Real-Life Youth Issues

Added: 2026-05-09

[00:00:00]I want to be a millionaire at age 25, but right now the fastest way to make money, it used to be sporty bits, right now is forex trading.

[00:00:08]>> Mhm.

[00:00:09]>> One thing our generation is losing is the culture and custom of Anna.

[00:00:12]>> If I'm going to make a friend, first of all, I have to know how you think. I don't look at what you have.

[00:00:26]Hello and welcome to the maiden edition of the deep dive show where we talk about life, death maybe and everything in between. I am honored and elated to be your host. I am Cassidad and today I have in the studio with me my friend, my sister. Those who know know that we've gone way way back. Help me welcome Aisha. Hi guys, my name is Aisha Zlim.

[00:00:51]I'm a content creator and a medical student who is going through a lot, but I'm happy to be here regardless.

[00:00:59]Thank you so much. Today and this show in general promises to be as exciting, as controversial, as educative as possible. We are not here to give advice. No, we are not here to pass any final verdict or final opinions. The purpose of this is to be able to give opinions from the purest point of view.

[00:01:21]Considering today's topic, real life youth issues. I think most of our peers, most young people our age are even more tired than our parents. It's very very unfortunate you know and the flip side of it too is I think most over people when they get to the point where they can share the opinions most of the time it's refined. It's, you know, it's been fixed by adults expectations. You know, they've been able to live out life and come out with um dictates they can pass that this is the way, this is what works. That is not us today. We are here to share what it feels like to stand in the whirlwind. What it's like to be tired already before life even begins.

[00:02:04]And we are going to take this from the point of view of pressure, intrinsically generated pressure. you know the pressure to make it. Let me let you know that you the average millionaire or billionaire across the world is usually someone in their 50s apparently someone between the age of 57 to 61 you know and I came across a comment section and the comment section said someone in the comment said that's the thing I don't want to be average you know the world is saying that the average millionaire is 57 61 years old and this young this person I I didn't even have to check the profile I just knew This person is a young person and he or she is saying I don't want to be average.

[00:02:47]>> So while everyone is making it at 51, I want to make it at 20.

[00:02:51]>> 20. Exactly.

[00:02:53]>> How absurd is that? You know, and it's creating a lot of isolation because I believe this is the time of our lives where we have the grace, we have the flare to form friendships, to form bonds, to be real, to make mistakes, to form principles and values, to be young.

[00:03:11]But we are shoving that aside. in the name of aspirations which is not wrong.

[00:03:15]We are not here to condemn aspirations.

[00:03:16]We wouldn't be in school if we didn't have aspirations >> at all.

[00:03:20]>> But I think there is a need for balance there is a need for truth and there's a need for a realignment. What do you have to say Aisha?

[00:03:29]What I would start with is that most of the time the pressure comes from if you take away the take away external pressure >> and focus on the pressure to make it young >> people on the case of 9 to5 >> I don't know what is happening to us but it's like as we are evolving the youth is starting to resent and loath the idea of 9 to5. Why should I wake up in the morning at 9:00 a.m. go and work for the government which is not even helping me >> and come back at 5:00 p.m. come and f for myself and then at the end of the day the money I'm even going to get is not going to be enough for me let alone my family and I want to live a luxury life. I've seen this car on Tik Tok.

[00:04:20]I've seen this person buy that car on Instagram and I I I want that too. So why not me? Why should I go and then do 9 to5? So people just do not like the idea of 9 to5. So they want to find a quicker way, a shortcut, like an easier way.

[00:04:37]>> I 100% respect university students who um open businesses in school.

[00:04:45]>> I know somebody who started um a lip care business on her own. right now she has graduated but for now where she is and she's still going for NSS 9 to5 people I feel like um we can categorize this into three different types of people >> people who resent 9 to5 absolutely and do not want anything to do with it that is one two people who are using the 9 to5 as a backup plan so yes I want to be a millionaire at age 25 but in case that does not work out in case my plans do not work out I'm going to um university to offer engineering or nursing so that if it doesn't work out I have 9 to5 to fall back on and then there are people who are following in the path of 9 to5 aside 9 to5 they do not see themselves anywhere they don't see themselves in a private institution making their own being their own CEOs no they they want to work under the government because that is the life they know that is the life they were raised with and that is the life they want to continue that is the legacy they want to continue. So with these three types of people, it's often those who resent 9 to5 absolutely that um have the most problems about um financial pressure because why is it that we are all in school, we are all going to class, we are all being fed by our parents and you you want to you you want to like make it quick, you want to buy your first car at the age of 21.

[00:06:13]That's that's very ambitious if you ask me. But the the methods through which you go through to acquire that car at 21 if it's not your already successful parents who averageely have made is like 51 to the age bracket you mentioned.

[00:06:30]>> If my parents buy a car for me that's wonderful but I don't think at the age of 19 you should >> you should be you should be ambitious.

[00:06:41]Yes. But to the point where I am buying my own car at the age of 19 and you don't have any structured um way of acquiring those finances people can get into businesses. That's that's completely fine. That's respectable actually. But let's talk about the people who >> veer elsewhere >> due to accumulated pressure and go through >> I don't want to say illegal. I don't want to say immoral but side quest to acquire that money.

[00:07:14]>> I think when it comes to a 9 to5 I think people our age have also realized that it is um a way of having having your dreams silenced by a salary and you know having to trade in your dreams and potentials to work for someone. In that space it is understandable why you would want to veer off and do something different. But what we seek to talk about in this moment is how many people our age are being pressured not even because of potential that is going waste. what they seek to do has nothing to do with potential but the you know being confronted with the things they have seen online by pe what people do what people appear to be doing you know and this pressure most of the time pushes them to do things that again I don't want to say illegal or immoral we are not here to judge not at all but you know the fact that these things are things that are not defendable and they are not plausible And they are mostly not traceable either.

[00:08:19]>> Cannot be explained, unexplainable, out of the blue. I'm rich. And most of the time these things are happening at the expense of you know social circles connection genuine connections by the way you know they would I mean if it's left to connections alone someone would say that oh they are friends and I mean acquainted with so so and so person but I think most of these people who are veering off into these secluded parts are going alone have been convinced that it is best to go alone and they do this at the expense of genuine connections and the thrill the enthusiasm of being a young person >> and friendships people are just um I don't know I feel like for us these days a lot of people are isolated and even the people who do want to make friends who are open to make friends usually look for look out for people whose families have already made it in life >> like okay fine >> um friendships these days are more transactional >> than they should be. It's like, okay, I see you. I'm I'm I come to class or I'm in a gathering and I see this girl.

[00:09:34]First off, she's holding the latest iPhone. She's holding an iPad.

[00:09:40]>> She has a car. I'm making her my friend.

[00:09:43]She must have some She must have come from a very reputable background. Yes.

[00:09:49]So, she is the one I'm making my friends. I'm not saying it is wrong to handpick your friends. I mean, be very be very selective. Be very picky when it comes to who you make your friends >> because truly your friends make or break you. You know, recently it was Princess Villain's birthday and I saw how Jazella talked about the way she carries Princess carries her along. You know, it is very important to >> grow together. You know, find people who can genuinely help you grow. It is very necessary to be able to be able to to be able to be able to sharpen one another.

[00:10:22]>> It is necessary. Handpic them. Values should align. Principles should align.

[00:10:26]But the part where it is transactional only because of what they have or what you assume they can do for you is an issue.

[00:10:33]>> Don't even think of say what is this person's views on this or that. What do you think?

[00:10:40]>> I don't know. People just don't read these days. people have zero knowledge on um politics, what what's going on in the world, people are just that close-minded.

[00:10:51]>> And so if say I'm using myself, if I'm going to make a friend, first of all, I have to know how you think. I don't look at what you have. No, I have to know how you think because for me, I easily get triggered by conversations around like conversations that just do not make sense to me. like I I I am a feminist.

[00:11:14]Conversations around um >> you know um bias, u racism, sexism. I >> Once you share your opinion on something, it's a deal breaker for me.

[00:11:26]I'm like, "Wow, this person really thinks like this.

[00:11:29]>> Nope, I'm not going there." People don't look at that these days, they just look at, "Oh, wow. She's pretty. Wow. I mean, I mean, I have to find a way to climb up the social ladder."

[00:11:45]I know her friend is another problem.

[00:11:52]>> Does that let me I think this would be a bit controversial but let me let me ask that does that you know um make it wrong. I know people who only go to certain spheres. their friends belong to only a certain circle on the social ladder and they would argue that they are real friends but at the same time they are benefiting. Do you think this conversation we are having negates that >> this matter? It's like choose who you make your friends >> definitely >> but within you be true to yourself. If you are to get into trouble and I'm not talking financial problems, even if it is financial problem, what makes you think that that DB friend you have, if you are to fall into a problem right now, she is going to help you. You can have the richest friend friend and then you get into a problem and you you cannot even ask for help.

[00:12:53]>> That is very very true and that points to the increasing rate of things like depression and anxiety. I am reading right here that depression among youth is rising globally with 1 in 7 to 10 1 in 7 10 to 19 year olds experiencing mental health disorders 10 to 19. How do you explain this? I think that points to a lack of genuine connection. It is not wrong again as you've been hammering to handpick your friends or you know choose who comes into your circle. But I think as young this is a time and the prime of our life where we give ourselves room to form such emotional connections to form mental connections to have people to fall on to have people to speak to. It is I think it's very alarming how so much of our lives is revolving around the pressure to make it off of an idea someone sold to us. And you know it's very interesting when you realize people are not even looking into the truth or the reality of it. It is only it is mostly just an idea that has been sold to us.

[00:13:53]>> Mhm.

[00:13:54]>> Almost all the time unexplainable. They try to explain it and you look at it and it's not adding up.

[00:14:01]>> Like it's really not adding up. This person comes to the internet all of a sudden boom very rich and then goes for an interview. So how how did you start?

[00:14:12]How was your journey? And you listen and you're like this is not adding up like at all. most of the time unexplainable.

[00:14:19]But the fact that oh no this person has made it I am also going to make it at this particular at this specific age that's pressure you see young boys going into right now the the I don't want to call it a trend but right now the fastest way to make money it used to be sporty bets right now is forex trading >> you just see people I mean you see a young boy I'm I'm a forex trader to the extent where people want to drop out of school to focus on forex trading. Now mind you, I have no knowledge on forex trading. I do not know how it works. All I know is that there are good market days, there are bad market days. I don't understand the basics. I don't know anything about candlesticks whatever.

[00:15:06]>> But what I do know is that nothing is promised and nothing is permanent.

[00:15:11]>> It's very interesting how people are willing to put, you know, forgo what is for the idea of what could be. It is very very very intriguing. This reminds me of a story of a young boy I know personally who came into contact with this person. I mean I think um because he was young the idea of betting was a bit too strong for him. So what the person was able to lure him with was forex. And mind you I also have no idea and I do not think it is illegal in and of itself.

[00:15:43]>> No. But I think what we are seeing is to bress the fact that there is time there is space and the people in our day and age are not giving room for growth to happen and we are rushing into things that we have no idea about. That is the import of what we are trying to talk about and the import of the story I'm about to tell. So this boy is now about 16. So when it was happening, he was about 15 actually and he he came into contact with this person who is supposed to be a middleman. Middleman for who?

[00:16:15]Middleman for what? I have no idea.

[00:16:17]>> Forex.

[00:16:18]>> Yes.

[00:16:20]But he claimed he was a middleman. And my um this boy's money was going into an investment. So it started off with his money for school. You know the people who told me ma made an observation that he was barely eating barely eating >> just get water and die.

[00:16:39]>> He was saving in large amount and this money was going to the middleman. Then from there this middleman felt like it wasn't enough. The investment needed more. So he graduated to his parents' purses.

[00:16:54]>> Theft.

[00:16:55]>> Theft. Basic theft. And when he realized he couldn't cover up the inconsistencies anymore, he started calling relatives abroad >> begging.

[00:17:04]>> But because he was young, it was very traceable. And we thank God for responsible adults. So they called his parents and they made inquiries because they do not expect that this young boy would need such amount of money knowing he's well taken care of. So under pressure, he now broke out and confessed what was happening. You know, I do not think that it is wrong to have money at any age. And I mean, the fact that we stated that the average millionaire is between 57 61 years old does not negate the fact that there are young people who are successful.

[00:17:39]>> I want to be successful as early as possible. You know, it would be great to have the length and birth of your life figured out very early on so you could really enjoy, you know, the fruit of your labor. Get to enjoy your if there's marriage in the picture, enjoy it. Leave our kids in the picture. Enjoy it.

[00:17:55]That's great. But what we seek to highlight is how people are going to the extremes. The extremes of your mental health, the extremes of social and emotional genuine connections, the extremes of um a police record, you know, dillydallying with a police record in the name of making it.

[00:18:14]It's it's really alarming these days how I don't want to really talk about the influence of social media because then I would be sounding like my mom >> but like >> it's like let's let's call a speed a speed. Social media has its ups and downs.

[00:18:34]>> And of late I've been seeing a lot of downs >> because it's like wow I just I just I just log into Tik Tok right now and I see this girl with this wig. I'm like, "So, why don't I have this wig, too?"

[00:18:47]Because we are literally age mates. We came from the same place. Why do you have this wig and I don't have a wig? I have to find a way to get this wig.

[00:18:55]Hello, mommy. I want this wig. No.

[00:18:56]Hello, daddy. I want this wig. No. Now, my parents are not getting me the wig. I have to find a way to get it for myself.

[00:19:04]And then some some people will open businesses. Perfect. I respect that. But somebody too or you know and you know you realize that a lot of these a lot of this pressure we are generating is very much in sync with trends and they come and go. You realize that a lot of times I the psychology of trends the moment you get your hands on what is trending you realize it's very easy to put that same thing down.

[00:19:32]>> Stanley cup >> I was just about to talk about it. You know we are making reference to very light things very simple things you know but you realize that these are the things that are shaping us we are being raised by the media and it's going to look as though we are or we want to be trendy but the long in the long term and for the long-term impact you realize that we never have as we are growing we are not going to have things that are of value to us things that we can say are grounded things that are meaningful to us because we are driven and tossed by every wind of trends you know and these trends are pushing us to do things that we would not otherwise do >> you know now let's move away from trends and how flimsy they can be sometimes and come to one real issue before we end our talk to on this issue one real thing is I think many young people are trying to break away from parental influence you know and one way to break away from parental influence the emotional mental trauma of living with some African parents. One way to do that is to have your own money.

[00:20:43]>> Yeah. Because if I am basically some some parents make it seem okay, I brought you here and I'm taking care of you. So more or less you owe me your life. You you should do what I say because why won't you do what I say? I am taking care of you. You shouldn't have >> thoughts of your own. You're just a child. So it's like okay fine if is because you are providing for me that you think I should be living for you then perhaps I should provide for myself >> and I think this is the same connection we see with the 9 to5 you know we are a lot of and it's not even about the African child I think in the world at large many children are being forced to live out the dreams the insufficiencies the incapabilities of their parents that does not in any way negate the responsibility and the backbending work a lot of parents are doing. Single parents, couples, name it. I think it is very important. One thing our generation is losing is the culture and custom of honor. We are treading into some very disrespectful spaces and that is not what we seek to do. I think parents have stopped hearing thank you altogether, >> thank you, I appreciate you since the have ended, you know, and it is down to outright back and forth. But there needs to be a balance. I do not think that anybody owes their life to anybody and that fortunately and unfortunately includes parents.

[00:22:09]>> It's it's it's it's a it's a situation of let's try to understand each other.

[00:22:15]>> Yes, you are my mother. You are my father.

[00:22:19]>> You speak to me then I I I mean I get it >> but then I also tell you hear me out.

[00:22:25]That is the problem. Hear me out. Most I don't should I limit it to Africa? They are just like okay you are a child you don't know anything so keep quiet and then hear me out seems to become you are disrespectful you are talking back sometimes yes it it it gets to a point it gets to a point but then other times their children actually just want to be understood by the parents. It's one thing to love your child to want the best for your child and it's another to go through all extremes. Let me give an example. So let's say when I was young I I always wanted to be a doctor and due to certain circumstances I wasn't able to be a doctor. be it financial, be it whatever it may be, I wasn't able to be a doctor.

[00:23:16]>> And then I get um my own child, a do a a daughter or a son.

[00:23:21]>> I'm like wow. So I wasn't able to be a doctor. And from the way I'm looking at things, a doctor is such a reputable profession. So this my son, you will you will be a doctor whether you like it or not. because I have I know what I have seen perhaps I have seen how doctors are being um revered among other professions and then I want the best for my child but the child does not want to be a doctor and it becomes a problem so it's like I have lived longer I have experience so I'm telling you be a doctor and you are saying I know my capabilities I will not be able to do these things >> exactly and you know one thing is the existence of there can be two truths in a situation. Your experience is just I believe that the experience of parents is just as valid as the opinions of a child. And most of the times shutting these things down is what walks many people down paths of pence down trauma >> depression.

[00:24:22]>> Depression, anxiety, loneliness. You know it is I I do not think it is right anywhere to force your child into a life they do not want to live simply because you think it was a shortcoming or a hurdle you couldn't jump because it is shutting down the dreams and their ambitions of so many young people >> skills very from the soft ones to the very hard technical skills you know pushing them into that thing sometimes having to rewire their entire mindset it's it's a it's a form of bonding age if you would even put it that way and I think this is a place where balance comes to play. Do we are we in any way negating the importance of council? No.

[00:25:04]Nope.

[00:25:05]>> I think experience is necessary. Exper the experience they give us um I think makes it easier to avoid certain paths they may have walked that did not end up well for them. But what we seek to drive through this conversation is the need for balance because in the end no one really owes anyone their lives.

[00:25:25]>> Nope.

[00:25:25]>> And it is very important. I have heard parents say I know you but do you really know them?

[00:25:31]>> Do you really? Because sometimes even I don't know myself >> exactly >> until you are faced with a challenge.

[00:25:39]You do not even know that oh you can do this, you can do that. So it's really funny when you hear somebody say I know I know what you can do I know what you cannot do.

[00:25:53]>> So it's it's >> there is a need for encouragement there is a need for experts guidance and you know even in the paths we may claim we want to walk we still subject ourselves to um you know counselors and um you know trainees we subject ourselves willingly to them. So this is not in any way to um sort of water down the need for these things. But I think there is a need for balance. There is a need for um you know just hearing people and genuinely listening. I think one thing African parents do too is they do not listen. They do not listen just for listening. They are listening to argue to counteract to fight back. Exactly. In your arguments and I think fails. I put you in my belly for 9 months. So you should do as I say.

[00:26:43]>> I think that is very wrong. That is out of place. We are in a dispensation of knowledge, of skill, of talent. That is willingly being refined for our own good. It is not the best to skip process. It is not the best to skip refining. Even nature teaches us that the best of things go through some refinery through some process and it is wrong to want to skip that process in the name of trends that come and go. We are against that. But you know we are not against the need for guidance for expert guidance for >> sometimes even the story of an experience to shape your opinions. We are not against that at all. But our society is devoid of balance and we seek to bring that back. This has been the deep dive show. We are honored to have been your host and your guest today.

[00:27:43]Hope to see you on our next episode.

[00:27:45]Again, I have been ced with >> Aisha Zlim.

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