We can't just dominate ourselves into changing our behaviour

Added: 2026-05-16

[00:00:00]It is unfortunately common that when we're trying to change a pattern or reach a goal, we dominate ourselves. We force ourselves into living these patterns in ways that don't feel natural, they don't feel safe, and usually they don't stick when we do it that way.

[00:00:21]And this pattern of dominating ourselves through change is actually very colonial. It's very much an ancestral pattern. Most of our ancestors have experienced that kind of abrupt dominance-related change at some point, even if for some of us it was a lot further back than others.

[00:00:43]And I want to bring awareness to this because as someone, as a community mentor who champions people-first change management, I do not believe that that is any way to drive change personally or on community systems level, whether that's an organization, a municipality, or something else entirely.

[00:01:05]To integrate change on this level, we need to also know how to make that change safe, values-based, and vision-driven. And that's exactly the kind of work that I do. So, follow if you want to see more content about that kind of work, and let's make your story a vibrant one.