Busting Bisexual Myths (that need to STOP)

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[00:00:00]I feel like the bisexual community is one of the few spaces within the LGBTQ plus community that receives the most hate. Because of that, I thought it will be very educational to make a video surrounding bisexuals and why I personally find them so endearing. This is the third part of my series debunking queer myths, and I will try to cover more sexualities as I go. Hi, my name is Jugen, and I'm an artist who loves to run. The first myth that is constantly repeated is that you have to choose a side one day, which is totally untrue. I honestly don't know why this keeps being enforced so much. I even hear this apply not just to real people, but to anime book and anime characters. For example, if a female character suddenly starts dating a man, people start saying that makes her straight. But if she's shown with a woman, then she's suddenly a lesbian. when in reality most of the time those are people just being bisexual. I actually found a quote from the book The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo that resonates with this so much.

[00:01:02]The protagonist is a bisexual woman and at one point she says she wants people to stop putting her in boxes. She even has to debate with her partner because when her partner was mad at her she view Evelyn as a straight woman but when she loved her she view her as a lesbian.

[00:01:19]This is very harmful because it enforces the idea that as bisexuals we need to stick to one side. When we are dating someone of the same gender, we feel or at least I feel so welcome in the community as a whole. But when we are dating someone of the opposite gender, you are instantly reduced to just being a straight person who is just looking for attention. The same thing happened when do Cameroon came out in a cover interview. She practically came out and women were in love with her identity.

[00:01:46]they feel represented by her, but she never said she was a lesbian. She has always identified as bisexual. Then when she started dating Damiano, people started saying she was just doing it for clout and just wanted to be unpopular.

[00:02:00]This is totally untrue and hurtful because it erases her identity as a bisexual woman. The same thing happens on the other side within the community where people are expected to stick to one gender and decide whether they are gay or lesbian. For instance, if someone currently identifies as a lesbian but has sparse history of dating men, people will attack her and say, "Oh, yeah, she's just pretending to be a lesbian."

[00:02:24]In this situation, nobody wins. People are constantly trying to find a way to criticize us, and they don't even care enough to see how labels are actually used within the community. I just feel like that's totally wrong and we should change it. Being bisexual doesn't mean you need to choose. It just means that you like both and that you like all amazing human identities. And I'm not just talking about women and men. I'm also talking about non-binary people and trans folks. People need to stop ignoring the fact that not everyone is just a man or a woman. Sometimes there is more to it and we should totally embrace that. The second myth is incredibly hurtful and it's the myth I hate the most. This idea that bisexual people will always I have heard this a lot in the past when I used to identify as Celestian. I admit I believe this because it was something I heard all the time. I didn't mind it as much back then when because I thought well yeah I'm like in some way it might possibly be somewhat true. But now that I identify as bisexual I constantly feel a sense of fear because of the stigma that bisexual people will see just because we are always searching for the other side. People think if we have a partner of the same gender, we are going to look for someone of the opposite gender and vice versa. I feel like that is totally dumb because that's not how it works. Honestly, if you have a constant fear that your partner is going to cheat, I don't believe the problem is your partner's sexuality. That is something there is something within you yourself that you should figure out and work through. Putting all that pressure on your partner and being afraid they are going to cheat just because they like two, three or all genders is honestly so frustrating. You can force your partners to constantly reassure you against an insecurity you are projecting onto them. This whole idea that as partners we should constantly act like a vigilante watching their space, who they talk to, or who their friends are is problematic. I'm not saying no bisexual person has ever struggle with cheating.

[00:04:22]But it doesn't mean everyone does. It's the same for lesbians, gay men, and straight couples, especially straight couples. It feels like because queer people are a minority, we get pressure and judged way more in comparison to straight folks who literally have a massive history of cheating, too. Why are we pointing fingers at bisexuals when it doesn't work like that? Then there are these blogs or random statistics claiming that bisexual people cheat more often. Where are you getting this information from? How many people did you question? 100? A thousand?

[00:04:56]That's not even a fraction of the bisexual community. How can you be sure bisexual folks are more capable of cheating? Where is this data coming from? And why do people insist on putting it on a radar as if it's relevant? It's just so frustrating.

[00:05:11]Bisexual people are normal. Sexuality doesn't dictate loyalty. And I will repeat this as many times as needed because it needs to be burned into people's minds. Repeating this myth just forces strong stereotypes about what it means to like multiple genders.

[00:05:28]Obviously, this can be applied to other queer people, too. But for bisexual people, it is heavily pushed. This is something I tremendously hate, and it's the fact that people say it's just a face. Because it's often the first thing a homophobic parent says to their children. They insist it's just a face, that it's not something that will stick, and that you will eventually grow out of it and be normal. According to them, if you suddenly start dating someone of the opposite gender, then it proves it was just a face and you never actually like the same gender. This is to totally problematic and wrong in so many ways because bisexuality is an identity. It's not something you just outgrow or that suddenly stops being true. It is totally harmful because people don't outgrow their identities. Sometimes people change their labels, but that is a journey of self-discovery and it shouldn't be something that you are pressured into. If you say feel safe with a label, stick to it. People really need to stop saying things like, "Oh yeah, it was just a face. Look at her now dating a man." Why does it always have to be viewed like this? I haven't seen I have seen this just a face trope in a lot of media, too. For example, in a Scott Pilgrim Versus the World, specifically the first movie, Ramona Flowers practically denies the fact that she dated a woman, dismissing it as just a face. This essentially invalidated her ex-girlfriend Rogy, making it seem like Ramona didn't actually enjoy the feeling she had for another woman, dismissing them and making them feel like nothing.

[00:06:58]I am really glad that the animated series Scott Bilerin takes Off took this very annoying trope and flip it.

[00:07:06]Instead, they made it clear that Ramona was just in complete denial. And Ramona even apologized for being so mean to her ex-girlfriend about the whole situation.

[00:07:14]Because when you make those kind of comments, you make your past partners feel like they were nothing, like they weren't even allowed to be in a real relationship with you because you don't view your past identity as valid. It makes them feel used. I share that feeling a lot because it's an experience that is heavily relatable in the bisexual community. Lastly, there is this idea that you have to like women and men equally. Guys, preferences exist. I don't know why, but some people believe that if you're bisexual, omnisexual, or pansexual, you just like every gender to the same degree without any budget. That is not how it works.

[00:07:50]Personally, I have a strong preference for women. I like women more. And I'm not saying this to throw shade at men. I just have a personal preference for women. This is something people completely forget. When a bisexual person says, "No, I have a preference for women," people instantly say, "Oh, then they are just a lesbian." That is not true. Yes, some people choose to stick with the lesbian label even if they have a small attraction to men, but that is their decision. In my case, I use bisexual because I do like a percentage of men, but that doesn't mean I like men as much as I like women. To be honest, I just find women truly gorgeous and appealing. The same could be said for other identities and attractions. You might have preferences for more androgynous people or you might prefer masculine people. Everyone should be allowed to express themselves however they want. And I believe gender roles shouldn't be forced onto anyone. This is everything I wanted to say for this video, guys. I I hope you enjoy it.

[00:08:46]Please write in the comment sections which other sexuality you would like me to cover next. I will try to keep up this series going. Goodbye.