Trauma Bonds

Added: 2026-05-23

[00:00:00]When the narcissist discards you or you discard them because you can't take it anymore, you go through severe withdrawal symptoms. The feeling is compared to when a drug addict is in recovery from drugs and quits and goes cold turkey. However, that pull you feel for your narcissist is very strong, just like a drug addict that was once in recovery has a setback, they go back to using. You do the same and you go back to your abuser. They know the drug is toxic, just as we know our narc is toxic, but that pull is so seductive and strong that it overpowers us. Often, when we are lured into contacting them or they Hoover us and in a moment of weakness, we go back. This pull feels like a defeat. You don't know what to do with yourself. You want to reach out so bad, but you also want to make it go away.