I was rushed to the emergency because of bleeding | Filipino Indian couple IVF journey

[00:00:07]Hi guys, [snorts] good morning. I think ready in a minute for work.

[00:00:37]So far I'm a fresh So >> [snorts] >> Just curl my lashes.

[00:01:56]>> [clears throat] [snorts] >> Hello, good morning.

[00:02:46]>> What is this?

[00:02:49]What is this? What do you call this?

[00:02:51]>> Lip balm.

[00:02:52]>> [laughter] >> You always say lipstick.

[00:02:54]>> Oh, lipstick.

[00:02:56]>> I say lip balm.

[00:02:57]>> [laughter] >> What do you call it?

[00:03:04]>> You always say lipstick. It's a lip balm.

[00:03:07]>> Let's see. I just said lip balm and now you're correcting me.

[00:03:11]>> No, because you always say it's lipstick. So, I was telling you call this lipstick.

[00:03:18]>> I said the right word.

[00:03:22]>> I tell you every time. Can you Can you put less of your lipstick? I tell you it's a lip balm.

[00:03:29]>> [snorts] >> No, because I was just telling her that it's because there are many chemicals used here, right? To make the lipsticks or lip balms or something.

[00:03:42]So, I was just telling her that use less of these things for some time.

[00:03:48]During the pregnancy, you know.

[00:03:54]Just for the baby.

[00:03:57]Anything for the You look tired.

[00:04:05]But um most of them are safe for pregnancy. I searched about what I use.

[00:04:09]>> Yeah, mommy.

[00:04:10]>> I know you care about the baby.

[00:04:13]I also do my research.

[00:04:16]>> [sighs and gasps] >> That's very fast long drying of hair.

[00:04:39]Oh, 7 minutes so I'll just quickly dry my hair and then we're going to go now.

[00:04:47]And every morning prepares my bags.

[00:04:54]>> Work bag.

[00:04:55]>> My work bag.

[00:04:57]And my drink is here. He's going to go to the car now cuz he he has to warm up the car.

[00:05:18]Ready Ready now what?

[00:05:23]>> Ready now you know?

[00:05:25]Oh, ready now sorry.

[00:05:28]>> [laughter] >> At least I'm trying to learn.

[00:05:31]Ready now you know?

[00:05:34]>> Now >> Now okay.

[00:05:40]>> Now what is now? It's like >> Oh, you're becoming same like me.

[00:05:45]>> My god.

[00:05:46]>> I always forget what to say in my own language.

[00:05:50]>> Ah.

[00:05:51]>> Oh, I forgot to wear the watch.

[00:05:52]>> Watch.

[00:05:56]Yeah, normal >> No means no.

[00:05:57]>> No, I thought I'll tell you later once I remember, but right now I can't remember.

[00:06:02]>> the message.

[00:06:03]>> Wow.

[00:06:05]>> Yeah.

[00:06:06]>> I guess >> Yeah, update I know so I can weeks.

[00:06:11]So yesterday we were like reading cuz yesterday I was telling them that I was I was already on my 8 weeks.

[00:06:18]>> Yeah.

[00:06:18]>> But actually guys, today I'm 7 weeks 4 days but I I see I know I will not calculate that was I calculated it through like the pregnancy tracker and flow up.

[00:06:31]>> Mhm.

[00:06:32]>> I need calculation call so based on report call right now I am 7 weeks and 4 days pregnant.

[00:06:39]>> Mhm.

[00:06:40]>> And then we complained um I mean I don't complain but we ask questions.

[00:06:44]>> Yeah.

[00:06:44]>> Cuz in the report it says that I did frozen embryo transfer.

[00:06:49]But in reality I did fresh embryo transfer. So I was like we were like why?

[00:06:54]>> Confused. [laughter] >> Did we really do the fresh? Is it ours?

[00:06:59]And then And then in the medication it says that I am currently taking estrogen.

[00:07:04]>> And and progesterone.

[00:07:06]>> And progesterone that was your prenatal vitamins call. But then I we told them that I am only taking prenatal and progesterone. So I said should I be taking estrogen?

[00:07:16]>> [laughter] >> Yeah.

[00:07:17]>> Didn't you forget to prescribe me estrogen?

[00:07:20]>> like how they forgot about the prenatal.

[00:07:23]>> Yeah, they forgot about telling me >> They only started telling you about around 1 week before.

[00:07:29]>> Something like that guys when I was about to sign already the the contract.

[00:07:34]>> But it should be at least 3 months before, right?

[00:07:37]Or not?

[00:07:39]>> At least 3 weeks.

[00:07:40]>> Or 3 weeks?

[00:07:41]>> Oh no, no, no, 3 months you're right.

[00:07:42]>> Yeah.

[00:07:44]3 months ahead.

[00:07:46]>> 3 months ahead if you're trying to get pregnant. I mean, yeah.

[00:07:52]Yeah, so reply na pala sila, guys. Let's see what they say.

[00:07:58]>> Yeah, you can check.

[00:08:00]>> Okay, let's check what they said, guys.

[00:08:04]That was early morning I received a message from my boss.

[00:08:09]What?

[00:08:10]>> What happened?

[00:08:11]You received >> I mean, the group.

[00:08:13]>> Oh.

[00:08:13]>> In the group, but I was the manager in charge, so >> Okay.

[00:08:16]>> I have to answer, right?

[00:08:19]>> Not always. Sometimes you can just ignore.

[00:08:23]>> It was in the management group.

[00:08:27]I don't know if they complained about the rice because I mean, rice.

[00:08:30]>> Yeah, it's a little what? Crunchy? It's hard?

[00:08:34]>> Like >> It's undercooked.

[00:08:35]>> Something like that.

[00:08:36]>> But rice can be like that, it's fine.

[00:08:41]I mean, of course, if customer wants to complain, they're going to complain about something, right? So >> Yeah, but we have to train these two, so we have we have to ask what happened.

[00:08:50]>> I I mean, I understand every guest is VIP.

[00:08:55]But you know, there are some guests they are always going to complain.

[00:08:59]Even if you give them all they need.

[00:09:03]>> So now MOA and doctor is good morning, Fay. Please continue taking your medication as prescribed.

[00:09:09]I want to sincerely apologize for the errors on the errors you identified. I understand the importance of accuracy and apologize for the confusion or concern this may have caused. The report will be corrected by Dr. and attached to your documents when ready. Please give me some time as Dr. is not in the office today. She left.

[00:09:32]I like Sheila so much.

[00:09:34]It's fine cuz um >> I'll I'll I'll I It's always me replying, "Thank you." or something. So, I'll do that later.

[00:09:43]>> Okay, but I know this it's always different people or like it's auto >> But I think Sheila is his MOA.

[00:09:51]>> She's a nurse.

[00:09:52]>> I don't know, but it's always most of the time just Sheila replying to her.

[00:09:57]>> Maybe it's a different Sheila. What the heck?

[00:09:59]>> [laughter] >> There are so many Sheilas.

[00:10:02]So, it's So, it was the doctor who made the mistake.

[00:10:04]>> Yes.

[00:10:05]>> But he has to sign it, right? Or he was rushing or >> He's always like that.

[00:10:10]He's always going to make some mistake.

[00:10:13]>> Uh >> So, progesterone, yes, you're taking maybe estrogen or something.

[00:10:18]I don't know, whatever.

[00:10:20]But the fresh embryo transfer and frozen >> Yeah, it It's our powers.

[00:10:26]>> Actually, that's big big That's a very big mistake.

[00:10:30]Right?

[00:10:30]>> Yeah, because like you're you're going to start wondering, "Did they put in a different embryo?"

[00:10:36]>> Yeah, something like that.

[00:10:38]So, he's he's always like that. I don't know what's wrong with him.

[00:10:42]>> Yeah, I still like I don't know doctor cool.

[00:10:45]>> Yeah.

[00:10:45]>> I mean, he's he's still new to the clinic, cuz he >> Yeah.

[00:10:49]>> You You original doctor cool, she left the job and then he is >> He's the one who um >> Took over.

[00:10:57]>> Took over.

[00:10:58]>> Doctor.

[00:10:59]She was one of the best.

[00:11:02]>> They're actually all good in the >> They're all nice, yeah.

[00:11:04]>> except my doctor >> You're You're bad luck.

[00:11:10]>> Yeah, guys.

[00:11:11]>> Actually, he's he's okay when it comes to performing things. Yeah, he's okay, but he's not the best person to make you feel that >> Like having the doctor-patient relationship is not the best in that.

[00:11:25]He does his job okay, but like >> But you can see, right? How he does his job making so many errors all the time.

[00:11:40]Yeah, for the frozen or fresh embryo transfer, that's a very big mistake.

[00:11:44]What the So, you forgot, is it? You are the doctor for me. Yeah.

[00:11:52]You are the one who did that.

[00:11:55]And he's the one who planned everything for you without even asking you.

[00:11:59]>> Yeah, he he didn't >> Fresh or frozen?

[00:12:05]>> Like discuss to me on fresh or frozen, like which one's going to be better.

[00:12:08]It's a different doctor.

[00:12:10]>> Yeah.

[00:12:10]>> He's not my doctor, but like he works with my doctor.

[00:12:14]>> Yeah.

[00:12:14]>> He's really really nice. It was really nice of him to tell us like what's the difference between both.

[00:12:21]>> Frozen and fresh.

[00:12:22]>> And like which one's better, something [snorts] like that, depending on your situation.

[00:12:26]>> Like internal organs.

[00:12:29]>> Yeah, we don't have him like telling us those kind of things.

[00:12:33]We won't we we wouldn't like go like search about it much, right? We thought that fresh For me personally, I thought fresh is always better.

[00:12:43]I didn't know that sometimes frozen is also good.

[00:12:47]>> But again, I mean based on our knowledge and based on the things the doctor said.

[00:12:54]>> Yeah.

[00:12:55]>> Actually, it depends on your internal organs after the uh extraction.

[00:13:01]>> Mhm.

[00:13:02]>> So, if your condition is bad, they are going to op op you for the frozen embryo transfer. So, you your internal organs can heal and get ready for the uh embryo transfer.

[00:13:16]But for you, you are very young. You don't have any issues. You are all the the test were were normal, right?

[00:13:24]So, that's why maybe they thought that of course you are going to go for uh fresh embryo transfer, but the the other side of it is the doctor should always consult with you.

[00:13:35]Right? I mean, to make the final decision because it's your body and you decide what do you want.

[00:13:41]>> Yeah.

[00:13:41]>> So, they should always give you the options.

[00:13:44]But, he didn't even discuss. He just made a plan and he said, "Okay, done. My job is done."

[00:13:50]Yeah.

[00:13:52]>> Here guys, that was just like an official letter.

[00:13:55]>> Oh, yeah.

[00:13:56]>> And then he >> They're going to ask you to sign.

[00:13:57]>> He he also signed it. I think I I think he signed it.

[00:14:00]>> Yeah.

[00:14:01]>> And then if if we use it for like a different doctor and or we use it for like um anything government things.

[00:14:10]>> Yeah.

[00:14:11]>> Uh then he he made a mistake.

[00:14:16]Anyways, he's going to be correcting it.

[00:14:18]Luckily, we haven't used that letter yet the report yet.

[00:14:22]>> Yeah.

[00:14:23]Because yesterday I was just checking. I said, "Why there are so many things which are not correct?"

[00:14:30]I mean, you also noticed the estrogen and progesterone and all.

[00:14:35]But, then I started checking the method of embryo transfer frozen. I said, "What? I thought we did the fresh."

[00:14:44]So, did they inject wrong one or what what happened? I don't know.

[00:14:48]So, we just wanted to ask them question.

[00:14:51]It's not a complaint.

[00:14:54]Actually, he's wrong [music] again.

[00:14:57]Oh my god.

[00:15:05]>> [music] [music] >> Don't worry.

[00:15:23]You'll be good.

[00:15:26]>> Guys, I'm going to the emergency.

[00:15:30]I'm bleeding out.

[00:15:31]>> Just now?

[00:15:32]>> Yeah, just now. Last like um when I finished my shift I I was standing and then I felt like some water came out.

[00:15:41]So, I went straight to the washroom and there's blood.

[00:15:43]>> Mhm.

[00:15:46]That's fine.

[00:15:47]>> [music] >> Are you having any severe pain or something?

[00:16:00]>> No. Just the regular heaviness I was telling you.

[00:16:03]>> Yeah.

[00:16:18]Emergency.

[00:16:40]>> 7 weeks.

[00:17:23]>> 5 West 50th >> It's still the same, yes.

[00:17:33]Oh, yes. That's all right.

[00:17:35]>> Yes.

[00:17:37]>> Your husband would be next of kin?

[00:17:39]>> Yes.

[00:17:39]>> Yes.

[00:17:41]>> Is it the Rodeo?

[00:17:42]>> No, Singh.

[00:17:45]Yes.

[00:17:46]>> S-U-M-I-N-I.

[00:17:48]E-E-D.

[00:17:51]Yes.

[00:17:53]604 Correct.

[00:17:58]>> What about the second person for emergency contact?

[00:18:01]>> No.

[00:18:02]>> Okay, just in case you >> I mean, we don't have any >> No, but this way on your right, you'll see a waiting room there.

[00:18:12]>> Thank you.

[00:18:16]Well, let me just take a minute.

[00:18:25]Yeah, I'm ready.

[00:18:30]>> [music] >> Today, I'll ask you to wear this gown.

[00:18:54]You can ask.

[00:18:58]Just lie down.

[00:19:47]>> [music] >> How do you say your last name?

[00:19:51]>> Uh you can call me Faith.

[00:19:53]>> Oh, hi Faith. I'm Dr. You don't want to say your last name to the doctor?

[00:19:57]>> I'm sorry.

[00:19:58]>> She said So, here you are 7 weeks pregnant?

[00:20:02]>> Yes.

[00:20:03]>> And today what happened?

[00:20:05]>> I started bleeding right after my shift.

[00:20:07]I finished my shift at 3:00 p.m. which is a word.

[00:20:10]>> What do you do for work?

[00:20:12]>> I work in a restaurant. I'm an assistant manager, so I'm on my feet for long hours.

[00:20:18]>> Um how much bleeding was there?

[00:20:21]>> It was just a small amount at first, but right after the >> Like like this much?

[00:20:25]>> Yeah, right after the nurse checked my cervix, I had more bleeding. It was like that's fine. I don't know.

[00:20:31]>> Okay.

[00:20:31]>> I also started feeling pressure on my lower abdomen.

[00:20:34]>> Red? Like red?

[00:20:36]>> Red red.

[00:20:36]>> Red red, okay.

[00:20:38]Um have you had a dating ultrasound?

[00:20:41]>> I had an episode from my fertility clinic.

[00:20:44]>> Okay. Okay.

[00:20:46]Fertility clinic, which fertility clinic?

[00:20:47]>> It was a PCRM.

[00:20:49]>> PCRM, okay. And things were okay?

[00:20:51]>> I feel okay. This happened on Tuesday, you know.

[00:20:54]>> On That was on Tuesday. Okay.

[00:20:57]And was this an IVF?

[00:21:00]>> I had an IVF.

[00:21:02]>> Are you on medication, Faith?

[00:21:03]>> Medication last night.

[00:21:05]>> Does he?

[00:21:06]>> Yes, he does.

[00:21:09]>> Okay.

[00:21:10]>> And single then. Okay, thank you.

[00:21:11]>> No worries.

[00:21:12]>> And are you still bleeding or is it slowed down?

[00:21:14]>> I can feel that something is coming out again, but >> Okay. So, in medications wise, what are you on?

[00:21:21]>> Sorry.

[00:21:21]>> Medications.

[00:21:22]>> Yeah, what medications?

[00:21:23]>> Progesterone.

[00:21:24]>> Which just progesterone?

[00:21:25]>> And I'm taking prenatal vitamins.

[00:21:27]>> Do you have a specific doctor at UCSF?

[00:21:31]>> It's Dr. E.

[00:21:35]>> And other than the progesterone and prenatal vitamins, any other medications or medical conditions?

[00:21:40]>> Um no. Also, I forgot to mention that I have BHA, but it's also for >> No surgery before?

[00:21:47]>> No.

[00:21:50]This is the first.

[00:21:50]>> Yeah.

[00:21:52]We see the heartbeat now.

[00:21:53]>> Okay.

[00:21:54]>> Um I do need to do a pelvic exam just to see what the cervix look like.

[00:22:00]>> Yes.

[00:22:01]>> And then I mean, this is just a emergency kind of portable ultrasound we know that you're pregnant.

[00:22:07]We see the heartbeat and we know there's a sac still there.

[00:22:10]>> Yes.

[00:22:10]>> Um early stage we will order a formal ultrasound for tomorrow, okay?

[00:22:15]>> Okay.

[00:22:16]>> Yeah.

[00:22:17]As you may have been told, um at this stage in the first trimester, >> Mhm.

[00:22:22]>> there's little we can do to change the trajectory of the pregnancy.

[00:22:28]>> Yes.

[00:22:29]>> So, um you know, when patients do have bleeding in the first trimester, somewhere between 15 and 20% go on to have a miscarriage.

[00:22:38]But if you uh eventually just have a normal pregnancy, >> Mhm.

[00:22:42]>> um there isn't a medication or technique we can use to like stop something from going on to a miscarriage, especially this early in the pregnancy.

[00:22:52]Um but uh right now again, we see we can see the heartbeat and we can see the sac right now. We don't know what'll happen in the future.

[00:23:02]>> Mhm. Typically, your regular provider will get repeat um pregnancy hormones every 2 days just to make sure it increases.

[00:23:12]Right now, we see it on the No, no, no. You'll be discharged tonight.

[00:23:22]Uh there's not really any evidence to suggest that would change anything.

[00:23:26]>> Okay, I'm going to come back for a follow-up exam, okay?

[00:23:28]Thank you.

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