Male Biological Clock: Men Are Hitting the Wall Faster Than They Imagine

Added: 2026-05-12

[00:00:00]There is no way a man just commented on my last post and said beyond expired because a woman and I were talking about how it only gets better with 30s and 40s. He's commenting saying that when women turn 40, we're expired. Beyond expired, not just expired, we're beyond.

[00:00:16]>> Do men get messages like this from women? Remember, marriage is a humanitarian ritual and they wonder why there is a male loneliness epidemic.

[00:00:26]>> I remember I was talking to one of my co-workers before. It was a 40-year-old man and he told me once you turn 30, nobody's going to want you anymore. Mind you, I was 21 when he was telling me this. And he said, "Once you turn 30, nobody's going to want you anymore." And that women age like milk.

[00:00:40]>> Does anyone else have this idea that like women can't do anything after 30?

[00:00:44]That thought is so ingrained in me that it's actually sad that I feel like I'm not actively doing things I want to do because I'm like, "Well, it's almost over for me soon."

[00:00:51]>> I was told I would be virtually invisible to men after 25. Now at 32, I get more attention than ever. And the majority of it is from good men who are intentional about relationship. No. And I highly dislike this way of societal thinking. You were a child longer than you've been an adult. You've been an adult for a decade and you spent the decade navigating adulthood for the first time and likely still don't even have it figured out. I say lady when when you are 20 years of age you are 20 years now you have 10 years left to be officially old you are 20 years of age as a girl as a lady you have 10 years left once you are 30 years officially you are very old women what part of nature don't you understand your best years is 18 to 30 after 30 you're half off >> I have spoken about this topic before I have used the very last video clip before. It's way longer than that. He went on to say, "Women are off the shelf. No one wants us." He said a whole lot of nasty things. I'm 37 and living my finest life. This dude is a melted tube of ice cream. We are all half of says the man who looks like a thumb. And one of their husbands looked at me and they're like, "Oh, how old are you?" So I'm like, "Oh, I'm almost turning 30 or whatever." And he's like, "Oh, that's fine. You have a couple of years." And I'm like, "What what's going to happen in a couple years? Like am I going to just like is there going to be something on my forehead that says expired or like >> I mean you're pretty much close TO IT ALREADY.

[00:02:22]>> EXPIRED.

[00:02:23]>> Geriatric pregnancies at 35 and if you was in China you'd be a leftover woman.

[00:02:29]>> As you age you will be replaced just like an upgrade of a new phone. Ladies, your time is quite literally running out. You're dating these rich men and you are a business transaction. There's only so long you can live in a self-entitled bubble where you believe that you deserve everything that you're getting in life for free just because you're pretty. By the time you hit 30 and you've been replaced, you're left with a whole load of baggage and no other man will want you because you haven't worked through anything whatsoever because you have zero resilience and you have been so accustomed to just getting a free walk in life. Time will catch up with you.

[00:03:03]>> This comment is coming from a man. They literally had their best lives since childhood up to 30. While a man's life feels like hell before 30, even animals find me mate, nature always catches up.

[00:03:15]>> I'm going to start by saying this, ladies. What is most appealing about y'all is determined by us. If you're a heterosexual woman that like men, then what matters is what we think. Does that make sense? Men are attracted to a woman's purity, a woman's beauty, a woman's femininity, sweetness, her ability to give us peace. And the older a woman gets, these things decrease.

[00:03:38]Now, not not always, but most of the time that's what happens. As one ages, more wear and tear in the body, more experiences with men, a lot of emotional baggage that comes into a relationship that not fair for the new guy to have to deal with. A lot of uh trauma being carried on from previous relationships.

[00:03:56]So, the younger the better, >> to be honest. 30 years old and you still clubbing and you have no children and you're a woman, you are considered a leftover in the United States.

[00:04:08]>> How are women reacting to all these lies? Obviously, we know men are lying.

[00:04:13]They are saying all these things because they are angry at women because they got rejected. They are bitter. They are aggressive. They are vengeful. That's why men say things like this to women, especially those men that cannot accept rejection. So, how are women reacting?

[00:04:26]What are women saying about this? Let's have a look.

[00:04:29]>> So, now I'm over 30. That meansun I'm expired. Or at least that's what the men keep telling me in my comments. So, a lot of WOMEN MIGHT THINK, "OH, NO." I actually don't think a lot of women think that. However, they think that we think that. They think we are absolutely devastated by men not wanting us anymore. Now, I'm 33. So, I'm just wondering when the invisibility to men starts, does that mean then soon I'll be able to walk down the street and not get cat called? Does that mean that men will stop sexualizing me soon? Does that mean when I'm walking down the street and there's a group of guys, I won't have to cross the street or look busy on my phone anymore? Does that mean that I can go out to a bar and not have to worry about my drink being spiked? If so, then I can't wait to be expired. I can't wait to live a life completely invisible to men. I'm excited for it. I really am.

[00:05:18]Let's go, girl. Don't be one wear.

[00:05:20]>> Don't throw stones if you live in a glass house. Elman is giving it back to men. Their hair, their tummy, their eyes, their face, the wrinkles, their ears, everything about them. Men think don't age. Very delusional.

[00:05:31]>> Men who say women over 30 are ran through not only prove to us that they hate women, but they actively objectify us in their minds. And don't be fooled.

[00:05:39]They don't like younger women either.

[00:05:40]They just think that they're a newer product. Younger women are less likely to recognize manipulation, bad treatment, and abuse that men will give them. And the only type of men who use the term ran through are men who are intentionally going to do the same thing to younger women as well. Some men hate older women just because we are the ones who warn younger women of their schemes and scams. They'll use terms like withered, ran through, past their prime to silence us. They know that we've wised up to them using women as cars and they hate us for speaking out about it.

[00:06:11]A lot of us have experienced good men and a lot of bad men. And they do not want us giving advice to younger women and showing them the red flags. Because if we do, that means a lot of them won't have a chance with younger women. That's why I always encourage older women to share their experiences with men. So younger women can wise up sooner, recognize the red flags, and make good choices for themselves.

[00:06:32]>> The male biological clock. Men are hitting the wall faster than they imagine. For decades, the conversation has been one-sided. It has always been about females having biological clock.

[00:06:45]This one-sided conversation over time influenced how relationships were formed, how careers were prioritized, and how aging is perceived. In this biological clock conversation, men, by contrast, have been positioned as biologically unbound by time. They were presumed to retain reproductive capacity, desiraability, and vitality well into later life. for example in the late 60s7s even 80s. This mere assumption is obviously a fallacy and has been contradicted countered by scientific research. You can do a quick Google search. There are numerous scientific evidences to this.

[00:07:24]Demographic trends and observable social outcomes are also proving these assumptions wrong. No one can escape biology and nature, even men. In a layman's language, men's reproductive capacity does not end abruptly in the way menopause marks the end of female fertility. However, we should not mistake continuity for stability. For men, their fertility declines gradually, and this decline begins earlier than most men anticipate. This fertility decline is heavily on sperm quality.

[00:07:58]With time, the motility, the morphology, and genetic integrity of a man's sperm declines. Studies have shown that men over 40 are more likely to produce sperm with DNA fragmentation, which increases the risk of miscarriage, infertility, and certain neurodedevelopmental disorder in children. By the late 40s and 50s, the probability of conception declines significantly even when female partners are young and otherwise fertile. Let's have a look at men in their 30s and 40s talk about low sperm count.

[00:08:32]>> I eventually got the same analysis done, got the results back and it just came with extremely low sperm count, which is essentially 0 to 1 million. You sit in that category. So, the average male would have tens and tens of millions of sperm. Um, so I got another seam analysis and that second result came back completely zero. So, that's that was the one that probably hit the hardest. Um, and that was, yeah, a few months down the track, but I remember just getting home and just completely breaking down and just would have cried all night just with Belle at home. It's just like, yeah, I'm not having kids. I imagine a level of feeling guilt that I'd let my partner down.

[00:09:12]>> The guilt one more than anything like that just latches on to you like no other emotion. I reckon it's probably the one that I've had to work through the most. Um, only because it's affecting somebody else. The society we live in, our cultures, our traditions rarely emphasizes the biological reality of male infertility. Instead, we have the society encouraging men and reassuring men that they can delay family formation indefinitely. They do that with the belief that biological clock is a woman thing. It has no effect on men. Getting married or impregnating a younger female will solve the problem for the older men. What they don't realize is that their thinking ignores two main factors. Firstly, biology does not operate in isolation. Secondly, the social environment in which reproduction occurs has changed profoundly. Speaking from a physiological standpoint, aging affects more than sperm. For men, the male hormone known as testosterone, its level begins to decline gradually from early 30s onward. This decline is associated with reduced or decreased libido, lower energy levels, increased fat accumulation, decline in muscle mass, change in mood and cognition, the list goes on. These changes vary in degree, but they are not negligible. So the notion of perpetually voman is an exaggeration. I understand that this does not apply to everyone. We have exceptions out there. But you cannot use the subset of that population for generalization. That is not an average man's story. I mean the story of older men still being very fatile, giving birth to healthy babies. Let's have a look at the effect of aging and the testone decline on men.

[00:11:04]>> So I'm bald in my 30s and and I'm okay with that. You know what? I wasn't cool with going bald at 25.

[00:11:12]Cuz when you go ball to 25, you're 30.

[00:11:16]You put 25year-old stuff and everyone is like, "What is this superintendent doing at this orgy?"

[00:11:21]>> Everybody thinks I'm over 50 years old.

[00:11:23]I mean, do I really look over 50?

[00:11:27]>> 33. That's it. It's all you got.

[00:11:30]>> I am 35 years old, single income, no kids, and I am starting to worry about my appearance. I'm starting to get wrinkles here. At certain angles, I don't look as flattering as I used to.

[00:11:38]And I see these guys on TikTok who have perfect skin, no wrinkles. And you know what that means? It means that you're a [ __ ] and you don't have any fun. You probably go to bed at 8:00 p.m. You have like a 15step skincare routine. You do your cold plunges. You know who has wrinkles and doesn't look perfect?

[00:11:54]Diplo. Diplo lives theing life. That dude does not go to bed at 8:00 p.m. He stays up till 5:00 a.m. and then he'll go run a half marathon. Diplo probably lives one of the most hedonistic lives out there. And the dude's aing legend.

[00:12:08]So, if you're wondering why I have some wrinkles and I don't look flattering from certain angles, know that it's not because I'm going to bed at 8:00 p.m.

[00:12:14]Chat, I've earned these wrinkles.

[00:12:16]>> It's good to know that men also age.

[00:12:18]They get wrinkles. Aside aging physically, cardiovascular health, metabolic function, and general resilience decline with age. For some men, once they hit 40, they start struggling with conditions like hypertension, diabetes, obesity. This is not just with men in their 40s alone.

[00:12:37]Some men in their 30s are also experiencing this. Decline in a man's general well-being healthwise can also compromise his reproductive health. For instance, erectile dysfunction often dismissed as minor or temporary issue can be an early indicator of systemic vascular disease. So in this sense with all we've said so far we all can see that biological clock is not limited to reproduction alone. It encompasses a broader decline in physiological system that supports both reproductive and overall health. Let's have a look at men struggling with health complication as they age.

[00:13:19]>> I went blind at the age of 30 and know it wasn't an accident. It was type 2 diabetes. I ignored the warnings. I thought I was too young and now I live in a world of darkness. If you have high blood sugars, go see an eye doctor. Do not wait until it's too late. Met the man of my dreams about 2 years ago. He communicates well, is emotionally vulnerable, and is generous and kind.

[00:13:43]He's what I've been asking God for. Both of us are in our 50s. We have both been divorced. Because we wanted to get to know each other on a deeper level, we decided not to have sex prior to marriage. We got married 6 months ago.

[00:13:58]Everything has been good, I guess. But there is one problem that I need to talk about. On the night of our wedding, he couldn't get hard. He couldn't get it up. I was very disappointed. I thought it was an isolated incident because of his excitement. I found out later that he has ED, aka erectile dysfunction, but he never told me about it.

[00:14:21]I felt I was deceived because he did not tell me. All right. Everything else is great, but this was so important to me.

[00:14:30]What should I do, Monica?

[00:14:34]Let's move away from biology onto social dynamics because it does impose additional constraints that is usually being overlooked. The current dating and relationship market has evolved in a way that challenges traditional assumptions about male desiraability over time. You know the society mounts pressure on women. According to some men on social media, beauty is currency. The moment a woman hits 30, her beauty declines and she becomes useless. Men are chasing beauty like the airy prick. While talking about beauty in a conversation, men don't often think that it is necessary for them to look good, to be good-looking. According to some people on Tik Tok, an average man is ugly. This is what people see on Tik Tok. Men don't consider their physicalities. They think the responsibility is on a woman. A woman needs to look beautiful, needs to look presentable. That's not a man's job. In our current day, so many factors like economic instability, shift in gender roles, expectation with partnership, women speaking up, women being independent has really shifted the relationship dynamics and what people are looking for in long-term relationships. There is a baseless and senseless notion that some podcasters, male podcasters have on Tik Tok.

[00:15:54]According to them, they said men gain value over time. Women lose value once they hit 30 because our value is our beauty. We are born with value. But men gain value as they age. The value they are obviously making reference to is material things. Having money, owning a car, having a stable income, building a house, traveling, that is the value they are talking about. So they've been deceiving themselves and other men that cared to listen to them that with age your value is going to increase. Like everyone on this planet, every man on this planet is going to be wealthy at some point. We all know that's a fallacy. That's not true. Not everyone makes it in life, whatever that means to them. You know what is sad? No one is telling men that as they get older, things get better. They get more valuable. They they they learn more life experience and become more attractive, gain more knowledge, and the sexual market value just increases as a man gets older.

[00:16:54]No one's telling men this. And um I think we need to spread this message more. So for all the young dudes out there, life gets better the older you get with the guy. Um at the time of making this video, I just crossed into into my 30s and I just reflected back on how when I was younger, man, I just thought like, dude, this [ __ ] sucks. I'm some 18-year-old dude. Girls my age want to date guys older than me. And like just Yeah. You know, you don't have much confidence. No one gives a [ __ ] about you as 8-year-old dude. You got no value to bring in the world. You got no skills. This and that. Keep your head down. I'm 30 right now. My life got better and better every single year. My life gets better. Your dating pool expands. You can be a 28-year-old dude.

[00:17:36]You got chicks who areing 21 loving you.

[00:17:38]You got girls your age loving you. You got girls in your 30s loving you. You got girls 40s and 50s loving you. Keep your head up, guys.

[00:17:45]>> In reality, is that really the case for every man out there? Is that really the case? With age, many men experience decline in these areas. Their career trajectories can be stagnant. They experience financial pressure, including debt and rising cost of living. We all know how hard things are these days.

[00:18:04]People are struggling to get by. People can't even afford to pay rent. We've heard stories of men living on the streets, people living in a car, people squatting. Some of those men are in their 40s, 30s, 50s. So, what exactly is society saying? And if you're unable to fend for yourself, if you're constantly in survival mode, if you're thinking about what you're going to eat next, I don't expect you to be in the best shape physically. And this is what a lot of people are experiencing. People are focusing more on feeding than looking kitsy, looking handsome, layering up 5, 10 skin care products. You also need money to buy all that stuff. And when your physical appearance declines, it makes you less attractive. A lot of women know that men have shitty behavior. And one of the reasons why some women settle with men is because of the money they have. So if you don't have money and you're looking shitty, no one wants to be with you. So that usual talk of men gain value as they age is not completely true because that's not the case for majority of the men out there. Times are hard. Let's have a look at men struggling in their 40s, 30s trying to get by.

[00:19:11]>> The paycheck's gone before the weekend even comes. providing for my three kids and my high school sweetheart. Man, it's getting tough. The debt just keeps piling up and we're trying to dig out the best we can. I knew sitting in the living room that night that I had to change something. I can't keep trading the hours for the money because it's not working. I thought to myself, there's no way that I can make something like this work. That was most of me. But doing nothing and staying the same definitely wasn't helping the situation either. now 68 years old. And uh I also get $190 worth of uh uh supplemental with my regular social security uh is about $84.

[00:19:51]Uh so that's less than $1,000. $994 uh to live on for a month. You know, I mean, situation is uh I end up uh sleeping in areas where other homeless people are sleeping or not really an encampment, but uh I on a rainy day or rainy night, I'd have to go get under an o under an overhang uh so I don't get rained on all night. I I live in a sleeping bag with a a backpack.

[00:20:18]>> It's no way to live. It's no way to pay spend your retirement years.

[00:20:21]>> Yeah. It's not as uh it's not enjoyable at all.

[00:20:24]>> My name is uh Jimmy. I'm 41 years old and I'm sitting here in Harvard Square living outside um sometimes I stay at a shelter and I'd have to say that this is probably one of the best places to be homeless in the United States. I mean don't don't tell everyone everyone but I mean I hit the street in like 2000 probably like 2008 2009. I I've been homeless now for like almost 2 years in December this time. I love music. I love uh writing songs. I love writing stories about crazy stuff that I've seen out here. I've been traveling since I was a little kid. So um I like traveling. You know, aside from what I need, I don't want nothing. All I want is what I need.

[00:20:54]And that's what being on the street really showed me, bro, is I'm happy with what I need. [ __ ] a bunch of, "Oh my god, what am I going to do? How am I going to [ __ ] pay the mortgage in 3 months, dude? How am I going to eat today?" That's what really matters. And are the people around me happy? If they're not, I'm not happy. Simple as that. If the people around me, if my family are happy, then I'm not happy. If my people are happy, then I'm happy.

[00:21:11]>> I didn't play those videos to make mockery of those men. No, this video is about education. We are discussing men and their biological clock. I'm trying to counter the claim that says men get better with age. They gain more value with age. I didn't say that claim is not correct, but it is not entirely correct.

[00:21:32]Not every man on this planet will be wealthy. So, you should stop pushing wrong narratives and deceiving young men. Anyone can be broke. Life can happen to anyone regardless of gender.

[00:21:42]Have you ever seen those YouTube videos where men title it, "Women are hitting the war. No one wants them anymore."

[00:21:49]Let's talk about the concept of hating the wall. This concept is often applied to women to describe a perceived decline in attractiveness or reproductive value.

[00:22:00]But they rarely apply this concept to men in a serious or analytical way. They use this concept to degrade women, laugh at women, make mockery of women. Like men don't age, like men don't have fertility issues, like men don't lose their cuteness or handsomeness with age, like men don't have wrinkles with age.

[00:22:22]Unfortunately, for men that belittle women with words like this, men have their own version of this phenomenon.

[00:22:29]Although it's not publicly acknowledged, as men do with women. I mean men constantly pulling women down saying women are hitting the war. It is a thing. It is a reality with men. Let's have a look at those podcasters belittling women talking about how women lose value with age.

[00:22:45]>> The reason you don't judge them for wanting older men is because men are more like an asset appreciating in time.

[00:22:50]>> Women are more like a liability that depreciates rapidly with time. And subconsciously you're all bothered by the fact that you know as you age your value is declining. So you have to create a psychological superructure that makes guys feel guilty about wanting younger women cuz we can sit back and pursue younger women infinitely. And so you have to make them feel guilty so that they behave and they consider you like when you end up like her. So when you end up 30 years old like her with two divorces, you still want to be accessible and appealing to guys like me. Once you get past that 30, you start creeping into something called menopause. Menopause is a cold because your hormone your hormonal balance is changing. So the way you behave and relate to him is also changing. So you're rapidly declining in value all the values that the guy seeks. And for that very reason, you should try your best to lock in a guy. Marriage is primarily for the female. And the reason you're subconsciously angry that guys want younger women is because you know you won't be young forever. And you want to have a hot girl summer, not realizing that [ __ ] is really limited. You better lock in a guy before you turn 24. Cuz after that, low key, people ain't checking for you. It's a wrap.

[00:23:58]Are you into like younger looking girls?

[00:24:00]>> Girls my age.

[00:24:02]>> No, I know but like I'm saying like >> well I mean any girl after 20 is expired all the water for >> n >> one of the significant miscalculation men make is overestimating their future options. So men think that they will forever look young. They will forever look attractive. They'll forever be women's number one option. They forget that women are equally humans as they are. Women also have to choose men. If a man chooses you and you don't choose him, that relationship is not going to work. Men thinking that, oh, because they're the ones that initiate the choosing, they think they're the ones in control. No. Women are the ones actually in control. If you get picked but refused to be picked, the picking will not happen. That's it. Some men have this mindset and they choose to play the field. Once they hit 50, late 40s, they start thinking about settling. And remember, men in their early 30s, late 40s, usually experience health issues.

[00:25:01]I'm not saying women don't, but it's more common with men. So, imagine a man that is struggling with cardiovascular disease, diabetes, and other health issues trying to have a child. If he successfully impregnates his wife or the person he is with, do you think he's going to be healthy enough to be there for the children or for his child? Men that think they have all the time on this world usually use their time to sleep with as many women as possible, they use their time to increase their body count after listening to those stupid red pillars with their evil and diabolical messages. Go out there and sleep with as many women as possible.

[00:25:39]After destroying the lives of so many women, you they think they will go scot-free. No, Karma is a [ __ ] >> When I mention that I have two kids who are autistic, I sense pity, shame, which is not the case. We live a pretty normal life with our kids.

[00:25:54]>> O'Neal and Angela live in Malawi with their four children. Two are on the autistic spectrum. Their youngest Max is nonverbal.

[00:26:01]>> Mental health care is quite underlooked.

[00:26:04]>> Around a third of children in Malawi don't live with a biological father.

[00:26:08]Some leave because they incorrectly believe the mother is to bring for the child's autism.

[00:26:13]>> As men get older, um, our sperm counts get lower and also there are changes in the DNA and after you reach probably the age of 40, you do have more likelihood of having a baby with some abnormalities um, including schizophrenia and autism.

[00:26:29]Sometimes the recommendation is if a man reaches his mid30s and um is not uh currently seeing someone that he thinks he wants to have kids with and thinks it may be a long time, it may be worthwhile actually to bank sperm um before they've undergone all of those mutations and then use those frozen sperm, especially if it's going to be a long time before he has children.

[00:26:48]>> I'm pretty sure we heard the voice over woman on the BBC clip blame women for being the reason for autism, the reason why kids are autistic. This is what a lot of people think. They think it's a woman's fault. It can partly be a woman's fault, but majority is a man's fault. The man saying he has no idea.

[00:27:06]With education, women now know better.

[00:27:08]It's now more difficult for men to find younger women and get married to them, especially if those men are in their 40s and 50s. The internet has made it easier for women to get enlightened. I've heard so many women now consider getting married to younger men because they want to protect the health of their unborn child. They would rather have sex with younger men and give birth than have sex with older men. This is also what majority of older men are doing. They are dating younger women. I already mentioned that society thinks that when an older man dates a younger lady and impregnates her, the chances of the child not having abnormalities will be high. But that's not true. A fragmented DNA is a fragmented DNA. If you like mate with a healthy woman, your sperm has low quality. And that is what we're talking about. So you cannot compare a woman dating a younger man to an older man dating a younger man. That is what we are saying. The problem is with men is not with the women but with men. But men are shifting blame as usual. Making us feel like our age is the problem. If they date younger women, they're going to solve their infertility issue. No, I'm not saying that women don't have infertility problem. But when it comes to the severity of the infertility issue, most of the time it lies with men.

[00:28:31]>> Now, what if I told you men also have a biological fertility clock?

[00:28:37]For far too long, the onus, responsibility, and consequences of struggling to conceive or take a pregnancy to term has been solely left to the prospective mother. Many men I'm sorry, I I I just couldn't help myself.

[00:28:51]Forgive me.

[00:28:53]>> Many men get to hide behind the very presumptuous and erroneous idea that their biological gender is accompanied with optimal fertility because of reasons. While their female counterparts are, for lack of a better word, chastised being told that their age, weight, sleeping pattern, occupation, diet, supplementation, and a plethora of other reasons are why they can't get pregnant, why they keep having miscarriages, or why they aren't fit to be mothers. Well, science has something to say. Recently, researchers have reported that they could identify over 35,000 mutations in the sperm of healthy 24 to 75 year olds, leading to 40 40 aberent genes that are disproportionately carried in sperm, which promote developmental abnormalities or cancer in the resulting children. The truth is the bias selection and accumulation of these mutant swimmers following spermatogenesis, the process in which sperm is generated drives as much as three times an increased risk in these disease linked mutations and age was shown to be a significant factor.

[00:30:01]Genetic sequencing found as men age up to 5% of their spermatzoa can become mutated and defective in this manner.

[00:30:09]Now, quite controversially, lifestyle choices like alcohol consumption, BMI, and smoking status appear to not significantly affect the presence of pathogenic mutations in the male sex cells. Don't run off to the pubs just yet, gents. Genetic alterations and cancer associated signatures could be detected in the blood of male individuals who smoked or consumed alcohol. Nonetheless, this finding supports the notion of a much needed update in the conversation around men and family planning and the social responsibility that we allow men to take for the outcomes in family planning. But hey, what do you think?

[00:30:53]Did you even realize that men age faster than women? Hey, I'm not coming up with this. This is biology. You know, men lose collagen earlier. Their skin thickens and it dries out. And then you add shaving and stress and all the environmental factors to it. No wonder guys are just looking older each day.

[00:31:17]Man who just turned 30. Guys have to understand that men hit a wall, too.

[00:31:20]It's not just women. Because society has taught us that men get better with age.

[00:31:24]And though that is true in some cases, we also have a biological timeline and clock that we have to follow because father time is simply undefeated. So for a woman, yes, it's going to be around the ages between 29 to 32 in which yeah, you better start having kids. You better start considering who you want to be in a long-term relationship with. And this is usually where we see a woman's dating strategy change. But as a man, if you're approaching your mid30s, late 30s, truth is biologically, you're not a spring chicken anymore. Though you are at the peak of your sexual market value, meaning the combination between your looks, your career, your confidence, your status, your respect. I would say after 39, that's where it slowly starts to dip down. The biological clock is a thing for everyone. Maybe I should sound like those podcasters. Everyone is hating the war, not just women alone, even men. Men hate the war faster than women do. The difference here is this.

[00:32:14]The society enjoys shaming women, bringing down women and protecting men's vulnerability. The reason why we have more men shaming women about this is because they have their own fears. They are afraid of their shortcomings and they feel better when they shame women.

[00:32:31]Does that even make sense? Some people operate that way. A lot of people are hypocrites, especially men. They will castigate you for what they are also passing through. I guess by so doing they feel better. Over years, over time, over decades, the society and men were comfortable blaming women for what wasn't entirely our fault. I'm talking about infertility. In so many African homes, when a couple is infertile, I mean, when there's no child in the family, the family members are so quick to throw stones at the woman, it never crosses their mind that the man can be the problem. Because who are you to think a man can have such a problem?

[00:33:08]He's a man. He should be treated like a god. He's superior. Don't say such thing about a man. That's the general mindset out there.

[00:33:15]>> You know, growing up, something that I never understood was like if a girl got pregnant in high school or like when she was a teenage, she would automatically get called a hoe. Keep in mind like it could have just been like that could have been her first man that she ever did that with. And it's like she's getting called a hoe, but that could be her one body. That could just be her one body. Like it's not like you don't have to be super ran through in order to get pregnant. Pregnancy happens if the man is not careful and doesn't pull out.

[00:33:37]Like, am I wrong? Like, tell me in the comments if I'm wrong. But that's Yeah, I never understood like if a girl ever got pregnant at a young age, it's like, "Oh, now she's a hoe." But it the only reason a woman gets pregnant is if a man is not careful and does not pull out.

[00:33:49]That's like the way that they used to teach us like I mean, I I didn't listen, but the way that they used to teach us, like, oh, if a woman got pregnant, she's a hoe, but it's like, okay, like the man like he's he's okay, he just get off scotfree. Like, I don't like that. Like, and it's like the reason a woman gets pregnant is because of a man to begin with. And it's like whenever sometimes I tell people that people that have bird brains, they they don't understand what I'm saying anymore. They they no longer understand what I'm saying. Don't get me wrong, like like obviously after pregnancy, especially what it does to a woman's body, yes, it's more toll on the woman for sure. So women got to go ahead and watch out and be more careful. But it's like it also kids also need a father in the house. So it's like the fact that y'all people really normalized the man just not having to be there and just go ahead and impregnating women if he could just get out scotfree or he could just like get a girl pregnant at a teenage age and it and he could be a teenager too, mind you, and it could be okay. Like no, no, not at all. I don't like it. Like society blames on women too much.

[00:34:32]>> Why won't society keep my husband accountable? I talked to my mom against my better judgment. I told her my husband was abusing me. And she's like, "Maybe you did something to deserve it."

[00:34:42]No, I didn't. No, I did not do anything to deserve abuse from the man who got on one knee and said, "I love you. Will you marry me?" These people don't ask any questions. Just jump straight to, "Well, what did you do?" Nothing. And they're like, "Well, you know, maybe it's how you talk to him." No, it's not.

[00:34:59]I know how to talk to people. Just like, why do y'all keep telling me how to act and how to talk? Why don't nobody go to him and be like, "Hey, how are you talking to Jess? What's going on? Why does Jess keep standing here abusing her?" It's like people are afraid of husbands. I understand his mom being afraid to ask those questions because some people just don't want to know that their son is capable of like destroying a kind, caring woman, but as far as my parents, why are my parents afraid of him? My dad would be like, you know, the first one, what did you do? Not a damn thing. Well, you had to do something.

[00:35:31]Why don't you be the bigger person? I can't because then I'm going just keep being abused. So, it's just like they make all these excuses for him. Well, he had a bad childhood or maybe he doesn't know how to talk to people. Like, can y'all just tell him to not make the situation worse and not >> Why is it that the responsibility for contraception disproportionately falls on women? The mental hygiinks that you have to go through just to make sure that you don't get pregnant is ridiculous. There's a study that shows that the average woman spends 30 years of her life avoiding pregnancy. I have a girlfriend who used to tell me for years that she has to do somersaults to get off before he does his thing because she did not want to get pregnant. In 1968, they developed what they thought would be the first male contraceptive. The men were not happy about it. They thought it was emasculating. They called it the clean sheets pill because it stopped everything. There were some uncomfortable side effects and so they scrapped it. Let's talk about uncomfortable side effects. How about bloating, bleeding longer than you're supposed to? Putting on 50 lb? How about other side effects that we won't even get into? So, you're telling me over 30 something years later and they still can't come up with a male contraceptive?

[00:36:43]Get out of here. Always remember is a man's world. Men will do anything possible to protect their vulnerability.

[00:36:49]They will do anything possible to prevent them from being emasculated.

[00:36:54]would rather shave the blame on women, unal alive women, than being accountable for their actions. Let's head over to Reddit and see what people have to say about this topic. Here is a post. Why are so many men completely unaware of their own biological clock? I see this all the time. Men online age shaming women and going on about our biological clock and our fertility and such. And I like to confront them about this and educate them a bit on the fact that even if there is much less research on it because of misogyny in the medical research field, it has been proven that sperm gets much worse with age. And while having a child with an older man might be possible, it is an awful idea because it increases the odds on all sorts of birth defects, conditions, and even complications during pregnancy. I mean, if the little blue pill doesn't exist, it would be basically impossible for these older men to be making babies.

[00:37:54]But scientists decided to meddle with nature in that manner. I argue to men all the time on Reddit who claim that it's natural for a young woman to be dating older or much older men. But logically, it makes no sense at all. Men are very much aware of this. They don't talk about it because they feel ashamed.

[00:38:13]And the society is good at protecting men's vulnerability. But logically, it makes no sense at all beside just the creep factor. Logically, why the heck would literally any woman carry a child for 9 months only for it to turn out less healthy, handicapped, miscarriage, or risk actual death due to complications in pregnancy because the sperm is older? Why would any woman go through that? risk going through that when you maybe had to give birth in some cave in the wilderness in the past.

[00:38:44]Okay, this person, she's basically comparing doing that to back in the days where women had to give birth in bushes, in the cave, in the wilderness, wherever they were at the point of labor. Just making reference to crude ways of giving birth in the past. So why would you want to put yourself through all that pain, all that stress? You know those days a lot of women, not just women alone, people were more exposed to infection.

[00:39:11]We are still more exposed to infection.

[00:39:14]The only difference now is that we have antibiotics. Things can be done about it compared to how things were done in the past. So if you were able to or if this generation has escaped how people lived in the past, why would you want to take yourself back to distress by wanting to give birth with an older man? That's just what she's trying to say here. It makes no sense at all to go for an older man when this is the case. It makes way more sense that we should choose well and be picky like that. And we have been getting slot shamed anyway when we weren't incredibly picky. I mean, sperm banks absolutely refuse to accept men older than a certain age for a good reason. Yet, we never hear about it at all. That's true. I'm sick of older men acting entitled to me and telling me to be with some 50year-old despite me telling them no and I'm sick of it being so normalized in Mollywood. Women need to stop accepting this and need to be more aware of this. I don't think a lot of women are aware of this. Honestly, like she rightly said, the society normalizes it. It's okay for younger people to be with older men. I'm not saying that we don't have cases where older women are with younger men. Of course, when we bring up things like this, the argument is always based on racial. We have a lot of older women ending up with younger men. But in this her post, women should be more picky because when men talk about hating the war, talk about women expiring, they sound like they are immune to aging.

[00:40:43]They sound like they don't age at all.

[00:40:45]So, I get her point. It's very annoying when we all know that no one can escape age in the way no one can get out of this life alive, which means everyone is going to end up dead. So why you acting like you're special? Why you acting like you're better or you're superior when age happens to everyone? I mean aging happens to everyone. So this is the point we're trying to make here. Don't come online saying women are expired.

[00:41:05]It's shaming women. When we know men hit the wall faster than women do. You're talking about Nollywood. The media is a man's world. Like I said already, they know how to protect their vulnerability because of shame and fear. Fear of rejection. Men fear rejection more than women do. Men are more shameful more than women are. Since the system is owned by them, run by them, they seize the opportunity to consistently, continuously shame women, call us out, laugh at us over what both genders are experiencing. Women need to stop accepting this and need to be more aware of all this. If you're having a kid with some older man, you need to be aware of the risk you are taking on. Going through the comment section, people responded and they had a lot to say.

[00:41:50]They were speaking more on the spam bank. So, let's see what they have to say. This one says, "Didn't even think of the spam bank thing. Just gave it a quick Google and looks like the cap for spam banks is 45. 18 to 39 for the majority of places. Makes perfect sense." The next comment says, "4 seems high as the genetic material degradation starts to rapidly increase at 40. My college boyfriend was a sperm donor in the early '9s. Cap was 30. Even back then he was told that older sperm has higher chance of producing kids with schizophrenia. I had no idea about schizophrenia link but anecdotally a guy from my class and his brother had a dad in his 70s and they both have schizophrenia. So sad he was a cool guy.

[00:42:41]Schizophrenia isn't the only health issue that comes with degrading sperm.

[00:42:45]Let's have a look at this next post.

[00:42:47]It's titled There is a male biological clock. I need to bring this up because it's often times assumed that only the women's youth matters for healthy children when it's not true. Both parents have to be within a certain age range to prevent health issues. Aging causes the weakening of DNA in older men's sperm. So if they can still conceive, that doesn't absolutely guarantee that they would be healthy.

[00:43:13]This increases the risk but not absolutely means that there is zero chance for healthy child. It requires more screening and caution. For reference, I used the maximum age limit spam banks allow for their donors. It's about 45 for men. Women's maximum donation is around 34. It is true that it's earlier for women as their fertility drops much faster. However, due to this contrast, some people have a very exaggerated idea of how much longer a man's fertility can go on for and assume they would be fine with having kids well into their 50s. Putting the full burden on the younger partner if he doesn't work out. You see, this very last line has gotten a lot of women kicked out of their marriage. The man is the infertile one, but they blame it on the women. Even when the the man's family knows that the problem is with the man just to cover up the family shame, they see it as shame, they will kick the woman out of the family. In some cases, the woman knows what's up, but she keeps quiet just because she wants to protect her husband. You see the pattern is all about protecting the man. I'm not saying that you should not protect your partner, you should not speak up for your partner, you should not cover your partner. But when you know that the community, your family, everyone is blaming you when it's not your fault, I think in that case you should speak up because it's very unfair on you as a woman to take the blame when you're not the one causing the problem.

[00:44:37]What usually happens in cases where the men are the infatile ones, they stay in the relationship. But in cases where the women are the infertile ones, the men hardly stay back. The moment they find out, they out there looking for the next woman to sleep with, the next woman to impregnate. Very unfair situation. the dynamics very unbalanced. Let's have a look at some comments. Believe it or not, everyone has a biological clock.

[00:45:01]And this is what women are saying. It's not just with women alone. Men should learn to accept tears. Stop acting like they are immune to it. Except my dad who knocked my mom up post retirement. Age 68. Sounds like his clock is 69. Yeah.

[00:45:17]In as much as we talking about this, it doesn't mean that this applies to everyone. I have cases where people gave birth in their 60s. Yeah. Men in their 60s, in their 70s had children. Yeah.

[00:45:29]And this is very common in Africa.

[00:45:31]Sometimes when people bring up this biological clock conversation regarding women, some women argue because to them maybe what they've continuously experienced, what they've noticed around them are other women having children without any struggle, other women being very fertile, having children without no complication. This is what science tells us. This is on average. It does not necessarily mean that it applies to everyone out there. Also, 9 to 15% of men have clinical infertility, which is the same rate of infertility in women of childbearing age. Women that are less than 40 years. Basically, if the woman is under 40 and it's taking more than 6 to 12 months to conceive is just as likely to be due to the man's fertility as it is the woman's. Too often IVF rates are blamed on women waiting too long because of their careers when it's due to male infertility in 30 to 50% of cases. I don't know where she got her statistics from, but what she's saying does make sense to me. Here is another post. Men's biological clock and societies refuse her to acknowledge it.

[00:46:38]Take some seconds on Google to find the research regarding older paternity and genetic issues. It bothers me how much society shames women 30 plus but won't acknowledge any issue with advanced pattern age. Seeing men saying they still want children in their 40s but a woman who says the same would get that biological clock lecture. It is essentially upsetting seeing this shaming when you look at how older women are having to deal with the inflation rates we are seeing. women are having to wait until they are much older than they would like to be able to become mothers.

[00:47:13]You see this misogynistic rhetoric that puts young women on a pedestal because they believe women solely exist to be incubators. But this rhetoric also seems to think that men are not affected by any reproductive issues as they age. Men apparently become more appealing when it is really about people in general finally having the resources to have children. Again, we obsess about shaming older mothers for this. But we never tell men that are 40 plus that maybe the boat has sailed for them as well. Like I said, it's the society they protect men.

[00:47:49]Anything that is going to shame men globally, collectively, they protect men. Let's talk about the war. This particular post is about the war. The war doesn't exist. If you go through YouTube, you're going to see some videos talking about how women are hitting the wall. And those videos are made by men.

[00:48:04]So, this post says, "The war that women supposedly hit after a certain age does not actually exist. It's nothing but madeup fallacies used in an attempt to shame, degrade, and scare women into behaving in a way that is acceptable to the society. They want women to fall in line." is an easy way to use a woman's reproductive biology to once again determine her worth to society and how she deserves to be treated. Just because a woman after a certain age is acting in a way a person may not individually like, it doesn't mean that woman has suddenly transformed into a haggard witch. Women and men age. It's a fact of life. Some people take aging with grace.

[00:48:49]Some don't. The idea of the war is so outdated and misogynistic. It's truly saddening to see people still use it in an attempt to bully women they don't like. Her post does make a whole lot of sense. You know, a lot of men out there cannot take rejection. The moment you reject them, they become bitter, aggressive, angry, and their way of attacking, not even defending. attacking you is by using demeaning words, saying hurtful things to you to degrade you, demean you, and make you feel less of yourself. One of their usual line is, "Oh, you're getting expired. You're 30.

[00:49:23]No one is going to take you. No one is going to accept you. You'll be single forever. No one wants you because you've been used. You've been run over and all them nasty talk." So, I get her point.

[00:49:32]So, this last post is very interesting because men are the ones asking themselves. The title of the post says, "Any men out there who feel their biological clock is ticking." I told you, "Sounds interesting." So, let's read through it and see. Find it kind of relevant with today being Valentine's Day, but lately I've been feeling this weird pull to have a child and regret not really locking in with my ex and doing it earlier. I think my social media algorithm has figured this out as all I see lately are wholesome videos of fathers doing fatherly things with your kids. I know this is a cliche for females. Yeah, cliche because you guys first. I know this is a cliche for females, but do any of you guys genuinely feel like you're missing out and you're intent on finding someone and hopefully quickly advancing to having a child together? And if so, are you just being extremely upfront on the first, second, third daughter date and moving on if the woman isn't quite sure? Ooh, so men feel this way. Quite interesting to know. So, let's see what other men have to say. Yes, last year I had a breakup with a woman I thought I'd marry and have kids with. It hits especially hard at 32. Dating in your 30s when you want kids is pretty stressful. No more I'll just date them and see where it goes. There's always a question of whether or not I really like them enough to justify sinking more time into them and whether or not they like me enough.

[00:51:05]The pressure that adds to dating is not ideal. If I didn't want kids, I wouldn't care at all about getting older. H quite interesting. Oh my god, I feel like crying for him. Sorry, he might not be part of the men saying women expire, but it's good to know that men also feel this way. Same here. I seriously regret not getting my [ __ ] together faster in terms of career and not putting myself out there. If I have one advice to younger men 18 to 22 is that to meet people especially women just make friends doesn't have to be sexual that will come in handy when you're 23 to 25 and looking to find someone. Either one of your female friends will be that girl or they will help you find one and make good career choices. Easier said than done. This one says, "Yeah, turned 40 a couple of days ago and I'm keenly aware of my age limit on attracting fertile women and being physically able to give kids a great childhood." Don't think it's in the cards. H I love this one's point because it's not just about fertility alone. When men get older, they being faced with more health issues than women are being faced with. I'm pretty sure we've spoken about the nurse wife, hospice wife. Yeah, men understand that their health declines rapidly when they get older. So, it's not about having the kids. Will you be healthy enough to be there for those children or for that child? Here's another comment.

[00:52:31]I found for last year certainly becomes apparent that the older I get, the greater the age gap with a fatal woman.

[00:52:38]2 years ago, a 30-year-old girl who was initially interested backed off because the age gap fell too high. At this point, having the standard 2 years of dating before commitment means my options decrease considerably as I will just get older and older. This comment is coming from a woman. She says 48 female here. Women tend to be very aware of timing regarding having children.

[00:53:03]Demonstrating a similar awareness and focus would likely be very attractive to similar minded women. Good luck. I was friends with several men almost a decade older than me many years ago. They all wanted children but didn't filter prioritize that and just dated phone and thought they had unlimited time. We spoke about this and they assumed that whenever they wanted to settle down they would find a significantly younger woman. They are all in their 50s and none of them have children. I just found out that one of my newer male friends in his early 40s and very much wants to have kids. He's self-described as incredibly high standards while dating.

[00:53:44]I hope he doesn't end up the same. It's quite interesting to know that the pressure is not just on women alone. But the only difference here is this. Women are the ones being shamed and blamed.

[00:53:56]Let me know what you think about this in the comment section. Always have this at the back of your mind. Age affects everyone, both gender. No one is special to age. Everyone will age. No one is above the biological clock, be it a female or a male. Let me know your thoughts in the comment section and I will see you all in the next one. Thanks for watching.