Why Nikki Glaser's Claim That She Likes her Boyfriend to Sleep Around is a Toxic Message for Women

Added: 2026-05-05

[00:00:00]Nikki Glazer. I have been wanting to take this person uh to the woodshed for quite a while, but now that she is on one of the covers of Time magazine, having been named one of their 100 most influential people, this is how bad it is for magazines. Okay, Time magazine last year, you know who they put on who they um awarded as one of the most uh influential people, Blake Lively, who used that occasion to tell the story of her mother's sexual assault, not your story to tell.

[00:00:40]Stolen valor.

[00:00:42]Uh now they've chosen Nikki Glazer.

[00:00:44]They've chosen a woman whose most persistent message to young girls and women is that there is nothing more liberating than um being deeply in love with a man who not only continues to want to other women, but has your absolute blessing because you're such a cool girl. That this is what being a cool girl is. There are many, many dangerous people out there spreading very dangerous messages to girls and young women, and I don't like it. I'm no moralist. I'm just saying this is unhealthy. It's unhealthy physically.

[00:01:26]She's putting her health at risk. She's like, "Oh, he just needs to wear a condom. It's fine." It's not uh putting their physical health, their emotional health, their psychological health, their sense of worth. These women have no self-esteem. Nikki Glazer, I just wish someone would say to her, "Nikki, what happened to you in your childhood that you have zero self-esteem? You're rich now. You're famous. Do you have a therapist? Do you have a friend in the world who would say to you, "Listen, I love you, and I just want you to be happy." This can't be the way. I don't think she does. So anyway, Nikki toddled over to call her daddy.

[00:02:08]And even Alex Cooper, even Alex Cooper, who's who's podcast is about as deep as a kiddie pool. Okay, she doesn't go deep, but she's like, you know, talk to me a little bit about this. I struggle to understand. Alex Cooper, it's a sex podcast. It's like what they call sex positive, which means like you're not supposed to criticize anything about anybody's way in which they, you know, like if you're Lindy West, you know, you've eaten yourself into morbid obesity, you marry a guy who makes you cry all the time cuz he's like, "You know what? I don't I'm not attracted to you. I'm going to go this woman over here. Then I'm going to move her into the house that we shared that you inherited and you pay all the bills and you do all the work and we're going to be in the next room having lots of sex.

[00:03:02]First, Nikki sets the table like she's she what she's trying to do is kind of bulletproof herself here or make herself bulletproof rather because she's she's beginning by saying her boyfriend who I'm just going to she would not use this word. I'm using it. He cheats on her all the time. Cheats on her all the time.

[00:03:20]She's totally cool with it. She's cool girl. Um now she says that he has given her a hall pass. Um, but her hall pass is only if she happens to meet an A-list celebrity that she has always had a crush on and she is not allowed to pursue said celebrity. She can't even DM them. No, no, no, no, no. He says to her, "It has to happen naturally. Like, you have to find yourself somehow in their presence in order, you know, that's the only way." He's got a lot of rules, this guy. Lot of rules. Anyway, here's Nikki on how that works. There's like probably another one that I would be like, "Oh, yeah, but he would never be into me because of like age stuff."

[00:04:05]So, it's Leonardo DiCaprio.

[00:04:08]Her her A-lister is Leonardo DiCaprio and she's too old for him.

[00:04:13]And she says because of age stuff. Like, instead of saying, "You know what? I'm into I I I like a guy who's like my age, but like he never dates women his own age because something clearly got arrested there because he's been in the business since he was a small child and you know, children really should not be in this business. Okay. Anyway, um so here is Alex basically asking the question, what the is up with this relationship?

[00:04:38]What is up with this deal you've got going on? Here we go. in a relationship.

[00:04:42]I don't really care if my boyfriend were to hook up.

[00:04:46]>> Okay, I've read about that. Yeah, >> we need to talk about that.

[00:04:49]>> But that is not a two-way street. Like I'm I'm not someone who likes to hook up when I'm in a relationship. I'm not really like I don't really care about that. I you know um but I don't care if someone else were to hold on.

[00:04:59]>> In fact, I like kind of like it.

[00:05:03]>> No, she doesn't. We're going to get you get a little bit further into this relationship. She always says that I like it. She doesn't. She doesn't. She's going to she's going to tell on herself a little bit, but this is this is not helpful to young girls and women. It is not. This again, like Lena, like Lindy West, this is a very damaged person who is trying to protect herself from what she thinks is inevitable. She doesn't think she's worthy of someone really loving her and being in a committed relationship with her. She thinks that it's it's inevitable that she's not enough and that the guy's going to cheat anyway, so why not try to take some power back and tell him to go do it?

[00:05:51]Alex asks a more polite version of what I just said, which is, uh, is this just maybe some dark comedian Like, are you just like really up? Here we go.

[00:06:03]I want to be clear. It is not pick me because this comes off pick me of like I don't care if my boyfriend another girl. I'm cool with it. Cheat on me.

[00:06:11]Like I'm I know how lame it comes across. I sometimes don't like to tell guys about this thing that I have where I'm like, >> you know, this is separate than the soulmate thing. Like I don't care if a guy has a sexual connection with a girl and like he was to use protection and just have sex with her for a night. Like I don't I literally wouldn't care if my husband did that. I I don't I don't know why. I don't know why if he were to like watch the wire with her or like do crossword puzzles or like text like send memes and stuff, I would be like, "What the are you doing?" Like that's our thing. Like emotional cheating would hurt me. But like physical, I'm just like >> I kind of I just feel like I understand how sex is for men most of the time outside of a relationship. It's just kind of transactional and it's just like they just want a nut.

[00:06:58]This is one of time's most influential people. They just want a nut.

[00:07:05]Sex is transactional for them. You know, that's really insulting to men, by the way. To say that for men, like sex is just transactional and it means nothing.

[00:07:16]Oh my god. I weep for the culture. I weep.

[00:07:20]Now, let's look at this winner that Nikki can't believe she snagged and is so desperate to keep that she lets him other women. He is a producer.

[00:07:31]Here he is. His He's shorter than she is. Uh she he works in TV. He's a producer. Uh that's it. That's it, you know. Um, by the way, look, think of it this way. you know, Nikki Glazer, after like grinding it out for decades, finally got famous from the uh Tom Brady roast, her performance on that roast, and we're going to get to it in a minute, but um do you remember and I was I worked at the New York Post when this thing um broke and um there are moments in a in a newsroom like that where like everybody drops what they're doing and like it just explodes. It's like Christmas morning and New Year's Eve rolled into one. And it was the moment that we got the photo of Ben Affleck's nanny on Tom Brady's private plane seated with all of Tom Brady's Super Bowl rings on her finger. And it was like shortly after that, Jen Garner finally filed for divorce. But apparently Jazelle Bonin had a fit.

[00:08:49]Do you think Jazelle Bonin was cool with her super famous hot husband whoever he wanted? I'm not saying he was having sex with Ben Affleck's nanny. Ben Affleck was doing that allegedly, reportedly. Always denied it. But uh no, Nikki. No. No. Get seek help. Just seek help. Stop trying to spread your sickness on the culture and make it seem like it's a it's a normal, healthy option. Okay. Now, here she is telling Howard Stern on May 6th, 2024 why she and this guy she is so in love with. She calls him the love of her life have um always break up.

[00:09:31]Here we go.

[00:09:32]>> Are you in love with him?

[00:09:33]>> Yeah. Oh, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. We've been together 10 years off and on. Um and off and on though for about Why? You said that in your special that's going to be on HBO on Saturday night. Yeah, >> I think the off and on is I'm just ter I just committing to anything forever. I think that forever makes me think of no other adventures.

[00:09:54]>> He's the one breaking up with her. Trust me.

[00:09:56]>> It's just kind of admitting defeat and not that.

[00:09:58]>> So, who usually ends the relationship?

[00:10:00]Who How many times have you broken up?

[00:10:02]Do you break up with him?

[00:10:03]>> A lot. I think probably five times in 10 years. And our breaks have gone from maybe two days to and one was 3 years long. Um he breaks up breaking up with me and >> Yeah.

[00:10:14]>> Oh, he has. He's broken up with you.

[00:10:16]>> Oh, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. In our beginning of our relationship, I think I wanted a boyfriend so badly. I really misrepresented who I was. Just I thought getting a boyfriend meant just like being agreeable and just doing everything that never fighting, never ever saying, "Hey, I don't like what you just said." Because then he'd be like, "Well, I'm that's the way I am. Bye."

[00:10:35]and I just desperately wanted him. So, I never ever complained about anything.

[00:10:42]>> This is very sad.

[00:10:45]This is a woman with zero self-esteem.

[00:10:48]Zero self-esteem. She began that segment by telling Howard Stern that she would always get drunk uh before having sex because she thought she was so terrible in bed that she had to get out of her mind.

[00:11:06]And then she said the guy that she's with who's not fully with her. This guy's not really with her. He's off other women all the time. Nikki Glazer's a working comic. She's probably on the road more often than not. Think he's with her all the time. No. No.

[00:11:25]Just my supposition. Uh, she then says that he was the first guy she began dating after she quit drinking. And so she's got this weird, this is my interpretation. It's almost like she's superstitious about him, right? Like she doesn't want to have sex with another guy because she's probably afraid they'll tell her she's awful in bed.

[00:11:47]That's what we're dealing with here.

[00:11:49]Time 100. Time 100. Legacy Media wonders why. Here's Nikki from the Tom Brady Roast. Tonight there's going to be a lot of jokes about me um being like a a depraved cumuzzling And I just want to say for the record, I do have a boyfriend. We've been together for 10 years. He's the love of my life. He's here tonight. And I just He's sitting right over there. And I want to say publicly, I would shoot you in the face for a lottery ticket to suck this guy's dick.

[00:12:20]>> I miss George Carlin.

[00:12:23]I miss Joan Rivers.

[00:12:28]That's a punchline.

[00:12:32]Anyway, she said that her boyfriend gave her the okay for that joke. She said that he said to her, "As long as it's funny, say whatever you want. I'm totally cool. That is not what she told Howard Stern." Uhuh. uh uh uh. Here we go.

[00:12:47]>> Of course, the complaints are going to come up. And then I would um I would air those complaints on podcasts, not because I thought people hear them. they would just come out naturally under the guise of like it's comedy. And he eventually heard them and go, I I don't recognize who this person is. And I was like, what did you hear? I don't even know what I said. And then he said it back to me. I go, I said that? And >> he's a liar. Remember, >> I would I would just express everything I should have told him in private on a microphone. And he >> he had every reason to break up with me cuz it was jarring to him because I was I was a li I was just lying all the time. And so he really got me to stop lying. I really am uh I'm not perfect at it because I still fear abandonment. So there's some issues in our relationship where I go, >> you know, I just fear that he's gonna be mad at me. Like I just don't want anyone to be mad at me ever. And so I'll just give the answer that I think he wants.

[00:13:37]>> You know, I think there's a lot of really dark stuff going on here. And I think that Nikki is probably also like kind of an awful person who um says that well, she has to lie. She has no choice but to lie because otherwise, you know, that that folds into her fear of abandonment. That makes zero sense to me. That does not track. Actually, if you're you lie, you lie enough, people will leave you because you know what?

[00:14:01]Nobody can stand a liar.

[00:14:05]Guess who Nikki is writing her first screenplay with?

[00:14:10]I read this in the Time 100 piece on her. None other than Jud Appattow.

[00:14:16]Yes, the man who gave the culture such self-loathing faux feminists as Amy Schumer and Lena Dunham. He clearly has a type.

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