ASMR | For people who struggle with stress and anxiety

Added: 2026-05-11

[00:00:08]Hello and welcome welcome welcome to this new new video.

[00:00:30]I hope you're doing well.

[00:00:34]I hope you're doing very, very well.

[00:00:42]But if you're not, that is completely okay.

[00:00:52]It is okay.

[00:00:58]to not be okay.

[00:01:05]I wanted to make this video for people who struggle with stress, anxiety, overthinking, panic attacks because I've gotten a few comments from people who have shared that this period of their lives or this time of the year has been very stressful for them.

[00:02:08]So, if you're one of those people or you just need a space to relax and center yourself, this is for you.

[00:02:31]So, Before I talk any further, I think we should do some deep breaths.

[00:02:46]Okay.

[00:02:49]Ready.

[00:02:57]Out.

[00:03:06]In.

[00:03:12]Out.

[00:03:19]In out.

[00:03:39]I hope that that little breathing session has helped you relax at least a tiny bit.

[00:04:00]But if not, that's okay.

[00:04:05]I know that it can be very hard to relax and feel calm when things don't feel calm in your life.

[00:04:25]I've struggled with anxiety for most of my life.

[00:04:35]really all of it.

[00:04:39]So I know that feeling that feeling that things will never be okay.

[00:04:54]That we will always be stressed.

[00:05:01]We will always be worried or scared.

[00:05:16]But I want you to know that everything is going to be okay.

[00:05:28]Everything is going to be okay.

[00:05:44]I remember vividly when I had my first panic attack.

[00:05:54]It seemingly came out of nowhere, but it was triggered by a specific situation.

[00:06:10]I struggle mostly with social anxiety and in this situation.

[00:06:25]I was in college and college was when I was struggling the most.

[00:06:35]It was during the pandemic and I was walking to my dorm room with a plate of food.

[00:06:58]And there was a family of three walking in the opposite direction.

[00:07:10]And what I wanted most was for them to walk right past me.

[00:07:22]But of course, my fear was confirmed and they approached me and asked me for directions.

[00:07:45]I immediately struggled to breathe.

[00:07:52]to regulate my breath.

[00:07:58]My heart rate increased.

[00:08:03]I started to sweat.

[00:08:10]I started to tremble.

[00:08:16]And I had never felt so bad in my life.

[00:08:25]I just wanted to disappear.

[00:08:34]And that situation was kind of the straw that brought the camel's back.

[00:08:46]so to speak.

[00:08:49]That's when I decided to do something about my anxiety.

[00:09:02]It is horrible to live a life of fear.

[00:09:12]And that's essentially what I was living.

[00:09:19]And I imagine if you struggle with stress and anxiety, you know what I'm talking about.

[00:09:34]It takes time and a lot of work to manage your anxiety.

[00:09:47]And it may feel impossible.

[00:09:53]I thought it was impossible too, but it's not.

[00:10:03]Of course, I still struggle with anxiety.

[00:10:14]It hasn't gone away, but I've learned to manage it.

[00:10:29]And I want you to know this because everything may feel very overwhelming right now.

[00:10:43]It may feel like you will never experience peace or happiness or calm.

[00:11:00]But that's not true.

[00:11:05]It just takes time.

[00:11:12]It may take an hour.

[00:11:17]It may take a day or a week or a month or a year.

[00:11:32]You never know.

[00:11:37]I wish I could just Take away your anxiety.

[00:11:46]Take away your stress.

[00:11:52]I really do because I know how hard it is to live in a constant state of fear.

[00:12:08]But I can't.

[00:12:12]But what I can do is tell you that it's possible.

[00:12:26]And it may just sound like I'm repeating myself, but I'm doing it because that's what it takes to manage anxiety.

[00:12:44]It takes these repetitive habits to choose peace every single day.

[00:13:11]It takes repetition to Learn that these things that are causing you stress and anxiety often pose no true threat to you. The way I like to see it or the way I try to see it is that my anxiety is fixated on the shadow of things.

[00:13:57]And what I mean by that is that in certain lighting, in a certain circumstance, the shadow of something very small, maybe very large.

[00:14:24]I'm sure we've all seen cartoons or art, all sorts of different media that portray this where, for example, a simple house cat may have a shadow that looks like a lion. or a jaguar.

[00:15:00]And in some cases, I mean, probably in most cases, it would be very scary to be near a lion or a jaguar.

[00:15:16]But that's not the real case.

[00:15:19]It's just a simple house cat.

[00:15:27]and likely poses no real threat to us.

[00:15:38]Our anxiety clings on to possibilities.

[00:15:46]The possibility of threat And it takes a lot of work to unlearn that overcome that flight or fight response and think logically about the things that were confronted with.

[00:16:19]If I'm being honest, I feel like most of the things I stress about or feel anxiety over ever truly anything to worry about.

[00:16:49]And I don't want to invalidate what you're feeling or what you're going through right now.

[00:17:07]But if you have it in you in those moments, I want you to pause and reflect.

[00:17:24]Does this thing I'm worrying about pose an immediate threat to me?

[00:17:40]Am I hurt?

[00:17:44]Am I in physical danger?

[00:17:54]Often times I find for me that the answer is no.

[00:18:03]Our mind has simply created a threat and it feels very real.

[00:18:19]That's why our heart rate increases, our breathing increases, we start to sweat.

[00:18:34]or shake because it feels real.

[00:18:41]And that fight or flight part of our brain can't tell the difference.

[00:18:53]That's why it's up to us in those moments to pause and reflect.

[00:19:14]Breathe.

[00:19:22]and reflect.

[00:19:30]And if it helps, tell yourself, "I'm okay.

[00:19:42]I am okay.

[00:19:48]I am safe.

[00:19:55]I am healthy.

[00:20:02]I am secure.

[00:20:10]And you may not believe it, but it is my hope that the more you repeat it, the more it becomes true.

[00:20:35]the more you believe it.

[00:20:46]And when you do this, it's not that you are disregarding or ignoring the problem at hand.

[00:21:04]The problem may be very real, but it's very likely that your mind is focusing on the worst case scenario.

[00:21:24]It is worrying about something that hasn't even happened or something that will never happen. Of course, it's possible for something bad to happen, but it's also possible for something good to happen.

[00:21:59]I found that accepting all possibilities has brought me a lot of peace.

[00:22:13]It helps me stay regulated in situations that might trigger my anxiety.

[00:22:33]The important part is accepting the reality.

[00:22:43]The reality that anything can happen.

[00:22:53]I know I just said something bad could happen or something good can happen, but I encourage you to get out of that mind frame. Clearly, I'm still learning.

[00:23:11]It might be more beneficial to view things as unfavorable versus favorable or preferred versus unpreferred, if that's a word.

[00:23:39]Stop associating certain things as bad or good because really these situations they just are what they are.

[00:23:59]It is our mind that is applying these labels of bad or good that aren't very helpful for our anxiety.

[00:24:20]I really do hope that resonates with you because that was something that really really changed the way I approach my anxiety.

[00:24:39]It helped me see that a lot of my fears are irrational.

[00:24:50]What's the worst thing that could happen if I have an awkward social interaction?

[00:25:03]What's the worst thing that could happen if I say something wrong or dumb?

[00:25:19]what's the worst thing that could happen if I disappoint someone?

[00:25:30]What's the worst thing that could happen if I fail someone?

[00:25:43]The odds are that nothing truly terrible will happen.

[00:25:55]Most likely there is no true threat.

[00:26:02]It is all part of your imagination.

[00:26:09]And even if there is a threat, it may not be a threat in the present moment.

[00:26:25]And you're afraid of something that hasn't even happened yet.

[00:26:32]something that you don't even know will happen.

[00:26:42]Is there much logic in that?

[00:26:53]I don't think so.

[00:26:59]And it's not to say that your fears aren't valid or that your stress isn't valid because the problem may be very real.

[00:27:24]But it's hard to deal with those problems in an anxious or stressed mental state.

[00:27:47]How can you solve a problem when there is chaos in your mind?

[00:28:00]Problems require a peaceful mind to be solved.

[00:28:12]Peaceful minds are productive.

[00:28:19]They are efficient.

[00:28:27]They are realistic.

[00:28:34]And most importantly, they are logical.

[00:28:43]So, don't you think it makes sense to choose peace in those moments so that you can address the issue at hand?

[00:29:04]It makes sense to me.

[00:29:10]And it may make sense to you, but the difficult part is implementing that.

[00:29:22]Reminding yourself of that truth.

[00:29:29]But it just takes time.

[00:29:35]It just takes time.

[00:29:43]These triggers that you've collected over the years have been around for a long time.

[00:29:56]So, it's unlikely that you'll get rid of them in just an hour or a day or a week.

[00:30:17]But as long as you choose peace, as long as you participate in behaviors that help you achieve peace.

[00:30:39]You are on your way to experiencing happiness.

[00:30:50]to experiencing calm, to achieving success, to experiencing all the beautiful things that life has to offer.

[00:31:19]Don't let fear and stress dominate your life.

[00:31:29]You have so much more to live for.

[00:31:36]Give yourself that pleasure.

[00:31:42]You deserve it.

[00:31:47]I believe in you.

[00:31:51]I believe that you can overcome this stress, this anxiety, this fear, this worry.

[00:32:12]I believe in you.

[00:32:14]I believe in you and you deserve to believe in yourself.

[00:32:26]Okay?

[00:32:28]If it happened for me, I truly believe it can happen for you.

[00:32:38]I spent so many days hopeless, but I pushed through.

[00:32:47]I kept trying.

[00:32:52]And I can't say that my anxiety has been eliminated, but I can manage it much, much better.

[00:33:06]And my life has improved drastically.

[00:33:13]And I want you to experience that, too.

[00:33:18]You deserve it.

[00:33:21]You truly truly deserve it. Okay.

[00:33:30]Well, I hope that this has resonated with you in one way or another.

[00:33:48]Please, please, please.

[00:33:56]Take care of yourself.

[00:34:01]Be kind to yourself.

[00:34:07]You deserve it. Okay.

[00:34:14]I believe in you.

[00:34:20]You've got this.

[00:34:24]I will see you very very soon.

[00:34:31]Okay.