MODERN MEN ARE JEALOUS OF WOMEN AND HERE ARE SOME OF THE REASONS WHY

Added: 2026-05-22

[00:00:02]Modern men are jealous of women and they care more about control than having a damn companion.

[00:00:10]If you if you agree with what I've said so far, please drop a like and a comment on this video because it means a lot, right? And it helps the algorithm. But I'm going to get into this. I need y'all to understand something. Modern men today are definitely jealous of women because they cannot control them. When you give someone the ability to make and manage their own coins, you can't control them. You dig what I'm saying?

[00:00:31]And what I have looked at and and the conversations that I've had, I had a guy tell me a couple days ago, he DM'd me.

[00:00:36]He was like, "What you don't understand, Dr. Julio, with your pattern ass is that these women out here care more about degrees than they do about us." And I said, "Well, why is that?"

[00:00:46]See, I'm real good. I've gotten real good at this content thing with asking questions. WHY IS THAT? WHY would a woman care more about degrees than she cares about your dick? Cuz that's what this is all about at the end of the day, right? This is what this is all about.

[00:00:58]You know, I want to That's what the guy told me. He's like, "Well, I care about my legacy. I care about this and that and this and that." Listen, women didn't have the ability to move on their own until about 60 so years ago, give or take, in the 70s. In the 70s, women actually became fully autonomous beings, right? In the 70s, they actually began to be able to have their own credit cards, get their own bank accounts, buy their own homes. They didn't need a man for anything starting in the 70s, right?

[00:01:25]Most men who were only able to get women because they could basically pay for them because women were seen as property, things to be used, you know, a baby factory, not a person to be respected, right? This is how a lot of men operated in the black community. I'm talking about I'm not saying this doesn't exist in the white community cuz everything I'm saying about the black community can absolutely be applied to the white community because they the ones that set this process that set this system up to begin with. It only trickled down to the to our to to us. The fact is when you cannot when you can no longer control somebody by controlling their pockets, now you have to have character to make yourself likable.

[00:02:03]Most men are unlikable outside of the realms of their ability to control their environment or control women that they want. This is why the majority of men are single. Kevin Samuels never really addressed this. He said 54% of men are single and childless. And one he he he conflated that statistic. He conflated the age range of that of that statistic to generate it, which he did. And two, he used that all the time as this great net positive to say, "No, it's not men's fault. It's women. Women are making bad decisions." And first of all, if 54% of men are single and childless, that means they're non select. They're not pickable because they don't qualify to sit at the table that women have literally built for themselves. And what makes men jealous and what pisses them off is the fact that they have been able to craft for themselves a life absent a man through through technological advancements in science. Women can literally they still need a sperm. They can basically create kids by themselves.

[00:03:05]They no longer need us in a in that sense. Gentlemen, is that something to be jealous of?

[00:03:11]Well, I guess to some degree if you don't really like women, yeah, be jealous of it. Or you can take it from you see it my way. This is an indicator that we must do better as a class of men. We must become likable or we will be left behind.

[00:03:28]You understand? We got one of two choices. Either sink or swim. Either we going to learn to live together as brothers and sisters or we going to perish together as fools.

[00:03:35]>> Hey guys, welcome and welcome back to my channel. If you're new, my name is Maxine and if you're a returning viewer and subscriber, welcome back. In today's video, we're going to be talking about are men actually jealous of women? I think sometimes men can be depending on their finances, depending on their achievements, and depending sometimes on their physical appearance. So, let's jump straight in. Ladies, that man is jealous of you. That man you laying down with, he jealous of you. That's why he won't help you. That's why he don't support you. But he ain't going to leave you alone. He going to keep breadcrumbing you to keep you around cuz he needs your energy. He need your energy to pursue his dreams. See, he trying to use you till he get the wet.

[00:04:16]He trying to go to he going to leave you alone. Don't be a fool, baby. Don't spend all your good years supporting that man cuz he don't like you. He jealous of you. He jealous of the way people love you. He jealous of your life. And he know you deserve better.

[00:04:29]And he know that he don't have that drive and that power like you have to push through on his own dreams. So he going to try to keep you around, but he jealous of you. He jealous of your light. So be cautious with these men.

[00:04:42]They be your biggest haters. If you the same ones that tell you, "I love you, baby. I'll never do it again." But trying to do everything to break your character to break you cuz he jealous of you and he really don't like you and he want to be you.

[00:04:55]>> What's even worse than a woman being jealous of another woman is a man who is jealous of a woman. And as women, we're constantly warned about other women who may be jealous of us, but we are not warned enough about the men who could be jealous of you as a woman. Because a lot of the times when a girl is jealous of you, it's a a lot of times rooted in emotion. And so it causes comparison.

[00:05:17]Oh, she looks this way, but I look this way. She has this and I don't.

[00:05:20]Comparison. When a man is jealous of you, it's rooted in entitlement and ego most of the time. And when it's rooted in entitlement ego, it's not so much, oh, I don't have that. It's more so, why does she get to have that? And when a man feels that way about you, he is going to make it his life mission to belittle you, humble you, hide you, take things from you. Like, a man who is jealous of you will literally make you question your freedom. A woman is jealous of you, it'll probably, you know, hurt your feelings a little bit, maybe make you question your worth a little, but a man being jealous of you will literally make you question your freedom. He will take everything from you.

[00:06:04]A jealous man will ruin your life. If you're a man and you get jealous of your woman elevating her situation financially, physically, and emotionally, you're a [ __ ] And vice versa. You guys need to stop getting angry at your partner for choosing to elevate. Like, stop being so [ __ ] soft. You're actually going to get angry at the person you love in this world because they want to become better financially, better physically, better spiritually. Are you that much of a [ __ ] child? Just follow in their footsteps. Maybe shut the [ __ ] up and listen to them and you might learn something and then the entire family, the entire household will feel better.

[00:06:42]>> How old were you when you realized that some men are secretly deeply, deeply jealous of women? And here here's the facts, you guys. I'm gonna lay it out. I just read the laws of human nature by Robert Green, same author as 48 Laws of Power. He goes in deep about envy. Envy is a feeling that we don't even like to admit to ourselves. When we're envious of somebody else, a lot of times we will cover it up in our conscious mind some like really lame reason why. Because admitting we're jealous of somebody else is also admitting we lack something. And most of us don't have the awareness to do that. So instead, we project those insecurities on other people. Do you see where I'm going with this? Do you see where I'm going with this? That is why these lame men will try to tear you down. They will take you on dates and they will gaslight you. They will make you feel like you're literally losing your effing mind because it gives their insecure self some weird amount of satisfaction that they are tearing down someone they perceive as higher than them. Especially if a guy feels like you are so far out of his league, he could never be with you. That's when you're really in trouble because now he's about to drag you down to make himself feel better about never being able to obtain a girl like you. These are the men that come for you and you're like, "What did I even do?" Like, where is this energy coming from? This like strong reaction.

[00:08:08]And it's because you sparked something within them that made them realize you have something they will never have. And that's honestly like confidence and self-acceptance. So a test for this that it talks about in the book is you can tell somebody good news and watch their eyes in the first like micros secondsonds.

[00:08:26]If they are excited for you, you'll see their eyes light up. But if they are jealous for you and your win they view as their loss, you'll see like almost like a glaze come over their eyes of jealousy. And then the mask will come up. So like disregard whatever they say.

[00:08:42]They're going to tell you what they think they should say in that situation.

[00:08:45]Another way is if you catch them staring at you across the room and when you lock eyes, they instantly smile. They're trying to cover the like jealousy they truly feel. And this can be in friends, too. This isn't just with men. You have to ruthlessly cut these people out.

[00:08:59]Somebody who is jealous for you, somebody who is always praying on your downfall, there's no room for that in your life. If you found these tips helpful, be sure to schedule a one-on-one with me via the link in my >> Hey, jealous. You trying to figure out why he acting like that? Why he talk to me like this? Why he don't treat me right? He don't have no respect for me.

[00:09:17]He jealous of you. Yeah. Your husband?

[00:09:20]Yes. Your fianceé? Absolutely. Your boyfriend? Definitely. He He's jealous.

[00:09:27]See, when a man is so bitter and full of hatred and they don't want to do anything to change, to be better for themselves first, it's not abnormal. that jealousy is right behind them. You thinking, "Oh, well, you know what? His dad wasn't there. Oh, boohoo, child. It's millions of people who fathers wasn't there for them." I don't see you walking around full of hate. I don't see you walking around purposely trying to find men to make their life a living hell. See, all you need to know is the man that's sleeping next to you, he's jealous of you. And can I tell you something else?

[00:10:06]He don't like you and he can't stand you. Even though the root of that comes from the hatred that he has from his mother and the hatred that he has because he always has to be the victim.

[00:10:16]He swear he swear everybody do him wrong when when he don't even realize he the common denominator. But see a lot of that that he's carrying that hatred and that bitterness you are paying the tab for that because does it make sense to you how you've been there for him, you've loved him. You've supported him.

[00:10:36]You've given him money. You've given him your last. You took out your 401k to support his business. The business that failed. You You was the person that took out the money, ran the business. He didn't do nothing. You changed his life.

[00:10:50]You changed his wardrobe. You got him the job. You filled out the resume when he walked off the job and didn't even tell you. You said that's okay. You paying all the bills. And if he is paying the bills, he probably using the money against you. You you taking care of the kids. You you you making sack lunches like he a third grader. You asking him how was work. You rubbing his musty feet. You laying next to him smelling his musty armpits. You sitting there being unsatisfied by his small tally whacker cuz you don't want to you don't really want to crush his dreams and tell him you ain't been satisfied in years. Right? Because it's something about grown men. They always got to be coddled and pushed and babyed like we raising toddlers. But but but back to my point, the point is he's jealous of you.

[00:11:34]He doesn't like you. He hates when you succeed. He hates when people pay attention to you. He hates when you get a promotion on your job. He hates when when your family is there for you and they want to stick up for you. He don't like it when you have friends. He don't like it when you go to lunch with your co-workers. He don't even want you talking to your co-workers at work and you like, "Baby, I got a job to do. He's so dumb. He don't even get it." But that's another story. But because it's jealousy when a person is bitter and it and and it and it and it fers in their body, it fers in their brain. It can show up as jealousy. And you wondering why, well, you know, maybe he don't support me cuz he's not used to supporting people. Maybe he doesn't love me because he came from a a broken home.

[00:12:16]Maybe he doesn't know how to be a dad because he said that his dad wasn't there and nobody's ever showed him how to be a dad and how to be a man. No, baby, those are excuses. He's jealous.

[00:12:25]But see over here when we heal, I'm not telling you to stay, go, or go back to a relationship. I don't give that kind of advice cuz I don't know what everybody is going through. But one thing I will do is give you the wisdom. And over here, when we heal, I'm just here to tell you, it's not because he came from a broken home. It's not because his mother was an addict. It's not because he never felt support. It's not because he was taken advantage of as a kid. It's not because nobody's ever showed him love. It's not because nobody's ever supported him. It's not because his dad wasn't there. It's not because his mother didn't listen. It's not because his sisters seem like they were the favorite and he got left out. It's not because he can never get on his feet.

[00:12:57]It's not because he just doesn't understand why people don't understand him. It's not because he has an addiction. It's not because he has mental health. It's none of those. It's simply because he's jealous. That's all.

[00:13:05]>> Why would you ever have the false belief that that man can love you properly when he's jealous of you? Let me cook for a second. All of the reasons that he fell in love with you are the same reasons why he resents you. It's the same reason why he's envious of you. It's the same reason why he hates you. But this is the real kicker, right? He hates you enough to make your life miserable, but he doesn't hate you enough to let somebody else love you the way that you deserve to be loved, so he's never going to leave you alone. Don't you understand?

[00:13:36]You make him feel inferior just by being you. You can out hustle him. You can outdress him. You can outthank him.

[00:13:45]You've outdid him in every way, BUT YOU DIDN'T OUTDO him with malicious intent.

[00:13:50]You outdid him by just being you. And the crazy part is you still love him for him, but because he doesn't love him for him. He doesn't believe in his mind that somebody else is capable of it. See, you're dealing with a man that is dealing with an identity crisis. He cannot be with a woman that wants him.

[00:14:07]He has to be with a woman that needs him because he is dealing with a superior complex.

[00:14:14]He needs to feel bigger than you. He needs to feel smarter than you. He needs to feel better than you. So, what is he going to do? He's going to attack your appearance. He's going to attack your profession. He's going to attack your insecurities. And he's going to try to beat you down in order to make himself bigger because that is the only way that you two can exist.

[00:14:37]>> Look at this man's face.

[00:14:43]Why is he looking like it's the worst day of his life?

[00:14:46]>> I've said it before, but I'll say it again. How a person behaves on days that are specifically about you celebrating you, your big day, your big opportunity.

[00:14:55]Any moment when the spotlight is on you will tell you everything you know about that person. Not just your mate, your friend, your family members. When it's your promotion, your graduation, your birthday, and they look like they're frowning up like he is. They're picking a fight with you the day before your big exam. They're not happy for you on your graduation. They move out the day before your gradu like people go out of their way to try to ruin special moments for you. And just because they're with you doesn't mean they're not jealous of you.

[00:15:22]They could be jealous of how much your friends love you, how much your family loves you, how much attention you get from random strangers. There could be any number of reasons. But don't think somebody who seems to be miserable every time you're being celebrated isn't them being jealous. Someone who loves you would never ruin your special moment and selfishly make that moment about them.

[00:15:40]He knows everybody is looking at him while he's frowning up on his girlfriend's birthday. He doesn't care because he can't stand that the moment is about her. I know it's not an easy thing to accept, but sometimes it could be your mother, your best friend, your husband, your boyfriend, and they could be your biggest hater.

[00:15:55]>> I think the girls are misunderstanding the point of why guys get jealous. It has nothing to do with an insecurity that the guy has. Some of them do though, don't get me wrong. Some of them do, but for the most part, your man is so obsessed with you, he cares so much about you that he does not want you to dress like that. It's just simple as that. Like when you wear some showy like revealing clothes, he tells you not to for a reason. Like myself, when I do it, it's for a reason. We have our own reason. Like we know how guys are. We know exactly what they do. We You know how like girls say, "Oh, I know how girls are." It's the same thing for us as guys. We know how guys are. They're dirty. Like they don't stop. Like they're they're just guys, bro. Like, so we have a point. Let me tell you, if your man is nonchalant, he does not care. I promise you. Like, he just doesn't care that much. Like, I think when men are so obsessed and love their girl so much, like because she's so attractive, they pay attention to every little detail that she does, especially when it comes to revealing clothes.

[00:16:54]Like, that's just my opinion. It has nothing to do with controlling or all this [ __ ] I'm protecting my girl from savages out there, bro. Hey, so do y'all think that men can be jealous of women? I really want to know this because I've heard people talking about this before, you know, saying, you know, like I've heard women say that they feel like their husband or their boyfriend is kind of jealous of them. And that's crazy to even think about that because I mean, as a man, how could you even be jealous of a female, bro? Like, women don't have to go through the same type of stuff that we got to go through. But for a man to be jealous of a woman, bro, like like in the workplace, you know, a man could be jealous of a woman because this woman got the job position that he wanted or, you know, just anything. And even like in a relationship or a marriage, a man could potentially be jealous of his girlfriend or wife because she has a better career than him and she's making more money than him.

[00:17:47]She has a better personality than him.

[00:17:49]She attracts, you know, people to her.

[00:17:52]People are drawn to her and they not so drawn to him. And then he can learn to be, you know, grow to be jealous of that. And even like when they split up, like when a a man and his and his woman split up, you know, say they had kids together or something and if he just fall off, like he just fall all the way off and, you know, get strung out or he, you know, you know, become so irresponsible, he can't keep a job and, you know, he just hit rock bottom. But the woman, she stated she went up here.

[00:18:18]She climbed the ladder. She been she's getting better since he been out of her life. And now, do you think the man could look back at that and be like, "Dang, I dang. So why?" Like, you know what I'm saying? And he'll be jealous and he can't figure out why she got the thing she have now, now that she done split up split up from him. You know what I'm saying? Like that's that's a possibility, too. Cuz like I'm sure there's some men out here that are jealous of they of their woman, bro. Not even they woman, but women, period, they jealous of them. And and and that's that's crazy even think about that, bro.

[00:18:49]Cuz like I said, like how you how you we don't ain't got to go through the same stuff, bro. Like what y'all think?

[00:18:55]>> And these two are a prime example of why people tell women do not date down financially, especially if you earn significantly more than that man. This man has been harboring a lot of resentment while participating in financial infidelity with Yasmine. He is complaining about how in his culture he needs to make more money than this woman, but when he met her, she was making more money than him, which leads me to want to have a bigger conversation about financial infidelity. Um, he was amassing a large amount of debt and lying to her about how much that he was actually in. And the entire premise of the relationship so far from what I was saying is that she is paying more than her fair share of the household expenses and covering items for their children just so he can pay off his debt. the entire time he is still accuring more debt. And that's because he doesn't have to worry about taking care of his children. He doesn't have to worry about paying for rent because she's got it.

[00:19:52]And I think that he is absolutely using her, but using um this, oh, in my culture, I'm supposed to be making more money. Then go out and make more [ __ ] money. But because he knows that she's going to take care of things, that's why he's able to still do this. She's like, he is buying lavish items and I'm over here paying 70% and struggling with the kids. And go to find out he's been lying to her for some time that he is working.

[00:20:16]He was laid off from what it seems like and he is still spending as if he has an income coming in and he did not disclose it to her until this very moment. I feel like that is a very narcissistic thing to do and she needs to leave this man before he ruins her financially the way he has ruined himself because he clearly has no financial discipline.

[00:20:36]>> Somebody please tell me that it's not really grown ass men out here that are jealous of grown women. Like this is really a topic. Now on a normal pretense, I would think this topic is straight foolishness. But I got to think outside of myself cuz me normally thinking as myself, I wouldn't say I would ever get jealous of a woman regardless of the situation. But there are actually literally men that walk this earth that are jealous of women and the opportunities that they get or may maybe just even the the bag that they got or how they look. There's grown men that actually are jealous of women. And it's scary to think about like how could you be jealous of anything that a woman got knowing that you a grown man and you're naturally gifted physically more than a woman. Sometimes even more logically smart so you can accomplish different things on your own agenda. But a lot of men are just lazy I guess and they don't take it upon themselves to educate themselves. And that's the big problem because women are naturally more educated than men. This is a well-known fact. When you're more educated you speak better. you present yourself better in a better manner outside of relationship talk. This is just a professional setting. You're going to get more opportunities and better jobs and better career paths naturally. And then, you know, women are naturally the gender that looks better on top of that.

[00:21:57]So, looks wise, they're going to get better opportunities. And I guess a lot of men are jealous of that because of how quick a woman could blow up. You I mean, you even look at it on social media. It don't take a woman long, especially if you a good, attractive looking woman that got something going on for yourself and let you not have brains on top of that. Then yeah, you can accomplish some [ __ ] And I can see how a lot of insecure men would get jealous of that. But that's creepy to me, bro. Just know as a woman that there's grown men out here that have disguised themselves or whatever they got to disguise themselves as just to get into your life just to destroy what you got going on because they are secretly jealous of what you got going on. or maybe a light in you that they could see something special that you might not even see yet in yourself and they don't want that [ __ ] to to manifest. So, they do whatever it takes to add toxicity or keep you off your [ __ ] rocker, whatever it may happen to be, bro. Pay attention to that cuz there are men out here that walk this earth that are jealous of women and we can see it and the crimes perpetuated against women from men alone.

[00:22:56]But just keep that third eye open for real. You want to know if a man is jealous of you or not? If he gets mad every time you receive a compliment out in public or he says things like, "Oh, why do they always compliment you and they don't compliment me?" He is jealous of you. He's very jealous of how beautiful you are. He knows how beautiful you are. He knows that you're going to receive compliments and he's like trying to make it seem like, you know, he's trying to make it seem like this is like a competition. Why do you want to be in competition with your girl? You're a hater. Telling you this from experience. There's no situation or circumstance where a woman receives a compliment out in public from another woman and it should cross a grown man's mind like, "Oh, why why do people why do women keep giving you compliments and nobody's complimenting me?" So, do you want to be complimented by random women that don't know who you are? Or do you want to be complimented by other men who don't know who you are? Hm. Like I said, there's no way you can switch around that situation or circumstance and make it not sound weird. That man is a hater.

[00:24:00]That man is jealous of you. And that man is intimidated by how beautiful you are.

[00:24:04]Leave him for somebody who's actually confident in themselves.

[00:24:07]>> Women with pretty privilege make men jealous. Oh, they going to hate me for this one. It's a lot of men out here that look at women who have pretty privilege and just feel like life is too easy for them. And that's where the jealousy comes in. If a woman wants to get on a yacht in Miami, all she has to do is be pretty. And some rich guy is going to invite her on a yacht. If a man wants to get on a yacht in Miami, he got to go pay for it. So these experiences that men be feeling like pretty women don't have to work for breeds jealousy.

[00:24:35]I got to stop that. Now, this is not all men because it's some real ones out here that know life is what it is. We take the double standards and we play our role. But it's a lot of uh I don't know what to call them that be feeling some type of way.

[00:24:49]>> Some of y'all men had an audacity to be speaking on a man being jealous of a woman. Y'all be talking all that mess.

[00:24:54]And even some of y'all women, I seen a lady comment on my post and say, "Stop spreading all uh I forgot whatever she said." Ma'am, it's all fun and games and it's all just a topic until you see a woman on the news cuz a man done killed her. He hated her. He hated her guts. He didn't want to see her living. A lot of these men hate women. A lot of these women are sleeping with the enemy. And if you've never been a victim of it or know someone who's been a victim of it, you won't understand. So certain [ __ ] I think y'all should just really pipe down with speaking on. It's going on out here and it's happening every day, every hour and every second. Men are jealous of women. And I pray I pray that y'all women y'all free yel from these type of men who really don't like y'all, who really don't love y'all, who never want to see y'all win. I pray y'all free yel from those um men. And I pray my videos help you all choose to make better decisions so that you don't have to be a product of dating a jealous man.

[00:25:49]>> Jealous men are always going to play a psychological mind game. Okay? And the thing is because the jealousy of men is not always transparent. A lot of times women don't catch it because the jealousy that men impose it's a psychological game that gets initiated with you. It is a mind game that they start to play. And if you're not able to say, "Oh, hold on a minute. This person, he's trying to play in my mind. This is a psychological mind game. He's playing games with my brain." If you're not able to see that and immediately reject that man and get his stupid self away from you, you're going to continue to entertain that. So jealous men, what they're going to do if they're jealous of you and the psychological mind games get initiated, which it will because jealous men play mind games. That is how they war is with the mind, right? He's going to find a desire that you want and he's going to put it on a rod. Okay? I call this the carrot the carrot method. He's going to grab a long rod, figuratively speaking, and he's going to put what you want on the rod. What you want is the carrot.

[00:27:06]And then he's going to go like this. And then you're going to be doing back flips. You're going to be crashing out, crash outs, getting upset, getting blindsided, trying to prove yourself to him, you know, pushing, forcing, and he's going to keep dangling what you told him he wanted on that rod and he's never going to give it to you. It's that. And then you can tell, this is why I always tell women, if you want to see if a man is a cluster B personality, if a man is a psychological, jealous, envious loser, all you have to do is tell them what you want. And it can be something tiny and watch them pull out the rod, the figurative rod, and dangle it. They're so stupid. They follow the same methods. Honestly, you know, as I get older and I observe human beings more, I'm trying to not turn into a missenthrop. I'm really trying my best.

[00:27:57]I don't think people are that smart and I don't think that, you know, you can go to school and pass an exam. Hey, read the manual, read the textbook, dedicate yourself, take the exam. You're going to know the answer. Pass it. But humans by design, generally speaking, with the their abusive and manipulative ways, I don't think they're that smart. I think humans are very readable. I think that the problem is people have, again, like I spoke about in my last video, people have big egos. They don't want to accept when someone is just not a good person.

[00:28:28]They don't want to accept when someone is manipulating them. You don't want to accept when someone is rejecting you.

[00:28:32]You want to keep fighting for it because you have a big ego. Me, I see humans for what they are and I don't think they're that smart when it comes to their actions because humans are readable. Men and women, I can read them like a book.

[00:28:45]There's nothing about them that's surprising. Everything about men who are jealous of you, everything about them is just it's readable. There's nothing that they do. They're going to pull out that invisible rod.

[00:28:59]All you have to do is tell them what you desire. Even if it's something small, just tell them and watch him attach it to the rod and turn it into a carrot, right? And then when they start to do that, you're like, "Oh my god, why am I so confused? Why don't I know what's going on? Why is he being hot and cold?"

[00:29:17]Ma'am, confusion is a form of abuse. I spoke about that in one of my YouTube videos. humans who confuse you purposely. Okay? Cuz humans are intentional.

[00:29:28]This is why I say I don't I don't really give people passes cuz I think people know exactly what they're doing. They're just hoping that you don't know that they know what they're doing. Humans are very emotionally abusive. So don't think that he's not aware that he's confusing you. He's aware that he's confusing you. He's putting the carrot on the rod on purpose and he's dangling it because he's jealous of you. He's very jealous of you. He's very envious of you. Men are so jealous and envious.

[00:29:57]I've already spoken about this. Like they are so I've never seen anything like it. And what they're doing is they're hoping that a woman will have enough naivity to not spot that they're jealous. Okay. So, it's very important as a woman. There's there's no trophy for being naive.

[00:30:17]There's no trophy for second chances.

[00:30:19]There's no trophy for overlooking things that people do. You're not going to get a prize. You're only going to get ran down, ma'am. There's no prize. Take it from an ex people pleaser. I never got a prize for letting people get away with things. All I got was several trips to a therapist's office, crying my eyes out on a chair. I didn't get a prize. Okay?

[00:30:41]So stop allowing men to play psychological mind games with you and confuse you and pull the rug from under your feet and blindside you and you continue to tolerate them because there's some weird fantasy that you want this man to give you. He will never give it to you.

[00:31:02]He's going to pull out that rod and he's going to keep using that He's going to use it the whole relationship. That's all it's going to be. Him dangling things in front of you, requested. You told him, "Hey, I want you to do this." "Oh, yeah, honey. I'll do it." And he never does it.

[00:31:26]Psychological abuse.

[00:31:28]Love you. Bye.

[00:31:31]One of the easiest ways to tell if a man is jealous of you is to see how he responds when you receive compliments out in public. There was a woman that made a video on here talking about how she was out of town um for work. She ended up going to like the hotel lounge or something. A man ended up approaching her and sitting next to her and she had about three different people compliment her. Two of them were women. One of them was a gay man. After every compliment, the man would respond with, "Why are they complimenting you? Why are they saying that?" He even went as far as to say that one of the girls must be crazy because she complimented her. And the girl says like, "I get this often, especially because she has a very exotic look. her skin tone is, you know, very unique. And she says that this is kind of like a current, you know, this is like a everyday thing for her. He then tried to reduce it down before and say, "Oh, well, it's just because you're new here. You know, you're not from here.

[00:32:18]They're not used to seeing you." And she's like, "No, I'm from Houston. This is kind of the thing." So, I have another Medium article where a man literally just exposed the fact that they are jealous of the fact that women get compliments and this is something that they have a very hard time um dealing with. And believe it or not, there were even men in the comments that went as far as to say, "You're the problem if you're not getting compliments as a man." So, let's hear what it is that he has to say. He says, "Let's get one thing straight. Men don't get compliments. Not after age 12, maybe 14. If they're cute and have a really flattering smile, some aunt couldn't help but notice, but after that, forget it." Unless they're a celebrity, ripped, or wearing a tailored suit at a wedding, no one's going out their way to say, "Hey, you look really good today." And it messes with them. What are compliments anyway? Compliments are verbal affirmations of value. That's it.

[00:33:10]Recognition. A mirror held up to you saying, "I see you." It's not rocket science, but it is brain science.

[00:33:19]Compliments trigger a dopamine release, a little reward in the brain. same thing you get from food, sex, or social acceptance. They're small verbal currency. And guess what? Most men are broke. Why does this matter? There's this weird social contract where women are expected to receive compliments and men are expected to earn them through action, through success, through utility. You don't compliment a man for just existing. He has to build something, win something, protect something, provide something. It's like the compliment economy for men is entirely performance-based, while for others it can simply be about being. No one looks at a random man on the street and says, "Nice arms. You your laugh made your laugh made my day. You smell good." But if a woman hears that, even once a week, it stacks. It nourishes. It affirms. He then goes on to talk about the silent deficit. What happens when someone goes decades without being told they're attractive or kind or warm or valuable in a non-utilitarian way? They get weird or worse, numb. This is the part no one talks about. You want to know why some men obsess over validation? Why they fixate on that one woman who smiled at them 5 years ago in Walgreens? Why they hoard compliments like their oxygen in a vacuum? Because they're starving. Loneliness isn't just a lack of people. It's a lack of being seen. Compliments are one of the few legal ways we tell someone you matter.

[00:34:52]When men don't get that, they either collapse inward or go hunting through it. Go hunting for it through status, sex, or control. Why don't men get compliments? Because society trains us not to give them. We teach boys that compliments make them soft. That needing affirmation makes them weak. That showing appreciation for another man is gay. As if that were a bad thing. We turn every gesture of kindness between men into a joke. Nice shirt, bro.

[00:35:20]Thanks. I got it from your mom. Haha, hilarious. The solution is stupidly simple. Tell the men in your life they're attractive. Tell them they're good. Tell them they did something well.

[00:35:30]Watch their entire nervous system shortcircuit for 1.3 seconds. Tell your friend he's got a great voice. Tell your brother how you admire how he handled that situation. Tell the guy who helped you move that you noticed. Tell the random dude in the coffee shop his cologne is hypnotic. Compliments cost nothing, but they might be the only words keeping someone upright. A man who hasn't heard a compliment in years doesn't need therapy. He needs someone to see him. Not for what he's done, not for what he owns, but for who he is, human. Now, there are a few compliments that are very um interesting on here.

[00:36:05]Okay, a woman puts it perfectly. She says, "Start giving each other compliments then, dude. Be the change you want to be." Also, I don't think any woman walking down the street wants to hear nice arms or you smell good. Pretty sure those particular comments would be considered creepy or gross. Seriously, like, you can't just put it on women to change this. You guys have to put some effort into fixing it, too. And that means fighting that weird urge y'all have to think that complimenting another dude will lead you to accidentally getting gay with him. A man writes, "Whenever I see a guy who puts effort into his outfit and I like his style, I make sure to compliment him in a non-weird way. But as a man, receiving compliments sometimes makes me feel weird. Even from my wife who tells me I am handsome, sexy, attractive, etc. every day. I also have some issues related to anxious avoidant attachment and trauma from age four. In my opinion, this is the best comment. Why don't men get compliments? Because they don't deserve them. If they weren't such pigs and [ __ ] they would get compliments. I'm 61 years old. I don't want another relationship, and I still get regular compliments. And this week, I paid a visit to my best friend's mom and told her the same thing. She's 80 years old. She says, "You're still young. You'll find someone." I said, "Mom, I'm elderly. I'm over 60." She said, "What?" I said, "I'm 61 years old." She repeated, "What?" "Being a sex symbol in your 60s has its perks. It explains all the attention I get. I'm just not interested." A woman made another really, really good comment.

[00:37:39]Responding to the article, writing, "You don't compliment a man for just existing. This article is so dumb. No one gets compliments for just existing.

[00:37:47]Surprise. Someone says to me, "Love your shoes." Well, I had to pick them out, purchase them, and pair them with my outfit. Duh. No one has ever said to me, "Wow, I love how you breathe." Is this article conflating cat calling with complimenting? Is that the issue? You want women yelling, "Hey, nice ass." as a man walks down the street. And by the way, I have complimented plenty of men, my exes, my brothers, my male friends.

[00:38:11]Conversely, I have only been complimented by a man when he was hoping to get something out of me, namely sex.

[00:38:17]Hopes hope this helps. A lot of men don't do anything in order to receive a compliment. You It's a chore for men to get up and wash their ass, let alone get a haircut, let alone dress appropriately, how to put together an outfit, find the right cologne, keep themselves up. Like, women actually have to put themselves together in order to get compliments. Most women have put in some effort into themselves to get compliments. I get compliments on my skin. I spend about 30 minutes a day taking care of my skin. I spend a decent amount of money monthly to buy the necessary products for my skin. It took years of me investing learning about my skin, understanding my hormones, understanding what makes my skin break out, my allergies. That is a investment with my time and my money that I've poured into myself. and therefore it pays off in compliments. No one just wakes up one day and gets compliments because they're [ __ ] alive. No, your compliments that you receive are typically a reflection of the investment that you've put into yourself. Men so badly believe that everything that we do is for them and so they constantly are internalizing that. Yet men don't do anything for us and then expect to be complimented. So, you want to reap the benefits of you believing that we're doing everything for you, but yet you want us to do everything for you while you don't do anything for us. The the level of delusion in these men is outfucking outrageous. It's through the [ __ ] roof. No, these men don't deserve compliments. The day a man get compliments is going to be the same day that he starts investing into himself.

[00:40:06]Start invest start investing into yourself. Wash your ass. Learn about how you need to dress. Learn about what colors compliment you. Learn how to be respectful. Learn how to get a haircut that fits you. Learn how to present your way yourself in a certain way where you can get compliments because don't men say that that to us? Oh well, if you don't dress like a hoe, then people won't treat you like a hoe. Okay. Well, if you don't look like a dusty, then people aren't going to ignore you, right? You are what you attract. So, if you're not getting any compliments, it's probably because you aren't worth complimenting.

[00:40:39]>> Okay?

[00:40:41]men who are jealous of women, you know, and that is a thing. That is a real thing and it happens and it's scary.

[00:40:50]Now, first things first, what I want to say to you, you know, jealousy is not always I want what you have. Sometimes jealousy is I think I'm better than you, but somehow you're doing better than me.

[00:41:04]That's right. And what a lot of women don't understand about men. Yeah. Men have delusions of grandeur. As in they'll sit in their house and they'll create fake stories that aren't even real. Yeah.

[00:41:17]And you see because of that a man can sit down and say to himself, "Yeah, I am the wickedest, baddest. I got all the money. I'm the richest man north, west, east, and south of London."

[00:41:34]Yeah. And even though he has not done nothing in his life to reflect that, he'll believe it. Which brings me on to the second problem. Yeah. And the second problem is a lot of men actually believe they're above women. They believe that women are beneath them. They believe that women are secondass citizens. And you see because of that, they believe they're here and you're here. So you see, once a man has registered it in his brain when he thinks he's better than you, and it happens amongst men as well, he will do everything in his power to make sure you stay in your place. You're not allowed to be better than him cuz he's inserted it into his brain that you're beneath him. So anytime you try and rise up, he'll be there to slap you down.

[00:42:24]Yeah. So that you know your place. Okay?

[00:42:27]Now remember as well you in recent times I would even say recent times but for years now women have been doing very well career-wise with businesses women are traveling women are building themselves women are killing it you know and a lot of men are falling behind and rather than look in the mirror and say you know what I need to pattern up I need to get better I need to build they've come to crush you does that make sense cuz a lot of men are going to sit back and think why is she making all that money why does she have the is why is she doing better than me? I'm supposed to be doing this. I'm supposed to. And then that's when the jealousy seeps in and the crushing starts. Yeah.

[00:43:06]I knew a girl back in the days. Yeah.

[00:43:10]And she would say to me, she would tell me about her ex and she had her own business. She said every month her ex said he wants his car.

[00:43:20]I said, "Your ex said what?" She said, "Yeah, he said he wants his car." He said, "Since I think I'm the bread winner and I'm the big man, he's going to treat me like I'm a big man. The life of a man is hard, so he's going to make life hard for me. If I'm lying, I'm flying." Those were her exact words.

[00:43:38]Yeah.

[00:43:39]Secondly, I remember coming back home one day back in the days. Yeah. And you know when you see the mand on the block posted up, so you stop to chitchat for about 5 10 minutes before you go home.

[00:43:50]And as I'm coming home now, I see them.

[00:43:53]One guy on the block started saying, "See my girl, she's just a posh girl, bro. She's just posh. She don't know what it feels like to get out of the mud. She's got two parents. Both her parents are married. She don't know what it feels like to struggle. That's why I don't spoil it. I don't give her nothing. She don't deserve nothing. Why am I spoiling her for? She already has everything."

[00:44:12]I said, "Bro, do you hear yourself right now? Do you hear how you sound?

[00:44:20]Do you do you get my point? A lot of men have this mentality that you are not allowed to be better than me, especially as a woman. And I will sabotage you. I will destroy you. I will put you down and I will ruin all your chances of flying, of thriving so that you don't make me feel bad about myself. Yeah. Or you don't make me feel like I actually need to do something with myself. I knew guys growing up that were nerds. Yeah.

[00:44:47]Fair enough. And they went on to do very well in life. So, big up to them. shout outs to them, you know, and you guys growing up that they weren't nerds, you know, to this day, those guys when they hear the other guy's name being brought up, who him? Him him. He's not on my level. He's nobody. I'll slap him. Who's he now? Even though years have gone by and the results of his life has shown that you are not better than him. Even though you haven't amounted to nothing, in your mind, you still think that this guy should know his place and that you're better than him. Does that make sense?

[00:45:26]So, that is how scary a man's mind is.

[00:45:28]And a lot of women need to understand as well, those kind of men seek out women who don't have nobody to stand up for them. You might not have a brother that's a certain way. You might not have a dad or a uncle that's a certain way.

[00:45:39]And it's like inviting a fox into the chicken coop. They're going to be like, "Hold on. There's no resistance. There's no defense. I can get with what I want.

[00:45:48]Listen, the streets of London are dark in this 2025. Men are owing women money.

[00:45:54]Do you understand? So women, if you hear a man make any comment about your money, any comment about your belongings, it could be your jewelry, it could be your watch, could be your business, it could be your job, your job. Yeah. Run. Do you understand? Do the race like Young TK.

[00:46:08]Run. Do you understand? Because that is scary. And the narcissistic predatory abuse will start. Like I said, a lot of those men like to exploit women who are vulnerable, who don't have people to stand up for themselves. They will take money from them. They'll exploit them.

[00:46:22]They will harm them. Yeah. So, like I always say, make civilian life great again. Please be careful and look after yourselves. Check the link in my bio.

[00:46:32]Unpopular opinion. Men get so jealous when they see women in their field winning. Let's talk about it. Hi guys, I'm Leion, the voice of marketing and your friend in all things marketing, brand building, business mindset, and sometimes pop culture. I know so many people are going to be upset about this conversation and they're going to start with things like not all men. We know this by now. Nothing is everybody. So, the men who do this are the men I'm talking about and it tends to be a lot of them, right? And as a girl who used to think that having male friends is easy and that men will support you, I grew up with that very toxic mentality.

[00:47:09]I can tell you from firstirhand experience that a lot of guys cannot handle it when women in their field win.

[00:47:17]I'm a girl who likes to put herself on the edge. I like to try and test new things. And a lot of the time I do win even though I lose a lot as well. And what I found is that the men around me will undermine what I'm doing. And then when they see me winning, they go, "Maybe it's luck." Then when they see it really, really working, they start to go, "Actually, I should be doing that."

[00:47:39]And you can see it in their eyes, guys.

[00:47:41]You can see men envying you and being jealous of your abilities in their eyes.

[00:47:46]I'll give you a very basic example of what this looks like. So, I remember once I was meeting up with a couple of guys that I knew and I thought they're successful in their own right. So, you know, I'm thinking we're equals at the table and I came with one of my designer bags because I love designer bags and I buy them for myself once in a while. So, I'm sitting there on my own waiting for everybody to come. My designer bag is sitting with me. I've got my shades on.

[00:48:10]I'm looking cute. I'm a very happy chappie. And the one guy comes, he looks at me, gives me this very snug look.

[00:48:18]Then he looks at my bag and then he goes, "Oh, we've got money, don't we?"

[00:48:22]And like something in me just went, "What does that even mean?" Like, "Why are you making that statement when we've been chilling together for so long? And why are you looking at my things in that way? That makes no sense when you have your own things." Right? So, when the bill eventually came, this guy specifically said, "No, Leu, you'll pay for me since you've got so much money."

[00:48:43]And I remember thinking to myself, that makes absolutely no sense. And I have never spoken about anything that I have.

[00:48:49]I just came with a designer bag. I came with my designer shades. And I'm there living my best life with my own money.

[00:48:57]And I realized that the look that I had seen in his eyes when he arrived was a look of envy. Even though he's got his own things, it was the idea that I might have more than him that made him want to belittle me in public. So a lot of the time when people are intimidated, especially if you're a woman, by what they think you have, they will try to do stupid things like, "Oh, then maybe you should pay the bill. Then maybe you should do this. You take on the responsibilities." It's a way of them punishing you for making them feel bad about what they think they don't have.

[00:49:28]That time, you don't talk about what you have. You don't talk about how much you're making. You don't talk about your material possessions. you're just there being a person who's very proud of themselves and you're living your life very quietly, right? So, I I s I started to see that that kind of behavior in a lot of spaces where I was with men. Yes, women have their own issues with with each other, but right now in this conversation, I'm specifically speaking about men. And so, what this specific guy did was he basically copied everything that I do and tried to do what I'm doing and to show me that he can do it better. The sad part is he's the only one in competition cuz I'm not in competition with anyone else but myself, right? And I found that over the years I lost a lot of guys who I thought were my friends because they were actually envious of my ability to fight for myself and get things done for myself and then reward myself for getting things done, right? So yes, we online we see people always saying, "Oh, women are gold diggers. Women not meant to do everything." But guys, even when you do your own thing, a lot of times men cannot handle it. They want you to do your own thing, but not more than what they can do for you. And they even make assumptions about what you have.

[00:50:37]They don't have the humility to ask you, even though it's none of their business.

[00:50:41]At least they could ask. But the idea that you can buy yourself a drink or buy yourself a car or buy yourself a house or take care of yourself really rubs them up the wrong way. They almost want to feel like they have power over you even when they are not dating you. Even when you guys are in the same industry.

[00:51:00]So what you will see is that men in your industry will come together just to compete against you as one woman because your existence threatens what they'd like to see in the world of men winning because for them winning is only reserved for men, not for women. And so that's why you even see with these podcast collaborations and that kind of thing, most of the time the men are collaborating with each other. The men are the ones who will also call each other on the radio shows and the TV shows, everything. Men, men, men together. They feel no reason to be diverse. They feel no reason to really include people. And when they do, it's not at the same level and respect and stature that they would another man.

[00:51:43]So ladies, be careful. Be careful of who you show your success to. Be careful of who you allow to speak to you in certain ways. And when somebody does what that guy what that guy did and says you pay for the bill, you say no very firmly. So he understands that he can never belittle you or make you feel bad for achieving what you worked very very hard for. That he needs to respect you or piss off. That's literally it. Respect or go away. Let me know if you've experienced this as a woman and what you've done to deal with it as a man. If you've seen it happen, what have you done to protect the women around you or to cruise other guys around you and just to say to them, "Don't do that. That's not okay." Let's talk about it.

[00:52:23]>> I was jealous of my wife. And I'm saying this pretty much in response to my last video to further back up the claim of why I feel like I know that there's underlying aggression and hatred and jealousy towards women's these days from some of the men that we hear on social media or on any other platform. But hear me when I say jealous. It wasn't a jealousy to the point where I wanted to harm my wife. I was jealous of the fact of how much I loved her. I loved her so much and I saw how much I loved her, how much favor God showed her through me and how much favor God just showed her all in general. And the reason why I was it it drove me to a point where my relationship with God was hindered because I just felt like Lord I love this woman so much and I see how you love on her and I was really jealous and I'm the one taking care of this woman and it's like how am I mad about how I'm treating somebody? like I'm treating her good and I'm mad that I'm treating you good because deep down inside I always wanted to be loved and taken care of like that by the Lord. And on my walk with Christ, it's been a lot of times where I feel like God, I'm just out here. I got to work for everything. Uh nothing comes to me easy. I got to struggle. I got to scrape my knuckles against the ground. I'm just being honest and transparent because it's real out here. I love my wife dearly. When my wife was in school finishing her undergraduate degree, she said, "Babe, this last semester is getting really tough. I would really like to just focus on school and not work." And I said, "You know what, babe? It's okay. Stay at home, finish your degree, do what you got to do, girl." And then when I had to get up and go to work and I saw her still in the bed, sometimes I would be so mad because it's been so many times in my life I wish that I could have just stayed in the bed. I wish that I had somebody to finance me while I pursue my goals and my dreams. And then it had to get to a point where I had to understand this is a demonic attack because a lot of you don't understand that when you get married spiritual warfare is inevitable. The enemy is coming for your top. And I did not take that seriously.

[00:54:57]When one of my brothers told me like look bro when you get married that spiritual warfare going to be real. I ignored it. So the first year of my marriage, I was dealing with so much spiritual warfare because I didn't want to call it what it was. I was envious because I felt like God loved her more.

[00:55:14]I saw how God favored my wife.

[00:55:17]Understand me when I say this. My wife has faith. I feel like my wife has more faith than any prophet in the Bible. I'm going just be real. And because of her faith, I saw how God moved in her life.

[00:55:30]And I wasn't there. I didn't have that faith. My wife has so much faith that she believes that when she gives child birth, she's not going to experience pain. Her exact words was, "God loves me too much to allow me to go through child birth to pains." Even though he said it in scripture that a woman will go through child birth pains, she believes God loves her so much that she is going to be the exception. May her dulu become true. Right? But that's the type of faith God wants us to have. Now granted, hear me out. This isn't to say that being jealous is such a bad thing, right? Because it's good that you felt that because now you know what you need to take to God. Even though my jealousy did not turn into aggression. It's a lot of brothers out here who their underlying jealousy turns into aggression and it turns into a a very negative way of how you deal with women or your woman. And I'm just being transparent with y'all. I was like, "Dang, man. I'm out here scraping my knuckles against the ground. I got things I want to pursue. I got things I want to do." And it's just like, "Bro, you're allowing her to stay at home and pursue her goals. How are you going to be mad at something you're allowing somebody to do?" And then I had to count it as a blessing because Lord, I prayed I prayed that one day I would be able to take care of a woman like this. And that's what the enemy going to do. the same thing you prayed for, he'll have you hating and being jealous of. And I said, "Lord, forgive me because I should not be jealous of the woman you gave me." And it took me a minute. I worked through it through therapy. I dealt with a lot of things through therapy. I answered I had a lot of questions answered in therapy. And that's why I'm such a huge advocate for therapy. But when I started to really look at my wife as the blessing that she is, you guys, I cannot express to you the favor that God opened my eyes to and showed me that I always had. It wasn't that God just showed me favor when I got married. God has been showing me favor my whole life.

[00:57:41]But when you're so busy looking on what you don't got and what you wish you had, you don't realize how blessed you are.

[00:57:47]The whole time I spent having this underlying uh jealousy and this underlying, you know, issue, I was allowing the enemy to trick me out my position of not understanding that I'm living in an answer prayer. I was dragged through the mud in relationships before I met my wife. And God gave me everything I wanted. I've been married almost three years. And I can tell you, no matter the arguments, the disagreements, the passionate debates, whatever you want to call it, my wife has yet to not come home with a smile on her face. Every morning she wakes up, I see all her teeth in her mouth. Anytime she walk in the door, I see all her teeth in her mouth. And I said, "Lord, I am not worthy." Because I had an attitude problem at at at a point in our marriage that probably would have drove anybody away. and you just showed me grace by not allowing the best thing to ever happen to me to walk away from me.

[00:58:45]She worked with me while God was working on me. And that's what a lot of people have to understand. People don't have to sit through BS. But because she saw that I was actively working on myself, and you got to understand something. I'm not saying every day was argument. We had 98% great times. Still do. But the 2% of the times that it was really bad, it was really bad. And it was memorable bad.

[00:59:14]Like those debates and arguments, something that we constantly have to forgive each other for to this day, right? Anytime it come up in your mind, oh man, that was a crazy debate right there. But you know what? Lord, forgive me. But I could honestly say that I too had suffered from that. And then I had to realign my faith with God and understand that I am a blessed young man.

[00:59:43]And to have the woman I have, the enemy tricked me out my position and had me having underlying issues. Now, I didn't have no aggression and put my hands on my wife or nothing like that, but my wife really loves intimacy. So as a punishment sometime I will withhold intimacy from her because I was like man you always get what you want. What about me and that was my attitude. So understand something. Just because you have a good man don't mean that he don't have his issues. Just because you you have a man that isn't really aggressive and physically abusive don't mean that you don't have a man that still has issues. I had a praying woman and she saw the man God gave her and not the man I was showing her. So all I'm trying to say is jealousy does exist when you're trying to covet the favor God has on his daughters because you're missing out on the favor God is giving you.

[01:00:46]>> This is the reason why you want to make sure that you're not dealing with a jealous man. Jealous men tend to be 10 times worse than women. When they are jealous of a woman, they are very vocal about how they feel. They use passive aggressive and sometimes aggressive aggressive behavior to let you know their jealousy. But the difference between men and women being jealous of one another opposed to women being jealous of women and men being jealous of women, men will go out of their way to try to belittle you and disrespect you and guilt you into feeling bad about your success. When a man is jealous of a woman, he takes little pot shots at her any opportunity that he gets, much like a woman would. But the difference is that a man will make it seem like you have no right having, being, and acting like what you are. You see, when a man is jealous and insecure and miserable, and he sees a woman doing what he perceives as better than them, that takes a hit at themselves as a man.

[01:02:02]Especially if you're in a relationship with this man. relationship jealousy and a man being envious and jealous of his woman. That is one of the most hurtful and deeply rooted types of jealousy you can experience because many men don't understand that in the day and age we live in, women can be very uh loving.

[01:02:25]They can be feminine. They can be peaceful as they always want peace. But that doesn't mean that a woman won't still be accomplished. And when a man is jealous or has a jealous nature about himself, he doesn't want a woman to be accomplished, especially not more than him. See, you have to understand men who don't have jealousy, number one, and who are masculine in nature, they don't care what their woman does for a living. They don't care if she makes a million dollars an hour. They don't see that as a hit against their manhood. But when a man is jealous of a woman, he will constantly want you to be in a state of dumbing yourself down in order to make him feel good about himself. He might take uh little pot shots at how you speak, the things you do, the things you say, the kind of circle you're in, the things that you're influenced by. If he is jealous, he will always try to make you feel like you're doing too much. If you are a woman who has dealt with a man who has jealous tendencies, and I'm not saying jealous as in he's jealous that you'll be in a relationship with another man. I mean jealous of who you are as a woman and how you move in life. You have some men who say things like, "Oh, you work here. Okay, you must be balling."

[01:03:51]"Oh, okay. How much you pay for this car?" Anytime a man asks you how much you paid for something, and I'm not saying if your father, your cousin, your uncle, somebody asks you. I mean a man who was interested in you, a man that you uh, you know, are in close proximity to, but not in a relationship with, and he says it in that little sarcastic, snide way. Oh, how much you pay for this car? Oh, you must be big balling. You balling out of control. That's a sign of a dusty, jealous man. Especially if you're in a relationship or you're dating this kind of guy, anytime, and this is the number one sign of a jealous man. When a man is jealous of a woman, anytime he is counting your money, he is scrutinizing your uh your lifestyle and he is constantly taking little making little comments about how you are as a woman in a negative way, that man is jealous. If he says things to you like, "Oh, what? You went to college or something? Why you keep using all those big words?" He's jealous. He feels incompetent in your presence. He feels like in order for him to feel like something as a man, stop using all them big words. Stop talking about these things. Why you talking like that? You know why? Because it makes him feel less than as a man because he hasn't done the work to better himself. See, men often times they are absolutely no better, if not worse than women. let you be a woman that has a little bit of success. In the eyes of a jealous man, you are an absolute threat to his manhood. He wants you to be the type of woman who either doesn't accomplish anything or feels like whatever he does is great. A lot of men who are jealous and insecure, a lot of men, let's say this first, men do need their ego stroked. Whether a man is jealous or not jealous, that's just the nature of how men are. They want you to compliment them and make them feel good and give them that good job. That's just respect. Men want that and that's normal. But it gets dangerous and it's jealousy when a man feels like you cannot clap for yourself in order to make him feel good. You cannot speak about the good things you're doing because it'll take light away from him.

[01:06:13]The first um person that comes to mind in like celebrity scenario I think about is Prince Charles, now King Charles, but he was Prince Charles and Princess Diana. He had an issue with her getting so much attention, especially when she came into her own and she got more confident and started dressing up. And if you followed the royal family at all, you would see, especially back in the day, nobody was worrying about him.

[01:06:40]Everybody was focused on Princess Diana and the way she carried herself. She was so poised. She was so beautiful and she was likable and she was down to earth.

[01:06:49]Even though she was a princess and had all that notoriety, she just had that feminine way and people were drawn to her. Men don't like when people are drawn to you. Jealous men will not like when people are drawn to you because they feel like nobody, only one person in the relationship can shine. And when they believe that they are that person that needs to shine, they are the prize.

[01:07:16]That's a jealous man. Now, there's nothing wrong with your man getting attention and wanting attention, but most masculine men don't worry about things like that, especially in regards to women. And I blame that on the fact that we're in a time where many men are going back and forth and they're confused as into what their role is as a man in relation to women. A lot of men today feel like they're on the same playing field as women. They feel like they're the same as us. They're inviting themselves into the different areas that we're in when nobody invited them there.

[01:07:57]They are trying to compete with us in things that shouldn't have anything to do with them. You know, you have the beauty space, you have the femininity space, you have the relationship space, you have men trying to tell women how to be women. And when you have that kind of confusion, that opens up the door for men to be jealous of women. See, when men have that spirit of confusion about themselves, they don't understand that men have strengths, men have, you know, a lot of capabilities and abilities that women don't. We compliment one another.

[01:08:36]But when a man is jealous of you, he doesn't understand any of that. All he sees is that you are showing him up. How dare you have a better job than me? How dare you have a better car than me? How dare you get more attention and stuff from people? I saw a video of a young lady and a man on a date and this woman walked over to her and complimented her and said, "You're just you're stunning."

[01:09:02]She said to the lady, "You're stunning.

[01:09:04]You're beautiful." And the guy looked over as if he was going to say, "What about me?" Like, this is literally the time we're in. We've come to the end of the video. I hope you enjoyed it. Don't forget to like, share, comment, and subscribe. And I'll see you again in my next