👀BIG GWOAT SPEAKS! “Money, Fame & Insecurity! Why Attention Doesn’t Always Heal Low Self-Esteem”

Added: 2026-05-20

[00:00:03]Welcome to Hood Champion Boxing and Sports. In boxing, you find a way to win or you find a way to lose.

[00:00:09]Now, Claressa Shields, validation and confidence.

[00:00:14]Now, you know when it come to Claressa, man, I don't know what the story is with her, but especially over the last I would say year, those who've been following her closer would probably say it's been longer than that, but for me, I still over the last year, she's really been going viral with this whole thing about being attractive and her big lobster tail and about sex and about everything else, and she has us talking.

[00:00:41]But when she and I spoke back in the day, you know, what she told me was, well, matter of fact, forget what I say. This is what she said.

[00:00:51]All we can do is go off of what you say.

[00:00:53]When you go and you do videos like, "If y'all I'mma keep doing this and y'all trolling and I'm I'm fine. I'm this. I'm pretty. Y'all broke bums. Y'all ugly.

[00:01:01]Y'all this." What what you We get We get snippets. We're not We're not We're not Look.

[00:01:07]We get snippets. I want you to understand something, and I hope people understand this real loud. I don't think that nobody IN THE WORLD IS UGLY. I LOVE BLACK PEOPLE. I LOVE OUR FEATURES AND HOW YOU look and everything. THE ONLY TIME PEOPLE GET BAD ENERGY BACK FROM me is when they give it to me. I've never in my life went went to somebody page who I didn't know personally and said anything bad about them. Do you mind You KNOW HOW MANY PEOPLE WHO I see who I DON'T LIKE THEIR DRESS?

[00:01:33]I DON'T like their music. I don't like what they do. I don't like how they are.

[00:01:36]I've never went to their pages to disrespect them and tell them how I felt about them, especially if it was not a good thing.

[00:01:45]Now, some would disagree with that. Some would agree with her.

[00:01:50]I don't know.

[00:01:52]But what I do know is this conversation happened months ago, and here we are right now in May of 2026.

[00:02:02]And the same conversation is taking place.

[00:02:06]So, you know what Hood Champion does?

[00:02:09]I say, "Hey, yo, hold your horses. Let's stop taking it to the stupid."

[00:02:14]Cuz I need to understand why some people need the world to believe they're attractive.

[00:02:18]I'm trying to understand that psychology behind validation, attention, and insecurity because that's what I think about when it comes to Claressa Shields.

[00:02:27]Now, everyone knows I don't have an opinion on whether I think she's attractive or unattractive. I'm neutral.

[00:02:32]They know I don't care.

[00:02:34]But, what I will tell you is this psychology behind someone like her uh other people, especially these public figures, right?

[00:02:45]Constantly trying to convince the world and themselves that they are attractive, desirable, envied, or sexually sexually wanted.

[00:02:56]I'll be honest with you. I just don't understand it.

[00:02:59]Why would someone repeatedly tell viewers that they're jealous of them, aggressively defend their appearance, constantly seek validation online, focus heavily on sex appeal and body image? Why?

[00:03:13]Continuously highlight certain physical attributes of Claressa Shields. What's the one thing she always talking about?

[00:03:20]And if she's not talking about it, what she's always trying to do and turn and show it to the camera?

[00:03:25]Her butt.

[00:03:27]So, in my in my opinion, there's a lot of insecurity and overcompensation.

[00:03:35]I do I I am aware that as a child she got bullied. I mean, she's talked about things and she's had family members come out here and just talk about [ __ ] I'm sure she never wanted to get out. And I think there are a lot of emotional wounds there.

[00:03:51]But, also it seems to me with this money she has this new status in life and in her that's like perceived attractiveness which really the attractiveness attractiveness to what?

[00:04:04]Because some people say it's not physical. Could be because of that money you have that woo ching ching ching ching dollar dollar bill y'all.

[00:04:14]And her always going live social media validation and it seems to be an addiction and that has really destroyed her in my opinion.

[00:04:26]But I really think it's about identity and self-worth.

[00:04:30]And understanding this defensive ego behavior and this emotional projection that happens seems to be in every damn video that she does.

[00:04:39]But what we're seeing here and look I'm just having a conversation. I'm not saying I know a damn thing. I just like talking about it because it's entertaining.

[00:04:48]But fame fame fame can ruin people.

[00:04:54]And often magnifies unresolved insecurities instead of healing them.

[00:04:58]How many of y'all feel where is the shoes is since she's become famous has been able to resolve her childhood trauma and has been healing herself?

[00:05:10]And remember I'm not out here to to attack her appearance. I'm just trying to understand that behavior man.

[00:05:17]You know psychologically and emotionally.

[00:05:21]Cuz to me the shit's a little bit Sesame Street. Now why would people try to convince others that they're attractive? Now while I'm talking about this right let let me do this real quick cuz this is something that really blew my mind and um I might as well I might as well show it to you while I'm talking.

[00:05:40]Cuz this is something I did the other day and it really blew my mind. I did not understand it. I still don't really understand it. It's only a minute and 34 seconds. I'm going to play it. I'm going to show y'all. Y'all already know what it is.

[00:05:55]Um >> [clears throat] >> but this is Clarissa Shields.

[00:05:59]Okay? This is where she's eating the chicken. It looked like there was a bone, but by the time she was finished with that, that chicken turned boneless.

[00:06:06]I guess she got a little magician in her, too, because god damn that bone disappeared. It It really don't have nothing to do with the conversation.

[00:06:13]Just just listen listen to this.

[00:06:21]How many Look, first of all, did y'all hear that smacking?

[00:06:24]That [ __ ] sound like a gunshot. But I'm not here to make jokes. I'm going to give a serious video, but but this is just complete madness. Any filters that I have on this video, you wouldn't [ __ ] believe it if I told you.

[00:06:37]If I told you I have zero filters on this video, you would be pissed off.

[00:06:46]And that is the answer. I have zero filters. I'm this fine in real [clears throat] life. This is my real face.

[00:06:52]You see that? It doesn't change. It doesn't I've had this scar here since I was And that is the answer. I have zero filters. I'm this fine in real life.

[00:07:03]This is my real face.

[00:07:04]You see that? It doesn't change. It doesn't I've had this scar here since I was 22 years old from a head butt against Hannah Gabriel.

[00:07:16]So, yeah. I have [clears throat] no I I I have no filters on. This is my natural glistening beautiful moisturized skin.

[00:07:24]And this is my beautiful face.

[00:07:27]You got me?

[00:07:29]All right.

[00:07:31]>> [snorts] >> Oh, and no makeup.

[00:07:33]No eyelashes. No eyebrows.

[00:07:36]Just my face today.

[00:07:38]You don't like it? You got to go.

[00:07:41]And then now you're mad and you're saying it's a wig? Guess what?

[00:07:46]It's a sew-in. So, you was close, but you were wrong. Sew-in, baby.

[00:07:52]I don't know why you come on here asking how many pills I got, but guess what?

[00:07:55]None.

[00:07:57]I bet that made you feel sick, didn't it?

[00:08:02]Toast to you being stupid.

[00:08:05]>> [laughter] >> Y'all put y'all glasses up. Toast to that person being stupid.

[00:08:09]>> [laughter] >> So, here it is again.

[00:08:15]She calling people stupid, basically dumb. She didn't call them broke, but she talking about herself.

[00:08:23]How pretty she is, how fine she is, and she's on a live, and she's eating. Where that chicken go?

[00:08:31]Where that chicken bone go?

[00:08:34]That chicken bone is up, up, and away, huh?

[00:08:37]She turned that [ __ ] to boneless chicken.

[00:08:40]But, this is what I'm talking about.

[00:08:42]Now, I could do videos for days about her.

[00:08:46]I just don't because it's exhausting.

[00:08:53]But, it comes back to what I was I wanted to talk about and why people try to convince others that they're attractive. Why is Chrissy doing this?

[00:09:00]And and I think it's for me, it's one of the most important psychological concepts.

[00:09:06]Is I just feel when you're confident, I feel confident. I know a lot of y'all who are watching this video and who are um follow my page and just even if you don't follow, I know y'all are confident, too. And I think we you all would say the same thing I'm about to say. If truly confident people usually don't aggressively try to convince others they're attractive.

[00:09:28]That's just something that we don't do.

[00:09:32]Constantly announcing, "I'm fine, man.

[00:09:35]PLEASE, BUTCH IT." PAPOOSE PAP.

[00:09:38]TELL THEM, PAP. MHM. MHM. PAP. LIKE THIS mhm low miles low miles.

[00:09:44]You jealous. Everybody wants me. People wish they look like me. Mhm.

[00:09:50]See, when you out here constantly announcing all this crap, this is just my opinion, you know what I'm saying? It can sometimes point towards insecurity rather than confidence. And I think that's what we're dealing with.

[00:10:04]Now, why? Because secure people usually feel no need to repeatedly defend or advertise their value or respond to people, especially when people are saying [ __ ] about them that's not true.

[00:10:14]He You usually just don't give a damn.

[00:10:18]You But I think for her is a there's a loud loud loud need for validation.

[00:10:25]That's what I hear her screaming every time she comes out here posting these videos and saying things and putting out different posts on on on social media.

[00:10:36]Sometimes the deeper the insecurity underneath, the louder the need for validation, folks. And that's what I think I think deep down she's just insecure.

[00:10:48]And there's a difference between confidence and validation seeking.

[00:10:52]Cuz somebody like nah, she's just confident. Nah, I don't This is my opinion. So, I'm not saying you're right or I'm wrong. I'm just saying in my opinion, confidence I think that that's internal.

[00:11:06]When you're confident, it's internal.

[00:11:08]The way you move, the way you operate.

[00:11:11]Validation seeking is external.

[00:11:14]The confident is the quiet one.

[00:11:16]The one who wants validation, the weak ones, those are the loud ones.

[00:11:19]When someone's loud and making a bunch of noise, more than likely they're weak, they ain't happy in their life, they've thrown their life away. Something's happened and you if you really the more you learn about them, the more you be like, oh, that's why this person here is acting like that.

[00:11:32]That's why they in the breeze.

[00:11:35]Because it's that validation-seeking.

[00:11:37]A confident person may appreciate compliments, but their self-worth does not depend on them. [clears throat] A validation-seeking person often needs constant reinforcement from others to feel emotionally secure. They even need people to come out there and and and speak on their behalf or they always need to have somebody there with them.

[00:11:56]They always need to feel like they have this connection or something.

[00:12:00]They want to be part of a team. They want to be part of something.

[00:12:03]But a confident person don't give a damn.

[00:12:06]They just they they they they they march to the beat of their own drum.

[00:12:11]And I'm going to tell you social media intensifies this dramatically. You just sit back and just watch.

[00:12:17]All of this speaking aggressively to viewers.

[00:12:21]I don't see why people go or go to anyone's page when the person's being very disrespectful towards them. There's an individual out here who has a boxing channel.

[00:12:31]Like two, three years ago, I went to the channel just to check it out cuz it kept popping up.

[00:12:37]And this dude is just out here disrespecting everybody on them on there.

[00:12:43]And I'm like, "What the [ __ ] is this?"

[00:12:44]And people were calling in and he's disrespecting them, they're disrespecting him, and then I'm like, "Dude, that's wild."

[00:12:53]So, I don't know why somebody would do would would go there and let this man sit and tell them how dumb they are, they don't know nothing about boxing, they're morons, and they try to act like they're so much smarter than than than the callers.

[00:13:05]So, when it come to Clarissa again, it it with me, when you're aggressive aggressively telling your viewers, "You all are jealous of me."

[00:13:15]I think it can be projection, but I don't know why somebody would go there to hear and deal with that crap. Maybe they find it entertaining.

[00:13:23]But projection happens when a person places their internal insecurities on onto others. And that's what's been going on here in my opinion with Clarissa. She's just putting her internal insecurities onto the whole world.

[00:13:35]And the whole world's paying attention and they went from supporting her to now laughing at her.

[00:13:39]Or being tired of her.

[00:13:40]But in many cases the person may secretly fear rejection, criticism, not being desired, not being accepted.

[00:13:50]And I don't care what anyone says.

[00:13:53]I do believe that this is something that Clarissa Shields is dealing with.

[00:13:59]And that's why she attacks first emotionally as self-protection.

[00:14:04]Remember, I don't I should have played this clip, right? But she was on the Breakfast Was it the Breakfast Club?

[00:14:10]No, she was on um It was it was a I think it was Wallo and Gillie. But but anyway, whatever whatever platform she was on, she she did say that when she first meets people, I don't I It wasn't them. Anyway, I can't remember what platform. But what I did catch, cuz you know I'll be listening to all that [ __ ] certain things jumped out at me. When she said when she first meets people, basically that her quills are up.

[00:14:39]And that she doesn't want anyone to get comfortable with her.

[00:14:42]But as she gets to know them and they feel each other out, she'll retract those quills and be more personable.

[00:14:48]So she'll kind of attack first emotionally as self-protection.

[00:14:53]And that's exactly what she does.

[00:14:57]And it could all be caused by childhood bullying.

[00:15:00]Because that [ __ ] creates lifelong validation issues. Many psychologists believe this. I did some research on this, folks.

[00:15:07]Childhood experiences heavily shape adult self-esteem.

[00:15:11]If someone was bullied, someone was mocked, rejected, called unattractive, excluded socially, which is what happened to Clarissa Shields, those emotional wounds may persist for years it's showing up right now and we've had people call in who were close to that amateur circuit and said it was there. She was bullied as an amateur on that team. The girls weren't nice to her. She was mocked, she was rejected, she was called unattractive, made fun about her clothes. She was excluded socially.

[00:15:42]This is all as an amateur. All I hear the Olympic team, everything. She was really treated badly but then something and something happened and all of a sudden she started getting her way.

[00:15:52]And all of a sudden now those emotional wounds are here but that's why she's lashing out at everybody. This is like the big payback.

[00:15:58]The revenge mentality.

[00:16:00]Some individuals unconsciously develop a revenge against the world mentality.

[00:16:05]That's Claressa Shields.

[00:16:07]Look at what I have. Look at this. LOOK AT THAT. PAPOOSE PAP MAN, PLEASE. I GOT A CORVETTE.

[00:16:15]I got a seven seven-bedroom house.

[00:16:19]I got this. I got that.

[00:16:21]I got low miles.

[00:16:23]Mhm.

[00:16:25]I got hair.

[00:16:26]I got money.

[00:16:28]I got a man and a man and a man.

[00:16:32]You want society to admire you, to desire you.

[00:16:38]You want people to envy you, try to validate you because obviously you must have been feeling invisible or wanted earlier in life.

[00:16:51]I still have a hard time believing there's a bunch of in a bunch of athletes and actors and stuff who is chasing after Claressa Shields. I mean, I'm trying to think of what actor, male actor trying to get at Claressa Shields and pursuing her and wanting her and wanting to date [clears throat] her.

[00:17:07]I mean, like I'm a man so I know how us men can be.

[00:17:13]We may want to come out there and pitch a little woo, rub a dub you. That don't mean we like you. That doesn't mean you're attractive. You're a female.

[00:17:22]And for us men, a lot of times, we just may look and say we just want to come out there, man, and rub a dub and touch it up a little bit and then go on about our business, but that doesn't mean that we find you attractive necessarily.

[00:17:35]So, this thing about she's desired and all these people want her that that that's that talk that's the money talking right there.

[00:17:42]After feeling invisible or unwanted early in life, now you got this certain status, you think if somebody look at you, they want you.

[00:17:49]No, they're probably looking at you because you're Claressa Shields, you're this famous boxer. That's probably what it is.

[00:17:58]But fame, money, and status can intensify all of this [ __ ] and that's why I'm talking about it because suddenly just take a look, the same person who once felt ignored now receives attention constantly.

[00:18:12]Fame, money, and status.

[00:18:15]It doesn't say fame, money, status, and new and improved look, now beautiful.

[00:18:21]It's no no That's not what happened. And even for men, you don't just become handsome cuz you got dope.

[00:18:28]It's you got dope.

[00:18:30]But all these athletes out here, women out here, they got this badass woman.

[00:18:36]Sh- She would have never even let this man come and pick up dog [ __ ] out of her yard.

[00:18:41]But he come he come across some money, he's an athlete, he all of a sudden thinks that there's something special about him, he go and marry a woman, and she jerks him.

[00:18:52]Gets him for half.

[00:18:54]Even Eddie Murphy was talking about this [ __ ] back in the day.

[00:18:58]But marrying a girl I'll let y'all go watch the comedy [ __ ] I will have Eddie.

[00:19:06]And that's what happens.

[00:19:08]Let me let me just point this out. Money and status can change how people are treated.

[00:19:12]Right? It It can. And this is where psychology becomes complicated. People often confuse attention with genuine attraction. Attention and genuine attraction two different things.

[00:19:25]Status changes social behavior. That's a fact, man.

[00:19:30]People naturally react differently when you're famous.

[00:19:34]You know what I'm saying?

[00:19:35]Uh or if someone is has money. Watch somebody drive whether it's in a Mercedes-Benz or BMW. Watch how people respond. Then watch somebody come through there in a G Wagon. Watch how they respond. Then watch somebody come through there in a Bentley. Watch how they respond. Watch somebody pull through pull up in a Ferrari or Lamborghini. Watch how they respond.

[00:19:57]It's just the status. People just reacting differently to things, man.

[00:20:00]It's influence. It's success. It's celebrity.

[00:20:04]That's just how a lot of society is. But then you get at the concentric few like me who don't give a f about nothing.

[00:20:12]Cuz I was You don't grow with that. You don't care.

[00:20:15]You don't have that void in your life.

[00:20:17]You just don't give a [ __ ] about nothing but your fan bam, and that's it.

[00:20:21]But that attention can feel like proof of attractiveness to some people. You know what I'm saying? And that's why things happen with Clarissa. That's why she like, "Look at my Corvette." Mhm.

[00:20:34]But what's the most alarming it's not just Clarissa.

[00:20:40]And it's not just men out here.

[00:20:43]I see it happening in all levels.

[00:20:47]Some people associate status with beauty. Humans are socially influenced creatures. Society often treats successful people as more desirable overall.

[00:20:59]And this isn't something I'm making up.

[00:21:01]It's called a halo effect.

[00:21:03]So, what this means is success in one area causes people to assume attractiveness or superiority in others.

[00:21:12]I had somebody when I got to a certain status in my career I had somebody pull me aside.

[00:21:21]And I'm I I I will always appreciate the old head pulling me aside cuz I was a young cat.

[00:21:27]But I had I had done pretty good, right?

[00:21:29]And I talked about this on the channel.

[00:21:31]He told me he was like, "Hey, just remember."

[00:21:35]He was like, "With where you are right now, he was like, that didn't make make you any more attractive than you were yesterday."

[00:21:44]He was like, "And you're going to see a lot of these people, these women, these young girls especially because of your status now, they're going to be coming at you and saying things to you." He's like, "But that doesn't mean you're any more attractive than than you were yesterday.

[00:21:58]So just remember keep that in mind and stay disciplined."

[00:22:04]And I'm looking at him cuz I heard what he said and I really appreciated that. And then he ended it with like, "You need to listen more and talk very little now cuz you can get yourself in trouble because of your status."

[00:22:15]I said, "Cool." And I appreciated that, but at the same time I'm looking at him like, "Look, you steak and potato eating [ __ ] Talk about yourself, you know what I mean? Don't come telling me anything about I didn't come become more attractive. Get the hell out of here. I never had a problem with women, you know? Your big steak and potato ass, you've had the issue. So that shit's gone to your head. But now you're thinking all these people coming to you, talking to you that all of a sudden you're thinking you're attractive. My brain isn't wired like that.

[00:22:44]I don't even think like that. Somebody says something polite to me, that's I just take it as that. I don't I don't look I don't try to read into [ __ ] But I understood where he was coming from.

[00:22:56]Cuz he sure as hell was trying to tighten my ass up in there. But but I I appreciated the mentorship. Cuz you know what? He was right.

[00:23:05]The halo effect is real, folks.

[00:23:08]Success in one area causes people to assume attractiveness or superiority in others. And that's all he was saying. He should have just told me, "Hey, look up the halo effect."

[00:23:18]I would have been like, "Got it." But he he came out here basically he was talking about his damn self. But that has nothing to do with anything.

[00:23:26]But what does have something to do with this conversation is understanding why some people become obsessed with appearance after success.

[00:23:34]Someone who once felt undesirable, ignored, or unattractive may become hyper-focused on proving the opposite after becoming successful, like buying a bunch of expensive things.

[00:23:45]Look at what I'm buying. Look at how much I'm spending. Look at these shoes.

[00:23:48]Look at this outfit. Look at this. Look at that. Look at me.

[00:23:53]I'm okay, you're not okay.

[00:23:56]Especially if they never emotionally healed from earlier rejection.

[00:24:02]All of these expensive things they're buying and wearing and putting on are just something to blanket the hurt and unresolved trauma.

[00:24:10]The early rejection in life.

[00:24:13]So now, every compliment, every look, every romantic interaction feels emotionally significant, and they want to tell the world. Because again, they're seeking validation. It's the revenge mentality. Someone tell me something nice, I'mma go live and talk about it. Someone looking at me and I feel like they want me, I'mma go talk about it. If I have a romantic interaction, I'm doing something and and I feel that this is something I wasn't getting before, I'mma let the world know, "Look what I'm doing."

[00:24:41]It all feels emotionally significant.

[00:24:42]Now, I'mma be honest with you, I'm not going to show it.

[00:24:45]But I did see the posts and the tweets.

[00:24:47]And this is why you got to be careful what you put on social media. When Clarissa was she was with the other guy, I think it was his birthday or something.

[00:24:55]I don't know, but she was like the tweet was something kind of it was it was really lewd.

[00:25:01]You know and I'm not going to say it.

[00:25:02]Y'all know the tweet I'm talking about.

[00:25:04]You know what I'm saying?

[00:25:06]And I was like, "Yo, I can't believe she posted that shit."

[00:25:09]But anyway, it was from a couple years ago but you know things resurface out here online.

[00:25:15]But again, it goes back to her wanting to to feel emotionally significant and put that out to the world because again, they're trying to rewrite their self-image.

[00:25:29]This this thing about constantly talking about sex and desirability and attractive and level of attractiveness.

[00:25:41]I don't I just don't understand that.

[00:25:44]I think frequent sex sexual discussion can sometimes signal deep validation needs.

[00:25:50]I I I really do.

[00:25:53]I can only talk from a man's perspective.

[00:25:56]This thing about sex sex sex and women women women.

[00:26:05]I mean if if you got it like that, you really ain't talking about it that much.

[00:26:09]But for those couple guys out there, I remember coming up they ain't really had that many women but when they did go out there and seal the deal or deflower somebody's daughter, uh they were quick to come back and tell the whole crew.

[00:26:23]I remember one I had one partner, you know, I pulled him aside when I was like, "Yo, you shouldn't be out here telling everybody what you're doing." I said cuz first if you're doing it and this woman is allowing you to enjoy her on whatever level, you're making her look bad.

[00:26:41]You know what I'm saying? And once that word get back to her cuz all those bozos are going to talk, she going to shut your [ __ ] down.

[00:26:47]And then it's you and your [ __ ] hands so shut up.

[00:26:51]You know what I'm saying? But he was you know some of these guys they just didn't they didn't have that a healthy social life. So when they do come across something they want to come back and tell the whole world. But it goes back to that deep validation need.

[00:27:08]You know what I'm saying?

[00:27:10]And the why's of all of this because sexual desirability is often tied psycholog- psychologically to worth.

[00:27:18]To acceptance for some people.

[00:27:20]To power for some people. To attention for some people and for many people it's an ego reinforcement, male and female.

[00:27:30]So when I'm sitting here listening to Clarissa I'm like, yep.

[00:27:34]She She wants to feel valued worth. She wants to be accepted.

[00:27:39]She's really about the power. She wants the attention and she she seems to be someone who needs an ego reinforced.

[00:27:47]And this is crazy to me.

[00:27:49]Cuz sexual attention it it can become emotional proof for some individuals.

[00:27:57]Because being desired sexually becomes proof that they matter.

[00:28:01]And this is where long-term this comes back to hurt people, man.

[00:28:05]Men and women.

[00:28:07]And this is especially if they previously felt rejected or unwanted. If you felt rejected, you felt unwanted, you never had a lot of attention and then all of all of a sudden you're getting a little bit of attention, you can go overboard with the [ __ ] It's like someone who's been hungry.

[00:28:23]You're not used to having food then all of a sudden they put you in a buffet line, you just pull the chair up to the buffet line, especially if you had trying to get you some fried rice and chicken wings at the buffet.

[00:28:35]You're eating everything, the garlic chicken, the pepper shrimp, fried rice, everything, the goddamn sushi, they got the Mongolian grill coming, you're frying up all kind of [ __ ] It's like, all right, goddamn.

[00:28:48]Take your time and enjoy it. You trying to eat everything.

[00:28:52]But that's what that's what happens.

[00:28:54]That attention-seeking behavior.

[00:28:57]Hypersexual presentation.

[00:29:00]Repeated focus on physical appearance.

[00:29:03]And you know what's crazy? Social media it can reward this beha- this kind of behavior heavily or they can just really just totally slam that kind of behavior.

[00:29:16]But when you get somebody who feels that they're being rewarded, well, I mean, social media creates a validation addiction.

[00:29:25]All these platforms out here, man, you know, they they reward attention.

[00:29:31]Reactions, controversy, thirst traps, emotional engagement, views and clicks, people, views and clicks. The more extreme the behavior, the more attention people receive.

[00:29:40]That's the truth.

[00:29:42]You come out here providing clean content, people ain't watching your damn videos.

[00:29:46]Do something where it could be a little bit of porn, a little soft porn, a little bit of skin being shown. It don't even have to be sex. Just a little bit of skin being shown from male or female.

[00:29:55]And look at the views and clicks over somebody who's there dressed, body fully covered, look really nice, got nice body, nice physique, but not revealing.

[00:30:04]Yeah, they'll probably get a few views and clicks, but let the person show some skin.

[00:30:08]They go buck wild.

[00:30:11]Now, over time, some people psychologically depend on comments, likes, reposts, compliments, online reactions. Who does that sound like?

[00:30:19]And then what happens? Creates a cycle.

[00:30:21]And you just repeat it.

[00:30:22]Who does that sound like?

[00:30:25]You see, the internet becomes an emotional mirror.

[00:30:28]At some point in time, people begin measuring self-worth through online engagement.

[00:30:34]The more these people are online, in my opinion, the more they're measuring their self-worth.

[00:30:41]If if I get clicks, or someone says this about me or whatever, that makes them feel a kind of way.

[00:30:48]And when the attention slows down, anxiety increases.

[00:30:52]That's why they get back on here. They got to put stuff out.

[00:30:56]I don't know many people who just don't give a damn about this.

[00:30:59]They would just totally change gears or just leave it alone or go a couple days and not do any videos.

[00:31:05]There's only a few I know who just don't give a damn.

[00:31:08]You do it when you feel like it.

[00:31:10]But I think this explains why some public figures constantly post.

[00:31:14]Why they're arguing, why they're defending themselves, why they're trying to seek reactions.

[00:31:20]Cuz it's an emotional mirror.

[00:31:22]And they're trying to measure their self-worth.

[00:31:25]And I'mma tell you this, you keep doing that [ __ ] online, viewers sometimes reject this behavior.

[00:31:31]Viewers become uncomfortable when someone constantly praises themselves aggressively.

[00:31:36]They don't want to keep hearing that crap.

[00:31:39]Especially if the audience was never discussing appearance in the first place.

[00:31:43]If we ain't talking about it, why are you talking about it?

[00:31:46]Why are you drawing attention to these things?

[00:31:50]Cuz we as the audience, we start feeling like, are they trying to manipulate us?

[00:31:54]Because we're emotionally exhausted now.

[00:31:56]We don't want to hear about this no more. We're confused. And then they disconnect.

[00:32:00]Cuz the conversation starts feeling forced. You're forcing it. You got to let it flow, let it come naturally. You got to here trying to push this agenda.

[00:32:09]All this overcompensation and ego defense [ __ ] man.

[00:32:14]Nobody want to hear that.

[00:32:18]And that overcompensation occurs when someone exaggerates traits they secretly feel insecure about.

[00:32:24]Or you go and you're attacking somebody else about certain qualities or features or attributes they have, that's because you're probably jealous that you don't have it.

[00:32:33]You're probably feeling insecure about yourself.

[00:32:37]You you come out here attacking somebody else who's done nothing or said nothing to you.

[00:32:45]Probably has something to do with you.

[00:32:49]And that's why I listen to the ladies, especially boy, that thing about this colorism.

[00:32:54]That that is really really destroyed Clarissa Shields when it comes to a lot of fans.

[00:33:01]The relationship and that colorism thing.

[00:33:04]Boy, so many women, man, I hear them talking about that.

[00:33:08]Mhm, [clears throat] they were not feeling that [ __ ] But you got to understand someone deeply insecure about attractiveness, they're going to become obsessed with attacking others' beauty or things they feel they don't possess, trying to prove their beauty, trying to prove their desirability, trying to prove their sexual attention.

[00:33:30]And that whole behavior just becomes an emotional shield.

[00:33:34]That's exactly what it is.

[00:33:36]And and and you know what I realized?

[00:33:38]It's not necessarily because they fully believe it, but because they desperately want to believe it.

[00:33:46]I mean, I'm 6 ft tall.

[00:33:49]I can stand in the mirror and tell myself I'm 6'7 all day.

[00:33:54]I mean, I I I don't believe that. I may want to believe it. You know what I'm saying?

[00:34:01]I know I'm no goddamn 6'7.

[00:34:04]Just like people will know if if you know what you are at this point in time in your life, you know what I'm saying?

[00:34:09]You know what you are, you know where you're going.

[00:34:13]But I'll just tell you this.

[00:34:16]Money doesn't always heal self self-esteem.

[00:34:21]To me, money creates convenience.

[00:34:24]But anyone out there, especially if you got a little gray in your hair, if you still believe money automatically uh creates happiness.

[00:34:35]No.

[00:34:37]But some people say, you know what?

[00:34:38]Well, it can create confidence.

[00:34:40]I do believe that. It won't create happiness. It can create confidence.

[00:34:45]It can create convenience, but it doesn't it doesn't resolve emotional wounds.

[00:34:56]Those emotional uh wounds will remain.

[00:35:01]Cuz those are the things that are unresolved. Money resolves a lot of things, but it doesn't resolve the unresolved emotional wounds.

[00:35:11]But if you give me 50 if you give me $30 million I may have been thinking about jumping off a god damn bridge, but you put $30 million in my pocket I'm going to hold on. I'm going to hold on.

[00:35:25]But other people can't.

[00:35:27]Other people can't. I'll go move my ass somewhere with people who don't speak no English and I get me I'll create my own god damn happiness with god damn 50 million. But all joking aside fame and money can amplify insecurity, which is what I think has happened here, can magnify the ego, which is what I think has happened here, can increase pressure, which obviously has happened here, and can increase public judgment, which has happened.

[00:35:53]And it does all that instead of healing pain.

[00:35:55]It exposes it, and that's what we're seeing.

[00:35:59]But you know what's crazy is nobody feels sorry for You know what I'm saying?

[00:36:04]No one feels sorry for her.

[00:36:06]Well, I would say 99%. There's still that 1% who does.

[00:36:10]Because they're just like, all right, she's came out here and insulted us insulted us all. She disrespected us. She disrespected herself.

[00:36:19]They're like, this is what we feel now.

[00:36:22]That this is all pointing to something psychologically, hood.

[00:36:27]None of this is auto None of this automatically means that she's crazy, but there's something going on here.

[00:36:35]We're looking at the behavior, man.

[00:36:37]This constant validation seeking. That [ __ ] ain't normal. Aggressive defensiveness.

[00:36:42]Obsession with desirability. Repeated focus on her appearance. Emotional overreactions to criticism.

[00:36:49]They're like, this all suggests something.

[00:36:52]Can't put my finger on it, but it seems like some unresolved insecurity.

[00:36:56]Some emo- deep deep deep emotional wounds.

[00:37:00]Some identity struggles. Dependence on external validation.

[00:37:04]We can't put our finger on it, but this is what we think. And this is the stuff that I've read in my comments.

[00:37:11]But I think the core issue may be self-worth. That's my opinion.

[00:37:15]I mean, really, when you get down to like >> [sighs] >> I say like the deepest level, many of these behaviors revolve around self-worth.

[00:37:26]What's Clarissa's self-worth?

[00:37:30]What are these other females and other men who are just out there in the world?

[00:37:34]What's their self-worth, man?

[00:37:36]You know what I'm saying?

[00:37:38]When when someone truly values themselves internally, they usually don't need constant external confirmation.

[00:37:45]You just don't give a damn.

[00:37:47]You in the breeze doing your thing.

[00:37:51]But when self-worth feels unsta- unstable, when that self-worth feels unstable, this is when people start to chase that [ __ ] we're seeing.

[00:38:01]Attention, attention, attention.

[00:38:04]Admiration, praise, desirability, status.

[00:38:08]To try to emotionally stabilize themselves, but when they can't emotionally stabilize themselves, that's when you see it. The bad attitude. Attitude.

[00:38:22]So, at the end of the day, social media has created a world where attention is often confused with love and validation confused with self-worth.

[00:38:32]And we can put this all underneath many people's umbrella, but we talking about Clarissa Shields cuz she's the she's for her champion anyway. She's like a case study.

[00:38:41]I didn't say nut case. I said case study. For those of y'all want to make jokes and [ __ ] she's not a nut case study. She's just a case study to me.

[00:38:49]She can act a little bit nutty though, don't get me wrong, but it's just interesting to talk about, man.

[00:38:57]Because I can watch her and I can watch many people who constantly try convincing the world they're attractive, I just feel they may actually be trying to convince themselves.

[00:39:06]You know what I'm saying? And that thing about fame, money, status, and attention, all that stuff she talks about, I think it just temporarily mask insecurity, but for her, I mean, the mask has been taken off.

[00:39:19]You know what I'm saying? None of that [ __ ] money, status, attention, none of that automatically heals emotional wounds. She need to go get some help in my opinion. Go talk to somebody.

[00:39:29]We've been talking about this during the lives.

[00:39:31]Go speak to someone.

[00:39:34]Get the help you need, man.

[00:39:36]Because that's the only way I think you're going to be able to for her someone like her and her situation, that's the only way you can establish true confidence.

[00:39:46]Because once you establish that true confidence, you usually speak quietly.

[00:39:52]But constant validation seeking, that's where the people speak loudly.

[00:40:00]And that's where I think the the the the the the discernment is here.

[00:40:04]You have certain people who have true confidence.

[00:40:09]Those are the ones that speak quietly.

[00:40:10]You don't hear them out here bragging and boasting and talking about look at me what I have. No, you they don't do that.

[00:40:16]They move easy. They're in the They quiet.

[00:40:19]But the one that's needs that constant validation, those are the ones that always speaking loud and look at me and what I have and look what this person doesn't have or what they're not doing or they're not going to do this. They're not going to do that.

[00:40:31]Those are the [ __ ] who need constant validation.

[00:40:34]Uh validation that they seek it.

[00:40:37]So, for as Cleatus the Shoeless, you know, why keep proving it?

[00:40:47]Why keep trying to prove it?

[00:40:49]Nobody's out here mentioning your looks.

[00:40:52]All seems like insecurity and attention doesn't equal attraction and it doesn't equal self-worth.

[00:41:01]Anyway, y'all keep cool.

[00:41:03]The psychology of attention and insecurity.

[00:41:07]Cleatus the Shoeless is a very interesting situation.

[00:41:11]Interesting person.

[00:41:13]And I probably drop about four more videos before my boys come home.

[00:41:17]But I'm about to go running right now.

[00:41:19]I probably go live, too.

[00:41:21]Y'all keep cool. I'm in the breeze.