Is It Standards... Or Avoidance?

Added: 2026-05-19

[00:00:00]I don't know, y'all. Every time I talk to someone, I just lose [music] interest. Either they are too much or not enough. I think I just have high standards. Or [music] maybe you're emotionally unavailable. Excuse me, no.

[00:00:10]I just know what I deserve. Do [music] you reject them because they are wrong or because closeness makes you uncomfortable? I don't like to get attached. That's not standards, that's [music] self-protection. But if everyone feels not good enough, then maybe it's not about them. Sometimes people leave before they can be left.

[00:00:26]>> Because [music] control feels safer than vulnerability. If you constantly find flaws, if intimacy feels overwhelming, if you get detached the moment things get serious, it might not be the high standards. [music] It might be the fear of emotional exposure. I I'm Amogh. I'm Keshvi, and we are counseling psychologists. That's why we have created a psychological self-assessment guide. [music] It helps you to differentiate real standards from emotional avoidance, >> so you can build connections consciously, instead of unconsciously pushing people away. Comment PDF, and we will directly send it to your DMs. And for such more videos, don't forget to follow us.