This is How Women Over 30 Ruin The Dating Experience

Added: 2026-06-02

[00:00:00]All right, boys. Welcome back to the channel. Today's video, the bad date was me. Bumble dating story time. For those of you who want to watch it once again without my interjections, you can find the original links in the video description.

[00:00:18]Those of you that are here for a rant, a bit of carry on, a bit of a laugh, stick around. Let's jump in.

[00:00:25]>> And you you guys know you guys know I am not a mean person. I am not mean.

[00:00:31]This guy made me mean.

[00:00:33]>> [laughter] [music] >> I'm not mean. Somebody else made me do it.

[00:00:42]Yeah.

[00:00:48]>> Hi guys. Welcome back to my channel. My name is JC and I have for you today another bad Bumble horror story.

[00:00:56]However, this is once again a story time about how I was the bad date. So, I've done one video like this before because I have been on a lot of dates and I like to tell you guys all of the crazy story times that happened with it.

[00:01:09]>> All righty. So, for any women out there who are ever aspiring to be in a relationship or taken seriously by a man, do not, and I repeat, do not make a dating blog, a dating vlog, which notarizes your experiences in the scene.

[00:01:30]Why?

[00:01:31]No guy will take you seriously. You are giving him a detailed heads up about your whole past.

[00:01:43]>> [laughter] >> I don't know why they do it. Why do you do it?

[00:01:47]Help me out.

[00:01:49]I've gone out with women before who have said to me, "I'm currently making a dating blog."

[00:01:55]I said, "Yeah, cool."

[00:01:56]Never saw him again.

[00:01:58]You know what that means? They're going out. They're looking for information.

[00:02:02]They're looking for content. They're looking for research.

[00:02:05]What does that mean?

[00:02:07]That means they're seeing heaps of dudes getting spread good. They're like to say, "Oh, I want to talk about my my mishaps.

[00:02:14]I want to talk about funny things or awkward things that happen on dates."

[00:02:20]Okay, you might have some of those experiences as we all have and do.

[00:02:25]However, what happens on the majority of these dates with the guys going out with?

[00:02:30]Clap, clap, clap. All this.

[00:02:33]All right, that's what's going on.

[00:02:36]And so, you're just letting guys know that you're going out on a high volumes, extremely high volumes.

[00:02:42]>> [laughter] >> I can Don't even get me started on this [ __ ] And before I get into it, I'm already ranting about something else.

[00:02:50]Don't get me started on the women that you go out with who will tell you to your face uh they hooked up with a celebrity or some big raid celebrity or C-grade celebrity. Don't care.

[00:03:02]Why do you want to tell a guy? The last thing a guy wants to think about is you getting your cheeks clapped by another dude. Even if we don't know you. We don't want to know about it. We know it happens. Don't tell us.

[00:03:12]>> [laughter] >> I get it now.

[00:03:14]All right, the standard Bumble experience.

[00:03:19]>> It would be not fair for me to acknowledge all of the times that I was the bad date and that somebody could probably do a YouTube story time about me. So, that's what today's video is. If you like story times like this or just hanging out with me, then make sure to like this video when you're done watching and and subscribe so you can join us join us for more fun adventures.

[00:03:41]But, let me just get started with this bad date Bumble horror story time.

[00:03:45]>> Before we get started, I also want to say one other thing cuz I'm going to go off the handle. I'm I'm to fly off the handle.

[00:03:52]I can already feel it. The blood's bubbling. The blood's boiling.

[00:03:55]>> [snorts] >> Look how fun and excited and revved up and engaged and energetic she is talking about this stuff, dating. Why? Because dating's fun for women. Dating is a hobby. I don't care what any of them say. They can say it's hard. They can say it's tough.

[00:04:10]Majority of women, unless they're the elephant woman, and I dare say probably a few of you guys who are watching me have gone and put away the elephant woman. Unless you're the elephant woman, you're going to have guys lining up around the block wanting to see you, wanting to take you out, wanting to be your boyfriend. Whatever it is, it is just the excitement's always there for them. Whether they agree with that or not, it is just the truth. Supply and demand. Women are selling something that most men want.

[00:04:42]And it sells itself. They're not even selling it. If they They just need to be there and not be completely horrible, and they do all right.

[00:04:48]>> [laughter] >> Look how much fun and exciting.

[00:04:51]Honestly, any guy sitting here saying, "Hey guys, I want to tell you about this date I went out on and I had such a bad time." You don't hear him talking about it all happy and excited about that. I've never even seen TikToks guys carrying on like that. It is hilarious.

[00:05:06]It's just a game, guys. It's a game.

[00:05:08]It's the It's why they call it the dating game.

[00:05:10]Dating addicts who seek drama, who are not capable of even being somebody to be considered to be a serious girlfriend or wife. That's just about every single woman 30 plus on the dating apps in my experience. Yeah, you come across some gems here and there.

[00:05:30]Got to be a bit balanced.

[00:05:32]But for the most part, completely DG, damaged goods.

[00:05:39]>> That is me.

[00:05:43]So, the story starts as they all do. I swipe right on a handsome bachelor. He also reciprocates. We communicate virtually, and we start to vibe with each other. And I like this guy. We're going to call him Raymond. Um he was handsome. He had his life together. And we were really vibing in the Bumble chat, you know, just kind of talking about our lives, what our interests are.

[00:06:07]>> What does she even know about the guy?

[00:06:08]He could have told her anything.

[00:06:10]So, that's what she likes, guys.

[00:06:12]He's got his life together. I ain't earns money. It looks like a stable, secure man long term. It's all about the dollars.

[00:06:21]How would she have found that out? How would she have found that out? She would ask him in the first two two questions.

[00:06:26]What do you do for work? What did you study?

[00:06:29]You might as well say, "Hey, give me your I don't know. Give me your bank details.

[00:06:34]Give me a screenshot your proof of balance.

[00:06:38]What it What is your total What is your net asset position?

[00:06:42]You might as well say that. Let's get to the point. Stop asking us what we do for work. We don't want to talk about it.

[00:06:50]>> up to the point of like, "Okay, what do we want to When do we want to hang out?

[00:06:53]When do we want to go on this date?" So, I'm actually going to read you some of these chats from this Bumble messaging because it's kind of like a good I don't want to say a red flag, but it was a pretty good indicator of why I should have known that maybe this guy was not a good match for me. And just reading these, they're so Oh, they're so cringey. Like I If you go back and just read some of your Bumble messages, how cringey you are, it is gross. It's gross. But, I'm going to I'm going to sacrifice my dignity and read these to you guys.

[00:07:24]So, we have been chatting and he had talked about how we really enjoyed >> Once again, sharing personal information on the internet.

[00:07:30]They say cannot keep information to themselves. It's the one of all It's the one point I'm going to make you guys.

[00:07:35]Never tell women anything that you don't want known about you widely and publicly because they're going to tell people.

[00:07:40]Don't go Oh, she's like, "Tell me something you've never told anyone."

[00:07:43]You're lying in bed just after you piped her down.

[00:07:48]"I've never felt this way about a man before. I want to feel close to you." If you tell you some some some lame deep dark secret.

[00:07:56]And then you're going to tell her something, something you wouldn't know one else and maybe you feel like you can trust her.

[00:08:02]You can't.

[00:08:04]>> cooking. So, I simply asked him, "What's your specialty when you cook?" He says, "No specialty. I like to try different types of things to improve my skills."

[00:08:12]And I was like, "Oh, okay, a humble answer."

[00:08:15]>> [laughter] >> Gross, I hate myself, you guys. You can't hate me more than I hate myself. I said, "A humble answer. Okay, let's say a cute girl with big curly hair comes over for dinner with Raymond. What are you cooking?"

[00:08:28]>> [laughter] >> He says, "Depends on what kinds of things this cute girl with curly hair likes."

[00:08:33]And I was like, "Well, hypothetically, she's a super adventurous eater and doesn't dislike anything. What would you make?" He responds, >> Why why be so hard? Say, "I like pasta.

[00:08:43]I like Mexican food. I love pizza."

[00:08:48]I It's funny, I got I had a I had I had this mate, still in good contact with him, really good mate of mine.

[00:08:53]And he used to I actually got this off him cuz I was doing it for a while.

[00:08:58]But this is what he he used to go and buy his scotch fillets, like bulk, from the butchers. And I mean the whole thing, the whole the whole scotch.

[00:09:06][clears throat] And then he would cut them up into slices. Um and then he would he would freeze them.

[00:09:13]And what he would do is he would make the same meal every single time. He'd ask a woman over and he'll cook her some uh scotch fillet steak, you know, barbecued with red wine jus and um mashed potatoes, easy [ __ ] to cook.

[00:09:26]And he'd always make sure he had some wine there, some red wine, some cheap plonk, you know, from Aldi.

[00:09:32]I guess Trader Joe's if you're in America, just the cheap [ __ ] you know, six bucks a bottle.

[00:09:38]>> [laughter] >> And then he'd make sure the heater was on.

[00:09:43]>> [laughter] >> Uh this is just taking me back. But he would make sure the heater was on.

[00:09:49]So he'd cook the meal, they'd have the wine, and then they'd go to watch the movie, and then she's hot.

[00:09:54]>> [laughter] >> Uh and you know what happens next.

[00:09:59]Uh >> Um then maybe some sort of macaroni and cheese with some wine, whatever.

[00:10:06]I say, "Ooh la la, solid choice. Is mac and cheese a red or white kind of dish?"

[00:10:10]And he goes, "Depends on what's in the mac and cheese." Basically, I'm trying to get the vibe of like I'm like, "What's your specialty?" Oh, I don't have one. Well, if you had >> We don't have a specialty. We just bloody cook [ __ ] We're dudes. Why what do they women they want to be wined and dined and treated like they're a guest to roll the red carpet out and cook you a seven-course meal. What do you hell do you want from us? Come over, get some mac and cheese, and get your cheeks clapped.

[00:10:33]Oh.

[00:10:36]I I This used to really piss me off on the dating apps dealing with these women.

[00:10:41]I've come across this very same conversation. It's just too much energy.

[00:10:46]Too much energy. They tell you they don't cook as well, but they like a guy who cooks for them. So essentially, they're going to do nothing for you, and they want you to be a slave. Now, if you do want to get some quick and easy action, you invite a woman around on the second date.

[00:11:02]You go out, uh you meet them for a coffee, get to know you, get the guard down. You know, you see if you like them, too.

[00:11:10]And you invite them to your place if you're comfortable with that on the second date, and you cook her the steak dinner with the mashed potatoes, and a few, you know, asparagus or something like that.

[00:11:20]Get the wine going, guys. You're in.

[00:11:23]You're in.

[00:11:25]That's the thing, too. It's like women can be lured by food. I don't know if that's predatory, but you say, "I'll cook you dinner." They're like, "Yeah, bang, no worries. I'm coming over."

[00:11:34]Don't even question it, you know? It's like having a a van that says, "Free hugs inside. Come inside the back of the van."

[00:11:42]>> [laughter] >> Uh women and food, you know, I've always talked about this. They're like little gremlins, you know? They always want some food, want something to eat, want to be taken somewhere to eat.

[00:11:53]Always fantasizing about the next meal.

[00:11:54]What's it going to be?

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[00:12:33]>> make something. Well, what do you like?

[00:12:35]I'm asking you. Like, what do you like to cook? Just what do you like to cook?

[00:12:37]Give me something, you know? Give me something here.

[00:12:39]>> You know, you're not letting You're not He said mac and cheese. I was like, "Fuck it. Leave the guy alone. Go over there and have some mac and cheese. Just be happy, all right?"

[00:12:46]>> I fast forward a few messages later.

[00:12:48]We're kind of determining when we're going to go on this date. So, I said, "Hey, I think we should go out. When are you free?" So, he says, "Okay, what time are you thinking?"

[00:12:57]I say, "Does 5:00 work for you?" And he goes, "That should be great. Drink, coffee, or food?" And I said, "Let's make a drink. We'll play it by ear, and if we have enough time, we'll get some food." And he goes, "Sounds good to me.

[00:13:08]I'll pick a place. What area of the city?"

[00:13:12]And I said, "Just pick a place.

[00:13:15]I'll stake your reputation on it. Choose wisely. That's where we'll go."

[00:13:19]He says, "Cool. Then totally no pressure at all. Haha. Do you like cocktails, beer, wine, or what?"

[00:13:25]>> See how See, see? She's not like using her brain because I made another video about her on my other channel and she just flips out when guys contact her.

[00:13:32]And fair enough, I get it. This guy's probably being a bit too She wants to be taken out by guys, right? She doesn't want to think. She wants guys to make a decision, fair enough. Most guys don't know this stuff.

[00:13:41]This guy's trying to be conscientious by asking all these questions so he does the right thing. Little little does he know, look at her face here. Little does he know that he's putting her off because she wants to be told what to do, where to be, and when to be there.

[00:13:55]Hilarious.

[00:13:58]>> And I was like, "Dude, I don't know. I'm easy. I'll find something wherever we go." And he goes, "Okay, my entire reputation on the line, I like those odds." Basically, I'm just trying to let you know that this guy was super indecisive with any kind of decision. I was like, "Cool, let's meet up." "Sure, do you want coffee, drinks, or food?"

[00:14:15]"Drinks." "Sure, cocktails, beer, or wine?" "I don't care, anything." "Okay, do you want to go here?" It was like, "Dude, just you're making it all complicated. You're making it all complicated." That's why I just wanted to read those to you cuz that kind of establishes the precedent. Now on to the first date. So, he finally picks a place, which actually there was more messages about it where he was like, "How about this place or this place?"

[00:14:35]And I was like, "My dude, just choose. I don't care." So, I show up to the place and Raymond >> She doesn't care. She just wants to be paid for. She wants to be a foodie call and she'll disappear.

[00:14:45]This woman's got a channel full of her dates. Like a whole channel. Lots of videos about it. Every every every date's a horror story.

[00:14:52]>> [snorts] >> Every date's a drama.

[00:14:54]It's a bit of a common theme, common denominator.

[00:14:57]>> is dressed to the nines. He looks great.

[00:15:00]You can tell he knows how to dress. He's very fashionable. And I was like, "Ooh, okay. All right. This is this This is forgiving of all of the indecisiveness."

[00:15:08]I was also dressed up, so it wasn't like super out of character. But, so we go to this restaurant and we had a nice date, you know, nothing super crazy. It was just kind of like a typical first date where you're still trying to get to know each other. Like, "What are your interests? Where did you go to school?

[00:15:21]Do you have any family, like sibling members? Sibling members? Sibling members. I do remember on this date that he was a little bit more reserved. Like I was trying to, as you guys know, I like to ask fun questions. I like to be really outgoing. And he would just kind of be like, "Oh gosh, like I don't know.

[00:15:38]I've never thought about that." And he'll give me answers for a lot of things, but I kind of just attributed attributed that to him being more on the shy side and a little bit more reserved side. So I kind of like peel some of the answers out of him.

[00:15:50]>> Are there a lot of women too a lot of the time ask too many questions. I think they and they don't want you to ask them questions. They go, "Don't you have any questions for me? I've been talking the whole time." Like I don't know. You just hang out with us. Get to know us, you know, organically. Let's not do 20 20 questions here or 200 questions.

[00:16:10]And they go in for the real serious stuff straight away as well. Tell me about your background. Tell me about your relationship with your parents.

[00:16:16]Tell me about Tell me about your last relationship.

[00:16:20]How long did that go for? Why did it end? What did you learn from it?

[00:16:26]What did you do wrong? What did she do wrong?

[00:16:29]They'll you know, they'll just go right in.

[00:16:33]I'm the kind of guy with the personality I don't like asking a lot of questions.

[00:16:37]I like it's like organic conversation, right? As things bounce and you move around and it's like a ping pong ball going around. You don't have a set a set sort of questions.

[00:16:46]I also found it strange to be asked very targeted personal questions. I know they're trying to get to know you but I just found it very strange and a very common thing women going right in for the detailed stuff when you when you don't know them. And I just either at that point I just make [ __ ] up.

[00:17:00]I just make [ __ ] up or I'll just lie completely cuz I knew I wasn't going to see them anymore because I'll turn them off.

[00:17:07]>> [laughter] >> It's like get straight straight to it, you know, straight off the bat work out if this guy is worth talking to.

[00:17:15]>> out of the ordinary on that day. I remember leaving not with like butterflies in my tummy or thinking like, "Oh my gosh, I can't wait to see him again." But more so of like, "That was a nice date. I think I'd like to see him again." Just a very normal first date. So, we're planning for our second date and I was like, "All right, homie.

[00:17:31]Let me show you how to plan a date. None of this indecisive bull crap. Here's how you plan a date." I said, "Hey, I'm free at Saturday at 6:00 p.m. Are you?" And he was like, "Yep, I am." And I said, "Cool. Meet me here. This is what we're going to do." So, I had him meet me at one of my favorite places in my hometown. We have a a couple of them.

[00:17:48]It's basically like a restaurant barcade and it's always such a good date place because, you know, you can go get a cocktail, loosen up a bit, you can get food if you're hungry, but then there's also just like a huge barcade and a bunch of fun games to kind of like get the competitive juices flowing, make it more of an activity, and that way it's just kind of like an all-in-one stop of a fun date idea. I also go there with friends all the time. I just like going to >> I've got a great activity idea. Come to my place or come to yours and we can get the blood flowing and get the vibe going.

[00:18:19]We can We can get the play the spread eagle game.

[00:18:22]Who wants to go and play [ __ ] mini golf? Excuse my language.

[00:18:27]I want to go play mini golf. Let's go to Got this place in Australia that's called Holy Moly and it's like a bar and you can play mini golf inside the bar or something like that. It's People go, "Oh, let's go to Holy Moly." No.

[00:18:40]I'm not 13.

[00:18:41]All right, I don't play [ __ ] mini golf.

[00:18:47]I just want to get you spread eagle.

[00:18:49]All right, let's just cut all the [ __ ] here. Let's go straight to the finish line.

[00:18:54]>> [laughter] >> So, I was like, "Meet me here. This is where we're going to go." So, he shows So, he shows So, he shows up. So, he shows up. Wait, go wait on. The [ __ ] So, he shows up again looking very handsome. This time almost too dressed up because again, we're at a barcade and I told him we were at a barcade and he was just like, almost I was too casual and he was too nice. That was just another random little tidbit. So, we're like, "Let's get a drink first." So, we're looking over the menu and I say, "Hey, I think it'd be fun if we got one of those big fishbowl things. You want to share one?" And he was like, "Yeah, sure. I'm down." And I said, "Okay, cool. Which one Which one looks good to you?" Again, kind of trying to get him to make a decision. He doesn't. He's like, "Oh, I don't care. You pick." And I'm like, "Okay, pick between these two." And he goes, "I really can't. You decide." And I'm like, "Oh my god, I already want to punch you in the face."

[00:19:38]Not really, but it was kind of annoying.

[00:19:40]>> Just finding a reason, you know? Finding a reason she said he's handsome, seems well put together. Yeah, indecisive.

[00:19:47]But it's It's hilarious to me you get these chronically single women just ripping dudes apart.

[00:19:54]Just pick the bloody fishbowl. It was your idea. Just pick it. Like, we don't know.

[00:19:59]If a woman was to ask me what cocktail to get, I wouldn't I I wouldn't have an idea. I I don't know. I don't drink cocktails and mocktails and all that sort of Just pick it. It was your idea.

[00:20:08]I don't I don't I don't get this. You know, it's being difficult for the sake of being difficult. But it also Yes, I get it. He's not leading. He's not holding his masculine frame and he's not being an alpha and all this [ __ ] But let's just be real here, right?

[00:20:22]He was just trying to be agreeable and she doesn't like agreeable.

[00:20:31]There you go. So, I think that's just the the hallmark telltale signs of women who have spent too much time out in the dating market.

[00:20:38]I'm going to find any reason to get the ick. That's what she's talking about here. The old ick that they talk about.

[00:20:44]>> So, we get our fishbowl, we drink it together, and now we're kind of like feeling loose, we're feeling good. We're like, "All right, let's go play some games." So, we go and play um some of the arcade games and I'm very competitive. I love sporting activities and I am in it to win it. So, of course I beat him at every single thing that we do. But one thing that was kind of Yeah, guess concerning was that he'd always point out how hyper I was getting. So, I'd win a game and I'D BE LIKE, "WOOHOO! I did it. Oh my gosh, that was so much fun." You know, as you do on a first date. Gross, I'm embarrassed by myself. But, you know, I was getting excited and he'd be like, "Okay, calm down." Like, and he'd look around as if I was causing a scene. And I'm like, "My dude, I just won at skeeter ball. It's not that big of skeeter ball skeet skeet skeet ball skeet ball No, skeeball skeeball skeeball. I beat him at skeeball and then I'd celebrate and he'd kind of be like, "Okay, that's enough.

[00:21:38]You're causing too much of a hullabaloo.

[00:21:40]Like, everyone's looking." Nobody was looking, my dude. Calm down. But, so that was kind of like I thought it was interesting how he was starting to point out that I was a little bit on a different energy level than he was, but no big deal, whatever. So, after we play our games, we go and we sit down, we grab another cocktail, some waters, and we're just chit-chatting. This is where like, you know, he puts his hands on my knee and like, we're kind of breaking that physical barrier and it's kind of like, "Okay." Like, my cheeks are starting to get a little flushed again.

[00:22:07]And so, as we're talking, he started doing another thing that I >> Don't get all high and mighty innocent, all right? Don't get all high and mighty innocent. That's the thing, guys just don't understand this [ __ ] So, I'm being innocent and cute. "Oh, you put your hand on my knee." All right? Last night, you were probably getting clapped behind cricket.

[00:22:23]Down [snorts] behind the pavilion, down parked down beside the nets in the bushes there, backed in so no one can see you from certain angles. I know what you do.

[00:22:33]You're down the local walking track.

[00:22:36]You've gone for a walk and the guy's bent you over and got you up against the a log somewhere.

[00:22:43]You're down the beach car park. Parked up beside the toilet block, reversed in once again.

[00:22:48]On a cold winter's night the rain no one's going down there no one's going to bother you. You got the Titanic thing going on where you put your hand up on the foggy window and drag it down.

[00:22:58]Oh, no, you put your hand on my knee.

[00:23:00]I'm so cute. Come on.

[00:23:02]Come on. You can't [ __ ] me.

[00:23:06]I'm seeing right through it.

[00:23:08]>> I didn't really notice before on our first date, but now that he kept doing it, I started to notice a pattern where he would compliment himself a lot and not >> [laughter] >> What I mean by this is I've kind of he was a musician of some sort and I would make an offhand comment of like, "Well, that makes sense. All attractive guys play the guitar." Or something stupid like that. And he'd be like, "Ha, yeah, that's not the first time I've heard that."

[00:23:32]>> [laughter] >> Okay, like, you know, no big deal, whatever. And then I said like, "Oh, what what are you like in high school?"

[00:23:37]It's a great question I love to ask. And I I kind of I kind of sprinkled in there. I was like, "Were you always this handsome and popular in high school as you are now?" And he'd be like, "Well, yeah, kind of. I've always been pretty pretty attractive." And I was like, "Okay, that was that was kind of weird."

[00:23:51]And then he shows me I remember this this is so funny. He actually showed me some of his >> She doesn't even realize, right? The guy is just he's either he's either got no idea, he's up himself, or he's stuffing around because that's something that I would say. She's fishing for compliments. She's giving you a compliment so then you give her a better compliment back. It's the oldest thing in the book.

[00:24:11]She's She wants attention. Uh she wants this guy to be some mysterious James Bond uh alpha male who's going to make every choice about every little thing um and give her compliments, too.

[00:24:23]And now she's going to turn into the green-eyed monster.

[00:24:27]>> his school photos and he legit was a boy that I would have had a crush on in high school. So, I was like, "All right, that's fair."

[00:24:33]But still not very humble of you at all, but whatever.

[00:24:36]But the problem is that he would never like return the compliment. Like, I'd be like, "Oh my gosh, you're so cute." And he'd be like, "Thanks."

[00:24:43]And I'd be like No?

[00:24:49]No? No? No. Okay. So, I just thought that was kind of weird, but again, I attribute >> He's actually fishing for a com- guy I would never give a compliment. You got to get a backhanded one.

[00:24:58]You say, "Oh, I like your curly hair."

[00:25:00]She says, "Oh, like what do you mean?"

[00:25:01]You say, "Yeah, I like how you don't take care about it. Like you're just letting it curl around. It looks sort of messy, but it suits you."

[00:25:07]>> [laughter] >> You say, "Oh, do you have a convertible?"

[00:25:11]They go, "No." "Oh, I just thought you had a convertible cuz your hair looks like it's been um you know, pushed around in the wind at high speeds."

[00:25:18]>> [laughter] >> Say something like that. Say, "You know, I like your nose job. I wouldn't Most people wouldn't be able to tell. I think it's been a really good job you got done."

[00:25:28]>> [laughter] >> Don't tell them they're hot and beautiful and pretty.

[00:25:32]I mean, how much of a narcissist can you get? Now, women say men are narcissists and all this sort of thing. So, she wants to go on a date. She wants the guy to bend over backwards for her. That's basically what's happening here, and she's not liking it. The guy seems clueless, right, to all the cues, but still.

[00:25:49]>> led to him being a little bit more introverted. You know, the more that we talked and the more that we played all these activities, I was kind of like, I think he's just shy. Like he's very shy.

[00:25:57]And you know, I'm not a very good words of affirmation person myself. I get uncomfortable with it sometimes. So, maybe he just like doesn't like compliments, doesn't like giving them out. No big deal. But again, these are all indicators of why it wouldn't have worked. So, date number two ends. We like kiss or something, and then I'm like, okay, like I kind of like him again. We're all good. We're planning for the third date, and the third date is where I become the bad date.

[00:26:21]So, at this point we start planning for our third date. We're messaging each other, and we plan for you know, Saturday at 5:00 p.m.

[00:26:26]>> Also, I want to say you one thing. If she's doing herself no favors, right?

[00:26:30]Say some guy who's very interested in her, and he's watching these videos.

[00:26:33]You know, put aside the fact that she's telling you that she cycles through a lot of men. But look how difficult she gets when she doesn't get what she wants.

[00:26:40]Doesn't get the treatment that she wants. And this is the thing I talk about all the time. Women cutting guys off at the knees for many different reasons.

[00:26:46]She's going to turn into a [ __ ] on this guy because he's probably what make it He's being indecisive and [ __ ] You can see him coming a mile away.

[00:26:56]But look at this. You You see what you're getting.

[00:26:59]You think she's going to be all fun and cutesy and all that bubbly and all that sort of stuff when she's your girlfriend? Only when she's getting what she wants. But you're seeing right here what you're going to get.

[00:27:08]>> [laughter] >> That's the thing, dudes. You need to keep your eyes peeled because women do slip up and they do drop the whole perfect girl act in the early stages of the dating phase, you know, the one they use to rope guys in, the old bait and switch. Every now and again they slip up and you'll see a glimmer of who they really are. And if you do see that and it's negative, like take that into account. Don't think it's just a one-off.

[00:27:32]>> So, Raymond just texted me and he was like, "Cool, sounds good. Do you want to come out here to my neck of the woods or should I come out there?" And I was like, "I'll come out to you." And he's like, "Cool, what do you want to do?"

[00:27:42]And I was like, "I'm coming out to you, you figure it out." And he's like, "Okay, do you want to go get food or do you want to do an activity?" And I was like, "My dude, if you don't make a decision, you're never going to see me again." kind of thing. And I remember I started getting a lot more annoyed and curt with him and like presenting that to him. So, I was letting him know like, "All my cats, my dude, make a decision."

[00:28:02]So, I show up for our date and he picked a billiards hall, which is a great date, super fun, but not that original because we literally had just talked about it on our date before of like, "Hey, it'd be fun to go shoot some pool." So, I was like, "All right, not that creative, but we did talk about it. So, this is totally fine."

[00:28:17]So, we show up at this billiards >> Why?

[00:28:19]You know what I mean? You're 30 Why we 30s or or older? Why we Why we stuffing around with being creative and running around like you're an absolute stunner 21-year-old? What are we doing here?

[00:28:30]Oh, he wasn't creative and he doesn't like Come on. Like way to shoot yourself in the foot. The guy doesn't sound like a bad guy at all.

[00:28:37]As I said, yeah, I'll get guys that comment, "Oh yeah, well, he didn't lead, G man, and he wasn't alpha enough and he definitely wasn't holding masculine frame. You know, he was indecisive and she wanted a decisive man." Fair enough.

[00:28:47]Let's get into the real world here though, where this guy is just trying to play his cards right.

[00:28:53]He's just trying to be You know what it is? He's being too nice. All right, he's being a nice guy.

[00:29:00]He's trying to keep her happy with whatever decision is made and so he's asking for feedback and women don't like nice guys.

[00:29:07]That's all it is.

[00:29:09]But finding [snorts] a reason, the guy seems like he's an all right guy.

[00:29:12]>> [laughter] >> But she's lost the plot. She's lost attractiveness for him as you can see here. You see the anger angry b i t c h behavior coming out.

[00:29:24]Fantastic. This is a great demonstration guys.

[00:29:27]>> They're in town and we're like, "One billiards table, please."

[00:29:33]And the woman behind the register, the bartender I guess, she said, "Um it's a Saturday night, we're kind of busy. It's going to be about a half hour wait for the next table." And we're like, "Cool, no big deal. We'll sit down here, have a drink at the bar and just hang out until then." She was like, "Okay, cool. Can I get you guys something to drink?" So I'm just kind of like doing bare minimum chit chat with the server. I'm just like, "Oh yeah, is it always this busy?

[00:29:53]Oh, it's pretty cool. Like you almost done with your shift? Oh, that's crazy.

[00:29:56]What do you recommend for a cocktail?"

[00:29:57]You know, just like normal talking. She walks away and this is where Raymond says something I still tell friends about this cuz I think it's so funny. He looks at me and he goes, "Man, you just talk to everyone, don't you?"

[00:30:11]And I was like, "Well, what do you mean?" And he goes, "Like how you're just talking to her. You just You just talk to everyone. Like do you always do that?"

[00:30:19]And it caught me off guard cuz I was like, it's not like I was sitting there like, "So, Tracy is it? Tracy, tell me about your life, your dreams, your goals." No, I was literally like, "Oh, is it always this busy? Cool, what do you recommend?"

[00:30:29]Like as you talk to another human. And so I was like, "Well, yeah, I guess so.

[00:30:33]I mean, I'm pretty outgoing." And he shakes his head and he goes, "Man, if I go the whole day without talking to anyone, that's a good day to me.

[00:30:42]And I was like >> [laughter] >> Okay.

[00:30:46]I agree with this guy.

[00:30:50]Have a look at it. Has to be center of attention. Has This just needs attention. Needs to feed off it. Needs compliments.

[00:30:56]How much work This is just a lot of work, right? This is too much work.

[00:31:03]>> Like Oh, so you introverted introverted.

[00:31:07]>> [laughter] >> He meant it in not in like an offensive way at all. Like he was genuinely like, "Oh, you're pretty outgoing. I am not."

[00:31:15]And I could tell that it was kind of like it was making him a little bit uncomfortable, you know. I was talking to a lot of people just not even realizing it. And it was probably a lot more social interaction than he prefers.

[00:31:24]So, he didn't mean it in a bad way, but I didn't take it very well because I was like, "Okay, so I'm too hyper for you."

[00:31:32]And then I started like doing flashbacks to like our other dates where Wait, he was kind of like trying to shush me when I'd be celebrating too much. Whenever I'd talk to like other people in the arcade, he'd be like, "Okay, time to go." So, that's when I realized, "Okay, this guy just doesn't like social interaction and I do.

[00:31:48]I don't think this is going to work out.

[00:31:50]So, let me have some fun.

[00:31:51]>> want to say, just before you guys were at the end of this video, for those of you who stuck around, she has a video that she made before this video here why I broke up of with my boyfriend of 8 years. So, dumps gets a long-term boyfriend, dumps him, and then goes to the dating market and becomes a dating vlogger.

[00:32:07]>> [laughter] >> In her 30s.

[00:32:09]Ugh.

[00:32:12]>> this date. So, ding ding ding, our pool table is ready. We start going to play pool. And you guys, for some for some reason, I just flipped a switch and I I became a [ __ ] I just did. I don't know why. I don't know. For some reason >> I don't think it started here. You're making it out like it started here and you flipped the switch.

[00:32:31]You don't just be that way and it's just a Oh, I I know what came over me. It's either in you or it's not in you and it's definitely in this one.

[00:32:40]>> Thinking like, oh, you think I'm outgoing and like being way too mean to you? Well, let me show you how much of that I can be. So, we're playing pool and I am just so mean. I again I'm terrific at sports.

[00:32:54]>> [laughter] >> But I was like beating him and I'd be like, wow.

[00:32:56]>> Well, you saw I guess she's got some knock qualities going on here. He insulted her and now she's turned.

[00:33:02]>> Oh, is that all you got? You bring me to a pool hall and you don't even know how to play pool. Wow, that's really embarrassing. Ooh, is that your strategy going for the eight ball? Wow, that's pretty embarrassing. I didn't know you've never played this game before.

[00:33:12]And he was kind of being like playful as well, like, oh, sassy, okay, you know, kind of like [ __ ] talking me back. So, it was like it was okay. But then I'd make a point to like talk to the other neighboring bar tables. Like if somebody was kind of close by, I'd be like, no, no, you go ahead. You got this. Make the shot. No pressure, no pressure. Oh, you missed it. Come on, man. You know, like making a point to talk to the other people, which honestly I probably would have done anyway, just like those little >> Super annoying.

[00:33:36]I'd find that very annoying.

[00:33:38]So, once again, guys, just demonstrating just how rude women can be. And I don't know why they've got this thing about banter.

[00:33:49]I know here she's doing it on purpose because she just wants to end the engage you know, this whole entanglement thing, this whole dating process they're going through. So, she's going to try and put him off and see how rude she can be to him.

[00:34:01]But women who also think this is a winning strategy, like um being obnoxious, just saying rude [ __ ] You say that to anyone with any self-respect, any guy with self-respect, you're getting cut off at the knees, you're gone and done.

[00:34:16]The guy might clap your cheeks in, right? He might bust you open, but that's it. It's going to be purely out of spite.

[00:34:27]Any woman who's watching me, which is not many, do not play stupid games. Do not tell say nasty derogatory backhanded comments and insults to guys under the guise of banter. I am stupid.

[00:34:45]>> interaction. Just to kind of make him mad. So, the whole time we're playing pool, I am just I'm just mean. I don't know why. I don't know what brought out of me, but I was just >> Cuz you Cuz you're not a nice person.

[00:34:55]>> all of these comments. Like, I think he probably made another comment of like, "Oh, I'm so handsome." I'm like, "Man, you just love to pay yourself some compliments, huh? You just love love yourself, huh? You just love yourself more than anyone else. Wow, I've never met anybody like that. It's really impressive."

[00:35:09]I don't even know why you guys Again, just know I was just being really mean.

[00:35:12]It was really bad.

[00:35:13]>> You do know why.

[00:35:14]>> So, we're leaving the pool hall and he was like, "Well, what do you want to do now?" And I remember saying something like, "God, have you ever made a decision for yourself in your whole life?"

[00:35:23]And like, "That's really mean. Like, that's really mean." And we end up deciding to go like back to his apartment to watch a movie. So, we're at the his apartment and he was like, "So, what do you want to watch?" And I was like, "God, I forgot you can never make a decision." He had said that he had just gotten Disney Plus and I was like, "We're going to watch the best Disney original movie there is, Brink."

[00:35:45]And if you guys disagree and if you don't say Brink, Motocross and Luck of the Irish are >> I've had enough of this [ __ ] Let's leave it there, guys. Thank you very much for watching. Once again, you see the end of this stupid [ __ ] story.

[00:35:59]Um Links in the video description if you want to you know, do some brain do some permanent damage to your brain.

[00:36:05]>> [laughter] >> Thanks for watching. See you in the next video. Have a great day.