Friendship Breakups: Do They Hurt More Than Romantic Ones? | Street Confessions Ep 12

Ajouté : 2026-06-02

[00:00:00]She bent over.

[00:00:01]>> Yeah, like like teach her how to >> Make she also bend over >> Yeah, correct. Correct.

[00:00:04]>> Then they saw her. So >> Correct.

[00:00:06]>> Who in, who out?

[00:00:07]>> Yeah, shoot here, shoot there like that.

[00:00:13]>> [music] >> Hey, what's up guys? I'm Billy Ma Yun and today we're on the streets to ask people about their friendship breakups.

[00:00:21]Let's go.

[00:00:35]So, have you ever had a friendship breakup?

[00:00:37]>> Yeah, actually multiple.

[00:00:39]>> Multiple?

[00:00:40]>> Mhm. Mhm. Mhm. Mhm.

[00:00:41]I'm sure I'm not the problem.

[00:00:42]The problem is really just values, differing values. I feel like it's always about the same thing. It's just weird because you can't be friends with MY EX.

[00:00:49]>> WHAT?

[00:00:50]>> OH, OKAY. That escalated quickly.

[00:00:52]>> Yeah, no. No. No. Cuz why is a friendship breakup is because they just want to continue the friendship with my ex.

[00:00:59]>> Oh, so your friends still want to be friends with your ex?

[00:01:03]>> Yeah.

[00:01:03]>> Ah, then what happened? What did you say?

[00:01:06]>> Uh, I told them like it's weird because like it's not right. It's just weird because you know him through me. You know, after your friend ends something with someone, you don't go out with the person anymore.

[00:01:18]>> Okay. Okay. Yeah, that makes sense.

[00:01:20]>> It was back in uni. We started off as really good friends, but I think the friendship just kind of went haywire when we both realized we have different priorities when we go out at night.

[00:01:30]I want to party and have fun.

[00:01:32]>> Uh-huh.

[00:01:33]>> She wants to go home with somebody.

[00:01:35]>> Sure. What?

[00:01:37]>> We had a few arguments and we decided that it'd be better if we stop fighting and we just separate our ways. He separated to a different friend group and like I was kind of like trying to get him back and then like I decided to just let him go.

[00:01:49]>> He changed teams, huh? Basically.

[00:01:50]>> Yeah, basically. Yeah. It wasn't mine, but it was more of my friends.

[00:01:53]>> Basically, she had really high expectations of this guy, but this guy always didn't like meet them. Like I always be late for meetings. Just very irresponsible. So like they were going Vietnam and then the day before he would he told her, "Oh, I'm going to go club."

[00:02:07]And then in the end he was like, "I'll make it. I'll make it." He was late for the flight.

[00:02:11]So because of him the whole flight delayed. Yes. Maybe at that time, I guess maybe he had like things going on in his life. Then maybe he was a bit distracted. But I think the friend is trying to show up now better. Yeah. Also he's still part of the friend group.

[00:02:23]>> Yeah, for sure. For sure.

[00:02:24]>> We did have fun but like our rationale is like we're already like young adults.

[00:02:29]I'm not there to pamper you or like baby you, you know.

[00:02:32]>> So it's this girl, right? My secondary school friend. Um there was this guy.

[00:02:35]Let's call him Ben, okay? So Ben my best friend, she asked Ben out.

[00:02:39]>> Even when she know that Ben is dating you.

[00:02:41]>> my best friend want to tell Ben the things that I like to do and the things that I like. So he wants to meet up so it's easier to like help him. But you know where they go? They go play pool.

[00:02:48]They don't play pool or what? She said she don't want to play mah. So Ben help like Ben like you know like you know you know.

[00:02:54]>> She bend over.

[00:02:55]>> Yeah like like teach her how to >> Then he also bend over with her.

[00:02:58]>> Correct.

[00:02:58]>> Then they solar so >> Correct.

[00:03:00]>> Who in who out?

[00:03:01]>> Yeah shoot yeah shoot there.

[00:03:03]Ben.

[00:03:04]Wait, what's your your best friend also?

[00:03:06]>> Best friend.

[00:03:07]They eventually got together la. Because that time secondary school busy busy with studying. I didn't really go out with Ben mah. They they both just keep going out. Then they end up being together. So after that when I know about it then I confronted her la. I said so you're together you see um So of course if can I take la.

[00:03:25]>> What is that kill side final boss there?

[00:03:26]>> Correct. Okay, I block her. Until I graduated. So now we are friends. As in we follow each other on Instagram but I don't talk to her anymore. But every time she text me, right? Like she will send me guy profile and ask me like oh you like him mah? Oh you you know him mah?

[00:03:38]>> You know why not?

[00:03:39]>> Cuz you want to think think again.

[00:03:41]>> Stop it.

[00:03:42]Get some help.

[00:03:43]>> Do you think friendships or relationships are harder to maintain?

[00:03:47]>> The friends we say with you forever la.

[00:03:48]We always have this saying when the boys school, bro we forever with you ah on, the girls they not here with you forever, bro.

[00:03:54]>> Bros over hoes, right?

[00:03:55]>> [laughter] >> Relationships are harder to maintain because they actually see every side of you. I mean, the boys they do, but uh you don't meet them every day. You don't stay them every day, you know, and everything. So, I think relationships are still harder, lah.

[00:04:07]>> I think friendships. I think relationship is like you really choose to be somebody who is on the same level as you are at. So, you wouldn't get into a relationship without knowing that you have the same values.

[00:04:18]Whereas a friendship is like you really don't have any autonomy over the person and their decisions. So, even though you're with someone because you click, at the end of the day they can still do whatever they want, you know? I mean, technically you can't say anything about it, lah. So, it's very hard to maintain.

[00:04:31]>> Basically, friendship you cannot control. Relationship, you can control your boy.

[00:04:36]>> In a relationship, it's actually easier to maintain. With my boyfriend, he understands my values and he listens to me. Okay, I'm not crazy. I'm not crazy.

[00:04:45]With friends, y'all will grow apart because y'all are constantly meeting new people.

[00:04:49]>> Yeah, and you cannot constantly control your friend.

[00:04:52]But you can control your boyfriend.

[00:04:55]>> I'd say relationships. When you become friends, it's usually hang out with more and you have Sometimes, I don't know, you feel more at ease. Yeah, like at ease and you feel like cuz you hang out with them a lot more, I'd say. It's more one-on-one. Let's say if you hang out with a friend and then you hang out with another friend, it's not going to be too big of a deal. But if you hang out with with your girlfriend, and then you have like another girl who you hang out with, it's going to be like a a lot bigger deal.

[00:05:18]>> Do you think friendship breakups hurt more than romantic breakup?

[00:05:21]>> If it's just like a one friend out of a group, it's not going to hurt that much.

[00:05:24]But if it's your best friend, then yeah, it's going to hurt quite a lot. But I'd say overall, I'd say relationship hurts more.

[00:05:29]>> Yeah, I feel like friendship breakups hurt a lot. Actually, I feel I prioritize my friends a lot. Yeah.

[00:05:34]>> Wow.

[00:05:35]>> Yeah. I like to live out my friends.

[00:05:37]That's chill. When I meet my friends, we talk a lot, you know, all our we just share emotions, all our heartbreaks, blah blah blah, everything we've been through.

[00:05:43]>> He's really a bro over hoe, bro.

[00:05:44]>> No, because >> Boyfriend or not, you still can find one.

[00:05:55]>> [screaming] >> I'm like your therapist you're from a dumping on me.

[00:05:59]>> [laughter] >> Why do you think we are more likely to cut off a friend instead of a lover over one mistake?

[00:06:05]>> They they are not part of your everyday life while compared to a relationship right? But most of the friendships that usually have I see at least nine out of 10 they don't deal with you everyday. So it's easy to cut them off than anyone else like >> Basically because friends at the end of the day they are just friends. You know lover you introduce your family, introduce your armor, introduce to your extended family. Like this is the person you want to bring into your future you know. Your friends are just people who are there for you.

[00:06:32]>> Who are you?

[00:06:32]>> Your lover is like they will for real be there for you. If I end things with a lover is harder to tell my family. But if I end things with a friend right is like my family wouldn't care.

[00:06:45]>> I don't know I feel like people are naturally more forgiving with their partners.

[00:06:48]>> If your friend did something wrong you are less forgiving to them as compared to your boyfriend doing to you.

[00:06:53]>> Yeah. Yeah if they really do something that is not in alignment with you then I would just let go like I mean that's for me personally.

[00:07:01]>> So all your friends that you want to break up with them you just ghost them up.

[00:07:04]>> Yeah.

[00:07:05]>> Then but for your partners you won't ghost them.

[00:07:07]>> No.

[00:07:07]>> Or you also ghost?

[00:07:08]>> No no no I won't.

[00:07:09]>> With a girlfriend or boyfriend if you really love them you're not going to really like try to separate instantly.

[00:07:15]You try to fight you're going to fight and want to stay with them as long as possible.

[00:07:18]>> Okay so you're more tolerant.

[00:07:19]>> Yeah you're more tolerant I say and you try to work things out a little bit quicker.

[00:07:24]>> But with your friend you're not as tolerant yeah.

[00:07:25]>> No.

[00:07:26]>> No.

[00:07:26]>> I rather give my my friends more chances.

[00:07:28]>> Then your lover.

[00:07:29]>> Yeah.

[00:07:30]Friends are very important to me. I don't know they're like your support you know they are social they are everything you know.

[00:07:35]>> Oh.

[00:07:36]>> [laughter] >> They are your everything.

[00:07:37]>> Yeah they really are. I share my friends everything.

[00:07:40]>> What's one lesson you learn from losing a friend?

[00:07:42]>> That I don't need friends. I'm better off alone.

[00:07:44]>> Yeah.

[00:07:45]>> [laughter] >> Yeah, I think you need help.

[00:07:47]I got a therapist number, right? I can pass to you. You want to start trusting friends?

[00:07:51]>> I'm good. I'm good. I'm good.

[00:07:52]>> Knowing where you stand like in a relationship like a friendship like you know I mean sometimes you prioritize more like towards them than they do to you.

[00:08:00]So I think knowing where you stand is very important so you know when to let go so if they actually don't really care about you much that much.

[00:08:04]>> Must have a friendship that they got reciprocated so like >> Yeah, exactly like if I put two step you also put two step. You know how long must I always I put effort to make the relationship work then well you don't know.

[00:08:14]>> Why you you sound like you have a lot of trauma.

[00:08:16]>> No no no no no no no no no no no no no no.

[00:08:18]>> Your friends break your heart.

[00:08:19]>> No no no.

[00:08:19]>> You can never be too what's that called?

[00:08:23]My way or the highway. People really don't like you one. Like yes you can be straight forward you can be whatever but just don't always think that everybody must follow what you think.

[00:08:32]>> You should always communicate more and like shouldn't take for granted having good friends around you because when he was there I didn't really appreciate as much and then when he was gone I realized I miss having this person around.

[00:08:42]>> I think it's self respect though.

[00:08:44]And mutual respect. I feel like no matter how long you guys are friends all right if there's no respect there then there's no point continuing the friendship.

[00:08:51]>> Manage your expectations with friendships. Just focus on being there for a good time and enjoy the friendship. You shouldn't get into a friendship and then expect other people to behave a certain way or act a certain way.

[00:09:02]>> You sound so depressed. You lost so many friends.

[00:09:05]Is that you feel like most of the friendship right even though you don't want them to end right most of them will eventually end.

[00:09:10]At a certain point of life.

[00:09:12]>> Yeah, unfortunately I feel like that's a pattern.

[00:09:14]>> If given a chance would you reconnect with that friend that you fell out with?

[00:09:18]>> 100% yeah.

[00:09:19]>> Really?

[00:09:19]>> Yeah yeah. At the end of the day it was still a nice friendship. Like at that one point of time they were still there when you needed somebody. You all shared so many memories and it can just be like at that point of time that they also have their own priorities and whatever they have going on.

[00:09:33]>> If given a chance would you reconnect with that friend?

[00:09:36]>> No, she should have been the one that came and text me, no. I mean I haven't I haven't ended a friendship that way, but like let's cut off, no. Like it's just a bit like it's a bit like distant.

[00:09:46]>> Oh, so have no proper closure.

[00:09:48]>> No.

[00:09:49]>> Yes, I'd like to be friends with them, but like at the same time after all the arguments it'd be kind of awkward to like yeah, and just get back to being friends together.

[00:09:56]>> Would you text him first?

[00:09:57]>> No.

[00:09:58]>> What if he reaches out to you?

[00:09:59]>> Then yeah, I'd I'd consider it, yeah.

[00:10:01]>> Would you reconnect with that best friend?

[00:10:02]>> I will.

[00:10:03]But If my boyfriend on me, I ask her go and date my boyfriend.

[00:10:17]>> And that's it for this week's episode.

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