:01]When all that stuff leaves you, what else do you have?

[01:29:04]>> Yeah. Family is supposed to be our main foundation. I think a lot of people don't look at it that way.

[01:29:09]>> Don't depend on them [ __ ] to do much [ __ ] >> I don't think you're nuclear. You're nuclear.

[01:29:17]>> I don't think >> I think your purpose is your purpose.

[01:29:23]>> If you if listen if if we family is a form of protection. All right? It doesn't mean that that's your purpose. Everybody's purpose is not the same. And and I'll give you an example.

[01:29:35]The very people that we look at in the Bible, some of the ones that were the the the Paul, Paul never got married, nor did he have a family. That's my favorite person in the Bible. Jesus himself.

[01:29:45]>> A strong voice though.

[01:29:47]>> Paul wrote half the Bible.

[01:29:49]>> The preacher.

[01:29:51]>> What do you mean?

[01:29:52]>> Paul was the the Paul was the force. He was the preacher. He >> But my point is that why why didn't why didn't Paul get married? If the family is the is the purpose, then why wasn't why wasn't that applicable to Paul?

[01:30:06]>> Because he had a greater duty to accomplish. He had >> My point is that his will God's will for him was different >> and it may have been for Aaron, right?

[01:30:15]Or that it may have been for Moses or that it may have been for Solomon or that it may have been for David or that it may have been for Job, right? All all of these people's purposes were different is what I'm saying. or that it may have been for Daniel or you know Matthew, Mark, Luke, John, all of these different people that was in the Bible.

[01:30:35]They all had different purposes. Elijah, Elisha, all of these people were different.

[01:30:42]>> Aaron's purpose was to help Moses was to be was to be was to be the mouthpiece for Moses. A lot of people don't even know that.

[01:30:52]>> You said Aaron was the mouthpiece for Moses.

[01:30:54]>> 100%.

[01:30:58]But but when it goes back to purpose, all right, I get everyone has their purpose, but like I said, >> what's my purpose? What do we What is >> our purpose? I don't know.

[01:31:08]>> I don't got no damn purpose.

[01:31:10]>> You don't have a purpose in life?

[01:31:12]>> No, I don't know.

[01:31:14]>> Aggravate the hell out of us.

[01:31:15]>> Go get some something to eat, you know, and raise your kids, you know. I'm a simple man, you know.

[01:31:22]So your purpose is is you being a father or you being a a family man in in your life. That's your purpose.

[01:31:30]>> You know what? You know what the real truth is? When you die, they gonna forget about you in a week.

[01:31:36]>> That's not true.

[01:31:37]>> They gonna say, "You know what? He would like us to go on." No, I don't. No, I wouldn't.

[01:31:42][ __ ] I wish I wish I could answer that with somebody come across my body and go, you know, I think he would wish us to go on and be happy. No, I wouldn't. I I again I just think that different I I think that we need to rethink what a relationship looks like, what marriage looks like and what being successfully married looks like >> if it's not working >> and we would have better results.

[01:32:06]>> I just think >> works for one person and the other whatever works for you is what works for you. So what may work for one relationship is the man is being traditional. The man take care of the home where you have a different relationship where the woman takes care of it. It's like whatever works for that household is what works for them.

[01:32:24]>> That's why you have to find somebody compatible >> yolked. Equally yolked.

[01:32:29]>> Yeah. Not all the way equally, but enough.

[01:32:33]>> It's funny because we'll we'll justify things based off of what makes sense for us at the time. Right. So, if we had this conversation last week, right, you'll see a bunch of people that sit there and say, "Well, two people have to work inside of the household in order for y'all to survive in this economy."

[01:32:49]Well, then that goes against the very thing that y'all said this week when it comes to traditional households because I thought that women wasn't supposed to necessarily >> be that traditional, >> right?

[01:32:58]>> I'm not that traditional. I >> But you see what you're saying, Miss Blue? You're not that traditional.

[01:33:06]Meaning that you modified it according to what makes sense to you because according to you, you a career woman.

[01:33:14]>> Yeah. I I'm I'm a wife first though.

[01:33:18]>> But you love that career. Let me ask Let me ask you a question, Miss a general question. There's no right or wrong answer.

[01:33:28]>> If your husband said, "Quit working today and regardless of what our financial circumstance is, and maybe we got a downgrade, right?

[01:33:39]And maybe we need to change our lifestyle. We got to go down to one car, but I want you to be home 100% of the time, and I don't want you working at all. And uh because I'm the head of the household, I need you to go ahead and follow my lead. How would you go about dealing with that?

[01:33:55]>> Did he get that message from God or something?

[01:33:58]>> Why you wait a minute? Wait a minute. Wait a minute. What do you mean, did he get the message from God? Why are you >> Did you ask him? you get that message from God when he told you to quit that other job.

[01:34:12]>> Yeah, but if he just jump out the window and I'm going to ask questions, but I'm going to have to follow his I'm going to have to follow his lead.

[01:34:19]>> You said we got a downgrade. You can't you are you doing it with a glad heart?

[01:34:25]>> Not a No. No. I'm I'm doing it hoping hoping that he has that he knows what he's putting ourselves into and he's going to get us out of it. If >> Yes.

[01:34:36]>> Y'all been together since you was 16.

[01:34:37]What you talk about? You don't know.

[01:34:40]>> No, I I am going to do it, but I am going to >> I'm going to >> I'm going to put I'm going to try to make sure that I know that he knows what he's doing for his family.

[01:34:51]>> What does that mean? Try to make sure.

[01:34:52]What does that mean?

[01:34:53]>> I'm going to ask the questions. I'm going to, you know, just just make sure that he knows what he's doing with the questions that I'm asking. I just want answers to me not doing it.

[01:35:04]>> You say, "Nigga, you crazy."

[01:35:05]>> I am. I would I would do it given the fact that >> I trust that he knows what he's doing.

[01:35:12]>> I should have married you.

[01:35:14]>> No, but listen, he's telling you all ahead of time, we're going to downgrade our lifestyle.

[01:35:19]We're going to go down on one car.

[01:35:21]>> Damn.

[01:35:22]>> We're going to live a more pedestrian lifestyle.

[01:35:26]>> We're only going to go based off of one income. But this is what I think makes the most sense, and this will bring us closer as one. And you got to take one uh toilet tissue thing. You can't take two. We got to take one right with that one. I don't care. I'm asking. So what I'm asking is are you rolling or not?

[01:35:45]>> Smaller house.

[01:35:46]>> Yeah.

[01:35:48]>> I'm have to roll. I'mma have to roll with I'm sorry. I'mma have to roll in and just trusting him.

[01:35:53]>> Okay.

[01:35:53]>> You live in a garage. You live >> it was no wrong answer. I just wanted to know what your thoughts.

[01:35:57]>> I ain't going.

[01:35:58]>> He knows that's not >> Are you going with a glad? Are you going with a glad Miss Blue? Are you going with a glad? I'm not I'm not I'm not >> you might do it.

[01:36:08]>> I'm going I'm going in with questions.

[01:36:10]I'm going in questionable, but I'm not going in malice heart. No.

[01:36:15]>> Do you do you question God?

[01:36:18]>> No.

[01:36:20]>> So why would you question a a person that you can see in your man? God, >> you're talking about a man compared to God. A physical human.

[01:36:30]>> No, your husband. You love your husband more than you love You love God more than you love your husband.

[01:36:36]>> I love God >> more than your husband.

[01:36:39]>> Of course.

[01:36:41]>> ARE YOU [ __ ] SURE?

[01:36:45]>> That's crazy.

[01:36:46]>> We don't believe in God. That's right.

[01:36:47]>> I'll follow up this demon.

[01:36:51]>> God first.

[01:36:52]>> Yo, I My point is that >> some rough nights up in there. My point is that now everything start that traditionalism starts to come into question because you now it make you uncomfortable.

[01:37:09]>> It yes it will make me uncomfortable. I will have some push back but I I have to trust in my husband that he's going to do the right thing for us.

[01:37:20]>> So I have a question.

[01:37:21]>> You believe her answer?

[01:37:23]You believe her? I don't believe her.

[01:37:25]So, so how much trust do you have if you have to if you have to question him about >> Exactly.

[01:37:31]>> Uh, it's because it's it's like when when you're making such a such a big turnaround, it's just you just can't just jump out the window and just say, "Okay, let me do it." Like a like I'm just like a follower.

[01:37:46]>> With that analogy, though, you literally can jump out the window. I'll tell you one thing, Miss Blue. I got the answer to my question a long time ago.

[01:37:54]>> Hold on. I'm I'mma answer Mia's question. So, for for me, when it comes down to trust, trust goes many different forms. Just because I'm questioning doesn't mean I I don't trust him. You know, it's it's it's me just questioning you till I can get an answer for myself.

[01:38:12]>> But I still trust you to do the right thing. If you trust him, you wouldn't necessarily need to question him.

[01:38:20]>> That's what trust is about.

[01:38:22]>> Well, you have to question you have to question someone if they're making such a drastic, you know, change. You have to kind of you can't just go in it blindly like, yeah, I'mma follow you blindly, you know. Um, >> but he like in in the um scenario that Anton gave you, he answered he gave you the whole scenario. He didn't just say quit your job. He said, "Quit your job because X, Y, and Z."

[01:38:47]>> So, he gave you an answer with all your questions answered, but you now you got you you still got more questions and it just seems like you're always going to have more questions and it'll never be >> No, but he said that answer said that no, you got a downgrade. So, >> right. If you can't work us up like that, >> yeah, I'm gonna trust that. I'mma trust you that you want us to continue like that. But I'm going to question you in a way.

[01:39:14]>> But why would you trust him and is on the decline? He's telling you throw away. Let's throw away everything. Like he's just literally telling you that.

[01:39:24]>> Of course. All right. So he's telling me let's throw away everything. Why?

[01:39:30]>> Why are you asking?

[01:39:31]>> We can be together as we closer together more time with you.

[01:39:38]>> All right. So that's a good one. That's a good one. So what about So what about the children?

[01:39:47]>> So I said that I said that he's explained to you that he's doing it because >> he feels like this would actually be >> um keep y'all keep y'all closer as one.

[01:39:59]Make y'all make y'all better >> at at whatever it is that y'all got going on.

[01:40:05]>> Okay. So what about our finances? How how is that going to go?

[01:40:10]already told you down your >> So you're asking questions that were already answered for you.

[01:40:20]>> It's one income. But why do you why is it that you want to go down to one of y'all missing? Y'all missing what she's saying right now. She's asking questions not because she doesn't know the answer, but because >> she don't want to do this. I know that's what she say.

[01:40:41]>> This ain't Listen, this ain't a I don't know what's going on conversation.

[01:40:46]>> This is a I'mma keep on pestering because I'm not happy with the decision that's going on right now.

[01:40:51]>> Yeah.

[01:40:52]>> Be arguing. So, we make that man's life.

[01:40:55]>> Miserable.

[01:40:56]>> I'mma do it.

[01:40:58]>> But she said she gonna do it. Don't do it with the >> She not She not doing it.

[01:41:02]>> That's why I said it's like pulling teeth.

[01:41:04]>> If y'all believe that she's going >> I don't believe it.

[01:41:07]>> She's not doing it.

[01:41:08]>> You're crazy.

[01:41:10]Y'all crazy. If y'all think that she's going to actually go with this, >> you're nuts. I don't believe this.

[01:41:18]>> She knows it's not going to happen. It's a hypothetical. So people did happen.

[01:41:22]She wouldn't do it though.

[01:41:24]>> No, >> she trying to >> She just told you what she gonna do. She going to be asking why. Keep asking why.

[01:41:31]>> But why?

[01:41:33]>> And I trying. She's trying to be honest.

[01:41:38]>> She's doing her best. And I got to give her credit for participating. I told her she didn't have to include herself in this conversation. She decided to volunteer as tribute. But I don't believe that she's going happily, willingly, or even submissively. Even >> I don't believe that at all. I don't think that she going into work tomorrow and saying, "You know what, guys? It's my last day. I'm done. My husband said that I got to quit." I don't think that even a little bit.

[01:42:07]>> Nope.

[01:42:08]>> Not even not even a teeny bit.

[01:42:12]>> Like, I hate him. I'm going. I ain't going.

[01:42:17]>> What if he say we don't need toilet paper? We'll wipe with leaves.

[01:42:21]I'm going >> to call and one income. I just if I just got to chill and I'm I'm gonna go, >> but I'm gonna have questions.

[01:42:32]>> Man, you in love. Sh. You know what I'm saying?

[01:42:34]>> No, I have question.

[01:42:36]>> If he lost if he lost if he if he got if he got in a car accident tonight and lo and lost both his arms, would you still love him?

[01:42:45]>> God forbid. Yes.

[01:42:46]>> God forbid.

[01:42:48]>> Of course.

[01:42:48]>> I think she I I believe that. I believe she'll rock out with him be on some loyalty type.

[01:42:53]>> I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. People say that. People say, "But no arms."

[01:42:59]>> I believe that she I believe that she'll rock out on some loyalty type [ __ ] on that type stuff. I don't believe that she will volunteer herself to be in poverty though.

[01:43:09]>> You see, you see how you putting it? How the way you putting it? You just I volunteer myself to be in poverty. No, I'm not volunteering myself to be in poverty. I'm volunteering. I am elective going with my husband decision >> placing us in poverty. I'm going with >> You gota put the responsibility on your husband. You got to make sure you man have a conversation with my husband.

[01:43:34]Talk some sense into him.

[01:43:37]>> She gonna say, >> "Can we set up a coaching call?" All of that other type of stuff.

[01:43:43]I seen this before. I ain't crazy.

[01:43:46]You're gonna ask somebody because you know it's crazy.

[01:43:49]>> This ain't asking. She gonna say, "Anton, can you convince my husband to look at this differently?" Because A, B, C, and D.

[01:43:58]>> Can you talk some sense into him? I don't know what's wrong with him. He must be going through something. He pro, you know what I'm saying?

[01:44:05]>> It's all of that. It's going to be all of that.

[01:44:07]>> Well, don't you have to go down different avenues before you you you make that decision? Don't you have to try to be like, >> "No, your husband said you got to go.

[01:44:15]you go >> and don't you better go happy >> and you better not ass that's that's the traditional wife a traditional wife will go >> I'm telling you and all of that normal thing that I see on a regular basis is women say can you talk to my husband can you have a conversation with him it is not abnormal it happens all the time >> had nothing to do with love They know.

[01:44:45]>> Oh, Anton, I'm not happy with what's about to happen. I'm emergency call, please.

[01:44:54]>> DM DMing you 17 times. And I >> Miss Blue. It's Miss Blue. Pick up.

[01:45:02]>> Hey, who's this? Miss Blue.

[01:45:06]>> I don't believe it. I've seen the garage.

[01:45:10]>> I seen it happen too many time. I see too many unhappy uh dusty women sitting on the ground of [ __ ] that's preaching on the street corner >> and they like I ain't Do you know what women say? Let me tell you what they say. I didn't sign up for this.

[01:45:28]>> That's a good one.

[01:45:29]>> They regularly say, "I didn't sign up for this. This is not what I signed up for when I decided >> throw it out the way. You ready to quit?

[01:45:37]You ready to quit?

[01:45:38]>> Hell yeah.

[01:45:41]Oh, see that's super Mimi. See >> in the towel.

[01:45:44]>> See, she ain't staying with you if you ain't got no arms. Not Mimi.

[01:45:48]>> Yes, I am.

[01:45:50]>> No, not you.

[01:45:51]>> You said no arms.

[01:45:53]>> Nope.

[01:45:54]>> They say I don't sign up for this. They say >> I didn't sign up for that. That sound like something I would say. I didn't.

[01:46:05]>> So when situations get to a point where you just don't agree with, you ready to throw in the towel. You ready?

[01:46:11]>> No, that's not what it is. If a woman, it's not about what you what you a woman can agree with a guy but still following him follow him if they believe in them.

[01:46:21]If a woman loses if a woman loses confidence in her man's ability to make a decision, that's when she'll start to start to sabotage or question whether or not she still should be in a relationship. If a woman loses belief in a man, a woman could even go through it with a guy and let's say that he lose his job or you get laid off or y'all go through a little bit of a lull or y'all suffer or you go lose some stuff. If she believe that listen, but he's still him and he's still going to get us back to where we need to be. If she got confidence in him, she [ __ ] with him.

[01:46:56]She roll with him. she'll roll with him to the end of the earth because she really believes that he's going to do the thing that he said that he's going to do. If a if a guy just say, "Yo, we about to go into poverty and I think we just we should just live with." She gonna start to lose confidence in a [ __ ] because he don't have a vision. If if she if he can't explain to her >> if he can't explain to her >> why we doing this, >> it doesn't make sense. If it has to if for women they it has to make sense in their mind. They got to be able to compartmentalize it, break it down and say, "Okay, >> look. You gota you gota see that's how you go though. I said I'm going to ask questions. I said I'm going to >> A woman will suffer with a man with a glad heart.

[01:47:44]>> They will they will suffer with you with a glad heart. If if they truly rock with you, you know what? I'm [ __ ] with him. We going to go through this together. That's my man. My man. and my man, whatever. And we just going we going to make it make sense. But we going to come out of this [ __ ] We we we got a vision. I believe in this [ __ ] If you just dusty for the sake of being dusty, >> come on.

[01:48:05]>> They going be like, >> they they'll ride with you for a second because they ain't got [ __ ] else to do.

[01:48:13]But don't think that they not they not looking.

[01:48:17]It's just it's just like a job, right? A woman could be disappointed in her job and she'll go to work to work on applying at other jobs.

[01:48:29]>> That's fact.

[01:48:30]>> Looking to get another job.

[01:48:32]>> I've seen it. Yeah.

[01:48:34]>> So it different in relationships.

[01:48:38]>> It's no different in relationships. They they but but because what what other alternative until I find another another opportunity to get the [ __ ] up out of here? Mm-m.

[01:48:48]>> Most most divorces are over money and irreconcilable differences. You know what that means? That mean we don't we don't agree no more. I don't believe in you, [ __ ] >> Well, [ __ ] is you doing?

[01:49:01]>> I ain't sleeping on garage.

[01:49:06]>> Money. Think about that. Money and irreconcilable differences. not cheating, not you know he leveled up is because [ __ ] you [ __ ] up the bread or I don't believe in you no more. I don't believe in what this is.

[01:49:23]>> Lost confidence.

[01:49:24]>> I can't I can't see it. I can't see through the [ __ ] no more.

[01:49:28]>> Yeah, >> but then that means that he was already messing up and she wasn't paying no attention. She was uh missing all the red flags cuz she wanted to go to six flags.

[01:49:37]>> Well, you can you can mess But here's the thing though, Mia. You can mess up, but if you still him and you still got a vision, it's like, well, you know what?

[01:49:46]It's a little long. I can deal with this [ __ ] You can mess up as still as as long as you win because you still get more grace.

[01:49:56]>> We still on the championship team right now. You know what I'm saying?

[01:49:59]>> But if you if you [ __ ] up and you win a lottery, come on, big dog.

[01:50:03]>> Yeah, but Miss Blue don't think her husband's him.

[01:50:07]>> I What? What are you talking about?

[01:50:11]Not not go with him. I said I'm going to go with him.

[01:50:21]>> You sat here and went through it and I just you >> more and more as you kept going. I I just kept not believing you.

[01:50:31]>> Yeah.

[01:50:32]>> I'm going to trust me. Trust. Look, >> I I am going to How I'm supposed to trust you? No, no. I'm just saying >> he's saying from the beginning I'm gonna go with him and trust that he will make the right decision, but at the end of the day, you're not gonna just blindly lead me into something. We're going to have we're going to have to execute some other way your way.

[01:50:55]>> It's it's just all right, I'mma go your way, but then we're going to have to somehow get on an agreement how we can circumvent to get back to get back on track because we're not going to continue to live in poverty. That's not that's not something that I would score.

[01:51:09]>> That's why you just speak life differently. But I'm saying though if he said we got a downgrade and he's giving you said that we're I'm going to keep asking qu. You're going to basically >> I know you don't want to do it.

[01:51:20]>> You don't want to do it.

[01:51:21]>> No, I don't. I I I don't want to.

[01:51:23]>> You should have enough respect. You should have enough respect for yourself and him and say I don't want to do that.

[01:51:30]>> You listening. She didn't even want to quit the job.

[01:51:34]That's why I forgot about the job.

[01:51:35]>> She damn sure don't want to downgrade.

[01:51:37]>> She still be thinking about that job like >> she said she said I was going around the world and I gave that [ __ ] up. Now you want me to live in the garage?

[01:51:49]>> And listen, Miss Blue, I appreciate you for being a good sport in this conversation because >> it does it is entertaining and it's all fun and I do believe that you really really love the guy that you with obviously. Um, but I mean when we having a when we talking about the nature of who we are as people, again, I'm an advocate for rethinking and I think that we need new innovative ideas and conversations behind relationships and marriage because what we got going on, look, everybody keep on want to do the same thing, but divorces is higher, less people are getting married, and more people are skeptical as they get older about what it is that they're getting yourself into when it comes to people >> and it's so many good people. It it's some genuinely good people out here that they trust is just is is broken.

[01:52:40]>> They don't believe in the they don't believe in people at all because they didn't seen too much and it's too messed up and too many people are they have a they have ulterior motives >> and it just don't work no more. And I don't think that we give space for people to be honest about where they stand and where they going so that so that we can actually pair people more effectively and not just be doing it superficially based off of the same standards that that we've been doing. It don't work. It's a broken system and and until we figure out and start to have different conversations, I think it's going to continue to get worse.

[01:53:20]>> Yeah.

[01:53:20]>> No one wants to get married. yourself.

[01:53:22]If you make if you make something and it don't come out right, you got to change the recipe. You know what I'm saying?

[01:53:27]You got to >> If I gave you, for example, >> um >> Bora, are you married?

[01:53:36]>> Yeah.

[01:53:37]>> Okay. How long you been married?

[01:53:39]>> Um be 10 years this September.

[01:53:41]>> I can tell by that. Yeah. Yeah.

[01:53:45]>> Let me let me ask you a question. Let me ask you a question. Let's say hypothetically, God forbid, that you got divorced today.

[01:53:53]>> Would you be looking to get remarried?

[01:53:56]>> No.

[01:53:57]>> Damn. Is that bad?

[01:53:58]>> That's my point. No, I don't think it's because it's bad. I just think that because >> duplicate it.

[01:54:04]>> Okay. Gotcha. I got you. I get >> I get that point.

[01:54:09]>> You feel like Yeah, I got you. If the institution of it was so awesome, then people would be looking forward to it, not looking at it something that they feel like they have to do.

[01:54:21]>> Yeah.

[01:54:23]>> I do. I think um times are so different today that we do have to look at it a little bit different.

[01:54:32]>> Yeah.

[01:54:33]>> But if it's working for you, you don't have to look for it. You don't have to look.

[01:54:37]>> But not me. I'm just saying for the people, you know. But that's not working >> cuz it's not working for a lot of people.

[01:54:48]>> See the rants every day. Every day. New breeds. New rants every day.

[01:54:51]>> But some men say, "Thank God it's not working." That's how they getting the side chicks from other [ __ ] married.

[01:55:02]>> That's why I'm in your car, [ __ ] Cuz this [ __ ] ain't working.

[01:55:05]>> It's not working.

[01:55:08]And I do I want people to be really successful at it. But I just think that I think we got this mindset that keeps us stuck in the in the in the 80s and the 90s.

[01:55:20]>> Yeah, I agree with that.

[01:55:21]>> It's not working for a lot of people. So >> that's a fact. It's not working for a lot of people.

[01:55:28]>> Yeah.

[01:55:30]But >> I I I have to talk about this because how I saw how I um was raised was my mom taught me how you know different attributes of becoming of being a woman and a wife. So it's like stuck in the in the 80s and 90s but we have these traditions that pass on in your within your family. So how can you now go against that and say >> how do you go against traditions that's passed on in your family?

[01:56:00]>> Yeah. And you have to reinvent things because the society is different.

[01:56:04]>> You say the 80s 90s were good like you know >> I I have a I don't have a traditional marriage. I I work my husband work. We are you know normal. But I'm just saying >> you tradition you already changed the traditions right >> in some aspects.

[01:56:23]So you modified it to fit what makes sense for you, right?

[01:56:26]>> What if your family What if your family is always like nobody married and all that? Like >> I think it's cool to honor tradition and to acknowledge it, but that don't mean that don't mean that you don't >> change it up a little bit.

[01:56:42]>> I like classic cars. I like working on cars, >> but but I also like the modern ones, too.

[01:56:50]like it's it's ways for me to get to where I want to go faster, but it don't mean that I don't still like to acknowledge and work on old cars.

[01:56:59]>> The board is different. So, it's like you can't really make the same moves, >> right? But isn't there a baseline?

[01:57:08]>> The baseline is what I say. That's the baseline.

[01:57:12]>> That's not even like consensus. We can't even come to consensus of a baseline.

[01:57:18]What's the baseline, Miss Blue?

[01:57:22]>> I think Q touched on it before. I don't want to keep talking about God, but it's God, husband.

[01:57:29]>> Oh, that's blasphemy.

[01:57:31]>> Children.

[01:57:33]>> You won with that. You won with that. I >> I'll give you an example, Miss Blue.

[01:57:37]What if What if What if you get two people together and neither one of them want children?

[01:57:43]>> Well, that's fine. That don't damn.

[01:57:45]>> But what I'm saying is does the dynamics of what that relationship is change because they don't have the same expectations as a as a as a couple that want to have children together.

[01:57:58]>> It shouldn't be because their connection or their union with are within each other. Because they don't have children doesn't mean that it's different from the couple that has children. They still have a union. 100% different >> because they don't because they don't have the same lifestyle.

[01:58:14]>> I think >> I don't I don't need a baby. I don't need a stay-at-home mother. I don't need to consider whether or not she should quit her job or not in order to be a stay at home. Like, we don't have to even have that conversation. It's a whole We don't even have to buy a house if we don't want to based off of a growing family. We don't have to live in a certain neighborhood that we need to take into consideration the schools. We don't have to budget for the same things, right? We don't have to feed four and five people inside of the household. We got a whole another lifestyle. Why wouldn't you consider something different?

[01:58:50]>> Well, not the dinner ain't that bad if it's just you and your wife.

[01:58:53]>> 100%.

[01:58:54]The lifestyle is different. But I'm just saying the union is I want to be with my husband. I I don't want to have children. We are together in this family living this life the way we want. the the other family say, "Yes, I want to have children, but they're still together. They're still a family." Just because you don't have kids doesn't mean you don't have a family. You can still have a husband.

[01:59:16]>> Kids change everything.

[01:59:19]>> It does, but it's still >> for the better and for the better and the worse.

[01:59:24]>> I would even make an argument that marriage is more for kids than it is for people than it is for the couple that's getting together.

[01:59:31]>> Who said that? They reach the biggest.

[01:59:35]>> Didn't you recognize his voice?

[01:59:40]>> I just said >> marriage is more for children than it is for the people. Huh.

[01:59:46]>> I think the kids reap the biggest benefits of a good marriage.

[01:59:50]>> Damn right. Cuz you gonna be dead and they gonna get that money >> the whole life.

[01:59:56]>> The the point of life is to procreate.

[01:59:58]So it's like it's like what a of course kids we we have to build futures for our generations coming that's coming up. So of course marriages for kids but it's also for togetherness.

[02:00:12]That's what I see. If you guys just want to have kids all willy-nilly and don't be together with your partner, then that's fine. That's why we in the predicament we in today where people don't want to get married.

[02:00:21]>> But that's what they're saying though.

[02:00:23]That's what they're saying though. Kids benefit the most from marriages. Like your point that you're making right now, that's that's the point. Like children benefit the most. Marriages for kids >> because the point of what is the point of life, >> right? What's the point of life with life to have to procreate, right?

[02:00:44]>> Yeah. But I can't ain't you crazy.

[02:00:47]>> That's the point. It's written.

[02:00:49]>> My life is the point of >> Since my daughter just graduated, my life is better than that.

[02:00:53]>> True. Hell yeah. I ain't got no kids and life is >> bro. Do you know you know the [ __ ] I got lined up now that I ain't got to worry about man.

[02:01:05]>> The point in life is to procreate is to >> so I should just just go ahead and just off myself cuz I have no point to the rest of my life because I'm I don't have kids at 44 >> and I'm not having >> no >> you have your you have your ch We're talking about marriage and union. If you decide to be in a marriage because you want you and your husband decide not to have children, it's still a union.

[02:01:29]>> But he's saying that she's saying >> the benefits of marriage comes within for the children. I said it's not only for the children because if I have a a man that I we don't want to have children that does we still married. We still building a family together. We still living benefit the most.

[02:01:49]>> I'll be honest with you. I can't get my my and I'm not trying to be funny. I can't get my head wrapped around the fact that all the [ __ ] I'm doing for you, Miss Blue, I'm talking as your husband. All the [ __ ] I'm doing for you with the kids and you know the I bought the Nick hat for you and all that stuff and we going out to Longhorn State and everything. You gonna put somebody before me that you never seen before?

[02:02:19]>> It's God.

[02:02:20]>> It's an insult.

[02:02:22]>> Oh my gosh.

[02:02:23]>> You ever look at your husband's face when you tell him? Look at his face when you tell him.

[02:02:28]>> We not going to get down this God road again. We going to go to super chat.

[02:02:32]>> Please don't cuz that's an insult.

[02:02:34]>> Oh T. Sarwatch detail services panel thoughts on Russell Wilson retirement.

[02:02:40]He needed to. Saturday night's beater said nothing great gets done without sacrifice. Nothing. Secondary backup burner account says find someone on her level. She runs a law firm. Men on her level aren't usually with another alpha.

[02:02:56]Saturday Night Beater says you not going to go to hell for getting married or not. Only just commentary. Knicks equals 12 in a row postseason as of tonight.

[02:03:06]Should we call it early? No.

[02:03:08]>> Don't get too excited everybody. Keeping >> exactly Morpheus, >> is God taking a bullet for you if someone breaks into the house? Miss Blue, fellas, don't get married.

[02:03:21]>> Some good juoo.

[02:03:22]>> Saturday night beater says she would trust if that's the only man she ever had. Um, Daran 8720 said, "Miss Blue, would you follow your husband lead with no issue if he said y'all gonna live like amish people for a little bit?"

[02:03:35]Also, how are you doing as Spartan, Anton, and your funny dude with Mr. shampoo. Happy everyone is well. Miss KP says Miss Blue and not Miss Blue says a lot. M >> um my maiden name is Mrs. Blue. I didn't want to um is Miss Blue. I didn't want to put my married name because it's Hispanic and it's long.

[02:03:56]>> So, thank you.

[02:03:58]>> Okay. My bad. Mr. Loki 864L says 20some years of marriage and he still hasn't earned enough credit to be trusted. This is wild. Um striking it rich. Anton be asking questions that make a woman question her marriage. These probing questions reveal the truth behind the veneer of what women say. Nasty stew 6942 says let's go >> next.

[02:04:24]>> I can't read. I can't read.

[02:04:28]Says Mimi still need that 20 trying to buy some fish. Ken says you need kids to make a marriage a family.

[02:04:35]>> Mimi got fish.

[02:04:36]>> You don't. Is that true? You need kids to make a marriage a family?

[02:04:41]>> No, you don't.

[02:04:42]>> Okay, shout out to y'all here tuning in this Wednesday night.

[02:04:46]>> I do, man.

[02:04:48]>> Hit the like button.

[02:04:50]>> Oh, Cameron.

[02:04:51]See, >> marriage. That's a marriage.

[02:04:55]>> Yeah, people have different opinions.

[02:04:57]>> Oh, it's just a marriage.

[02:04:58]>> Yeah, people's marriages look different.

[02:05:00]Um, but let's talk about Cameron when he says it's bad time to get in a relationship. Let's watch this clip and talk about it. If you got a girlfriend, don't be embarrassed out here. You This is probably one of the worst times I have a girlfriend.

[02:05:13]You will be embarrassed, my [ __ ] Me and PT was talking and we was like, "Damn, that's that [ __ ] girl now, huh?"

[02:05:20]And and he claiming her. I don't know if the [ __ ] know who she is or what she's done with everybody else, but yo, you got to be careful, man. Cuz you know some of us, and I I pick and choose to be totally honest with you. Depends on what friend it is. I know some [ __ ] that be [ __ ] with hoes and like them and you be like, "You can't really tell this [ __ ] nothing cuz he'll get mad at you for telling him."

[02:05:50]>> Yes. Yes.

[02:05:51]>> Yeah. He'll get mad at you for being like, "Now you know she was [ __ ] with so and so so and so." Like, "How you know?"

[02:06:00]>> Yeah. You always like you a hater.

[02:06:04]>> Yeah.

[02:06:05]How How you know, [ __ ] What you think?

[02:06:08]I I just made this [ __ ] up, [ __ ] Nah.

[02:06:12]>> Oh, no. I talked to her. Then three days later, I talked to her about it.

[02:06:16]>> It wasn't >> Yeah, I told her what you said and all that.

[02:06:19]>> Yeah. It was It wasn't like that.

[02:06:23]It it wasn't like that, man. You know what I'm saying?

[02:06:26]>> So, I'll be like, "All right, I'm not telling." Then you got some [ __ ] you could tell you could tell them like, "Yo, you know, shorty a hoe." And you be like, "Oh, she a hoe. Word." And then they'll make the choice either, see, like me, right? I'll give you me for example, right? I I'm very selective on who I say is my girlfriend or something like that. Now, I might [ __ ] a [ __ ] [ __ ] might come to me like, "Killer, you know, she [ __ ] so and so, so." I'll be like, "All right, cool. I don't give a [ __ ] cuz ain't my girl. I'm just hitting it." Whatever. But if I'm taking that into consideration, then I want to know that information like, "Oh, that's what's up." You know, it's girls that that come to me, right, and and they're probably going to see this show cuz I'm still cool with some some females, right? And they'll say, "Kim, you've been leading me on." No, I don't want to use the word lead me on.

[02:07:20]Like, yo, why we don't [ __ ] around for real? Like, yo, we could be together.

[02:07:24]Like, and I'm like, yo, just have fun.

[02:07:28]Be together. Why wouldn't we be together? We getting older.

[02:07:34]Cuz you gave Sugar hand job eight years ago. I forget about it.

[02:07:40]>> What?

[02:07:43]>> What? Okay. So, is he right? It's a horrible time to get into a relationship now.

[02:07:50]>> I don't What is What is What is now?

[02:07:52]What makes now any different than >> I'm a case?

[02:07:57]>> Maybe the dating scene, maybe people's intentions, women's intentions, men's intentions. You know, >> majority of people got a negative outlook like Shampoo was saying earlier, like all you see is negativity. You hear it all day.

[02:08:10]>> Yeah. And so when I come home, it's >> rolling your eyes.

[02:08:14]>> Positivity. Positivity.

[02:08:16]>> When I come in my house, it's positivity.

[02:08:19]It's negativity too, but mostly it's positive, >> right? It's usually negative in that [ __ ] too.

[02:08:26]>> You the negativity, ain't you?

[02:08:28]>> Yeah. Everybody's negative, like you guys are saying, and they're willing.

[02:08:33]They put themselves in situations where they're either self- sabotage it because they feel like the other person they they don't really trust the person. They don't have Yeah. They don't have trust for that person. So, they not trying to, you know, put all their eggs in one basket. Everybody want to, you know, still have their options open and don't necessarily want to be tied to one person. So, >> cuz they don't trust.

[02:08:55]>> I agree with Cameron.

[02:08:56]>> The leash is super short, too. like people like anything could leave a relationship or step out now you got >> everybody's picky everybody's standards nobody >> when we had these conversations nobody ain't really looking for understanding it's just a bunch of like >> when he said when he said um in in the situations >> I agree >> but when Cameron said um oh I'm I'm I'm having sex I'm [ __ ] this Exactly.

[02:09:28]>> And all the guys saying, "Oh, cheap." He said, "I don't care. I ain't I wouldn't want to."

[02:09:33]>> Why would you ask?

[02:09:35]>> Yeah.

[02:09:38]>> Again, that's guys, man. Like guys, somebody tell me all that [ __ ] >> He know if he if he know he ain't gonna take her seriously, he don't really care.

[02:09:48]>> Yeah, but I don't just want to have um sex with. I want to do other things. And then protected sex with her. Now >> I don't know under the category of other things. But >> other things is eat clams. You like to eat, you know, you like eat >> I mean well he might not want to eat clams or I don't know. Maybe maybe he will. Some dudes don't even care about that. Like as long as they know that they ain't taking you seriously.

[02:10:13]>> You ain't no real man if you don't want to eat it.

[02:10:19]>> The back, the front, the top, the bottom. All right. All right. Thank you, samps.

[02:10:39]Like, I've seen clips where men said that they give up because it's like women out there using the men.

[02:10:47]>> So, what are people doing as alternatives then? I'm confused. Cuz if if nobody wants to be in relationships, everybody's just what?

[02:10:56]>> Just [ __ ] saying they are they just >> people want to be in relationships. It's the fact that they're unable to obtain them and maintain them. That's the problem. That's why we're hearing the complaints >> in the space right now to say and both sides is just stuck on saying like ain't nobody really trying to meet in the middle like well I'm just standing on this side.

[02:11:20]>> You can't trust it.

[02:11:21]>> So do y'all think the internet is and the more we modernize the more we decline.

[02:11:30]>> We got it pluses and it minuses. It's like it's who you watch, who you listen to. like you getting bad stuff going into your psyche.

[02:11:38]>> Yeah. If you if you're a girl, if you're a girl, we all got phones. If you're a a girl married or whatever, and you looking at men that you like to look at, you know what I'm saying? And then you look at your husband and he don't, you know what I'm saying? You start getting mad. You You will psychologically you'll say, "Damn, this [ __ ] ain't like these." Seriously, >> social media messes things up.

[02:12:08]Social media has a lot to do with um relationships. I think >> I agree. Social media plays a part. I ain't gonna say it don't play.

[02:12:17]>> It gives a false impression. You know, you look up uh uh uh I don't know how you use, but Pornhub and things like that. Those girls.

[02:12:24]>> Why you using that?

[02:12:26]>> I'm telling you.

[02:12:28]knife. You using that?

[02:12:33]>> Yeah.

[02:12:35]>> Not that.

[02:12:35]>> I mean, come on.

[02:12:41]>> I know.

[02:12:43]>> No, the phone be stuck to his hand.

[02:12:49]It's not a >> nobody nobody is is everybody >> look I think that the worst thing that a man can do is get so emotionally connected to a woman to where he unslaughter and he upgrades her from what he already know that she is like Cam is Cam is 100% right and the guys that do it a lot of times I think that they live to regret it But the the the where the game got messed up is that guys start getting emotionally connected to women that they wasn't supposed to be connected to in the first place. So let's say like we've already always known that guys like guys have been able to separate themselves from women because historically they weren't supposed to be emotionally connected to the jump off.

[02:13:41]It was like oh okay she just for the moment. I didn't know what the [ __ ] I had going on. Whatever. And then I I moved on. I'm not tripping off of her.

[02:13:49]The minute that he started making her his his girl in a sense, that's when the game kind of got [ __ ] up. So now guys that try to ignore, okay, she got a history or whatever and they try to make her or they trying to justify in their mind because unfortunately women that have kind of been around a block a little bit are the most fun. You know what I'm saying? Man, they the most >> they they the ones that's the coolest to hang out with. They the ones that get it. They the ones that, you know, do the craziest [ __ ] in the bedroom and all of that stuff.

[02:14:29]>> And you can lower your >> You don't know. You ain't never been with a You ain't never been with another woman. You don't know. You don't understand.

[02:14:37]>> I hear I hear say that the hoes are the most fun and they know how to treat the a man the best.

[02:14:45]the men or my my male friends, they stay treat men the best. They're the most fun, the most understanding.

[02:14:55]>> They make friends. So, >> so for for a lot of guys, not for all, but for a lot of guys, they stuck between a rock and a hard place. It's like, yo, I really like her, but I can't I'm not supposed to be liking her the way I'm liking her.

[02:15:10]>> You know what I'm saying? And so, but the worst thing that in his mind that he could do, especially if she local is to upgrade her and make her more than what she is, you know, >> thing they want to do >> because he like her, but he don't want to upgrade her. And that's when you start, that's what Cam says, that's when you start to get guys that start to question it. So, he trying to justify it.

[02:15:37]>> Man, it wasn't it wasn't really like that. like she told me what really happened.

[02:15:42]>> She told me.

[02:15:43]>> Yeah. Yeah. And so it's it it turns into something different. And so I think that people are just scared because nobody knows what they getting themselves into, but they like the person, but they don't want to regret that they got themselves into that situation in the first place.

[02:15:58]>> You hear about this whole >> place to be in, bro.

[02:16:00]>> And um and Jaylen Hurt situation, >> huh?

[02:16:04]>> You hear about this whole AJ Brown and Jaylen Hurt situation?

[02:16:06]>> No. What happened? So allegedly AJ Brown was smashing some some uh massage chick and um one of the teammates start smashing her too. Jaylen Hurst knew about it then didn't tell him. That's what this whole thing is over why they fell out.

[02:16:24]>> We listen we see women a lot of times and I hate to say it but as they evolve they become more fun bops, right? And so like like think about it think about it right? We see the deliciouses. We see the the the chick that Jaylen Green just got with.

[02:16:44]You know what I'm saying? We see Omaran's baby mama.

[02:16:49]>> You know, it's a lot of these different chicks that going and going and going and you you wonder to yourself, why is what the [ __ ] is up with these [ __ ] >> These chicks is turning these [ __ ] out. You know what I'm saying? And they they a fun time. They good for cool to hang out with.

[02:17:05]>> They don't ask no [ __ ] questions.

[02:17:07]They not botherome.

[02:17:09]You know what I'm saying? And so then it's like, "Oh man, you start to really like this chick.

[02:17:16]>> The key word is like." Like like, you know what I mean? Like it's cool. Like I like her. I like her.

[02:17:22]>> You'll be surprised. You'll be surprised at how many guys falling in love with chicks that they don't that they fighting.

[02:17:29]>> You know, they fighting not to fall in love with a chick that they not supposed to be with. You'd be surprised how many guys come to me and say, "I mean, but she got kids." But but I'm saying dog, >> she 20 pounds a day. That's your wet.

[02:17:48]>> You listen. I'm telling you, baby mamas are the are a hoot.

[02:17:55]>> They do.

[02:17:55]>> They are chicks that >> they desperate. kids with with K with with you know what I'm saying? They are so fun to hang out with.

[02:18:09]>> You know what I'm saying? But [ __ ] do that [ __ ] if you want to.

[02:18:17]>> Yeah. Wow, man. A lot a lot of my [ __ ] they complain about the women every day, but they get plenty of cheeks, but they they say they can't find a girl to be their girl.

[02:18:26]>> That's what I'm saying.

[02:18:28]Are they looking for a girl? They looking all reality. If you having sex with them Yeah. But if you having sex with them, aren't they kind of like your girl?

[02:18:40]Like, damn.

[02:18:41]>> Yeah, they are to >> Well, the reason that they are shampoo is because it's not like they not spend an extended amount of time. They talk to him on the phone.

[02:18:53]>> I'm saying so why bother hanging out together? probably they probably do. Um >> because I I know I never could understand that because guys get you saying guys get a lot of girls but lot of ass but they can't find a girl.

[02:19:08]That's the that's the girl that's giving you the >> I mean they say they ain't them. They ain't the one.

[02:19:14]>> Think about it. You got these these stars >> and these guys >> that I can't even say [ __ ] I got because I'm trying to have these conversations without like talking. I got neighbors literally. Some of my neighbors are [ __ ] the most It's like high paid athletes and [ __ ] They be with Bobs and they be loving them.

[02:19:46]Like real talk, I ain't gonna say the leagues or none of that [ __ ] >> You ain't got to get into all that, but >> Yeah. No, but they be with Bobs and it's like >> love too. Yo, Anton, because they be giggling. They be giggling. They impress >> because they don't have to put in any effort. They don't have to put >> They got they be they be efing.

[02:20:06]They be efing >> like they they spending time and they be having a good time and whatever. And it's like >> because if you if you >> the more they like her, the more they want to spend time with her too.

[02:20:19]>> So then make her your girl make the hoe your girlfriend then. And then stop.

[02:20:23]Don't I don't want to hear nobody complaining about Why would he do that?

[02:20:26]He That's where he's stuck. He's stuck between a rock and a hard place because he know just like Cam said, she gave Terry a hand job.

[02:20:36]>> I can't forget Terry.

[02:20:39]>> But you forget Terry enough to have sex with her. I'm confused.

[02:20:43]>> That's >> and floss her around and go out go out of town with her. That makes no sense.

[02:20:49]So y'all got the story, but not the title.

[02:20:52]He only thinks about him whenever he thinks about how much he really likes or anything.

[02:20:56]>> I can't make you official.

[02:20:59]>> If I make you official, then I'm the sucker.

[02:21:02]>> Yeah.

[02:21:04]>> There's a lot of suckers out here.

[02:21:06]>> If I make you official, I'm a sucker.

[02:21:11]>> Okay. All right. So, let's let's >> what I'm going to do every time I >> Let's use a real example. In order for in order to make these conversations real, we got to use a real example.

[02:21:19]Let's say Anton from antonaniels.com.

[02:21:23]I talk most [ __ ] than anybody.

[02:21:26]I talk big [ __ ] all the time, [ __ ] I'm the richest. I got all the money. I got the perfect life. All of this [ __ ] Right now, let's say hypothetically I was to get divorced, right?

[02:21:40]Cool. That would be a fallout in itself.

[02:21:42]Oh my god, this [ __ ] Anton, whatever, blah blah blah. That'll go away eventually. It'll go away. And then it's like, okay, so this [ __ ] on the market.

[02:21:50]So now you got all of these chicks shooting their shot in my DMs or whatever. Now let's say I get with a Bob.

[02:21:58]>> That's 10 times. [ __ ] if I get with a Bob and I make her official, >> you like official official. I mean a bop bop >> right now. Let's say I like her. Oh man, she a good time. She have she she Oh man, I can't I can't up with a B though.

[02:22:18]I can't officially pull up and say, "Oh my god, this is my girl. I'm hugged up."

[02:22:23]>> But can't but but can't present your present.

[02:22:27]>> What if I get with a bop that got three different baby daddies and I marry her?

[02:22:32]That that's that's that's it.

[02:22:33]>> That's L. They gonna put you on you admit that you fall in love with Bobs.

[02:22:40]>> No, it's a hypothetical situation.

[02:22:42]Yeah, hypothetically like Amber Rose is an exact example of that. Amber Rose, >> they telling you they they telling you they >> It happens all the time.

[02:22:53]>> Their wife bops all the time.

[02:22:54]>> See, look at them. They already saying we gonna clown you. I can't pull up to my homies and say, "Listen, man. This is my girl." They gonna be like, "That was Whiz's girl and that was uh >> all of these girls."

[02:23:08]>> Optics matter to people. People care about how things make them look.

[02:23:13]Can't have you can't have your girl being a hoe.

[02:23:16]>> And everybody Well, if everybody knows, >> you can't have your girl being a hoe. If if people don't know, they might if they don't know.

[02:23:26]>> If they don't know, she ain't know.

[02:23:27]>> Yeah, because you having sex with her.

[02:23:29]So, you don't mind?

[02:23:30]>> I'm not going for that.

[02:23:31]>> That's the way you >> No, I But see, here's the thing. I could I could hang I could be with her or I could hang with her. But I can't I can't be official with her.

[02:23:40]>> That's what that's what I said.

[02:23:45]>> Are you spending a lot of time with her having unprotected sex? So then if you doing all of that, then what's missing?

[02:23:52]The title.

[02:23:52]>> Well, I got a second. I'm not gonna get her pregnant. So >> still putting My point is it would still be putting raw penis inside of a hoe.

[02:24:01]>> Oh yeah, it sounds good when you say it.

[02:24:03]Raw penis.

[02:24:05]The views of shampoo is not the views of Anton.

[02:24:14]But it's still at your leisure. It's like on your call. If it's on your call, it's cool.

[02:24:20]>> But then no, I would have to get with somebody that's on my level or somebody that's >> with them.

[02:24:26]>> Somebody that's more familiar. You know what I'm saying? Like >> like if I get like let's say like Let's say for example I was to get with Q just hypothetically nobody would trip about that like you got with Britney Rener >> but if I get with Britney Rener it's like nah what the [ __ ] is this [ __ ] time thinking this [ __ ] >> take out you making it official with Britney Rainer and people see you outside with her multiple times. You think they still not gonna go crazy on you? I would have to call Anton be like, "Yo, is she does she got something?

[02:25:05]>> Yo, she got something on you." Like, wait, >> what she got on you?

[02:25:11]>> Is she blackmailing you?

[02:25:13]>> Not the guys. The guys gonna know what's going on. The guys >> No, the guys gonna be like, "Oh, you got >> But but it's not But it's levels to it, right? If if you if you went a if you with a national bop, you know what I'm saying? like somebody that's a national bop is somebody that's known got Yeah. Like a Britney Rena, right?

[02:25:34]>> Okay.

[02:25:35]>> If you get with a local bop, >> it's not as bad.

[02:25:38]>> But >> yeah, >> she can't be like she can't have kids by multiple guys. You see what I'm saying?

[02:25:46]Like it's >> evidence.

[02:25:49]>> No evidence.

[02:25:50]>> Yeah. Because I mean if people have kids there's no one can say for sure unless they have proof. Unless they got proof.

[02:25:57]But even if they got proof, as long as you ain't got kids.

[02:26:00]>> Yeah.

[02:26:00]>> Like we look at guys that get with them, right? The national bops and we'll say, "Oh, this nigga's just clout chasing."

[02:26:07]Or you know what I'm saying? Like they'll be now at this point it's kind of like, "Oh, he a nobody." Or >> I give I'll give you an example.

[02:26:15]>> We >> When we seen when we seen um what's del what was the delicious dude?

[02:26:22]Um >> Flavor Flave.

[02:26:25]>> No, no, no. Remember when a guy like she got she had got with married one of them them five.

[02:26:30]>> Yeah. The five. The five. The light-skinned one. The fat five.

[02:26:34]>> The dudes that the dudes that had got the lawsuit.

[02:26:37]>> Yeah. In New York.

[02:26:39]>> Yeah. So we she had got with the dude that got the lawsuit money.

[02:26:41]>> They not together no more.

[02:26:43]>> Every single dude that knew the gang seen that [ __ ] a mile away and we was like >> he he was in jail though. He might know >> dumb. He don't know no better. You know what I'm saying? We kind of felt bad for him.

[02:26:56]>> He was in jail. He ain't know nobody.

[02:26:58]>> Well, anybody that tried to get with Flavor Flave, I looked at them women crazy. I ain't gonna lie.

[02:27:02]>> But no, because well, guys understood the game. It came with the visibility.

[02:27:07]It got her own or whatever. And so we knew what it was, right?

[02:27:10]>> But the the guy whatever his name was, I don't even remember who the guy was. We was looking at him and was like, "Oh, you about to y >> Raymond Santana just came to Santana."

[02:27:19]That was his name.

[02:27:19]>> That was his name. And so we looked at him and we was like, "Oh, we see what this is." Like every guy knew, >> "Oh, we know how this is going to turn out." Then eventually he was like, "Oh, I can't believe it." You know what I'm saying? They got to taken advantage of and all of that stuff.

[02:27:34]>> It was like, "Well, [ __ ] what did you what did you expect?"

[02:27:36]>> He was in jail. He didn't know.

[02:27:38]>> What did you expect? But we looked at him as fool.

[02:27:43]>> You know what I'm saying? Because it was like, "Oh, he don't know. He about to get he getting caught up in some [ __ ] >> that he don't even know. He about to get >> that was a predator situation. She took advantage of him. Predator.

[02:27:55]>> He should have known better.

[02:27:56]>> He should have, but I mean, >> he locked up. How would he know better?

[02:27:59]>> He did spend quite a bit of his teenage and young adult years in prison.

[02:28:04]>> He probably didn't know who she was like that.

[02:28:07]>> But my point is that we looked at him and we said, "Oh, he fooled." Right? But if you are a person that got some visibility, you got some money, you know the game, you've been around the block, you know what I'm saying? as far as like understanding what the game is. You're not supposed to get caught up in that situation.

[02:28:24]>> You know what I'm saying? I I can't get caught up in that [ __ ] >> Not with her. You supposed to be.

[02:28:28]>> I mean, let's be honest. He shouldn't have either. He should have known cuz he had just gotten that settlement. He had gotten that settlement from um you know, the lawsuit. He had all this money. He should have known that.

[02:28:41]>> Mimi, that man got arrested when he was a young boy, >> 17.

[02:28:47]You got these athletes that actually are hooking up with [ __ ] They >> So you think the boy would have known better?

[02:28:57]>> He jumped into the big leagues instead of instead of going to college, right?

[02:29:01]He could have got him a nice cool young girl that nobody knew that got 300 followers on Instagram and >> and was rocking out with her, right?

[02:29:13]He liked the limelight. He liked spending money. You know what I'm saying? He felt like he was doing some big [ __ ] Everybody was warning him. He ignored it. And so that's when he got finessed. But my point is that in in that example, my point is that we'll overlook the thing that we know makes the most sense in order to justify getting with a person that we know we not supposed to be with. He's a prime example of that publicly.

[02:29:37]>> Oh yeah. Yeah. We knew that.

[02:29:38]>> Prime example of it.

[02:29:40]It was just a matter of time before she >> of course any woman would have looked at, oh, this man been in jail. This man probably gullible, you know, they he ain't probably been around fine women ever, you know, been around men. So, the first woman he felt like, oh, oh, you know, let me do everything I could. He got he was green.

[02:29:58]>> Somebody said AD sees himself as a B.

[02:30:01]Oh, I first first of all, I'm richer than your favorite rapper. That's a fact.

[02:30:05]>> Um, I got more emotion than all most of these [ __ ] that's out here. That's a fact. And I'll also tell you that some of your favorite celebrity females, >> we cool.

[02:30:17]I coach them sometimes.

[02:30:19]>> Some of the chicks that y'all worship, [ __ ] And and I ain't even talking about no bops. I'm talking about like some of y'all favorite actresses and [ __ ] We cool. We good people. I might even interview a couple couple of them just to throw it out there. So y'all, the problem with a lot of these [ __ ] is that y'all keep worshiping these chicks and thinking that they not regular women just because they celebrities or just because they got some visibility.

[02:30:41]>> A lot of these chicks don't even got they ain't even they ain't even got no money like that.

[02:30:44]>> They don't.

[02:30:45]>> They don't.

[02:30:46]>> Y'all got to guys got to stop worshiping women. And just because they got visibility does not mean that they not regular people just like everybody else. Stop worshiping these women, bro. They regular women just like everybody else.

[02:31:06]>> [ __ ] got to stop hating on black men that got money.

[02:31:12]>> I see [ __ ] I can feel [ __ ] fing up when Anton throw around all that [ __ ] money.

[02:31:18]>> I don't think there's a lot of men that hate on men that hate He only do that when they talking [ __ ] at the chat.

[02:31:25]>> I like I like to interact with the chat.

[02:31:26]I like chat.

[02:31:28]>> I'm saying do that. How do we do that to each other? As soon as you say something like, you know WHAT I'M SAYING? WHY was that?

[02:31:36]>> Well, I I look at it like that's another thing.

[02:31:40]>> I'm I'm one of the rare content creators to be honest with you that don't censor people. So when I even when I see people trolling, man, that's just chat. The chat do what the chat do. You know what I'm saying? like they a part of the show. They you know what I'm saying? I like to interact with the chat. I'm not going to censor nobody. I'm not going to tell nobody that they can't say no [ __ ] to me. I'm cool with it.

[02:32:03]>> About black men in general like like if I'm if I'm if I'm with somebody like like a friend of mine and something will go by, a car go by be like, "Yo, that [ __ ] hot." And he'll say, "Yeah, that [ __ ] hot, but I wouldn't have got that color." like you know it's like >> I don't I mean it's it's the ying and the yang for everybody that say I [ __ ] with you I [ __ ] with you it's gonna be another person that say I don't like that [ __ ] and you >> it's a part of the game I ain't tripping about it >> but but I I know that there's other people it's a lot of people that are censor blocking >> don't let them [ __ ] I'm I don't block nobody. I let everybody rock out.

[02:32:52]>> Yeah.

[02:32:52]>> So, I'm cool with it. But, but I do think that it's a to get back to Cam, I think it's a I do think it's kind of a bad time to get into a relationship because I don't think that people know what they get themselves into.

[02:33:04]>> Who is that girl he used to go with?

[02:33:07]>> The lightkinned chick that was on Juju >> Love. Yeah, she was fine. If we if we judge off the people, you know, everybody complaining, man, a lot of people like >> saying a bunch of good stuff about relationships. So, I would say it got to be a horrible time.

[02:33:27]>> But people though, they complain >> negativity is like, you know, that's what's happening. You know, >> they don't just complain about relationships. They You gave people a microphone and a phone and the internet.

[02:33:41]>> They just talk about and complain about they complain about working. and they don't want to work. They don't want to do this.

[02:33:47]>> They complain about other things, too.

[02:33:49]But I just said relationship cuz that's the topic. But >> no, I'm saying they complain about every I'm saying that. I'm saying people complain about every thing that they can think of. So, I think it depends on the person. Is it a horrible time to get in relationship? It depends on the person.

[02:34:05]Is it a horrible time?

[02:34:06]>> You think it's a popping time to get in a relationship? Think it's >> It depends on the people.

[02:34:11]>> It depends on the person. You have to find somebody that's equally yolked and people don't know >> though. Like that's a field that's like full of like good good rotten fruit.

[02:34:22]>> It's a horrible time relationship.

[02:34:24]>> I' I've seen this.

[02:34:26]>> You can see you can see a crack a crackhead woman and a crackhead man and they're a couple. They stay together.

[02:34:33]>> They love each other.

[02:34:37]Um, but I've seen a um a a show. I was watching a show.

[02:34:42]>> I was watching a show uh with Duski and they had this this girl. I I don't know.

[02:34:46]She was the only fans model and she says that she goes around saying she sleeps with a bunch of celebrity men and she still get these men. She She still >> That's probably Selena Pow. Selena.

[02:34:59]>> That's a She white.

[02:35:01]>> Yeah, she's a white girl.

[02:35:03]a total bop and she's still here though.

[02:35:08]>> I don't know why [ __ ] [ __ ] >> She's She look deformed, bro.

[02:35:15]>> Nobody take us here.

[02:35:16]>> She's an informant.

[02:35:18]>> They be I don't know what it is, man.

[02:35:20]These people. She look She look crazy.

[02:35:25]>> She be black. I feel like she blackmailing them.

[02:35:28]>> What's her name?

[02:35:30]>> Paul. She still getting these kind of men like these these rich men that uh rich and famous kind of guys >> [ __ ] be liking certain [ __ ] >> They be lonely. Them men be lonely. No.

[02:35:42]>> No. No. Who is the recorded? She outed as a rapper.

[02:35:46]>> She did Snoop Dog offset.

[02:35:49]>> No, but I'm saying them dudes be liking some weird [ __ ] Maybe maybe she'll go there with him.

[02:35:55]>> She out at Snoop Dog. Yeah, she she takes pictures while they're asleep after she finishes having sex.

[02:36:02]>> Had sex with with her.

[02:36:03]>> Yes.

[02:36:05]>> Really?

[02:36:06]>> Yes. Look it up. Yes.

[02:36:09]>> Oh my god. The dad was all over the shade room when she had post. Um Tekashi 6ix9.

[02:36:16]Everybody. Everybody. Everybody.

[02:36:18]>> Men's G-spot is in their butt. That's where Selena Pal get away from my butt.

[02:36:23]>> I think that's propaganda. You going to keep getting those men >> now men that like how do they find out is what I'm wondering.

[02:36:33]>> Get a what's that called? Prostate.

[02:36:35]>> I feel like it's propaganda that they use to usher in homosexuality.

[02:36:41]>> How would you be able to find out?

[02:36:44]>> Like there's an in between.

[02:36:46]>> Somebody put their finger up there.

[02:36:47]That's >> somebody told somebody put your own finger up your ass.

[02:36:56]>> The doctors will tell what >> put your own finger up your ass.

[02:37:01]>> No, that's how they get y to be okay with it. They want y to be okay with things back there, bro. I'm telling you, >> they trying to they trying to usher in that homosexuality.

[02:37:14]It's propaganda.

[02:37:16]Mhm. They trying to convince everybody.

[02:37:19]Oh, the the G-spot is in the butthole.

[02:37:22]So then be like, "Okay, let's try, you know, maybe maybe I might get, you know, you >> trying to make it like >> I'm telling you, I'm telling you, >> I don't even know. I'mma be honest with you. I don't even know what G-spot mean."

[02:37:44]Um, [ __ ] man.

[02:37:47]>> Honestly, got one, too. Let me see >> what what happened to just regular like, >> yo, I want to get my nut off and I >> like what? That's That's your >> That's too traditional, Anton.

[02:38:03]>> It ain't traditional for that. You got to lick you.

[02:38:07]>> No, no, no.

[02:38:09]>> Lick the butt. Look at Miss Blue getting a bottle.

[02:38:12]>> Is incredible. Why is that not enough?

[02:38:15]That's what I'm saying.

[02:38:17]>> That's why you can't go past a certain threshold because once you go too far, you can't go back.

[02:38:24]>> Everybody's >> I don't even know what that mean.

[02:38:27]>> Well, that's good. We know you haven't.

[02:38:31]Y'all know what the problem is? We live in a western society that was built by Romans. That's the problem. They was the freakiest culture ever.

[02:38:40]>> Europeans are freaky. And we have this Western mindset. That's the problem.

[02:38:46]>> Well, it ain't a problem when you thought too, Cali Bos. I thought that the G-spot was a tip.

[02:38:55]>> I don't think men have Let me let me ask a question. Let me ask a question. What is G?

[02:39:04]>> There's a there's Let me see.

[02:39:07]>> You said Gorg. I >> thought it was good.

[02:39:10]>> Gorg. No, >> no, it's a name. It means >> question. What does the G?

[02:39:16]>> It's the G.

[02:39:17]>> I know. What does G stand for?

[02:39:19]>> It has a stem. It has a stem on it. It's like a >> It stands for graphenburgg. Graphenberg.

[02:39:27]>> Yeah, he was a German gynecologist.

[02:39:30]>> See, German. That's what I'm talking about. European westernized.

[02:39:34]>> But there is it's it's it's like a it's like a it's like hard a little bit.

[02:39:39]That's the G-spot.

[02:39:48]>> He described he described this as the er e erogenous zone on the anterior front wall of the vagina.

[02:39:56]>> I told you >> on the inside but on the back it's like it's like touch.

[02:40:04]>> This is why it's such a bad time to have a [ __ ] relationship. Look what y'all talking about.

[02:40:09]freaked out. Everybody freaked out. More people should know where the >> G.

[02:40:15]One thing we learned tonight is Miss Blue like her ass licked.

[02:40:26]>> She remember that talking about the is the freaking >> You do like your ass.

[02:40:34]>> I'mma leave y'all with that. Yeah.

[02:40:36]>> Miss Blue, you like your [ __ ] lit.

[02:40:38]Miss Blue, do you like your [ __ ] lit?

[02:40:40]>> I I I am not a >> He's a man.

[02:40:49]>> That's all. Hey, man. Nothing wrong with that [ __ ] [ __ ] crazy.

[02:40:52]>> Nothing wrong. Reverse it back on him.

[02:40:55]Miss >> I already know. He said he would do when he was doing coke that he was doing stuff strange stuff for um >> coke make you horny coke make you horny coke make coke >> yeah he already said that he got fingered in the ass >> do some [ __ ] you never did before >> yeah see >> oh my god it smells bad it smells bad but I I like it >> you smell bad >> smell like a smell like tilapia >> what the heck so when you play with when you play with your butt. You smell it.

[02:41:31]>> When I was a kid, >> like it look like it look like >> not chocolate. Yo, he's a mess.

[02:41:44]>> Anybody else?

[02:41:47]>> Before we close out, no more butt talk.

[02:41:52]>> A mess. Let me get >> No more butt talk. No more butt talk.

[02:41:56]Mr. Board says, "Men have to deal with these high body counts. They may as well be a side dude. That's the win-win spot nowadays, I guess, if y'all want to sign up for that." No, but we do appreciate you guys here on this Wednesday. Um, go Spurs in five.

[02:42:13]>> No, THE KNICKS WON TONIGHT. HEY, >> you know what? I actually wanted the Knicks to win one game because I want the Spurs I want the Spurs to win their last game at Knicks and six.

[02:42:27]>> Yeah.

[02:42:28]>> Yeah. Because the Yeah. No, the fifth game is in San Antonio. I don't want them celebrating cuz it's going to be like >> like you know get injured.

[02:42:38]>> Don't let his his ass >> You know what? You know what I just >> No, you yo yo y'all point guard got injured. Brunson, whatever his name is.

[02:42:47]Oh, he's good now.

[02:42:48]>> Yeah, he's good now. He was faking. But what you said?

[02:42:50]>> No, he wasn't faking.

[02:42:52]>> He was my >> If he breaks any If he even falls the wrong way, it's >> on this bird. That's all.

[02:43:08]>> They was scoring. They was scoring when he was out. They was bang. They was >> They was banging. They would get more points when he sat out.

[02:43:18]>> Who knows?

[02:43:19]>> They still lost.

[02:43:20]>> Yeah, they lost because they had a lot of turnovers.

[02:43:24]>> But it's okay. Anytime the Spurs lose, that happens. They come back and win a game. Watch their second game. About to be good.

[02:43:30]>> Rich had that D like we got that D.

[02:43:32]>> No, when BA When Biana actually had six turnovers and that's not really like him. And he even admitted I was watching the I was watching. He admitted he said he messed up even though he had 20 something points, you know, but he did not turn when he blames himself.

[02:43:47]>> Can you imagine the size of that guy?

[02:43:50]>> Yeah.

[02:43:52]>> How big you think he is? SHAMPOO >> ABOUT 17 INCHES.

[02:43:57]A MAN.

[02:44:02]>> A [ __ ] tied up in his shorts >> as a Lakers fan. Lakers fan going for Spurs, too. But no, we do appreciate you guys.

[02:44:12]>> Tied up like a croissant.

[02:44:14]>> We appreciate you guys. They playing Friday. They gonna win. Um, make sure you guys hit the like button. If you guys um are interested in joining the panel that have not been on, men um ladies hit my DM panel, but make sure you tune in to the Millionaire Morning Show tomorrow and make sure you guys um follow these um panelists.

[02:44:40]>> Can I say one more thing?

[02:44:41]>> Q can be very rude to the ladies on the panel. Girl, I barely talk.

[02:44:46]>> Q is not even rude.

[02:44:47]>> I barely talk, girl.

[02:44:50]Somebody want to shout out anybody before we leave or your channels?

[02:44:54]>> I want to say something.

[02:44:55]>> Wasn't it somebody else that said they wanted to say something?

[02:45:00]>> Shampoo about to say some gay stuff. Go ahead, >> Shampoo.

[02:45:03]>> I don't talk gay stuff.

[02:45:05]>> Go ahead.

[02:45:06]>> Something. Don't you ever, ladies out there, don't you ever in your life, if you're in a longterm relationship, ever put God above your husband.

[02:45:20]>> Oh, um, I don't.

[02:45:22]>> DON'T YOU WANT TO DO IT?

[02:45:24]>> Move this. We not talking about that. We not doing that. Shampoo. God comes first.

[02:45:30]>> God. See, God comes first. You guys have a good night. Don't listen to shampoo.

[02:45:35]He's a heathen.