Insecure People Hate Smiles, Confidence And Excitement

Added: 2026-06-03

[00:00:00]Y'all lip your titties at SO THEY CAN BE ALL PERKY. NO, I KNOW THEY SAGGING RIGHT NOW. You look just let me I'm not going to say this. Look >> like that.

[00:00:12]>> You guys keep talking.

[00:00:21]>> So this is what happens when an insecure person who's also possessed by demons. I think a lot of times people that operate that way because one thing I know about about demons, demons don't like happiness. Demons don't like laughter.

[00:00:38]They don't like confidence. Uh demons don't like love. Which is why if someone in your family is possessed by demons, anytime the family is in unison, they bring up an issue from the past. So everybody starts fighting. So a lot of these men and women are possessed by demons and they just don't know. uh this young lady that went up to this other lady and said, "Oh, wow. You're so pretty. Can I pick your boobs up for you? You're so pretty. Can I pick your boobs up for you?" That is a perfect example of a lack of etiquette and grace. I do have an etiquette class and a poise class coming up in addition to a systems class. That's a lack of of poise and grace, respect. Two, that is a woman that's being passive aggressive. Now, with this video, a lot of you ladies will understand why I'm not a big fan of compliments. Because a lot of women, you weaponize compliments. That's the truth.

[00:01:29]You You use compliments for three things. Either to invade a woman's space, you want to bypass her, you want to form a quick attachment to her, so you throw in a compliment, or you overdo it because you want her to put her guard down with you. That's the first way a lot of times women use compliments. They misuse it. The second way they misuse it is like this video. I'm going to compliment her so she can put her guard down so I can also insult her and make her feel insecure about herself so that I can feel better about myself. That's the second way that women weaponize compliments. The third way women weaponize compliments is to make you feel like you can trust them automatically or so that you can share things with them. That's none of their business. So, it's not that I'm against compliments. It's just a lot of women, you use it in a sadistic way. It's not authentic. It's not genuine. So, as you get older, you start to see these things like complimenting a woman because she likes herself and then you're going to make her feel bad by throwing in, hey, your boobs are sagging though. Your boobs are saggy though. So, um I will talk about this in the grace and etiquette class that I have coming up and then the systems class. A woman's first form of protection, self-preservation, is watching this thing right here. A lot of women get in trouble because of these this thing right here. Now, because this woman is a calm uh docile personality, she didn't jump on the other girl. But what if she wasn't?

[00:03:02]What if she said, "You know what? Say it again." And then she knocked her out.

[00:03:05]Now you're on the floor. You never know who people are, right? And I'm always telling women that. Watch your mouth around people, women that you don't know that well. Some people are crazy. Some people are not some people are not having a good day. And this is why I say a lot of women social skills is also going to help you preserve yourself.

[00:03:29]Okay? Because you are going to conduct yourself in such a respectful manner that it's very rare that you will end up in an altercation. I know a woman doesn't know how to protect herself when she's sharp with this. When you approach every woman like you know them, when you walk up to every woman like she's your girlfriend. When you talk to a woman in an overly comfortable way, that is going to put you in harm's way because you don't know the woman on the other end.

[00:03:57]You don't know what she's capable of.

[00:03:59]You don't know her mentality. You don't know her mindset. You don't know what she's about. So, in order for you to protect hersel yourself, you operate with respect and kindness, which is something that I think a lot of women struggle with is not feeling like you have a right to disrespect another woman because she's a woman. Now, let's talk about the whole boob comment. Now I this is why I say a lot of times women have to understand that when somebody's like possessed by like demons. I do think that that was a demon too. Demons don't like happiness. Demons don't like confidence. Demons don't like unison. That's why the person that's possessed in your family. When everybody in your family's getting along, the demon in them gets activated and they bring up an issue that the whole family got over eight years ago, they're going to bring it up again because they want everybody to start fighting. So, demons don't like smiles. Demons don't like confidence. Demons don't like happiness.

[00:05:01]Demons don't like um sincerity. Demons don't like warmth. When somebody's possessed, they're always going to have an issue with things like that. So her sitting in the corner being happy, smiley, taking her video, having fun, enjoying herself, dancing to the music, the demon in that other young lady said, "Oh, wait a minute. We got to walk over there and we got to make her feel less than." A lot of women are possessed.

[00:05:26]They just don't know that they are. That is why when you see a woman who is happy, you feel like you have to snatch that happiness away from her. That's not normal. And it's not just jealousy.

[00:05:35]Spiritually, it is a demon because that demon is using you to break people's confidence and to break people's spirit.

[00:05:42]Right? So, let's talk about the whole saggy boob thing. First of all, this goes to etiquette in class, which I'm going to talk about in June. Uh the link is in the description for that class for the ladies and gentlemen who want to join. Um we don't get over comfortable with with we don't get overly familiar with people we don't know. Meaning, can I touch your boobs? I tell women all the time, you cannot touch a woman you don't know. You need to address women you don't know like you do not know them.

[00:06:11]You have to address women you don't know as strangers because what's going to happen is women you're going to get into certain rooms. Like I said in the last video, people are going to look at you and they're going to say, "She doesn't belong here. How did she get in here?"

[00:06:25]Because your character, your poise, your grace, your etiquette, it's not there.

[00:06:30]And people are going to look at you and say, "She doesn't belong here." And then you're going to wonder why you keep getting plucked out of high value spaces because there's a lack of polish there.

[00:06:39]So a woman whose polish does not invade a woman's space. Okay? Whether it's virtually or in person, you don't have a right to another woman. Get that in your noggin.

[00:06:54]When you encounter another woman, you keep your distance from her. If she wants to open up her space to you, feel free to go for it. but you don't know her, right? So, saying, "Hey, can I touch your boobs for you? Can I pick up your boobs for you?" That is extremely predatory. It's inappropriate. It's disrespectful. It's rude. And it shows that you have the etiquette of a 5-year-old. That's what a 5-year-old would say. Secondly, it's it's in a way it's body shaming. Right now, I have had women try to body shame me in that area, too. She has fine breasts. I have very fine breasts. I'm shaped like a pair.

[00:07:32]You know, you guys usually see me when I'm sitting down, but I have a pear shape. I have a thigh gap, wide hips, clenched waist, small small arms, small boobs, fine boobs, right? And some women would say, "Oh, well, her boobs are this or her boobs are saggy." I can go and get fake boobs tomorrow if I wanted to. But I'm happy with my boobs. I like them.

[00:07:55]It's It doesn't take away from my beauty at all. That's just how they naturally are and there's nothing wrong with that.

[00:08:00]And if I want to change that, I will.

[00:08:02]But using that as a way to shame her body, that woman needs to find a way to make her feel insecure. This young lady, did that bother her? Probably. We don't know her personally. Probably. She's a beautiful woman. She's absolutely beautiful. But at least she was able to clock and see that compliment was not sincere. So this is what I say when I spoke about in the past. When I say, you know, I I'm not a big fan of compliments. You know, women will think, oh, well, she's it's cuz she's a mean girl. It's not that. It's because sometimes this is what a compliment from a woman looks like, right? I'm going to compliment you and disrespect you at the same time. So, I'm going to use the compliment to enter your space and then I'm going to top off the compliment with an insult. That's why a lot of times I tell women the way that you use compliments, it's passive aggressive.

[00:08:54]And that's why some women, regardless of how much you compliment them, they still won't let you in. Because a lot of times the compliment, it's not sincere. It's coming from a space like this where I'm going to compliment you. You are so pretty, but your boobs are flabby. And it's like, okay, uh, are you complimenting me or are you disrespecting me? It's the use of the compliment to marinate you. Okay. So, in a way, you'll learn this when it comes to to elegance. You give a compliment and it stops there. You don't give a compliment and a butt. You don't give a compliment and then an insult. And you don't give a compliment and then invade right after. No, give the compliment, walk away. That's elegance. Hey, I love your dress. It looks absolutely beautiful. It fits you like a glove.

[00:09:43]Thank you. You're more than welcome.

[00:09:44]Walk away. That's it.

[00:09:47]Compliments are not used to, "Hey, I like your dress. Can I get your number?

[00:09:50]Can we be friends?" No. Compliments are not used to invade a woman's face.

[00:09:54]That's not how it works.

[00:09:56]Compliments are also not to be used to insult. Hey, I really like your dress.

[00:10:01]It looks really good on you. Oh, thank you. Yeah, but I think that you know it would fit you a lot better if you lost about 5 lbs. Yeah, but outside of that, it looks great. Okay, so that was a compliment used to insult.

[00:10:14]or hey, oh my god, I love the way you look. I love the way you work. I love everything you do. Thank you. Thank you.

[00:10:19]I appreciate that. Thank you. Thank you.

[00:10:21]So, how did you get into this business?

[00:10:23]How did you start this business?

[00:10:26]Who did you connect with? So, basically, now you're complimenting that woman cuz you want her blueprint. Women misuse compliments all the time. All the time.

[00:10:34]And when a woman ascends and she realizes that, that's why compliments sometimes you're like, eh, because you don't know the intention behind the compliment. A lot of times, um, men do it, too, where a man will compliment a woman and if she says, "Oh, no. I'm not interested or I have a boyfriend," he'll do exactly what this young lady did as well. Let me throw it in. Oh, well, you're not even all that cute anyways.

[00:10:57]You're not even all that anyways. That's a sign that the compliment was being used as a coat to coat the envy or to coat the jealousy. A lot of jealous people will use a compliment as a way to cloak themselves. That's why when you understand this, you'll understand why I say I'm not a big fan of compliments.

[00:11:17]I'm I I'll accept it. Hey, I like what Thank you. You look so beautiful. Thank you. Thank you. I like what you do.

[00:11:22]Thank you. Like, I'll accept it. Or cuz not accepting a compliment is also socially awkward and shows a lack of etiquette as well. When somebody compliments you, hey, I like your dress.

[00:11:32]Oh no, this old thing. Hey, I like your necklace. Oh gosh, it's it's a fake necklace. Oh, I really like your hair.

[00:11:37]Oh gosh. I mean, you know, it's No, no, no. Accept the compliment. Thank you so much. I appreciate that. Thank you.

[00:11:42]Thank you. Thank you for noticing that.

[00:11:44]I appreciate that. Excuse me. Accepting a compliment is also a form of etiquette, elegance, grace, and poise.

[00:11:52]You don't want somebody to be fighting you to to accept their compliment. Just take it. Thank you. You're so sweet. Oh, I appreciate that. And leave it there.

[00:11:59]Right? But in this woman's case, again, you guys have to be aware also about how these things are spiritually. Some people, it's like a demon that's following you around your life to always make you feel bad about yourself. Some people, they're like, "Every time I go out, here comes somebody with an insult.

[00:12:18]Here comes the waiter trying to spill juice on me on purpose." But you got to understand that a lot of times it just means that you glow, right? It means you have a beautiful bright light. It means that you're a beautiful person and you're a beautiful soul. And when you go out into the world, when you go out into the public, especially when you're in places like this, I always say someone like this needs to go around a different crowd where people actually have manners and they don't do things like that. A lot of times when you experience things like that, it's because you need to pluck yourself out of that neighborhood.

[00:12:51]Pluck yourself out of that space. Pluck yourself out of that friend group. Pluck yourself out of that state and city and pluck yourself into another state and city where people have etiquette, class, grace, and they're more respectful.

[00:13:05]Right? One is plagued by insecurity.

[00:13:08]They hate to see a woman that is happy in her own skin and in her own glow. And they will always find a way to shimmy themselves into your proximity and bubble, force that proximity so they can break your spirit like what that lady did to her. I am going to talk about this. I have um a course coming up that is called um decorum. Okay, I'm very excited about this class decorum and systems class.

[00:13:38]And right there, this is an example of a woman who has no decorum. The woman that went up to her and said, "Can I pull your boobs up? You're so pretty. Can I pull your tits up?" A woman like that would never survived would never survive in a space with abundant people. She would never survive in a space with high caliber individuals because that type of behavior shows that your manners and self-control is in the gutter skills and your people skills. We'll talk about that in the master class um in June.

[00:14:13]haven't put it up yet. Um, second thing here that I want to speak about, um, women who go out in public, right?

[00:14:23]Because you're a woman, you have to prepare yourself for women to be overly comfortable getting in your space. One, meaning she walked over there to disrespect the woman and she doesn't even know her. Right? So, this is why sometimes I had this issue since I was in high school. People would say Mel has the worst RBF. And I'm noticing that it's not RBF that I had because I'm a very classy, poised person. It's not RBF. It's just my disposition is very I don't want to be approached with foolishness. I've always been that way.

[00:15:02]So, even when I was in high school, the ladies were like, "Yo, Mel, her face is like lethal. Like, her resting face when she's walking through the hall, it's like, should I talk to her? Should I not talk to her? Should I go up to her?

[00:15:15]Should I not speak to her?" And it's really because of behaviors like this.

[00:15:20]Like, I don't want to be approached with anyone's demonic entities. I don't want your demonic entities over here. Because some people like that woman, they meet another woman or man and they want to immediately cut away at your joy. They want to cut away, right? THEY WANT TO CUT AWAY AT YOUR JOY. And it's like, I'm just having a good time. Keep you and your demon over there. If you're going to bring the demon over here, we going to pray. We're gonna get it cast out of you. But I definitely do not want to be a participant of that demonic force or that spirit of jealousy that wants me to not like myself. Now, I have also had women make fun of my boobs before cuz I also have fine breasts. But the fine breast is not taken away from the face.

[00:16:06]It's not taken away from the snatch waist. It's not taken away from the smile, right? So, I don't really care about that. But women are gonna they're gonna find something to grab. I always say women are like this. They got to grab something. What can I grab about this other woman to make her feel insecure? Is it her hair? Is it her skin tone? Is it her breast? Is it her stomach? Is it her weight? Is it her relationship status? Is it her car? What can I grab at to make her not like herself?

[00:16:38]You got to prepare yourself for that, you know. But again, when you're around the right rooms, you're not going to encounter people like this because those people conduct themselves with a certain standard.

[00:16:49]You you got to learn how to fight yourself, you know, fight to get yourself into environments where people have some poise, right?

[00:17:00]Especially if this is your experience all the time. I always say start with going to a new gym. Start with going to the Starbucks on that side of town. Like start with moving into a new new neighborhood. saving up to move into a better neighborhood so you can avoid people who have this aggression. Now, that's not even just about jealousy and stuff. That's also about aggression because somebody like that, that's also something that that just came to my mind. She wanted to pick she wanted a physical fight. I feel like because to go up to someone's face and insult them at that level, that is a woman who's like, I want to take you out of your femininity. I want to take you out of your confidence. I want to take you out of your happiness. I'm going to say something crazy to you because I want you to get upset so we can get into an altercation. That's another thing that's done to women who are confident and happy is women that want to pick fights with you all the time. People are beating up random people. Look at what happened to Ice Spice. Like, this is not the time to not be respectful to strangers. I tell men and women that all the time. I don't care if they call you a bit. Just keep walking because the person could be out of it. like this is not the day and age to be looking for issues with people. People are hurting spiritually. They're broken. They feel very damaged. So when they see just a smile on a person's face, it makes them feel like they need to attack. It goes deeper than jealousy or insecurity.

[00:18:25]Sometimes a spiritual where somebody is really battling hardcore demons and anytime they see a woman with a smile or a man with a smile, they have to attack that. They have to feed on that. You got to think about that, right?

[00:18:40]Increasing your quality of life also comes with understanding decorum in 2026.

[00:18:48]Decorum, etiquette, poise, grace, and polish is running dry. However, I want to bring it back with this course. It is crucial for anybody who is trying to run a business, open up a business, move up the ladder, get into high value spaces, get into spaces where you can shake hands with people to do business with and cultivating a new circle. It is going to be required for you to have decorum. And this class on June 28th, I will be giving you my version of decorum during your human experience. What does it look like? What does poise look like?

[00:19:26]What does grace look like? What does polish look like? What does people skills look like? How do you approach people? How do you speak to people in order to get them to give you possible opportunities for work, for business, for partnership? In order to be able to do that, people have to feel like you are not a liability. And the number one way to show that is by having high levels of decorum. July 5th, systems.

[00:19:54]When you hear the word system, I want you to think about, you got it, nervous system. In order for you to conquer your human experience, you have to have systems in place for your life. By having your certain systems in place, it is going to ensure that your nervous system is balanced. It's going to ensure that your money is where it needs to be.

[00:20:17]It's going to ensure that you're keeping up with life. And more importantly, having systems is going to help you maintain the high value connections that you make. And it's going to help you maintain the business proposals that you receive. How many times did you decide to not go back to a store, not go back to a shop, not go back to a particular person because they were simply scattered? That person most likely is good at their craft. However, they don't have systems. and the lack of systems is making them appear as an unreliable person. So your system starts with you personally and your systems ends with the actions that you engage in in life.

[00:20:58]So if you are struggling with systems, if you don't have systems, if you feel like your nervous system is out of whack, this is definitely a course that you would like to take.