No more self abandonment 🙌 Self abandoning leads to abandonment, reciprocity leads to reciprocity

Added: 2026-05-12

[00:00:00]Hello, welcome to my channel, Wing Spiritual Clarity. My name is Wendy Wang. I'm doing a psychic tarot reading for you. Tuning in to the day's energies, seeing what divine messages of guidance come through.

[00:00:22]Thank you.

[00:00:24]This is a general reading, so take what resonates and leave the rest. Thank you.

[00:00:32]All right, the overall energy of today's reading, we've got the two of wands in reverse, the six of wands in reverse. They're all reversed. 10 of wands reversed, and the two of pentacles in reverse.

[00:00:48]Okay.

[00:00:52]Two of Wands in reverse. It's my card for needing to reimagine yourself in your life and take action and get back out there. Six of Wands in reverse could be either a public humiliation, a lack of victory, or it could be a personal victory. We'll have to find out. 10 of Wands in reverse, releasing of burdens, letting go of what no longer serves you. Two of Pentacles in reverse.

[00:01:25]Making a change.

[00:01:28]Someone being unmasked.

[00:01:31]All right, let's find out.

[00:01:34]Why is the two of wands in reverse in the overall energy? What does the viewer need to know about the two of wands in reverse?

[00:01:47]Five of pentacles in reverse.

[00:01:50]That's my card for selfabandonment.

[00:01:54]Feels like that's where you're coming from, viewer. Uh where you've been raised to please others, to abandon yourself.

[00:02:06]Oh gosh, no. Golly, I don't need anything.

[00:02:11]I can Oh, wouldn't want to put anyone out. This feels like um feels like what I just said is like a conditioned response that really there's a part of you that wants to be cared for, wants to be celebrated, wants people to go out of their way to take care of you, to care for your needs, your wants. But it feels like you're coming from a space where you were taught how to dim your light, how to not require anything for yourself. Um the people please. Oh gosh, it feels like um yeah, not requiring anything, trying to be as easy as can be uh for others.

[00:03:04]And so abandoning what you really want, not being able to ask for what you want, not being able from the people around you.

[00:03:14]And so it looks like you are shifting from that self-abandonment to a more discerning model. Uh healing.

[00:03:27]It feels like you're healing. Four of swords, queen of swords from that self-abandonment.

[00:03:36]So reimagining yourself in your life and taking action and getting back out there. What would your life look like?

[00:03:44]What would you look like? What would you think? How would you think? How would you speak? How would you what moves would you make if you no longer had to self-abandon? If you could go after what you want. If you centered yourself, your needs, your wants on a physical level, on a mental, emotional level, on a soul level, what do you what do you want out of this life? What do you want to experience in this lifetime?

[00:04:18]And it feels like you're healing from self-abandonment, being a support character, and deciding what you want out of life.

[00:04:32]All right. Six of Wands in reverse.

[00:04:35]Knight of Swords. Okay.

[00:04:39]Okay. With Lovers reversed and Knight of Swords reversed, clarifying the Six of Wands in reverse. Feels like there was a breakup that was humiliating.

[00:04:55]Could be a relationship.

[00:04:58]You separating from someone.

[00:05:04]Wait, this is, you know, endings tend to be kind of sucky, negative.

[00:05:14]Um, this feels um in I get why it's the humiliation factor.

[00:05:24]Let's get a I'm looking over here. Um, let's get a vibe check.

[00:05:30]Vibe check on three, please.

[00:05:34]What is the vibe on this breakup?

[00:05:38]Waves, emotions, worry, fear, paranoid, cautious, insecure, guarded, lust, greed, by any means necessary, inconsiderate.

[00:05:57]Okay. Um, so feels like the vibe around this breakup there was some greed by any means necessary, inconsiderate.

[00:06:15]I'm getting a picture that it feels like your part, whoever you were breaking up with, um, wanted what they want. Uh, and I'm getting this picture of them trampling over you to to get themselves to whatever by any means necessary to get what they want. They needed to create this ending with you.

[00:06:43]And it feels like it's um it's leaving you purposely paranoid, confused about what's really going on cuz it feels like they're feels like your who's supposed to be your partner who you're breaking up with is uh boy there feels like at least a fear that there's someone else or there's something else that they're trying to get to. And so it has you feeling very insecure, emotionally confused, worries and fears about the future, about where you're going next.

[00:07:37]Yeah, I can see. So, this feels like this happened before the two of wands in reverse. This is why there's a need for you to reimagine yourself in your life and get back out there, but this time not self-abandoning.

[00:07:54]Tell me anything. Thank you. Knight of Cups in reverse.

[00:08:00]Two knights in reverse here.

[00:08:03]There's some delusion, someone rushing to negative conclusions.

[00:08:10]and some type of um false false fantasy not real.

[00:08:21]Um it looks like boy this is circling around but I don't see anything about affair and a fair partner and you're not going going to find it out here.

[00:08:36]I'm not going to feed anyone's delusions. It does look like the person you were with started investing somewhere else and um decided that they wanted to keep investing somewhere else and wanted to end this connection with you. Um, with justice in reverse, it looks like they're not being above board. They're not being honest that they've gone somewhere else, that they're not interested anymore in this connection with you. And so instead of just uh being open, um, it feels like they create injustices.

[00:09:25]Make this as humiliating as possible.

[00:09:33]for you.

[00:09:36]What's interesting is with Empress and Sun, I get the feeling that they're doing this um feels like when it's happening, they're doing it to you, but it feels like this is clearing someone who's no longer for you out of your space. That you are a divine feminine. You have the creative energy.

[00:10:04]You have the clarity, the happiness, the joy.

[00:10:15]All right.

[00:10:17]Um, it feels like there's a lot here and each of you have your own story about what went down. It feels complicated and it feels like a lot of hurt. Um, overall though, what the mo the biggest message I'm getting is you didn't deserve this ending.

[00:10:49]However, the ending and how unjust it is and confusing purposefully and humiliating um had purpose in it so you would release the burdens of this connection um to give you permission to reimagine yourself in your life and go elsewhere.

[00:11:16]It feels like though you're completely exhausted at the end of this relationship. It feels like it feels like um God this feels like mile 25 of a marathon. This feels like and it's uphill to the finish line. the last mile and uh smidge. So it feels like um so okay and so it feels like by the end of this relationship you are so burdened and exhausted and um never a sat it feels very unsatisfying of a relationship and and so the ending is also very unsatisfying.

[00:12:21]You know what I mean? Like um you never got that satisfaction.

[00:12:26]Yeah. You can't get no satisfaction though you try and you try you can't get no Oh. Oh, this is interesting.

[00:12:42]Look at that. Queen of Pentacles with her back turn, Hieropphant with his back turn, and King of Pentacles with his back turn. Earth energy. Even the Hieropphant is Taurus energy.

[00:12:58]Um, nobody's [clears throat] talking to anybody.

[00:13:05]Um, she keeps coming in. Gray gardens, that staunch character um is coming through as well. If and it feels like um the only thing keeping if this is a marriage, the only thing keeping this together is the the if this is you If this is your reading, it feels like at the end it's just a technicality. It doesn't feel like there's emotional connection. It doesn't feel like there's physical connection.

[00:13:48]It feels like you've already kind of focused um in other directions.

[00:13:56]Anything about the hieropphant that would be helpful?

[00:14:05]Short illness in reverse and expectation.

[00:14:15]But it feels like um for some of you it feels like your health was impacted by staying in this connection and um your health improves when you leave.

[00:14:37]Um it's such a a incorrect fit. you are having to self-abandon inside this connection and it feels like it's impacting even your health. It looks like when once you release the burdens, once you're willing to acknowledge that this relationship has ended, then the masks come off.

[00:15:04]And it feels like you're able to see who you really finally see, maybe meet for the first time, who you've been in a relationship with, and who they really are is uh has been hidden from you.

[00:15:20]You hid it hid it from yourself.

[00:15:24]This feels like someone incredibly insecure.

[00:15:30]They don't want you to have Okay. And then now it's all about finances and they don't want you to have any finances. They don't want you to be able to support yourself. They um Okay. Now, now you're finally at the end of the relationship when you release the burdens. Then you finally start seeing who you've been in a connection with this whole time. Queen of Cups reversed, Devil reversed. This person took advantage of your um lack of worth, your woundedness to attach in. They didn't want to help you with your woundedness.

[00:16:14]They didn't want to uh support you through growth. They wanted to take advantage of your woundedness and for their own advantage.

[00:16:27]All right.

[00:16:30]In what's hidden, we've got the King of Pentacles.

[00:16:35]He just came out in regards to in the overall energy.

[00:16:42]Who's the king of pentacles?

[00:16:44]What do we need to know about this king of pentacles?

[00:16:52]Six of swords in reverse.

[00:16:55]Unable to move on to calmer waters.

[00:16:58]Nervousness. Why is the king of pentacles so nervous? Unable to move on to calmer waters.

[00:17:09]challenged by six of cups in rever challenges sixes.

[00:17:18]All right. So it feels like with the queen and king of pentacles that feels like the relationship that I've been discussing and that you've already focused somewhere else turned your back. This person has also it feels like the relationship ended before actually getting around to ending. It feels like it died down. No passion, no desire. It feels like it's a burden. It feels like let's just address this and and move on.

[00:18:00]But the King of Pentacles can't move on.

[00:18:02]Is having difficulty moving on. Let me get a fresh deck.

[00:18:07]Why is the King of Pentacles? It feels like there's some wound from their past they're nervous about.

[00:18:20]Page of Wands, Nine of Swords in reverse.

[00:18:25]Oh, got it. All right. The King of Pentacles is it's not about them moving on. It's about you moving on. The Queen of Pentacles, the King of Pentacles is nervous, doesn't want their former partner, the Queen of Pentacles to move on.

[00:18:50]Because if the queen of pentacles moves on to calmer waters, then uh and heals the queen can communicate the wounds what happened inside the connection.

[00:19:06]There's something that the King of Pentacles is nervous that the Queen is going to share about the relationship, about the wounding, about the hurt, the lack of care that went on.

[00:19:27]So, there's a a um a purposeful injustices created at the end in hopes that the Queen of Pentacles can't move on to calmer waters.

[00:19:47]Because if she heals and finds stability, then she might communicate from a healed place about what went down in that this relationship.

[00:20:00]She'll get herself unstuck and follow your follow your are you the queen of pentacles in this reading um and be able to share in a authentic real way what what went on. Okay. So now in what's hidden, we're seeing um kind of the mentality why the King of Pentacles felt like they need he just going to use gender cuz it's easier. Uh because the King of Pentacles created an injustice at the end to create the breakup.

[00:20:52]and made it as um painful as possible. But there's this nervousness that you'll share with the rest of us the what went on behind closed doors. What's really been hidden in the relationship?

[00:21:15]Because now that the relationship's over, will your will the privilege of your um keeping quiet what really happened inside this connection? They're afraid that that's going to come out.

[00:21:33]And so, five of swords reversed, ace of pentacles. This person tried to bully um and tried to control and make it so you couldn't move on. So you couldn't find a new beginning. So you couldn't then um figure out for yourself what happened, what was really going down. And once you figure it out, once you leave the relationship and the clarity hits and you're no longer abandoning yourself, then your inner discernment will hit and you will be aware of the injustices that you have been suffering inside this connection.

[00:22:26]And so they're um they really don't want you. They want to sabotage your new beginning.

[00:22:36]So you can't move on. So you can't find stability. So you can't communicate clearly um the reality of your relationship with this person.

[00:22:49]All right. in the outcome in advice. The three of cups coming out as a challenge.

[00:22:56]Um friends, family, people who celebrate you, who care about you. It's a challenge.

[00:23:04]Um because it doesn't feel like you've been practicing that in your life. It feels like you've been a practicing and conditioned to um not take up any space, not be a problem.

[00:23:20]not need anything from anyone to make it life so easy for others. Centering them, not have meeting your own needs, not needing anything from others.

[00:23:35]And it feels like over time practicing self-abandonment is not taking you to an authentic place where you feel cared for, loved, and celebrated. When you practice self-abandonment chronically, what that leads to is being abandoned and not having any options. It feels like um at the end of this connection, it feels like you've abandoned yourself and given everything to this person.

[00:24:16]And um that feels like how you were raised and conditioned and how this person may be demanded.

[00:24:34]All right. It doesn't feel like you have support. It feels like by the end of this connection you are isolated. You don't have people around you. Um you feel vulnerable, unprotected, exhausted like mile 25 of what 26.2.

[00:24:56]Um boy, so by the end of this relationship, it feels like you don't have support from family and friends. Feels like you don't have finances.

[00:25:10]Um purposely being destabilized and there's a need for you to be tactical with your communication.

[00:25:23]Anything else the viewer needs to know about this seven of swords in reverse energy being tactical.

[00:25:38]I think there have been people by the end of this relationship you're realizing that self-abandonment does not lead you to um a martyrdom.

[00:25:53]It's more like uh the giving tree. You just keep giving, giving, giving and no one ever appreciates and then it ends in in being abandoned after a breakup. So there's if it feels like there's a need for you to heal your relationship to yourself to no longer abandon yourself in relationships. Feels like you were raised to ab self-abandon.

[00:26:27]And so it it might be you might need to work like internal work on codependency because it kind of feels like when others are around you, you might go into kind of program kind of I need to help.

[00:26:47]How can I help? How can I fix? how can I be of service instead of um and over time when you are constantly and chronically in that role and there's no receiving you're not receiving anything any help and support back it's only going one way um then you might have stories that someday when you need help some people will come and support you but instead selfab abandonment leads to abandonment.

[00:27:23]Um, it's a lack of practicing reciprocity in receiving.

[00:27:29]And part of being a divine feminine is receptive or allowing, not needing to do, but being willing to and open, knowing your value and worth, and being able to receive help, care, and it feels like there's a lot of you out there that have a lot of resistance for several reasons. I'm seeing resistance. If someone helps you, then you perceive that they you then owe them something.

[00:28:06]There might be things like that that are keeping you from just being in reciprocal relationships.

[00:28:15]It feels like it's what you are really wanting, but you haven't experienced that as of yet. And it feels like that's who this reading is for. someone who's gone through these experiences or something similar to what I've been describing and there's a real desire to have something have an experience in your life of uh reciprocity, belongingness instead of fitting in having to earn your love from others. It feels like love has been very conditional upon whether you can provide for the people, make them comfortable and not need anything in return. Oh, that's interesting.

[00:29:07]The King of Pentacles now in reverse with the Emperor in reverse.

[00:29:18]Whoever this King of Pentacles is, it looks like they were very concerned about their ego, about the story that was being told about them and they're trying to control this ending and they just they don't care about you at all.

[00:29:35]They've they're done. It feels like everyone's done if I'm going to be honest, but it feels like this person wants a uh at some point they want something else. They're somewhere else energetically, but they need to end this connection with you. And so they create the largest injustices for you during this breakup trying to rush something that you the care for you is completely gone. And it feels like that then you're finally able to see who this person really is when they stop performing relationship.

[00:30:21]And in what's hidden, this person uh was nervous about you moving on and telling others about how how they show up in relationship, the injustices, the self-abandonment.

[00:30:38]And so this person instead of acknowledging those aspects and owning them they instead they have like uh will completely destroy. So you can't move on. So you can't share uh how they were in the relationship or uh a road so people don't believe you something around that. They don't want you to have a new beginning either.

[00:31:10]They like wherever you're stuck and exhausted.

[00:31:16]They're very controlling.

[00:31:18]Incredibly controlling. This is someone um it feels like this ending is really revealing who they are and you're finally able to see um that they're in their ego and they're controlling and manipulative.

[00:31:38]So, I'm just going to leave that here. I hope that's helpful.